how much can we do simultaneously? multitasking these, the modern men. because if we do too much and we had it all wrong, we messed things up, risking brain damage. so let's stop this self sabotage, humans and multitasking watch now on youtube, v w documentary. hello and welcome to the 77 percent. my name is edith commodity and i'm coming to you from the heart of no ruby in the special edition of the 77 percent. we're going to talk about love relationships and of course talked break. we'll find out what attracts people to each of us with nice, that's especial spock. we'll hear how fox says like money and

power planes relationship and well the reason is i know who wants people to express themselves most of your sexual orientation. so we know that money can complicate things in a partnership like when love or sex i use doesn't exchange for money. we're talking here, of course about splunk says, black says or so the mommies and daddies. so we wanted to take a closer look at the blessed a bless the culture, specifically in south africa. and some young women opened up to us about the experience. i felt wondering though this next report discusses dependency and relationships and sexual violence. when she started his studies 23 year old in the plunder tumble from the widow, was struck by the expensive looks clothing and excessive shopping. hestetler classmates enjoyed to friends with so cold slee queens who depend on richmond to

maintain the last stop. they introduced her to her own less than a wealthy married man who was more than 20 years. i've seen you curious to see the gifts left you the right proceed. but the gifts did not come to free. tumble soon discovered that she need to perform sexual status. this is when she started having 2nd thoughts. you know, by doing what do you want? this is kind of just felt like i was the invited into, i'm sorry, says, but type of prostitution. but then now i have to now make do with whatever just comes by just because of the,

the fact that you want to slice that you want. you want soft lice, lavish know, luxurious, a soft pull to struggle to survive in a society where money and how a concentrated in the hands of miss tumble is some man even believe money gives him the right to control a woman's freedom. 46 road modular villa kazi has 3 mistresses. he does not allow them to work, leave the house without his permission or are in a cell phone woman that easily tend to. so we need to control that. they need to be in your fingertips as a re, uh like for for me i was really hot. i went to school so that they can have money as a tentative power i can control and that is behavior not entirely undermine his girlfriend's . right. to self determination seems a little concerned to be the kazi, both he and his friend claim to pay that girlfriend around 400 years each cuz

people mock long ago. this is pure business. i mean, that's the whole point. so let me know what we, what we do is we take care of women, then they what, what do we get into the attendance level? that's all. so that's all nothing else. so it means that you use the 6 um, being taken care of just someone making you feel special in a recent sound after the health of a one in 10 young women reported to have had transactions that this is a massive problem that says also jackie, almost saying we meet the old in an up market, a hotel in johannesburg from what say as well known as the head book, which feels to be on the blessing and blessing. culture promotes a experience with fluid borders between transactional sets and she's been traveling to

this hotel. yeah, i remember that as a young girl, she ran away from a violent time and became involved with a very wealthy man, a few months into that relationship. he took the on a private to us with politicians, businessman and the mistresses being trapped in the middle of the ocean. she had no choice but to enjoy being raped multiple times. it can be changed. it like this. if administer wants to buy, you still buy you regardless of who you dating in the group. so even if you're dating the wall, is that in the group taken change, you also have business deals because administered after full traumatizing? yes. i'm not saying managed to escape the garage, so the chief little girl wishing to merge the book about her experience. a warning

that the world of glamour that we see on our phones and internet platforms is sometimes fun from the actual social media gives us an invasion of to fix it. comforts that to be expected. and people will that this is and you don't even know the just to get had federal district in front of us. what are the many other things you have to do? just for the one in the back in still went to the la kazi, meets his girlfriend. and relates to mine. he wants to buy her a new hand back, which is nice, but somebody is not early enough for the luxuries she has a baby and needs the money to buy basic necessities. ready to pay rent, and she's well aware of the dependency she finds herself, said that as young calls have to sleep with all the guys and pretend is there a few of you okay, with everything just because of course, i don't hear chances of subs that you don't the 0

percentages of getting a to do anything and everything to good it says sits in time with a post credit economy in charges and then the unemployment rate of the 60 percent. the outlook for these young women is bleak. being blessed becomes a basic way of survival in the female body and objects that can be bought and bought it. but of course not all relationships. so this complicated and well money often plays a role. it's all fine about conflict, things like who gets to pay for the bill and the dates. so we wanted to know what your experience as well and for this we went to millennium fox. you know, we'll just switch views and it comes to going on big road. yes. some guys the, the scene just get on the legs so much

to the wall. so this yeah, yeah. look, well yeah, if you're not able to provide 4 different times where you want to have more than you think the most expensive place in the world to go through. and then by time you finish, you can like this one is of verizon that i got, how much is it giving good? i mean, you're calculating your, you know, if you back home because, and i'm sure you can afford the new, that's it. so that way if i was, if someone and i couldn't finish the food and it was like, you must finish, it tells me all right. it's like almost finished. you really see nice ones. it has a red flag. like, how will you tell me, i must finish conclude because this way more than bang i and i have no idea how it would behave. if somebody forced me to finish my would because they were paying for the bill. but you know what dating aside, we also wanted to find out what attracts people to each other and what makes relationships work. so here's what you said. one thing

that goes on is if i knew the decision like right, i need to respect i so i so the, the issue was brianca. it's the model. and basically i was just in the top kits and i guess it doesn't matter. became the huge increase of my life. she was always there for me just of what the need the time that i've never had such templates ever in my life. he's on this. let me just say on this to me and run it by his role. he do apologize, that the most amazing spot to be really interesting to me. she was always, i mean, oh, don't that you're about me. you're about me and even sure you're about money runaways . and then he asked me what that was like for an extra and of that. why didn't you that, can you come to this insurance? there are a 1000000 different ways to love. and who you choose to love should really only be a method for you and your partner, much in life. this isn't always the case. your family friend,

society and even national laws. can you tell me where you kind of can't have an intimate relationship with, as well as, who are you kind of identify as i'm talking about the l g, b, c, q plus community would still faces discriminate shown as well as defamation. and the tests by both states as a society all around africa. so let's start off by unpacking gender identity and sexual orientation. and what the less essential we s o sits and relationship experts cause it's a breaking down for us. hello there and welcome to the spread of face space, where we get to discuss everything, sex and relationships. today we have a question on gender and sexual diversity. the question reads take as, as a pass, i'm trying to be a best a l g b t q plus ally. i'm finding it hard to understand all the new language around agenda, sexuality and 6. is there a way you can simplify it for me?

so i can better understand how to conduct myself in spaces where i meet diverse groups. i'd really appreciate it. thanks. let's start by creating 3 boxes, biological or assigned sex, gender, and sexual orientation. each of these boxes has many sub sections, but we'll focus on the most important points. the fast box. biological 6 is what the doctor use is to identify you at best. based on your genet tatum. yeah. most of the time it's either male or female, but there are also cases where one is born with both male and female genitalia, that person is known as into 6. the 2nd box is agenda. gender is a social construct. it's what society throws that you to place you in a binary box of either male or female. for example, dolls and the color pink are set to belong to only girls. where is trucks and the color blue are set to belong to only boys,

but not everybody conforms to this agenda. binary gender identity comes from your in a sense of self and may not align with the sex that you are assigned at best. you could be male, female, both neither or some other agenda. and this could mean for example, that you're not comfortable with a pronouns. he or she and would rather be referred to as they or them. for example, sandbox is sexual orientation. this has to do with the attraction that you have to a person based on their agenda, which can be romantic, emotional, or physical men. and women strictly attracted to the opposite agenda, a known as heterosexual. if you're attracted to some of the same gender, you could be homosexual. if you're attracted to someone regardless of their sex or gender identity, you could be pansexual. keep in mind that this really is just the tip of the iceberg. that's so much more to learn about the l g

b t q plus community. i hope this has been helpful and i do urge you to keep doing your research online. well informed allies like you are very important. that's it for me. jazz till next time. good bye. thank you guys. and if you are interested in learning more about special minorities or just indicating yourself about sex on the body in general, you can have to, well, it's a round page where we have a series this has on just that. now he'll return you between 2 people of the same gender is to punishable by law. this law has been in place is nice you sexy and results in sexual minorities being harassed and left with virtually no protection from police of the states. in january 2023, a young can impression design the l g b, you activist. and when she logo was to swap to widespread ca, the community, we spoke to some people who are still willing to speak up can yes, l g, b t q community is on the lot in january 2023 and went to law about

a student fashion designer and gay rights activist was killed in the canyon town of el darn. it is tragic death since shockwave through the community makeup artist and it's in gary. so of the impact when, when the news fust can you know, like i was not sure what's happened to evan and i was like, i really hope it's not about how he did things by themselves as of late. there's been a lot of hits. um, i've been receiving a lot of hits and a lot of comparison to edwin. everybody's telling me, you know, if you don't take care, you'll end up like, and we dentist was always aware that his sexual orientation was not accepted by society. but the online debate about edwin's death has to be generated into an empty to be q plus campaign. right now they, at the most phase kind that changed the final 2 out of the safety of the sexuality

of your sexual orientation. i'm going to be, i walk place, you can simply leaving the house can be a problem. they're not safe can go outside. you're not sure that shouldn't be safe unless you have security to but the environment and they and the solution, right? and now inside of beats, run, grab well, intense to just take some time before we get back to our conflict. so if the government came in the lives of hips to add minority to groups, i feel like that's i i, we feel protected homosexuality. split a boot and canyon society. but in the light of edwin's death, the l. g, b, t q plus community and the allies, a once again calling for acceptance. and the criminalization these and lots of homophobia. these um, lots of hate sweats, people who was only hating because they exist. you know, they exist. that's it,

i leave i'm leaving, i'm jason. so in most parts of africa, the laws are very similar to those here in kenya. in nigeria, for example, one can get up to 14 years in prison meant for being gain, and in some parts of the country which are ruled by fleming. serial punishments even was nevertheless, there are a few brave people who are standing up for themselves. we meet one of them, the legal space, fashion design, daniel k, who's calling for more respect and acceptance. in conservative nigeria, same sex relationships khattab who is the whole stay well for the l g b t q, class community but like ocean, tina john daniel k has an idea to make it a little friendly with you and to see question brand concave apparel.

very much and sophistic about so in this coming is one of the reasons i hit the scenario as i'm done. we're going through so i hit one. this was that so discrimination on 3 a freshman. so green up. i've always been like bullied on all of that. so i go through, read one i found out about to you. i've always been a 1st time a just because on myself, despite the odds i think is brand has been welcomed, especially in the l g. b t q plus community. bold inscriptions like fem isn't weakness, gender is fluid and we can be seen of happening, hung out around legal i think it's quite an innovative and inclusive brand. i've always had a hard time finding. the old stuff fits my agenda expression. but like with this bronze, it's always because i always find one called listing of one my brand out and it was

super and be like like good, how do you maintain those students stuff and i'm like yes. then there's a special construct. i mean, so yeah it's, it's clear anybody kind of like, i mean, this isn't way if pushing isn't, is going for the, or the one for the on the thoughts the need like this, which something else sees upright. he's very, very come from someone else's age. taking this whole cause, any kind of sustainability leaving it. always fun of things like this done. you runs on online store from his home. he reveals designs on his instagram page. clients can also request designs done. you know them gets across the country is to realize the outward before supervising the ceiling and grunting, experiencing hostility is part of the job, the vision say by the offensive, by some people just come on. and so my business page and just be like see what's up,

why are you doing this? is beverly is this against god, serial on what's on, what's not on whatsoever. the thing people don't understand is my brand is not out for the, for those particular presence of my brand before it would be 10 for his friends and customers were having his clothes in steals a sense of pride. pride was that also includes my son to ask what, while you're doing something like this, what does this mean book to this is not right, but then i want to spend a square foot piece of ignorance. so most of the time i see the need to keep them. what things mean people find the scripts done, but i really do not care. this is me on the line with the message. and while people like daniel, are fighting for more except as a society, many people have their own relationship back close to fights, big or small, like cooley and get you. there are kind of like julie and couple living right here

and they will be. and while they knew they wanted to put together their families and friends, well, they took a bit of convincing. nairobi is east of protest, melton port, a trusted residence from across the continent and beyond. but a king and capitals acceptance of diversity does not always extend to motus hope. the heart of the beginning is, was very difficult when my life go to places and in georgia is amazing and job. it was really low. they used to be a very which stereotype by dancing oh, you've come to can to steal our room on from aust kula and get to a cross cultural relationship. maybe unusual. but like many young people love, hosp familia, begins with mental health too. i think. yeah, i'll send it to you is how is this fresh from school? he says, talk to me and you know how we started eating and talking and yeah,

i like, she's via p liked by vibe. he actually upfront, he told me, you're going to be the mother of my kids from a best friends and family. the new couple was bought in love, connection was difficult to accept. i was now telling my friend to know these, that dating, you know, you know, telling a lot of people and then, you know, come often to, yeah, i met this guy, we've been seeing each other and i'm that she's an age and i don't really watch. i'm sure they do. what do you know about him while do you know, as bob garfield review today, comments like these were phone investigators get to somebody have long since accepted the west african as a member of the firm. but i wasn't always the case. let me see to me like that. i didn't know delete and see what i could not lazy. i say it's i don't 13, anything about the i want you to see for us when she told me that jerry and i was

there, what do they do? and doing, can i know african go to america or europe. so that was for me and mind blowing. another thing that to had was he's mostly okay. and my sister's christian. so we really, my sister is going to, because of i know my sister, i really loved him. so i'm like, hey, we to become listening. eventually, the couple chose to put aside the may see is would you have doubts behind them. the path forward ahead to us the said life that blends the best of that different backgrounds include in, in the kitchen at the beginning is to cook a lot for sending when like i'm visiting please use to really, really like cocaine, you know, i guess best the the time he was trying to a me, it is like somebody called for you. my wife, she told me, you know, to make this deals digital, the fried rice over time. i've come to enjoy most of the guaranteed issues. if i'm

a guy, the room, mulkey mall from the low, from a, from my to get everything wherever you going from is that there's a video background, your cultural and you'll age what devices your type it's, it's possible he lets me be me and i let him be she is walk for me buffy key and we were just happy with when any of the end of our show. but we have one more issue to talk about so that i can break because liked it or not. that's how some relationship sends me the most. i mean, i can be alone in the show. you must have some experiences of your own. so let's hear them read. it may not be shown, steve, and i may have what i'm looking at. i think i'm the one actually setting up. i'm the interested in the you've given me.

yeah. and then they did this won't allow us to did. so you just move those who are you just have the red flag? i basically read it. there wasn't a budgeting. this with this thing, it says that a lot of the spots black the, i wouldn't even forget because i invited you on uh which i wait for that particular piece, which is for how for like a long as i showed up. so i felt very, very glad the day that i believe i always never forget, i get all my trust able to take any for granted and damage of my head. because yes, i mean football. like if i go to the beach all perform well, like my guys are black. okay. what's wrong with you? that's why you why you know, for custody of what's wrong or deep dive it out. well, yeah, i'm fine to me. actually,

i'm on be my best. i didn't know i wasn't doing the right thing on the beach. i did my bride end of the i ended up losing sight. i didn't get too low by getting phone like my trust was taken for granted. so i just have to like to exclude myself other relationships them without body to us. when this is, is a nice one, not too deep in relationship wonder present again opposite extremely gave me an order for me notes like, well, the big thing for the stick on finding it but out of high speed. and that brings us to the end of the show this week. if you have story is to share with us, connect is also social media. you can also write to us. so e mail is 7 to 7, the dw dot com and subscribe to our youtube channel. we have you now with, you know, the do by now. a big too good. thanks for watching the,

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