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flight time, oh, i chose power each all power points a normal dad's tooth to swap the all the necessary and spend time with that children. but what happens demand jr in pregnancy and the 1st year is that that babies live in this town. we discover what science nice about that. we know that my hormones drove off during child, but brain changes ask, do you become a father? was wonderful about the fault child relationship is the dots are different. so to parents, we spend time with the younger i've experienced how being a father changes them is even though i still have of wilmington, know that i'm going to be a father in a few minutes. i can't wait to tell you what it's like to look after 2 children at the same time. i'm getting so starting to see when she learns to crawl when she learned to quench assessor 1st words. i mean,

that's awesome. the birthday jen. the alexander codes and his wife and you live in the mixer district. so that will be 3 of the and they're expecting that 1st child in 6 weeks. it's been off to date. i'm excited to touch. it's thrilling that we don't know what will happen. know how everything is going to develop it and do so. there's a lot of anticipation of the look and of course, some trepidation. it's a mixture of feeling some of the new. it's our goals. i'm, as i'm causing the problem has arise.

everything revolves around the bus and what is going to happen on the me gets quote, originally as offer, i'm fine when i for leslie do is to get done, but of course i to worry about things that and 40 maybe i'll be university giving. electra if you do it, and then i have to somehow get through pad and traffic and to get to the 10. and how will, how may i get that with the audio? will someone be there to help? i get to the hospital and i was come. so these are the things that i'm thinking about. it doesn't give me time me, but he's not thinking i would say i'm good. the most important thing is for the baby to ton because he's still in breach position via with his legs down as an invite in the holding onto a c tons. then i'd be super happy in terms of a natural, but that's what i'm hoping for this. and sean for the main thing is that he's healthy. come to this one so that

as to what's about the man who takes care of his well be and what happens to him during pregnancy? bookings here in england. dr. animation lives with a family and dogs just outside on stage. the evolutionary anthropologist has been researching fatherhood for years. i talked with the university, she conducted a large study and wrote a book about that's the trigger was the dramatic but of the story. my husband witnessed what was basically a cold crush happening in front of him when we were given by that he thought he was going to lose both of us and we both came quite place to death aust woods. i was offered lots of counseling today with my tool, but from this stuff i'm actually i didn't really need it because i was unconscious

. so hadn't seen anything. he had witnessed everything and they offered him nothing . so when i went back to what i thought i went to find out who a human software is, and i want to talk about the positive story of human fatherhood. as an evolution anthropologist, i understand how rad human solve is. it is, we need to have the, i, the has it, i didn't want to fight send i really genuinely do believe fatherhood begins and pregnancy. i think we have this idea that followed as of right. and they all physically distance, obviously from the presence of having a baby they don't having that that immense physical closeness to mother's happening . but we know the fathers do, in fact start to bones with that baby before the baby is born. professor chi, booting a gynecologist from hamburg also thinks the fatherhood begins during pregnancy. the best buy that i can get sold the fact that something is growing inside your

cotton that belongs to both of you is really peculiar. and that you can do an ultrasound and make it visible is perhaps is even more difficult for a minute because now they can see that there really is something this most we mean go through major whole. no, no changes during pregnancy. surprisingly meant to the instance on the black team does. it does meet particularly interesting is prolactin with the whole mind that's responsible for like patient and state. it sounds a bit funny to say that this whole money increases in man, but it does a mock prolactin down regulate the mechanism that controls male hormones. and i suspect that this is also the reason why testosterone levels drop in men during pregnancy, and especially off the bus would on this enables men to concentrate on their family men as it. yes ma. well, if you're familiar, consent to young the

may have phone to him to the south of paris and frauds. it's the beginning of april, the new know dominguez and his found the mog or what do you bad? i've just moved here. so they're expecting the 2nd baby in 2 months because i'm not nervous, but i'm looking forward to seeing what it's like to look after 2 children. at the same time, i'm in the, the adults at home is taking, i'm not time to organize the clients with a new baby. it's only new. nobody knows whether it'll be a boy or a go. i don't want to know, i'll find out a thread and a new phone that'll pull the main concern is but it's healthy, but i can't wait 9 months without knowing it sex. it's too long. it's impossible

for them to publish it. you know, thinks the hood elm a cry, it's time to wake up the one and a half year old. anyway. otherwise she one phone to sleep at night because it's a weekend. the only chance the new know just spend time with this family home during the week, he works long hours and tries to juggle work and family life. surcharge

is much small. it's changed my life model, i have less time for myself. and that's pleasure because it takes up a lot of our time to look into that so that we're lucky because we find how easy to deal with it. and if she's quite pleasant to live with, it's never been as it's quite tyrants. it's a table for the, for the shade of the city. see china induced to try and have time to look off to my child because i work from monday to friday like everyone else uh during the weekend is not enough. we just, i would love to spend time from monday to sunday with my child the most. i think

most mambo 2nd pregnancy is going smoothly, but still it will be too much with them to husband. sure. i wouldn't be able to do it without him. i'm really glad that i have handled it gives me a break now, and that was they don't fit community. well, that's all right, so the weekend was fun to show us the light and the negative. ma'am documents is a professor of family studies at light and university to focus 5 years in research on parenting, it's too often that we say that we do a study on parents where it's actually the study of mothering and out on the

farthest row. so that's why i think it's school to bring some balance in the fields and to pay more attention to the fathers, especially in the transition to other as marian back. and then start is the 1st $1000.00 days of diets. for example, she conducts ultrasound video feedback sessions between week 21 and 30 of the pregnancy. so you ask spa this to interact with the unborn babies. for example, by reading the book, maybe $100.00 fathers to posit the study, a little additional lesson vision, both vision, both mind, you know, if it was okay if i use for the interim or if it's a show more and you have to show feel we use the saw that the opportunity to interact with the incidence that's never been done before. and doing so,

we provide the father, we feel paternity to take the perspective of to see to some of the newborn that this is a human being with a mind of its own who needs to focus attention and protection. we know that fathers liked to be more involved. fathers who are more involved during pregnancy are also more involved after the birth of the baby after the session. each father gets a video showing how the baby reacts it. the baby recognizes the forces of its mother and if it's father, as you can see that from the the heart beat increase when, when she or he, he is the father and mother talked to them. and they also touched the, the role of the uterus longer when they're stocked from the outside. and that's what you, what you saw here too. when the father did some massage of the subdomains of the mother we saw under the baby raised her hand and sort of made contact with what was

happening outside the backend. the preparing for the baby puts extra stress on alexander cutter. because of the general piece, quite demanding. a series of of those things on the met. see we don't see that a spin introduced to the ultimate aerospace engineer and that job has to pump to it . one causes that i'm the chief engineer of my own company, which i found it together was a friends 2 and a half years ago. and the other problem because something working as a university like truck is under, who, who to the riley beach, the office before 7 pm. this is matt. it's nice, especially if it's more than a job is to teach. it's my 1st baby. i invest a lot of time. i have a certain responsibility towards my employees, but it's, what's my company 6 my,

i'm really passionate about my job. but today, alexander finishes study because his wife is due for a checkup at the university clinic. kind of now there's no single minute has nothing wrapped around the neck that's important to us to cope. there's the head to the bottom is currently spilled down at 33 weeks. we can try to turn it from the outside, but we'll talk about that in 3 and a half weeks. sometimes they turn on their own. so is it said the video turning into externally doesn't? well, then there are 2 options. you can decide to have a child breach, but i think about it. admittedly, many women choose as has area and section then because it's deemed safe for the child. not for fun. the other hand, we all hesitant about just his diary and section, especially if it is not absolutely necessary because

a says every and section can be a burden for subsequent pregnancy is on the left of income. as for me, it was only the 2nd time that i was present to the ultrasound examination at the time . it was really great in customer get. on the other hand, when i'm gonna have to worry that the child is still in breach position, you can see that on the video, his grades of the most in v, as in germany, the average age of 1st time dancer bus is 33 years. alexander cancer is 36 years old. those people mute, that's always on my mind. will i be too old at some point as my want to play football with my child to be and actually fall. that was my hope that i stay healthy and can provide my child with as many opportunities as possible. but it's easy to solve this age, really impulsive. but the child,

the, wendy, it's nothing unique design reviews. it can food us. if you look at the genetic risk for the unborn, all the new bones, it is indeed the case that old a fathers are responsible for some congenital malformation. so a syndrome little moment to find what they send a sent me. so there aren't that many, but this has been proven for a search and skeletal displays. yeah. that just because the bus resides with, for example, a come drove lazy. i'm your speed of interest. in this case, the father's age is important. but on the home, it's a fact that the mother's age plays a much greater wrong idea than what kind of daughters, because of others viewed the tab suite, a set that still current popular with young families. the

spot is 35 years old. he and his wife jo hannah, have 2 children. it has very positive memories of the bad thing. 20192021 says there's really amazing cause when like 5 minutes before the citizens in the room are on its way out. and then suddenly it's in your hands and you've been waiting for it for 9 months. it's amazing. but also crazy. you have this little person that knows how to be the 1st thing it this. the 1st one was actively started. so that took a long time. i think we were at the hospital for 36 hours or so and i was present during, during birth, giving as much support this i could, which is not a lot as

a matter of. and the 2nd child was a little faster. hamburg germany. professor chi, booting wants to know what happens to main jewelry shop. as part of the study, the 5 is what the thing with negatively affected by it. so by the time that almost as shown you to be turned out that many man had prepared themselves well for the event, i would say that around 80 to 90 percent failed positive about that accomplish. and then there was a smaller proportion about 10 percent who were worried about problems off the bus. and also people deem it to have in europe around 85 defensive dads that present during this however, isn't always possible. for example, during an emergency suzanne infection that, that these chief, nothing can go wrong. i think it's too stressful for a family member always. so that's why we take the fathers out to these emergency situations. these notes have to talk to on the face of the us. he's a c and

a half hours by the 20th of april. 7th, i am new coach as was is it broke the babies did in breach position and could not be turned on yet. and alexander wanted to have a plan since every session next week. but now things have changed. alexander casa, is allowed to be present at beth. this is using all sorts of cost is this huge emotional feeling that comes out of you because now you know, okay, you're going to be a father and a few minutes to it. and that's something completely different. it's a situation that you've simulated or mentioned before, even that have been confronted with the real thing. on the

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the, the pediatricians get the all clear. the baby is fine. realizes just that 1st screen that moment that 1st scream. wow, that's crazy. the sure beautiful is governance and truck moment. i think if i'm, you know, there was the central moments of sure when the midwife taken away,

when i noticed that he didn't read for a moment. i wasn't feeling so great then went to that point. i just wanted to come on you down from when i came back and from then on everything was great. and novelty screenings and then it will be on the fluid is coming out. everything is great. positive. it's crazy. it was pure emotion was it was crazy. talking to ag, crazy that you'll now in this, well, we use a piece of it with our system. i'm fine. i'm a bit confused, and i'm starting to feel the pain. most of them that i'm super happy. you come to describe this feelings for 6 pounds and 20 inches, a delicate but healthy boy. ignite's constancy is full of may. but his parents just called him a unique moment psychologically physically,

a new or logically, a woman's, but also a man's. the change is during the month is this, will the woods would us difficulties were not to look too good with an understanding as efficient as a to a to and if you're running late, the mens cortisol levels naturally increase toward the book, which is a stressful situation. understandably, to studies show that mile testosterone levels decrease off the bus, which leads to low a testosterone in that blood tire. for doctor test, the may not be any good to cease has probably ended reducing stress. mutating the ability to build a nest and achieve calmness and we got the emptiness or the jumping test will start into the cuts in new fall. this folding book is significant. it can be up to a set of that test. so strange like 33 percent of the test will strike will drop. generally, the levels are test, so star never returned to pre both level. so pre fault hood levels as long as the fall, the remains in contact in some way with that child. back to france,

they have phones on the 2 and a half weeks ago. new know dominguez mago or the bad became parents for the 2nd side. a go celeste level of moisten? nope. i see it's down to the bath. went well and, but it was a bit stressful, very different to the 1st time we left late. but the maternity ward we arrived just in time and the bus lost it just pop in now as long as you pay 30 minutes and then it was over like the ultimate last, postpone it to the sinus list a and totally different feeling that the 1st time it took a day to now it went really fast. it was completely different to evaluate the commitment to sell to fiscal 3rd time super heavy. so yes, really totally different than the 1st time actually profit to see,

i feel better and i feel less tired issue and i'm so happy to finally have my 2nd baby the but not to find this have emotional high maybe you can also suffer from post natal depression, overall, the jo pin test, they'll show a following, but is a good thing because it's really important for priming dad to jump into a still story also increases the advocacy of documented ox tyson on the brain, which means increases those lovely pointing chemicals. the downside is holly test still straight is preventative against depression. so if we say a dropping test to strain, unfortunately it does increase the likelihood the child, the demand will experience depression. there are other factors that come in to share that. so just start your loan. generally doesn't close depression. cambridge english child psychiatrist, professor pull rum chung dining works at the university of cambridge

one of these main areas of research is the mental health of parents. especially fathers, in studies across the world for too much is fairly, can fairly consistent the, somewhere between one and 20, maybe even up to one in 10 dots are affected by high levels of depression. but at this time, there was a range of causes for why people get depressed at any time. and then for thing he doesn't care about, that's a new baby. so you've got a disruption to family likes to go to sleep stuff and switch the big challenge. and you go to the new dance trying to juggle. now how do i do my job with how do i to contribute to the king of this baby? so it's a huge the overlooks error, i think. but most fathers do not get depressed. on the contrary, many enjoyed being attach the in sweden, etc,

a spas on parental. these bodies wife lex piece of time with his daughter, asked straight who is 9 months old? the 3 year old. oh, last is the daycare at the moment. i love it. i mean, i've been home for 3 months now and it's really it's, it really is but it's also mean you starting to get the routine of the day. so you're doing this, is it the same thing in you see what works and what doesn't work betsy is wants to take 10 months parental leave. astrid will stop going to the daycare center when she is one and a half years old. so

this is what makes it all worth it. i mean for me now i'm, i'm getting to starting to see when she learns to call when she learned to quench assessor 1st words. i mean that's, that's awesome. and i don't think when you come like i ended up that and someone else, what would you do differently? it's not i would have spent more days office. that's not what you say. so yeah, definitely with the the 3 pm, but see us picks up a lot from daycare, looking up that these kids is a full time job. it is a different life, but i also, i mean i used to play a lot of golf. i don't anymore. which is natural limits,

okay. but it has changed that made me more reflective of who i am. i think i, i think about or how i present things, how i explain things, how i act. and in order to be a to be a good example for them, things like living in the moment. this is actually kind of oppressive with kids because you know, if the pass, oh good, good times we pass them by times with us. so you have to remember that everything goes in, insight goes basically. so i think you're more appreciative of, of the good type the, you know, kind of comes home from work in the evening. then she takes over the children.

don't think like the gender or mother father perspective changed how we divided the press possibilities of so on. it's more perhaps like who, who is in what stage of their career, who has to prioritize work right now. it's different that deal with that role in different ways. now research has have studied for the 1st time what happens to dance brains during this process? tennessee is right. for years, you're a biologist, professor ruth found that's been researching the behavior of fathers and mothers simulation to that. children cheaper that he says don't more is going on with that . it's the most of us think the fatherhood depends on how much you invest in care

giving, you know, pick up your sleeve and takes care of the baby. but the fatherhood, the biology follows the behavior. so the more you do, the more plus the sit that you won't get in your brain, the more your brain will reorganize around. that attachment bond to prove these boots 1000 and conducted several studies. in one experiments, she measured the levels of the bone thing hormones, oxy testing, in fathers and mothers, 6 months after the birth of the child. and we saw that oxy towson in mothers and fathers were similar. and this was very surprising because research has always believed that mothers are biologically prepared to care for infants that really show that it's not exactly so maybe the past way to maternal care. and the pathway to paternal care are somewhat different,

but the fathers have it within them biologically to care. for instance, a small groups phelman went a step further. i looked at the brains of heterosexual and homosexual fathers. 2 and compare them to the brains of mothers. for years, what we saw in the brain is this the entire attachment network activated to infant stimuli in old parents, whether it's men or women, primary caregiver, secondary caregiver, biological parents, and adoptive parents. we had 2 surprises. one is that a mixed delay activates and mothers, 5 times more then and fathers. so mothers are those who are highly vigilant to infant safety. make their lives a very n, shouldn't a structure. it's deep in the brain, it's an automatically functioning system that tells us what changes can happen in

the environment that could be potentially harmful. but there is something interesting happening in father springs. route feldman found that the brain region called salt because the temper ronnie superior, su yes, for sure. is much more active in fathers and mothers. this is the area. this enables parents to understand the non verbal signals of the babies. the result is there are 2 pathways to pair with the one that is more evolutionary incident. you see it's an old mammals and that makes mother's very, very vigilant infant safety and one that is more of a lucian early recent and his court to cold. and it comes by getting to know your infant and learning his or her sickness. and not the big surprise with the results of the brain scans of homosexual fathers. gay fathers, who are both primary caregivers have the same s p s the terms of father. they also

have very high activation of the it makes a lot of sense to make the lives activated by the hormones of pregnancy and childbirth with these fall, this gets such a high, a mac deluxe eviction. when the father alone takes care of the baby, the more he's, the turnip pathway will recruit the maternal pathway and his a make the law will increase in activation. so actually what we see here is that the patrol a pathway depends on active care giving. we're as mothers get it for free so the fathers should spend as much time as possible with children like my ts ican through. so thanks to the swedish welfare system, i don't get a 100 percent. there's different levels of setups and sweden. so there's

a minimum level that you get from from the states, depending on what you earned. i'm them. a lot of companies have additional financial support for people on, on my turn to potentially. so i get that additional financial support, the visits to an open day care group. it's free of charge and huge. the popular with fire is on parental leave the

around 80 percent of fathers in sweden tank parental leave. with my part kids, i was in front of me for 6 months with my 2nd several homes and i was, this is the 3rd finding. so i will take a longer one. so i be looking into taking my wife to another country for work, but then we got pregnant and then after that i didn't want to lose because we missed the best country in the world to be have kids, university of cambridge, the professor pay around charm, donnie analyze is how fathers play with a young children. he has conducted several studies on this in their studies, we were able to go to parent times when i had babies at 3 months old and then follow them up at one and it 2 years old. and they were few different findings from

that, but i guess one of the key ones was that my father's having gay where he was being more engaged in play. so the higher level of engagement in play with a very young children, 3 months old. those children when they got to one and sees, tend space or outcomes in terms of fact talking to the development and that behavioral development. so it's something again, in those early interaction seems quite important. that sounds like a good he also analyzes where the fathers play differently from others. so. so far it's just like a fine transfer me beach to sucks. the okay. yes, i'm just taking a look if i want to. okay, there's a lot of overlap between them and that's, it's not like cancer. i've been here a months over here. there's a huge amount of all that but, but on average, that's the move physical play and that kind of rough and tumble play that soft wrestling game and other games like that. which yeah, you know,

one of the things that you see and you see the rough and tumble play i think really quite nicely is that children have to learn quite a lot about regulating their emotions and regulating themselves when they're doing reference symbols. so they learn, oh, if i hit too hard that can fit my parent and they get feedback on that in a safe, usually in a safe environment. by the big you use, posing on white every day. alexander could say it slowly, but surely getting into the routine of things. he's back at work, but tries to help wherever you can. is it a gift son? yes. today i was lucky enough to spend half a day with the my office phone. i mean was at the gynecologist benches, so i took the train home with him alone for the 1st time to find that that was really cool. and just walking around with the front door that was fun such as possible. most of you in 5 is your what

the night so short. very short. a fence thing up, i think as i see 5 fingers the defeats the highest on the sleep for half an hour. then you wake up again since the fall from now then wake up again. that's a super anyone who says, that's great, that's no problem. i can't believe that. i think it's normal that it jungles. you'll not beams pull yourself together or if you manage it as a team, i much and i think that c minus so the support mon alexander will soon be working full time as a professor. implants to take 3 months of parental leave during half to phone some of the new no longer enjoy the summer as a family of full. so that's to stay at home for the 1st 6 months and then go to and this rate is actually controlled at best and does info. i'm happy to be

a father for the 2nd time is my was an only child and i didn't enjoy being alone. so i didn't want to have just one child. now we have to and i'm very happy, mostly fish. and i don't know if they'll be a 3rd one. they'll have twice a year. mm hm. 35 degrees. each waving suite. a spends the summit with his family in the summer house outside stuff . he's already completed 7 months, a parental last 3 months. so the headphone i'm heading back in early october and it's now let's do that. i think that would be that would be great. i think a couple of more months in may, but then i think you moved the intellectual challenge of, of working and not just taking care of the logistics in 3 months. but the children

will come to take it to us. and these wife will work full time a. busy busy busy busy this has changed in recent decades. older models still do most of the child care. fathers becoming more involved fathers and not this by center, they're actually very, very involved. so i think 1st of all, we have to get that message out and start changing that culture about importance and relevance. secondly, obviously always comes back to governments. it goes back to governments taking that tumbled on understanding the importance of fathers and actually putting in place legislation that is fit for purpose that she allows people to take up that parenting role. scientific studies show men change basically psychologically

when they become fontas and they have a decisive influence on the developments of that geometry is looking at a nice puzzle going on. now if you take the role of her father seriously, and with commitment into an investment, then your brain will change and your homeowners will change and your behavior will change. but if you don't, and you've spent 20 hours in the office, it's not like mothers that their body changes because of pregnancy and childbirth. it won't happen. parenthood will pass you by more alone that wants to be actively involved. 5 is because in the it's not that need the kids to beneficial. that's both of the day. the

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