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flight time i chose to reach or power points, a mom or dad just choose to swap the off. they split the necessary and spend time with that children. but what was happens to me and during pregnancy and the 1st year is that that babies live in this town. we discover what science nice about that. we know that my hormones drop off during child support, brain changes ask, do you become a father? was wonderful about the fault child relationship. is it gods are different. so to parents we spend time with young adults and experience how being a father changes them isn't going to have of wilmington, know that i'm going to be a father in a few minutes. i can't wait to see what it's like to look after 2 children at the same time. i'm getting so starting to see when she likes to call when she learned to quench assessor 1st words. i mean, that's awesome,

the birthday jen. the alexander codes and his wife and you live in the mix of districts soon. that will be 3 of them that are expecting that 1st child in 6 weeks. it's been off to date. i'm excited to touch. it's thrilling that we don't know what will happen. know how everything is going to develop here to do so there's a lot of anticipation, look and of course, some trepidation. it's a mixture of feeling some of the new. it's our goals. i'm, i'm causing the problem has arise.

everything revolves around the bus. and what is going to happen the, the me gets called the ridge ice offer. i'm fine when i for leslie do is to get done. but of course i to worry about things that and 40 maybe i'll be university getting electra if you do it. and then i have to somehow get through pad and traffic to get to the 10. and how will, how may i get that with the audio? will someone be there to help? i get to the hospital and i was calm. so these are the things that i'm thinking about. it doesn't give me time, which is not thinking, i wouldn't say i'm good. the most important thing is for the baby to ton because he's still in breach position via with his legs down as an invite in the holding onto a c tons. then i'd be super happy in terms of a natural, but that's what i'm hoping for this. and sean for the main thing is that he's healthy, come to this one so that the

once about the man who takes care of his well being and what happens to him during pregnancy? bookings here in england. dr. animation lives with family and dogs just outside on stage. the evolutionary anthropologist has been researching fatherhood for years. i talked to the university, she conducted a large study and wrote a book about that's the trigger was the dramatic bed of her 1st daughter. my husband witnessed what was basically a call crush happening in front of him when we were given by that he thought he was going to lose both of us and we both came quite place to death to aust woods. i was offered lots of counseling today with my tool, but from this stuff i'm actually i didn't really need it cuz i was unconscious. so

hadn't seen anything he had witnessed everything. i. they offered him nothing. so when i went back to what i thought, i want to find out who a human father is, and i want to talk about the positive story of human fatherhood. as an evolution anthropologist, i understand how read human solve is it is we don't need the guy that has it. i don't want to fox, and i really genuinely do believe fatherhood begins and pregnancy. i think we have this idea that follow this, right. and they all physically distance, obviously from the presence of having a baby, then not having that, that immense physical closeness to them of this happening. but we know the fathers do, in fact start to bones with that baby before the baby is born. professor chi, booting gynecologist from hamburg also thinks the fatherhood begins during pregnancy

despite the fact that something is growing inside your cotton that belongs to both of you. these really peculiar and that you can do an ultrasound and make it visible is perhaps is even more difficult for minutes because now they can see that there really is something this most as women go through major homer, no changes during pregnancy. surprisingly, men due to the instance on the black team, as it does meet particularly interesting, is prolactin with the whole mind that's responsible for like patient and state. it sounds a bit funny to say that this whole mind increases a minute, but it does a mock prolactin down regulates the mechanism that controls male hormones. and i suspect that this is also the reason why testosterone levels drop in men during pregnancy, and especially off the bus worked on this enables men to concentrate on their families and as it yes, ma. well, for you to familiar concepcion, the may have phone to on the

south of paris and frogs. it's the beginning of april, the new know dominguez and his found the mog or what do you bad? i've just moved here. so they're expecting the 2nd baby in 2 months because i'm no novice, i'm looking forward to seeing what it's like to look after 2 children at the same time. what they don't at home is taking a map of the time to organize the client. so then you may be only noon of those whether it will be a boy or a go. i don't want to know. i know that for a new false that'll pull the main concern is that it's healthy, but i can't wait 9 months without knowing it sex. it's too long. it's impossible

for them to keep up with you. but i a new nose thinks he heard a cry. it's time to wake up the one and a half year old anyway. otherwise she one phone to sleep at night. the revision because it's a weekend, the only chance the new know just spend time with his family during the week. he works long hours and tries to juggle work and family life so much small. it's changed my life model. i have less time for myself and that's

leisure money because it takes up a lot of our time to look into that for that. we're lucky because we find to easy to deal with i really and if she's quite pleasant to live with, it's never been as it's quite tiring, it's got to go through the sheet of the city, see china and just to try and have time to look off to my child because i work from monday to friday, like everyone else uh during the weekend is not enough. we just, i would love to spend time from monday to sunday with my child the most. i think

mobile home mambo 2nd pregnancy is going smoothly. but still it will be too much with them to husband. sure. i wouldn't be able to do it without. and i'm really glad that i have central since it gives me a break now. and that was the whole said to me a little before. right, so the weekend was fine to show us the light and the negative. ma'am documents is a professor of family studies at lightning university. to focus 5 is in research on parenting. it's too often that we say that we do a study on parents where it's actually the study of mothering and out on the

farthest row. so that's why i think it's good to bring some balance in the fields and to pay more attention to the fathers. especially in the transition to other mariam document start is the 1st 1000 days of diets. for example, she conducts ultrasound video feedback sessions between week 21 and 30 of the pregnancy. so you ask spa this to interact with the unborn babies. for example, by reading the book that the $100.00 fathers to posit the study, a little additional lot of them and visual vision, both my job is it was ok if i use for the interim or if it's a show more and you have to show feel me gives the saw that the opportunity to interact with the infant that's never been done before. and doing so,

we provide the father, we feel paternity to take the perspective of to see to some of the newborn that this is a human being with a mind of its own who needs to focus attention and protection. we noted fathers like to be more involved. fathers who are more involved during pregnancy are also more involved after the birth of the baby after the session. each father gets a video showing how the baby react santos in. the baby recognizes the forces of its mother. and if it's father, as you can see that from the, the heart beat increase when, when she or he, he is the father of the mother, talked to them at a also touch the, the role of the uterus longer when they're stocked from the outside. and that's what you, what you saw here too. when the father did some massage of the billman of the mother we saw under the baby raised her hand and sort of made contact with what was

happening outside the backend. the preparing for the baby puts extra stress on alexander cuts because his job is quite demanding a series of other things on the met. see, we don't see that a spin introduced to the ultimate aerospace engineer and that job has to pump to it . one causes that i'm the chief engineer of my own company, which i found it together was a friends 2 and a half years ago. and the other problem because something working is the university like trophies under who, who to the riley beach, the office before 7 pm is matt. it's mike, as funny. it's more than a job to to i it's my 1st baby i invest a lot of time. i have a certain responsibility towards my employees, but it's, what's my company,

i'm really passionate about my job. but today, alexander finishes study because his wife is due for a checkup at the university clinic. kind of now there's no single minute has nothing wrapped around the neck. that's important to us there. cool. there's the head to the bottom is currently still down at 33 weeks. we can try to turn it from the outside, but we'll talk about that in 3 and a half weeks. sometimes they turn on their own. so is it said the video of turning into externally doesn't? well, then there are 2 options. you can decide to have a vaginal breach, but i keep about admittedly many women choose as has area and section then because it's deemed safe for the child and kind of that's what it's not for fun. the other hand, we all hesitant about just his diary in section, especially if it is not absolutely necessary. because as

a zachary and section can be a burden for subsequent pregnancy is on a lot of the lessons icon. as for me, it was only the 2nd time that i was present to the ultrasound examination at the time. it was really grinding customer. on the other hand, when i'm gonna have to worry that the child is still in breach position, you can see that's on the video. his grades of team they'll say v as in germany, the average age of 1st time dancer bus is 33 years. alexander cancer is 36 years old. the speed them youth that's always on my mind. will i be too old at some point as problems play football with my child to be and actually fall? that was my hope that i stay healthy and can provide my child with as many opportunities as possible. but it's the found this age, really impulsive. instead, the child,

the, wendy, it's nothing you need additional designs easy can. for this, if you look at the genetic risk for the on bone, all the new bones, it is indeed the case that old a fathers are responsible for some congenital malformation. so a syndrome little moment to find what they send a sent me to the wrong button. any but this has been proven for a search and some skeletal displays. yeah. that just because the bus route size with, for example, a come drove plays the speed of interest. in this case, the father's age is important and but on the home, it's a fact that the mother's age plays a much greater wrong. i to them lieutenant daughters because of others viewed the task sweet to set the that's still kind of popular with young families. the might

see a spot is 35 years old. he and his wife jo. hannah, have 2 children. he has very positive memories of the bad thing. 20192021. they're so really amazing. because when like 5 minutes before the citizens in the room are on its way out and then suddenly it's in your hands and you've been waiting for it for 9 months. it's amazing. but also crazy. you have this little person that knows how to be the 1st thing it does. the 1st one was actively started, so that took a long time. i think we were at the hospital for 36 hours or so. and i was present during, during birth, giving as much support this i could, which is not a little as a matter um. and the 2nd side of us,

a little faster hamburg germany, professor kind of booting wants to know what happens to men during job as part of the study. the last 5 is what the thing with negatively affected by it stopped by time that almost as shown. you turned out that many man had prepared themselves well for the event. i would say that around 80 to 90 percent failed positive about that. and then there was a smaller proportion about 10 percent who were worried about problems off the bus and put also people demons a home in europe around 85 percent of dads at present during this however, isn't always possible. for example, during an emergency suzanne infection that these chief, nothing can go wrong. i think it's too stressful for a family member always. so that's why we take the fathers out to these emergency situations. these notes have to talk to on the face of the us. he's a c and

a half hours by the 20th of april 7 i and i knew a coach as was, is a broke the babies did in breached position and could not be tired. i knew in alexander wanted to have a plan since every in session. next week, but now things have changed. alexander coaster is allowed to be present at beth this is using all sorts, of course, is this huge emotional feeling that comes out of you, because now you know, okay, you're going to be a father and a few minutes to it. and that's something completely different. it's a situation that you've simulated or mentioned before, even that have been confronted with the real thing on the

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the, the pediatricians get the all clear. the baby is fine. realizing just that 1st screen that moment, that 1st scream. wow, that's crazy. the sure beautiful is governance and truck moment. i think if i'm, you know, there was just

a moment of sure when the midwife taken away when i noticed that he didn't read for a moment. i wasn't feeling so great them. at that point i just wanted to come on you down, come when they came back and from then on. everything was great. and novelty screenings and then it will be on the fluid is coming out. everything is great. positive. it's crazy. it was pure emotion. was it was crazy talking to ag, crazy that you'll now in this well we, it's up to the system. i'm fine. i'm a bit confused and i'm starting to feel the pain. most of them that i'm super happy . you come to describe this feelings to 6 pounds and 20 inches, a delicate but healthy boy. ignite's constancy is full of may. but his parents just called him a unique moment psychologically physically,

a new or logically a woman's, but also when nancy change is during the month, is this what the woods would us? this quote is, we're not to look too good with an unexpected. his distress. it went to him, the german labor men's cortisol levels naturally increase toward the book, which is a stressful situation. understandably, to studies show that mile testosterone levels decrease off the bus, which leads to low a testosterone in the blood by the door to test the may not be and you got to cease is probably and reducing stress. mutating the ability to build a nest and achieve calmness didn't we got the emptiness or the dropping test, those to into the cause in new fall, this folding beth is significant. it can be up to a surge of that test. so strange like 33 percent of the test will strike will drop . generally, the levels of test will start never returned to pre both levels. so pre fault hood levels, as long as the father remains in contact in some way with that child back

to france, their phone phone for the 2 and a half weeks ago. no dominguez mago or the bad became parents for the 2nd side of go. so let's jump, i see stuff to the bath went well and, but it was a bit stressful, very different to the 1st time we left late. but the maternity ward we arrived just in time, the bus lost it just popping out small. i do think 30 minutes and then it was all over a flood last to postpone it to the 25th, a and totally different feeling that the 1st time it took a day to now it went really fast. it was completely different to evaluate the commitment. so to fiscal thoughtful, i'm super happy, see, it's really totally different than the 1st time actually profit to see i feel

better and i feel less tired issue and i'm so happy to finally have my 2nd baby the but not to find this have emotional high mind you can also suffer from post natal depression overall the jo pin test, also a following, but is a good thing because it's really important for priming dad to jump into still storage also increases the advocacy of domain and oxidising on the brain, which means increases those of the building chemicals. the downside is holly test, still straight is preventative against depression. so if we say a dropping test so strain, unfortunately it does increase the likelihood the child, the demand will experience depression. there are other factors that come in to share that. so just start to put load generally doesn't close depression. cambridge english child psychiatrist, professor pull run chung dining works at the university of cambridge

one of his main areas of research is the mental health of parents. especially fathers, in studies across the world for too much is fairly, can fairly consistent the, somewhere between one and 20, maybe even up to one in 10 dots are affected by high levels of depression. but at this time, there was a range of causes for why people get depressed at any time. and then the 1st thing he disagree about, that's a new baby. so you've got a disruption to family likes. you go to sleep stuff and switch the big challenge. and you go to the new dance trying to juggle. now how do i do my job with how do i to contribute to the king of this baby? so it's a huge the i for looks error, i think but most fathers do not get depressed on the contrary. many enjoyed being attach the in sweden, etc,

a spas on parental. these bodies wife, lex piece of time with his daughter, asked straight who is 9 months old? the 3 year old. oh, last is the daycare at the moment. i love it. i mean, i've been home for 3 months now and it's it, it's, it really is. but it's also menu starting to get the routing of the day. so you're doing this, is it the same thing in you see what works and what doesn't work betsy is wants to take 10 months parental leave. astrid will stop going to the daycare center when she is one and a half years old. so

this is what makes it all worth it. i mean for me now i'm, i'm getting to starting to see when she learns to call when she learned to quench assessor 1st words. i mean that's, that's awesome. and i don't think when you come like i ended up that and someone else, what would you do differently? it's not i would have spent more days office. that's not what you say. so yeah, definitely with the the 3 pm, but see us picks up a lot from daycare, looking up that these kids is a full time job. it is a different life, but i also, i mean i used to play a lot of golf. i don't anymore. which is natural limits. okay. but it has changed

that made me more reflective of who i am. i think i, i think about of how i present things, how i explain things, how i act. and in order to be a to be a good example for them, things like living in the moment. this is actually kind of oppressive with kids because you know, if the pass, oh good, good times we pass them bad times with us. so we have to remember that everything goes in in cycles basically. so i think you're more appreciative of, of the good type the, you know, kind of comes home from working the think band she takes over the children don't

think like the gender mother, father. perspective changed how we divided the press possibilities of so on. it's more perhaps like who, who is in what stage of their career, who has to prioritize work right now. different that deal with that role in different ways. now research has have studied for the 1st time what happens to dance brains during this process? kind of age is right. for years, you're a biologist, professor ruth found that's been researching the behavior of fathers and mothers simulation to that. children cheaper that he says don't more is going on with that . the most of us think the fatherhood depends on how much you invest in care giving,

you know, pick up your sleeve and takes care of the baby. but the fatherhood, the biology follows the behavior. so the more you do, the more plus the sit that you want to get in your brain, the more your brain will reorganize around that attachment. but to prove this boot feldman conducted several studies. in one experiments, she measured the levels of the bone, the whole 9 oxy types in fathers and mothers, 6 months after the best that the child and we saw that oxy towson in mothers and fathers were similar. and this was very surprising because research was always believed the mothers are biologically prepared to care for infants that really shows that it's not exactly so maybe the passed away to maternal care. and the pathway to turn on care are somewhat different,

but the fathers have it within them biologically to care. for instance, a small groups phelman went a step further and looked at the brains of heterosexual and homosexual fathers and compare them to the brains of mothers. she went, what we saw in the brain is this the entire attachment network activated to infant stimuli in old parents, whether it's men or women, primary caregiver, secondary caregiver, biological parents, and adoptive parents. we had 2 surprises. one is that the a make the activates and mothers, 5 times more then and fathers. so mothers are those who are highly vigilant to infant safety. make their lives a very n, shouldn't a structure. it's deepened the brain, it's an automatically functioning system that tells us what changes can happen in

the environment that could be potentially harmful. but there is something interesting happening in father springs, roof. bellman found that the brain region called salt because temper ronnie superior, sds specials, is much more active in fathers and mothers. this is the area. this enables parents to understand the non verbal signals of diabetes. we felt that there are 2 pathways to parenting one that is more evolutionary incident. you see an old mammals and that makes mothers very, very vigilant, instant safety, and one that is more of a lucian early recent and is cortical. and it comes by getting to know your infant and learning his or her sickness. and not the big surprise with the results of the brain scans of homosexual fathers. gay fathers who are both primary

caregivers have the same s d s the terms of father. they also have a very high activation of the i think the last a since the a make the lives activated by the hormones of pregnancy and childbirth with these fall. this gets such a high, a mac deluxe eviction. when the father alone takes care of the baby, the more he's, the turn of pathway will re quote the maternal pathway and his a make the law will increase in activation. so actually what we see here is that the patrol of pathway depends on active care giving. we're as mothers get it for free. so fathers should spend as much time as possible with children like my ts e can do. so thanks to the swedish welfare system, i don't get a 100 percent. there's different levels of set ups and sweden. so there's

a minimum level that you get from from the states, depending on what you earn. and lot of companies have additional financial support for people on, on my turn to potentially and so i get that additional, a fast support the visits to an open day care group. it's free of charge and hugely popular with 5 is on parental leave the

around 80 percent of fathers in sweden tank parental leave with my part kids. i was in front of me for 6 months with my 2nd several homes. and i was, this is the 3rd fine and so i will take a longer one. so i be looking into taking my wife to another country for work, but then we got pregnant and then after that i didn't want to move them because we missed the best country in the world to be have kids, university of cambridge, the professor pay or i'm trying to analyze how fathers play with a young children. he has conducted several studies on this and their studies, we were able to go to parents. heinsman had babies at 3 months old and then follow

them up at one and it 2 years old. and they were few different findings from that, but i guess one of the key ones was that my father's having gay where he was being more engaged in play. so the higher level of engagement in play with a very young children, 3 months old. those children when they got to one and to have space or outcomes in terms of fact, talking to the development and that behavioral development. so it's something again, in those early interaction seems quite important. that sounds like a good he also analyzes where the 5 is played differently from others. so, so far it's just like a final game or transfer me beach to sucks. the okay. yes, i'm just taking a look if i want to. okay, there's a lot of overlap between them and that's, it's not like cancer. i've been here a months over here. there's a huge amount of all that but, but on average, that's the more physical play. and that kind of rough and tumble play that soft wrestling game and other things like that, which yeah, you know,

one of the things that you see and you see the rough and tumble play i think really quite nicely is that children have to learn quite a lot about regulating their emotions and regulating themselves when they're doing reference symbols. so they learn, oh, if i hit too hard, that can hurt my parent and they get feedback on that in a safe, usually in a safe environment. by the big you use, posing on wage every day, alexander could say it slowly, but surely getting into the routine of things. he's back at work but tries to help wherever you can. you should a guess on yesterday, i was lucky enough to spend half a day with the my office phone. i mean was of the gynecologist. i'm inches so i took the train home with him alone for the 1st time. the phone doesn't was really cool. and just walking around with the front door that was fun such as possible. most of you inside your

the night. so short. very short a fence thing. a funny thing is, i see 5 fingers the defeats the highest on the sleep for half an hour, then you wake up again since the fall from now then wake up again. that's a super anyone who says, that's great, that's no problem. it's time to leave the note, i think it's normal that it jungles you'll not be missed. pull yourself together or if you manage it as a team that much, then i think that c minus so then the silver support model alexander will soon be working full time, is the professor implants to take 3 months, a parental lead during half to phone, some of the new no longer enjoy the summer as a family of full. so that's to stay at home for the 1st 6 months and then go to a nursery. this is the best thing. does info. i'm happy to be

a father for the 2nd time is my was an only child and i didn't enjoy being alone. so i didn't want to have just one child. i mean, now we have to and i'm very happy mostly fish. and i don't know if they'll be a 3rd one, they'll know twice a year. mm hm. 35 degrees gateway and suite a spends the summer with his family in the summer house outside stuff. he's already completed 7 months, a parental last 3 months. so i'm heading back in early october and it's now let's do that. i think that would be that would be great. i think a couple of more months in may, but then i think you moved the intellectual challenge of, of working and not just taking care of the logistics in 3 months. but the children

will come to take it to us. and these wife will work full time the. busy busy the rules, this is changed in recent decades. older models still do most of the child care. fathers becoming more involved fathers and not this. my son does have actually 5 variables. so i think 1st of all, we have to get that message out and start changing that culture about importance and relevance. second, they oversee always comes back to governments. it goes back to governments taking that on board and understanding the importance of fathers and actually putting in place legislation that is fit for purpose that she allows people to take up that parenting role. scientific studies show men change basically psychologically

when they become fontas and they have a decisive influence on the developments of that challenge, right? looking at a nice puzzle going on. now if you take the role of a father seriously and with commitment into an investment, then your brain will change and your homeowners will change and your behavior will change. but if you don't, and you've spent 20 hours in the office, it's not like mothers that their body changes because of pregnancy and childbirth. it won't happen. parenthood will pass you by more than the ones that be actively involved. 5 is because in the end it's not send me the kids to benefit. that's both the, the

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