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the flight time, i chose power each or power points a normal dad's tooth to swap the off they split the necessary and spend time with that children. but what happens demand jr in pregnancy? and the 1st year is that, that baby's life in this go, we discover what science nice about that. we know that my hormones drop off during child support. brain changes ask, do you become a father? what's wonderful about the fault child relationship is the dots are different. so to parents, we spend time with the young and experience how being a father changes them. so if a wilmington knows that i'm going to be a father in a few minutes. i can't wait to see what it's like to look after 2 children at the same time. i'm getting so starting to see when she learns to call when to learn
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french assessor 1st words. i mean, that's awesome. the birthday jen. the alexander codes and, and his wife and you live in the mix of districts soon. that will be 3 of the they're expecting that 1st child in 6 weeks. it's been off to date. i'm excited to touch. it's thrilling that we don't know what will happen. know how everything is going to develop e as in the so there's a lot of anticipation look and of course, some trepidation from some it's a mixture of feeling, some of the new. it's our goals. i'm cuz i'm causing
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the problem. as of right. everything revolves around the bus and what he's going to have on the me gets, quote, arrange, i'm software, i'm fine when i for leslie do is to get done, but of course i to worry about things that and 40 maybe i'll be university giving. electra if you do it, and then i have to somehow get through both and traffic and to get to the 10. and how will, how may i get that with the audio? will someone be there to help? i get to the hospital and i was come. so these are the things that i'm thinking about. it doesn't give me time, which is not thinking, i wouldn't say i'm good. the most important thing is for the baby to tongue, because he's still in breach position via with his legs down as an invite in the holding onto a c tons. then i'd be super happy in terms of a natural, but that's what i'm hoping for this. and sean for the main thing is that he's
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healthy. come to this one so that as to what's about the man who takes care of his well be and what happens to him during pregnancy? bookings here in england. dr. animation lives with a family and dogs just outside on stage. the evolutionary anthropologist has been researching fatherhood for years. i talked with the university, she conducted a large study and wrote a book about that. the trigger was the dramatic but of a story. my husband witnessed what was basically a call crush happening in front of him when we were given by that he thought he was going to lose both of us and we both came quite place to death aust woods. i was offered lots of counseling today with my tool,
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but from this stuff i'm actually i didn't really need it because i was unconscious . so hadn't seen anything. he had witnessed everything and they offered him nothing . so when i went back to what i thought, i want to find out who a human software is, and i want to talk about the positive story of human fatherhood. as an evolution anthropologist, i understand how read human solve is it, is we need to have the, i, the has it, i didn't want to fox, and i really genuinely do believe fatherhood begins and pregnancy. i think we have this idea that followed as of right and they all physically distance obviously from the price of having a baby they don't having that, that immense physical closeness of the mother's house. but we know the fathers do, in fact, start to bones with that baby before the baby is born. professor chi, booting, a gynecologist from hamburg also thinks the fatherhood begins during pregnancy.
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the best buy that i can get sold the fact that something is growing inside your cotton that belongs to both of you is really peculiar and that you can do an ultrasound and make it visible is perhaps is even more difficult for minutes because now they can see that there really is something this most women go through major homo know changes during pregnancy, surprisingly, men due to the instance on the to, i mean, this black team does this, does meet particularly interesting is prolactin with the whole mind. that's responsible for like patient and started. it sounds a bit funny to say that this whole mind increases the man, but it does a mock prolactin down regulates the mechanism that controls male hormones. and i suspect that this is also the reason why testosterone levels drop in men during pregnancy, and especially off the bus would on this enables men to concentrate on their family men as it yes ma. well, if you're familiar, concepcion,
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the may have phones on the south of paris and frogs. it's the beginning of april, the new domain gas, and his found the mog or what do you bad? i've just moved here. so they're expecting the 2nd baby in 2 months because i'm not nervous, so i'm looking forward to seeing what it's like to look after 2 children. at the same time. all the adults at home is taking a map of any time to organize the client. so then you may be a new nose knows whether it will be a boy or a go. i don't want to know, i'll find out a threat and the false that'll pull the main concern is that it's healthy, but i can't wait 9 months without knowing it sex,
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it's too long. it's impossible for them to publish it. you know, thinks the hood elma crying, it's time to wake up the one and a half year old anyway. otherwise she one phone to sleep at night. it's a weekend. the only chance but new know just spend time with this family home. during the week he works long hours and tries to juggle work and family life
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surcharge is much small. it's changed my life model, i have less time for myself and that's leisure because it takes up a lot of our time to look into that so that we're lucky because we find to easy to deal with. i get it and it to she's quite pleasant to live with. it's never been as it's quite tyrants if that's equal mostly. but 1st of all the for the machine to produce the city. see china induced to try and have time to look off to my child because i work from monday to friday, like everyone else. uh, during the weekend is not enough. we just,
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i would love to spend time from monday to sunday with my child to the most, i think mobile home mambo 2nd pregnancy is going smoothly. but still it will be too much with that. and so husband i wouldn't be able to do it without him, so i'm really glad that i have handled. it gives me a break now and that was the whole 52 minutes before the weekend was fine to show us the light and benevolence. ma'am documents is a professor of family studies at lightning university to focus fathers. in research on parenting, it's too often that we say that we do
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a study on parents where it's actually the study of mothering and out on the farthest row. so that's why i think it's good to bring some balance in the fields and to pay more attention to the fathers, especially in the transition to other mariam document start is the 1st $1000.00 days of diets. for example, she conducts ultrasound video feedback sessions between week 21 and 30 of the pregnancy. so you ask spa this to interact with the unborn babies. for example, by reading them a book that the 100 fathers to posit the study. and you'll official last time i've taken both both my jobs, if it was okay, if i use for the interim or if it's a show more and you have to show, feel me gives the saw that the opportunity to interact with the infant that's never
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been done. before and doing so, we provide the father, we feel paternity to take the perspective of to see to some of the newborn that this is a human being with a mind of its own who needs to focus attention and protection. we noted fathers like to be more involved. fathers who are more involved during pregnancy are also more involved after the birth of the baby after the session. each father gets a video showing how the baby react said the baby recognizes the forces of its mother. and if it's father, as you can see that from the, the heart beat increase when, when she or he, he is the father of the mother, talked to them. and they also touched the, the role of the uterus longer when they're stocked from the outside. and that's what you, what you saw here too. when the father did some massage of the subdomains of the
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mother we saw under the baby, raised her hand and sort of made contact with what was happening outside the backend. the preparing for the baby puts extra stress on alexander cats because this general is quite demanding a series of, of those things on the met. see, we don't see that. and it's been introduced to the ultimate aerospace engineer. and that job has to pups to it. one challenges that i'm the chief engineer of my own company, which i found it together was a friends 2 and a half years ago and had the other problem. because something working as a university like truck is under, who, who to the riley beach, the office before 7 pm. and it's just me outside a splendid. it's more than a job to, to it's my 1st baby i invest a lot of time. i have
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a certain responsibility towards my employees, but it's, what's my company, i'm really passionate about my job. but today, alexander finishes study because his wife is due for a checkup at the university clinic. kind of now there's no single minute has nothing wrapped around the neck that's important to us to cope. there's the head to the bottom is currently still down at 33 weeks. we can try to turn it from the outside, but we'll talk about that in 3 and a half weeks. sometimes they turn on their own. so is it said the video turning into externally doesn't? well, then there are 2 options. you can decide to have a child breach, but i think about admittedly many women choose as a zachary and section then because it's deemed safe for the child. and it's not for fun. the other hand, we all hesitant about just as they're in section,
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especially if it is not absolutely necessary because as is evian section can be a button for subsequent pregnancy is on a lot of the lessons icon. as for me, it was only the 2nd time that i was present to the ultrasound examination at the time. it was really great in customer get. on the other hand, when i'm gonna have to worry that the child is still in breach position, you can see that on the video, his grades of the mostly v, as in germany, the average age of 1st time dancer bus is 33 years. alexander casa, is 36 years old. this feed them youth, that's always on my mind. will i be too old at some point as my wants to play football with my child to be and actually fall? that was my how did i stay healthy and can provide my child with as many opportunities as possible?
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especially as the found this age, really impulsive, the child, the wendy, it's nothing you need additional designs easy can for this, if you look at the genetic risk for the on bone, all the new bone, it is indeed the case that old a fathers are responsible for some congenital malformation, so a syndrome little moment to find what they sent a sent me to the wrong button any, but this has been proven for a search and some skeletal displays. yeah. that just because the bus route size with, for example, a come drove, plays the speed of interest. in this case, the father's age is important and we put on the home. it's a fact that the mother's age plays a much greater wrong. i didn't what kind of daughters because of others viewed the tab suite, a south of still kind of popular with young families. the my
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to aspire is 35 years old. he and his wife, you know how to have 2 children. it has very positive memory. so the bad thing 20192021 says there's really amazing cause when like 5 minutes before the citizens in the room are on its way out and then suddenly it's in your hands and you've been waiting for it for 9 months. it's amazing. but also crazy, you have this little person that knows how to be the 1st thing it this. the 1st one was actively started. so that took a long time. i think we were at the hospital for 36 hours or so. and i was pressing chewing during birth, giving as much support this i could, which is not a lot as
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a matter of. and the 2nd child was a little faster hamburg germany. professor chi, booting wants to know what happens demand during job as part of the study, the 5 is what the thing with negatively affected by it stopped by time that almost as shown. few to be turned out that many man had prepared themselves well for the event. i would say that around 80 to 90 percent failed positive about that . and then there was a smaller proportion about 10 percent who were worried about problems of the book. and also people deem it to have in europe around 85 percent of dads that present during this however isn't always possible. for example, during an emergency suzanne infection that that's the least chief. nothing can go wrong. i think it's too stressful for a family member. and that's why we take the fathers out to these emergency
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situations. these notes have to talk to on the face of the us. he's a c and a half hours by the 20th of april, 7th. i and i need a coach as was, is it broke the babies did in breach position and could not be turned on yet. and alexander wanted to have a plan since every session next week. but now things have changed. alexander casa, is allowed to be present at beth. this is using all sorts, of course is this huge emotional feeling that comes out of you because now you know, okay, you're going to be a father and a few minutes to it. and that's something completely different. it's a situation that you've simulated or mentioned before. even that have been confronted with the real thing on the
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uh, the delivery went wow. but now something seems to be wrong.
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the, the pediatricians get the all clear. the baby is fine. realizing just that 1st screen, that moment, that 1st scream. wow, that's crazy. the beautiful is governance and truck moment. i think if i'm, you know,
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there was the spectral moments of sure when the midwife taken away when i noticed that he didn't read for a moment. i wasn't feeling so great. then with that point i just wanted to come on you down, come when they came back and from then on. everything was great and novelty screenings and then it would be on the fluid is coming out. everything is great. positive. it's crazy. it was pure emotion was it was crazy. what was going to be crazy that you'll now in this? well 3, it's a piece of it just i'm fine. i'm a bit confused. i'm. i'm starting to feel the pain. most of them that i'm super happy. you come to describe this feelings to of 6 pounds and 20 inches, a delicate, but healthy boy ignited constancy is full of may. but his parents just called him a unique moment psychologically physically,
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a new or logically a woman's, but also when nancy change is during the month, is this what the woods would us difficulties were not to look too good with an unexpected as much as it went to the german labor men's cortisol levels naturally increase toward the book, which is a stressful situation. understandably, to studies show that mile testosterone levels decrease off the bus, which leads to low a testosterone in the blood by the door to test the may not be and you got to cease is probably and reducing stress. mutating the ability to build a nest and achieve calmness. we've got the other teams or the dropping test, those to into the cuts in new fall. this folding beth is significant. it can be up to a set of that test. so strange like 33 percent of the test will strike will drop. generally, the levels of test will start never returned to pre both levels. so pre fault hood levels, as long as the father remains in contact in some way with that child back
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to france, their phone phone for the 2 and a half weeks ago. no. dominguez mago or the bad became parents for the 2nd side. a go celeste level of moist? nope. i see. it's down to the bath. went well and, but it was a bit stressful. very different to the 1st time we left late. but the maternity ward we arrived just in time. the bus lost it just half an hour as long as you pay 30 minutes and then it was all over a flood. last postpone entities on this list a and totally different feeling that the 1st time it took a day to now it went really fast. it was completely different to evaluate the commitment to sell to fiscal thoughtful. i'm super happy, see, it's really totally different than the 1st time actually profit to see. i feel
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better and i feel less tired issue, and i'm so happy to finally have my 2nd baby the but not to find this have emotional high mind. you can also suffer from post natal depression. overall, the jo pin test will strike following that is a good thing because it's really important for priming dad to jump into still storage also increases the advocacy of documented ox tyson on the brain, which means increases those of the building chemicals. the downside is holly test still straight is preventative against depression. so if we see a dropping test, so strange, unfortunately, it does increase the likelihood the child, the demand will experience depression. there are other factors that come in to share that. so just not to put load generally doesn't close. depression. cambridge english child psychiatrist,
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professor pull run chung dining works at the university of cambridge one of his main areas of research is the mental health of parents. especially fathers, in studies across the world for too much is fairly, can fairly consistent the, somewhere between one and 20, maybe even up to one in 10 dots are affected by high levels of depression. but at this time, there was a range of causes for why people get depressed at any time. and then 1st thing he doesn't care about, that's a new baby. so you've got a disruption to family likes to go to sleep stuff and switch the big challenge. and you go to the new dance trying to juggle. now how do i do my job with how do i to contribute to the king of this baby? so it's a huge the overlooks error, i think. but most fathers do not get depressed. on the contrary, many enjoyed being attach the in sweden, etc, a spas on parental,
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the bodies wife lex piece of time with his daughter asked straight who is 9 months old? the 3 year old. oh, last is the daycare at the moment. i love it. i mean, i've been home for 3 months now and it's really it's, it really is but it's also menu starting to get the routine of the day. so you're doing business at the same thing in you see what works and what doesn't work might see is wants to take 10 months parental leave. password will start going into the daycare center when she's one and
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a half years old. so this is what makes it all worth it. i mean for me now i'm, i'm getting to starting to see when she learns to call when she learned to quench assessor 1st words. i mean that's, that's awesome. and i don't think when you come like i ended up that in someone else, what would you do differently? it's not i would have spent more days office. that's not what you say. so yeah, definitely with the the 3 pm. betsy is picks up a lot from daycare looking off that these kids is a full time job. it is a different life, but i also, i mean, i used to play
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a lot of goals. i don't anymore, which is natural limits. okay. but it has changed that made me more reflective of who i am, i think i, i think about or how i present the things how i explain things, how i act. and in order to be a to be a good example for them. things like living in the moment. this is actually kind of oppressive with kids because you know, if the pass, oh good, good times we pass them by times with us. so you have to remember that everything goes in in cycles basically. so i think you're more appreciative of, of the good type the,
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you know, kind of comes home from working the think band she takes over the children don't think like the gender or mother father. perspective changed how we divided the 1st possibilities of so on. it's more perhaps like who, who is in what stage of their career, who has to prioritize work right now and different that deal with that role in different ways. now research is up started for the 1st time. what happens to dance brains during this process? kind of a dispatch for years. you're a biologist. professor ruth found this been researching the behavior of fathers and mothers simulation to that. children cheaper that he says don't more is going on. my dad's the most of us think the fatherhood depends on how much you invest in care
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giving, you know, pick up your sleeve and takes care of the baby. but the fatherhood, the biology follows the behavior. so the more you do, the more plus the city you won't get in your brain, the more your brain will reorganize around that attachment. but to prove these boots feldman conducted several studies in one experiments, she measured the levels of the bone, the whole 9 oxy types in fathers and mothers, 6 months after the back that the child and we saw that oxy towson in mothers and fathers were similar. and this was very surprising because research has always believed that mothers are biologically prepared to care for infants that really shows that it's not exactly so maybe the past way too much on all care. and
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the pathway to turn on care are somewhat different, but the fathers have it within them biologically to care. for instance, my bruce nauman went a step further and looked at the brains of heterosexual and homosexual fathers. 2 and compare them to the brains of mothers. she went, what we saw in the brain, is this the entire attachment network activated to infant stimuli in old parents, whether it's men or women, primary caregiver, secondary caregiver, biological parents, and adoptive parents. we had to surprises. one is that the a make the activates and mothers, 5 times more then and fathers. so mothers are those who are highly vigilant to infant safety. make their lives a very n, shouldn't a structure. it's deep in the brain. it's an automatically functioning system that
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tells us what changes can happen in the environment that could be potentially harmful. but there is something interesting happening in father springs. route feldman found that the brain region called cell because temporarily superior sds for shows is much more active in fathers and mothers. this is the area. this enables parents to understand the non verbal signals of the babies. we felt that there are 2 pathways to pair with the one that is more evolutionary instrument. you see it's an old mammals, and that makes mothers very, very vigilant infant safety and one that is more of a lucian early recent and as cortical. and it comes by getting to know your infant and learning his or her sickness. and not the big surprise with the results of the brain scans of homosexual fathers. gay fathers,
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who are both primary caregivers have the same s d s, the paternal father. they also have a very high activation of the i think the last a since the a make the lives activated by the hormones of pregnancy and childbirth with the bees fall. this gets such a high, a, make the activation when the father alone takes care of the baby, the more he's, the turn of pathway will re quote the maternal pathway and his a make the law will increase in activation. so actually what we see here is that the patrol of pathway depends on active care giving. we're as mothers get it for free. so fathers should spend as much time as possible with children like my ts e can do. so thanks to the swedish welfare system, i don't get a 100 percent. there's different levels of set ups and sweden. so there's
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a minimum level that you get from from the states, depending on what you earned. and lot of companies have additional financial support for people on, on my turn to potentially so i get that additional a financial support, the visits to an open day care group. it's free of charge and huge. the popular with 5 is on parental leave the
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around 80 percent of fathers in sweden tank parental leave. with my part kids, i was in front of me for 6 months with my 2nd several homes and i was, this is the 3rd finding. so i will take a longer one. so i be looking into taking my wife to another country for work, but then we got pregnant and then after that i didn't want to move them because we missed the best country in the world to be have kids, university of cambridge, the professor pay around charm don analyze is how fathers play with a young children. he has conducted several studies on this and their studies, we were able to go to parents. heinsman had babies at 3 months old and then follow
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them up at one and it 2 years old. and they were few different findings from that, but i guess one of the key ones was that my father's having gay where he was being more engaged in play. so the higher level of engagement in play with a very young children, 3 months old. those children when they got to one and sees, tend space or outcomes in terms of fact talking to the development and that behavioral development. so it's something again, in those early interaction seems quite important. that sounds like a good he also analyzes with a 5 as play differently from others. so. so far it's just like a final game or trying to reach the sucks. no the okay. yes. i'm just taking a look if i want to. okay, there's a lot of overlap between mums and that's, it's not like bands of over here and comes over here. there's a huge amount of all that but, but on average, that's the move physical play and that kind of rough and tumble play that soft wrestling game and other games like that. which yeah, you know,
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one of the things that you see and you see the rough and tumble play i think really quite nicely is that children have to learn quite a lot about regulating their emotions and regulating themselves when they're doing reference symbols. so they learn, oh, if i hit too hard that can fit my parent and they get feedback on that in a safe, usually in a safe environment. you use posing on wait every day. alexander could say it slowly but surely getting into the routine of things. he's back at work, but tries to help wherever you can use it to get some. yesterday i was lucky enough to spend half a day with the my office phone, i mean was at the gynecologist benches. so i took the train home with him alone for the 1st time. the phone doesn't was really cool and just walking around with the front door that was fun such as possible. most of you in 5 is your
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what the nights the show it's very show us a fence thing off. i think as i see 5 fingers the defeats the highest on the sleep for half an hour. then you wake up again from state farm for now. then wake up again, that's a super anyone who says, that's great, that's no problem. it's time to leave that. i think it's normal that it jungles. you'll not beams pull yourself together. i'm of if you manage it as a team, i much and i think that c minus so the support mon alexander will soon be working full time as a professor. implants to take 3 months, a parental lead during half to phone . some of the new no longer enjoy the summer as a family of full. so that's to stay at home for the 1st 6 months and then go to the
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nursery. the structural components best in the info. i'm happy to be a father for the 2nd time. i was an only child and i didn't enjoy being alone. so i didn't want to have just one child. now we have to and i'm very happy, mostly fish. and i don't know if they'll be a 3rd one. they'll know twice a year. mm hm. 35 degrees each waving suite a spends the summer with his family in the summer house outside stuff . he's already completed 7 months, a parental last 3 months. so the headphone i'm heading back in early october and it's now let's do that. i think that would be that would be great. i think a couple of more months in may, but then i think you moved the intellectual challenge of,
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of working and not just taking care of the logistics in 3 months. but the children will come to take it to us and these wife will work full time a. busy busy busy busy hello, this is changed in recent decades. older models still do most of the child care. fathers becoming more involved fathers and not this by center, they're actually very painful. so i think 1st of all, we have to get that message out and start changing that culture about importance and relevance. secondly, obviously always comes back to governments. it goes back to governments taking that on board and understanding the importance of fathers and actually putting in place legislation that is fit for purpose that she allows people to take up that parenting role. scientific studies show men change basically psychologically
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when they become fontas and they have a decisive influence on the developments of that children are looking at a nice pass out going on. now if you take the role of her father seriously, and with commitment into an investment, then your brain will change and your homeowners will change and your behavior will change. but if you don't, and you've spent 20 hours in the office, it's not like mothers that their body changes because of pregnancy and childbirth. it won't happen. parenthood will pass you by more alone that wants to be actively involved. 5 is because in the it's not that need the kids to beneficial, but also the day, the
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