jack, good. so you're planning a trip to make sure you miss nothing about is on the w travel. i hope you enjoy the trip here as much as i didn't. what about you? what's your opinion? feel free to write your thoughts and become a good, vigorous exercise, something interesting and meaningful to do. having fun with people we love, we all have different needs, but there's one thing. nearly all of us see convection and affection from others. find your soulmate and rightly so, because love has medicinal power, researchers are finding increasing evidence that love improves our physical well being, reduce the stress and boost the immune system. but it's not all fun and games. there are broken hearts, separation, jealousy. we explore the science behind the roller coaster of love work on to in

good shape. the is a mystery. certain people have attracted to each other as if by magic, like liza and crystal baton and excited. you never upon. this is like a roller coaster. you feel and shot guns, people because you have so many emotions. you don't even want the other person to go to work. is it just hormones or do other factors also play a role like hall genes? so the idea of romantic love that we get from books and movies, henrich volta is a medical doctor, psychologist and philosopher. he spent years studying what happens when we food enough. i think that as i'm can see,

the man love is basically like being an iphone manic state type. look, you're totally happy on cloud 9. need another can't sleep properly, you're hyper sexual. you're always thinking about the other person and so on. and it's almost a pathological condition, and unfortunately it doesn't last forever. i the, it needs to be on that. when you fall in love, your body produces a comp tag of whole names. it's almost like being on drugs. that's testosterone, which raises sexual desire, as well as sort of tone in and opening. then the bodies of opiates and dolphins, which increase your name for the purpose of my not being in love, is like a kind of addiction domain, is involved in desire for a substance or a person. if you didn't have a withdrawal from the substance or the drug or the person, you experience craving

a very intense desire. so you're desperate to have the substance again, putting things feel free to, which explains why we're reluctant to be separated from the past. and we love, at least in the initial stages, heinrich bound to it has conducted studies into how and why the doping mean system is activated. so by means of things i've got the dope, i mean system is a very old system in the brain. and as part of the so called reward system, but it's always activated when we receive or expect a reward. for example, when we see a beloved partner. but it can also happen if we see a desirable sports car, you receive money, the chocolate or take drugs are so long isn't the only thing that can trigger a strong desire. one study showed some young men's brains reacted to sports cars. just like those of people in love but the domain effect westoff relative fee,

quick lane. this applies boys to new love. the flashy ride domain is only released when something is very desirable or better than expected. but a brain that's in love oversight, but jesus other effects. we see everything through rose tinted glasses and don't judge apartments so harshly either by the funny type when we're in love, it's not just that certain parts of the brain grow more active. others are data. so activity in the temporal lobe or the frontal logo, which have more to do with thought processes and evaluation is reduced in the middle, which is linked with negative emotions is also surprised. often the initial phase of falling in love, the temporal lobe is reactivated, and the rose tinted glosses disappear. that's when you decide whether you want to give so relationship a lasting chunk. as all i know i'm one hormone that plays a major role in this as oxy towson. it's known as the capital hormone that plays

a role in child for us before the sexuality milk production and so on. it's released when couples embrace or caress one another, plays a role in both initial infatuation and, and, and long term love relationships. oxy towson is the bonding whole 9 par excellence . it strengthens our feelings of deep emotional connection. but who do we bond with? research is suspect that this sense of smell plays an important role. studies suggest with subconsciously attract hits upon this because of how they smile. in the end, the chemistry has to be right. in this case, the sense that can be manipulated as easily as a physical appearance. if a couple stays together off to the initial infatuation, these are present also comes into play. in some animal species, it's been shown that this hormone is linked with monogamous relationships,

a fellow definitely ties. the initial infatuation develops into loves. as it is, a passion usually subsides a little at 1st intimacy increases and the willingness to commit plays a key role with the decision. i will stay with this person for better or for worse is which are nice because that would just be but not old. couple stay together and usually the person who is dumped stuff is much more the deepest coma, lovesick, as like a mental illness, a mix of withdrawal symptoms and severe depression. and so it's important to actually end up also. and liza and christoph have been a happy couple for 2 and a half years now. the whole mon oxy towson carries on helping them to bond is constantly being released, not just you in sex pro. so when just showing affection, we can describe the science of what love does to us, but what it actually is,

nathan, of remain a mystery. how do you find a partner for life if that's what you're looking for? in some cultures, families arrange the marriage. in china, some people marry a spouse that their mothers have founded a marriage market that might seem strange to song, but it does save you the difficult search. maybe you can find that special someone at work for through friends. but a lot of people try their luck elsewhere, the internet. good idea these days, almost everything you need can be found online, right? it's designed to be easy. you've set up a personal profile, the kind of things you like, where you live, if you photos and you're ready to go. probably the for the sure i've tried it before, but it didn't work, but it's totally normal nowadays. so it's great. it's like,

especially for shy people who find it hard to go and strike up conversations going to it's because they want me to answer this question quite to toggle. nowadays, people don't have so many opportunities to get to know others. because everyone's stress styles, the kind of mother i used to use a dating app, but it wasn't great. i met my wife and person insured. i think that's better, a better finish because of one study showed that half of own you relationships in germany stopped us online. often through dicing apps, millions of people seek happiness this way. you wanna take and in studying why more and more people are using the internet to find the putnam month house, which means people struggle to overcome them. innovation is here. they don't want to risk being rejected in the past. and we want to relationship photo afraid of rejection. we also want romance, something dating up start also directly. but so many people, the apps are an important way of connecting with office because it's not just young

people in urban environments using dating up people across all social groups, use them that are important in rural areas. and in the quick community to going to a lot of meeting places and kind of finding new matches is quick with apps. there is a huge choice and the least who obligation from the comfort of your couch sounds perfect . still joanna dragon has observed the trend towards digital isolation committed by in directly we lose part of being counted tardy. if you went to apache, you might say you were relatively unsuccessful. and if you didn't have sex, but you still listening to music, done, drank with friends, 8 to bob's. watch the sunrise on all. if you sit on the couch swiping, you don't have any of that. how some people really miss that. but also you have a hard dashing app, so equally popular with men and women. and more than half of all uses that look in

for a long time relationship. there are also relationships that remain exclusively online, but most people want to get to know the person in reality after the virtual start, i do notice maybe there will be a serious for the wedding might be on the card. here to social media is setting the standards found to love their account as examples on instagram, netflix on facebook. the perfect love life to over a month like sounds like a major dazing platform, found $1.00 and $3.00 demons are looking for love, like in a disney. maybe i'm one and 8 question their own relationship when they see the flawless images on social media. yeah, bottom title, expectations for proposal, and then this really does a broad want to be us quietly. it has to be something special, a big deal to i'm that disappointed if the groom doesn't have the courage or comp

make it work on top of that. is that the media give us the impression that it has to be on the beat, on one knee and with a huge expensive ring. a bell looked at these incorporating. and you'll need to believe that's how it has to be on the compass. i'm most. sabina plastic is a wedding planner on speaker. she says pressure around couples has risen dramatically. everything nowadays has to be perfect, done. super romantic kinds of the all kind of. yeah, i often have tried to look at these photos and say that was oh, never find a dress any way because i don't look like that and supposed to be posted on sundays . things such as the only way it can be, of course is the same with decorations. they see these huge floral displays that are really beautiful, but of course cost loads which isn't feasible for everyone. on the size. ronnie and on page i got married last year when page i proposed it was romantic, but not necessarily perfect as you get this will end up with i. so one proposal in

miami, on the beach with a huge flash mob before the proposal. well, it was amazing. so you think it has to be special multiple funding offs? sure. investors on the list of the things that you put yourself under pressure to make it somehow unforgettable for the woman as a man, you're more of a pragmatist and think. i just have to hold out the ring and get down on one a listen. can you find that you have, you're probably in the basement during the pandemic celebrating save with the family. and then i realized that he was really tenants and trembling funds. he sat down next to me and said a few nice words and men got down on one name proposed. it was really beautiful and i was moved to to use psychiatry. but of course, that was completely different than what you say on social media and media, american muscle prevent people to come to stage all kinds of things online. then

there's the movies and advertising. it seems loving each other is no longer enough . money want the whole world to see as much of your talk from that puts a lot of pressure on paypal. so we've sat down and talked about what was important to us. what did we wanted out with him? and what was really us also to scan from that 1st through considering stuff that was and then you say things online and we would allow yourself to be influenced. you want to keep up somehow tired of just kids really for a lot of people don't realize that most romantic images have little to do with reality. cheesy happy ending the perfect lighting, but the movies end of the 19 minutes on the photos on instagram will be replaced by even better one tomorrow. and the 4th. and then it says that before and after. the wedding date isn't always perfect. there are arguments discussions i'm that doesn't

mean that you don't love each other or that it's not the romantic piece of this kind of a mindful. but it just means that it's not all sunshine and roses every day. i the red cloud, sometimes i'm and that's what makes a marriage. so that's it. also with, since they say that so love doesn't need hash tags. and sometimes the supposedly imperfect actually just right. the love comes in all shapes and sizes, their self love, romantic, love, passion, and sex, and love for parents, children, or friends. there are also different types of relationships, monogamous partnerships that last a lifetime. open relationships where you sometimes fall for someone else or holly amory, where you love to 3 or more people. however big the differences,

all forms of love have one thing in common. they are visible in the brain. researchers can tell if you have a pet or not just by looking at your brain scan because the knock you have for your pets lights up in your brain. when you left your cat or dog or whatever animal and you'd like to call your pets, it activates the reward system and social condition and your brain. recent studies show the same parts that are activated by romantic or parents and not just to in this extent, the findings come from a bigger study where researches set out to uncover where is now happens in the brain. of course it's hard to tell if the measured frantic to the to really represents not. but it's remarkable that what happens in the brain of pet owners seems pretty close to what happens in the brain of people enough find beyond says, get smush on dw science. oh, take talk channel has an incredible effect on your physical health,

at least if you cuddle regularly, physical touch not only increases your sense of wellbeing, words off pain, anxiety and depression. touch decreases stress hormones in the brain, and so does kissing experts estimate that we look clips 800000 times throughout our lives. that's 76 days spent kissing the oldest documented romantic, his dates back more than 4 and a half 1000 is depicted on this ancient k tablets. once humans discovered kissing, we never stopped for many thousands of years ago. kissing was a form of communication, but it was a desire for social bonding to get close to another person under the full conclude it has been a psychotherapist for over 40 years and done extensive research on the science of

kissing. he's written a number of books on the subject because it is always on the guessing is especially intense because our lips have the highest concentration of sensory sounds. people can have sex without intimacy. it can be very perfunctory, but with kissing your faces are locked together. it's incredibly intimate unless you can get to the point where you feel really blown away. is 16, actually stickle back up close and personal experts on many ordinary people agree kissing is good for you. it gets everything rolling and the joy and happiness it gives are always good to me, its hormones that a release start the maine end of endorphins. it helps you relax by reducing your quoted so levels. i'm a nurse, she's a psychologist or kissing chicken is a cascade of neural messages in the brain like fireworks going off. coffee hormones, low blood pressure,

increases along with body temperature. feelings of stress decrease on the bonding hormone oxy. toasted gives a sense of well being with one another. it makes us once more in the immune system since you exposed each other to terms so you don't get sick as off. i mean like flu and those types of things it does via and it's like a vaccination and you get 4 and bacteria in your mouth and the immune system is put to work. so it's better prepared when something happens and most of it can best proceed. it's or kissing and also reveal it's a relationship has a future life in value. i think when you kids who can tell us your partner is a good match or not a the, you harmonize with each other. what are you doing? it's new studies suggest we also subconsciously stuff down to apart and as a means system while kissing which illnesses a person in a meeting too, is encoded in certain genes. and we sense these to taste and smell kissing the more

different immunity of 2 partners. the more meaning the off spring will be increasing that life expectancy dressing makes you live longer than guns. that's backed up by a number of studies. many people naturally integrate kissing into that every straight line. low table, who cares a lot, live fine as long as then we're definitely on the right track. the more passionate the kids, the healthy you it is. and it doesn't need to be for that camera or u. k. s. is your choice and who you love is up to you too. tall or short, black or white, whether man or women, world genders, or several people, the ones or no one at all, anything goes. but whatever type of relationship, one thing stays the same, harmony for eternity is no guarantee. romantic affection and emotional connection

can fade away. when love breaks down, what is what it's like falling off the edge of a cliff as the force of it really hits you and from reading shock. and then the whole, well, just stuff i had to think about whether dig it up in the morning. there was no one there and nothing to do between pacer spots a single but not by choice is why fell in love with someone else off to 16 use to get that she walked out on the not so nice sunday evening. my wife said she no longer wanted to live with me and had fallen in love with someone else. so i'm interested for nothing's unique. page. thoughts was actual loss questions? no. the way most people have ever had a broken heart nor the feeling. one is told you feel signed desperate jokes on like, thankfully, i cannot experienced it for a long time. i wouldn't wish it on any one of us has to be so it's like

a fight stomachache on. do you feel body physically? i'm so you have no energies, a sideshow, no appetite for anything, just the opposite that take your contrast. yeah. so i know you want to get through the time as quickly as possible, semester and stuff and it's usually an ending and bought an ending. and my way springs with it a beginning to on as painful as it comes. they decide they can also be liberating. yeah, it's a horrible feeling about the time is that he learned, i tell people how painful can hop reichfield, psychologist and also lucas cochin, skeen knows all about it. what happens when you hop for i can essentially it's the opposite of what happens in our body when we fall madly in love. pass in my face, but it can, anyone who's ever been in love knows that we're in a highly ecstatic can do for x, state and orphans the bodies own hope,

yards are released. and of course, the happiness hormone doping mean is abundant along with adrenalin. it's like a drug head rushing through your body, right? so if we look at what happens when we're addicted to something, we're driven by getting our hands on the substance. when we're in love, it's similar. we try to be around our partner as much as possible because it's going to stop our thoughts constantly revolve around the substance or the romantic partner. and we're prepared to go to great lengths to get them in. and when we don't have them anymore, you know, we, you feel pain done an infinitive smell it's. that's exactly what we feel when a drug high comes to an abrupt and intense pain. whether it's a long term relationship, initially bummed by the cocktail of love hormones or just debris for say that and it has the deepest come on when we're loved said 1st the dope, i mean drops next. the serotonin issue and the symptoms are very similar to those

of depression, i guess and, and we lack motivation often have no appetite and have trouble sleeping just asking him the effects are physical because we still have a lot of stress hormones in our blood. and the body isn't in the best state to break them down. so this can lead to physical pain. we have domino pain or a king. lamb is all the symptoms of substance withdrawal can also occur. in the case of heartbreak like you're just giving your hot break space and time helps, but sorry, it is taking action against the feelings of despair, bigger steps. homeowners, you've to exercise helps break down stress or an amount of the saunas are also good, as are other relaxation techniques like massage those things help physically move on a psychological level. we can examine what's actually going on inside it off. and if i'm heart broken, i've been a band which massively affects my self esteem. i may not feel good enough to be in

a relationship at all. so as not to take that sentiment, the hard, i need to remind myself that i am a good person, even if on this occasion i'd been abandoned by some of the on board. despite the pain of separation, peter's thoughts fills up to mistake about what the future holds. if i'm building a new life, new job, new place to live new opportunities, new people is maybe even a new loves. sunday. will say, an engine can always be this task of something you of course science is also looked into break ups, the findings as soon as a couple of start marketing each other, no longer take one another seriously. or begin wiring. love begins to say when times are tough, openness and trust can strengthen a relationship, but sometimes a break up is unavoidable. it's a painful process with several phases. breakups can be hard.

people who are less surprised by breakup, often going to denial, a might see refuge and happy memories. the black, if the way to grief for even depression, along with lethargy and self doubt when the bubble bus home then strong emotions usually flare up again. this time in the form of and until the reflection phase sets in providing food for thought the, the last phase is hopefully the new beginning. the splits has been accepted and internalized. the focus is on the future and you're ready for new stuff. is painful is they are break up. sorry, a chance to turn over

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