hear from psychologists, they say that you don't need to talk about your problems with men, it's hard for you, you're at home, but you have to restrain yourself and talk only about good things but a woman who is waiting, she wants to share something and it's not always good information how to be here and how to resist here, what advice can you give, i actually do not agree with this opinion that it is not necessary to talk, in general, about something bad, super good , no, in fact, it is necessary to speak and tell what is happening in life, because first of all, in this way love and men in general are a family and what is on the front. she feels involved in this life in the rear. that is, the life for which they are fighting there is the main part. second, in principle, people in a relationship should share what is happening and it cannot be only good . it happens and it happens, there are problems, there are not very pleasant moments, the only thing i advise here is to simply choose for this time, because conditionally,

if a person is at the front right now, well , in the situation there, let's say after the battle, then clearly it will not be very appropriate to report any very good news, but choose a time for this when there will be a more stable connection, when there will be more opportunities to talk, and then just tell everything that is on your mind and share your emotions, and that's the moment when it's worth sharing . and their experiences tell women that when a husband or a son, for example, goes to war, he doesn't talk very much, and even when she thinks he can, he seems to keep everything to himself and she asks him how are you doing there. and he it's not that he doesn't want to talk. yes, but she feels that he is keeping something quiet, why is this happening well, first of all, they do not want to injure those who are here in the rear, because they live, let's say, things that will be very incomprehensible to us and so difficult, and

here i always advise to just ask the person how i can support you today, and if at this time there is a loved one or a son or a husband who wants to share, tell how the day went, what he wants to tell, he will let you know about it, if not, he wants to just keep quiet, just listen , maybe the new one is not from home, then that too there may be a way out and this can also be a support, maria, and i want to ask you about practices, how it is possible to help yourself, how to restore emotional stability and increase productivity and concentration of attention , because we actually know that uh well, maybe someone knows maybe nothing women who are waiting very often they can be unstable, but we talked at the beginning of the program about this swing, when at first everything seems to be fine with you. so the woman smiles, she is happy, and then

literally in two or three hours, tears begin, productivity, concentration of attention decreases . it is possible to help somehow here and what to do. well, to begin with, accept to understand that all emotions are normal and these states are emotional swings that can even change several times during the day. they are also normal and in general psychologists always advise that you do not need to somehow restrain yourself if in at that moment i really want to cry if i want to speak out i don't know how to cry out go somewhere it's worth doing because all the emotions that we kind of keep and continue they will eventually find their way out and then find a way out of such rather unpleasant ones moments such as illness and everything else, so i always advise not to hold back these emotions, and secondly, the advice in the plot that was actually at the beginning was good. if there is such an opportunity, then engage in breathing physical

practices . in the month of february, we have a conditional list of girls. we have such a group. we call it the alarm list , that is, until february, we put together such an alarming conditional suitcase. and the girls and i make an alarm list, that is, we write out everyone the methods are helpful for a specific person, that is, there can be phones of friends with whom it is easy and you want to communicate such a critical moment, let's say , when it's really difficult, we just open this list and see what we can do from that list today, how to help ourselves, but if we return again to the experience of your of personal communication with women and girls, so what helps them the most, isn't it possible to define something like this, because, well, if

each of them is a personality, to each his own? yes, of course, here you can't define something alone . for example, i have one girl who starts cleaning and this cleaning helps her a lot and it has a wonderful effect because the apartment just looks incredible after all this and she has such a way out of stress. there are girls who actually meet friends there who can support them to go somewhere some concerts for some kind of walk. well, at the moment , many girls who help you personally have started working with a psychologist and a psychotherapist, and i also advise here that if there is such an opportunity and desire and you have come to that, then contact specialists because very often we are already in such a state when it is difficult to help yourself, and then specialists are involved, and you also had a recommendation at the beginning of the story about what you can turn to. well, you can’t, but you should turn to a doctor or a psychiatrist if you already need one medical assistance and this is normal and there

is no need to be ashamed of it. and i want to ask you about medical assistance, is it even necessary to buy some drugs in pharmacies on my own? what do you advise? is it possible, uh, drugs that include some vitamin complexes? yes, for example, i don’t know, there are trace elements that can really help to cope with the problems that exist. well, i cannot recommend this, i recommend that in this case you always consult a doctor, because you also need to do the same thing as more frequent waiting of the body yes, it is so general that the doctor will prescribe it in order to understand the condition of all the functions, let’s say, and then you can prescribe stronger drugs or, as you say, some vitamin complexes. therefore, all this to the doctor. how to talk to children about a military father so as not to give them your fears. for example, so that there are no psychological consequences for them in the future, well, again,

find time to talk when you are in such a more emotionally stable state and talk according to age, that is, if it is at all little children, here you can talk conditionally through fairy tales, yes, they are very receptive to telling that dad is such a hero, a magician who, together with other men, is now protecting ukraine, he is helping and we are waiting for him and we also believe in victory and that everything will be fine if this older children of school age, yes, you can show the news, but you must select them correctly so that you explain what is happening, what is the situation in general, you can include children there to help bake, for example, cookies , there are some volunteer initiatives and projects to create and in this way, involve and help, and the child will understand that she is involved in everything that is happening. i want to remind our viewers that the psychologist and psychotherapist komaria stetsyuk is in touch with us, and she is the founder of the girls who are waiting project ms. maria and maybe your project can help

someone else help, so please tell me who can apply in general and where, where, where they are accepted, where they gather, i am doing this project together with veteran hub , this is an organization that has been helping veterans and their families for quite a long time in the 16th year if i'm not mistaken, we have different groups of girls who are waiting, there are girls, er, partners who are waiting for their husbands from the front, there are mothers, sisters who are waiting for their sons and, accordingly, brothers, there are groups who are waiting for prisoners of war and missing persons, that is, there are a lot of them, let's say groups, and to find them, you just need to go to the veteran hub pages, there is a link form, how to join , actually leave this application, and then the application will be processed and we will invite you to the group according to the need and until such an opportunity, and i also lead

telegram channel, which is called similarly, girls who are waiting, i write such supportive messages there, in fact, there may be more help for me while we are waiting and please tell me well, if such a question is appropriate for you personally, what helps me personally, it helps me a lot i plan my day every evening, i just write it down by the hours and i have the feeling that sometimes my phone controls me, because i have something to do every hour, but i don't always know them. i do it, but i know what i have to do. and usually, if there are other people involved, i have some kind of certain responsibility to them, and that's why i try to somehow restrain myself and a few volunteers, like you and somehow, it's me supports such help to other people, but where to find this limit so that you know not to overload yourself with these things and then, on the contrary

, not to get out of whack, as they say, because all of us can take on a lot and then have to restore not only the psycho-emotional condition and also physical. i agree. yes, here you have to look for that balance conditionally in those things that, for example, i write down for myself. let me go for a massage so that, for example , today i am going to a concert of my favorite band and these are the moments i turn on, i just force myself to do it because i understand that i have to work there to support my beloved maria , too. all the women and girls who are watching us now can find a group in telegram, that’s exactly what it’s called: women who are waiting, girls who are waiting, so everyone who needs psychological help can do it maria, i want to thank you for our conversation with you today and for your advice and i hope they will help someone

, so with maria stetsyuk, a psychologist and psychotherapist, was in touch with us today, but there are times when psychological practices do not help and more significant disorders of the psycho-emotional state occur, for example, violations loss of appetite or, on the contrary, constantly trying to eat stress, this can be aggression and abuse of psychoactive substances, social isolation , unwillingness to do what you used to like , prolonged sadness, it can be fear or anxiety, increased sensitivity to sounds, smells or touches , and many other consequences, and just contact us now yazu doctor-psychiatry also psychotherapist candidate of medical sciences svitlana netrusova ms. svitlana i welcome you today on our broadcast good day i am also very glad to see you ms.

svetlana, let's start our conversation with the fact that you will tell us what actually happens to the body during constant stress, do we lose, for example, some vitamins or microelements, minerals that then need to be replenished, or during stress, where the hypothalamus reacts and feeds the pituitary gland , which means a reaction and divide adrenaline and norepinephrine, as well as cortisol cortisone , are so effective for a short-term autonomic reaction, but adrenaline activates the autonomic nervous system, and when the autonomic nervous system is activated, we can see and body tremors and increased pressure and

increased pulse or er there may be nausea, there may be stomach pains, there may be flatulence, bloating , diarrhea, there may be some symptoms of deralization, where personalizations may be sweaty palms, that is, i can say this a lot and that is why all these symptoms should be present with increased anxiety and when this stress factor is constantly present. and for women who are waiting for their loved ones and their close men from the front, they usually constantly feel anxiety because they think about being with their loved ones it was good and here they advised how to immerse yourself in your affairs and distract yourself, and i want to say that i use self-help methods that i talk about very often, which help to cope with increased anxiety , because anxiety is increased, it occurs in a

stressful situation and it is triggered by somatic manifestations of anxiety, this vegetative activity and in order not to constantly take any medication, it is possible that there are certain methods and i talk about this very often. you can also read this about respiratory techniques so that you can improve yourself there: deep breathing, square breathing there, for example, intermittent breathing, there are also methods of distraction, there, for example, you can count trees, or you can, for example, think about something else or act to do something else. there are a lot of such techniques, or, for example, muscle tension and relaxation . gradually there is group tension and muscle relaxation and in this case you can manage your anxiety yourself you can

extinguish it but if this anxiety is too strong and you can no longer cope with it if it is every day and also a bad dream is connected to this and you wake up in the morning and you feel that you have not rested and you have no appetite or you eat food that does not bring pleasure even if it was brought before and when you are not happy because you should find joy even in elementary things things that are around you must live today and now and you must remain resourceful you must remain feminine you must preserve your mental state so that when your beloved returns and you will come up with some things during this time that you will you do it with him? life, you can even think about

depression that can arise and then you don't need to be afraid to turn to specialists, psychiatrists , psychotherapists, and if they say that there can be panic attacks, there can be increased anxiety, as i said, anxiety constantly every day there can also be a depressive state and with panic attacks or phobias or hmm with an anxiety disorder, even if there is no depression, antidepressants are prescribed, there are very mild antidepressants, they only work on one no, there is no getting used to them, there is no addiction, it is wrong to say that if you use them if you start taking them, then you will always take them later. no, this is not true, but if the specialist considers it necessary to take these drugs for a while, you do not need to be afraid of them, then you will help yourself cope with your condition and will again to rejoice in life and as much as possible because life should still be rejoiced and one should live today

and the present uh in the present uh think about the future with positivity in anticipation of your or your husband or son or someone else close to you for whom you are worried because when you know how to understand, tell me, you already said about depression, i want to ask you about the situation when women already fall into depression, and what to do, how to understand that she is already depressed, and are those women who are already depressed, or can they act and whether it is better for those who are nearby to act. i am not talking about such a severe depression when a woman cannot control herself at all, but now the situation is such that if more than 50% or they say that all people are depressed now, then you cannot say that either more eh can overcome some inconveniences or mountains that are heaped on us and someone of a lesser degree can

cope with it. well, if you don't sleep well every day when you don't feel pleasure or your children don't seem to feel joy from their smiles from their er questions to you, you er can't, you don't find pleasure in those things, there are some small things, there are some consolations that you had before, there are some pleasures for yourself, whether you watch a movie or read a book, you have no concentration of attention, you food does not bring pleasure, you are petenia, if you have a bad dream, this can also be a sign of depression, but if you sleep well, it is as if you wake up in the morning and you feel that you have not slept and you have some longing and hopelessness or anxiety condition is necessary think about what you need to do, that it could be depression and

that you need to take these drugs that specialists will advise you, and then you will help yourself how to reduce this anxiety and irritability. and you talked about the fact that you can start taking drugs . and can you start taking some very easy drugs to improve the psycho-emotional state, for example, which will simply contain some complex of microelements. well, you can. in any pharmacy , you can now even without a prescription buy some drugs that are plant-based and have i can't call them a certain sedative effect, of course , but still, there are some such light drugs, and not the motherwort, the same one over there, for example, i know , well, it's not a panacea, there are also many other different drugs that you can, er, buy, there are certain drugs that relieve anxiety and sedate it's like there,

for example, ebuspirone with a vitamin, it's like uh, but also uh, for example, the same pregabalin or gidazepam. but these are already more serious drugs, and it is necessary, uh, that they should, after all, be according to the purpose of the purpose in order to be affected in this advice on what dose to take what is the term to take because all these drugs that sit and are not plant-based, they can lead to addiction, lead to addiction if a person takes more than the allowed time, but if you are not sure that you have depression, you are afraid to be very interested in depressants, you are afraid to go to the doctor so take at least a sedative and take it, you will extinguish a little anxiety, you will improve your sleep, you will get enough sleep, and you will have less anxious thoughts, you will be able to assess your condition more soberly, if this will help you to improve your well-being and you will see that you are ok because the anxiety is gone because

it has decreased, then it is not yet depression, then even here you can not turn to specialists and wait to take these sedatives for a certain time, but when you then cancel and it is again if everything comes back , then you need to see a specialist and it is better not to shake your psyche to such a state that later there will be an even worse condition and some more serious ones. yours why did he also calm down bifren, you can drink the one that is advertised too, all these drugs are non- prescription, you can take them calmly for a month and if they extinguish the anxiety and you will feel better, then in principle depression on these drugs will not go away, despite the fact that the anxiety will be less we alone will not improve the situation significantly, do you understand

ms. svitlana? and if there is such an opinion, then it exists. for example, we are not depressed yet. we do not yet know what problems with the psycho-emotional state are. all this will be later, when we win. and then there will be a lot of people, including women, who, when the men returned, they would be so relaxed, and that's when the body would fail. to what extent is this true and where in general is this in this statement in this yes, there is truth in such an idea well, in principle, we we observe that when we need to mobilize our forces, for example, our loved ones are sick and we take care of them. we take it as somehow we still have enough strength and we can mobilize ourselves in order to survive the most unpleasant moments life but when really we are already completing some stage there and when we

can afford to relax. at this stage, it really happens more often that such uncomfortable and anxious and depressive states and others occur, but it goes differently for different people . different people i hmm of course after the war there will be states that will need the help of psychotherapists and psychiatrists and psychologists well, then we will sort it out then you will also be a beast here is another problem er to this topic that we are sorting out our women today right they are used to being strong. they are used to deciding everything mainly for men, and that's why when the men come from the war, they will become men. they will no longer be passive, they will be more active, will our women be ready to be simply feminine and that they only er-er hmm how to say they didn't

solve the issue no they didn't sit on these er-er horses and put out the houses that are burning or are they ready to be the women that nature taught them and gave them the opportunity to be there will also be a problem, there will also be problems in families and there will be to decide, if people want to decide, the specialists are always ready to help, there is no need to be afraid of these specialists, as every time i talk to the set- top box, i am crazy that we are already at such a stage that we don't even need to talk about it anymore, because everyone understands perfectly well, there is no accounting anymore no one, no one, no account is taken, you have to help yourself, you have to be resourceful, you have to remain a resourceful resourceful woman in order to wait for your husbands, in order to help them cope with it, maybe even a post-traumatic disorder that can arise from these

men who came because if you want to help them later and leave uh and as strong parents and men for yourself and for your children, then you must preserve your mental health in order to wait for them later help , i completely agree with you, mrs. svitlana, because even history says that after the second world war, women became strong, and so in ukraine, they still did not come to the point where they became so weak, and you just allow yourself not to make any decisions. and as you said just now, the war will simply harden our men and they will give our women the opportunity to relax and the women will be able and allow themselves to relax. i hope so too. i want to thank you for our conversation today for being with us and for for your advice, thank you too, all the best, and i want to

remind our viewers that we were contacted by candidate of medical sciences svitlana nitrosova, a psychotherapist, a crippled psycho, a psychiatrist, and indeed, war will change each of us and all of us we will be traumatized as we like or not and who waited for the return of a loved one from the front and those who fought but the most important thing is to find the strength of desire and wisdom to work through all injuries and support each other, forget about any conditions and i want to remind you of what is going on my personal collection together with the espresso tv channel i am assembling an unmanned aerial vehicle for the military from the joint tactical group of adamia, as a rule, this group performs the most difficult tasks in the most fierce areas and i want to appeal to everyone now the military is in the direction of bakhmut, you know that it is very hot there and this unmanned

aerial vehicle performs such more reconnaissance functions, so it can help our military and save the lives of the military, as well as the infantry, and also show where the possible locations of the russian military are, so i turn to everyone to everyone, every hryvnia is important and join the uav collection, you can now see the details on the screen and read full information on our website, so together we will bring victory new program about health and me iryna koval i only have to add that you should really listen to the advice of today's e-specialists and take care of yourself and not lose

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and they needed this help . everyone is still needed. even a small contribution to the support of the army can help. it saves the lives of our soldiers and brings our victory closer . the security service of ukraine has again come to moscow priests about this and not only will tell the news together with the team. my congratulations to everyone who is starting with us. since in odesa , electricity was turned off for all consumers except for critical infrastructure, dtek was notified in the populated areas of the region, as well as emergency shutdowns, the consequences of another russian attack in the region have been destroyed several objects of critical other at once