or to be, that is, a child, this is not a disorder, this is a behavior, the child shows that she is not feeling well, she can be naughty, she can be a-ah, irritated, angry, or on the contrary, she can, well, always laugh there or something like that well, it is unusual to react in this way, too, to that parents can pay attention during this period, eh, even everything that the family can do is not only about the psychologist, it is if the mother or father or there is someone who takes care of the child, they do not feel in this currently fashionable word in the resource that is, they do not have the strength to do so to always react emotionally in such a way to interact with the child, then you need to go to a psychologist , that is, because somehow the child will stabilize a little because of them, what i mean is that, first of

all, the child needs the emotional contact of the child, he needs the hugs of the child, you need to understand that the mother is always because the mother this is such a guarantee of safety that the mother always reacts if at this age the mother cannot respond to the needs of the child - it perceives everything that happens outside this small circle of the family as a dangerous danger, a physical danger for a child it is not important for her. it is important to have a father there, a grandmother, that is, a family, they are close to her, they take care of her. as parents, that is, they literally read their parents and if the parents are nervous and worried, then the children are also worried, and now about which age category did you talk about and uh, such behavioral manifestations that the child

can be capricious, disobey this ah at all usually children of what age can be observed such manifestations i.e. now we are talking about this small age group these are children yes yes this is children up to four years old i.e. four yes somewhere yes when we are talking more about children who are four four or there six seven eight years old who already understand what is happening around them, what is in the big world in general, so because children are different, those children are already able to show signs of how they can lose the war in the game a-a all the time, that is, when it is for a while - it ok then the child can to switch to some kind of ordinary game. that is, there for girls, there it is there about animals for a-a boys

it is also there about cars there or there was also a he yes you are a helicopter yes but if the child within the same month 2-3 she loses a war, this is also a sign. well, a little bit of such already traumatic experience, yes, something is needed. that is , she plays by herself with her toys, and the mother, well , the parents, and there, for example, those who are close to the child should watch her games and eh. this happens in the game. this is how it happens. thunder because a child fights. she can kill. she can even know how in 15-16 years or a lot of children. they watched the death of an animal, for example. because as for the child, she cannot understand or

understand how it happens, she wants to observe it and understand that she has power over someone's life, this is also a sign of trauma. in other words, you know a lot now. well, i know that there are many boys who are now going to our soldiers and they are standing at that roadblock or there they are playing that they are protecting there or they are also creating roadblocks, well, if we understand that the war is still going on then this is a conditionally okay replay of what is happening for children, because they also copy adults, they are also interested in how it happens. but if it happens already when we win, it will be after the war, then this is, well, this is not ok. that is, this is what is for the child you already need

to switch it to the peaceful way of playing peaceful life well, you know such a conditional conditional understanding that there is still a war going on and children somehow need to deal with it. also, alina, i want to live a little, i want to move away from the age categories a little, we will continue now, but since you said about the game, how dangerous it is in general, the fact that now most of the children, especially boys, ah they began to choose toys specifically for weapons, but moms talk about what they want to play with, but it is weapons that are normal at all, or again, is this some kind of trauma, its manifestation? that is, this is not normal. this is a normal reaction to the normal events of the world. that is, now their

parents are there, their friends are there. thank you to the zasu, that is, the armed forces, for all of us heroes, this is the way it is and of course that little boys also want to join and they also want to be heroes, that is, during the war - this is conditionally normal . and other e ways of playing other ways the child will not have life, that is, the child will be guilty later. we must all switch to something else together. that is , it is conditionally ok, because we now live in such a modern sparta, when this is really our hope - this is what excites everyone, because the zsu now the titans on which the whole

country really stands. that is, of course, it is not ok, but now it is ok. ms. alyona, then let's continue with children over the age of eight. what is happening to them and what behavior is most often manifested in them, well, it is also sleep disorders. that is it's also insomnia it irritability is everything that was not the norm before . that is, it is also manifested through the body, because there are many somatic children. that is, it is somatic disorders . it means that when a child emotionally cannot say or react . more or on the contrary, she closes in on herself in general when we talk about an age like 9-10-11 years old. this is a very difficult year, and then also teenagers because at this moment the child begins to be more

interested in what is happening in the world in general as it is built in general, that is, what is death, what is life? life is good because there are many fairy tales, they talk about the fact that there is a lot of good in life and there is justice. and now why exactly this is happening and thus they put parents in the same situation when and we do not have an answer to this question because it is really unfair and we we don't know and parents start you know how they run away from these questions because they don't have an answer and then the emotional connection between the child and the family and the mother or the father is broken because the children begin to understand that well there is no answer

, that is, there is no sincerity and openness, and here i suggest that parents should always be open and say you know, i don't know, this is not the norm, what is happening, that is, it shouldn't be like this. this is really unfair, but sometimes humanity loses its they say now you know the cuckoo there yes, that is, we went a little crazy there, we went crazy there, yes, and it's about openness, that is, if even the parents do not have an answer to the question , please, as they say, i don't know, you know, i've lived my life, but i don't know, let's go with you let's think about how exactly we want, how exactly we want to build our lives, because at this age it is very important not to lose contact with the child so that she also has an explanation of why and what is happening, because if she does not have an explanation, she will understand and a-and then stop with yourself this is to carry what is life and the world

they are too cruel without some kind of understanding. well, you know, there is something else. in other words, she will be afraid to live and move on, and that's, well, let's move on to teenagers, teenagers, that 's why i got to this point, teenagers are what's the most difficult thing right now, because that, first of all, they are very supported by their peers, that is, it is very important for them to have a circle of friends, and now because many of their children have left, that is, they have lost lost their own. well, the usual connection with the supporter circle a now there is no eh communication is bad, the internet is very many connections are broken, that is, teenagers are not able to receive support through friends, they do not go to school, they do not have this support, and this is also, well

, you know, a bell for parents about please support children talk to them, because teenagers can sink into themselves, they can not talk and there is such an understanding, there is such a term as teenage depression , it is just very different from what we understand as depression, it may not be noticed when a child begins to withdraw and she withdraws into herself and then, well, after a year or two years, we can understand or find out that the child, even she, was trying to damage herself, or she drank a lot of alcohol because she started smoking , or she is there somehow - she had a suicide attempt, that is, teenagers are such a risk group during the war, mostly because she may not be

supported at all, because the support of parents is not so important, and the support of friends is now she, well , she is destroyed. and ukrainian parents have stereotypical opinions that their children do not need a psychologist at all, they believe that they can handle their child by themselves, and some are worried about the unprofessionalism of a psychologist who, they say, can only do harm, sociologists assure and declare this in june of this year, the research company act-groups together with the all-ukrainian initiative is active the community conducted research on the problems and needs of internally displaced families, in particular, they focused on children, sociologists came to the conclusion that after what they experienced, some children are very it is difficult to socialize; children who have been forced to leave their homes miss their home and friends; they suffer from a lack of attention and personal space; they are unsure of the future; they are worried about

daily news; they also experienced difficulties in adapting to a new place; there were even cases when children thought about oppression due to the status of an internally displaced person, and it is already inappropriate give general advice on how to tell children about the war, because we have been living in it for almost 10 months and our children have already found an explanation for what is happening, of course in their own way, but how to correct their worldview if it causes them suffering, so mrs. alyona, what to do. let's start when the sirens sound for our children. how to be parents well, be patient because it is very tiring. that is, it is tiring for both adults and

children. in children, they don’t have that much emotional resource . there are dozens of places to go through it. hundreds of times, that is, i will be patient and tell stories , it is generally very nice to go down there with small children, the bomb shelter is like uh, well, it is like a game. that is, we are being chased there, you and i will run away now. then they understand or do not understand the consequences of what is happening and the same teenagers, they can ignore the storage because it is a challenge for them . that is, i am already an adult, i make my own decisions and i am not afraid because teenagers in general, that is, it is like this the trait of such a code is not to be afraid, that is, to be afraid is, well , to admit that you are weak, and teenagers don't want to

think about it at all, and then it's like that, it's also a challenge for parents, and you need to be patient and talk and say that well, look, i'm afraid and that's normal come on well, somehow, with me, about being together, i also wanted to say something about the fact that, you know, mistrust of psychologists is generally such a problem of mental culture in ukraine, when we talk about mental help, psychological help for children, we imagine that a psychologist will harm because we are not we understand what exactly he will do. and in general, most children. they do not need some kind of focused trauma or some special psychological help. they need these groups of children's adaptation groups, that is, when children , with the help of psychologists, they return to their

activities, that is, games, they draw. they are sculpting something there with pens, they are telling something there, they are moving there, they are dancing or singing there, that is, that is all that a child should do , this is the majority of 70%, even 80% of children, they there are already 20 or 15-30% of these adaptation groups in need - it depends on the region or region, those children need more such specialist trauma-focused help. that is, it is about the fact that when we talk about psychological help, we have no idea what that's exactly what will happen, that's why we're afraid of it, because now everyone doesn't want to face anything new, because everyone's tired of this new thing. well, i want to say that being in a shelter is already stressful and the child is deprived of the usual comfort, besides, he sees

nervous adults who are afraid of the arrival and teachers and child psychologists, with the support of the ministry of education and science, launched a telegram channel called support the child , there daily publish simple recommendations, games and developing exercises that can be performed in a storage room at home or, for example, during an evacuation, the authors prepare materials in text format which are easy to download with unstable access to the internet, so what to do in the hidden, in particular, there are tips for dealing with children and adults should keep calm themselves, first of all, this is a guarantee of psychological balance children calmly tell the children what is happening and what they need to do in the case of a long stay in the storage room, you should regularly give the little ones to drink and eat often hug the children, hold their hands , rock them and fall asleep next to them, and in general

psychologists recommend that you need to sleep at every opportunity, if possible, you should go out every hour get some fresh air. if the children are fussy, this is a good sign, because no one is fussy when it's scary. if the anxiety increases, do something useful and involve the children in this process to get rid of it. physical tension, jump in place with the children a hundred times, this will give a feeling of support ms. alyona, what advice would you personally add to keep the children busy in the shelter in order to reduce this fear to a minimum ? move there jump a-a can we dance i in well i'm against dancing there very a-a you know how fun it is and don't talk about what's

going on at all but you can say that let's settle things with you somehow let's do a rohanka with you because through the body also, we relieve tension firstly and secondly we return to the body we return to the understanding of where we are, what is happening to us and what is happening to us. hugging is very good. breathing exercises that is, you can inhale and exhale rhythmically with the child, you can do the butterfly exercise that is, when you clap yourself there like this and so, here is the rhythm , also alternately a-a, you can do a butterfly with the child, you can make a jump with the child, you can breathe, that is, say there to talk about what for example, let's go to 10 with you, we inhale quickly, then we exhale quickly, then slowly everything that brings the child back to the body, to her emotions, to her

understanding that she is here, she is now, and like the child, and the father or mother, that is, the family, everything that brings us back to the body understanding that we are here, that we lived, and then you can say that, you know. i also worry, that is, i am always about openness, about not ah-ah hmm telling the child that it is not ok what's wrong with you well, why can't you worry? that is, you worry about and we need to talk about it because then it is also an emotional contact, it is preserved, you see, children mostly do not know how to recognize and express their emotions, so the manifestation of feelings occurs through behavior and we want the parents to hear us now . they trust psychologists and it’s in vain you can’t do that, so what changes in the child’s behavior signal exactly that she

needs psychological help, that parents should see something in the behavior to alert them well everything is unusual, everything that the child did not show before is now showing, that is, this sleep disorder and digestive disorder and emotional lability, as i already said, and such things. well, you know how to hang in this game about war and, for example, curiosity about death that does not go away, that is, everything that the child did not do before regression , for example, if she has lost interest in studying or playing, everything that happens to books that she loved in the past, for example , or if you see that cognitively, the child does not pull what she used to pull, for example, she used to she studied there and now she can't pass there 2.2 well, that is, everything that needs such unusual

attention on your part, that is, what you didn't pay attention to before and now, let's see, it is there. needs a little extra focus on your part. can you be a specialist? a generally likes to hug each other, be frank and talk about what you also feel . what happens to you? well, it also happens and it is through you that the child will learn to go through such difficult crisis moments in life, because well we really want war there were never more, but there were other difficult moments in life in ours, because it is difficult, so it will also be like this, well, an example of how a child can experience such difficult moments because of you, and ms. alyona, well, you said about some unusual behavior but well, we know that war is already an unusual

situation not only for children but also for adults, that 's why adults sometimes during the war, as you know , talk a lot now and behave in an unusual way. therefore, it is possible that somehow children need to be taught to understand their emotions, to control them or it is possible at all. well, it is possible if the family, if the mother will also talk about what you know , now i am upset there, that is, if there is a culture of emotional support and talking about emotions in the family, if there is such and such emotional warmth in the family, the child is growing up here and he has this experience, ah, you are very right about the fact that it is already a month of war and everyone is tired , that is, the adults are also tired and

there are no resources for adults. and in general, i understand that m- m to be mobilized there for more than six or seven months it's very difficult, very much, that's why i say that a lot of adults now don't have the resources to play with the child, to always be there for her, well, with her, on the same page, on the same page, to be interested in what's happening with her life is why there are these support groups and or groups a where the child can play with his peers, where the child can generally return to such a conditional normal life. these groups are also, ah, well, it is help for adults, first of all, and now that there are many children. they cannot go to kindergarten schools, that is, if families have the opportunity to even unite there as neighbors and for the children to play together, this will also be a great support

. if you have the opportunity to talk to someone and even there to whine about what, you know, i am so tired because it is very difficult, it is so you are on the verge of survival, what are people going through now, it is also very useful because it is also, well, you know, like a-ah, dumping all the emotional, well , this kind of garbage accumulated there, if you can say so, all the minutes remain and i want also for you to comment very briefly. i have a separate question about children whose mothers were taken abroad during the war. these children are separated from their fathers, relatives and friends. they are forced to go to other educational institutions where everything is foreign and unusual. can they somehow be helped to accept these changes and socialize in a new place you are right that the crisis is for those who stayed as the crisis is for those who left and of course also support

as well as curiosity as well as openness and also well such an attempt you know as abroad in poland and in there are a lot of ukrainian families in germany, they are families , they unite and they also. through these associations , they help children not to feel left out, not to feel isolated, because if you go to school there in another country, you face not only that you are different, you face a language issue because you can not speak or speak poorly and this is also, well, such isolation for a child, this can also be the beginning of such a traumatic experience if she is not then integrated, this is there in this circle is society and this also, such parents should better turn to psychologists in order for them to support the child and help her to get out of this situation correctly. well, it is always

better to consult a specialist, that is, i once again boringly emphasize that talking and supporting a specialist is not only there is some very specialized help, it can even be a support group when the child is just playing, but he is playing according to the exercises selected by the psychologist, that is, for the children who left, then there will be another such and such a crisis. when they return and they will also be isolated in that circle or society where they have not been there for nine or 6 months. why were you with us today, unfortunately, the time of our program has run out, but i still have a lot of questions for you, so i think that we see you again on our broadcasts, because there is much to talk about.

thank you. advices we have already given in the program, but the experts of the channel will support the child have prepared tips on how to interact with different age groups of children during the war . therefore, babies need to be helped to explore the world through ordinary household items. teach the child to control simple interactions, recognize , explore and control objects, images, sounds, textures and tastes help learn how to get the desired response from people and objects. toddlers should be helped to explore relationships between objects and try and control them. play hide-and-seek help the child understand himself as part of a community and develop language skills work on the use of imitation symbols in play preschoolers need help developing friendships and play skills with other children

experiment with children how to achieve the desired results with objects and people play with a constructor help the child develop everything more complex large fine motor skills and will teach the child to plan ahead with children of primary school age up to 8 years learn group work skills including cooperation and solving conflicts follow the rules created by others and also create your own rules that should be followed and i want to say that involve all children in the everyday games hug children and love your children they will definitely be able to survive all this together with you thanks to love i was with you i iryna koval and the program about health take care of yourself let's see how people who suffer from

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