children perceive it differently in different families, so it is called an unspecified loss, and if in our country a person died at the front, it is a specified loss, here the family has the opportunity with great pain and great regret to put an end to it, and where the family of the missing person or a captive, they cannot put an end to this point until the native person is returned. or they will find, unfortunately, and i will not say that it is more difficult for someone, better for someone, easier for someone, harder for someone, it is equally difficult for them all in their own way, very difficult for everyone, and psychologically, but now because it is very there have been no exchanges for a long time and there is no news from about what condition it is in? their captive

relative, where is he, what is happening to him, when he is not there , any hope that he is about to be exchanged has already disappeared, because earlier, when the exchanges took place more or less regularly, then there was hope, okay, this exchange is not mine, but the next one may be mine, because people knew that the next exchange will be here, in two weeks, in a month, but it will be, and it’s somehow a little, you know, it’s not four months already, then people already disappear hope for the fact that there will be exchanges in general, but i would of course very much like the coordinating headquarters of the hors to find the necessary words.

support and the necessary internal, own moral resource in order to communicate with the families on this issue, to support them, to pull them out of this despair, because we are trying to support them by talking to them, but we understand that the russians specifically delay, do not agree for exchanges to induce to destabilize the absolutely moral state, they achieve that... the families of the missing prisoners unknown, they will put pressure on the authorities so that the authorities make some concessions for the sake of exchanges, but you know, i talk to many families of prisoners, and these are quite conscious people, and they, they work for victory, they want ukraine to win, so they are waiting , they wait very hard, they wait very terribly, but they wait. that they understand what is happening and

who is to blame for it, but at the same time we must understand that they really need psychological help, but sometimes people cannot turn to psychologists, and some are afraid of it, some there is simply no money, so you know, this is a general ukrainian problem, because after the start of a full-scale invasion, we have the trauma of loss, with the trauma of unspecified losses. absolutely everyone applied for work, without even having the proper qualifications of a psychologist , people applied for work who had completed some psychological courses somewhere, of personal growth, as we joke, so people applied for work, whose education was only a pedagogical university, the faculty of psychology, this is not enough , this is definitely not enough to work... with the family,

which is going through a severe trauma of loss or unspecified loss, and this, it hurts more than it helps, and that's why, you know, in ukraine even a year ago it was very difficult to find the necessary number of specialists who know how to work with these people, and those specialists , who could work on a volunteer basis, it is very... few, because there are a lot of people who needed and need psychological help, who need the help of psychiatrists, psychotherapists, and the necessary specialists are few, and imagine that a specialist and such a crazy download, and from this he has more squeeze out a few volunteer hours to work as a volunteer, so yes, finding a specialist first is a big...

the problem of that specialist who will do no harm, but help, and we initially when we started the foundation, when we finally met, tyra, i , dana , yura godymenko and agreed that let 's make a fund, it was approximately a year ago, when we met and already agreed, we will all start together as a fund, and not as individual volunteers separated, when we started working as a fund, we wanted, that we have psychological help as one of our programs, but this problem arose when we saw that there were no specialists, and now i see a lot of answers. psychologists, psychotherapists, who, having understood such a desperate need, went to study, they study foreign practices of how to provide help to such families and such people, and they already come with new knowledge, with new

experience, new skills in this field, but a year ago it was really hard to find. and pull out at least one at a time, now we are developing a program, a partner program of psychological assistance, and i do not i will say that it will be a full-fledged support, but it will be psychological help in groups and individually for all wards of the fund, it has already been decided there, this program is in one of the last stages, and we will be ready to launch it, well... the second problem psychological help for children is the most difficult , it is the most difficult, but as it turned out, it was this direction that the largest number of people ran, who , having a diploma in psychology and nothing else, no

knowledge, no experience, no skills, decided that they would work with it, but this is the hardest you are very right, it is... the most difficult and it seems to me that there are not so many specialists abroad who can work with psychological traumas of children that arose due to the war or due to the loss of a loved one in almost a century, this is the first such big war on the territory, this the biggest war on the territory of europe, and this is the very first war, which is again a war of technology, a war of heavy... weapons, and not just there, you know, someone from somewhere, forgive me, it probably won't sound intolerant, and not skirmishes with basmachs, yes, this is a big, serious war and the first for almost a century, of course, europe

was not ready for this, and even when we talk with european military experts there, with european soldiers, now they are studying ukrainian. the experience of our war, because they did not have such experience, and the americans did not have such experience, so now they are studying all the mistakes, all the correct decisions of our military, our doctors, and in particular they will study the experience of our psychologists, those good psychologists, i i mean, doctors and surgeons, all these specialists who are related to the war, so in europe there is not the necessary... number of specialists who are ready to work with the topic of war in general, because there was no such need for them, the most specialists who are ready to work with the trauma of harassment, and with the trauma of domestic violence, because this type of trauma

is more popular among them, huh , but what they have very well arranged, what we can learn from, is the attitude towards veterans and their families, and... there in the united states, for example, they treat veterans of all wars with great respect, and the attitude and programs are really like that , that a veteran, i'm not saying that always, of course, there are some problems, but as far as i know, of course, they treat veterans very well there, with respect - just on the street, this is not yet accepted in our society with respect. to treat a veteran walking down the street with respect and gratitude, and some even hide children so that they do not see a military man, so that they do not get injured, god forbid, god forbid, this is such a horror, really, you know, we

will probably six months ago, yuriy godymenko and i discussed that i spoke about the fact that i sometimes... turn my eyes away from a wounded soldier, because i feel in i owe him, and right now i personally can't do anything to him. what to offer to cover this debt? in fact, i owed him health, i owed him life , because he was the one who took the risk, and i did something here, something i failed to do so that he came back on both legs, let's say, or with both hands, and this is a question of my conscience, and we talked then, and he says: you know, your best support will be when you look at

this military man, not at all, like a wounded military man, what will you look at his wounds, on a person that you will see in him a cool guy with a beautiful smile, kind eyes, with a cool hairstyle, you will look into his eyes, smile and nod. show your attention, i realized that it really works, that it really works, that when i see a wounded soldier, i look at him, i smile, nod my head, and i see in him first of all a person, a person with green eyes , with a cool smile, with a chip on his front tooth, when he smiles, i... see a smart person, if he says something, i see athletic people,

even when they are without a leg, and i'm walking like that and i think, wow, what a cool man, what a cool man, he lost a leg, but he does sports, because you know, there's a person walking and playing with biceps, that's where the attitude towards veterans is, it should work now, should adjust to everyone, absolutely everyone. at all levels, because in the 16th year the attitude towards veterans changed radically after the majority of our population began to say not a man attacked a drunken neighbor with a knife, but an ato veteran attacked a drunken neighbor with a knife, or when is now just recently i read the news and it means that drunken servicemen of brigade number so-and-so got into a fatal traffic accident,

drunk people are the first things, it's the pursuit of clickable headlines, so it's the pursuit of clippable headlines, in the army it's absolutely like that the same section, society, as here in a civilian place, and here to call names that they are all like that. no, it is not possible for me, a veteran is a person who is a priori, so in general definitely, without any there, but, if, he deserves my attention and my respect, yes attitude, i i will say hello and thank her for her service to this person, later, when we go to personal communication, i will see what kind of person this is, although it is in ... this person's contribution to the victory, and the fact that she is now protecting my life,

it will always be worthy of respect for me, then the assessment of concrete actions, we talked about the families of prisoners, about the families of the dead, but it is not easy for the families of soldiers who are now at the front defending the country, and you, you are such a family, your husband is a military man, like it's... being a military wife, because i'll explain why i ask, there are many posts on the internet that the families of military men, the wives of military men, they are like cheese in butter, because they are paid so much money, they can not work, go out for 100, not to the families, they pay the military, i will provide this combat, so sometimes the military what remains is sent to the wives. they have, after they have repaired the car in the subdivision, bought rubber, bought mavics, bought

radio stations, bought the fifth, tenth, they provide everything for themselves, and most of the fuel for the generators at the positions, for the vehicles they drive, they buy too themselves, but if it's an infantry unit, they sometimes need these... electric saws or chainsaws, they buy them themselves, they need cool axes, they buy them themselves, and you know, when they say that there a, it means lucky. and her husband is at war, so she earns a lot. you have no idea how much we would be willing to give for our relatives to return home alive, they did not have to risk their lives in this war. but i understand that i cannot hide my husband,

because he is my full partner, he is a person. he is a full-fledged person, fully capable, he a strong person, first of all, he is a cool person, i love him for that, if i start to hide him, break him, i will lose this love, because i will change him, he will become weak, and i don't want that, you know, a man is not immediately went to war because he had limited fitness, he applied to... mother, they told him: wait, wait, wait, but actually, when he applied personally to the military units in order to leave on his own, he was also refused precisely because of the illness that limited his fitness, but actually, when he was called,

he went to the army, he went on a trip, he is now an officer, he is serving, this is the ground forces, and i respect his decision, i understand that if everyone starts hiding her husband and discourages him from serving in the army, you know, someday the buryats will come they will knock on my door, on their door and say, well, what are you waiting for, and i don't want this anymore, so yes, my husband has to protect the country and he has to protect me and other women from the fact that stormtroopers will come to our door , what it's like to be a woman of the military, it's scary, it's exhausting, because we mostly live from message to message, from

call to call, called, cheers, excitement, everything is cool, promised to call at 4 p.m., didn't call, and your head is already drawing some scary pictures when they fly there rockets, fabs, mines, when everything explodes, breaks, because the brain is in no hurry to draw some idealistic pictures, it immediately draws the worst, and then you run on the ceiling for several hours, until it contacts again, several hours, and sometimes for several days, because girls have them... boys, what stormtroopers, scouts who go out on a mission for a few days, and these are a few days of crazy uncertainty, and i'm afraid to even imagine how the girls live it, these few days, when i went out, and will return or not, who will return, in what status will return, this

it's very scary, how do children go through it, do they already understand everything? at first they cried a lot because dad is in the war, although i stubbornly told them for a long time that dad is in the army, dad is in the army, dad is in the army, and you know, when the word war is not heard, it is a little easier, now they are more they're used to it, they don't always ask, dad called, dad said, dad is here, but now you already know, my nerves have calmed down a little. then we already have more black military humor growing in us, sometimes blacker than black earth, but you already know, most of the guys who serve as husbands, you already know their children, what are their names, their wives, you already volunteer for their needs, they already write to you there , that we

need two jackets for our vulkans to... it's good to give you two jackets, we need maviks, collect them for maviks, because these boys have also become mine, not mine, they are important, and children they write letters to them, the children send them knitted little bears, which i am my friend, the children draw funny pictures for them, the children laugh, bake cookies for them, and this calms us down, it calms us down and it keeps us going. but i will say that the wives, loved ones, of military personnel must somehow unite and... talk about their experiences, support each other, because without this it is very difficult to survive, i realized, the first time when my husband went to fight, i realized that

it is difficult for me, for example, to come to my friend, whose husband has been fighting for 14 years to say, i'm scared, i'm very scared, i can't handle it, because i thought she wouldn't understand, because i wash everything, no matter how hard i can. yes, he recently, but i dared, came and understood how important the support of those who, like you, wait at night for calls, sms, messages, and you just mentioned humor, he also supports, you often write with humor, and more and write, now you are such a polite guest, because you write so with sharp words very often, about humor, i want to conclude with this, that's all still a major note. a program about the translation of your nickname by russians , because you sign, dad, because it is derived from tatyan, and they translate it as

papa, you know, papa because, or papasha because, yes, i am very proud of these variations of my nickname, because, you know, so somehow it happened that humor saves me personally, and when i feel na... worse, i start to drive the most frankly, as for the use of obsessing vocabulary, there is a place and a time for everything, so you know when you will have an 18+ program , i will not search euphemisms in order to somehow name the true essence of the russians, but so far we have such a tone of the program, so i do not use. these words, because they will actually be inappropriate. and yes, i know how to write without motherfuckers, but when it requires it, when it is appropriate, well, as

they say, why cross out words from a song and bake them with stars, well, we are all adults, so humor is important, if we have the strength for humor, we have the strength for victory, but really serious, important things should not be changed. that's right, you should always remember, to what we are going for and what we are striving for, and in all things we should look for a grain of truth so that we do not quarrel on our knees, but can go together to victory, so that we understand, well, yes, with this person we differed in our views, yes, she was wrong then, but i will give her a helping hand when she needs it. this is very important, we must understand and remember at what cost we are going to this victory, we thank you very much for your great

work, for how many families you have already helped, and thank you for your works, thank you all the best to you who invite and do everything you do. chevrons approaching victory. dear dad, thank you, mom, thank you, my brother, thank you. sergeant aunt valya, thank you very, very , very, very much , thank you for protecting me, my mother and our

dog, our home, our country, and i ask you to protect saint nicholas so that he brings gifts to me and all the children, thank you for isa that ukraine can celebrate the holiday. sonechka, how are you, now it's scary for you, we're not around at school yet. you know what i do when i'm nervous, i remember or pick up my symbol strength it can be anything: a pebble, a memory, a photo on the phone, i look at it, feel how it feels to the touch, or remember everything down to the smallest details. and i feel better, i relax, and even breathing becomes easier, do like dad and mom. and it will get easier. on the website hauariu.com, caring people from the mental health program and their friends from unicef have collected tips on how to help yourself and your child

cope with stress. rules of a warm country: bathroom. thank you for passing through the night at low temperatures, loading the drum as much as possible. let's beat the winter together. chevrons approaching victory. step by step, they move from one danger to another. step by step. they free our land from invisible death. fields and forests are homes in which evil has visited. without sappers

, life will not return here. without the courage and dedication of these people, we will not return home, for your work and our safety, we thank the sappers of the state emergency service of ukraine. kitty, how are you? i think you get anxious, we are not close at school yet, you know what i do at moments like this, an exercise that always helps me, it’s just remember, finger alone. i pass this hand around the palm of the other hand, as if circling it with a pencil, i bring my finger up and slowly inhale, i bring it down and slowly exhale, do as dad and calmness will return, on the website hauariu.com, caring people from the tiyak mental health program and their friends from unicef have collected tips on how to help yourself and your child cope with stress. oh, i haven't

killed myself in years. they will install generators here, put them on the balcony! the generator emits gentle gas, therefore only in the yard six meters from the windows and doors, safety rules are followed, they save lives. we continue the marathon, i, dmytro chistyakov, am in the studio, and we will spend another hour together. in the occupied crimea, atesh partisans discovered another place. shuffling of russian military equipment. a large number of military kamaz vehicles and artillery tractors arrived in the village of gvardiyske near simferopol. the underground also declared that they knew exactly the time, the route and the number of the enemy's personnel. according to the partisans, these vehicles will serve to overturn the enemy art installations, cities and hyacinths in the kherson direction. all these data were transferred to the atesh fighters.

defense forces of ukraine and assured that the occupiers will have one end. death. it was in the kherson direction that the recently formed 104th airborne division of the russian army suffered extremely heavy losses. this is reported by british intelligence. the unit was attached to the dnipro group of occupiers on the eastern bank of the dnipro. but the debut of enemy paratroopers turned out to be a failure. an attempt to knock out ukraine. fighters from the bridgehead near the village of krynky failed. most of the soldiers were inexperienced. in addition, the operation was poorly supported by aviation and artillery, - noted in british intelligence. the failure under the cover was a tangible blow to the reputation of the commander of the dnipro group of troops of the russian army, general teplinsky. due to the weather conditions and continuous icing in the east

, the front logi became more difficult. as well as aerial reconnaissance and the use of drones, even just moving in advanced positions is very difficult, the weather adjusts hostilities, but does not stop them, about this in the story of ruslan smishchuk and vadym revun. like icy trees, icy bushes, icy grass, this is how the steppes of donetsk region near bakhmut look now, and this is how they sound and thunder with fire, hot, the whole mouth has entered, this is the fear.