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suspect in this case, in newtown, connecticut is also a crime scene at this hour, it's there where police say the suspect also gunned down his mother before he drove to the school to carry out a massacre. anna kooiman live from our new york city news room with that part of the story. >> connecticut authorities saying there's no indication after motive at the moment and no note has been found of. it's been reported the last few years have been rocky for the alleged the shooter 20-year-old adam lanza and 2006 his older brother, 24-year-old ryan lanza left and went off to college and left adam at home with the the parents whose marriage was coming apart. a divorce in 2009. confusion over the shooter may have been because of adam carrying ryan's i.d. and he said it wasn't me, i was at work. computer and phone records are searched and fbi and hoboken

police were investigating and running through the hallways. >> in the back of your head what could have possibly happened? there's hundreds and hundreds of things, and you know, you're just shook, you can't help it. you know, hug your own children you know, a little, a little more at night when you pick them up. it's an awful story. >> the fbi telling both brother and father are of cleared. and peter is remarried and the home, it's unclear if they're inside. and nancy the mother has no connection with the sandy hook elementary, but adam could have gone there at one point. and father has been estranged from dad from him for years

and he had asperger's, he was a loner and socially awkward. >> jamie: appreciate the facts on that, but we're not going to speculate or say that any of those descriptions of the suspect did in any way could be a motive or a cause for him to act in this way. >> right. >> thanks, anna, a great part of that story, thanks. >> rick: while the entire country comes to gripts with newtown, connecticut we're getting the video into the news room, people from newtown and probably some surrounding areas as well who are gathering outside of the st. rose of lima catholic church where people are leaving flowers, stuffed animals, notes to all the victims. one person left a note on a candle that reads, may you rest in peace, gone too soon, little angels of god. let's talk about the role that faith plays in coping with terrible tragedy like this. joining us now is rabbi evan move fit of congregation

solay. and father jonathan morris. i can't tell you how grateful we are on you coming on inform this terrible times. and father, a lot of people who might not pray are praying now no doubt. >> it's a natural reaction to tragedy and at the same time people are saying of course, how could a good and powerful god allow this to happen. and god would intervene because he's all powerful. what helps me is to look at it from a different perspective and that is, why would god allow free will? and i believe it's a very simple explanation. because with that free will we have an opportunity to love and most people do it pretty well and some people unfortunately take that free will and turn it against the very people that god has loved so deeply, to create us and to give us this great gift.

>> rick: rabbi, as a parent yourself of young children and i am, too, i'm still in a state of shock and i imagine people all over the country are. and how do you get past the shock and how do you begin the search for comfort in a time like this? >> it's incredibly hard and i'm in that state of shock as well. and i think what father jonathan just said is very profound and in jewish tradition, we have an idea that at times of tragedy, god cries alongside us. and we have to simply draw from our reservoir of faith. and be honest that the answers we don't know, but also to bring as much comfort to the kids and say we do everything we can to keep you safe and we do everything we can to make sure that something like this doesn't happen, but there's tragedy in the world. and we give them hope with our presence, with our prayers. >> father jonathan, why do we keep seeing, as the president

said yesterday, too many times, these kinds of things happening, why? >> well, first of all, i just love what the rabbi said that god cries along with us and when we see this happening often as you mention rick, we asked the question why. and that answer, that question is profound because we see it happening in our society, that seems to be so affluent, so good, so human, so developed. and i think it goes back once again to our ability to choose to either love or to be selfish and when god created us, he entered into a covenant with us, that says i love you not with objects, but a being and sparked, love is a precious gift to be used however you wish because i want to have a relationship with you, we could get into whether or not there are cultural developments that are making us more-- this happen more often than before, whether it's guns, whether that this, whether it's that. now is not the time. now is the time to hug, now is

the time to be close and now is the time to make a promise i will never use my free will to hurt another person. >> rick: here we are, tonight is the last night of hanukkah, rabbi, as our family lit the menorah, i couldn't help, but think we were lighting candles for the victims in connecticut. as christmas time is near as well, is there a prayer to she share with us and the audience that might help us now? >> well, there is a prayer of hope. now, one of the prayers we say in hanukkah is we thank god for the miracles that were done for generations past and for the miracle that god does for us today. and as i heard your last sto about these heroic teachers and what they did, to me, they're modern maccabees in a way and they perform miracles, one of the lessons of

hanukkah, we light each candles each night and tonight is the last night so that gives us hope. there are people out here who heal, to comfort, who fight for life and i think those are the people that make the choices for good. so in effect, we thank god for the miracles ever the people that we have today and the comfort that we can bring to one another. >> rick: thank you for that, father jonathan, last word, a couple of seconds left. your thoughts as we come up on the christmas holiday? >> well, you know, people who are watching this all over this country are asking themselves, what can i do? and we can all do something. in this age of mass media and social media, we can all reach out to the people we love whether they're next to us or far away and say "i love you." and that's the great gift that jesus birth gave us and as christians that god can love us and we can love in return. >> rick: thank you very much. >> amen. >> rick: father jonathan

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>> as we're following the new developments this hour on the connecticut school shooting tragedy that everybody is just trying to come to grips about, you know, as we report at the top of this hour, police say they're now saying they've been unable to establish any connection between adam lanza's mother and the school where this tragedy took place, despite the earlier reports that she may have worked there

even as a substitute teacher. now at the same time many of parents are trying to figure out the best way to reassure their children after learning about an event like this. daniel is an adolescent and child psychologist and we are grateful that you're joining us today, thank you. >> thank you, jamie, glad to be here. >> jamie: and i wish it was under different circumstances. we have one mother whose daughter olivia was in the eight-year-old and knowing that more questions come up when new facts come out. you don't have to have a child in the school though, rick and i are both parents and our children ask questions what happened. how much do you say, do you tell the truth? >> well, i think it depends on the age of the child. i think it has to be done in a developmentally appropriate way and it's very hard to make

sense of something that's so senseless, but i think limiting your child's exposure to the events which are on the media how 24/7 and trying to talk to them in a very down to earth way, but i think sparing some of the details is the way to go. for example, young children, i think you need to reinstill a sense of security in them and make them feel like they're going to be safe and this is something a rare event and doesn't happen all the time and that, you know, in all likelihood they'll be safe. >> that's what the mom actually had told her daughter, this isn't the way it's supposed to go and she hopes her daughter will go back to school soon to get back into her routine. i heard something interesting today and i want to ask you about it, that children don't actually know, when they see video, let's say that the still pictures of the children being led out of the school, when they see this over and over, they don't have a way, young children, of knowing that it's a repeat of video or this photograph.

they think it may be happening again and again. do you feel it's true? >> well, i think you could have to explain it to them. certainly they may see it that way, kids, especially young children are not good at verballizing their emotions and they tend to act out. i think as a parent you really have to try to have an open line of communication and speak to them about this in a way that they can understand and appreciate. >> jamie: if we want to be proactive with our children and prepare them that these things do happen in places you wouldn't expect. what advice can we give our children on how to try to protect themselves? >> well, you know, we need to focus on the mental health of our kids, and we need to rely less on metal detectors and more on mental health detectors and i think this could have been a way to avoid the tragedy. i think if we can learn anything from the tragedy, it's that we have to be proactive and when we see something happening in our children, we have to nip it in the bud before it becomes

something horrific, such as this event. >> we can hope so, correct me if you'll wrong, but the fact that the suspect may have been on the asperger's spectrum. i don't want to jump to conclusions and i don't want to use it as an excuse for bad and horrific behavior. many people who may be loners or may be on the spectrum have very fulfilling and productive lives and never get into trouble, correct? >> well, that's correct. asperger's disorder is characterized by partially a lack of empathy for others and that may have played a role, but there are very high functioning asperger's people that lead very productive lives, as you've said, and it's on the autistic spectrum so a lot of times these people have difficulty relating to other people and feeling empathy, but certainly it can't be generalized to all people with asperger's disorders. >> jamie: quickly before we go, will this community

recover? >> i think it will. i've seen an enormous outpouring of support from the country and i actually know this town personally from my own past. i think it's a tight knit community and support each other and in the end everyone is going to be fine, but ultimately the healing will take a while. >> jamie: absolutely. we hope for that. thank you, doctor. >> thank you. >> jamie: rick. >> rick: scenes of horror. we'll speak with one parent whose son was in the classroom when the gunman burst in and started firing. er's crabfest ends soon. hurry in and try five succulent entrees, like ourender snow crab paired with savory garlic shrimp. just $12.99. come into red lobster and sea food differently. and introducing 7 lunch choices for just $7.99.

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>> as you've been hearing we're learning more about the accused shooter in these stories and neighbors saying the young man may have suffered from a developmental disorder, possibly asperger's syndrome, a high form of autism. what could it mean to the investigation or possible motive. joining us on the phone is dr. manny alvarez and senior managing editor of fox news health.com and dr. manny, you're the father of a child who is on the autism spectrum. as you hear the reports about possible asperger's, what are your thoughts? >> listen, the autism spectrum

is a very complex group of different ailments, but in no way does it have an evil component to it. most children with autism have sweet, loving children and asperger's in particular, you have high functioning individuals, very productive. yes, they have struggles with socializing, with communicating, they're normally intelligent and in many of times even the diagnosis is they're for the community. you know, we have to separate two things here we have aids in the autism spectrum. if they're not taken care of, if they're in the in a loving atmosphere, sometimes they're exposed to ugliness and cope

with it in a different way, but sometimes with autism because they're a little behind in the communication skills, they're not able to talk about the ugliness, to me, it's more the environment, it's, you know, how they were raised, how they were loved, why you know, what, what, you know what people did for them, how they deal with others makes the difference just like any other child could be expose today ugliness. and my heart, yesterday when this whole thing happened, i had to go pick up my son at his school, you know, he's my autistic son and he had already heard it,s' 15 years old and we came home and we talked about it and for him, i had to explain it in a different kind of light. >> rick: right. >> but you could see that he does understand, just like any child in the spectrum. they understand good and evil and they understand that evil does not play a role in

anybody's part. so, yes, i think that the speculation is going to move forward. i think that people are going to talk about this past history of asperger's and whether or not he was an outcast in high school or not, but at the end of the day, it is how, what kind of evilness or what kind of lack of love that they see growing up. >> rick: dr. manny alvarez a part of the news medical a-team. thank you very much. we'll be right back. >> thank you.

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