>> up like this and then slam. >> what's the matter with a broken leg. it is only six weeks. >> i wouldn't want to gamble with my child. >> with helmets on the soccer field the wussification of america. >> you call it wussification i am going to call it a spiritual awakening. >> selling boys vacuum cleaners? >> boys want to vacuum and iron. >> how strict should you be? >> daughters were not allowed to attend a sleep over have a play date be in a school play, complain about not being in the play. >> hold yourself to a higher standard. >> i didn't have the marshmallow. >> these couldn't resist

temptation. >> this girl is hyperventilating. >> these kids play without supervision. >> for the next hour we offered better ways to help your kids grow up. >> every child in there is being watched by an adult. i understand why we want to keep them safe but there's much going on over there in chicago. >> these kid's parents decided their kids should be allowed to do more on their own so the kids go to this playground by themselves. >> parents should let kids do this. >> left on their own for one to two hours. they look out for each other. without parents bossing them

around. >> a child they stalked by a predator. >> we hear about drooled playground bullying terrible accidents kids getting lost and above all adults trained. >> 250,000 registered sex offenders they could be living next door to you and you don't even know it. >> 24/7 you see on tv a kid being kidnapped, murdered. >> the mom is fed up with the way tv scares parents even though kids today are safer. >> we are at a 50 year low in crime. when i tell this to people they are so concerned that that can't possibly be. >> they don't believe it. >> they don't believe it. they say of course there's less crime against children because they are we are holding them so tight. there's less crime against grown women, pets, cars.

>> she pushes the idea of free range kids. >> we realize is this like? free range parenting is a rejection of the idea that your kids can't do anything on their own. kids call themselves the free range kids club. >> it is a good break to be with their friends? >> more? >> yes. >> okay. if kids don't try to do things on their own. >> kids can't learn social skills. they can't learn team skills and working together skills when they are over supervised. >> these parents let their kids roll. >> kids 12-14 they are like a

pack of kids roaming the neighborhood. >> were they scared to go out on their own? >> the only thing i was slightly scared of i would be embarrassed if someone would ask where my parents were. i didn't want to tell them i was by myself. >> we would go up stairs she would go up stairs. >> there were kids in the library checking out books. >> you're welcome. >> at first the kids just had fun. now they say that by doing this they gain something. >> you get trust from your parents. >> yeah. >> these kids take pride in running adult like errands. >> my parents will be like we are running late, can you go pick up the dry cleaning. i can walk to the dry cleaner's. it's free range for yourour children. let them play freely. >> family therapist dr. ruskin was appalled. >> drink the cool aid.

why do we have to rush them at being mini adults at 8, 9, 10 years old. >> i want to smoke i want to drive your car. oh, free range. okay honey bun you want to do that, do whatever you want. there are still real life pedophile out there. how about the 8-year-old boy who said can i walk home from camp? the parents think it's a safe area he can ask for help. you know what, he asks somebody for help who seemed to be a lovely man? what did that man do? the man chops him off. we cannot allow them -- >> they gambled with your child i don't want to gamble with your child. >> would you let a one--year-old take their-- >> molester cyber stalking predators, drugs, bullies.

>> people called her america's worst mom. >> why at nine years old? bad stuff does happen? >> if i thought i was putting him in a dangerous situation i would not have done it. >> it was his idea. it wasn't us putting her on the subway saying we are going to mac make a man out of you. >> it was mom and dad can i take a subway some place i haven't been before and find my way home. >> this tv show was quick to portray him. >> the construction site is where he was killed. >> that can happen. 7 years after this her son is still alive. >> i lived to tell the tale. >> he is 16 and proud his mom let him grow. >> were you scared? >> not at all. i had done it before with my parents. it was fun. i know how to get around. i am confident in myself. >> but free range parents.

>> let's her 7-year-old son walk to the park alone. >> i didn't think i was doing anything wrong. i was letting them go play. >> this woman was arrested because she let her kids play front of her house. the neighbor told police they were unsupervised but their mom was watching. >> if you had looked you would have seen me. i was visible. >> simon arthur brought her 7-year-old to a car show. his son didn't want to stay. >> i was bored i was hot and i wanted to walk home. >> we walked to the shopping mall before. the there's police stations on the corners the hole way. i said, all right. walk home. >> i wasn't scared. >> i keep reading about these abductions. >> yeah, possible to be hit by lightning or struck by a meteor, too. >> i wasn't very far and the cops asked me where are my parents. >> the child ended upped living approximately an mile and a half

that's a great distance for a 7-year-old to travel by himself without water or nourishment with him. we charged him with reckless misconduct. >> they put handcuffs on me and put me in the back of the car. >> whose child is it? . parents or the state? >> we want kids protected from abuse but don't parents get to decide if their kids are mature enough to? >> to think a child let alone parents sometimes make good judgments when they are in a situation that they cannot predict. >> if a child is not at the age where they can supervise another they shouldn't be supervising themselves. >> you can make parentsir make money

making parents nervous. >> if they go outside the boundary you get a text alert notifying you. >> they are locked on the child. >> you can get something called tooth prints an impression you give your child they bite into it then you have an impression, a dental impression of your child that you can keep when they find your body and it is mangled beyond recognition. >> if you are concerned about risks don't ever put your kid in a car. >> right. driving is much more dangerous. >> the risk is greater if you do not raise your children to be independent to learn how to problem solve to learn how to make decisions on their own. >> the free range kids climb trees. >> a lot of parents think i am crazy. she might break her arm. >> she might. but on their own kids learn to -- >> run make them stronger in a

way that is very valuable ir feel. >> if a parents is saying that'sbe careful where you put your foot they don't get the experience of oh should i put my weight on this. >> what if the kids hurt themselves? >> they know not to do it next time. >> if you are a free range parents you still care as much about your children. >> amy graph rights the mommy files for the san francisco chronics. they are not going to make good choices. >> the risk is so low. >> i used to be kind of afraid then i realized there's not much to be really scared of. >> some kids don't have any of these experiences or basic response iblths. this mom will not let her 10-year-old hold a knife. >> i cut up his meat for him

still. >> i don't need it cut. >> you are i am not going to choke on it. >> the boy finally used the knife because he was a guest of lenore's tv show and lenore let him use it. >> there's an assumption any time a child is unsupervised they are in danger. >> she knows how to use the oven. she can make pancakes better than i can. >> i let her completely run lose in the kitchen. >> paris' friends envy her experiences. >> what do they say? >> oh that sounds so fun. >> the free range kids say they are more confident. >> you know where everything is. >> i like being free range adults. coming up the tiger mom and the most important things your kids need to succeed. >> if i ate 100 marshmallows i

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>> what is wussy about kindness? >> jen says what critics call wussification is just fine. >> if those are the qualifications of a wuss then jesus was the biggest wuss of our time. >> youth soccer leagues may require helmets. >> so what? if anything happened to my kid on the soccer field i couldn't live with myself. >> it's a spiritual awakening. a move to protect our kids from dangers like this motorcyclist. he takes his hands off the handlebars and lets his six-year-old steer. i like risk taking but this makes me cringe. the boy doesn't even wear

protective clothing. over people object to what this father does. >> you think you got what it takes? >> gavin mcginness posted this video titled how to fight a baby. >> 13 million people have watched this. it's not that funny. >> it must have struck a chord. >> studies show time and time again children benefit from rough housing. exercise a exhilarating you are physically bonding with their child and i can see with my own filed as a chair rents i can benefit from this. when you tell them to be scared and couldn't roughhouse them and don't touch you create an environment of fear. >> i don't find it funny. i don't think fighting a baby is a laughing matter. >> experts were quick to call gavin a bad parents. >> shaken baby syndrome happens exactly like this. >> gavin put his hands around

his neck i don't think that's fun any. >> just because it can lead to something serious doesn't mean we have to avoid it. when you say children avoid this and avoid that you are teaching a child to be scared of the universe. >> in regina beach canada a kid broke his leg playing in a tree. they demanded the tree to be chopped down. >> what's the matter with a broken leg? six weeks pretty girls sign your cast. >> my heart swells with pride my son has a cast on. >> they are little kids you want to protect them. >> that's true of about a ibbies. when they become little peel you have to teach them to be real people. >> we protect older kids by giving every child a trophy. >> proud of him real proud of him. >> when i was a kid trophies had meaning. you only got one of these if you were good at something.

these days we give them to everybody. >> if my kid played soccer everybody got a trophy. it made them happy. >> ashley merryman argues giving them a prize is bad for kids. >> i said it was good to praise kids. >> kids were told they are wonderful they are worried the next time they try something -- >> 40 years ago the idea of child rearing was self-esteem. they started a self-esteem task force. you are mocked by a cartoonist. make sure everyone feels good about themselves. the self-esteem movement was influential. parents were told avoid competition. competition is bad. the research is in. boosting self-esteem may be counter productive. it does not improve academic

form man's. >> they become more rez sent to try things in the future. they avoid a challenge instead of going there. >> she says trophies for all is a bad idea. >> i see people so upset about getting participation trophies they dumped them into a trash can and set them on fire. >> they were insulted. he knows that was pretty andit -- pity. >> what the self-esteem of the person who isn't as good. >> you are not as good. sorry. >> you are not as handsome as brad pitt. you are not as intelligent of the dude that can do pie at 3,000 decimal places. the best thing you can do is accept that and move on. >> parents tell me my kids worked really hard they went to practice every week. they didn't go to practice every

week you drove them. >> makers of trophies want more kids to get trophies. >> i used to joke there were trophies they i found out it was a $3 billion a year industry. >> they have lobbyists like the awards and recognition association that say things like... >> we really need to start encouraging parents to buy trophies every time they have a book. >> if you give a trophy to everybody it doesn't mean anything. >> she still holds on to a trophy she got when she was a kid. >> you don't know what it means to me? >> it meant i showed up and i finished something and accomplished something. it said i was funny, john. >> strike three you are out of there. >> sounds like billy crystal can't believe the way his grand kids are protected. >> it's okay. this is my dad. he is now here.

>> there are no outs in this game. >> how do we know who is winning? >> every game ends in a tie. >> sure enough many kids sports leagues now ban keeping score. >> turns out the kids keep score anyway? >> i don't even think it was a secret. >> you know who is the best reader in the class who is the best athlete. >> we don't worry about lying. >> color between the lines. >> what's the point of having lines? >> that's beau till. absolutely beautiful. i am on guard. >> what is calling a picasso do to a kid? >> studies show american kids do

have high self-esteem. they rank number one in self-esteem for men. >> how about you acknowledge what they did do well and what about the kids who did do that? how about anybody who was a shot and not know it. maybe a person who observes the ribbon the least needs it the most. >> we are talking about kids. >> that's what childhood is all about making mistakes learning to lose learning to fail. then i hope succeeding. parents push gender neutral parenting. >> he asked us am i a boy or a girl. i ask him do you feel more like a boy or more like a girl? >> questions? ps' colon health probiotic cap each day

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michael looks like a boy's boy but his mom says -- >> he loves to draw. he >> michael's mom and their friends make a concerted effort to parent their kids in a gender neutral way. >> they have dolls along with the truck and balls they bring out nurturing. >> we ask the boys. >> you like golf? >> some families now give their kids gender neutral names. some of the kids make up their own world. >> they are in a storm what they are calling gender free. >> there's gender free gernd neutral transgender. >> more? >> yes. we have gender fluid gender creative gender independent. >> education professor meyers says teachers don't treat kids boys, girls. she raises her own son.

>> he asked us am i a boy or a girl. i ask him do you feel more like a boy or more like a girl. he said i feel like a boy. then we are going to call you a boy unless at any point you feel like something different. >> how is this parenting working out? >> we were at the playground he said mama this playground is for everybody girls can play girlsboys can play transgender kids can play. >> it sounds like propaganda garbage you indoctrinated him with. >> doctor sax says it. >> they are making the notion that in order to ensure equal opportunity put our heads in the sand. >> she asked her son, do you feel more like a boy or a girl? she says this is how gender should be assessed the unintended message the boys and girls are hearing is that hey the grown-ups they have no idea

what actually matters to us. the result is gender connecticut fusion. oo -- confusion. >> you think they are confused? >> they know who they are and they are going to tell you who they are. >> assuming it is a texas society. they can internalize doors and they know what it should be. it is not something biological or predetermined. >> it is biological. most people do like the more active violent sports. >> there are average tendencies that doesn't mean most. >> aren't most boys different from most girls? >> i would disagree. >> i once believed that but then i had kids. my wife didn't allow my son to have toy guns. he made guns out of carrots. >> it is true. my son likes to turn everything into a gun or shooting mechanism

no matter how hard i discourage it. >> doesn't discourage it the doctors say. >> if a son jumps up behind the couch bang bayingng you are dead and she reprimands him. i love you i wish you weren't into violent games. the result is boys who are looking to the internet and getting their ideas in masculinity from that. >> which is probably not a good thing given what is on the internet. to reduce the influence of sexist culture sweden bushes toy ads that are gender neutral. girls play with guns and boys happily iron clothing. >> boys want to vacuum and iron and -- >> if that's what speaks to them it is fun and entertaining. >> ab by lynn is proposing to make all single stall rest rooms gender neutral. >> the latest trends in hollywood on college campuses is get rid of the boy girl label. but science shows most people

are not gender neutral. >> what happens when you ask girls amgd boys to draw whatever they want? girls draws people, pets, flowers and trees. the people have eyes mouth hair. >> doesn't matter where the girl is from it is done in america africa. thailand, japan. the results are similar. here's a japanese girl's picture and an american girl. >> the great majority of boys are drawing something profoundly different. they are drawing seenscenes of action. >> maybe they draw different blaze the been exposed to sexist parents and sexist societies that lead them to do this. >> that's exactly what i learned when i was earning my ph.d. in psychology 30 years ago then researchers got the right idea. >> we have got three different studies now. humans the mails want to play with the truck. because it has wheels. it goes kaboom.

>> movement>> girl monkeys prefer to play with the doll. these differences are clearly hard wired not socially constructed because they are found in four prime mat species. >> feminist professors still teach gender differences are exaggerated. >> some of this is anti science propaganda from you people. >> gender differences are quite small. >> some people feel these approaches are extreme because they are very uncomfortable with em this. it takes their world. >> yeah it stakes mine because i think it is mostly i don't think. next a woman who says more moms should be as tough as my mom was. the will for that people say things like... >> she is the worst person ever born.

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out a lot of people. extreme parenting. >> they were upset about the woman who called herself tiger mom. >> surprising details of her parenting methods called point of controversy. >> controversy because of her strict rules. >> daughters were not allowed to attend a sleep over have a play date, be in a school play. complain about not being in the play, watch tv or play computer games. >> right. >> this seems mean. >> i don't think so at all. i think that the message is i believe in you. you are capable of so much more than you realize and if you just stop whining and don't give up and don't make excuses you can do anything you want in your life. ♪>> to two daughters that she forced them to practice violin and piano for hours. >> kids have to practice two, three, four, five hours a day. i think for a lot of normal american parents that is

inconceivable. >> her kids excel. here they are at ages 11 and 14 performing at a grownup concert. >> one daughter also excelled in it tennis. at school the other made valedictorian. the tiger mom's book got lots of criticism. she doesn't let kids make their own decisions. >> a manual for parents who want to systematically weed out any genuine interest or passion for life. >> the dream is if you give them a clarinet amazing sounds pop out. you give them a piece of paper string theory will come out. before you can invent string theory or invent the theory of relativity you need to be able to multiply very well. >> where is childhood? >> we want our children to be happy. it is not the secret to happiness to do whatever you want enjoy yourself. >> you called your daughter

garbage once. >> i mentioned this at a dinner party several people walked out. >> you are destroying your child's spirit. >> to me the message is i think you are better than that. i think you should hold yourself to a higher standard. honestly parents these days are so terrified of making their children feel bad. >> maybe for good reason. everyone knows asians are more likely to commit suicide. except what everyone knows is wrong. >> asian americans actually have among the lowest suicide rates of any group. >> it is true. the asian suicide rate is half that of the general population. maybe tiger moms are better at ensuring self esteem. >> it doesn't have true confidence. true self-esteem has to be earned. >> asian americans are more likely to be tiger moms and

that's why they have better scores and education. any parent can do it but certain immigrant groups jews, cubans nigerians and others are more likely to instill values in kids that lead to success. >> tiger mom is back with a despicable new theory of racial superiority. >> it is racism. >> it seems to be racially charged. >> she is the worst person ever born. >> it's not race and genetics. >> nigerian americans are amazing examples less than one percent of america's black population they made up a quarter of harvard business school's black students. it's something about culture and how they are raised and expectations. you know the secret of success. it's three things.

>> the first is exceptionality. we call it superiority complex. the second element is a dash of insecurity. i am not quite good enough yet. >> it is contradictory. superiority complex insecurity. >> steve jobs is a perfect example. he has such a superiority complex. all of the friends described him as deeply insecure. that's what creates this kind of chip on the shoulder this golden feeling like i need to show everybody. i need to prove myself. the third element is impulse control. >> they won't bring rewards for years. >> chinese immigrant parents forced their preschool children to do one hour a day. >> that could be reading drawing, doing something with no distractions. the one hour on average a day compared to just six minutes a

day. >> it is the creativity that leads to innovation. tech entrepreneurs who invented so many cool things. >> i hear many are college gropouts not studious kids raised by tiger moms. >> these are not kids drilled not kids raised by tiger moms. you are programming the kids. >> they are immigrant or immigrant children and triple package groups. >> co founded google. chief chen, youtube. jerry ng yang yahoo. >> it's the parent's job to give them the tool to give them the ability to focus on something so when they can find their passion they can do something with it. >> you had nasty fights with the girls. >> incredibly nasty especially with my younger daughter.

she refused to do she was stomping off i said get back to my piano. >> we drove and drove and it wasn't that pleasant. suddenly after an hour and a half her two hands came together. she realized it at the same time i did and after that she refused to leave the feepiano. she told me i remember that moment. i think that is a life lesson that lasts forever. >> they say thanks. i am glad you did this stuff? >> you would be surprised. >> would we? we will find out when we return.

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what's the biggest predictor of success in life? brains, rich parents, good looks? none of those say the experts. the biggest predictor is can you delay gratification. >> marshmallow for you, you can wait and get another one if you wait. or you can eat now. >> it smells yummy.

really good. >> can he stand to wait to eat it? this is an experiment that's been tried in many forms with many kids. but the idea is always the same. test whether a child will eat the candy now or get twice as much if he can wait 15 minutes. as you see here most kids can not wait. only about a third were able to delay. often distracting themselves by looking away. but about a third were able to wait 15 minutes. >> how did you do? >> and earn the extra candy. >> you want to eat it. but i told you i would give you another one. >> the first group of kids who took this te they were followed and tested years later. the kids who didn't itamar-mellows had sat scores 200 points higher. >> 13 mounts higher on average they were happier healthier. >> the kids who successfully delayed gratification at this age do much better later in life

not just better in school but make more money, happier better relationships and less likely to get into trouble. the kids who ate the . >> the kids behaved the same way north american kids do. look at this girl. he's actually hype ventilateing. he wants the marshmallows badly. >> they could not wait, not even ten second. >> it doesn't mean he'll fail in life, but the researchers say it does mean he's more likely to struggle. >> you teach them skills that would take them to a position that they know they have to work hard and persevere to get

whatever they want to get in life. >> we all have marshmallow that is we want now, but some of us have learned to wait. >> reporter: susan meryl runs the parenting situate imom. >> you want to buy something, save your money, it's yours. >> and seeing the money in the jars reminded them to wait. >> it's a really good for them to see that money grow. they get into it. >> it doesn't need to be money. >> prizes privileges or price. >> when her kids wanted something, they could have it, but only after they spent a while doing something that was hard for them. >> megan was potty training. she wanted this doll. i said megan, three days staying dry, you're going to get that doll. >> she could look at the doll.

>> but he couldn't have it. >> what if the child demands the doll right now and throws a fit. it's important to not give into a tantrum. this commercial the boy wants a bag of chips right now. instead of giving in mom imitates him. >> she looks at him like, no. he's embarrassed. he puts the chips back and that was that. >> what's the moral. >> you can really work with your kid. i think sometimes parents are too busy to be consistent. or they're too fearful their child is not going to like them. >> lead by example because it's not what you teach, it's how they see you behave. you teach a child they should save money for a rainy day. so they should see you save money. >> finally, kids will only learn

to wait if they see that delaying gratification leads to something good. parents must follow through, do what they say. >> this means you have to keep promises. >> if parents don't keep promises, kids are less able to wait for a reward. researchers first promised kids if you wait for me to get the other room, you could have your big surprise instead. >> but then they break their promise. once the prmomise was broken kid were much more likely to eat the marshmallow. if you delay gratification you'll get something better the promise had been broken. >> if the parent is not consistent, then the child will not trust that they will get what is promised. we do this as moms all the time. mom, will you come play with me?

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they hate you? >> i'll totally tiger mommy kids. >> her little sister was less enthusiastic. >> it had its ups and downs. i remember being pulled out of school to practice for hours a day. >> she'd just began her freshman year at harvard. her older sister goes here too. >> i hotelly lytotally loved being raised by my mom. >> she wants to get the top score. so she works out often. >> as a girl it's important to not just meet the zardsstandards, but to exceed them. >> kids raised by regular parents don't have the drive. >> going to college was just to see how many amazing brilliant people would encounter an obstacle and just be like i can't do this. and i can't do this is genuinely

a feeling i've never had. >> most of us hope our kids have that feeling. some of it just exists in human they nature. kids maybe want to test themselves. even if they fall, they try and try again. many parents want to protect them from falling, but protection has a downside. >> when you create an environment free of risk, what you're doing is leaving a child vulnerable. >> because being able to fall and recover is useful in life. >> i work with young people today and when they hit conflict, they have a meltdown. >> because they've been protected as babies. >> yes. if you fire someone who's 22 today, it's not unusual for him or her to trash the place screaming and then have their parents call.

the sad reality is you get slapped in the face all the time. you've got to get tough. >> not too tough but enough freed to let them learn on their own helps them grow up. that's our show. thanks for watching. it's brand new year and the president says he's actually going to work with congress in 2015. wonder how long before he breaks his resolution. >> and some prisoners released from gitmo. all of that and an important announce announcements that you don't want to miss tonight. and welcome from the fox news studios in new york. the front page of friday's new york journal was