>> cheryl: welcome to "beyond the headlines." i'm cheryl jennings, today we're talking about the boomerang generation, a new wave of college graduates that are moving back home with their parents. according done to a poll in may

of 2011, 40% of american adults ages 18-39 live with mom or dad. one of the reasons is the high cost of going to college. students are $950 billion in loans. that is more the entire credit card debt in this country. students are angry and frustrated. >> it was this graduate, nearly $25,000 in debt, just getting started, paying it off. this graduate, $78,000 in debt will never end. this young woman, $100,000 in debt moved back home. actually graduated from ut austin, she pays $750 a month, that is why she is back with the family dog. the dad, back with mom, just like she used to asks her if she will be home at decent hour. one recent survey revealed 85%

saying they would be moving back home. 5.9 million young adults now live at home, up 25% in the last four years. >> you can talk to people of this generation who find themselves in a place they never expected to be. four, five, six years out of school and back in the bedroom they had in high school. >> the amount of students is up dramatically, tuition is up dramatically. >> you are seeing a tremendous debt that weighs down the young people. especially in an economy like this where so many are having trouble beginning a career. >> cheryl: joining us is dr. joshua coleman. the boomerang generation for beam that don't understand it? >> it's young adults that left home and living with the parents once again. >> what do you think of that?

>> it doesn't matter what i think, it what actually happens, most of them are doing for financial reasons. we're living in a worst recession we have ever. they are high school graduates or never gone to high school. it's a tough environment out there. >> when they come back home, it's got to be tough. when i moved out of the house, i was not to go back home. i would starve and i did. but i found ways to support myself but that is not in the picture anymore? >> it is for some, but what has happened, parents have put a lot more energy into their children. we care about what our kids think. we're better communicators as parents. what is better relationships between young adults.

for my kids, your children, too, it may not seem such a terrible idea because there was better relationship with them. >> it's still different when you go back home. parents have rules. my house had rules. >> absolutely. >> how do you adjust with that? >> everybody has to be pro-active. adult child has to talk about expectations are, adults have to talk about expectations, what are the responsibilities going to be. you can't move and expected the way it was when you were 13. you have to participate like a roommate. more pro-active the better it is going to go. it's hard to have the conversations. but it's good to know the kid. highly responsible kid, take off again, you might not have to have the conversation but for other kids you might have to. >> cheryl: is this something that is part of the perception or is something here to stay?

>> i doubt it's here to stay. historically in downturns it's much more likely that family members move in together. we're seeing siblings moving in together. so the economic hardships is causing the families to pull together. >> cheryl: young adults move back into the house and parents can't quite let go, how does it affect the young people moving back home? >> it's a mix. some parents are actually aren't aren't wild about them moving in but others like it. they give mixed messages. you have to be mindful about what your own messages are and make it clear. >> cheryl: then i have the issue of mom and dad wanting to give you advice. >> that is true. that is kind of an issue.

technically they are adults. i think parents have to be mindful and not give too much advice. f you are not the parent of a young child anymore. >> cheryl: any thoughts how to coexist? >> i think being pro-active and talking about resentments coming up, what the ground rules are going to be. keeping current in your conversation. the more they can be appreciative about what the role is going to be. >> cheryl: thank you, doctor. we do have to take a break. we're going to be back with more about the boomerang generation. stay with us.

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parents to support their children, 26% have taken on debt. 13% have delayed plans for a major life event such as getting remarried or buying a home. 7% have delayed retirement. here to talk about how parents are coping with boomerang kids, dr. christine carter? >> in fact it is. >> cheryl: the whole boomerang thing with parents, their kids say i need to move back home. how do parents react to that? >> first advice to react with compassion. a lot of different feelings might come up. parents may feel they have failed when their kids say they need to move back home. this is a part of much larger economic trend and bring the

context into it. it's not a failure on the part of children. it's a situation that requires some compassion. >> cheryl: you think the parents feel a little guilty then? >> a lot of negative things may come up for parents, especially if they weren't planning on it. they invested a lot in their college education and they have kids coming back home taking on more debt. so it's really important for parents to move beyond those negative feelings. >> cheryl: some parents are more authoritative and some are not. which style works? somebody has to set the ground rules. >> right we are a more permissive generation parents so some authoritativeness could be very helpful for adult children. authoritativeness is warmth, support which you would be doing

already, but also structure. setting ground rules. >> cheryl: something that the kids might think they should do, they should be thankful for one thing. >> it's an interesting thing. this generation of kids tend to be more entitled than grateful. they may my less grateful but we know it's important within the household is to have routine gratitude practices so you are naming things that you are feel thankful for. that will bring happiness to the parents and to the adult children. that gratitude is going to make them on more positive and in fates of a difficult situation. that is going to make living with their parents a little easier. it's also going to make it easier if you are out looking for a job. >> cheryl: i know some parents that have done this, when the

kids move back home, they do everything for them. they do the laundry, the shopping and kids do nothing. these are adult children. >> right. that is -- these are adults, they need to learn how to live on their own. support them in the financial crisis, if that what it is dus does not mean to do everything for them. they are not entitled to your service. they will feel better about themselves if they are contributing members of the household. >> cheryl: how do you say that without causing a fight? >> i think most adult children will welcome that kind of responsibility because they don't want to see themselves like that. most people want to feel confident and able to contribute not just to the household but to their society. so when you say i'm so glad you are here. this is a wonderful opportunity for us. one great thing for me is you

are going to be taking on some of the burdens of the household. >> cheryl: what are the tips you would give? >> my first tip would be to the parents. take care of their own happiness first. we see a radiant happiness in people who are empty nesters and then their empty nest going away. i want these parents to look why they were happy when they had an empty nest and what now might be disruptive. you might find you have more time for exercise when they leave or less stressed. don't let those go away. your happiness is going to affect everybody's else's life. take care of yourself first. >> cheryl: thank you very much.

we do have to take another break. when we come back. we're going to hear about how one university's career center handles this growing trend of the boomerang generation. stayh us.

>> cheryl: welcome back. the unemployment rate has been the highest since world war ii and college costs are rising every day. no wonder our college graduates are moving back at home with mom and dad. joining us in the studio is cheryl allmen, director of the career center at san jose state university. when you are talking about some of the reasons young adults move back home. it's more, they have to live with the parents sometimes? >> right in this

multigenerational environment. there are multigenerations going on. it's not unusual for some students and some graduates to go back home. i would expect it. >> cheryl: you work with helping them place in jobs. do they have illusions getting a job right out 6 college? >> i think the students that have gone on internship. they are more aware of the marketplace. for the students that started early, let's say six to nine months early, they have gotten a part-time job in their freshman year. as it gets closer to graduation time for internship, if they have done things well they are better position. if they have gotten involved in some of the professional organizations or some of the

programs on campus so they hear from employers what the market is like. they have much more realistic picture in the job market. >> cheryl: so $60,000 job won't come right away. >> the majority are pretty realistic. they understand what it is going to take to get that job. it's actually a full-time job looking for a job. >> cheryl: it is. how do they keep going? >> they can negotiate that. many of the courses are project involved. looking for a job is getting to know people in the field so you are little more understanding what the marketplace is like. >> cheryl: how important are the

internships? >> extremely important. we recommend students start with internship as early as you can. the internship has various definitions but basically getting some experience in the field that you really are very interested in. some are paid, some are not paid in some cases some start out as a part-time job and evolve into something. sometimes there is credit for it >> cheryl: is there a way students can make the move back home if they apply themselves to everything? >> if you start early, you get involved with professional groups, you go to employer presentations, get a part-time job. you work with projects in your

field. you are setting up for a more successful job prospects. >> cheryl: do you think it's a bad thing to move back home? >> absolutely not. sometimes they mature a little more. in some cases you need some time to focus on the job and not worry about working and not worry about what your friends are going to say. >> cheryl: that is probably the biggest thing. thank you so much. great advice. we do have to take another break. when we come back, we'll talk to students what they think of the boomerang generation. don't go away.

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generation. according to a census, number of adult children living at home has grown about 7% since 2000. here in the studio from san jose state university are aryton oliver and daniel newell. let me start with you. you were going to school first time and not? >> are you thinking about moving back home? >> i am considering moving back home. its definitely reality for students today, the job market how it is. i do not plan staying at home. in the previous segment moving home is a launching pad. that is how i view it. >> cheryl: your parents would let you? >> my mom would be excited. >> and would you be more like a roommate or do house rules? >> it would definitely be house rules. i would function more as a

roommate, having a college degree, i would have to contribute something economically toward the bills and so forth. >> cheryl: speaking of economics you perform a unique service, tell me about what it is in addition going to school? >> i am a job marketing specialist. i develop job opportunities for students. i develop a lot of opportunities as entry level to full time careers. >> cheryl: give us an example? >> seasonal contracts, temporary something to get their foot in the door that can lead to full-time employment. >> it was this created because of the recession? >> that was a piece of it. because of the economic downturn rising student tuition and the need for jobs and increased debt. so at the from we reacted to that. my role used to be internship but we need more than just

internships, we need several kinds of channels through employment. so they created my role. last year we developed about 13,000 positions. >> cheryl: 13,000 positions? >> 13,000 at the university career center. those are paid positions, with about $140 million made available in income. >> cheryl: how did you get that funded? was eight combination of grants? >> i believe it was funded through financial aid. >> cheryl: you also work at the center? >> actually got the job the work that daniel is doing. it's called starter jobs. a job database where students can search for part-time positions on campus. i have two positions in o campus. >> cheryl: you have two positions? >> two part-time jobs.

>> cheryl: and you guys carry a heavy load. we're trying to help people understand why a young people moving back home and it's okay with them. some have to go and some don't. what would be like for you? >> for me, if i had to move back home, actually my mom would love it. so it's not a negative scene. my mom would love for me to back home. >> cheryl: with all this going going on, what do your friends say? >> they understand the job market. they understand the economy is how it is. they see their moving home as a stepping stone, just a necessary step on the path to their career. >> cheryl: it's not something that would affect your self-esteem at all? >> from what i gather, i don't

understand as taking a blow to their self-esteem. no, just looking as something you have to do. >> cheryl: are there other services that are available? >> yes. so part of my role is to help businesses to connect with students. this generation needs several channels to employment. they are very active online. using facebook, twitter and in addition to those channels tluid employment we also provide services such as job fairs. and a program where business can come in and i do pre-screening. for that duration we can send them students and give them interviews. last week i got 30 students, i had hundred. i had 60 scheduled interviews

and first wave of them will start work on december 12. >> cheryl: that is unbelievable. congratulations to both of you here. great work. i wish you all the success in the world. thanks for the program at the college. that is huge. unfortunately we are out of time. a big special thank you for all of our guests. we have information about all of our guests available on our website at abc7news.com you can find us on facebook at abc7 community affairs and f you can follow me on twitter. i'm cheryl jennings. have a great week. bye for now. 8t8t8teñxñxñxñxñrtrs