♪ >> hi, everyone. i'm lizzie bermudez. welcome to "bay area life," the place where lifestyle, interests, food, and entertainment all come together. there's so much to explore. on today's show, we're all about rejuvenation and motivation. we start off with the ultimate spa experience, just a car ride away. >> whether you want to come here with a group of girlfriends and have a getaway spa day, or you're just coming by yourself, you have a lot of different options. >> then, breaking down barriers in silicon valley. >> it's really important for early talent to know that their career path is possible. >> and the perfect getaway to san juan bautista. >> this truly is a california hidden gem. >> all of this fun driven by your northern california honda dealers. ♪ ♪ >> we made the beautiful drive up to the capay valley, and now

it's time to see what this area has to offer. if you're looking for a day of relaxation and pampering, like me, then cache creek casino resort is the perfect place, and it's great timing because they have an all-new spa. let's go inside and check out what unique experiences this spa has to offer. ♪ ♪ >> the spa is just a sign of things to come, as we're undergoing a multimillion-dollar expansion. so, we're going from 200 hotel rooms to ultimately 659 hotel rooms, which will make us the largest in our market. it's a big move for us, but it's much overdue. we've had so much pent-up demand from our guests, who want to be able to stay in this beautifulor them the opportunity to do that, play some of their favorite slot and table games. >> talk about the experience when guests come here. what do they expect? >> it's all about the experience, and we hear that more and more from people these

days, right? they're paying for experiences and not for things. and that's exactly what you get when you come here. and whether you're looking for an experience that entertains or rejuvenates, we have a little something for everyone, and that's why we're here at the spa today, which is so exciting for us. what i love about the space is how elegant it is and timeless. i think that this is truly a spa that whether you visit it today or five years from now, you will still have the same "wow" experience when you walk through the doors. really, every detail has been paid attention to, with regards to what the guest experience is going to be when they come here. i haven't seen any other spas like this in the northern california market, and i love going to spas. so, i think that this is truly unique in terms of when you come here, whether you want to come here with a group of girlfriends and have a getaway spa day or you're just coming by yourself. you have a lot of different options with how you can experience the spa. >> this is a full-service spa, so, you can get the works. >> correct. we have facials. we have a full-service salon, as well. so, you can have color

treatments, haircuts, mani-pedi, whatever you're interested in, all the way up to massage, facial scrubs, body scrubs, and we also have some really unique treatments that you can't find in a lot of other spas, like the much-coveted hydrofacial. ♪ >> we're here with brian epps. he's the vice president of hotel operations for cache creek resort, and this beautiful, new spa -- we just got a sneak peek -- tell me about it. >> we're a 4-diamond resort, aaa 4-diamond resort. and so, there's a level of expectation with that. and so, all of the finishes that you'll find here are very high-end. all the furniture is custom-made, high-end fabrics, high-end wall coverings. we have 54 different types of tile in here. we just like having these detailed, dramatic features to add more ambience and elegance to the space. it's more of a boutique experience, and i think that everybody that comes here will enjoy having sort of a residential feel and comfort level within the space.

we're in one of the ladies' wet area right now. we expanded this greatly. what's behind us here is the himalayan rock-salt wall. so, this gives us a nice, relaxing area. and the heated loungers here... >> yes! >> ...ladies can sit and enjoy. we added more treatment rooms. we went from 5 to 11, which includes 2 couples' massage rooms. we also have these private seating vignettes, as well, which can accommodate two people. one of the things i wanted to do was create private space within public space. so, in our relaxation areas, we have these little seating vignettes that you can pull a drape, and you can sit there by yourself and enjoy refreshments, read a book, just totally unwind. and so, yeah, we're really proud about how we created the space for sight lines and created some privacy, because i've been to spas before where you sit in a big room, and you're all staring at each other in your robes. it's a little awkward. so, we've eliminated that here. >> all right, so, of course, i had to experience the spa for myself. >> hi, aubrey. good afternoon. i'm carrie. >> nice to meet you.

>> good. i'll be doing your treatments today. shall we go back and get you ready? >> great! >> okay, follow me. your robe. >> awesome. thank you. ♪ >> hi, aubrey. follow me this way. >> okay. >> okay, aubrey, i want you to take a few deep breaths for me. ♪ >> this is so relaxing. now it's time for my facial. ♪ >> helps keep the skin exfoliated and hydrated. ♪ >> after your treatments, thisee so, i think i'm just gonna hang out here and call it a day. >> coming up, the passion behind one woman's drive for success.

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♪ >> one woman is paving the way for females in the tech industry. her name is jenny dearborn, and she's inspiring women in the bay area and beyond. ♪ >> ever since i was a small girl, we were raised to give back to the community. that's just sort of the natural rhythm and cadence of our family.

so it's always very natural for me to extend, you know, those habits into my own life as an adult. so, when i was 18, i was diagnosed with acute dyslexia, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, and obsessive-compulsive disorder. overall, i had a great childhood, but school was hard. and you just sort of put it in a box, and you say, "okay, these are going to be the miserable eight hours every day," and then you just kind of try and forget it, was when you walk away. you know, a lot of teasing and bullying from peers and teachers and administrators who said, "you'll never amount to anything." you know, you internalize it. you think they're right. it shaped me tremendously. it created a resilience and a grit in me and a determination that nothing is going to hold me down, that i can overcome anything that is put in front of me. i mean, it made me stronger. today, i am senior vice president, chief learning officer at sap. sap has almost 90,000 employees

worldwide, so globally i'm responsible for talent strategy, talent management, learning development, leadership strategy, succession planning, a lot of the functions around the movement and the development of people after they are employed. that's an important part of my job, is nurturing early talent, especially female talent. it's really important for early talent to see a role model, to see it in action, to know that their career path is possible. >> jenny inspires and motivates people on all types of levels. and she really engages with them on a personal level to see if she can produce an opportunity or give, shed some tips and tricks on how to further your development, further your career, whether it's in your life or at work. and i think people take it to heart and are able not only to see the force that is jenny, that she's paving all these roads, that she's breaking glass ceilings and driving initiatives

that have to do with people's everyday work and life but also see her on a personal level and make that connection between an executive and someone who may actually care about every type of person. >> role model in general is important, but it's even more important that it's a female role model, especially in silicon valley, especially in tech. i mean, there's plenty communicated about how tough it is for women in silicon valley and the nature of the culture and the nature of the challenges here, so it's really important to be very visible for the female early talent to let them know that breaking through that glass ceiling is possible for women here in the tech industry. and i think that as women, we get very caught up in our... in serving others, serving our boss, our company, our family. it is very natural, unfortunately, for women to sort of put themselves last in their to-do list of everything that they have to get done in a day. you really need to focus on yourself and not just let your

career kind of happen haphazardly. don't just plan for your next job, but plan for your job after that and how will your next step help you get to the one after that. ♪ >> a warm welcome to our own jenny dearborn. she is the chief learning officer at sap, senior vice president. she is the pride@sap executive sponsor, and she is an author. so, a couple of years ago, jenny raised her hand and said she wanted to become the executive sponsor for the pride network, our global lgbt organization. she took it on with flying colors. she managed to make so many changes for us since then that it's... she's made all the difference. >> it really sort of stems from a position of wanting to give a voice and share power to a group that is historically underprivileged and disenfranchised. >> she has made a difference just by seeing us and by making our struggle for

equality in the workplace around the world -- make it really matter. >> i grew up in a big family, and there was a lot of competition, and anytime you wanted to assert yourself, the retort was, "prove it." and so this obsession with data started early. i need data. so my first book, "data driven," came out in 2015. it was number seven out of 11,000 business books, so we're very pleased with how well that did. the second book is called "the data driven leader," and that comes out november of 2017. and that's specifically about how to pull all the big data within a corporation and apply analytical models to that data set to be able to improve the performance of leaders and leadership specifically. i just feel incredibly blessed with opportunities and the second chances i've got. i've had so many second chances, and i am so thankful for the people that have found me and helped me and mentored me

and picked me out of a crowd and said, "you have talent. you can do more." they made me see things in myself i didn't know were there. and i just feel such an obligation to pay it forward. >> coming up, aubrey gives us a tour of the charming town of san juan bautista. >> it really is like you've just entered an entirely different dimension. come to the nationwide for low-price leader.tone, floor and decor. the prices are the lowest you will find.

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>> hey, everyone. we're all over the bay area, and right now we're headed to our next stop in the 2019 honda civic. and i'm feeling mighty comfortable. it has heated seats for both the front and the rear passengers. how's it going back there? >> great! >> imagine getting away from it all and slowing it down for a few days. you can here in san juan bautista, a charming, historic city with a famous mission and a main street straight out of the old west. best of all -- it's just outside the bay area. it's time to get out of town. ♪ san juan bautista is a small, historic town with a thriving art, food, and antiques scene, and it's surrounded by beautiful rolling hills and agricultural fields. it's a popular destination for everyone, from cyclists to motorcyclists and people just looking to get away from it all. we had a chance to visit. first stop -- a look at the fresh produce you can find in

the area. so, we're here at phil foster ranch. phil, tell me about this farm -- what you guys have here. >> we've been growing here since 1993, and we've been farming in this area since 1988. we've been certified organic for 28 years. we're mixed vegetable and tree fruits, so some of the varieties, we grow trees -- apples, cherries, pears, figs, walnuts -- and then mixed vegetable, we probably do 40 or 50 different varieties throughout the year. this is a great area for growing a large variety and year-round production. >> after picking up some amazing miiollery inchecked out the arts san juan bautista. thanks for having us. tell me about the gallery. >> well, we've been here for 18 years in san juan bautista, in this location, and throughout that time, we've evolved into a gallery that specialized in original prints -- etchings, engravings, wood-block prints. we have a lot of linocuts, a lot

of different artists, all living artists, because we like to keep the old printmaking methods going. frequently we'll have artists here from different countries that they'll come and they'll demonstrate for us. people don't often get to see how these things are made. ♪ >> tell me where we are and a little bit about the history of this. >> well, welcome. my name is cesar flores, and you are at the home of el teatro campesino, the farmworkers' theater, and it started in 1965 with cesar chavez. and we have progressed -- actually, we came here to san juan bautista in 1971. we've been here ever since. >> what goes on here, and what's the future of el teatro? >> well, the future is now. i mean, we have a different set of young people that are now the core of the company. we are the old-timers, you know? we set it up, made it happen.

now they've come in, and they're taking it over, and they're taking it to the next step. you know, they're using their young minds and their whole media thing and doing whole new shows, but still based on social justice, because that's our main struggle. >> san juan bautista also has lots of antiques stores. so, tell me about your business here in san juan bautista. >> well, we've been in san juan bautista for 11 years now. >> well, how do antiques fit into this town? >> well, as far as i know, this town has been an antiquing town for over 50 years, 'cause we just had -- i think it was our 53rd antique fair in august, so we have it every august. this year it's the second sunday of august. so, it's been known for antiques for a long time. >> well, mrs. b, tell me about your store here in san juan bautista. >> back in 1998, my husband and we had a trucking business for 38 years and wanted to get out of dodge, so we came down here,

and people kept asking what i was wearing, 'cause i never owned a pair of trousers until i moved here. [ both chuckle ] and that's how i got started -- just people asking me what i was wearing. >> oh! so, it looks an influencer, a style-setter. >> i try to be. this building has been a lot of things -- a gun shop, a bakery. i like the old west. i've always liked westerns, and this is the perfect theme town. and, see, your hair is your glory, your hat is your crown, and we're all royalty. >> i need a hat. ♪ coming up, we'll go inside one of california's most famous missions.

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growing up in san jose, i remember my first visit to san juan bautista for our 4th-grade mission field trip. and you know what? it's great to be back to see it all again. >> san juan bautista state historic park was the crossroads of california. so, it was home to, basically, the four peoples of california. so, here you would discover the native american people, who lived on this site, the spanish missionaries over at the catholic mission, mexican ranchers who lived in one of our historic adobe structures, and early american settlers who came during the gold rush. this is the last remaining spanish plaza. what that means is over 200 years ago, during the missions system, each mission would have had a square or a plaza where the future town would have developed next to the mission. this is the last remaining one. all the other ones have been lost to time. one of the neat things about the mission of san juan bautista, since they've had a continuous catholic presence on that site, when the current mission was completed in 1812, that mission has been maintained for the last 200 years.

and when you walk into their sanctuary today -- it's still an active church -- you get to actually see the original altar wall from the early 1800s that was built by the spanish missionaries, but the entire mission was built by hand by the native people of this land. we have -- one of the highlights of one of the buildings in the state historic park is the plaza hotel. this hotel was a luxury hotel. it would cost you $2.50 a night to stay in their hotel. so, of course, if you're getting the really great accommodations, you're gonna have a saloon, so you can walk right into the saloon to the actual, original bar, and order a root beer and a sarsaparilla. ♪ if you want to stay overnight here in san juan bautista, there are some great options. so, tell me where we are. >> this is hacienda de léal. this is our first boutique hotel. we purchased the property about three years ago and went through a complete remodel, so now we are a spanish-inspired hacienda. we also own a vineyard in town, so we do make all of our own wine here in san benito county,

and we actually have a small vineyard that we planted here at the hotel. with that, we offer different amenities to our gues shuttle service. we can tour them into town, take them over to see the mission, and go shopping into the towns. ♪ >> tell me a little bit about the history of the hotel. >> the history of the hotel? well, the history was it was built 25 years ago for my grandfather raf lopez. and it was designed and built by his own bare hands, his own vision, and it was built with a small amount of people -- my family members. >> well, how did he even get the idea to build here in san juan bautista? >> the reason why we're in san juan bautista is because on his honeymoon night with my grandmother, they were driving from big sur back to santa clara, where they lived, and they stopped in san juan bautista, looking for lodging, but there was nowhere to go. so, what did he do? he promised her that he would build her a hotel. he said, "maria, i'm gonna build you a hotel one day." and that's exactly what he did. he built her a hotel. >> and even as a young child, you had a hand in putting this place together. >> yes. luckily, yeah, i was.

there's a lot of photos that i'm uncovering now that i'm going through all the files of me, 5 years old, with a little hammer, and my grandfather looking over me, teaching me how to swing a hammer. >> and right now we're standing in the lobby of the la posada hotel, and talk about some of the features here. when someone walks in, what are they gonna see? >> they're gonna see a lot of woodwork. my grandfather loved wood. that was his main thing. you're gonna see the tile. the tile was brought from mexico. he went there with my uncles and hand-picked it himself. >> so, you have recently taken over. >> yes, i have. i got a phone call about a year ago today from my godmother, which is one of the owners, saying, "son, i need your help." and i didn't even ask her what we were doing. i said, "i'll be there. what do you need?" she was like, "we're taking over the hotel." i was like, "oh, man. we're taking over the hotel? all right. i'll still be there." her and my grandfather built it. now me and her are gonna take it to tve >> sanua very special. i belong here. i've got a feeling that i belong

here. we belong here. >> it's a good day trip, for sure, for anybody who just wants to just get away. >> as a farmer, it's just a fabulous area to grow in. >> it really is like you've just mension. >> this truly is a california hidden gem. ♪ >> bye-bye. >> there's so much to explore, so we'll be back with more stories to share. in the meantime, we want to hear from you. so, send us your favorite pictures, videos, and places in the bay area. all this fun driven by your northern california honda dealers. for more information on the vehicle featured in this episode, visit norcalhondadealers.com. ♪ ♪

advi -- and powerful voice. >> i like people to see you for who you are. >> now in the fifth season of her tlc award winning show "i am jazz", she's more candid than ever. >> there is a boy in the picture now. >> amir gets me. >> have you kissed him yet? >> yes, i kissed him a lot. >> on the verge of adulthood, the trans advocate opening up about the twists and turns leading into her final steps of gender confirmation surgery. >> if you are one pound short we'll have to push surgery back. >> let's just do the damn thing. >> a life changing procedure for years was just a dream. >> when i was two years old i went up to my mom and asked her when is the good fairy going to come and with her magic wand and

change my -- into a vagina. >> you were two. >> yeah. >> she was just dayed away from undergoing the final transition surgery. >> i would say this is the final step of transitioning. >> a procedure that in her case refashions male genitalia into the female equivalent. >> this is really the last thing that will val dade -- valid ate my identity as a woman. there is nothing else like this. i get to be in the body in the way i wanted and live my life as just jazz. >> it is a long and winding road. one we documented for more than a decade. >> can i come in your house? >> yes. >> the jennings first opened up to barbara walters back in 2007. >> your child was born a boy and now you call him a girl. yes? >> yes. >> at the time jazz was just six years old. one of the youngest documented cases of a child transitioning from male to female. >> if people say to you, are you

a boy or a girl, what do you say? >> a girl. >> you had to put up with a lot of withering criticism. what, after all of these years, do you say to people who still have those doubts? >> i would rather have a living daughter than a dead son. and i know that if i didn't let this child be who she wanted to be, there is a good chance she wouldn't be with us today. >> over the years we checked in with jazz. that prococious little girl who grew into a confident pre-teen navigating the awkward middle school years. >> i don't care what he thinks about me. if it is bad -- if it is good then i love him. >> but with adolescence looming, jazz with her parents, decided to use blockers to medically pause male puberty and on the verge of high school, the female hormone. >> this is estrogen pill i take. i started getting breasts and softer features. everything more feminine and it

is what i've always wanted. >> she called it a life-saving pill but years later reaching the operating room would come with obstacles. surgery complicated because of the hormone blockers. >> being on the blockers is something i don't regret. the only down side was i didn't have enough growth down below. it was very challenging to find a doctor, a surgeon willing to perform the operation on me just because i'm such a difficult case. >> what we're really doing right now is a break-through in terms of the surgery in being able to harvest this lining. jazz as a medical case is a conundrum because her puberty was blocked so well she didn't get growth of her genitals in a way that allows us as a surgeon to use the conventional approach. >> they are using the tissue i had and the para attorneyy um and i said it is a patch work vagina.

as long as it is functional, that is all that matters. >> as jazz made her wife into the life-changing surgery she hoped if successful it would help pave the way for the next generation of trans girls seeking to have the same surgery. the surgery lasting almost five hours. >> we have news. we have news. >> yes. >> it's a girl! >> her parents right there throughout. >> it's a girl. >> i love you so much. >> we followed up with jazz after her surgery. the recovery was not easy. it was a complication. hi to go back in for another procedure but it was just all part of the journey. the good thing though is that it was only cosmetic and external so it wasn't too dramatic. >> you're life was never in danger. >> no. my life wasn't in danger. >> in many ways she's still the girl we first met a decade ago but now at 18 the trans child

advocate is tackling the harsh reality in her community, discrimination in the workplace, unemployment and homelessness and even higher rates of murder. >> do you see yourself continuing to carry the banner for trans rights. >> more and more i think about just continuing my advocacy. my passion is reinvigorated not just for trans rights but for e -- equality for everyone and if we could come together with new ideas and ways of thinking then i think this world can be a beautiful place. and up next, the low down on this slowdown.

now to the internet superstars operating at a

galashal pace. the slow-mon guys are using science and tech in mesmerizing videos. >> i think i'll smash you in the face and see what happens. >> this isn't exactly what i signed up for. but smashing things -- is what these guys do for a meet the slow-mo guys. gavin free and dan grushy. famous for making unbelievable slow motion videos of pretty much anything you could think of. from smashing jell-o with a tennis rack jpi on covered -- trampoline. capturing footage impossible to see with the naked eye. they're often ridiculous stunts racking up nearly 2 billion

views and over 11 million subscribers on youtube. the duo has been around since the beginning of youtube and nowadays they are full blown celebrities making big bucks. >> you guys ever think this would get this big. >> there is no chance i thought it would get this big. that was seven years ago-ish. these would be unheard of numbers. >> tucked away in austin, texas, the slow-mo headquarters. >> this is my domain. this is the prop garage. >> this is where the magic comes from. >> endless props and odds and ends, stuff that would be collecting dust absolute gold for the slow-mo guys. it started back in london. two blokes doing ordinary teenager things. >> how did you start making videos. >> i would make videos with different friends and sort of found that dan and i had the best on screen so when it came time to start the slow-mo guys she was the clear choice and i regret it ever since. >> with gavin's access to a rare

phantom slow motion camera and dan's panache on screen, they could film videos unmatched at that time. it has groomed into a major money maker. now almost a decade later they have their own youtube original series and get sponsors to produce content. >> maybe 20 different companies we work with and they basically pay us to make a video. >> so coming out to the slow-mo guy's backyard and i have a base drum behind me and water balloons and paint cannons. i'm about to get the full slow-mo guy experience. >> first the quick change. >> this is the lab coat and the jacket. >> there is some blood on it somewhere. >> there has been some. >> today's warm up, a lousy mouse trap. or so i thought. >> three, two, one -- >> oh -- >> ow. >> do you want to see what i look like? >> yeah. >> let's take a look.

>> there it is. >> you see -- it is very fast even in slow-mo. >> my finger is crushed but not my spirit. >> so right now i'm getting suited. they haven't told me exactly what is happening to me yet. i'm ready. are you ready? [ laughter ] >> that was actually a lot more than i was expecting. >> really? >> it definitely worked. >> it tastes terrible. >> really bad. >> i cannot wait to see what this one looks like in slow-mo. >> now that i'm full grinch, they're going to help me take a quick bath. >> i think i'll smash you with in the face with this giant warbler. smashing in the paint. three, two, one. >> i'm cold now. >> look at that spray on the face. >> that is amazing. and you got the green paint.

>> it is like washing away. >> does it get old? >> it is really cool to think that you could make a living doing the most bizarre stuff. this wasn't a job several years ago. >> three, two, one. >> and we're done. >> if you have -- we would almost believe. >> for "nightline," i'm in austin, texas. up next, dirty john. the ex-con who charmed his way into a marriage.

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dirty john, he's a schemer, a drifting and an ex-convict who covered up his violent past. abc's marcy gonzalez takes us through the story behind the hit podcast. >> it is the chilling tale of blind love. >> i was worried john would kill he to try to get the money because i married him. >> and the lies. >> the paper shows john has numerous names and numerous social security numbers. >> a hand some volatile con man. >> and he said i was a who are and bitch and i would pay for what i did. >> and the woman who fell for him. >> he got in my car, started it and set it on fire. >> setting in motion a chain of events with deadly consequences. >> at that point i realized, i'm his latest victim. >> dirty john tells the story of john meehan, a master of deception who charmed and

tormented his unsuspecting victims, women like deborah newel. >> what do you think of people who hear your story and think how did you let this happen. >> i tell them you weren't in my shoes. >> millions listen to the popular los angeles times podcast. >> is there something about john's past he's trying to hide. >> which was drafted in a scripted show starring connie britton and eric banna. and now a new documentary from oxygen. in 2014 deborah had a successful interior design business. beautiful children and everything that money could buy here on the coast of -- of orange county, california. i decided i had it all except for love. >> that search for a soul mate brought her online when she met the man who would forever change

her and her children's lives. >> i said everything right. i like what he had on his profile. he had daughters and animals that he was an anesthesiologist. >> the then 59-year-old went on her first day with the tall, good-looking self proclaimed doctor at this houston's restaurant. >> john started calling every day and we would meet after work. and he started saying he was in love with me. i was the soul mate. he's been waiting for me. i ate it up. >> even though deborah had only known him for two months, she agreed to marry him while on a trip to las vegas. john seemed like the man of her dreams. >> what kind of things would he do? >> everything. we would take walks at the end of the day and he wanted to hear about my day. woe make me breakfast. he would take my dry-cleaning in. take my mail to the mailbox. >> so you thought i have the perfect husband. >> thought so. >> and they soon moved into this

water front home on witzy balboa island. she paid for everything. overlooking red flag after red flag, her children picked up on from the beginning. >> what kinds of things were your kids pointing out to you. >> the one thing they noticed is he didn't have a car. and so he was driving one of my cars. but he told me his car -- when he was in iraq his things got stolen. >> but john's story about serving with doctors without borders in iraq was just one fictional tale in a web of deceit he had woven. >> almost everything he told me was a lie. he told me he was an anesthesiologist and he was not an anesthesiologist. and he said he had one sister and she was dead and two alive sisters. there was no reason for a lot of the lies. i didn't understand. >> john would isolate deborah from her family and in an effort to control every aspect of her life and wealth.

>> everything came to a head. john was not who i married. >> it was his true nature. something his first wife of almost ten years tonia is all too familiar with. sharing in the documentary she learned he is a liar and a drug addict. >> i found on the very top shelf pushed all the way to the back a box of drugs, fentanyl and -- >> after the couple split, john made violent threats heard in the recorded phone calls. >> tonia, you enjoy your time left on this earth, okay. because that is what it is going to come down to. >> tanya and her daughter spent years fearing for their lives. >> i always thought he would try to come and get us just to get back at my mom. and i got scared. >> someone that he has latched on to is never free of him. >> detective julio bowman learned of at least 50 victims since first investigating extortion and stalking accusations made against john in 2013. arresting him after finding

scion i'd capsules and zip ties and a gun and ammo he stashed. >> if we did not arrest him, something horrible would happen to the victim. >> john was arrested in october of 2014, two days letter he met deborah and zeroed in. >> at what point did you start to realize something might be off here. >> not until we're married. >> it would take her more than a year to realize the full scope of john's vicious duplicity.

a year after they met, deborah finally realized the man of her dreams was in reality a vicious con man. so she walked away for good, the scene playing out word for word in the bravo show. >> i said i'm leaving you.

i want a divorce. >> deborah went into hiding for months. still he stalked her. finding her car and setting it on fire. >> it was clear that this guy was really dangerous. >> yes. >> did you ever think that he would go after your children? >> i never thought he would go after my children. what did he have to gain? >> but that is exactly what he did. john's reign of terror came to an unlikely end when he attacked deborahs a youngest daughter tara outside of her apartment building and she fought back. stack stabbing h -- stabbing hi death in self defense. >> to me it was just surreal. here is your daughter, fought for her life against someone that you thought was the love of your life. >> now more than a year later, tara is recovering from the trauma and deborah is reflecting on her family's nightmare. >> and what are the lessons that you learned through all of this? that you hope that other women can learn from you. >> do the background.

really try to figure out who this person is. meet their friends. never allow them to come to your home and tell -- until you really know who they are. take your time. >> are there things you wish you would have done differently? >> of course, yeah. i let my heart lead instead of my head. >> a life threatening realization how love could blind you from the dirtsy truth. >> are you dating? >> no. i'm not ready. let's put it this way. i will do everything differently and trusting the right person, yeah. because there are good guys out there, too. >> thanks for

they say you should always listen to your heart. and where better to do that, than the island of ireland? after all, your heart is the best compass there is. so get out there and fill your heart with the stuff that keeps it beating.