captions paid for by nbc-universal television from nbc news, this is "today" with kathie lee gifford and hoda kotb. live from studio 1a in rockefeller plaza. >> hello, everybody! it is winesday, wednesday. april 11th on this chilly kind of overcast kind of drizzly day here in new york. >> saw 45 on the temperature gauge. i was like, what? >> i know. we had our spring in january. >> we're not complaining. >> good to see you, hodie. >> good to see you, too. as you guys know if you watched our show yesterday, we had our

kids "voice" edition. it was a thriller! >> not without its tension. >> we had our controversy. we're going to begin with, there was one guy. his name is christian. when he started singing, we both hit our buzzers very quickly. >> one of us hit ours first, but you'll see. >> hold on. we have to see that. >> yeah. tell them what happened, hoda. >> what happened was we both turned around. and this kid is looking at us. and he has no earthly idea who we are at all. >> he thought you were ricki lake. >> let's watch. ♪ don't you remember you told me you loved me baby ♪ ♪ you said you'd be coming back this way again, maybe ♪ ♪ baby, baby, baby, oh, baby, i

love you, i really do ♪ >> kathie lee. >> you're mointing -- pointing at me. which one's kathie lee? do you know which one kathie lee is? >> i don't know. >> you want the old one? you want the old broad or the egyptian? >> let's go with the egyptian. >> later he told vivian, the producer of this great segment, the only reason he picked me was because his favorite color is red and i had on a red dress. >> because in case you spill your wine it wouldn't show. that's the only thing. that's the only reason you should wear red every day, hoda. >> the controversy stemmed because you did hit your buzzer first. >> yes, i did. which is supposed to be the rule for who gets it first. i know it's a little different from "the voice." >> if you watch "the voice" if two people both select the guy chooses.

he chose the egyptian one. there was also some controversy about another contestant we had on the show. >> yeah. the first contestant -- always tough to be the first one, too. beautiful young girl named gabriel. the thing was, i could not hear i wasn't going to pick somebody that i really couldn't hear very well. i thought she didn't have a microphone. i thought she was not only singing a cappella but without sound enhancement. turned out she had the same microphone as all the other contestants but she wasn't projecting. >> at home she was fine. we had trouble hearing her. i think it's because we're in those dome chairs. >> we heard the other two contestants just fine. they're saying they didn't change anything with the sound. >> anyway. >> we understand it seemed at home she did not get a fair shake. we want all these kids to get a total fair shake. we are looking into what happened. we have our own in-house investigation. >> we are doing a thorough --

>> it'll be on "dateline" in a couple of weeks. but the point is, we've talked to everybody. it looks like it's just that she was -- maybe because she was nervous she was first. i don't know. >> anyway, she was great, too. she got to sing in front of 3 million people. not such a bad thing. >> if we find out there was something wrong we will, of course, have her come back and have a chance to sing again. that doesn't mean she would be picked either. we want to be fair. >> if you watched "the voice" last night, i know kathie, it was on late. >> it has to be on at 7:00 for me. frank and i -- you've heard of the early bird special? we're the worms. way before the bird. >> team adam and team cee lo. three people were voted safe by the audience at home. then at the end, there were three people from each team who had to sing for their life. only one was going to be selected by their coach. here first, adam's team. these are the bottom three. look and tell me who you would pick of these three.

>> okay. ♪ i can't make you love me ♪ don't speak, i know just what you're saying, so please stop explaining, don't tell me cause it hurts ♪ >> i would have picked the last girl. >> you picked just like adam picked. her name's katrina. she got selected. i was surprised kim, the first girl, was even in the bottom three. she sang so beautifully before. >> she's good. her voice to me was not as distinctive. i've heard many people sing that way, which is good. you want somebody that has their own sound. >> here's what's funny. not only did adam pick her. every other judge also picked her of those three. >> another job i'm qualified for that i was looked over for apparently. yet more evidence. hmm.

of ageism at nbc. >> next up, this is cee lo's bottom three. okay? go ahead. ♪ sweet dreams are made of this, who am i to disagree ♪ ♪ i've traveled the world and the seven seas ♪ ♪ all by myself anymore ♪ i don't have much money, but, oh, if i did, i'd buy a big house where we both could live ♪ >> that last girl reminded me a little bit of melanie. remember? with the key to the -- the roller skate song? i didn't like the second singer until she hit the big note. she held it out, she hit it and held it well. she didn't -- getting up there was -- it was -- she had pitch problems.

i don't like to say pitchy because everybody else does. i probably would go with the first one. >> wow. all the judges picked the second one. >> oh, really? because of the one note. it impressed them. >> you only saw -- >> i only saw one. yeah, yeah, yeah. she nailed it. she nailed that. but it's not just the getting there, it's how you get there. >> yeah, yeah, yeah. by the way, it is a fun show. it makes you nervous -- you're not old. what are you talking about? >> it doesn't bother me. i just twitch. >> let's talk about the best and worst jobs in america, shall we? >> i don't agree with this at all. >> this comes from careercast.com. best jobs. important to them, based on income, job outlook, stress, demand. number five is financial planner. number four, dental hygienist.

>> you've got your face in people's mouths all day long. >> that is called halitosis. >> you've got to consider that. >> number three, human resources manager. hr? >> everybody can't stand them! nobody wants to go and see the hr people. they may be very nice. but they are not beloved. >> i'm with you. number two is an actuary. >> actually, nobody knows what an actuary is. >> they deal with the risk of financial uncertainty. the number one job, is a software engineer. >> really? >> you know why? you know why? they're on the computer looking at -- >> porn. >> -- porn. >> i wasn't going to say it, but you led me to it. i don't know. that was a very surprising list. unless you happen to be one of those and you're very happy in your job. in that case, we're happy for you and we're sorry about the porn. >> worst jobs according to the same study. number five is a newspaper reporter.

>> i think that's kind of exciting. >> i think it is, but you're constantly getting screamed at and yelled at and everyone's on your back. it's not easy. number four is an oil rig worker. >> you're outside. >> number three is an enlisted military personnel. >> nothing more honorable than serving our country. >> but difficult, probably. >> yes. >> number two, a dairy farmer. >> i love dairy farmers. >> you are definitely contrarian today. you're going against everything. the number one worst job in the united states is a lumberjack. they work the hardest on the hottest and coldest days. it's a highly dangerous occupation. they have a low salary and a high history of unemployment. >> but they look so good in those jeans and those shirts. >> the tenth worst job in case you're wondering is a broadcaster. >> is ours. >> tenth worst. >> i disagree with everything. >> i know. here's the thing. i agree with you on most of the disagreements. >> find what you love and then do it and you'll be happy. no matter what any, you know, silly survey says. >> you got it. i think often it's about who you work around. i love jobs that aren't great

jobs because i loved the environment and the people i work with. >> you're a very, very optimistic person hoda woman. you're not a debbie downer. you're a liar and a cheat, but you are not a debbie downer. as we just saw. >> just because he chose the egyptian. doesn't make me a cheat. he clearly chose. >> okay. did you see beyonce. she does look darn good. three months after her little baby was born, look at her. she does what i do at the beach. look at this. >> what's that? >> holding the hands over the thighs. top of the thighs. right there and another place, too. you know? i do that, too. that's the last thing to go. >> she looks great, by the way. >> she looks awesome. >> she really does. i think, too, having the little skirt thing makes you feel better. >> she looks amazing. look at her face. i think she might have thought that maybe a picture was going to be taken that day because she looks fabulous. >> she does look really good, mama beyonce. how long ago did she have the baby? >> three months.

january. she looks terrific. what about jay-z. he had a baby, too. anybody care about what he looks like in a bathing suit? sexism. ageism and sexism in our world. >> we are busy after our show -- >> it's why i'm all revved up today. >> because we're going on "the soup" with joel mchale. >> we're basically hosting the whole thing. >> the show is tanking. their show is. >> needs a lot of help. us to the rescue. >> we are going to go over there. it'll be on tonight, guys, at 10:00 p.m. on "e!" you know the show. >> unfortunately it's repeated all the time. that's the problem with that one. what else is going on? >> nothing. we got a big show coming up. what's in it? >> pauly d. >> we're going to bring joy back into your life with lucy danziger. >> she's got good tips. >> you're going to love this.

we don't know what else is in the show. >> you said it all. >> we'll be right back right afteese messages

have you been feeling a little down? stressed out? do you have the blahs again? perhaps all you need is a joy inducing plan to bring happiness into your pathetic life. >> the good news is, it can be done. it will not cost you a dime. that's what lucy danziger says. "self" magazine's editor in chief. she's here to show you how to make over your mood in a week. >> with a small tweak. >> i like it. >> scientifically proven tips. >> you know what i like? it's a seven-day plan. it's one of those things you can really do. >> try it. nothing to lose. >> one week of your life. why not give it a shot. >> exactly. they're easy and free. >> sunday you say be a faker. what does that mean? >> fake it till you make it. if you smile, scientifically, that sends signals to the brain saying i'm happy. two out of three times it actually works.

so try faking that smile. >> you're saying we're so stupid we can fake ourselves out? >> exactly. you're sending the signal to your brain. >> it's like you scowling all day. >> try smiling. two-thirds of the time it's going to work. >> let's go to monday. put a cherry on top. >> this really means, mondays can be tough. it can be really negative. try something positive. your brain remembers the most negative and positive things in your day. a tough meeting or doctor's appointment you're dreading. plan and engineer a positive to overwhelm that memory. okay? >> some people when you ask how was their day, they do bring up the one thing that went wrong. >> make sure you have a positive. whether that's a fun thing, a mani/pedi, something great. >> take us to tuesday. quit comparing yourself to someone else. >> that's impossible. >> we go to yoga class. we see the thinner bodies. >> younger. >> or you drop off your child at

school. my child's got messy hair. the other child is perfect bows. this really happens. rather than say it's about them, it's actually about yourself. what does it say about you? >> you're a bad mother. >> no. it says you can be a better mother and you care about being healthy. look at where you've come from. maybe you've gotten healthier. maybe you've decided not to fight with your daughter about how she wears her hair to school. think about what priorities you've put into place. it's not about them. it's about what you care about. measure yourself against how you're doing. >> try to be grateful for a healthy child. >> exactly. >> wednesday, give up the grudge. >> okay. somebody cuts you off in traffic. or a girl pal -- >> still thinking about that happened to me last summer. >> somebody cancels a date. >> two summers ago. >> you hold a grudge and in your muscles, you literally get stressed. it leads to all sorts of stress. >> constipation. >> that might be your thing. for me i -- literally, i get tense. let it go. breathe it out. tell yourself that person's not having a good day. let them go. >> and a little mercy.

>> also, they're not thinking about you. that's the other thing. >> they didn't even know what they did. >> remember the person who let you in in traffic and be the person who lets them in in traffic. >> shouldn't she have a little therapy about this. it has been a couple of years. >> the guy flipped me off. it was a bad thing. >> he's having a bad day. you don't know who he's going through. >> she's had a bad couple years because of his bad day. >> let it go. >> day five. tap into your innate strength. >> okay. you can take a quiz. ask your friends. what do you think i'm innately good at. maybe you already know. you're the peace keeper. you're the one everybody turns to to be in a better mood. >> what if you don't have any friends? some people don't. >> that's the last one. use that stronger part of your brain to problem solve. that'll make you happier for six months. >> hang around with people who reinforce that. some people hang around with friends -- >> if you have negativity around you constantly it's going to be harder to be positive. >> friday, vary your thanks. >> this is really great. write down everything that went bad in your diary. that's going to lead to all sorts of bad emotions.

write down something you're positively feeling grateful for. it's different every time you write it down. friends. being on the "today" show. maybe it's your mom, your sister. maybe it's, you know, your dog. it can be anything. vary it and write down that positive, and that brings optimism. >> i do all of the same ones every single day just to remind myself. >> write down a positive. >> lastly, grab some girlfriend time. >> this means laughter. laughter is nature's pain med, okay? laugh. have jokes. you can't only get jokes from watching a funny show. 85% of the jokes come from conversations and having fun. >> yeah. she's funny. >> everything started with us, hoda. when we started having our friendship away from our show. >> one good friend. one good friend. this is my favorite way to celebrate friendship. >> thank you. >> thank you for -- >> right now, jerry.

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it is winesday, wednesday. you know what that means. it is time for -- >> "what the what?" >> sara has -- >> too much margarita. >> we've sorted through all your photos and picked some from the pile of some of her favorites. >> hilarious photos this week. the first is from the philippines. do you have to sing when you get this done? can you imagine, it's a sing along hair center. hoda already does that. this is an official location.

>> where were they? >> hong kong. >> oh, okay. >> kind of fun. the new take on karaoke. our next photo was sent in by christine from london, england. you might need this before you go to that last hair salon. >> i thought whiskey had an "e" in it. >> the fact that free whiskey is that might be more concerning than the "e." >> the man with scissors might be drinking a whiskey, too. not a good thing. >> you'd go and get a haircut. but you'd come out with a disease. >> also from across the pond, theresa from suffolk, england. >> ew. >> that's nasty. >> diaper meats? >> diaper meats. diaper is a family name. that's when you go with someone else. that's just when you go somewhere completely different. >> you use your maiden name. >> we have a photo from gisele. something's not fitting in here.

this shirt's a little tight. finally, florence from naples, florida. she took this photo in a coffee shop. i bet my mom wishes she has this in our house. if you are tired of being hassled by unreasonable parents, now is the time for action. leave home, pay your own way while you still know everything. >> that is priceless. >> that's hilarious. >> send that to cody. all righty. still ahead, get ready to tax your brain when our "who knew?" quiz tests your knowledge of taxes. >> also pauly d from "the jersey shore." good thing it's wines day. >> and snacks under 200 calor s calories. >> we'll be right back. 3q

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we are back on this winesday, wednesday, with more of "today." ready to play our weekly trivia game we call "who knew?" with income tax returns due tuesday, april 17th, we thought we'd test your knowledge of all things taxes. kathie lee is across the street at the nbc experience store ready to hand out 100 bucks to those who get the questions right.

to those who don't they get that cd. here to help me out is "today" financial editor jean chatzky. are you ready? >> i am ready. >> are you filed and done? >> i am on extension and done. >> of course you are. back across to kath. >> hi, jean. great. you are from cleveland, ohio. your beautiful family. what percent of taxpayers wait until the last two weeks to file. 5%? 28%? or 52%? >> 52%. >> oh, you know what? it's good, because she's going to truly see the songs i wrote. >> i actually would have picked with her, the 52%. but that's incorrect. it's 28%. >> here's the deal. if you want money back, if you're getting a refund you're going to file in january. you're going to file in february. because you want to get that money back. most taxpayers actually file in february. >> i didn't know. all right. back across to tax. >> this gentleman is from richmond, virginia. okay. what's the average tax refund in 2012? $4,100?

$856? or $2,860? >> i'm going to say c. >> you're going to win some money. >> $2,860 the average return. >> it's actually a little lower than it has been the past couple of years. it's been around $3,000. the question is, if you're one of the people getting that refund, why are you getting a refund? change your withholding so you get the money back every single paycheck. then you can put it to good use so you can pay down your credit card. we want to break even with uncle sam. we don't want to get this much money back. >> isn't it kind of fun to get a check? >> of course. of course it's the only way some people can save any money at all. if you're one of those, then just go with it. >> i'm with you. back across to kath. >> all righty. from burlington, new jersey, right? if you haven't filed yet, your best option is to buy a box of chocolates, call the irs to explain why you can't file on time, or file an extension to buy yourself more time. >> file an extension.

>> yes. that was doggone easy. >> yes, it was. >> too easy. too easy a question. >> who can file for an extension, jean? >> anyone can file for an extension. but you have to remember it's an extension to file. it's not an extension to pay. if you owe the irs money, you have to figure out what it is based on last year and write them a check. otherwise they're going to hit you with some nasty penalties. >> do you have to have a reason that you're filing for an extension? >> no, you don't. you can get a six-month extension just for asking for it. irs form 4868. all the forms are at irs.gov. >> tell jean she's never looked more beautiful. i don't know what's going on. >> thank you so much. >> who's her doctor? >> i got a haircut. >> yeah, right. i got a haircut. yeah, right. you are from the outer banks of north carolina, right? true or false. if your tax return is wrong or incomplete the irs will e-mail you for more information. >> false. >> wow. how do you know that all the way in the outer banks? >> lucky guess? >> it's really important, by the

way. it may have been a lucky guess, but if you get an e-mail that looks like it's from the irs, don't answer it. somebody is fishing for personal information. they're going to use to steal your identity. the irs is not going to e-mail you for this stuff. >> got it. okay. good advice. back across to kath. >> this nice lady is from upstate new york. true or false. there's an average of one change to the tax code every single day. >> true. >> do you believe that? isn't that incredible? >> okay. every single day? >> every single day. >> how do you keep up with all the changes? >> you don't. this is why turbotax sells so many copies every single year. because people -- >> it's always different. >> it's always different. >> does it usually affect everyday people? >> no. this year was actually a relatively simple year in terms of tax changes. not a lot going on. >> all right. one more. >> from newport news, virginia. which city procrastinates the most when it comes to filing.

is it washington, d.c., new york, or san francisco. >> washington, d.c. >> you would think, wouldn't you? no. that's just congress that does that. here you go. >> that seemed to be the guess around. the correct answer is san francisco. >> right. where i guess they're having more fun than the rest of us. >> no kidding. jean, thank you. kathie lee's right. this is your day. walk around. this is your day. >> okay. coming up next, pauly d's wild ride from world famous couch mate to world class deejay. you know he opened for britney spears? right after this. meatball marinara with pepperoni is amazing. sooo good. ♪ oh pepperoni ♪ makes all my subs-a ♪ taste so much bettah ♪ how much i love yah see the game last night? course i did; it's good... [ male announcer ] get to subway pronto for our fresh takes on pepperoni. with the mangialicoius meatball pepperoni melt and chicken pizziola melt. subway. eat fresh.

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pauly d has left the shore to produce music like this song. "night of my life." now his life has taken him to las vegas. >> i know. he's got the first "jersey shore" spin-off. it's called "the pauly d project." it takes us behind the scenes of his newest gig and the lifestyle

that comes with it, if you know we're sort of saying. >> can you stop touching my hair? >> oh, my god. don't touch his hair. >> nice meeting you. >> all right. so i think it's time to go. >> that's it. last straw. nobody touches my hair. >> where's the exit? >> i don't know if this is what vegas is like, but if it's like that i'm going to be single forever. >> what was happening there? >> i don't know. what was fascinating to me was watching pauly d watch pauly d. you were loving it! >> i think it's so funny. >> just seeing that part of it, it really wasn't. so tell us why that was funny. >> she can't touch the hair. >> you're very sensitive about it. >> you let me touch it before. >> yeah, that's different. >> you're not her. >> you did. you were very sweet last time you came here. we liked you, pauly d. i wasn't too sure i was going to. but i liked you a lot. >> appreciate the honesty. >> this show, this new one you have out. it's sort of you with your deejay hat on. >> does the hat go over that?

>> it can. it's a big hat. i'm excited to show the world that part of me. they already know me from "the jersey shore." partying with strangers that became my friends. now they meet my real friends, see where i come from. see what's the most important to my life is my deejaying. see what that's like. >> these guys in that clip, those were pals from high school, from when you were a kid? >> from around. we work at the same club, ultra. >> you opened for britney spears. what happened? you were deejaying before her concert? >> it was amazing. i was the opening act for britney spears. >> how can a deejay be an opening act? i've been in show business for 45 years. >> i went in there, perform, play music. they get on their seats. they're dancing. fist pumping. i get them all riled up before the big act. >> you're not making music, you're playing music. in the video we saw or the song we heard, who's singing? that sounded good. >> that's dash. he sung the song. the closers and i, we produced it. we made that the theme song for "the pauly d project." >> you have a little piece of

that. tell us about "the jersey shore." you guys are going to start filming again in june, yeah? >> everybody signed up to continue? >> you're back on that as well. >> yes. >> i didn't realize that. i thought you left one for another. i thought how did the snooksville take that? >> i wouldn't leave them. i love doing it. >> what did they think about you being the first to have the spin-off show? i'm sure snooki was wanting one and everybody. >> they were happy for me. they were texting me, congratulations. i always support them in what they do. they support me with what i do in everything. >> who's the problem between all of you? who's the one that makes trouble for everybody all the time. >> situation. >> what the heck is wrong with him? >> he's not too bad. he likes the trouble. >> he likes to stir it up. >> if you were going to, i guess, have a song for kathie lee and i. if you were to pick one from all the -- all the records. >> all that's available to you. >> what would you choose for us. be very, very careful. >> this is a morning show. so i would pick "turn up the music." chris brown, "turn up the music." ♪ turn up the music, turn up the

music ♪ >> thank you. >> you like it? >> what's going on in your juicy, juicy personal life we don't see on the camera? are you in love? >> i'm not at the moment but i am looking. it's hard to find somebody right now. i travel so much. >> vegas, people have a different lifestyle. >> that's the problem. i'm in vegas a lot. >> you someday see yourself having little pauly ds? >> absolutely. >> paulettes? >> absolutely. >> you're a sweet guy. we wish you all the best. >> thanks for having me. >> catch a new episode of "the pauly d project" tomorrow night on mtv. up next, finding beauty in the unexpected. a gorgeous book. the joy of raising a child with down syndrome, right after this. c'mon dad!

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when kelly hampton's daughter was unexpectedly born with down syndrome, the life she thought was perfect was suddenly turned upsidedown. >> with time, her pain and fear transformed into a profound new perspective. and kelly writes all about it in her new book.

it's a memoir called "bloom: finding beauty in the unexpected." >> welcome. your beautiful daughter is almost 2. >> she is 2. >> it's interesting. because when she was born, i think sometimes in photographs, shock and those kind of things are not captured. but when she was born and you saw her, although everyone said she was a healthy child, you knew something was wrong, didn't you? >> i did. i knew. especially when she opened her eyes and i remember seeing it in her eyes. i knew. i didn't say anything. and i asked everyone in the room, is everything okay? i said, why does she -- her face looks a little bit smashed. everyone said, she's fine. she came out fast. but i knew. >> you had a healthy daughter several years before that. and you'd been told all along with all of your prenatal care that everything was good. you saw ultra sounds. >> yes. >> no signs of down syndrome. >> no signs of down syndrome. >> you go from that photo, you can see it in your eyes, then you suddenly see it through a different set of eyes.

tell us what happened. >> when i saw her, it was pure shock at first. and the first wave of grief is just -- it's almost like a death. it's what happened to this other baby. you're grieving the loss of this baby you thought of. >> you're also so hormonal at the time, too. you've just given birth. that's traumatic enough. >> you're still holding your baby in your arms while this is happening. >> your daughter laney, 2 at the time, saw your newborn. you watched how she looked at her sister and something went off in you. >> that was a moment i'll never forget. it was painful, too. because so much of what you expect with a second child is a relationship between her sister. and i had so looked forward to that and told her all about the sister she was going to have. she walked in the room. i'll never forget. there were all these friends in the room. everybody sensed it. the only one who didn't see down syndrome was laney. she was just proud and she held her and smiled. >> it's always been that way? >> it's always been that way.

>> they have a very special relationship. >> beautiful relationship. >> you also had expectations for your daughter that were decidedly less than what it's become, right? she's doing quite well. >> she's doing wonderful. since i've been into this and have met so many families that have children with down syndrome and adults, i have learned so much. there are individuals with down syndrome in the world that are going to college, driving cars, getting married. >> having full lives. >> we hope that. i know we'll have that. >> tell us what your family's like. >> look at that. they're just beautiful. >> she adds so much to our family. >> look at her. >> we're excited for the future. she brings such light to our family. i know for the future that we hope that she'll get to do whatever she wants to do. she can go to college. she can get married. whether she chooses to live with us or live independently. i just want her to be happy. >> of course. >> i think everyone just wants their child to be happy. i know that we have what it

takes to provide our kids the confidence and love. >> your husband had a family before. so he has two boys. >> two boys. so we have four children between the two of us. >> beautiful kids. >> what do you think people take away? when they read this book, what would you want them to take from it? >> i think people would be able to relate not necessarily raising a child with down syndrome, but we all have heart ache. we all have things in your life that are not what we expected. if you embrace them and learn from them and grow from them, you can find beauty in whatever. nala has changed our life and we know that we'll be happy. out of heart ache comes happiness. >> most people with down children tell me this is the child that taught me how to love. what love was really all about. >> absolutely. >> great to meet you. >> it's a beautiful book. >> surely is a beautiful book. up next, healthy snacks under 200 calories. could it be true? >> i don't know. >> first this is "today" on nbc.

now on "eat smart today" sweet treats for under 200 calories. just because you're watching what you eat doesn't mean you can't give yourself a decadent reward now and then. >> registered dietitian elizabeth summers says you should treat yourself on a regular basis.

she's here with tasty ideas that won't bust your diet. the trouble is, hoda, if they're all under 200 calories and we eat all of them, we've had 1,000. >> we're in trouble. >> great to see you. >> get us started. looks great. >> you can get your two fruits in this one. it's just a banana split. it's made with a small banana, some pineapple, strawberry, blueberries and two small scoops of sugar free slow churned ice cream. >> sugar free. okay. >> i've got the recipe on the dole website. i just tweaked it a little bit to get it under 200 calories. >> this is 202. >> there's the two. >> everything's frozen. that's delicious. >> high in potassium. high in vitamin "c." yeah, see? >> winner. >> this one was my kids' favorite when they were in high school. you take equal parts peanut butter, honey and wheat germ. mix it up. put it on crackers. make it into a sandwich. >> do you have to put the wheat

germ in it? >> you don't even know it's there. >> are you sure, elizabeth summer? >> absolutely sure. my kids loved it. i snuck wheat germ into their diets. they never knew it was there. >> she's right. very good. >> you're getting vitamin "e," "b" vitamins. that'll glue your mouth shut. >> what do you mean glue your mouth shut? >> i love chipwiches. they usually have 350 calories. these are 50 calories each. take a vanilla wafer. put softened, slow churned sugar free ice cream. squish it into a sandwich. roll it in chips. put it in the freezer. you could have all four and still be under 200 calories. one should do the trick. >> that satisfies your sweet tooth.

this is eat your way to sexy. orange hinted swiss kisses. dark chocolate actually aids with weight loss. >> i will try a bite. >> they're very good. they're made with fat free half and half. cocoa powder. some semisweet chocolate. mix that up in a double boiler. mix nuts and dried craisins, a little vanilla. >> this looks good. what's going on here? >> it's an italian coffee drink. under 200 calories. a shot of kaluha. two shots of espresso. a small scoop of ice cream. >> this segment is killing me. >> i can have the next one. >> tell us about the next one. >> we have about 30 seconds. >> we've got s'mores. take graham crackers in half. >> don't tell me. >> would i lie to you? >> hoda can't have it. >> put a marshmallow on them. put them in the microwave. let the marshmallow puff up. stick some chocolate and sh