koreans depend on it. it's a critical source of income for the at times famine stricken pariah state. but what appears to be economic suicide for north korea is yet another sign of how far it's willing to go, after threatening nuclear war and promising to reopen a nuclear reactor to make more bombs. >> the united states will defend our allies, and we will not be subject to irrational or reckless provocation. >> reporter: along the border, south korean soldiers watch for any provocation in this decade's long conflict that neither side has forgotten. >> north korea dubbed this tunnel in secret in the 1970s for a sneak attack on south korea. it was discovered and now part of the demilitarized zone between the two countries. south korea keeps it open as a reminder of the threat it has long faced from the north. the tunnel was wide enough for 30,000 invading troops to pass

in an hour. north korea never got its men through here to conquer the south but it's showing it hasn't given up on this war. >> and richard, this is a young, untested leader and already seems to be pushing things even farther than his father did. >> reporter: they both seem to be rational in that they both follow a consistent ideology that sees the north koreans as surrounded, that they have to be strong in order to survive but he certainly does seem more reckless than his father. look at what he's said over the last few days and look at what he has done right now putting 50,000 of his own people out of work, the center of a city of 200,000 that now has no economic base, it is a very big move some people saying he is cutting off his own nose to spite his face. >> richard engel in seoul for us this morning thank you. now to that disturbing video of a college basketball coach at rutgers university, this is video a lot of people are

talking about this morning. willie is here with details on it and the fallout. willie? >> it's pretty stunning, matt. mike rice, the head basketball coach at rutgers university facing a firestorm this morning for his behavior on the practice court. now the public university in new jersey is under heavy pressure to fire him. [ bleep ]. >> reporter: hurling insults and basketballs at rutgers players on the practice court. in this video obtained by espn, head coach mike rice even got physical with his team. [ bleep ]. >> reporter: shoving the young athletes around, the fiery coach's instructions came with some ugly language, too, including homophobic slurs. you [ bleep ] fairy. >> reporter: the tapes were shown to university officials in november by former director of player development eric murdock. he says his complaints about rice got him fired. but the university says mr. murdock's contract was not

renewed. he was not terminated. in december rutgers suspended rice for three games and fined him $50,000. >> every coach at rutgers understand the standards at rutgers and in this case a coach varied from that and paid a significant penalty for that. >> reporter: now that the tapes have gone public will that penalty be enough? >> the big question you have to ask now is do you want this individual, this coach going into a student athlete's home and recruiting him to play at rutgers? that's a concern. >> reporter: and there's enough concern to go around as the video went viral. new jersey governor chris christie saying he is disturbed by the video adding "it's not the type of leadership we should be showing our young people." nba star lebron james was more blunt writing in a tweet, "if my son played for rutgers or a coach like that, he would have some real explaining to do." coach rice apologized at the time of his suspension. rutgers monitors every training and rice attends sensitivity training.

the question is how has this guy not been fired already? it wasn't just the coach who saw the tapes, the president of the university saw them back late last year and they said they didn't fire him because it was a "first offense." >> there's hundreds of hours of the tapes and it will be hard to stick with that stance now. let me get another opinion on this. mike lupica is a sports columnist for "the new york daily news." he's with us by phone. good morning to you. >> good morning, matt. >> what was your reaction when you first saw the tapes? >> my first reaction why wasn't he fired the first time someone in a position of authority at rutgers by the way a state school, saw them. it's not going to be enough for him to get fired. tom pernetti, the athletic director, the president of this school has to explain why they signed off on a suspension and not an immediate firing for this man. matt, you always hear the same thing when something like this happens, oh, i was protecting the interests of the university.

how many times have we heard that before, and now we hear, oh, it was 60% of this happened in his first year as coach. well what about the other 40%? this is unacceptable. >> let me just ask you, let's break this down into two areas, what he does physically, pushing these players, kicking one player, throwing the basketball, there may be some people out there saying this is a tough sport. it's demanding. this is a tough and demanding coach expecting the most of his players. take that first. what's your reaction to that side? >> it's a bunch of baloney. one of the greatest careers in the history of college basketball, bob knight's, ended at indiana essentially when he put his hands on a student, okay? you don't touch the players. if that's your idea of a teacher, matt -- >> but wait a second. if we fire every coach who has ever touched or shoved a player, aren't there going to be a lot few coaches? >> there will be a lot fewer coaches touching the players but more offensive is the language, imagine if --

>> that's what i wanted to get to next. >> imagine if your boss spoke in the workplace like that. imagine if my boss spoke in the workplace like that. they would be fired on the spot. >> all right, so mike, the athletic director, the president of the university, do you see any other course of action that they can take following the release of these tapes but to fire mike rice? >> mike rice needs to be fired and then, i'm telling you, for a state school the president of the school and the athletic director, they've got a lot of explaining to do. they knew about this way before the tape, they saw the tape. they had to know this man was acting this way and certainly they've known about the existence of the tape since last winter. no, he's got to go. >> mike lupica on the phone for us this morning, mike, thank you very much. we should mention, we have a rutgers alum right over here. >> outraged rutgers alum. there's no question what needs to happen here. he absolutely has to go and not just because of all that you saw

but that's just a small cutdown as we've been saying of all the evidence that's out there and this goes back five months ago which i think for those of us just learning of this, you just can't even believe that that could still, that could happen. >> we've seen the anatomy of these kinds of scandals before, first it's about what the coach did and people start asks questions how the administrators respond. >> a coverup. >> cya going on. >> willie and i were talking. the university can't use winning as a defense for this coach. he has a losing record over three years. >> what are they protecting. he's been there for three years and had a losing record. look at it another way. he's an employee at a public university. what if a professor in a classroom at that school was caught on camera throwing things at students and shoving them? this is clear-cut, i'd be surprised if he makes it 'til noon. >> not to mention a lot of players have left, three really good players have left the program because of this coach. >> what should rutgers basketball -- what should rutgers university do? head to today.com, let us know what you think.

we'll put the question up there and give you the results a little later on. we're following new details on the murder in texas that has officials on alert. we've got more on that. >> good morning, guys, the murder investigation of that texas district attorney and his wife is now expanding and for the first time, we're hearing from one of the people questioned by police. nbc's gabe gutierrez has the latest from kaufman, texas. gabe, good morning. >> reporter: natalie, good morning. it's part of a wide ranging investigation that has so far seen theories of a white supremacist gang and drug cartels. authorities are aggressively looking into local cases the d.a.'s office had prosecuted. today, kaufman county is still on edge. >> our office is frightened and scared of what's going on. >> reporter: now we're learning that investigators are scrutinizing anyone who may have held a grudge against d.a. mike mclelland. he and his wife were found shot to death saturday, two months after his chief prosecutor was assassinated. among these questioned is eric

williams a former justice of the peace, he lost his job last year when he was convicted of taking three computer monitors from a county building. >> did a gun residue test, i gave them my cell phones so they could take all the information they wanted. >> reporter: he's appealing his conviction but denies making any threats and says he holds no grudges. >> my heartfelt condolences go out to the mclelland family and the hasse family because they were in public office doing the right thing, and for some reason, that we're not aware of, paid the ultimate price for that. >> reporter: as kaufman county employees report for work this morning again escorted by armed guards investigators aren't ruling anything out. >> i'm optimistic that there are literally hundreds of people that are working on this case. >> reporter: meanwhile a public memorial is scheduled for the d.a. and his wife tomorrow. natalie? >> gabe gutierrez in kaufman,

texas, thanks. a runoff victory in south carolina for former governor mark sanford as the republican advances to face off a democratic nominee, elizabeth colbert bush for the state's first congressional district. sanford has been fighting for a comeback after an extra marital affair tarnished his political career during his second term as governor in 2009. for the first time the woman involved in the affair appeared by his side and she is now his fiance. a win for the texas rangers last night. fans were left heartbroken. yu darvish was one out away from pitching a perfect game in the ninth inning when gonzalez hit a grounder straight through darvish's legs, so close but he has a whole season ahead of him, just keep the hope alive. it may not have been a perfect game but definitely a perfect rhyme from our own bob costas on "mlb now" last night when asked who his favorite rapper is, he began quoting

ludacris who mentioned his name in his 2003 song "hip-hop quotables." take a listen to costas. ♪ i'd be rollen torpedos, and rostas and for the record i'd be like bob costas ♪ it was at that point, boys, where i said if i get hit by a bus now, i've lived a full life. it's all good. he gave a disclaimer that he doesn't condone the activities mentioned by ludacris in the song in case it needed to be made clear. >> the views of bob costas do not reflect the views of nbc. we should mention. >> when you have to put a disclaimer on it you lose rap cred. >> 7:14, the sign of the apocalypse. >> mr. roker is here with a check of the weather. al? our friends in texas thought they were living through the apocalypse, live in hitchcock, texas, over 20 minutes baseball

and softball sized hail. took out windows, damaged trailer parks. 7 of the 11 cars at the hitchcock police department have been destroyed by hail. i mean, it has been crazy. talking about hundreds of thousands of dollars worth of damage to homes, businesses and cars there. this is what the radar looked like last night as it came through, and you can just see this firing up, hitchcock just outside of galveston. let's go live and show you what we've got going on, again a lot more heavy rain making its way through the gulf coast, while we don't have severe weather alerts out right now we are looking at a lot of heavy rain, the flash flooding will be out there from new orleans into the panhandle of florida, we expect anywhere from three to five inches of rain. we're going to get to your local forecast in a moment but first this message. we just bought our first house, we're on a budget. we're not ready for spring. well let's get you ready. very nice. you see these various colors. we got workshops every saturday.

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be a preview of the 2016 democratic presidential race. nbc's andrea mitchell is in washington with that story. andrea, good morning. >> good morning, savannah. hillary clinton and joe biden an unlikely pair of headliners at a global women's organization that clinton had founded 14 years ago. they are bound together by a shared commitment to women's rights, even though as you point out they could well end up as political rivals. two undeclared potential candidates on the same stage before a powerful audience of women activists. hillary clinton was undeniably the event's rock star saying she felt right at home. >> we've shared struggles and successes and even some fox holes over the years. it's a little bit like a family reunion. >> reporter: joe biden was invited to honor three heroic brothers from india who have been fighting the scourge of rape. >> these men have shown courage for putting the power of brotherhood to work on behalf of women and children. >> reporter: clearly eager to tamp down the political

speculation, they were quick to praise each other. >> vice president biden and i have worked together on so many important issues and i know what a personal victory it was for him to see the violence against women act reauthorized last month. >> there's no woman like hillary clinton. hillary clinton, that's a fact. >> reporter: still some clinton allies are already setting expectations. >> i think the time has come for a woman president, the only one on the horizon who could fill that role is hillary clinton. >> do you think she has it in her to run another tough campaign? >> i think she can do whatever she sets her mind to doing. >> reporter: putting the vice president in the awkward position of waiting for clinton to decide. and for now clinton will be making appearances including at a women's summit in new york on friday, plus giving some paid speeches working on a memoir, clearly in no hurry to jump back into the political fray. >> andrea mitchell in washington thank you. chuck todd is nbc's political

director and white house correspondent. >> good morning. >> so much talk of hillary clinton as an inevitable candidate. hasn't she heard this talk say in 2008 and someone named barack obama came along? >> exactly and i think that is always going to be the question that goes through her mind, it's why everybody around her is always very cautious in saying yes, we're doing everything we can to put her in a position if she wants to run, everything and the table is set but you have to ask yourself, what is she thinking? everything everybody's told her before told her now, is tell her now about this race they've told her before and that is what's sitting in her head and does she want to go through this again? it's never easy. no matter how inevitable somebody tells you you are. >> everyone says hillary clinton would be a field clearing candidate for democrats, nobody gets in if she's in. would you say that also includes vice president joe biden who has made no secret of his presidential ambitions? >> look, i do think somebody will get in.

i do not think joe biden would run against her. i think that he would -- there's too many of the big donors they would share, there's too many of those things. joe biden is definitely preparing to run. you see little things, he says yes to every interest constituency group that the democrats have, they want him to make a speech, he's there to do it, but if she runs, he's not going to do this. he wants to run, don't get me wrong. he wants to run but he's only the front-runner if she doesn't run. >> chuck todd, 33 months until the iowa caucuses, chuck. >> good. you want to do this every day? >> we'll talk to you soon, thank you. >> bye. coming up, conrad murray speekds o speekds out in a bizarre interview in prison, his first since being convicted in the death of michael jackson. and a controversial exhibit in germany featuring a jewish person in a box. we'll hear from the woman behind the exhibit, but first this is "today" on nbc.

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up the move for the a's to san jose. sent a letter to commissioner bud selig to ask for a personal meeting to avoid, quote, additional litigation. efforts to get a stadium in san jose, it's been four long years since san jose started planning for that baseball stadium and not a single answer still. we just spoke to the mayor about why he is forcing this decision. >> it's a straightforward request for the meeting. there are hard feelings for the inaction by major league baseball. the best way to deal with it is have a face-to-face meeting. let him know what our questions are. he can answer them, maybe he has some questions for us. we could answer them and things will get better. >> san francisco giants object to the move, saying san jose is, in fact, their territory. more reaction from the mayor coming up on our 11:00 am newscast. hope to see you then. take a look outside and see how beautiful it is. christina loren, little bit of fog to go with it. >> little bit of fog in san

francisco, jon. in san jose, let's show you the contra contrast. by about 10:00, 11:00, the sun will shine through. mix of sun and clouds. 78 in livermore. 78 in santa theresa. you hit 68 in san francisco. the rain moves in as we head through tomorrow morning, we're going to see a pretty active commute. friday into saturday, starting to get a little bit of a break and then more rain on sunday. it's rush hour. let's check that drive with anthony slaughter. >> thank you, christina. from our fremont camera, a milky haze in the sky. keeping 84 bogged down. to the traffic maps at 6:00 this morning, dump truck scraped the roof of the lower deck from the bay bridge. all lanes there now are open as -- actually one lane was closed earlier this morning, keeping things slow. over in sunol you can see that slow-going commute. 101 really bogged down, taking a look outside, you can see that from our perspective.

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have breaking news, mike rice has been fired by the university. this just happened moments ago. the athletic director releasing a statement saying i am responsible for the decision to attempt a rehabilitation and corrective action was debated in december. i thought it was in the best interest of everyone to rethat b -- rethatbilitate. >> people hearing about these tapes last night. i don't know if you can say this didn't take long, or it took too long. once the outrage was heard, and it started coming in fast and furious, people calling for the determination of mike rice. then rutgers reacted. remember, they were aware of

these video tapes for five months. top officials tat the university knew they existed and they did not take the action they they took until now. >> natalie is here, we mentioned you were a rutgers alum? >> yes, and i think a lot of outrage from the rutgers alum, but also from around the world. >> we talked to the sports columnist from the "new york daily news" earlier, he said he has to be fired, and you're right. >> it comes far too late as you just said, but i'm sorry, it's not enough for rutgers. this is negligent behavior. they knew about this guy's options for a long time. it didn't take this videotape. it's impossible for me to

believe, they didn't know their coach was behaving this way with players, and until college president's and athletic directors lose their jobs, we always hear afterwards they thought it was in the best interest of the school. we always hear that. >> are you as strong when it comes to tim pernetti has you are with mike rice, does he need to lose his job? >> yes. by the way, he did not just act in a vacuum when he suspended and fined rice $50,000. you cannot do that without the k consent and participation. it's always easy to make the coach the fall guy. he was a representative of the school. these coaches don't hire themselves, and they don't keep themselves on. until you go after athletic

directors and school presidents, we'll be outraged the next time something like this happens. >> what do you think if but for these videos, we would have a totally different result. the whole world knew what was happening on those courts. >> we live in a youtube world, it's impossible for me for him to think he could act this way and nobody would find out about it. the assistant coach who was the wristle blower. he lost his job for being insubordinate. so that's what it is at rutgers. >> thank you, again, the coach at rutgers is fired as of a few minutes ago. here is al. >> all bundled up, is that a scooby doo blanket?

>> yes, the cherry blossoms are out. they're finally starting to bloom. about a week late, but better late than never. we have cool air to talk about, and this storm system. during the day today on into tomorrow, it will make it's way through the south causing big problems in florida on into georgia. by friday, it's off the mid-atlantic coast bringing with it a decent amount of rain. rain amounts from new orleans to central florida between three and five inches of rain. plenty of sunshine, lake effect snow continues in upstate new york.

7:35 now. it's looking like heaven above the clouds. below those clouds, thick fog out there this morning. see enough sunshine, might feel like heaven in the upper 70s, today. 68 degrees in fremont for you. heading through the next couple of days, showers are in the forecast. tomorrow at this time we'll be tracking showers on the radar and that will continue through early friday. and that's your latest weather, matt? >> thank you, if you're about to head out the door and you're dreading the traffic you will up, one major city has tried to make the commute a little more kristin, good morning to you. >> reporter: good morning, matt. yes, it has to be hands down the biggest complaint about los angeles, the traffic, but the

city since february has been trying this new program, these traffic lights, part of a technological assault on traffic, and they say it's working. if you live in los angeles, this is a common sight. >> one of the things that i think people hate about living in los angeles is traffic. >> reporter: so bad for so many, commuters spend an extra 61 hours a year in gridlock. >> my commute is about seven miles and it takes me anywhere from 30 to 40 minutes to get home. >> reporter: that's why los angeles has synchronized every one of its 4,398 traffic signals, first major metropolis in the world to do so, raising the almost mythical notion of push button traffic controls. >> every day is different, whether it's the weather, traffic, construction, an accident, all of these things can change traffic conditions and from this center, we're able to change the signal timing. >> reporter: the system itself built up over 30 years at a cost of $400 million actually adapts to the rules of the road, changing signal patterns as traffic conditions change and

it's working. >> what they're find something they're saving drivers over a five-mile stretch of road about two minutes on the travel time for that stretch just by doing this, and if you add up those minutes, it doesn't sound like much on a given day but over the course of a year that could be up to 17 hours. >> reporter: and in a city where commuters live bumper to bumper, that's big news. >> at the end of the day you want to be home and be home as soon as you can. >> reporter: as advanced as the system is, it's not a silver bullet for eradicating traffic. >> there is no way to eliminate traffic congestion in its entirety but we're working every day to make sure traffic is as good as possible in l.a. >> reporter: and that's progress, even if it is just an inch at a time. now many other traffic congested cities are looking at this as an example and thinking about doing it. i do have to tell you on my way in this morning i don't think i sat at a red light but i'm note sure i would be willing to try

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it's a whole new way to love mcdonald's. exhibit that just opened at a museum in germany. its goal is to help educate people about the jewish community and we will tell you right now, this approach is very controversial, some say inappropriate. nbc's michelle kosinski is in berlin this morning with the story. michelle, good morning. >> reporter: hi, savannah. the point is among germany's more than 80 million residents, only about 200,000 of them are jewish, many germans have never met someone jewish. this is a chance for them to learn and the curator says it's a play on the fact that many jews here, including herself, often feel like they're curiosities. in the museum's quiet, this exhibit speaks at times

uncomfortably loudly. ido parot might blend in but for the fact is he part of the exhibit. what here some have humorously or furiously dubbed the "jew in a box." you're in a box. >> i'm in a box. >> reporter: does it feel weird to be sitting here? >> it feels weird but people have the privilege now to talk to someone. >> reporter: and they talk. >> jewish people always stick together a lot. >> reporter: some approach nervously. this girl had never met someone jewish, wanted to know what it's like for israeli born ido to live where reminders of the holocaust are still very much present. this boy asked if he could tell a holocaust joke. >> i said not accepting really. really not german to do it. >> reporter: it was a good question. >> yeah. this is exactly what the exhibition wants to say. >> reporter: the brainchild of the exhibit, nicole

friedlander says jews feel like a rare species under glass. >> somebody has said to me, i've never touched a jew, may i touch you? there's always a strange nervousness that happens. we want to get over that. >> i think it's very friendly. there are still a lot of people who think jews look different. we are normal people. >> reporter: but not far away, this restauranteur could not feel more differently about it. >> it's humiliating. we are not an exhibit. we are human beings. the idea of the plexiglass is just -- it's just shocking. it's shocking. >> reporter: the curator said look, plenty of museums only show the past and death and she wanted to show life and continuity and if it's sparking a discussion, then it is working. savannah? >> michelle kosinski in berlin this morning for us. let's start that conversation. how do you feel about the exhibit, is it offensive or do you think it's an educational opportunity? you can get involved on our web

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here in new york that rings especially true. everyone wants their 212 over the 917 and don't even get me started on 347, you know who you are, but now there's a movement under way where the cache of being in a certain area code may become obsolete. >> see, it's not that hard. >> 310. >> reporter: they're the three lonely digits that kick off your phone number. ♪ 916, 415, 704 >> reporter: area codes to symbolize where you live and the status that goes with it, from sports icons to rappers, they want you to know where they live and why it matters, just ask pitbull. mr. 954 doesn't have quite the same ring as mr. 305. >> and she's a 646. >> what? what is that? >> that's the new area code. they ran out of 212s so all of

the new numbers of 646. >> reporter: the manhattan code 212 is in such demand you can buy the number on ebay for almost $3,000. >> if you say you're from the 212 people automatically think of manhattan and from the 305 people think of miami, sexy beaches and i think more than ever area codes are a way to say that you've arrived. >> reporter: internet provider vonage is asking the fcc to be allowed to assign unused numbers to people no matter where they live arguing it will save costs so instead of being a 707 in san francisco, vonage could give you a 513 from cincinnati. vonage argues consumers have had the ability to keep and even move area codes for years, and says access to unused numbers will not change that. so whether you're a 404, a 614, a 775, does it even matter anymore? >> i actually want a 952 but it was filled up so they gave me 612. >> i'm a 770.

>> 561. >> my area code is 617 for boston and i'm very proud to have that area code. >> reporter: so as pam from "the office" may say. >> what up 212? >> reporter: pretty soon we may ask now where is that again? so the fcc chairman has spoken out saying he wants to let vonage directly access numbers as a trial to see whether this could expand to other carriers but as a current 212er. >> bragger. >> i'm down with that. you know what it means to have a 212 or 917. >> how about a 201. >> jersey. >> i'm sold, i have a two, just a two. >> hello, are you there? >> it's matt. rahhhhhh! when i'm hungry, my tummy growls. rrrrrrrrrrrr! when i'm hungry, i feel like i want to faint. this is my hungry monster. one in six americans struggle with hunger every single day. if i could stop hunger, i would definitely do it.

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ravine. this morning he remains in critical condition. police don't know what led to the shooting. at this hour, they are still looking for the gunman. meantime, san francisco supervisors debating the role of surveillance cameras in bars. more liquor licenses are being approved under the condition bar owners record customers coming in and out of the bars. the goal is to fight crime, but supervisor scott wener says cameras should only be required if that bar has a history of violence or crime. fairfield, meanwhile upper 60s for san francisco. clouds increasing throughout the day as an area of low pressure moves closer to the coastline. by 7:00 am tomorrow morning, we'll be tracking pretty significant rainfall when we meet back here. keep that in mind. rough drive tomorrow. another chance of rain sunday. let's check that drive with

anthony slaughter. >> thank you, christine. dense fog form iing on the gold gate and san mateo. we do have an accident on 680. main street. keeping things slow all the way past pleasant hill into the south bay. you'll notice 101 very slow from gilroy to palo alto. moving very slowly. palo alto heading into san jose, very slow. into oakland, lots of congestion. pack your patience. >> anthony, thanks a lot. side note, rock legends rolling stones will be playing at oracle arena and hp pavilion in may.

♪ 8:00 now on a wednesday morning, it is the third day of april, 2013 and we have a great crowd on the plaza on what is a

spectacular morning in the north, we're hoping it's nice where you're waking up as well. al roker running in at the last second and by the way the music you may be hearing in the background, i hope you can, it's noisy out here, that's new kids on the block and they're doing some work from an album coming up, brand new music from new kids on the block and they'll be singing inside our studio in a little while. i'm matt lauer along with savannah guthrie and mr. roker. also audrey hepburn's son speaks out, we'll see never before seen images of audrey hepburn in rome. her son will show us the photographs and talk about that and also about why she did not consider herself beautiful. >> which is hard to believe. she's a classic, classic beauty. >> and actually these photographs show she never took a bad picture. >> timeless absolutely. we'll take you on a tour of

homes for sale in new york city. would you like to buy john bon -- >> you got to be able to say it to buy it. >> jon bon jovi's apartment is up for sale. >> before we go any further natalie is standing by with a look at the morning's headlines. >> good morning again matt, savannah and al. rutgers university just announced they have fired mike rice who was seen on videotape shoving players, throwing balls at them, and using gay slurs. an earlier decision to fine and suspend coach rice was wrong. military threats, north korea this morning barred south koreans from crossing it's border. this move comes county day after

the north said they would increase production for nuclear weapons. the just navy moved a guided missile destroyer to the north pacific. >> and released from the hospital on tuesday and tweeted that he is going back to his brothers. we'll have an interview with him tomorrow on "today." hillary clinton did an appearance with joe biden for the first time since she has stepped down. although it was largely her audience, mrs. clinton was kras gracious in her praise of biden's work. >> the widow of jim hanson died

monday after a battle with cancer. they worked together and pr introduced the world to their muppe muppets. halle barry and her daughter were in a scuffle monday night at los angeles airport. photographer claimed it was berry's fiance olivier martinez who started the trouble by kicking him. >> get away from the child! >> don't touch her! don't touch! >> i didn't touch nobody. >> last thanksgiving martinez got into a fist fight with the father of berry's little girl a week after a court denied her request to move to france with nala and martinez. ordinary golfers have a new reason to envy bubba watson. look at this viral video shows him putting a traditional golf cart to shame as he floats

around the course in a hovercart. it can zoom over, not around those pesky water hazards. when will those be introduced on a golf course near you. kathie lee committed a major mom whoops monday when she took a phone call from cassidy. she held up her phone reviewing her number to the entire audience. >> i love you, you're on the phone, it's cassidy. the problem was her telephone number was for all the world to see and -- >> her phone started ringing ringing. ♪ i'm sorry, so sorry >> finally around 6:00 last night she let me out of the doggy house. >> kathie lee said it took an hour to get a new phone number for her daughter and her daughter says the new one is easier to remember anyway. she's forgiven mom. 8:05, back outside to matt and savannah. >> that is a whoops.

i have the new one right here. >> i think the real story is kathie lee's flip phone. let's get a check of the weather from mr. roker across the plaza. >> we're down here with folks from alberton, georgia, the grantite capital of the world? >> yes! >> you don't take that for granite, do you? >> no, sir. >> that was so sad. nice to see you folks all there granite. it is stone cold out here, but as we take a look at detroit, michigan, local 4, sunny and cool, 44 degrees today, that's good, the channel number times two. temperatures 80s and 90s in the southwest. we have 80s in central and southern florida, 30s and 40s around the great lakes, chilly in new england as we look at what's going on weather wise we're looking at more lake-effect snow in the northern parts of new york state and new england, heavy rain through the lower gulf, look for some rain

and snow showers in the panhandle of texas, beautiful day in the pacific northwest, partly sunny, 63 in seattle, 73 in los angeles, cleveland, good morning, you've got sunny skies today and a temperature of 38 degrees. that's what's goin 8:06 on a wednesday morning. thanks, al a good looking day shaping up once we get rid of this fog on the golden gate bridge. fog in san jose clearing out just a touch. temperatures will warm into the 80s. it's the warmest day of the week, 71 in oakland, even san francisco touching on the upper 60s, 68 degrees for you today. as we head through thursday, rain on the way tomorrow morning. friday will continue a few showers early, then saturday and sunday, more rain heads into the bay area. hope you have a great day. >> check weather any time you need to check weather on the weather channel or weather.com. coming up, audrey hepburn's son will share never before seen

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her son, luca, in a moment. first, what you may not know about his mother's life. grace, charm, glamour, audrey hepburn remains as much an icon today as when she took her roman holiday. or wished for a breakfast at tiffany's. >> don't you just love it? >> reporter: in the may issue of "vanity fair" and in a new book, we get rare insight from her youngest son, luca dotti, when she left hollywood for the ancient streets of rome. >> i think she still possessed a great deal of her movie star magic. >> reporter: she embraced her new city and fashion style flawless as it was simple. >> a woman wearing a scarf tied underneath her chin carrying her signature straw basket as a purse. >> reporter: perhaps most surprising the revelation one of the most glamorous figures ever did not consider herself beautiful but rather a "good

mixture of defects." neither those supposed defects nor an obsession with staying young were priorities for hepburn. she spent her time away from cameras and spent time with family and in africa working for the united nations. >> in today's world, fame is held up as such a value, and you think someone would take a break from it, do it so well and kind of be the architect of her own happiness in her own life. >> reporter: audrey hepburn's son, luca dotti is with us, coauthor of "audrey in rome." luca, good morning, it's good to see you. >> good morning, savannah. >> as i understand it, in researching this book, you went to the archives of the reporters association in italy which had

more than 2,000 photographs snapped casually on the street of your mother. were you surprised that there was this treasure trove? >> yes, a lot. i was expecting to find some treasures but not that many, and all these archives besides the reporters shot, they are nothing short of a treasure. >> she always managed as we're seeing in the pictures to look absolutely flawless. was that just luck or do you think she expected to be photographed? >> well, she was a professional, so in a way, she expected, but you know the beauty behind and the reason behind the book is precisely that, it's a middle step within the private life and the public life and that was the beauty of it, and of course the setting in rome helped a lot. >> one revelation in the book you write that your mother never considered herself to be

beautiful, and those of us who admire her find that to be pretty shocking. what did she say about that? >> well she didn't care that much about external beauty. she cared more about matters of the heart. of course, she was a woman, so she was, you know, she cared about looking good and all that stuff but she didn't mind getting -- i knew -- my mother had me when she was 40, so i knew her for the last 23 years, and she often, we often discussed that she didn't mind at all getting old and she always told me that life has its seasons, you know, so her mind was at ease on that, with that respect. >> from these beautiful photographs we see that she was lovely in every season. luca dotti it's great to speak to you. thank you for being with us.

>> thank you. >> and now here's matt. all right, savannah thanks. "today's real estate" and a peek inside some celebrity homes that are now for sale. barbara corcoran is "today's" real estate contributor. >> good morning, matt. >> we're crisscrossing the country, right here in new york city, this is a beautiful apartment owned by jon bon jovi and his wife, dorothea. i've been inside this apartment it's spectacular. >> i'm going to sell it to you. >> way above my price area. >> this is a tremendously high priced home, $42 million, it's almost double the next highest priced home in soho so it is way off the charts as far as the pricing. i'm dying to find out if they get it. he was originally asking $45 million and done a great he was originally asking $45 million and done a great reduction of $42 million. >> it's ,500 square feet, rare to get that in that area.

>> it's 7,500 square feet, rare to get that in that area. talk to us about the neighborhood. >> the neighborhood is phenomenal, it's soho, new york, it used to be less expensive than west village in manhattan. the epicenter of high priced purchases. now it's on two levels, got three terraces, five bedrooms and in a pre-war landmark protected building. that alone almost doubles the value of this. that's one of the three terraces right there. >> you get to say you live in an apartment owned by a legitimate rock star, $42 million. let's move on, we're going to go out to the west coast and see a home owned by larry david, of course the famous funnyman of "seinfeld" and "curb your enthusiasm" fame. this house he's selling on the market for what $15 million? >> exactly and to my eye it doesn't look like a bad deal. this style of this home is like funky tudor all the way, you'd swear you're in the english country side. 10,000 square feet, there are the beams there. ironically this will be a hard house to sell.

>> why? >> look at the beams, high ceilings but you don't think so. lot of the space is chopped up and feels miniature even though it's a large house. >> great patio, it has a guest house out back. >> and the guest house is almost like you're living in an upside down boat. i love that place. i'd dump the old house and keep the boathouse and live there happily ever after. there's a beautiful picture of the whole grounds that comes with the property. >> pacific palisades a beautiful neighborhood. >> and cheaper than beverly hills. >> that was on the market for $15 million. little inland, going to bel air, a home owned by supermodel cheryl tiegs. >> that door says don't go in but wait until you go inside and see what you get. every piece of the house is unique. tremendous ceiling yet intimate

space. when you see a shot of the living room you'll see how pretty this house is. she spent a lot of money furbushing it. >> i like the dining room a long room but a complete wall of windows. >> not only the wall of windows but outside those windows in every window you have total privacy and beautiful views even as far as the ocean, what's wrong with that garden? it's heaven on earth. >> it does look perfect. it's not a huge piece of property, about an acre and a half but it's like a tropical paradise. >> it's a ripe acre and a half and in l.a. a lot of the houses do not come with lots of acreage. >> a house owned by joel shoe maccer of "st. elmo's fire" director and "batman" movies. >> this is an hour and a half of l.a., people go to the area not because it's an easy commute with the traffic, it ain't for sure but this house has total

privacy. inside it looks to me like a beautiful ski chalet. this house has wide open space, easily renovatable. i thought it was a rug store when i saw it. it's the entrance gallery. each to their own i'm sure that's expensive art on the wall. somebody will paint over that thing the minute they walked in. >> he said he wanted a rustic look with modern accomplishments. >> there you've got it. more modern appliances in the uncomfortable kitchen, it's big and spacious and a beautiful library. the house is cozy, got a lot of space and light. >> did i mention the price on this one? >> no, you didn't mention the price, a cheap $7.25 million. you could pick it up as a spare problem no problem for you. >> stop, stop. barbara nice to see you. thank you very much. >> my pleasure. >> savannah takes over. on our special series "relationships on the brink" two big issues many couples face,

lack of trust and fear. amy marin and bob luccio have been together for eight years and know all about the issues. they shared their story in their own words. >> we met at a party. >> no, we met at a bar. >> oh. at a bar. >> it was a bar/restaurant. there was a spark right away. >> there was a few complications. >> i was married. and that was a major complication. >> there was that thing in the back of your mind saying what are you doing? you know better than this, and something sort of continued. after bob got divorced, he said "i want to be in a relationship with you." was he really ready? was he going to do that again? that was my fear and i still have that fear a little bit. the trust, you know, issue is always kind of there. >> i saw all the pain and suffering around that whole infidelity issue, and for me, i realized i'm never going to make that mistake again. >> i always feel like things

aren't going to last, and so i try to sabotage, meaning try to make it bad or say this isn't working out so well. maybe we should stop this now, get out while the getting's good. >> the part that always scared me a little bit, made me kind of keep my heart strings a little closer to the chest because i don't want -- >> he knows i'd leave. >> i don't want her to one day wake up and say you know, kind of ready to move on. >> that's part myself sabotage, so i don't get hurt, i'll leave, or i think there's something better, the grass is always greener. >> it's like a cyclical thing. you got to feel that low point. i know she'll be back up there because i know our relationship is so strong on so many different levels that she could go out there and look for another person but i know she's not going to find somebody that's a better match for her than me. >> let's get perspective, m. gary newman is a psychotherapist and creator of "neuman method:

creating your best marriage." good morning to you. >> hi. >> there are common denominators with a relationship on the brink, lack of trust and fear. >> we have to remember to nurture the emotional end of the relationship. in my study even cheating men, only 7% of them said it was about the sex. 48%, it was about the emotional connectedness. so everybody has to remember, if we nurture that emotional connection, that's the best protection and that ultimately builds trust and protects our love. >> we talked about amy and she's a product of divorce, she herself was divorced. is it tougher when you have that in your past to go forward with a relationship? >> she reminds us that childhood counts, what happens to us as kids, we have to keep that in mind, not to get stuck there, but to empower ourselves to be able to make healthy adult decisions. if i can understand that i'm mixing my past and my present, sometimes i can have that conscious awareness, i don't want to sabotage this

relationship. i want to keep it real and keep it present. >> in your practice i'm sure you don't judge when couples come to you but there are tell tale signs or red flags, whoa, this is a relationship having more than growing pains, it's on the brink. >> when people are angry a lot. if you assess yourself and say primarily i'm angry a lot that's a problem. here's a tip. if you feel you're disconnected, too many people make a mistake, oh well the kids are small, we're making a living. five years, ten years from now we'll have time for the marriage. it's an ingredient for disaster. we always have to keep making time and energy for the relationship today in the present. you can't wait. >> and it's something you kind of have to renew daily. >> it's that focused. if you want to be great at anything, savannah, you'll say it will take me work and energy and have that mental space. got to do that even for your marriage always. >> well let's do some tips because we want to give people takeaways here.

first one is spend uninterrupted time talking and you've got some no-no's about subject areas. >> first of all uninterrupted time means no cell phone. people get afraid if you say turn off your phone. i had a woman recently tell me she walked into a lingerie shop and said could you get me something that my husband is really going to be really interested in me, anything that looks like an iphone? that's what it's come to. don't talk about work, money and kids. everybody's talking about the business of life and it doesn't make us happier. go do new, fun things together. >> your second tip, show appreciation for each other. this seems simple but people forget. >> people forget, they don't do it. people say they're a good provider, they're a good parent. why should i appreciate them? that's what they're supposed to do. come on, we get married because we want someone to sum us up as good. that simple "i love you" and "i care about you" and a hug, they go a very long way, they make a big difference. >> you just mentioned it a

little bit, have fun, date night every week if you can? >> date night at least once a week because you got to keep that humming and keep that new fun going. >> all right, m. gary neuman always great to get your insights. >> thank you. coming up, new kids on the block are here and will give us a live performance. ♪ good morning to you. 8:26. i'm laura garcia-cannon. we're learning more this morning about the man accused of driving his car straight through the

front of a san jose walmart. we have video you'll only see on nbc bay area from december 12th showing a silver lexus plowing through a san jose car wash, barely missing two employees. police say haamid zaid was behind the wheel. court documents show zaid told officers he had snorted meth earlier that day. he's now suspected of smashing an oss mobile cutlass into a walmart and using a blunt metal object to attack four people inside the court. he's due back in court tomorrow. calming down on the roadways, lets check in with anthony slaug$ter. he's in for mike this week. >> we have the typical slowdown happening in the usual spots. look at the golden gate bridge and see fog is engulfing most of the bridge. that's the same situation as under the circumstances over to the bay bridge. thick fog even into oakland, very slow headed on northbound 880 and southbound fremont slow

go just because of all the fog. we'll have more for you coming up in a half hour, laura. >> thanks very much. it is pretty hazy out there. we'll check the forecast in our next local news update in half an hour. see you then.

♪ ♪ i like the remix baby ♪ oh ♪ i like the remix 8:30 on this wednesday morning, the 3rd of april, 2013. look at the plaza and there they are the new kids on the block, greeting some of their fans, young and old, on the plaza this morning. we'll hear from them. they have new music, the band is back together, we'll hear from them in a few moments. >> also ahead a very funny lady comedian and writer julia sweeney is here, she has a new book, i like this one about as much as i like any book title, "if it's not one thing it's your mother" so she'll be here to talk about that in a little

while. >> stolen from a needlepoint pillow. and ladies, you have a style, a trend you love on other people and never would want to be caught dead in it, how to wear what you want with confidence. then do you ever wonder why is it that some of your best ideas happen while you're in the shower? >> i've wondered. >> obviously not for natalie. >> i do a lot of singing in the shower. >> we know that. we'll tell you why, coming up with our "take three" in the next half hour. let's get a check of the weather. >> all right, let's look ahead toward the weekend starting with friday along the eastern seaboard we'll have a risk of strong storms down in southern florida, wet weather along the east coast, rainy in the pacific northwest and in the plains hot in the southwest. saturday the heat stretches from texas into the southwest, the rain expands from northern california into the pacific northwest and the upper great lakes, sunny and cool along the eastern seaboard, sunday, sunday, we're looking at sunshine up and down the east

coast with more mild conditions, rain in the mid mississippi river valley, snow in the northern plains and a lot of wet weather out west from the northern rockies into the pacific northwest. heat continues from southern 8:32 on a wednesday. this live picture shows the various levels of our atmosphere. we've got low level clouds at the surface, some high-high clouds moving in, mid level clouds. mostly cloudy conditions by the end of the day. that languablanket of clouds is trapping it in. we'll easy hit 80s in gilroy, 68 in beautiful san francisco today. more rain on the way as we head through your sunday. hope have you a fantastic wednesday. >> and that's your latest weather. now let's go to uncle willie, not matt, uncle willie in sanabel. >> let's take a look if you will at our birthday buddies today,

it's always a pleasure. we have evo gallio, he's from narragansett, rhode island. they have one of the oldest beers in theory, 100 years old today. i love those western girls, take a look at lena wiese, she's the queen of north salt lake, utah, and she's celebrating her 101st birthday, we wish her well. she's so sweet. she's been to every state in the united states and loves it. so do we. harold peters, and he is from troutville, virginia, and guess what his favorite hobby is? fishing for trout. good trout. oh, fresh caught trout, nothing like it. 100 years old today. we have frances berkowitz from one of our favorite zip codes, new york, new york, happy birthday, 100 years old today.

loves her family and looks forward to family reunions, all of them. every week they have one just for fun. everybody loves celebrating a wedding anniversary and have we got a doozy for you right now, juelta and gerald hiser, they've been married 75 years. can you believe that? we wish them a happy, blessed anniversary. oh, boy, here comes my friend, this is nell eleazer, she makes coconut cakes her favorite. my favorite. i could eat the whole cake. she is 105 years old. we love her very much, columbia, south carolina, and we love you. that's all. now back to my favorite coconut in the whole world, new york city. >> all right, willard, thank you very much. coming up, we'll catch up with "snl" alum julia sweeney in the studio, a very funny lady and music from new kids on the block, in the studio as well. there they are outside the

studio but first this is "today."

back at 8:37 with comedian julia sweeney, best known for a certain person she played on "saturday night live." >> it's all coming back to me! i'm pat riley! >> pat, was just one of sweeney's characters during her four seasons on "snl" she's had stage shows and explaining the facts of life to her adopted daughter, that became a popular video online and julia retells that story and a whole lot more "if it's not one thing it's your mother." good morning to you. i can't believe i messed up your name because i'm a huge fan you and pat, i love her or him, or it, whatever. you wrote this book when you had something very rare, a month of solitude. >> yes it was exciting and i

realized my daughter went to camp for a month, my husband was out of town on business and i had spent so much time assembling this family, a dotted my daughter on my own as a single mother and married later and i found myself wishing they'd disappear. i spent so much time assembling them and wanted to be away from them. >> the human condition. >> exactly. >> you know you have a fan in matt lauer, "if it's not one thing it's your mother." >> my mother gave me the phrase on the pillow after i left "saturday night live," i hated it. when i adopted my daughter mulan i immediately thought it was funny. when my daughter was 6 or 7 she said "this is not funny." so i used that to tee up the characters in the book. >> you write a lot about your unconventional path to motherhood, you created this family "like a golden retriever running after a ball. how much does the dog think about what he's doing?" when did you decide i want to

become a mother right now. >> well, i don't know if it's just my own personality but i had cancer many years ago and i can't have biological children myself, and i didn't really want to have a kid that much until then, but once i couldn't have a kid, i had to have a kid. so that's when it really started this big desire to be a parent. >> and you adopted mulan from a chinese orphanage, and clear this up, you didn't name her mun. >> my whole life is saying that was her name at the orphanage. i would not name my daughter after a disney character. >> you tried to rename her tara. >> so her name is mulan. what should i do? it's a beautiful name because it means strong and beautiful. she is strong and beautiful but it is mulan and i live in l.a. and i'm in show business so i named her tara mulan and we were in a park and the guy asked her name and she would never respond. i'd be going tara, she looked up and said muan and looked at me like you can call me tara but i

answer to mulan so she's mun. >> the orphanage did not name her after a hollywood movie. >> they said it's an ancient chinese name and i was like really the movie came out six months ago. >> you have mulan and trying to find a man. >> trying to find a man! >> joe 1 through 12 or 13 to protect the innocent? >> in some ways to honor my husband, i feel like once i met him all the guys were just numbers. >> and as i understand it's a great story, you have to read the book to hear how you met him but to cut it short you kind of fell in love with your future mother-in-law first. >> well, i did. i got a fan letter from my husband's brother proposing to me on behalf of his brother who had no idea that this was happening. he thought i was the perfect girl for his brother, and then i didn't respond to the letter but over the course of a year, i met

a few people who knew them and then i did a show and after the show, the brother was there, and then he introduced me to the mother, and she was really funny and so i went home and found the original e-mail, wrote to this guy michael, with he started corresponding and then as fate would have it, we ended up getting married. >> not about strategy, because if you love the mother-in-law, it bodes well, right? >> yes. >> julia sweeney, always great to see you. thank you so much. >> thank you, you're so sweet. >> if you want to read an excerpt from "if it's not one thing it's your mother" head to our website today.com. coming up next how to conquer your style fears and wear whatever you want. first this is "today" on nbc. hey! did you know that honey nut cheerios has oats that can help lower cholesterol? and it tastes good? sure does! ♪ wow. [ buzz ] delicious, right? yeah. it's the honey, it makes it taste so... ♪ well, would you look at the time...

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and this morning on requesting today's style" taking a fashion risk, if you ever thought i can't wear that, well guess again. "lucky" magazine's lori

bergamoto has the tools to show you how. good morning. >> good morning. >> a lot of folks think i can never get myself in that or never want to see myself in that. how can you move on with confidence? >> it's all about taking small risks with a big payoff. i'll show you what i mean when we get to the girls. >> let's get started. we have four models, real women mind you >> all women. >> real issues and they think they can't wear these things. starting off with amanda and jeans. let's show you the outfit she came in this morning. she hates wearing jeans. >> she has a petite body and curvy and felt like jeans never fit her the right way and gaps in weird places. we found her a great pair of jeans. >> perfect cut. >> bootcut is universally flattering from the gap, under $70 and here's the tip for women at home, you want to find jeans with stretch. the more stretch you have the more they will conform to your body because it is difficult,

not everybody's cut the same way. >> some people worry the stretch may hug them in the wrong places. >> it won't especially with a bootcut. when you're mixing prints like we did on top with the nick and zoe floral tank, and the loft piece over it, she's a proportioned hourgas, gorgeous. >> amanda you should rock those jeans and definitely keep wearing them, thank you. next wearing a slim pencil skirt, a lot of women say it's not a look that maybe i could wear and katie our model was one of those women. here is katie this morning, what she came in. >> katie just before we went on was saying i love this pencil skirt. she was afraid to wear it because she is curverier on the bottom. this is from macy's under $80 and what we did was found one that had black panels on the side, creates an optical illusion of slimming and portion

and a fun print down the middle, keeps it stylish and on trend and one that doesn't cut too close into your knee. for layering the old navy chambray shirt and threw the h&m leather vest over it and the shoes everyone's been talking about, zappos.com, under $100, give her a pop of color. >> katie you look great. you, too, keep wearing the pencil skirts looks good on you. up next, darya. this is a lady like a lot of us you want to be more buttoned up, afraid to show some skin. and you showed, you're showing us how darya can get away with the look. >> the bravest soul here this morning in the chillier temperatures. >> not the day to show a lot of skin on the plaza. >> darya is doing it beautifully. we didn't put her in spaghetti straps and mini skirt. we wanted to go sleeveless, keep everything else buttoned up,

gave her a fun print and that shirt and the skirt is a fit and flair, the silhouette, you showing skin but the skirt is under $80 and even with her shoe if you're going to wear a skirt that skims your thigh wear flats. those are under $100, and even her flats have a pointed toe and cutouts on the side that elongates her legs. >> last but not least flaunting the killer curves. lot of women don't feel like they can do that, conservative, and here we have with us alison before. >> i love alison. she has such great body confidence. if you're not a size two and a lot of us aren't, alison is a great example. what we did here she was more form fitting but covered up with a cardigan and a blazer. you can do it faisfully.

tastefully. the dress is $18 at h&m and paneling on the side. optical illusion and pumps under $100. >> ladies you look great. lori bergamotta thank you. come back for one last look. we look confident and amazing. >> thank you. coming up next performance live the new kids on the block but first this is "today" on nbc.

>> announcer: the toyota concert series on "today" brought to you by toyota. new kids on the block have millions of devoted fans, they've sold more than 80 million albums worldwide, a new album called "ten" and going on tour with 98 degrees and boyz ii men. it's not a reunion anymore. this is new music, the band is together for the foreseeable future. how did this decision come about? >> it came out about there in the courtyard, matt, five years ago tomorrow, i'm a date guy but five years was the first time we came back and announced we were coming back. >> any trepidations on any of your parts in terms of keeping this going long-term? did some of you want to get in and get out again? >> i think we've learned to

balance personal lives and the stress and demands of what we do. it's a lot of work especially now. we're not kids anymore. 20 years old, not to say the young kids don't work hard but we're older guys, have to balance family and work and other interests we have but we're here and committed. >> we look back, when you got together, george bush was president, the first george bush, debbie gibson, paula abdul had music on the charts, the berlin wall fell, it was a long time ago. what do you remember most about those first days? >> i didn't know how important we are until you said all that. >> you're there with the berlin wall, exactly. >> very important. >> what do you remember about the early days, what are the most striking memories? >> innocence, just fun. >> it's the little things really, not the winning awards and stuff like that, it's like on the tour bus, making jokes with each other, and just doing crazy, you know -- >> powdered scrambled eggs in the hotel in europe, little things. >> you guys have been here a lot and i will say about this group that you always hang out together even when the camera

isn't on you, which is nice to see because that doesn't always happen with some of the groups that come through here. if you know what i mean. what are you going to sing this morning? >> "remix." >> our new single. >> ladies and gentlemen, new kids on the block. >> all right, gentlemen. ♪ oh, oh, oh, oh ♪ they got it in all the right places ♪ ♪ she was that girl in the corner, thick-rimmed glasses ♪ ♪ everybody laughed every time she passed us ♪ ♪ ever the outcast, had no flava but who got the last laugh ♪ ♪ hey ♪ always came last, no one ever kissed her ♪ ♪ missing for days, but nobody missed her ♪ ♪ she went from wallpaper to heartbreaker you shoulda seen

her ♪ ♪ ooh ♪ guitar ♪ baby i like the new you ♪ ooh ♪ come on, oh, oh, i like the remix baby ♪ ♪ oh, oh, i like the remix, remix ♪ ♪ do what you don, i like the way do you it ♪ ♪ do what you doin', i like the way you do it, do it ♪ ♪ now her body's so crazy, got mad attention ♪ ♪ everybody wants her, i forgot to mention ♪ ♪ my baby's so intelligent, down with it, independent, got it all ♪ ♪ hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey hey ♪ ♪ who ♪ see no one ever knew she was a transformer, i went straight from a 2 and i just wanna ♪ ♪ i can't help myself, can't help myself, i need it, need it ♪ ♪ baby i like the new you

♪ come on, oh, oh, i like the remix baby ♪ ♪ oh, oh, i like the remix, remix ♪ ♪ hey, hey ♪ oh, oh, i like the remix, baby ♪ ♪ oh, oh, i like the remix, remix ♪ ♪ break it down ♪ do what you doin', i like the way you do it ♪ ♪ do what you doin' i like the way you do it ♪ ♪ i like the new you, forget about the old school ♪ ♪ i love the sexy thing you turned into ♪ ♪ so gimme the v2, some of that love fuel ♪ ♪ i like the beat that your body moves to, moves to ♪ ♪ do what you do b i like the way you do it girl ♪ ♪ i'm speechless, come on ♪ oh, oh ♪ yeah ♪ i like the remix, baby ♪ i like the new you

♪ oh, i like the remix ♪ the one you turned into, yeah ♪ ♪ oh, oh i like the remix baby ♪ come on ♪ oh, oh ♪ sexy, sexy, thing ♪ i like the remix, remix ♪ i like the v2, said i like the new you baby ♪ ♪ oh, oh ♪ say what, hey ♪ oh >> new kids on the block, thank you. the album is called "ten" we have a live performance of 98 degrees tomorrow on the show. we're back after your local news.

good wednesday morning to you. 8:56. i'm laura garcia-cannon. the rolling stones coming back to the bay area. this morning the stones announced they will play at the oracle arena may 5th and hp pavilion may 8th. they will all be there. tickets for both shows go on sale monday. i'm in. christina, you? >> i'm there. definitely should go to that together. 78 in livermore, 78 in santa teresa, 80 for gilroy. clouds will thicken up through the day. mostly cloudy by the day's end, then that rain moves in tomorrow morning. it's also going to drop our temperatures by 10 to 15 degrees on average. more rain on the way over the weekend. hope you have a fantastic wednesday. hey! did you know that honey nut cheerios

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♪ welcome to "today" on this wednesday, april 3rd, 2013, another chilly spring morning out in rockefeller plaza. a good crowd gathered outside. willie geist along with al roker and natalie morales and another treat, another front row seat, new kids on the block. >> new kids on the block. >> just steps away. >> we were just saying we grew up with them, some of us. >> i was going to say, two out of three. >> new kids on the block, i told natalie i mentioned to my wife that new kids were going to be here today and she almost forced her way into the studio to be here. i had to keep her away from your guys. >> my new kids on the block were the mousketeers. >> they did some good work. always a treat to hear from those guys. let's get right into our take three. our take one is the controversy at rutgers university at the basketball coach, basketball practice showing head coach mike rice yelling insults at his ployers including home ophobic

slurring and throwing basketballs at them at point blank range and even getting physical pushing some of them. the tapes allegedly were shown to university officials, not just the athletic director but the president of the university back in november by former director of player development, eric murdock, he was a former nba player. he said when he raised this issue -- >> last summer. >> loose summer. he says when he raised the issue, it cost him his job. the university said mr. murdock's contract was not renewed, he was not terminated. on the face of it, we'll wait to see what the university says today, but outrageous and you went to rutgers. >> i went to rutgers. i think a lot of the alum are outraged. everyone is outraged, you think how could something like that happen. sports program -- and you understand that coaches have to be tough with their players but it's another thing when it's abusive not only verbally but what appears to be physically as well. >> and it sets up an atmosphere that should not be condoned. >> right. >> i don't know how they didn't fire this guy on the spot.

>> that's the big question that will have to be answered today. they suspended him three games and fined him $50,000 in december when they acknowledged and seen the tapes, they said it was a first offense and therefore not fireable. >> first offense but there are hundreds of hours of videos of the practice and according to mike murdock, when he reported this, he reported some of the players said they were having problems eating, sleeping. >> didn't three leave? >> three of them actually, according to some reports, left for reasons some unknown but bun player did say because of this, he didn't want to be a part of this program anymore. >> you could almost understand it if this guy had some stellar track record. >> right. >> not that that's the be all and end all, but three losing seasons and obviously these methods aren't working so how about doing something, getting somebody in there who is positive and knows how to coach and move on. >> i think probably, if this were a professor, imagine this situation, a professor in a classroom talking to students that way or abusing students, there would be no question,

people would say get rid of that person. because it's a sport program, you wonder the coverup was already happening there. it seems like once again here's a situation where there's a sports program that is protecting the institution and therefore where you end up seeing happening here it's more the coverup that is the larger issue. >> the governor of new jersey chris christie weighed in, said he was disgusted by what he saw on those tapes. you're sure to hear something about this at some point today. >> lebron james, lots of players weighing in on this saying no way i would allow that. >> it's a public university. >> exactly, it's a publish university. >> in the year 2000 i worked at cnn sports illustrated and we got a videotape from practice that showed bobby knight choking one of his players, neil reed. he was put on notice there, and then fired later that year after he had another incident so it happens to bobby knight it's sure to happen to mike rice here today.

we'll see how this comes out. take two, some conspiracy theories. want to show you a little public policy polling, they took 20 widespread conspiracy theories and asked the american public what it thought, do you believe in these. >> what does this say about us? >> global warming is a hoax, 37% believe that. 29% say aliens exist. 14% of americans believe in bigfoot. 7% say the moon landing was faked. 5% say that paul mccartney actually died in 1966. >> what? >> let me go backwards. >> the number one most believed theory, 51% believe that jfk was killed in a conspiracy. >> that's a majority of americans believe that. you look at the last one. >> i like the last one. that's my favorite. >> lizard people control politics, 4% of americans believe that. >> that's not a conspiracy, that's true. >> you're one of the 4%. >> i believe it. >> who are these so-called lizard people. >> didn't you see the show "v"? come on? >> yes, yes, i did. >> you might say 4%, what is

that? i'll tell you what that is, that's 12.5 million americans believe "lizard people" control politics. >> 37% of these people don't believe in global warming. they think it's a hoax. >> yes. >> okay, two words, superstorm sandy. >> sandy, right. there you go. >> some people might say lizard people control politics depending what you think. >> what willie is not telling you he is really a lizard person underneath this suit. >> controlling the media. >> don't make him stick out his tongue. >> watch out for the lizard man. >> you don't want to see that. there you go. public policy polling always does offbeat polling, the lizard people. take three, calling this one sequelitis. tuesday pixar announced there will be a sequel to "finding nemo," "finding dory." >> yes! i have waited ten years for this. >> it's been a long time. dory was nemo's friend, of course, voiced by ellen degeneres so this got us

thinking a little bit. this is sure to be a hugely successful big sequel. >> going to be great. >> we got to thinking about best and worst sequels. i put out a callout on twitter. the consensus on twitter seemed to be "godfather ii" was the best along with "the empire strikes back," and worst was all over the place. do you have a favorite? >> "toy story 3" was spectacular. "cars 2" not so good. "superman 2, 3 and 4" were horrible. >> "jaws 2 and 3" and 3-d, bad. >> another one people threw out "dirty dancing havana nights." >> i didn't see that. >> i didn't know that one. >> is that considered a sequel? and prequels not great for "star wars." talking about jar-jar. i mean, come on. >> three words, jar-jar binks. >> another huge let-down because "caddie shack" was so great,

"caddieshack 2." >> "ghostbusters 2." >> "hangover 2." >> they got another shot at it, "hangover 3" will be great. keep tweeting us, we want to hear about your best and worst sequels. let's get to the news, china is expressing serious concern over the growing tensions between north and south korea. this morning, more defiance from north korea which shut off access to a jointly run industrial complex, refusing entry to south koreans who work there. today's move comes on the heels of north korea's repeated threats to use nuclear weapons on south korea and the u.s. lots of attention last night as two potential 2016 political rivals took to the same stage, appears at a global women's organization, hillary clinton and joe biden had words of praise for each other, especially for their commitment to women's rights and their work fighting against domestic violence. whether or not they decide to run, the first votes in the 2016 campaign are just a mere 33 months away. today president obama heads

to colorado to press his case for gun control. he's calling for universal background checks for gun buyers. on tuesday, he called on congress to spend $100 million next year on brain research, calling the brain an enormous mystery, waiting to be unlocked and hopes the research will lead to better way to treat alzheimer's, autism, stroke, and traumatic brain injuries. another step forward former in south carolina governor mark sanford's political comeback. as governor sanford disappeared for almost a week to visit his mistress in argentina. on tuesday, he won a republican runoff for an open congressional seat. the woman involved in his affair is now his fiance, and last night she appeared there by his side. sanford will face elizabeth colbert bush, stephen colbert's sister, next month. a big change for a small airline in the south pacific. samoa air has charged passengers on international flights

strictly based on how much they and their bags weigh, so the more you weigh, the more you'll pay. company officials say it's only fair to charge by weight, not by seat. some passengers have been surprised by this policy but no one has refused to step on the scale just yet. that is an outrage. >> we've got a three-plane fleet, it's like two 12-seaters and one 4-seaters. >> it's the little prop planes where weight really matters. >> and the luggage i guess so you want to go light. skill, wow. glaring omission on the worst sequels, "grease 2." it's rolling in. >> they had a song that i liked, too. >> not a lot of fans on "grease 2." >> i kind of liked the songs on "grease 2." >> don't, don't. >> i'm michelle pfeiffer with the voice that i have. >> you're not pregnant so you

can't blame that on your singing. >> and i have no voice. i can blame it now on my voice, i have no voice. >> you didn't then either. >> whoa! i was waiting for that. >> let's show you what we've got as far as the weather is concerned. severe weather making its way through zks on through the gulf coast. some areas yesterday picking up golf ball and baseball sized hail. more heavy rain will be developing today on into tomorrow as this system makes its way through the gulf and exits along the mid atlantic coast. rainfall amounts anywhere from four to five inches of rain from eastern texas on into the panhandle of florida in the next 24 hours. th 9:10 on a wednesday morning. good morning, i'm meteorologist christina loren. we have a good looking day shaping up. clouds increase through the day but highs are really warm, almost 80 in places like santa teresa, straight up 80, 68 in redwood city.

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when it comes to getting what you want in life, whether at home, at work or even at the doctor's office, do you find yourself afraid to ask? linda is editor-in-chief of "family circle" magazine, good to see you. >> good to see you. >> you went to doctors and 800 professionals, 800 phone number professionals to restaurants. >> behind the scenes. >> to see what works. what did you find? >> overall it's knowing the difference between being assertive versus being aggressive so you want to present yourself with kindness versus being aggressive and making the other person feel very uncomfortable and not really wanting to help you at that point. >> almost more how you ask than what you ask. >> exactly. >> let's run through a few scenarios, getting what you want at home. here's the situation no matter how many times you ignore your child she ignores the rules. your 11-year-old visits a friend

without telling you. >> this makes a parent crazy not knowing where your child is. you want to make her help you with the solution. so in other words let yourself calm down and instead of screaming, "i can't believe you weren't home when you were supposed to be" because in a child's mind i'm just going to my friend's house and mom lets me go this this person's house and kids never think about anything bad could happen to them. you say you help me figure out how we can avoid this the next time. >> let them know it scares you. >> and it fosters their growing independence at that point. >> cool, let's do at work, getting what you want there. working from home once a week would allow you to cut down wasted commute hours and avoid interruptions from colleagues. how do you ask and deal with it without looking like you're sluffing off. >> especially people with long commutes you could save yourself

two, three hours a day. you want to sell yourself. you don't want to present the situation to your boss as all the ways it's going to benefit you. you want to tell her this is all the ways it's going to benefit you and the company in general so you want to lay out the situation and don't get caught in too much chitchat about it but say i can be much more productive and by the way, my seat might be available for the intern on friday which could be a benefit. >> and a big value enough, they're likely to get the schedule that works for you. getting what you want on the phone, these are the frustrating ones. your flight was delayed, you missed your connection, the airline lost your luggage, call customer service, you get caught in the automated phone system. this is another one i find you have to take a deep breath, realize it's not the fault of the person on the other end of the phone. >> it is hard because you are enraged when that happens especially when all three happen to you at once. if you're lucky enough to get somebody on the phone, kill them

with kindness. like you said it's not their fault. the customer service rep.s have no idea what's going on. you want to be really nice and say listen i know you have nothing to do with this. let me tell you my situation. what you also need to do is in your mind think of what you want the outcome to be. do you want a free round trip, is there a certain amount you want assigned to your lost luggage? the best tip if you can't get anyone on the phone, keep getting switched from number to number, dial the main number, pick a random extension, until you get someone on the phone and say listen you might not be the right person for me to talk to but can you help me, this is my situation. >> that's a big frustration going through the automated system never getting to a human being where you can make your case. >> right. >> let's talk about getting what you want in a restaurant, the menu is full of cream-based sauces and fried foods but you're trying to watch your diet. you need to ask for a special meal but don't want to irritate the waiter. how do you approach that?

>> again, you want to be really, really thoughtful. it's not -- the waiter has a lot of customers and maybe this wasn't the right restaurant for you to go to if you're watching your weight. what you want to do is start a rapport with the waiter and say everything looks amazing on the menu, that steak with the truffle butter looks outrageous. i'm trying to watch my weight and cut back on fat. is there any way it can be prepared plain without the butter or make a really simple substitution instead of the mashed potatoes can i have the side of salad. you don't want to reinvent the whole dish, that will make him crazy and not want to help you and he may not know exactly what is capable of coming out of the kitchen or not so keep it really simple but be really nice. less demanding you are. >> another kill them with kindness. quickly the doctor's office, we all think our problem is the most urgent there is. how do you get a quick appointment if they tell you the doctor is not available for a month? >> it is hard to get a quick

appointment. if you haven't seen the doctor in a while and you have quite a few things that you would like to talk about, when you make the appointment, ask for a longer appointment because you have to be cognizant that there are appointments throughout the day, if you have a lot of things to talk about, think about how much time you need and when you finally get into the doctor's office, talk about the most important problems first. so you can get your needs taken care of, and also again, be really polite, ask the doctor about his kids, thank him for filling the prescription really fast for you. generally people react positively to those who are really, really nice and friendly to them. >> i'm sensing a theme here, butter everybody up and go in for the kill. >> it works. >> linda fears thank you so much. >> thanks for having me. still to come, updating family heirlooms to add a little life to your home. first these messages. do hot or cold foods ever cause you tooth discomfort? now there's a sensodyne toothpaste that can actually repair sensitive teeth and help relieve pain. new sensodyne repair and protect.

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getting ready to head to the west coast, including a stop in the bay area. marine one at andrews air force base about to move any moment now. we've been watching. president obama will land in denver where he will push for gun control. after that the president will land at sfo. the president set to attend four fundraisers during his stay in the bay area. two events, a cocktail hour in san francisco and a dinner at the getty mansion in pacific heights. tomorrow the president will attend a brunch and a lunch in atherton. we'll continue to watch live what is happening there. in the meantime san jose more wants to step up the efforts to move the a's to san jose. to help his cause he's looking for a sitdown where the commissioner of major league baseball. he september a letter to bud

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welcome back. the time now 9:28. taking a live look. a lot of fog hanging out over san francisco. you will notice that over most of the bay area, over the inner bay as well as at the coast. hey, that sun is going to come outlet and warm us up into the 80s today. gilroy, that goes for fairfield as well, 76 in concord. we'll have your seven-day outlook in three minutes. first check the fog with anthony. >> as you can see the golden gate bridge very fogged in there, even at the bay bridge once you get over the water.

congestion very light, not bad, fremont showing the same situation. traffic moving smoothly. hazy and foggy. palo alto headed southbound moving smoothly as well, even in san jose no problems to report here at this hour. more for you coming up in another half hour. now, back to the "today" show. after north korea announced it will restart a nuclear reactor, the u.s. navy is sending a warship closer to north korea, and if that doesn't get their attention, they're going to send a carnival cruiseship.

>> woo. >> jimmy fallon, foreign policy humor there. welcome back to more of "today" on this wednesday morning, i'm willie geist along with al roker and natalie morales. coming up this half hour, everything old is new again. grandma's jewelry, grandpa's pocket squares, the old photographs, now you can pull all of the keepsakes out of at tick and make them part of your home. we'll show you what we mean. plus beauty in two minutes or less from hair color to at-home spray tans, we have some of the best products. and how about spring cleaning for your fridge. it's time to get in there, toss the containers and the condiments that have been shoved to the back and have expiration dates of somewhere around 2006, we'll have strategies to help you save money and keep you healthy. >> i got some mustard that i swear is from the bush administration. >> the first one. >> the first one. circa '96. >> honey is the only thing that never spoils. >> and twinkies. >> seriously, they found honey in the pyramids, still good.

>> there you go. all right, let's see what we've got for your weather as we look toward the weekend, we're looking tomorrow, wet weather, friday as you get up into the plains, wet weather along the eastern seaboard, a risk of strong storms in florida. saturday we look for that area of rain out west to expand from northern california into the pacific northwest, sunny and hot from southern california on into texas. sunday, sunday, sunny and mild up and down the east coast. hey, love to love you mama but i love your mama better. we got wet weather from the rockies into the pacific northwest. the heat continues from the gulf coast on into the southwest. that's what's going on 9:32 now, taking a live look from high atop san bruno. you can still see low clouds, above the low clouds enough sunshine to warm us up into the 8 80s. with all that fog, running right on time. we could see possible delays out

of sfo later. we'll let you know if that's the case. right now all flights on time. 80 in gilroy, 74 in san jose. getting into tomorrow, rain on the way starting tomorrow morning. that will continue through the first part of friday. ♪ now to "tooled's home" and transforming your old family keepsakes to add new life to any room. kimberly whitman is an editor at large for "southern living" magazine. >> thank you. >> take stuff that's been hanging around, repurpose it and freshen things up around the house at the same time. >> they bring back great memories but maybe they don't necessarily fit your personal style. >> scarves, things like that you can repurpose. >> this was an old house coat, an old rug and scarf. maybe you have great memories of your grandmother running around in the house coat, you buy a simple pillow form and lay it out. this one is smaller than the pillow but you can use a solid

border, if you like to sew you can do it on your own or take it to a tailor. >> just what guys love more pillows. >> they have to take off the bed and put down. also broaches and jewelry. they were in style, our mothers or grandmothers wore them a lot but what a wonderful way to honor a mother or aunt but gluing their broach to a picture frame and putting a picture of them inside. it's so easy i can do it with you now. we have a great picture here, a broach, we'll put hot glue on the frame, very hot and we stick it on there. isn't that pretty? >> you let it set and you're done. >> you let it sit and you're done. this one i need to move up but it's a nice touch. >> personalizes it. >> you can buy an inexpensive frame and add this personal touch. lot of brides are pinning broaches or family heirlooms to their bouquets and carrying them

down the aisle. >> i have a ton of vases from family members. you say you can let there be light. >> i like that, let there be light. we've converted the vases into lamps. >> how hard is that? >> it's very easy. if you're not handy it's simple. you can buy the lamp kits, inexpensive at the hardware store, you can attempt to do it on your own if it's a symmetrical save. if you're using a witcher, you may want to take it to the professional, not ex-steamily expensive and you get a fresh, new shade, something to give it a more modern touch or add a little bit of color and stick it on that and voila you're done. >> my motto if it can kill me i'll get a professional do it. i'm going to take the vase and have somebody else do it. this on the other hand is not going to kill me. >> you can do this, maybe your grandmother or uncle's old pocket squares you want to frame, these are simple square frames and i like this, if you have a modern home or if your

personal style is more modern, this looks almost like modern art. we put the pocket squares and hang them up in a design that suits you. >> this next idea i find fascinating. >> i'm glad you like this. >> this is cool, could you take family pictures or heirlooms, letters and there's a company that turns them into wallpaper. >> it's online, $60 you get a whole roll of wallpaper which will do half of a bathroom. you scan in maybe old wedding invitation, old love letter, some old photographs and spoonflower.com will print it on fabric or wallpaper. >> you certainly wouldn't want to do a whole room. >> but an accent wall would be great to have. this is a collage of wedding announcements, pictures and portraits. fun way to get them up on the wall. >> i love the banners, too. >> this is great for a family reunion, someone's major

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when you put everything back in, in clear containers that are leak proof so you don't have a mess. it looks nice and clean but you want to keep it that way. >> we have to pause, this is critical. we see the different terms on packaging. let's go through, packed by date, sell by date, use by date and best by date. do you believe the dates on the packages? >> the dates are correct except for packed on, that is no help. packing it makes no difference. when you have sell by that means the time that the supermarket can safely sell that, last day that can be on the supermarket shelf. it's good in your fridge for seven to ten days. if it's use by that's the guarantee if you use the food by that time it's safe and if you use it afterwards it's sort of at your own risk. probably the most helpful thing is best by. that means you can use it after the date in terms of the best date but you may lose some flavor but beware, nothing lasts forever and all bets are off if you open the package because then you only have seven days so if you have a package of hotdogs

with two months expiration and in ten days they turn green, once you open something you have about a week. >> a carton of milk expires april 3rd do i need to dump it april 3rd? >> technically that's when it's guaranteed. maybe not the 3th but 4th or 5th. >> let's talk about optimal temperature. i confess it's a little lower than i thought it would be. >> something below 40 to prevent bacterial growth and stick your head in the fridge test to see if it feels cold is not something that's going to work. get a refrigerator thermometer. they're cheap and it will protect your food. >> you say there is a strategy to all this. natalie can help us out. first of all as we open this up, it matters what goes where. let's start with the door. >> everybody puts everything in the door easy access but this is the least cold part of the refrinr

rerar refridge ra refridgerator because the door is opening and closing. you don't want to put milk or eggs, because the temperature is going to be higher than you really want and you're going to put all of that stuff into the fridge. >> we know the wine and the beer not highly perishable around here because we drink it before it expires. nice and convenient for you. >> how do you arrange the shelves? >> all of the perishable stuff, dairy, milk eggs, meat are all going to be in the middle part of this and some fridges have something that says meat or cold that is super cold. you want to make sure meats that have leaky juices are going to be wrapped thoroughly. >> and quickly the vegetables need to go in the drawers, why. >> because they are humidified. it keeps them longer. >> good advice, natalie i think

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good morning to you. it is 9:56. i'm marla tellez. a south bay paramedic is fighting for his life this morning. he was shot while driving in the oakland hills yesterday afternoon. police say 34-year-old quinn boyer was shot then veered off the road and crashed into a ravine. this morning he remains in critical condition. police don't know what led to the shooting. they are still looking for the gunman. and just into our newsroom, it is finally official. jay leno just announced minutes ago he will leave nbc's tonight show next spring. leno will have wrapped up 22 years as "the tonight show" host.

as expected, jimmy fallon will replace him. "the tonight show" will return to its original home at "30 rock" in new york. as for the late show airing at 12:35, that's yet to be announced. big news coming out of the entertainment world this morning. lets take a look at that forecast with christina loren. >> thanks, marla. yeah, we are going to see highs today. very warm, warmest day of the week. 80 on the way for gilroy, 78 in livermore, 80 for fairfield. a mix of sun and clouds until this afternoon, late afternoon, mostly cloudy conditions. area of low pressure tracking closer to the coast is the reason why. we'll be tracking showers on the radar tomorrow morning. the heaviest rain comes through between 4:00 a.m. and 8:00 a.m., then we'll start to see showers lighten up and become less organized. more rain on the way for the weekend. lets check the drive with anthony slaughter. >> looks like the drive is okay. we have an incident on mass transit. b.a.r.t. seeing an issue on 12th street, rich mobbed and

pittsburgh platforms. in fact, there's a person under one of the trains at 12th street. they are trying to get more information and actually see what's actually happening there. again, no trains running at 12th street and oakland for the pittsburgh and richmond platforms. you can see the fog holding on tightly at the golden gate and even at the bay bridge but traffic moving smoothly on many of the area roadways. >> including the san mateo bridge. we'll be back at 10:26.

from nbc news, this is "today" with kathie lee gifford and hoda kotb.

live from studio 1-a in rockefeller plaza. >> we are cooking around here. it's wines-day wednesday. hoda's favorite day. it's april 3rd. >> already. >> we know it's chilly outside, but we don't give a rip. >> we don't care. when you have to pull out the sweaters in april, i found a warm, woolen, xoz cozy -- >> his name is blake -- but he's throwing up. >> he barfed last night. >> you didn't need to say -- dogs either barf or bark. >> i didn't know what was going on, honestly, i think he barfed up some dental floss. >> maybe somebody needs to keep their apartment cleaner. dental floss? >> i have to clean it so often, because the dog walkers come in. >> i know. >> i'm always cleaning. because i'm embarrassed. i can't have someone walking in. i used to clean it on wednesday

for the cleaning lady, but now i clean it every single day. >> this puppy is a godsend. >> the greatest dog ever. >> you're a mother now. >> yeah. >> you're worried, concerned. the thing you used to think was important, no, i'd be away from blake too long. >> they say if you drop an advilin the apartment, you don't leave until you find it. because he could die. now i'm paranoid and panicking about everything. >> but you're leaving him in his crate, i hope. >> yes. >> even though some people have told you not to do that. >> thank you very much. >> there was a troubling scene at l.a.x. at the airport. >> one i've seen way too many times. >> halle berry and her fiance were walking through the airport with their daughter. >> yeah. >> as she was walking. look at this crush of paparazzi. >> look at her holding her eyes. >> at one point he's trying to get in the car and halle is screaming "this is a child." "there's a child here." >> right. >> yeah.

>> anyway. it's one of those things and you can see olivia is about to go crazy on somebody there. >> he was in a confrontation over this before. with her ex-boyfriend, the father of nala. unless you've been experienced that -- >> knows what it feels like. >> -- it's terrifying. it's terrifying that it's you, and then when your children are there, it's awful. think about the child. everything is big to them, you know. >> yeah. >> you were talking about today, it would be interesting to put a -- >> hidden camera. >> -- a camera on these children, like a little mason, the kardashian little kid, and see the world through their eyes and all those lights and all the people and all the people pushing at you. >> coming at you. >> there was a law just passed, steven tyler law, in hawaii to protect stars, the right to sue over unwanted photos, when they're just on vacation in the islands. >> i think it's weird. when you see someone like that,

you would think there's some level of just respect and decorum when there's a child. i know you can get a lot of dough for these pictures they're talking about. >> let's talk about how much. what's in it for them? it's just a picture. if you get a picture of demi moore post-rehab, $100,000. >> charlize theron's little adopted boy, $160,000. $110,000 for jennifer aston. $200,000 for justin timberlake and jessica biel to get a picture of them together. and half a million for blue ivy carter, jay-z's and beyonce's daughter. >> because there's so few. >> it's supply and demand. if you can get jay-z angry because he's protecting little blue ivy, you can probably double your money and have a million dollar pay desharnais. that's because of those of us who buy the celebrity magazines. if there was no market for it, this wouldn't happen. >> yeah. i think you want the money shot is probably the angry face.

you know, anytime you can get -- get a rise out of someone, that's why they are walking so calmly, coolly through. >> most decent people understand a parent just protecting their child. they're not thinking they're a celebrity at that time. they're thinking this is my child, and you react the way any parent would when their children are in danger. >> i think it was awful. so if you stayed home last night and watched "the voice". >> i don't need to because i get all the information from you, hoda. >> there was a young lady named betsy barta. she zhang an adele song -- >> which is brave to begin with. >> let's watch this and see how it went. ♪ ♪ i heard her screaming out your name your name ♪ ♪ >> okay. everyone is mouthing she's good.

not one chair turned. she got nobody. >> wow. >> she got zero. >> you know, i'm wondering if they're thinking about the people they've already chosen and thinking -- >> yeah. >> by now they have to be strategic, right? >> yeah. >> they're starting to get into that part of it. they're thinking i already have a singer that sings like that. i don't want to pit the two together. you know what i'm saying? >> it could be that. the star of the night was a 17-year-old named savannah barry. she put her music out on youtube when she was younger, i think she's 17. she's home schooled and all she wants to do is music, music, music. when she stepped out there, she said if one chair turns, i know i'm doing the right thing. >> wow. >> so let's watch. ♪

>> oh, wow. >> she got three chairs. three chairs turned for her. ♪ >> she's a really talented girl. >> isn't she great? >> yeah. >> she ended up going with blake. >> she writes her own stuff. that's from "hunger games" but she also writes. huge career for her. >> when they're finally over, when they finished singing, all their emotions, she burst out crying. suddenly you are at this moment and you are, like, oh, my god, i did it. and she got three chairs turned. >> i sang "go down moses" at the junior miss pageant and i got kicked out. that's when i knew i had a big career in front of me. >> is that what you sang? >> yes. >> this is ultra-disturbing. you wonder how is this happening at rutgers, but the coach there, mike rice. this video was captured over the course of a couple years.

what you are seeing is his throwing the ball at players and pushing them. what you don't hear is the homophobic expletive that he's screaming at his players. this is, you know, going on and on. apparently what happened is this video surfaced, the head guys at rutgers suspended him for three days and then -- i mean, three games and then he got back in the coaching world. >> and they fined him, too, for $50,000 which is a lot of money. >> the guy that took the video who showed it to the athletic director later got fired. so this guy was suing for a wrongful firing so it adds to the mix. >> getting complicated. i'm doing the best i can. but go ahead. >> but the deal is what's going on with this guy? how is he not fired right away? for years. >> this is the first time it's surfaced and he's been treating his kids like this for years? >> he said from 2010 to 2012 is when these were taken. the athletic department was aware of it. it's a three-game suspension. >> i'm not saying this is the case, but i believe that these

kinds of sports, they bring in so much money to the universities, the sports and sports heroes become gods to the people. >> yeah. >> we saw what happened in -- at penn state, what happens when you care more about your school and you care more about winning than you care about your kids. we have to put kids first. >> yeah. >> always, always, hoda woman. >> you saw bobby knight, remember when he choked that guy? >> yeah. we know it's wrong when we see it. >> right. but i remember in high school, this is -- but i remember my coach at one point, i played basketball in high school. i remember i was looking out the window daydreaming and whatever i did. i remember he threw the ball at me. and i was remember how shocked i was. it was so jarring. the team ganged up on the coach and said, what are you doing? >> right. >> in this case it look like normal, everyday behaviors. >> 97% of a poll that we took, 97% of you said he should be fired. >> yeah.unless he truly apologi

go into some sort of training to change. >> i wonder if he has kids. if you're yelling and pushing, shoving all these kids on your team. >> probably there's no better time to talk about what's sitting in front of me. this is an organization called child help. i've been working with. i've forgotten, maybe 20 years. they're incredible ladies that we have met here before. sara andie von, the they founded it. you guys, when i started working with child abuse -- today is the day of hope. usually i would be in washington, d.c. today. we light this candle in congress, to commemorate and pay homage to the two children back then, who would die today this very day in this country of child abuse or neglect. last year it was four wicks, the year before that it was three. we are now up to five children,

every day in our nation children dies of neglect or abuse. if it was any other thing we would be outraged. it's our nation's greatest shame, we do not stand up for these vulnerable kids. if you suspect something, you can anonymous and call 1-800-4-a child. or if you need counseling go to this organization. let me tell you about this "dateline." we have just started again "dateline wednesdays." >> not as fun as the wines-day wednesday. they are fascinating. >> it's so juicy. this one has a love triangle, and there is a murder, and you wonder who does what. a guy goes missing, and it's a weird thing, where is this guy? where has he been? it takes some crazy twists and

turns, but involves poisoning of snapple that he was going to drink, and a gardener. >> and a gardener. take a listen. when kevin mangle was a no-show for the family barbecue on father's day, his sister michelle was disappointed, and more than a little confused. >> he had called my husband to say how excited he was to spend father's day, that sunday, with all of us. >> so it was supposed to be a big father's day celebration. >> and he couldn't have been more excited. >> his younger brother chris knew how much he was looking from a are to being with his family. after all, kevin had just reconciled with their dad after many rocky years. >> i thought, man, this is odd. why would he do this now? it doesn't make any sense. >> the story morgan, the wife, told that kevin had taken off, told her that the marriage was over. in fact by father's day, he had already been gone for two days. >> kevin is fine, he's clearing

his head. >> what do you mean he's fine. >> he had to leave just clear his head. >> you'll see a lot of hoda back at it. >> oh, my god. >> a little frightening to me. i don't line dateline hoda. >> let's go over to sarah. >> i love dateline hoda. we have a new series called joyful cookoff. we're looking for healthier recipes on ext-- this monday wi looking for healthy lasagna recipes. the three finalists will make your recipe here live, and the grand prize will have it featured on the website. >> i think we should do it all the time. love it, love it. hopefully they're not coming on samoa airlines. how to negotiate to get what you want. that's next, after this. [ woman ] dinner with the girls tonight. i'd better skip breakfast.

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to actually do nbc news. breaking news, and we think it's because of us. >> just moments after our chat, we learned that the coach from rutgers, his contract has been terminated. >> terminated. >> there, we did it. >> exciting. >> totally breaking news. that is fun. >> that's because you're dateline hoda. >> let's go to our next segment. how to negotiate. whether you want a better salary or want your husband to do dishes, there are certain things up to do to get what you want. >> here are the tips. cindy levy, editor from "glam r "glamour" and jean chatzky. there are tips we can walk away with and make us better. >> real hard tips like hard news. >> a theme. >> are we trying to get a raise? what are we doing? >> it really could be anything. you have a goal, you want more money or like kathie said, you

want him to do things on a regular basis. >> you say find a location. >> i think there's this misconception that all negotiations have to take place in a boardroom under fluorescent lights. if you have a chance to be in a more sociable setting, it's friendlier. >> you should be eating, because it sorts of brings down your boundaries and makes for a more free-flowing conversation. >> there are studies that show that negotiations work better if you're at a meal. my trick in my own marriage is every important conversation has to happen in the car on a long car trip, you know, more than half an hour. >> you have no place to go. >> that's the point. that's where i talk to my teenagers. you have an audience that's not going anywhere. >> i used to put my kids in the bathtub. >> in the bathtub. trapped? >> that won't work at an office.

>> at the end of a negotiation, everyone wants to feel like they got something. you both have to win kind of in that game, don't you? >> absolutely. if you can put yourself in the other person's shoes and figure out what constitutes a win going in, you're ahead of the game. >> getting what they said while you get what you need. >> write that down. >> really good negotiators, if they see the other person is not feeling great about the outcome, they'll say what else can i do? how do i make this worth your while? if both are not happy, it won't last. >> bafblly in the marriage what if you're the giver and your partner is basically a taker, that's his nature and that's what he's used to. >> sometimes you need a third party to help you through this negotiation. if this is a constant problem, you may be better off just -- >> in counseling. >> yeah. >> how do you get them to go there? >> you lay it on the line. if it's a situation that's not going well and not going to move

forward -- >> if you feel like you lose every negotiation, he gets what he wants. >> but even if a work contest, if you don't feel like you're able to handle it, there are situations where you abdicate, walk out and let somebody else do it for you, because you get too emotional. >> i think what women do that undermines them is we're very uncomfortable with silence. >> we have to fill it, just like i did. >> so greatnegotiators use that to your advantage. >> ladies, thank you for all your information. we appreciate it. we're going to talk about the fun photos you sent us, both of them. >> my favorite segment. we'll be right back. da nnon

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cleaning into gear. >> we're here with everything from smart washers to smartphone sanitizers. hey. >> hi. i just start add load here. i'm trying to multitask while i'm on air. we're going to start with the mac daddy of washing machines. you could love laundry with this. this is the lg smart thing washing machine. it means more laundry. >> it's working. >> it's on. >> but you have a clicker? >> there's -- its you can -- there's nothing in it? that's wasteful. >> i will put this load in later. >> it has an app. to monitor the cycle. you can be at the grocery store, turn this on, set it up. >> stop it. >> it's fantastic. >> helps you clean the gutters if you have them. >> if you're on top of the gutters, it's dirt counter and

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10:26. i'm marla tellez. president obama is heading to the bay area tonight. he left andrews air force base just about an hour ago. the president will first go to denver to push for gun control. he will then head to sfo tonight, set to land about 5:25. the president is set to attend four fundraisers during his stay in the bay area. quick trip. we'll be back with a look at your forecast and a look at the traffic after the break.

welcome back. the time now 10:28, finally getting some blue sky over san jose. but we still have a lot of cloud cover hugging the coastline and over the bay. nonetheless, still slated to hit 80s. 80 in fairfield, 80 on the way to gilroy. meanwhile, 67 for san francisco. took the temperature down just a touch because of that lingering cloud cover. look what's on the way for tomorrow morning. we'll time this out to your doorstep today during our 11:00 broadcast just a half hour away. check the drive with anthony. >> the drive looks pretty good in many locations. the issue we're facing is mass transit, b.a.r.t. and oakland at the 12th street stop.

richmond and pittsburgh trains are not stopping at that particular location. about an hour ago chp had that issue. it's not been updated. still following that now. two accidents 580 through altamont pass, el charo road, down to 17th, santa cruz mountains at vine hill. that's causing slowdowns as well. see the bay bridge approach moving slowly. the mayor wants to step up efforts to move the a's to san jose. to help his cause he's looking for a sitdown with the commissioner of major league baseball. he sent a letter to bud selig asking for a personal mayor. we'll have reaction from the mayor in 30 minutes. jon kelley and i hope to see you in a few minutes at 11:00. ♪ i'm walking on sunshine we're back on this winesday wednesday. the warm weather will eventually get here, so we're going to find

out how much you know about springtime. to those who get the questions right, they get a gift certificate, and for those who don't they get her fabulous cd. helping me out is lisa gil from conde nast. >> which country gifted the cherry blossoms to the u.s.? >> japan. >> you didn't get the -- all right. no cheating, people, and i mean it. >> so, wait a second. japan? really. >> yes. in 1912 japan gifted washington, d.c. with about 3,000 cherry blossom trees, which are still pluming today. >> i love that time of year in d.c. >> but there are actually more cherly blossom trees in newark, new jersey in the branch brook

park. >> good trivia there. >> very sweet guy from dallas, texas. what is the most popular spring break destination. cancun, panama city beach, florida, los angeles, california o. miami, florida. >> panama city beach. >> how do you know that? >> i've neveren. >> panama city beach, why number one? >> it's right on the gulf of mexico, beautiful beaching, 27 miles of beach. mtv's "spring break" made it very famous. at the peak, the locals are outnumber 42 to 1. >> get out of town if you're a local, i guess. >> the sand is like sugar. just absolutely gorgeous. this lead ary is from where? >> georgia. >> name the artist. ♪ spring fever ♪ spring is here at last >> elvis. >> yeah, baby. >> she nailed that one.

>> i don't know that elvis song. >> this song was in the movie "girl happy" came out in 1965. it's also about spring break. weird fun fact, he does not appear without a shirt. he even water skis with a shirt on. tornado alley typically is the region that has the most tornadoes in the u.s. which state is not a part of tornado alley -- kansas, oklahoma, texas or arkansas. >> texas? >> no, baby. >> no, right, dallas? he's going to love this. so many great songs. >> he looks happy, sort of. >> arkansas is the answer. it does get some tornadoes, but not nearly as much as kansas, oklahoma and texas. just the southern states tend to get more tornadoes between march and may, northern states more in the summertime. tornadoes tend to touch down between the hours of 3:00 p.m.

and 9:00 p.m. more than any other time of the day. >> i didn't know that at all. how about this question? the movie "spring breakers just just came out into theaters. name the former academy awards show host that stars in this movie. >> ashley benson? >> she hosted the oscars? >> i don't know. >> all righty. you're going to love this. >> the correct answer -- james franco. >> he has a standing resume. he's almost unrecognizable, the full grille, corn rows. >> is the movie any good? >> there he is. >> lisa, thank you so much. we really appreciate it. kath is on the way back. spring is in the air. how do you keep romance alive in your marriage? we'll talk about it, right after this. em to day by day? don't compromise. new vidal sassoon pro series from the original salon genius. starts vibrant, stays vibrant. precision mix formula saturates each strand

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plunge. >> wow. hal runkle, author of "scream free marriage." and audrey is here. good to see you both. >> thank you very much. appreciate that. is marriage becoming obsolete? you start to wonder. >> people are still getting married. they're delaying it a lot, but very rarely do you actually encounter somebody who is still not married at 50, 60. eventually everybody still gets married. >> people want to be partnered. i think they're planning better. so people are talking more and going to therapists to deal with what are the things we need to know now so we don't have to deal with that later. >> some people are already the product of broken marriages, so many times they say, well, look what happened to my mom and dad, look what happened to my friends. why should i be married? another statistic? what is in it for you if you

find a good marriage? what's the point? what do you get? >> partnership, like i said. >> and people want to connect. out of everyone on the face of the planet, there's someone that says i want to live the rest of my life with you. >> i'm judd playing devil's advocate. >> i don't know that you need a license, but it helps to solidify the relationship. even when people talk about kids or a family, they want to know that institution of marriage counts. >> let's talk about trying to make them work. and how you make a point about it's okay to feel uncomfortable. >> it's not only okay, but actually great couples do it routinely, they're willing to be uncomfortable, what you achieve from it, you mean? >> also you're not hiding stuff from one another. it's better to get rubbed the wrong way than to never get rubbed at all. >> i like it when you talk like that. >> because at least we're talking about stuff, right? am i willing to represent myself? even though i don't know how you're going to respond.

my wife, hey, i love you, but i don't like you right now. i don't know if that's about me or us, but i don't want to pretend. >> if you let it go, a crack can become the grand canyon. >> it can. and it becomes a resentment flu. if you don't talk about it, it's going to deal with you. >> does a marriage make you say during tough times, i'm going to stick this through, i'm married. we have that commitment, we have made vows. we have children. do we work harder, do you think? >> if you're going to last, yes, even the cohabiting couples, the stats say, after they crossed that threshold, there is some qualitatively different once you have said "i do." we stood up in front of god and everything and committed to it, we didn't say as long as you do, i do. you said i do, even during the tough times. >> there's no stigma to being divorced anymore.

lots of them today. >> i don't think there's a stigma, but i also think there's from attraction when you can stay together, not just be together, but get through the rough times. an indication is not how well we do when things are good, it's how well we do when things are bad. >> a lot of couples become roommates. how do you avoid that? i think people watching can do that. >> i think you can be lovers and best friends, but only in that order. if you ain't being sexual, you ain't married. >> what about the people that can't be anymore -- >> they can still be romantic. we're talking about connecting in a unique way that you don't connect with anybody else. >> there's still intimacy there. at the end of the day, you have to be able to focus on the relationship not as it was, but as it is now, and have those courageous conversations, and focus on that relationship as you want it to be. >> okay. thank you two. hal, see you next week.

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♪ time now for today's style, great spring fashion to hide your figure flaws. >> if you're a woman, you probably have a problem area. we have affordable dresses to help flatter your figure. >> so we all have our issues. why don't we start off with the full tush. >> or often known as a big butt. >> talk about the before picture. >> michelle definitely has a little extra love in the trunk. we don't want to hide it, but flatter it. >> show us, michelle. >> marshall's ensemble. don't be scared of prints, just pick larger prints.

this is a dress, $39.99. >> looks great. >> i paired a summer staple, denim shirr, belted at the waist. very nice. >> and marshall's has incredible designer finds. this look is about $100. >> thank you. >> the full middle is -- this is olivia's before picture. >> olivia, yes, she tends to have a little love in the midsection, so, you wouldn't think of peplum, but actually we put her in a peplum dress here. this is kohl's, $60. it crazy a waist, and then conceal a bit of a pooch, and feel more comfy. >> and all being one color

monochromatic. >> this is available on kohls.com. i paired it with patel accessories. >> i love those shoes. olivia, thank you. if you're a little busty -- >> yes. >> as joleen is. >> big mama here. >> and her biggest strength is her full chest makes her look bigger than she actually is. as you can see here, i put her in a dress. this is t.j. maxx, a fashion playground. i love their designer finds. the key is kind of stay away from strapless dresses, because you can go into -- so the keep is to balance out proportions, fuller sleeve top, and then we're belting the waist, keeping her shape, and yeah, then a t-strap sandal is always very slimming. >> and her toes match her dress.

>> of course they do. >> again the whole look is under $150. >> what? is that possible? >> thank you, sweetie. >> thank you. now we have zach. some women have tall, broad shoulders, and she's here in a strappy dress. >> i don't think anybody's going to feel sorry for her. >> she has the tall and beautiful. >> she particular about her broad shoulders. we have her in a gorgeous loft dress, 79.50. they're known for the fun, feminine silhouettes, and pell balance out her proportions. we're showing legs, we're showing arms and belting it at the waist to keep her proportioned, streamlined. yes, this ultimately just wants that tall frame we have. >> beautiful. thank you. >> finally the pear shape is something that people struggle with. >> pear-shaped girls are typically a size or more bigger

on the bottom than the top. >> i don't see a pear shape. >> well, that's because i'm a stylist. >> i see audrey hepburn. >> i gave her the ultimate -- this is the lauren conrad collection, and when you're pear-shaped keep it nice and fitted. you like the skirt to kind of skim rather than hug and cling. ultimately it's flattering. >> let's bring our ladies out. >> this has been so fun. >> god bless you in your marriage. she's getting married in three weeks. >> thank you so much. and up next, the photos to make you laugh. what the what. >> you know what this is? "today" on nbc.

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what?" we check the photos that you send in. >> the very best of the bunch, which means all of them. >> i sure did. the first is the photo caption contest from last week. the caption is actually from sherry thomas tindall. what did you expect? i'm too short to ring the doorbell. >> that's adorable. photo from heather chapin from norfolk, virginia, restricted breeding area, zoo employees only. nice they allowed for that sectional work. >> makes the time go by. >> sure does. >> next photo from peter beakman from waverly. beer is now cheaper than gas, so drink, don't drive. >> absolutely. >> the next wen from gen you have brown. >> oh, my gosh. >> should you call it an estate sale maybe? >> that's funny. >> the last one from emily

from -- >> she found herself. >> girl, i know what kind of day you're having. >> when i see myself naked, that is what i do, too. the new photo for next week is from abby alexandre. >> is. he's in the shower. put in your best caption. we may announce it next week. thank you, sarah. we hated leaving you to the end, but it was so worth waiting for. tomorrow hugh dancy, from "hannibal". plus a performance by -- yeah, the kids. >> part 2 of our love everything and ever after series. have a great day, everybody.

friends and co-workers are trying to work their way through their emotional turmoil one day after a south bay paramedic is shot in the head in oakland.

i'm arturo santiago live in san jose. i'll have the latest details on this coming up. also san jose mayor chuck reed stepping up to the plate. his latest move trying to force a decision on the a's heading south to san jose. >> clearer skies today. giving you a live look from our san bruno cam. expect clear skies to change. meteorologist christina loren will tell us when we'll need our umbrellas handy. a very good morning, everybody. thank you very much for joining us. i'm jon kelley. >> good morning to you. i'm marla tellez. the south bay paramedic community is reacting to one of their own being shot. this morning that paramedic is fighting for his life in the hospital. nbc bay area's arturo santiago joins us live in san jose where the man works. emotional out there, arturo. >> reporter: the mood is somber.

most everyone trying to come to grips with the shooting. the victim quinn boyer was in the company. that's why it's such a difficult morning for his fellow paramedics and employees at santa clara county ems. each had been notified through e-mail that one of their own quinn boyer had been shot and is in the hospital in critical condition. he was driving yesterday afternoon when someone shot him in the head at the intersection of keller and hand some avenue. the blue honda civic he was in rolled across the street and crashed down a deep ravine. ems operations manager said quinn boyer is a great professional and everyone at santa clara county ems lives him. that's why it's so hard to get back to work. >> we're trained to deal with these types of situations, this trauma, something we go through every day. the mi