husband and you don't want to be with somebody else, you think about somebody else. >> jerry. i've told frank and he's fine with it. >> but it is part -- i'm sorry, i think about jerry. who do you think about? >> i'm not going to tell you who i think about. >> and sometimes anthony, let's be honest. >> anthony is a hot ticket. gerard butler is a good one -- >> to tie to rope. >> gerard butler is a good one to think about. >> i like to be tied up with rope. let's get a close up of rope, shall we, please. >> rope is on the camera that's getting the close-ups. >> put down your grilled cheese and go to poughkeepsie. >> there's our ropester. >> there are different ways that women have gotten there. >> where? >> to poughkeepsie. >> one woman says she gets there by having her eyebrows stroked. >> that's an unusual woman. and her famous ted conference talk, best-selling science author mary roach listed the ten things you didn't know about

poughkeepsie. >> here they are. did you know that going to poughkeepsie can cause bad breath? something, it releases something in your system and -- somehow you have halitosis. >> an hour after arriving in poughkeepsie. so i think what you need to do is plan accordingly. >> also, going to poughkeepsie is a cure for the hiccups. >> it's pretty much a cure for anything. and that's because of a certain nerve that gets stimulated. stick on message here. okay? >> what do you mean stick on message? is that all? >> yes, that's it. >> that's all cosmo magazine -- >> that's all we can say. they're all in there. >> check the rest out in "cosmo" magazine. >> bill gates, and the bill gates foundation has put out an apb. it wants help in finding a better way for protection when it comes to having sex. it says the condom is too much of a pain for people do deal with. >> they misuse them, they -- they put out a $100,000 grant offering for someone who could

come up with the next-generation condom. somebody did, a guy from germany. >> an inventor in germany. >> it's like a slingshot. check it out. >> in the front we have a piece of leather with the slots in it. so it can take the condom. >> put it in there -- >> i would love to hear him do this. >> look at the shirt he's wearing. >> hey, he's an inventor. >> that looks awful. >> see, he knows -- >> who thinks that is good? >> who thinks that is good. >> he knows that there are a couple of problems with this. it has the potential to be painful. and has the potential to be inaccurate. so he needs the money, he says, from the gates foundation to make his -- >> slingshot. >> to get to -- >> poughkeepsie. >> even better. i vote for him. >> i do, too. >> the people that made the bug, you know, the volkswagen, are the people you should put in charge of condom making. >> we're going to play a game. i don't know.

here are the words that women over 50 are never supposed to say. >> are we supposed to agree or disagree? >> first of all, i want to point out, they just put a sign up that said who is that dog over both of us. >> we're fine with that. >> what dog? >> don't worry. here are the words we should not use over 50. we're going to agree or disagree with them. the first word is -- >> according to the "huffington post." >> freakin'. >> so what are we saying, yes or no? >> i say yes. ♪ here's to the freakin' weekend ♪ >> that sounds ridiculous. >> i agree. >> we shouldn't do it? >> we should not use freakin' over -- you know what. then there's neat. i think you can use neat. neat is a bore. >> hoda needs to make her purse more neat. >> no, it's neater, not more neater.

>> yours needs both. >> bore. >> let's go on to smashed. >> well, you know, if it fits, you wear it. i mean -- if you're smashed you're smashed, but it should be -- >> you think over 50, you shouldn't use the word smashed, if you're talking about someone who is drunk and falling down. >> smashed doesn't bother me, i think that's okay. >> what about hottie? oh, he's a hottie. that sounds pathetic. >> nobody wants to hear you say that. >> unless it's about a hot toddy. >> if you are older and you're dating, what do you call the guy you're dating -- your boyfriend? >> i just call him precious. that's an old joke, i'll tell you at the commercial break. >> we're going to play a game called who's that dog. >> hoda has had her dog for three weeks, can she really tell her dog from any other dog? >> yes. >> any of our facebook friends have sent us photos of their dog. >> so what am i supposed to do? >> do you know blake well enough to recognize him, do you think? >> yes. >> when you think you see him,

just yell the word stop. start scrolling through the photos if you can please. >> no, that looks like a cat. maybe. is that it? >> oh yes! >> hot. >> did we pass blake, already? yes, that's my dog. that is my dog. >> he doesn't' have any white on the top. he just has the white. >> i know that's him. it's his eyes. by the way, there's a girl from "e" who came over here with a dog that looks just like my dog and his name is the dalai lama. he looks with the white and -- i would have thought that was blake when i saw him. >> you found a doppelganger doggie. >> you know what it's time for, kathie lee's friday funnies. all of america is rejoicing. >> laura lee kroner. several men are in the locker room of a golf club, a cell phone on a bench rings and a man picks it up using the speaker phone. everyone else in the room is just listening and the man says

hello. and the woman says honey, it's me, are you at the club? and the man says yes. and the woman says i'm at the mall and i just found this beautiful leather jacket, it's only $1,000, is it okay if i buy it? and the man says sure, go ahead if you like it that much. and she says, i also stopped by the mercedes dealership and i found a model i really like. and i found a car i like. and he said, how much is it? and she said, $65,000. and he said, okay, but for that price i want it with all options. woman say, great. oh, and i more thing, honey. i house we wanted last year is back on the market and they're only asking $950,000. the man says, okay, well, go ahead and give them an offer but make it $900,000. and the woman says, okay, i love you. >> and he says, bye, i love you too. and the man hangs up and everyone looks at him in astonishment and the man smiles and asks, anybody know whose phone this is? >> okay, time for bobbie's buzz. >> let's talk about bobbie for a

second before we get to bobbie's buzz. >> bobbie is going to be married on may -- >> 31st. >> at my house. and we're very excited. and all our viewers on facebook are having a chance to be part of it. >> they've been voting on your dress? >> they've been voting on my dress. i have only eight weeks to plan this. kathie and hoda have been asking me and i finally just said forget it, we'll get married at your house. my mom's kind of in tears right now because the sleeves on one dress -- there's all -- >> can we just talk, just about the wedding dress. the number of people who i see are clicking in voting -- i saw 8,000 for one dress. 5,000 for another. >> it's amazing how the small tweaks on a white dress can affect people. >> please help. vote on your choices. >> is it today.com or klgandhoda.com? >> both. >> because i love my mom so much and i'm sorry if the sleeves didn't win.

okay -- i want to talk about personalized jewelry. and i've been getting a lot of compliments on these very small studs on my ear. it's the letters b and t, my initials. kim kardashian made this a big splash. so -- >> k and k. >> i know, kanye. you can get these on etsy on classic designs by theresita. these are other examples of great mother's day gifts. this one says thank you for raising the man of my dreams and great stuff. and ali berger, a producer here turned me on to the updated namplated necklace. so if you can see here, it's just like the carrie bradshaw necklace, but it's got the "@" sign or the "#" like twitter. so i've got bambino and hoda. >> cute. >> and something very cool in the world of digital design. 3-d printing, we're hearing a lot of buzz about that. essentially you can design your own jewelry and come up with a design that they'll print out. and make earrings and designers are adding extra elements to threads.

>> you can have a white one. >> if you go to shapeways.com. can you be your own designer and dream these up and people can buy them. they make metal and different fabrications outside of plastic. >> and bobbie's got a book coming out soon. we'll talk about it later. >> we'll tease it. >> love you, sweetie. from lance armstrong to anthony wiener. >> the famous and not so famous lie of all time. >> how can you spot a liar in your life? sometimes you just have to look them in the eye. >> there are ways. >> right. >> after this. director's voice: here we go. from the top. and action for over 75 years people have saved money with gecko so.... director's voice: cut it! ...what...what did i say? gecko? i said gecko? aw... for over 75 year...(laughs. but still trying to keep it contained) director's voice: keep it together. i'm good. i'm good. for over 75...(uncontrollable lahtuger). what are you doing there? stop making me laugh. vo: geico. saving people money for over seventy-five years.

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says he's not with the girl, et cetera, et cetera. what's a tell-tale sign to know if someone is lying to you? >> you need to look at people's verbals and nonverbals. the verbal is what is the person saying to you or what is the person not saying to you? listen to the words they use. do they answer the question you asked or do they avoid them? and the nonverbal is think of your eyes. where are they looking when they address you? do they shift eye movement when you ask them the difficult questions, their body language, too. >> aren't some people just naturally better at it? >> they're good at it. some people are genius. >> just like some people are really good actors and some aren't. >> yes, but what happens is your body still holds that stress in because you're concerned about getting caught. >> well, how can you show us? >> one guy told me once is the best way to spot a liar in the eyes is if someone looks down and left. if you look up and right you're thinking. if you look down and left, they say down and left is lying. >> well, typically if you're right side dominant. if you look up and to the right, you're creating something.

so you're fabricating an idea. up and to the left -- this is, again, typical. it doesn't mean it's always the case. up and to the left is you're recalling something. when you look down, you're assessing your feelings, so shame, guilt or anything like that. >> so ask somebody when they're lying to you, which side they're more dominant on. >> let's start with lance armstrong. let's take a look at what he said and explain how he's lying. >> have you ever, ever, in the history of this race, used performance-enhancing drugs? >> absolutely not. never. >> not once? >> not once. >> okay. so he did everything right? >> no, his verbals. he is saying to you, absolutely not. when you ask somebody a question, usually your answer is no or yes. so he's overcompensating. so when you want someone to believe, you overcompensate. no, never. >> he's prepared for the question. he's going, okay, here it comes. >> he wants to sell it to you. >> so many people believed him,

because he was good at it for so long. you would have said right off the bat that he was lying? >> yes. usually a person says no or yes. when somebody overcompensates like that, they're overcompensating for a reason. >> okay. >> yo, yes, or no. >> you talked about listening, listening to what people are not saying. what do you mean? >> okay. so we're bad listeners as people, right? nobody sits and listens to what the person is saying. >> that's what kathie lee's thing -- >> i try to listen. >> so we want to absorb the information. when they ask a question, do they answer it or do they say no, not really, well, my friend said this. you want to listen to the answer and if they really talk around it. people that are honest answer your questions directly. >> can we look at a quick anthony wiener sound bite. >> we wanted to play our game. >> let's do anthony weiner and this is when he was caught sending a tweet out inappropriately. >> it's a terrible thing that this poor woman got dragged into it, she says she knows nothing about it and i obviously don't know anything about it.

i didn't send that picture out. >> i saw him look down and left. >> down and left. >> i think it's more dominant on the right. >> the big thing with this one, the same thing with lance armstrong, it's his verbals. he said this poor woman. what this poor woman is going through. what is he doing? he's separating himself because this woman, this poor woman. he's making it what? about her. >> he's a politician. >> because he doesn't want to pull himself in. >> that looks like -- >> he may be running for mayor here in new york city. there's a lot in the papers about that. we shall see. >> thank you very much. >> you're welcome. >> these guys would never lie to you. >> they're answering all your burning relationship questions right after this. >> we have some new faces, i think. >> they're reading that book? >> interesting. ♪ ♪ ♪ oh. let's go. from the crack, off the backboard. [ laughs ] dad! [ laughs ] whoo! oh!

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it's that time when our guys tell all the panel answers your burning questions about love and relationships. >> our first handsome man is matthew hussey.

he's a relationship expert on nbc's "ready for love" and author of "get the guy." >> and we have our pal, comedian and actor, rick younger, married with a son. and also dan bova, the editor-in-chief of "maxim" magazine, married with two kids. >> and nothing but trouble. >> and last, but certainly not least, the single "cosmo" bachelor of the year, ryan shenavar. >> it's an interesting mix of people, we're a little bit nervous. >> all right. let's go across the street for the first question. >> hi, i'm christina from orlando. my husband and i don't get to spend much time together due to our crazy work schedule. what are some suggestions we can do to make the time we have more special? >> all right. how can they spend what little time they have? >> and i think you need to make a schedule of special events. like pick days that might be like date nights or even you know --

>> you do that? you have a big schedule. >> yes, yes. >> do you? >> yes. >> down and to the left. >> i'm not lying, i haven't even seen anything yet. perfect example, this past weekend we decided we're going to go see a play. my mother was in town. we kept the kid at home and we went to see a wonderful play. >> matthew, what do you think? >> time is relevant. it's about the intensity, not the amount of it you have. it's like when you go home for christmas and you have a few days with each other and you do more than you would ever do in a normal year with people. >> maximize it. >> you maximize it. >> let's go to our facebook post. how can you keep the fire alive in your relationship? is it my responsibility to keep it interesting? >> yes. >> absolutely. >> what do you think? >> well, here's what every woman in america should do today. go out and buy two water guns. load it, put it on the counter for whenever your man gets home with a note that says come find me. and go and hide. game on.

>> you better hope he wants to find you. >> you'll be in the closet, waiting forever. >> what does bova think? >> i think love and sex is like tennis, you need two people going at it, whacking those balls, working themselves into a lather. >> they both been -- >> whoa. >> they've both been reading "cosmo" too much. >> we'll be back.

welcome back to more of "today" on this try-day friday. well, do guys tell all? >> we have all kinds of people. >> no. >> they're new some of them. matthew hussey. we have rick younger, we have dan bova and ryan shenavar. our next question? let's go. >> hi, i'm paula from cincinnati. and with mother's day coming up, how can i get my husband and my two kids to do something special

for me? >> keep reminding them that mother's day is coming up between now and mother's day. you know, mother's day is coming up. hey, you know, i'm a mother. >> maybe then he'll send a present to his mother. >> my father used to say look, that's your mother. that ain't my mother. >> let's go on to our facebook post from danielle. we just had a baby. why does it seem my husband is jealous of the attention i show the baby? >> because he is. >> biologically when a child comes into that whole environment, we feel like he's violating our space. we, you know, we try not to show the jealousy. but it's there. >> it's like the guy wants to feel masculine all the time and he's been the hero in the relationship for however long d all of a sudden he's not the hero in the same way anymore because there's a vacuum of attention. >> do you think the husband should be the priority for the

wife? because there's been some debate -- >> even while the child is an infant? >> should the marriage come first? >> when you have a small child, it should be a team effort. but i think the relationship is, the child sprung from the relationship, so you have to make sure that the relationship -- >> you both have to stay -- >> the guy, his ability to provide relies on him feeling like a man. so the ideal situation is we have this baby, but we're a team contributing here. you've got to make him feel good about it. >> what does dan bova think? >> i liken the baby to you're at the school -- there's balls involved -- no. you're at the school dance and some little creep just cut in between you and your lady. and now is attached his face to your lady's bosom. so -- >> it can be annoying. >> think about that. >> we're jealous that it's cute that the baby can do the buck-naked run-through and get away with it and the guys can't. >> my son definitely does the buck-naked run-through, but he

learned it from his dad. me and my son are very tight. >> but an infant needs urgent attention. >> i'm old enough -- >> the jealousy is there, but as an adult you have to be like, you know what, this is what i'm feeling, but i love this child and i love you. and let's do this together. >> let's go back across the street to another question. >> hi, my name is sharon from kingston, we're going on vacation in a couple of weeks and we have limited time and we like to do different activities. can you give me a suggestion on how to reach a compromise? >> you tell him it turns you on when he does your activity. >> there's something in it for everybody. >> women often use the wrong language with men. they say it would be so nice if we could do this together. nice doesn't work for them. i had a woman say to me when i was trying on clothes. she always wanted me to go shopping more. and we went out and i was trying on a sweater, and she said, it really turns me on when you try on clothes and so i never stopped trying on clothes.

>> but when you try on clothes, it takes me to poughkeepsie. >> now you're in. you are in. >> glad you were listening. >> i'm a listener. that's another thing, guys listen. >> here's a facebook post. what's the best way to initiate a conversation about an issue with a significant other without making them defensive? how do you start those -- >> i know how not to start them. >> how? >> we need to talk about -- something. >> whenever you hear those words -- oh. >> you know what's wrong with you? >> here's what you don't do, you don't do it in a time when there's already tension or when you're already arguing. do it in a time when there's zero tension. >> oh. >> britney. britney. >> britney -- >> all right. >> it's almost -- go, i get it, i get it.

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now into other special series called drop ten pounds by memorial day, to help you look hot when you get into your thong. >> the easiest ways to help you lose a pound a week is by cutting back on all of those liquid calories i know you don't want to hear. but "today" diet and nutrition editor madelyn fernstrom is here in leather. let's talk. please tell us we don't have to give up the alcohol again, but i guess we do. >> no, you really don't. nothing, nothing is too bad. everything in moderation, alcohol, especially, people feel deprived. there's a lot of good ways to cut back and enjoy it. starting with, if you like fizz, if you have something that's going to be beer, light beer or one of my favorites, champagne or sparkling wine. the fizz makes you drink slower.

you can save a lot of calories that way because it slows you down. >> have something fizzy. >> have something fizzy. >> and watch the servings, this is under 100 calories, this glass of champagne. but if you're a wine drinker, like i know you ladies are, you have to pay attention to what these portions are. >> this is actually, see that little mark on the side? a typical wine glass at home and pour that in. or if you don't feel like doing that -- >> how many ounces is that? >> that's five, that's a serving. buy a little bistro glass and fill it all the way up. no counting, no nothing. >> you can also make -- >> munchkin glasses. >> it's all how you see this. if you want to have a larger serving, start with this it's even less, it's three ounces but make a spritzer. you can have a giant -- fill it all the way up to the top. >> now red wine has more calories than white, right? >> not enough to make a difference. 10 or 15. so just choose what you like. >> what about real alcohol beverages. >> liquor.

>> liquor. you want to measure this out. one and a half ounces and the mixer is very important. whether you have tomato juice or something with seltzer, don't be fooled by clear mixers, like tonic water, it's sugary. get the diet. >> that's really good. >> i like that diet tonic water. >> the thing about coffee house drinks, the two problems are the milk and the sugar. when you look at whole milk versus skim milk, almost half the calories and the same thing for the nondairy versions, but get a skim milk low sugar syrup vanilla latte. don't be fooled by what you think is healthy. a green tea latte. people think it's must be healthier. it's a zillion calorie, 350. if you take some green tea and add a little milk yourself and add either a packet of sugar or low-calorie sweetener, it's all fine. >> i wouldn't think about that. but thank you. >> you've got about a minute. >> smoothies can be a calorie thing.

if you're going to buy them, downsize, look for something around 100 calories or in a store like jamba juice, get the lightened-up version. same thing with protein shakes, they can be healthy, but a calorie bomb. look for something about 200 calories and 30 grams of protein. >> we all know we can sort of doll up the doll up, having seltzer and fruit and you can have a diet soda, a low-calorie soda now and then or a little baby size, these are less than 100 calories. >> you know, i've been doing instead of just drinking the things of bottled water. i've been putting it in a pretty glass with lots of ice and lemon and lime and you feel like it's more special and drink more of it. >> there's a lot of low calorie juice options including vegetable juice. >> madeline, we love you. do you have tips on how you're dropping ten pounds for memorial day? drop us a tweet on klgandhoda.

>> the superstar who saved her marriage has a terrific book, i've been really enjoying it. >> gabrielle reece shares her story after this. good morning, to you, i'm weather cham alex wilson with your sech day forecast. as we start the weekend, things are dry around the southeast. you've got a great weekend to check out the cherry blossoms. as you head out into the northeast, that's where the rain and snow showers. up in the pacific north west, seattle you're going to be watching for rain to start the weekend. 62 in san francisco, 6 in l.a. 70 in washington and low 8 o0s ford ornlds.

this could impact the masters. we'll have to watch for that as we head into the end part of weekend. perhaps a few storms as we will down in the portions of louisiana and ms. ms. and rain and snow up in the parts of northern plains. high around 47 tomorrow in minneapolis. 70s around louisville, atlanta. over on the other side of the country, turchls around 60. monday rain and snow around portions of the west. 51 a high for salt lake city. rain including around d.c. could sue a few showers. tuesday soggy for chicago. 80 in atlanta. 86 in houston. on wednesday that's when the central part of the country will be watching for rain an snow. yet another around of winter areas like denver with a high of 28 degrees.

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the country's most accomplished athletes and has quite a few titles to her name. >> she certainly does. >> not only was she a volleyball champion and she's a fashion model, fitness expert and actress. >> and now she's written a book. a book about marriage and motherhood and she's so candid about some of her own struggles along the way. it is called "my foot is too big for the glass slipper." what a fantastic title, by the way. >> it's not that clever. i have a size 12 foot. so -- >> gee, she does. >> you're not supposed to look at my feet. >> it's such a page turner, this book. i really like it, it's really personal. >> it is.

>> we've all read lots and lots of books on relationships and marriages and divorce and they all tend to sound very much alike with the same kinds of advice. and yours is not like that. it really stands out. >> i think for me, i was approached about doing this as a project and i thought if you're going to really do it then certainly you have to do it your own way, who you are. but try to be as honest without you know, kind of gratuitous, if you will. >> because you are still married. so it's tough to write about the times when -- >> yes, but you have to reference things to give examples why you have that opinion. but again, i think sometimes sharing honestly but with you know, a little bit of privacy, and i try to make it more girlfriend talk. >> it is. >> instead of you should do this, versus well this is what i've discovered. >> a lot of people when they hit a bump in their marriage or a big pothole just sort of throw in the towel and you thought about that, too, didn't you? >> my husband and i were, we were married a very short time, three or four years at the time and we went through a big challenge.

and we, we had actually considered divorcing and because he was polite in his own way, he said you know, can you file. and then we both realized, for a number of reasons that it was something worth working through. but you know what it is, too? it has to do with that you don't come with a skill set. and it's learning to move with your partner and around them and also realizing separately, i realized, too, that that's a big theme in the book is self-responsibility and no one -- no husband is going to come and make you happy. no one rescues you, it's your personal responsibility to make yourself happy and your partner, for that matter. think that was something that was important to learn. and as a woman, not take things so personal. we take things so personal. >> and you're honest about the fact that when you did get back and had two children, you still struggled. you realize this is the person that i have the potential to be happy with for a long, long time. >> right, and that's an important thing. when you have that opportunity

with a friend or partner. you're fortunate, so it's worth it, it's a foundation of the things that are there. and i'm reminded, too, to try to have some fun. >> well, good, we enjoyed visiting with you. and you're also going to be on "rock center" with brian williams tonight. and an excerpt from gabby's foot, "my foot is too big for the glass slipper" -- >> and i know i'm not supposed to say this but your husband is a hottie. >> he walks around a lot without a shirt on, so that's nice. coming up next, a woman with many talents, actress and singer, emmy rossum. >> she and her band are going to perform live. ♪ ♪ ♪ ♪ ♪ ♪

>> announcer: the toyota concert series on "today" brought to you by toyota. ♪ you might know emmy rossum for her role in the show "shameless" where she plays a character who tries to raise her siblings with very little help from her alcoholic father. and what you may not know she's an accomplished singer, she's performing a classic hit from her new album "sentimental journey." >> you have a great love of music from the '20s, '30s and '40s. >> i grew up in the city and my mom would play all of those songs. so i decided to make this record. >> you're going to sing for us now? >> yes. >> and it looks good on you. >> take it away, emmy. ♪

♪ cigarettes that bear ♪ lip stick traces ♪ and romantic places ♪ still my heart wishes these foolish things ♪ ♪ remind me of you ♪ the tingling piano in the next apartment ♪ ♪ those stumbling words that told you ♪ ♪ what my heart meant ♪ the secret swings these foolish things ♪ ♪ remind me of you

♪ you came ♪ you saw ♪ you conquered me ♪ when you did that to me ♪ i knew somehow it had to be ♪ winds of march that made my heart a dancer ♪ ♪ a telephone that rings ♪ but who's to answer ♪ how the how these foolish things ♪ ♪ remind me of you ♪

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♪ oh how the i wish ♪ these foolish things ♪ remind me of you ♪ remind me of you ♪ they remind me of you >> this is it man. jeff: straight from the hills. there's a secret service guy waiting outside. called the devil wears prada of capitol hill. the authors of capital hell uncensored. can't be contained.

[ applause ] jeff: hello, hello! roll it! [ cbs television distribution ] jeff: all right. a little about me. married.ntly i work with my wife on this show. 'm learning to be a dad to two amazing kids in a blended family. i'm hosting a talk show 'cause there's a lot to talk about. is the adventure. welcome to the show. have a seat. thank you very much. some of primetime's hottest hows spotlight scandals, drama in washington, d.c. reed scott is a star of hbo's comedy veep. he's here. like gonna talk what it's louis d th julia dryfess. also the devil wears prada of politics. brown is te nicole

here! [ applause ] >> you know, i saw reed in the back. jeff: do you know reed? >> i met him. i'm a huge veep fan. like, i think that's him. i never know all the time who is on the show. veep. that's my guy from he is. jeff: when we first started this an , the big c was kind of inspiration for us. if you haven't seen the big c, so great. gets cancer and said i am never going to another cocktail party that i don't want at.e i'm done pleasing other people. >> yes. jeff: it was like, yeah. he's on that as well. i do that all the time. i always do stuff i don't really want to do. really. give me an example. >> i can because it might upset friends. jeff: how many friends do you have? friends.e quite a few jeff: how many? >> i never count