from nbc news, this is "today" with kathie lee gifford and hoda kotb, live from studio 1a in rockefeller plaza. >> hello, everybody. welcome to booze day tuesday. it is january 14th. we're here in our -- they let us into the big studio today, where the big people play. we're excited. nice to see you all. >> how are you? >> very, very good since we just spent the last couple of hours together, and you lost your phone twice. >> that's what i do. my mom was up late last night, i woke up this morning at 4:00 when i got up and got a text from her. it said, hello, hodi. i was watching jay leno and he said something funny about kathie lee and you and wine,

just so you know. i sent the e-mail in and apparently he did. >> let's look. >> here's what he said. >> a major highway in canada had to be shut down after a truck accident spilled thousands of bottles of wine on the road. they had to fly in kathie lee and hoda to help clean up. >> we're the ones for the job. by the way, congratulations, jay, on so many amazing years. every time i see him now, i think pretty soon we're going to have our friend jimmy fallon there. but talk about an amazing accomplishment, you know? >> a class act. real class act. we asked you guys if you wouldn't mind sending in dressup pics of your pets. and, you know what -- >> today is national dress up your pet day. >> you sent them in like crazy. carrie's dog, buddy, has got a tux on. >> aw. >> melissa's dog is next, percy

dressed as a pilot. of course. >> the last dog in the tux looked a little like phil robertson. can we go back for a second? doesn't he, a little? >> who is phil robertson? >> "duck dynasty". >> this dog is dressed up as a martini. >> is that the front or the back? >> the dog's name is martini. we get confused. >> hoda apparently already had a couple of martinis. and then, yes, we were ready for super bowl -- what was that before? yeah, that's out in our backyard. >> all have sweaters on for the giants? >> yeah. football season, yeah. >> how cute is that with frank? >> and hoda's dog blake. >> that was the other day, he has on a blue zippy hoodie. >> he's sick. >> he's on the mend. we're paging through the post. >> there is a new verb, called lawrencing. >> okay. >> so jennifer lawrence wore

this dress on the red carpet. >> at the golden globes. >> it got a lot of attention. >> in the paper, they showed photos of everybody who was trying to imitate her dress in their own special way. there is the dog doing his version of it. >> guys, must be retired, or they would not have the time. >> and this guy doing the exact face of jennifer lawrence, if you look closely when she's trying to ambush taylor swift in the interview, he has that crazy face while photo bombing her. >> i guess this is taking on the world. i don't see the fascination with it, but, hey, we love her. >> we love her. anything she does or says is better than the last thing she did or said. >> and some of these fans out there, for different stars, are formidable. and none more so than taylor swift. she has a huge, huge fan club out there. when they sense their girl is attacked, they go on the attack. >> they do. is there some sound bite on this? >> i'm not sure. i don't think so. but we're going to set up what happened about the joke.

>> tina and amy were hosting the awards and amy poehler actually won her first golden globe. she got up there, so excited about it. and she made a comment that was about taylor swift, when what was it -- >> yeah, where are you going with that? last year at the golden globes tina fey and amy poehler were teasing taylor swift about stay away from michael j. fox's kids. taylor swift later told vanity fair, there is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women, referring to the ladies' joke. i can see that being said facetiously. so now you take it, hoda. >> amy poehler won her globe for "parks and recreation." she and tina had a little exchange. >> say congratulations again to my friend amy poehler. i love you. >> there is a special place in hell for you. >> okay. >> now, a lot of people probably saw that and thought what does that mean?

>> what is confuse about it is earlier in the evening, remember the actress who said for those of you who go to hell and don't come back, remember? that's why people were confused as well. >> now taylor swift -- >> jacqueline bisset said that in her acceptance speech. is anyone following any of this at all? there are tweets that came back toward amy and tina. >> i hate amy poehler and tina. blank you guys are so dumb. another one said i'm never watching the golden globes again. that's for sure. i'm not about to watch my idol get shaded. >> and i don't think it is going to matter because the golden globes got a ten-year high in the ratings bringing in almost 30 million viewers. good for them. i think they have one more year on their contract. >> they were awesome. they were so good. so good. >> all right, what's next, hodi? >> diane keaton, i don't know if you saw her at the golden

globes, giving the award to woody allen, who was not there. >> he was with you. he was at the carole king broadway musical "beautiful". >> diane got up, gave her speech and a commercial came on, a l'oreal commercial and you can see diane keaton in that commercial. now, a twitter storm erupted as it tends to do. and they wondered if she was airbrushed, or is it amazing lighting or what did l'oreal do to change the look of diane keaton. >> thank you. 68 years old, proudly, and has been with l'oreal for a long time, 2006. i remember, there is lots of other ladies that are over a certain age, and you and a applaud l'oreal for using women a little more seasoned. >> it is called good lighting.

any of us know and we know and we have proven it, you can sit and have great lighting and then all of a sudden the lights can go down or off or something -- >> or a weird angle. i promise you this, even gisele bundchen in bad light does not look good. lighting is everything. >> the bottom line is l'oreal is one of the few companies, beauty companies that hires women over 50 and even older in diane's case and proudly puts them on and women love seeing them. and, you know, i don't think it was terrible. i don't know -- >> i don't know what it is either. nobody wants -- they're selling cosmetics. we reached out to l'oreal and diane keaton and have not received a statement and i doubt they will. but it is not -- >> i agree. >> not that we're changing, but what bothers me is when they change body. most women wear makeup anyway. on their own to avoid -- mask some of their flaws, okay. in honor of the super bowl next month -- >> what's happening? >> great segue. there is a pop-up exhibition at the met, the metropolitan museum of art.

a vintage trading card, exhibition opens january 24th, runs through february 10th, all through the super bowl festivities. we spotted one trading card we thought you might -- that's 1952. the year before i was born. and that's frank's trading card. >> i think that would go for a pretty penny. >> it depends on how many were printed and what condition it's in and who it is. so some of them are worth a whole lot. that's why i'm hanging on to frank. >> does he keep those cards at home? >> we have them everywhere. we have things everywhere. yep, yep, yep. >> put them anywhere special? >> no. >> we had these pizza pies on our desk for a reason. pizza hut is announcing a one of a kind crust on thursday. they sent us our one of a kind pizzas. they made pizzas in the shape of our faces. >> i'm sorry, that is -- that is you, hoda.

>> what are you talking about? >> you can tell it is you. it is not a -- i think we should is a twitter thing, doesn't make it look as beautiful as you really are, but mine doesn't either. >> yours looks good. >> you know, hoda, it does not. >> it does. they're not edible. we would eat them, but we can't. >> i wouldn't eat it. there is something very, very wrong and freudian about that. >> yours is made with peppers for your hair and mine is made with something else. >> something at the other end, i don't know. something. we want to thank the lady who did it. her name is prudence. thank you. >> find art lots of places, hoda. >> you have to go first. >> i have to go first. i talked about frank's snoring. i love the man, but it has been a problem that is getting worse. getting worse. i have made -- i made the confession on my podcast the other day that i, last sunday night, when i got back from

vacation and knew i had to get up the next day and go to work, it was probably one of the worst bouts we ever had. he had no idea because he was asleep. i put a pillow over his face and the more he snored, the more i pushed the pillow. i pushed it. i pushed it. and i pushed it until i don't know, something could have happened. he never budged. never -- >> slept like a baby. >> slept like a baby. >> the next day we got him this. i'm telling you, this past week has been nothing short of a miracle. it is called vera mist. you do this -- >> a prescription. >> a prescription. and you do this, i won't waste it because this is the only baby we got. you do it two times in each nostril. frank's nose in fairness has been broken in times in football and a couple of times by his second wife, but doesn't matter. and you know what i did the next night when he did it, i woke up at 1:00, silence next to me. 2:00, silence. all the way until when i get up at 5:00.

i could not believe this. you need a prescription. but i'm telling you, it saved a marriage. >> what is it called again? >> vera mist. normally an allergy medication. check with your doctor before you use it. >> these are new orleans saints drew brees beads. i know my saints lost, but i love them. they're still my favorite thing. and i just want to say, there is always next year to the saints and -- >> to the giants too. coming up tomorrow, hank azaria will be with us. he'll discuss his new series on fatherhood, doing a documentary. >> if you're a father with a question, please post it on our facebook page. and he may get to answer it on the air. >> okay. coming up, are you worried about maybe you spoiled your kids rotten and are they just becoming ungrateful? >> find out if you can turn that bad attitude into something that remotely looks like gratitude. >> guess who's here? >> maria shriver. >> she'll help women like you strike the right balance between life and career.

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with 7 antioxidants to support cell health. one a y men's 50+. let's make this work. as a parent, you want to give your children the best life has to offer, but giving them too much can turn your little prince or princess into an ungrateful brat. >> if that's the case in your house, the good news is you can unspoil your kids and teach them gratitude. here with help are psychologist jennifer hartstein, author of "princess recovery" and dana point, editor in chief of "parents" magazine. >> that's her real name, by the way. >> it is. >> nice to see you, ladies. >> we start with a poll, which we tend to do. on klgandhoda.com, 75% said their kids are spoiled. and i guess the question is, if they are spoiled now, when is it too late to unring the bell? >> it is not too late to unring the bell. you have to on some level depending on the age of the kid let them know you're going to unring the bell, there will be a change in the house, you're changing up the system. if you stop giving in, they're going to be confused and really awful.

>> let's be age appropriate about this and get your feeling on the same thing, dana. say they're 6, that's going to be different than 16. >> absolutely. so you can have the same conversation, hey, you ask, you want, you want, you want, you want. we want to give you everything we can, but we're going to change things up at the house, all work together to change that. here's what we're going to do. let's figure out who we can give all these toys you don't play with anymore, who can we give them to. work with the 6-year-old. they're curious. they're seeing where it goes they can see what happens, make that a monthly ritual if you can. >> be prepared with an older child to be really -- to repeat yourself over and over. go in the bathroom when you're alone, look in the mirror and practice saying no. >> if you do that, your kid is 16, now here is a new thing, you're coming in at 11:00 and not 12:00 midnight anymore and we're changing the game and they're resistant. what is the penalty? how do you stop it?

>> older kids, 16 is a whole new ball game. they have their own -- they're driving, have their own money. you actually are trying to teach them a level of responsibility. but so you set a limit. the limit is 11:00, and they come in at 11:30, what you need to set that up before they ever go out. come in late, you'll lose curfew tomorrow or -- >> a penalty. >> and then be consistent. >> whatever the privilege is. going out, access to -- whatever it is. >> what happens a lot. i was a maniac about manners. a maniac about it. everything is fine. they go off to college. they're good kids, but it is different when they come back and they are starting to get independent and stuff and all of a sudden, it is like, oh, yeah, what are you going to do about it? what do you do then? >> a young age. >> i did. before they could talk. >> i'm not complaining about my kids, they're awesome. but you sense the world's influence on them. >> the job of a teenager an we know adolescence extends to the early 20s to the mid-20s, is to

learn how to be independent and to learn how to, you know, push the boundaries. that's part of their job, quote/unquote. even in their early 20s, they're going to come back and push back more. they're used to living on their own and now they come to your house and the rules -- we go back to the roles of being teenagers. sometimes it doesn't matter how old you are when you come home. >> even though they're not at home, they're in college, but kids are still under your roof, if you're still paying all the bills. is it the right thing to keep reminding them of that or is that counterproductive? >> i think it is fine to remind them. i think it is great to expose them to parts of the world where there are people who don't have. right? so whether that means doing community service when your child comes home from holiday, when they're under your roof, but also it goes back to demonstrating the proper behavior. let your kid see you say no to something or postpone your own pleasure or enjoyment or forgo a purchase.

>> if they're in college and asking you because they want to go to cancun for spring break and you just don't feel that they have performed well or they earned it, then you -- no is a very powerful word. you have to say no and stick to it. >> okay, ladies. >> thank you for all you do. >> thank you. you know the celebrity outfits you wish you could afford. >> now you can. we have stylist star looks for a whole lot less. and one woman's incredible story. >> you know who is incredible? >> maria shriver. >> best hair in the world. >> i love her hair. i want it. >> advice for all you ladies that can't find enough hours in the day. >> i can't. but i still want the hair. but first, these messages. an. here's another. try charmin ultra strong. it cleans so well and you can use up to four times less than the leading bargain brand. thanks mom! make me proud honey! [ female announcer ] charmin ultra strong has a duraclean texture that's soft and more durable to help your kids get clean while still using less. and it's four times stronger than the leading bargain brand.

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sometimes when we're facing a tough situation, we'll get a sign in the form of a coincidence that everything is going to be just okay. >> those moments are what a best-selling author writes about in his books. and one of those stories is about a then 25-year-old stacy kelly and what happened after she got the devastating news

that her dad had died. >> it was that middle of the night phone call you never want to get. my dad had died of a heart attack. i quickly packed a bag and got on the first flight out. and i opened the morning newspaper and there was my father's picture, under the headline, emmitt kelly, world's most famous clown, dead at 80. for 20 years he was ringling brothers most famous clown, the hobo clown with the sad face. and that sad face was his trademark he never let anybody take a picture with anything but the sad face and he was successful. except for that one time, dad was being interviewed by united press international and there was a phone call that came in, my mom's doctor. emmitt, congratulations, you're the father of a new baby girl. my dad grinned from ear to ear. and then, click, the photographer took a picture that went to newspapers around the globe. the only photo of the sad-faced clown smiling.

well, i thought about that special picture as a sat on the airplane. for some reason, i stuffed one of those old yellow newspapers into my bag and it was special to me and i pulled it out and it was a treasured memory. but then i realized something that had never quite donned on me before, like what my father was really smiling about. he was smiling about me. and i started to cry. and the man seated next to me leaned over and said, miss, are you okay? well, pointing to the picture in the paper, i said, my father died last night. the man looked shocked. he said, you will never believe this, i am the photographer who took that picture. i looked at him in disbelief, the person who took that very special picture 25 years before was divinely aligned to be seated right next to me, at the time of my greatest grief. at that moment, a real peace came over me. i knew everything was going to be all right. >> oh, my god. >> we had no idea that was coming.

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we're back on this booze day tuesday with more of today. do you remember life before remote controls, microwaves, cell phones. >> before hoda and i slept together? if you're hoda's age, you do remember that. >> what's the newest technology that you won't be able to live without? >> steve greenberg scoured the consumer electronics show in las vegas for the latest products that could be staples in your house. >> steve is the author of "gadget nation." >> yes, he is. hello, steve. >> finally got you two in bed. >> ah. >> this is from the folks at serta, adjustable frame and comfort bed.

it is bluetooth. you can play the music through the speakers. it is wirelessly. the speakers are in the back, the subwoofer beneath you guys. >> can you put your own music in there? >> absolutely. we have got massaging -- >> oh! >> little massaging action there. an underlight as well, so you can find your slippers. hard to see with the studio lights but there is a light under the bed and two usb ports here on the side so you can charge your cell phone or -- >> always trying to find -- >> does it come with this particular mattress because i love this. >> icomfort mattress. very cool, huh? >> okay. >> get out of bed -- >> we'll sit. >> want to watch tv in bed, the folks at lg and samsung both came out with 105 inch curved tvs. we have pictures of them right there. very, very cool. 105 inches. also 4k, four times as high

definition as 1080p. >> don't watch our show on that. great for home theater. >> great for home theater. immerses yourself inside the picture. don't have a price on it yet. it is going to be big money. big, big money. next, these are some -- a lot of robots at the show. brought two right here. this is from a company called eco vac. these are sammy bots. let me get them working here. come on, guys. >> what do they do? >> they interact with -- they can play news, weather, sports. this is an air purifier over here. they interact with outlets, smoke detector and with motion sensors. playing sports right now. >> that's cool. >> very, very neat. you can be on your iphone or any smartphone and see through its eyes and be anywhere in the world and it can check out your house, will send you images if it sees a problem. smoke detector goes off, tells you what's happening. >> whoever did the jetsons was a genius because they knew. >> absolutely. this is called voice. this is a collar that goes on the dog.

we have eddie righhere. >> hi, eddie. >> he's a good boy. >> such a beautiful dog. >> this does his heart rate, respiration, activity, monitors it 24/7. really great. you go to the vet, the vet tries to do a heart rate. the dog is nervous. this they get a reading for weeks, days, months, to your smartphone or tablet. great way to keep track. it is a health and wellness tracker. they can go in the water with it and everything else. called voice. this is from the folks at belkin. it is a crock pot and folks at crock pot, you can control it from your smartphone. >> oh, my god. >> soccer practice runs long and want to stop the food, stop it or change the temperature, all that is controlled. crock pot through your smart device. >> unbelievable. >> this is an inventor, actually here in the studio this is

brand-new, called smart charge l.e.d. bulb. two l.e.d. bulbs here. this has a built in battery. let's say the power goes out in your house. here is the example of it. power out, this stays on, but still works with the switch. >> how long will it stay on? >> four hours. >> for emergencies. >> absolutely for an emergency. this is on kick starter as well as on the website. smart charge l.e.d. bulbs. very cool. next is the izzy slim. this is a device you set on to your iphone, right there, it has these great -- see if i can get a shot there, all the lenses built on. if i slip this on, right now we're fish eye, never the most flattering for us, but fish eye, you can change the lenses, like that. it has a macro lens so you can flip to that so we can get a tight shot say of this, you can do my macro shot as well. which i don't know if we can show on camera. >> for all the photos i'm taking this year. >> it is really cool. next, last but not least, from the folks at schwinn, this is their -- >> i love schwinn. >> i love them too. this is a navigation system, under 60 bucks, great price

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we have all been in the line at the grocery store looking at celebrity magazines wondering why we can't look as casually fashionable as some of the stars. >> now you can. "today" contributor and contributing editor to "people style watch" magazine and author jill martin is here to show you how to get the star studded style at a fraction of the

price. >> i love these segments. >> fun. you get inspiration from them. i want to start with my dress. >> fantastic. >> thank you. okay, so, taylor swift wore a similar dress to the victoria's secret fashion show. we have a picture. hers, $10,000. mine, from zara, $59. >> unbelievable. i like yours better. >> i do too. >> i'm not wearing -- >> wow. >> zoom out. >> that looks good on you, baby. >> anyway, we have three looks. and i want to start with sophia bush. we have zoe coming out the door right now. the louis vuittons alone, $1200. our entire look, $243.91. so our pumps are $48 from kohl's, the white button down, everybody should have a classic white button down from old navy, $24.99. look at the necklace, $32.

but if you have an old brooch or something, you can just put it there for a little highlight. i love this. conservative, fun, classy look. $243.91 for the entire look, including the bag. >> gorgeous. >> thank you, zoe. miley cyrus had a trendy look. >> right. we're not going through that halloween outfit, we're going a little more fun and edgy. this is lindsey. her designer dress we see miley cyrus right here with the great jacket on. that's over $5,000 easily. we come here, it is really fun now to mix flirty with edgy. this is a dress under there, let's say you're traveling, going to florida or somewhere warm, and you this dress on, you can just take the jacket right off. this dress -- >> you wear that on a plane? >> i would wear it on a plane -- not really. take the plane thing back. but if you take this off, you have the flirty little look, but if it is that warm, cool thing go on, this is a faux leather jacket, $64, shop sophie.com. great bag.

look at this bag from shoe dazzle, $44. miley cyrus' entire look, over $5,000. ours, $349.95 including everything. >> that's extraordinary. good job. >> thank you. >> so kristin cavallari. >> elle is our model. this is just a great outfit to have all these separate pieces to mix and match. now, you see she looks beautiful and it was sort of this oversized sweater. normally you'll find leather leggings, faux leather for over $1,000. ours are nydj, $72 for these legs and a great turtleneck from gap. what is great about this, you can mix and match with a blazer. if you don't love your legs, wear a longer sweater with heels or boots and get the same look. so -- >> keep it all in the same color. >> the same color.

because that's always slimming. >> elongates. >> always elongates. the designer look, over a thousand dollars for the legs. our total look with the bag, $219.75. >> unbelievable, jill. so great. you're fantastic. coming up, one pot meal for dinner, from one of my favorite restaurants. >> you love that. and maria shriver. >> i've been waiting. >> advice for women trying to juggle work and family and stay sane after this. to prove that a febreze car vent clip

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every day. >> welcome, ladies. i'm intimidated already with how fabulous you three are. >> this is a big undertaking for you. tell us what the study showed. >> the shriver report looked at the status of the american woman and what we found is it is precarious and one in three women are on the financial brink, turning in and out of poverty and that women are concentrated in wages and minimum wage jobs where they don't have any sick days and they're struggling between caring for their children, putting food on the table, taking care of parents, and feeling like they have to do it all. >> and that's on a good day, when things are going well. >> on a good day. we think that also the face of poverty has changed. we think that people dress up and they look like we were just talking about that she looks like she has it all together, but she's really stressed out, she's trying to care for children, she's trying to run a construction business, she's struggling financially. and you were saying that the callout really spoke to your particular predicament, it has

millions of women around the country. >> doing it all, i feel that i really do it all. i run my business, i take care of my children, i'm completely a single parent, and i have a child with special needs and we are just -- >> you're in the construction field, which can't be easy on top of everything, right? >> yeah. >> most of the time it is terrific. people are great and supportive. but it can be very difficult. >> but you're a statistic that is growing and that is that it used to be that we had a classic family, two parents, and the man was the breadwinner and the woman was the stay at home mom. that's changed dramatically. >> only one fifth of american families are like that. the majority are because they have to, it used to be that maybe the woman's income was the second income. now families have to and so they need different kinds of things from business, they need different kinds of things from political leaders and different kinds of things from partners, men and women. >> what were your most -- when did you run into brick walls? what was the toughest part?

>> finding a business in construction right before the economy turned. that was the big brick wall. changing in banking rules. >> what kind of advice -- >> well, cindy is trying to fit it all together so she can be her best, there really is no balance. one thing she can do is focus on one thing at a time. you're trying to stabilize the finances of your business. you said sometimes you struggle to get extra help. we all do. we think we can do it ourselves. be creative. reach out to a local college. maybe there is a entrepreneurship group that can get the minority, women and business enterprise certification that you stopped getting because it was overwhelming, have them take it through to the end. that can help you get government contracts that can help your business but get help, be creative, go out to your community. >> a lot of women, not only do they go to work, but they have to pay for child care and for all of those other needs. >> one step forward, two steps back. >> one thing people said in the poll was that -- what they

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if you are craving creole, no better place than commander's palace. since 1880, new orleans landmark and was voted by you as the fourth best place to eat in the entire country. >> i would love to know the other three. >> tory mcphail is the executive chef of commander's palace, making one of his signature dishes, one pot seafood stew you can make at home. >> yeah. >> congrats on the good news. >> that's fantastic.

i asked you before, is this like a lot of the food that comes out of that world, heavy in cream and you said, no. >> yeah, all this is a little lighter. this is a great, great food for mardi gras and we're happy that trip adviser has given us this great award, very nice and you can find more about that on their website. >> what are we making? >> this is easy. this is called courtbouillon. an easy dish that everybody can do at home. what we want to do here, there is not a lot of oil. >> what kind of oil are you using? >> vegetable oil. hot chilies, garlic, bay leaf. mix that together. i'll add everything all at once. >> what is the red stuff? >> blackening spice. this doesn't have to take you very long. want to help me out? >> yeah. what do you have here? >> celery, onion and green peppers. >> that's the backbone of all of our creole cooking. you can use a rip on this recipe to make gumbo, jambalaya, all basic ingredients. we'll mix all this together. i'll add a little bit of flour.

it is healthy. this is just -- >> this is to thicken. >> half a cup. not loaded up with the roux you find in gumbo. shake this in. >> shake it, baby. >> we let this go for three or four minutes to simmer down and then after that we add our fresh tomatoes. and these are just chopped, seeded tomatoes. >> you're good at it. >> that's it. in? >> we're going to do fresh seafood next too. >> put that in? >> pop that in. >> oysters? >> fresh oysters, wild shrimp, right out of the gulf of mexico. >> leaving the tails. >> some shrimp stock as well. >> what's this? chicken? >> this is not chicken. >> fish. >> red snapper. >> red snapper. anything you find in your local grocery store. >> i'll lay it on here, we have to taste it. >> that's the stock.

>> that's exactly it. >> look at this. >> it looks fantastic. >> oh, my god. it really does. >> i'm sorry. >> it is easy. do this around any kind of mardi gras party you have. it keeps. >> want to try? >> that's a few minutes. >> thank you. >> little bite of this. >> i cannot wait. >> get in there. get in. >> go for it. >> get in. >> who knew louisiana cooking could be that fast. >> hot. >> anyway -- >> tell us about the cocktail. >> in order to cool down your pallet, we have some a cocktail we call maio in new orleans. instead of heavy cream, we add in soy milk, we're also going to add in a little bit of almond milk as well. >> okay. >> what is this called? >> it is the brandy milk punch. we lighten it up a little bit. >> like a white russian. >> sure does. >> that's good.

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