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breaking news. tense talks. president biden meets with chinese president xi jinping in san francisco, first face to face conversation in more than a year. storming in. israel launches what they're calling a precise and targeted operation against gaza's largest operation. saying hamas hides in tunnels under hospitals. hamas denies that. the new federal rules expected to save millions. family ties. hopeful parents looking to adopt know how challenging that can be. how to keep your heart involved in the process. so many ways families look. so many nontraditional families. but we begin this hour with breaking news out of san francisco, that's where president biden is meeting with the chinese president.

>> that's right, they're holding face to face talks for the first time in a year, the stakes for today's meeting could not be higher. they're discussing a variety of issues to try to bridge the gap. >> the two leaders first got to know each other in china 2011 when they were both vice presidents, flash forward to 2023 and the relationship between the u.s. and china is really at its lowest in decades. for example, remember that spy balloon episode, the u.s. shot down what they said was a chinese spy balloon over the waters over the carolinas. what are we hearing from both president biden and president xi right now? >> reporter: the overall message from both leaders as they gave remarks to each other at the beginning of the meeting, it's

no secret that we don't agree on everything and this past year has been an indication of that but these two countries given their size, given their influence, given the interdependencies of the economies have to find a way to communicate. so the very fact that this heating is happening is the main takeaway, showing that the leaders of these two countries are at least talking again. here's more of what president biden had to say at beginning of their meeting. >> i value our conversation because i think it's paramount that you and i understand each other clearly, leader to leader, with no misconceptions or miscommunication. we have to ensure the competition does not veer into conflict. >> translator: two large countries like the united states and china turning their backs on each other is unrealistic. >> reporter: there are no big

expectations for this meeting, expectations are actually quite low, there could be some deliverables in the form of re-establishing military to military contacts but still some very thorny issues that exist between these two sides, from trade to tariffs, to taiwan and those certainly will be resolved today. >> thank you. let's go over to expeter alexander and get the white house perspective on this. peter, we saw the two presidents sitting in the room together, what do we think might be happening behind those closed doors. >> reporter: alongside their top advisers for several hours again, this is as much as anything trying to restore one of the world's most consequential relationship, this tense rivalry in a downward spiral now for most of the last year here and while there's not

any expectations of breakthroughs, a couple of things i'll be watching for as the day progresses, the pronouncement of a joint working group, to stem the flow of illegal ingredients used in fentanyl coming into the united states from china, you heard from janis referring to desire to restore military to military direct communications, just the about to have codirect conversations would be viewed as progress. looking ahead to this evening is when president xi leaves here, he'll be attending a glitzy high-dollar among some of the top business ceos. an effort to lure back businesses to china. >> peter alexander, thank you so much. a dramatic new chapter in the israel/hamas war, israeli

forces say they're inside the largest hospital on gaza strip gathering intelligence, the israeli military said soldiers are conducting a targeted -- video from the hamas-run gaza ministry of health. it's not clear to nbc news when that video was exactly recorded. the director of hospitals in gaza says israeli troops searched medical teams, em moiis and patients for more than ten hours. nbc's correspondent erin mclaughlin is following this. >> reporter: i spoke with him the last couple of hours or so, and he described what the israeli military is saying a targeted raid on al shifa hospital, he told me that he's currently located in the main

surgical building of the hospital and that's significant because he's limited to that building, he said they can't move around the hospital, israeli snipers have surrounded the hospital, their drones, phone lines are down within the hospital, no internet, it's very difficult to communicate, very difficult to build as a result a comprehensive picture of the situation, this is what he knows, he said that at 11:00 p.m. the israeli military called -- there was a rocket bombed the fourth floor of the building. the main surgical building the one that he's located in, the rocket into a patient's room, he said luckily no one was injured as a result of that. at 1:00 a.m. the israeli military called the administration, the hospital director and told him they were planning to go into the hospital, they asked for the

administrator's cooperation, they entered the hospital and went into the basement floor of the specialty unit, he said asked the director to join them. the director declined, asking for the icrc or the u.n. to accompany the search, the israeli military declined that request. they checked everyone inside the dial sis unit, every inside the unit was brought outside of the hospital. he saw ten soldiers inside the hospital and he told me that it's unclear at this point if the israeli military is still inside of the hospital. now that's the picture from his perspective the israeli military tonight doubling down on their allegations that the hospital is being used as a hamas command post, the israeli military releasing video of their search of the hospital pointing to weapons they say they found in the back of an mri machine n the closet -- weapons part of a hamas go bag, they're alleging

that 200 hamas militants were using the al shifa hospital as a hideout. i asked this doctor about those allegations. he said during his time at the hospital during the course of the last six months he's not seen a single hamas militant or a single weapon inside of the hospital. kate. >> erin with that reporting, thank you so much. here in the u.s., eight teenagers are facing murder charges in the beating diddette of high school student in las vegas. jonathan lewis was attacked after trying to help a find near his school two weeks ago. he died last week and police said the fight started over a pair of head phones. liz kreutz is following this. what are they saying today about these murder charges. >> reporter: we know that eight students between the ages of 13 and 17 have been arrested and police say they will be charged with murder.

nbc news has learned four of those students will be arraigned and they'll be tried as adults. still to be determined whether the four other students will be tried as adults or juveniles. police are still working to identify two others. it's just hour rick. this began as a fight over a stolen head phones. decided to meet in a back alley of the school and that's when the brawl began. a group of students taking over and mobbing jonathan lewis, the victim, kicking and stomping on him until he became unconscious. a passer by found him and he was taken to the hospital and a coroner he died of blunt-force trauma, homicide. >> disturbing details there, liz. have we heard anything from the slain teen's family. >> reporter: so his father is

speaking out and saying his son was a loving, caring young man who was trying to defend a smaller friend of his who was being bullied and that's how he got involved in the fight. the father and the parents have created an antibullying foundation. it's called team jonathan and verified gofundme that has been set up. >> liz, thanks. a turn now to today's money minute. meta is making a controversial change to its ad policy. video platform tiktok has a new feature for music lovers political ads that request the legitimacy of the 2024 election will be allowed on facebook and instagram. meta has updated its social media policy to loosen

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jury deliberation rgs under way in federal trial of the man charged with attacking the paul pelosi, hit in with hammer just over a year ago. the suspect took the stand in his own defense yesterday, giving a bizarre and rambling explanation for the assault. steve patterson is covering this for us. steve, closing arguments were held earlier today, what did we hear from both sides before the jury got the case? >> reporter: closing arguments wrapping up about an hour ago, they went as we expected. this is an argument about the spirit of the charges themselves not necessarily the violence that took place in the home. that's at least how the defense wants you to think about, they don't dispute any of details from inside the home itself, did

david depape assault paul pelosi? was it a violent assault? sure it was. depape what they're arguing though is the charges come with a stipulation to impede the duties of a public official. the defense argues, no it wasn't. they say their client was essentially so radicalized by these disinformation and radical right-wing conspiracy theorys that he was there for a totally different reason than the charges allege td. prosecution says that's ridiculous, nancy pelosi is a very public person, a central figure in the democratic party, she's politician, only reason why depape was in that house was because of those reasons. they went back and forth. there was a cross on the closing arguments. so now it's in hands of the jury. they have today and as long as

they need the to reach a conclusion which may come as early as the next few hours or early next week. back to you. >> lot of eyes on this. this was an incident that capture the nation's attention. it looks like the federal government isn't going to shut down this week the house passed a short-term spending bill that funds the government into the next week. our colleagues expect the senate to pass the measure later this evening. ryan nobles joins us now. some work still to be done. senate has to pass it. it feels like the most striking thing we'll be back talking about this again in just a matter of weeks, right. >> reporter: you're right, kate, if the senate does pass this short-term spending bill, the only problem it's going to solve is avoiding a government shutdown this friday and essentially takes all these

issues that both the house and senate are dealing with and pushes off the big decisions until the middle of january. not a ton of progress made on the house or senate passing a long-term spending bill. they've not been able to come up with an agreement on the amount of money they want to spend in totality. so for now, they're going to avoid this, there will not be a shutdown leading up to christmas which is something that we've come accustomed to here on capitol hill. the other thing we need to point out, they need to deal with these funding packages for ukraine, israel and the border and potentially taiwan. something the white house has asked for, no movement in that regard and the spending bill they'll vote on tonight doesn't

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call your doctor if worsened breathing, chest pain, mouth or tongue swelling, problems urinating, vision changes, or eye pain occur. ask your doctor about breztri. this is the "fast forward." president biden is meeting with chinese president xi jinping discussing a number of tough issues with major implications for the u.s. abroad. about an hour ago, we saw the two meet. flanked by a u.s. honor guard. it's their first meeting in over a year as the relationship between the two countries has gotten cold. president biden wants to leave with a better working relationship with china, saying competition shouldn't become conflict. >> a critical global challenge we face from climate change to narcotics to artificial intelligence demand our joint

efforts. i look forward to beginning this discussion. i welcome you. the floor is yours, mr. president. welcome back. >> speaking through a translator, president xi echoed the president's comments saying the u.s. and china couldn't afford to turn their bacs on each other. could learn more later today when president biden speaks at 4:15 after a four-hour meeting. president xi's arrival sparking protests on the peninsula. demonstrations taking place in san francisco where the apec summer is being held. bob redell has more. >> reporter: hundreds of protesters staged at various locations at the different entrances to the zone of security that surrounds the area, a couple of blocks from our location, which is hosting the apec summit with ceos and world leaders. this is the entrance at fifth and mission where protesters

have been around since 7:30 this morning, roughly. the goal, according to one of the spokes people for the no to apec coalition, is to disrupt and shut down this summit. they have made it harder for attendees to get in. they have not shut down the summit. this is the scene at another entrance. about maybe a half mile where we are at. protests sat on the ground, linked arms and blocked a gate for vehicles. this is a gate manned by secret service. they are trying to take a stand against what they call fossil fuel imperialism. back here, we heard messages against president biden, communism, war, imperialism, israel and corporate greed among other issues. protesters have singled out attendees trying to enter the secured zone who stood out in their suits and dress clothes. in some cases, they surrounded those individuals and yelled shame, shame, shame at them.

here is one attendee wearing a pin for the bridgestone tire company. >> another day in san francisco. i went to college here. it hasn't changed much. >> approaching a couple of delegates. you have a lot of passion. you were yelling. why? >> for these people to sit here and not condemn israel's terror on palestine over the last -- since 1948, 75, 80 years, you want to say, condemn hamas for what they have done to israelis but not mention that israel has been committing terror on palestinians tenfold since 1948? what do you stand for? >> reporter: this was earlier this morning here at fifth and mission. there was a motorcade with chp or sfpd, i believe, that was leading them. they had to turn around because the intersection is shut down because of protesters. the protesters have been loud but mostly peaceful. we have not witnessed any arrests as of yet. here in san francisco, bob

redell, nbc bay area news. >> our website, a great resource. scan that qr code. it will take you to our apec guide online and give you more information about the apec and the closures going on. we have rain at the bay area. a break today, but things will pick up. here is kari hall with our forecast. >> the storm system has been pumping moisture into the bay area. while for the most part it's been mostly cloudy, much heavier rain is expected to move in for the afternoon. let's go through the time line. we will start to see a break in the rain late morning. then going into 2:00 to 3:00, rain spreads from the coastline to the inland valleys. at times it may be heavy. it continues into late tonight with light showers that still look to continue into early tomorrow morning. we should get some breaks. a chance for that water to soak in tomorrow while still some lingering showers will continue in the forecast. on thursday into friday, still some off and on rain.

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to receive $30 million tax break. castro describes the studio's decision to scrape the film as anticompetitive. it's live action animation. from the looney tunes universe. today the last three of matthew perry's co-stars on friends shared tribute in the wake of the actor's death in october. schwimmer said you had heart that you shared with us. jen aniston shared a text, wrote about his importance to the group of friends. finally, lisa kudrow posted a list of things that she was grateful for. update on a story that we

brought you yesterday. >> the federal communications commission approved landmark new rules to help domestic violence survivors. >> noah, after your story aired, what is it a phone can be used a tool to really make domestic violence worse, explain what you meant. >> it's a tool to control a partner when you're on the same plan, when someone is in your proximity, you can look at their calls and texts. we think of a tool as a utility for many of us but it's tool of manipulation when you're in a violent situation. what they accomplished today, the fcc approved new rules that will mask calls from a cell phone to hot lines and domestic violence shelters, protection when someone needs to reach out the rules will separate, allow

someone separate from a family plan, you know how challenging it can just to change a number or something on your cell phone, this will be easier now for victims of abuse. and people who are in a bad situation will be able to obtain a new low cost emergency phone quickly when they need to escape the situation, the goal is to turn a phone of object of control to one of protection. >> pretty incredible developments. one in four women and one in seven men experience physical violence in their lifetime. given people who are survivors, what does this mean. >> almost every abuse relationship also includes financial abusz, trying to escape from that is so important and these rules were actually something that no one seemed to

realize was necessary until the fcc started to look into it. fcc's chair said it will have a huge impact. she's been working on this with congress. a sound bite we can take a look at. >> family plans are so convenient for so many of us, they cost the cost of communications but if you're trying to separate from someone who's abusing you one of things that you want to do is securely get off that family plan and set up your own communications. >> so these plans had buy-in from the tell com industry, they're supportive of this. it's a step in the right direction if you know someone who's struggling or if you are, you can always help the number for the national domestic violence helpline is on your screen right

now. there's maternal mortality crisis in america, especially for black women, expecting black moms are three-times more likely to die from pregnancy-related causes than white women. a documentary special for "meet the press reports." this year i followed the journey of two expectant moms. this is the story of two pregnant black women in 2023. their stories end very differently. robin lloyd is her doula. she had her own traumatic birthing experience. >> the bed is saturated with blood. i'm completely covered. >> we sat down and we talked about what she wanted to have in

her birthing space. she said i just want you and me there. >> reporter: her pregnancy is high risk. she's nervous. >> with my first two i had complications. ultrasound every week. >> reporter: robin was the doula for the birth of her first daughter, in labor she got an infection and was hospitalized. >> we're going to have a baby. >> what are you feeling? what are you feeling? >> i'm very grateful for her. because if she wasn't there i don't know what would have happened with me. >> how did you and april meet? >> i'd seen her and she lit up the room, she came over and said you're going to be my protector.

>> she said that to you the first time you met? >> yeah, the first time. >> reporter: at 31 years old, april is pregnant with her first child. nigel is her partner and the father. april's birthing plan. >> birthing plan is to have a natural birth, she doesn't have any risk factors. >> reporter: at the hospital april's pain is getting worse. she gets an epidural. >> i think my leg is swollen. the nurse says oh, no, that's normal. april is still coughing. it was almost like i'm choking, i'm coughing, i'm choking -- but then it cuts off and nigel starts screaming. april, april, april, april, april! >> that right there is just a glimpse into the many reality faced by many expecting black moms here in the u.s. to dig into this issue a bit more, we're joined by dr.

jessica shepherd. thank you for joining us this topic. first off, why are high maternal mortality rates so prevalent among black women in the u.s.? >> even as i was listening to that segment, it really is still triggering to me as an ob/gyn and as a black woman. you stated earlier that black women are three times more likely to die and when we look at that as a category, as a country that should have the best care health care in the world we still have ten-times more death rates than some other high-income countries, australia israel, japan, spain, so, where we are really seeing this issue, we know there are a lot of social factors that play into that racial trauma, discrimination, marginalization, so the list goes on. but what we doe know is that this number needs to significantly decrease than what

we're seeing here increasing. >> doctor, the comparison between the u.s., a developed country, and other parts of the world, why are we lagging so far behind other countries? >> now, one thing that i do know for sure is that we have seen this in studies as well, because we have so much diversity within this country what comes of that are good things, but what comes with that as well is systemic racism, this goes down into the foundation of hospital organizations, healthcare workers and the care we should pride ourselves on is not being equally distributed to members of other communities, namely those of african americans, hispanics, american indians, so this is something that's staggering when we think of this demographic group that really should get the same equal if not better care and we're not seeing that, so there are a lot of factors to deal with but a lot of that has to do with top

organizations, legislation and insurance companies, because there's no reason for a country such as us to have such a poor maternal mortality rate. >> it's been studied. the cdc cites some of what you're saying, systemic racism. why we see these disparities in care. both women who were featured in that tease we just saw, right, have a doula as part of their birthing plan. two black women have the support system. can you explain to us what a doula is, how they're different from a midwife, and other supports pregnant moms may need and use throughout pregnancy. >> absolutely, i think there are ways that we can expand the services that one gets throughout that prenatal portion and even in the postpartum phase is really creating a continuum of social care and emotional care.

how a doula works, is really going with that patient, that woman, throughout the entire pregnancy, going to the visits, is being their advocate, their voice, but also when something is not understood or when there's a time there's an emotional gap is really filling in those gaps. why this is important it has the potential to reduce any disparities. when we think of clinical outcomes and improving the care that we see with black women. >> quickly, for somebody who might be watching at home, if they're pregnant or just found out they're expecting and see this and are scared, what's one thing you'll say to them. >> that's a hard conversation to have especially when we have statistics that are proving that someone should not be scared, is really how do we improve the initiatives that we have within the community and the programs that are allowing people to feel more reassuranc and having trust in the actual healthcare system

that has pretty much proven they have a trust issue and so i think that we know that we have to improve the amount of access and care that we have in certain communities and also access to the quality care, many times, a statistic, what we're seeing in these death rates, 84% of pregnancy related deaths in the united states are preventable. clearly we have to have this regionalization of care. not dropping that care as soon as someone has delivered. i think options for quality care should be expanded and explaining to patients how they can take part in that quality care and being an advocate for themselves. >> quality care from conception to the time that kid is young. >> after birth. >> after birth is so critical. doctor, thank you so much. as a reminder you can see our full film and panel discussion on peacock, youtube and nbcnews.com. just search pregnant and black,

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in today's modern parenting november is national adoption awareness month.

we're talking about how to navigate the adoption process as a family, both emotionally as well as financially. >> the median household income is below $75,000. in some states it's as low as $48,000. the average adoption could cost you as much as $50,000. difficult for a loft families to afford to adopt. joining us is becky fawcett. the founder and president of helpusadopt.org. adopting, we just showed the numbers, it can be so expensive, what do parents need to know who are thinking about it or i guess perspective parents thinking about it. >> it really does cost $50,000 and it does take a long time. if someone tells you can do it for a lot less and lot faster is a red flag. i know it sounds like a good idea but it's not.

you really need to decide how you want to adopt, a newborn, adopt outside your race, an older child and then you find the adoption professional who's best suited for that. >> tips for navigating adoption. >> ask a lot of questions, trust your gut and everybody will have an opinion on what you are doing and those people, typically have nothing to do with adoption, haven't adopted themselves but are self-proclaimed experts, you need to tune them out, focus on your journey to become a parent and make that happen. >> becky, my husband is adopted. other people in my extended family who are adopted. it can change the whole family dynamic, what about talking to other kids, especially if already kids -- >> i love this question. my first child was adopted.

that was just, we're going to adopt your sibling the same way we adopted you. if you had biological children, talk openly and honestly with facts. kids are much more aware than we give them credit and then, just say, we have more love to give. families come in all shapes and. let's talk about it. let's learn what adoption is. >> if you're a parent with an adopted child how do you talk to that child about that experience and when? >> you talk to your child about being adopted the minute they're in your arms. my children were 2 minutes old and 4 days old for the second one and i immediately started talking about the story.

using the word adoption in my language every day, talking about their birth parents before they could even understand and now if you ask my children when did your mom tell you, they go, what are you talking about? we've just known. it's seamless. it should never be a sitdown, we have something to tell you. >> i have to ask you, can you speak about disparities, among who gets to adopt, who has access and who is adopted? >> one of the reasons that we started help us adopt 16, 17 years ago, was because when i looked around at adoption grants i wanted to get involved and they all only helped cauca circumstance -- caucasian hit

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talks with president xi. before the talks began, they made some remarks. they both said they want to smooth over relationships between the two countries to ensure competition but not conflict. we will hear from president biden after their meeting just after 4:00 p.m. today. firefighters are mopping up a fire in the east bay. oakland firefighters say it started 10:30 this morning in the area of 34th street and mandolay park way. you can see black smoke in the area. the fire was quickly knocked down. crews say no injuries but it's unclear how many tiny homes were impacted. rain is here to stay this week. kari hall has a look ahead at our forecast. >> we are looking at widespread and heavy rain at times for the afternoon into the evening. then tomorrow, there will be some breaks, sunshine, but still a chance of rain in the forecast. at any point across the bay area

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