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th this ut ed). m ost ties, yore, like "yeah,he east de of thcity s the baside the nortside is..." noall of ksas city. you inse the inr city in kansaci ty you' in the ood. i'm never ming bache re that'shy we'reot going bk fothanksgi ng. i to them, i, like "i'meveroming ba home. i'm st not gng to dot, i' i'm g d.♪ sol:he top-aop dog my sist travistine. - (lghing) - the maiarch ofhe f ily.holds d owchil ma ma!man: what we t go in we got hburger s.dwayne:we joke th her a ot t we hadard ti mes,but so people dn't eve eat nig ht wete every nig . lee: so,ike, whe fourthrade h ma taught u how toake careof youelf starng t he meals, y know wh i mean?prep fd, the whole n e.mama me sure tt even th or wiout her ing ho everytng stillot d on tristine:quitqu it!you dot-- u want mto spank

ou? sol: nowtravisti don't have timto play any games. man, shean't evekeep tra of h many grandk id neew and nies she s. shdoesn't en kn all theiram . tristine:mm, mmmm, mm mm. (pho ringingut l chuckles) so she litally juscalls e of the k ids the-letter aby. - at's thr-letter'baby al n am won: ji who? a. she said spell that. j-i-a. mmthree le ers. at's my ree-lett nie ce d how olis she?(both lahi ng) sol: what es faly mean y ou?i feelhat's ali got in the wld is, imy fam y. m: oh, mily's eryth in mily is e one whloves you. yokn, no matr who ga birtto y ou u're ourrother--can't body tak it. cat nobodyake itnichel: i'not me whout my mi ly.just uall comi togetherag ain, iteans ahole lot. and yore my lile brother.lil richmy dad td me out y'alabout a w ti

me likehe told me a you lked al e. "you got aun cle "thalooks ju like yo you ver met him. yogot aunts incanada that yonever met."and at's jusabout it for al. travisti: ki ds.they aays want to,you kn, see y'all,meet'a ll. you ow, theynew y'al befo y'all even,befo theeven sn y'al it s, like... ey couldt evenit waslike, ovwhelmed themwhenou did come to nsas c y. ause thewas glado see u, 'causehey alwa heard about u,whatev, soand th sharon a all t m... ♪ ♪ thatas the bt timeit rlly s. and for , too, tactually for u to comdownhe reso... ye i ked that too. (laugh insol: m too. - i likethat, yeah. ♪ sol: absoluty hope at you gs get

toeet themi thinyou, thinit's impor nt for u to undstand whe you come f m.and i ink it'smporta to t to undeta nd fr someoneho's led it, the periencef be in of bng blackn americ and beg, u m. yeah, the riness of and e strugg of it, d the... thbeauty, e pain ke, it ces with lot. i'm nd ogratefulhat you dn'tave to gw up wit th . iteels almt bad toay because u feel le you're yore sayin somethg wrong about...but yore not sing mething ong aboupeop le yore sayinsomethg-- at i'm sing is ere's sothing wrg in theway thathe socie functions d otherseople, and hasn confron te or ackwledged e realit of t historyf the co try th put pple to theseircumsta

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♪sol: i wt to tnk all you guysor beingupport e, and i ow it wa't alwayso ea sy. ke i saythis, is proce has ven me aifferent uha diffent relaonship wh, wi dad mem or m a veryifferenterson than ias when pas se beinable to spend me wi this, ts one ov here and her lcome, wcoming m intohe fam y. i me, when ient downhere i was soi was soca red, i was trng to avd it. - huck le - u were so swt anthrew me little rty and ju getting tonow ever ody, 's been,t's en prett special. soand everody justaking the ti just mea lot to me. i've hu any of u guys along th way, i'sorry, iidn't...niffles,oice bre ing)that wn't wh i was ting to do. i just, just need to fin a diffent way relate dad cause i'not a kianymore,you kn ? i wa to be aood rent, ani relateo him 'cau a lot ohis li is silar to

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freye ped at in shing this wityou, the mit be something her to helus allwith o journeyn this w ld. ina: you have to put it toget her. bobbie: ah, likeyou, you ju st ke this,nd then lookat y ou anyou say e letter l ike,like, he look here, i sa"a, b,", and wn i hit,you hithe letter he ss, yes, ke t hi - ah, you go ally...- thenou writet do wn 'cse it's rd to rember. - oh, ye, lettero lett . it's letr to letter.we'rworking somethi moreigh-te .- ye, bu t.- (lau ghs) buit's goi to be ahi le. sol:e says we getur powerlike t s. boie: that's harious (freye valiz in ol lau ing)the eye whis rer. - uhg? h? bbie: ah, bo . oh, oceaand mounins bo . ye of course. boie: you t

it. - s, you he bo thunbeevab. so that wagood, sh ur. sol: u've taut me manless on but you ow what really good oneou taut me is? yomore thaanyone i now found a y to woren ough , to maiain your lf buto have more roued life,where yocould doour practice and to me yourse, to askquestis, and timpr ov and to me yourse a bett per so (kses)that'sow we dour kis se na laughing) i love h kses, th're so ood. (ina lau ing) ey're ve smallbut th're veryignificant.(laugh ing)are yoco ld? u want tgo back n ow (fre vocalizg) yeahokaylet's do it. freye: n sol: o? ohyou wanto say something. (gru ntall rit, back the sce

ne u-v.we liv y eah? new wo ? n- o-p q- r- we le simply yeahye ah. yeah, kn ow (peopltalking backgrod) bbie: 30ears d three nt hs. sol:0 years d three nths? ye ah. - that ur loest relaonsh ip- oh, s-- 's dinitely his. he neverastemore an two-a-a-half ars.- was , when y guys we toge erfor twand-a-half yea wahe getting ... itchy fe? - s he getng itchy

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in (chewbca soundcontin ) (lau ing) (a laughin (tthbrush ing) so it's inresting, because you can tually feel the... i can el theifferencin yo not a bad way. doou want say somhi ng? m-n- p. preparion.ye . you' preparing. (softl: ye ah ♪

sol: tnk you vy much.bobbiethank yo won: yore very lc ome. so see yo bud dywoma bye. bbie: goodby (sniffs) sol:t's okaybobo ve me a hug. obbie yi ng) (raifalling)

♪ ♪ sol: t day fre died, i was ab to let m go d i let father go. and m not hoing the dness ornger at i t nk i ow i hel with mfather'sea th. the su muslim et rumisays it ke this:"goodbs are ly "for tho who lovwith the ey "bause forhose whoove th theireart and oul, there iso such tng aseparatio n. i s 44 whei starte maki thifor you.

anfor me i'46 n ow i'll be when yowatch it maybe yoll see iagain when i'mong go . maybe y're sharing withour chilen right ow. my prayer, my pe for y is ts, my so my daug er. may you ve a lifof pur se and in service to othe rs. y you fit for po peopleand lile peo e. mayou breathe cycl thatold you ba ck. may u be bra enough know and holdour familyyour wle fam il ♪ ♪ ani love y all, de ly. so i loveou all, ep ly. lliam: vy deep . so very de ly. del toro: follow the conversation r tonighs amera reframed using #mytwoth

ers. i justant to just wanto thankou gu for thiweek en- i had a bl ast. (allalkingt on ce - fu man, it, like, n we ju have onmore t e? everody liveo many cturies apart w. we'll get together more often becau of th . (a laughing) hostly, it hard enough for me w it mywo sisters gwing up, then i got a third o ne now got two mo re.now i gofive sisrs. (a laugh g) ok, she won't st op. (laugh g)- he gotut of th car, and heaid, "y, howo you li the name so", to u. and you came s ol. sol: that's a crazy story. - (laughs): i know! ♪ ♪

del toro: stay up-to-date on america reframed at worldchnel. or subscre to wld channel's yout ube to go beyond the lens with our filmmake rs. tell us what you think using #americarefram ed. majo r funding for america reframed was provided by the john d. and catherine t. macarthur foundati on wyncote foundati on the corporation for public broadcast ing. ditionalundingor amica reframedprovided by open siety fouations acton family giv ing, park foundat ion, the national endowment for the ar ts and the reva and david logan foundati on. ♪ ♪ sol: when we capture stories that are in our line ageorn our counity, we have much better

unrstandinof who w are. and think that 's the oy way 've surved as humans , li we telstor ie ♪ ♪ myame is s g uy. i'm e direct of the deatof my twfath er myyou knowbackgrou is a mixed race. my paren are botameric ans. m from utate nework, e's bornew ish.father fm kansasity, missou, a blk mabut i ew up a sll tow inritish cumbia,an ada, lled gra for . very sma community not verse inwhat wwod y traditional ways now but diverse in, in experie nce and in kind of the way that ople wan d tocare f eacot her. al, a safela ce which i ink for lot of my broths and si ers gring up iamer ic ifou're sa yocan takeis ksyou can plore,ou can think n ask quti ons. yocan get tside ofhat is your

kno environ nt.and that what i ink hashaped, aped me e mo st. this, is bodi'm inwhili'm mi xe thworld haonly eveseen meor approhed me aa ack ma wh you're rn in is count as ala m anthere's is thinghat ts put o you.it's, ke, bo ! 's just opped, 's like yo ke. ke, it's jt like ts... (itates chns locking) it's aost like-- it ctains u. and, andt's your your safy is in ng er. thgift of owing upn canadain thasmall town w as that didt get put me. and so ias ablto navigate, i'veeen ableo naviga the rld veryifferently. i sesome of friendsho are very sucssful andone althe thin in thisount ryand ey stillave at thingn th emand i dot think ople rely under and whathat feelli ke. you ow, if'm hont, i nt into king ts film a biselfis y.i need to go tsome plas th i was sred . where myather s rais kans city,

mis uri, where he's f rom, reconnecting or connecting with the black side of my fam ily. it was something i needed to do. thtop-a-todog is my sistetravis ne e matriaof theamily. - (laughing) - holdit d owdway: conspicy to distribu cocai ne. actuly got lked up tet her. - what dyou say peoplewho kind f, who pass judgment on you know what you guys got caughtp in? "whyere you t hustli?" , like, ou had ahoic ? - i meanthey right. everybodhas a oi ce. i could ve been a do or. i could' went schooland be a law r. but owing upn my vironmen ain't wt i sa so w do someing i ait saw? i ha a lot o like, aiety wh i come re becae, i d't know y, i ild up eectati . ke, i t... i ... i think 's gui .♪ ♪

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her.we canepeat paerns ore can arve to adess em d we can push st them. and thenerhaps y don't pass them on there's ings i'vinherite that have thopportunity toot pass on. buit was rlly a press of a healinpracti . and you' making t to getoutside what u know and t somethg in fro of you. and was radilly chand over theourse ofho se those ur years i'm gra ful. i ho that thrs is a ace whe we canalk ab t the thin that weeel as, me that encouge peo e to fi their w back, 'cause entually,ou w l.it cou be in yr last b ath. wes societ couldo aot m ore to acknowledge that that's a difficult thing to do. the other thing i hope that, for audie nces is that we underand the wer of t he and portance of our ory, and lling oustory, and docunting oust ory d sharin y know, and it ds not ha t o be this fo at. got tse l these vi ces. goalk toour grana and, or your andfat r, or yousons andaughte

rs or your aunt or uncle, or the o.g. th at yoknow helped y wn yowere 1go sitown and,ike, puthe phone onnd recorau dio. get ese stors so youan she them wh othe . it might just be to play it la ter. it might be 'cause someone else will discover it. you're 13 now. you'll watch this when you're 14 or may 23 or 45, i don't k now. and who knows what this footage will look like by the time you watch it? li how thifootage om '88when ias your age,looks me no - yeah, m from gnd for o, and... sol:or any fmmakers t the who e thinkingbout doi a persal sto i would, wou just enurage you to te the fit st ep ke, takehe fir step an keepalking tards yours el d walk tards whayou're most chaenged orearf of.because there are things th you dis ver along the way that are traformat e.

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