but he knows that for every welcome memory, there's a brutal one of her and what happened churning somewhere like a storm, surprising and devastating when it hits. . i'm craig melvin, and i'm natalie morales. >> and this is "dateline." >> the wedding was beautiful. i thought he was the love of my life. i wanted them to find the real killer. i wanted all of this to be behind us and go on happily ever after. >> single mom meets single dad, and in a single moment it was love. >> he was very handsome. >> he was fun. >> all smiles, very outgoing, charming. >> everything he did just melted my heart. >> but there was something else about this dreamy single day, something about his past,

something deadly. >> she's dead! >> i just came in the house, i saw jan on the floor. >> he was crying. he was in shock. >> his whole life was shattered. >> he said i should probably let you know that my wife was actually murdered. >> killed in a crime that had never been solved. >> she was almost the perfect victim. >> and what about him? he'd become the focus in his first wife's mysterious death. was he a victim too? >> i'm a father. i have a family. i didn't kill janet. >> i felt horrible for him. >> you didn't want to believe it? >> who would want to believe that? >> hello and welcome to "dateline." vanessa pond was a single parent looking for a second chance at love, and in raven abaroa she

thought she found her soul mate. the pair started dating. then came a chilling admission. raven told vanessa he was carrying some heavy baggage. more than 2,000 miles away, he was a suspect in his wife's unsolved murder. still, vanessa clung to the dream that they could live happily ever after. here's josh mankiewicz with "deadly denial." she'd found plenty of the wrong guys. now here in front of her was someone different. >> we met at a day care where both of our children went to day care. >> vanessa pond of salt lake city was 25 and a single parent when back in 2007 she met raven abaroa. like vanessa, he was single and raising a child alone. >> he was very charming. he would always come up with such fascinating dates. >> he seemed different? he seemed very different.

>> a good guy? >> very good guy. >> and you fell for him? >> hard. >> but along with the charm and the lavish dates, raven also had a story, a horrible, awful story that had changed his life and would also change vanessa pond's. the story raven told wasn't just about himself. it was about his first wife, janet. >> he said, well, i should probably let you know that my wife was actually murdered. >> the murder, raven said, happened three years earlier when he and janet were living in durham, north carolina. >> it happened in a home invasion, and he came home and found her and that he didn't want to talk about it any further. >> it was not the kind of thing vanessa expected to hear from the man who had just stolen her heart. >> i was beside myself. >> vanessa retreated to her laptop and began searching online looking for exactly the details raven abaroa had not

provided. >> i had started researching and i stayed up until 4:00, 4:30 in the morning. >> the homicide, vanessa learned, occurred in april of 2005. raven had just come home from playing in a nighttime soccer game when he found his wife on the floor of their tiny second floor office. janet had been stabbed three times. raven talked to us about that dreadful discovery. >> when i nibbleinitially look i'm talking to her, like, hey, janet, what's wrong? and then it clicks on me that she's -- her eyes are open looking at me, but she's not blinking her eyes. something was terribly wrong. >> she's dead! >> you're going to have to calm down, okay, what's the address? >> for janet's parents it was the worst day of their lives. >> i pick up the phone and it's raven screaming into the phone.

she's gone. that's all -- that's what he was saying. she's gone. >> and of course i can't breathe. i thought for sure i was having a heart attack. >> that raced to durham to be by raven's side. >> he immediately broke down into bawling tears. i remember putting my arms around him, giving him a hug and saying we'll get through this together. >> everyone was left to wonder, why janet? a woman as gentle as she was pretty. >> she's extremely loyal, i guess is the word, like with all of her friends. i mean, she -- when she has close friends, she's really good to them. she's really good to me. >> she always wanted everyone to be happy. >> she's very supportive of people and loved to help other people. >> that came in handy growing up in a mormon household with no fewer than nine siblings. >> she was a peacemaker. >> she didn't like

confrontation? >> absolutely not. >> in college, janet excelled in the classroom and especially on the soccer field, but from a very early age, janet had her sights set on something more. >> her goal in life was to be married and have children and be a mom. having a very, well, perfect home. >> enter janet's college sweetheart, raven abaroa. >> with her, you know, i want to say i knew right away. i mean, her and i started talking about a long-term relationship three weeks into being together. >> brittany ramito was janet's best friend in college. >> he was very handsome, and i said all the time, you're the all american couple. >> it was a foregone conclusion that this young couple was destined for marriage. it rained the night of the wedding, but no one seemed to care, and then the perfect all american couple completed the

perfect picture welcoming into their world a son, caden. >> she said this is so phenomenal. >> oh, she loved, absolutely loved being a mother. >> but just six months later, that perfect picture went dark when janet was discovered lying in a pool of her own blood. >> was there anyone who disliked her? >> not that i know of. >> she was a good person. >> three years later in salt lake city the news of janet's homicide was also shocking to vanessa pond. vanessa had learned the killing never been solved. she wanted more details from raven about his terrible loss. >> we sat down, had a conversation. i had my questions written out, and so we addressed every single one. >> how long did that take? >> we took an entire evening just to go over everything. >> when the evening was over,

vanessa was convinced that the horrific crime back in 2005 had claimed two victims, one of course was janet, but the other was raven. >> i felt so, so, so, so sorry for him. i couldn't imagine possibly going through that. >> coming up, why had this killing never been solved? we delve into the clues. a bloody shoe print, mystery dna, and a coin in the yard, when "dateline" continues. we buy a new home, and we turn into our parents. what i do is help new homeowners overcome this. what is that, an adjustable spanner? good choice, steve. okay, don't forget you're not assisting him. you hired him. if you have nowhere to sit, you have too many. who else reads books about submarines? my dad. yeah. oh, those are -- progressive can't protect you from becoming your parents, but we can protect your home and auto when you bundle with us. look at that.

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the disturbing story of how raven abaroa's first wife had been killed did not scare off vanessa pond. she was in love with him and committed to helping raven get beyond both the heartbreaking loss of janet and the homicide investigation back in durham. >> i wanted to -- i wanted them to find the killer. i wanted all of this to be -- all of this to be behind us. >> but vanessa knew that wouldn't be easy. the past seemed to haunt raven as he shared with vanessa just how much janet had meant to him. >> he laid kind of in a fetal position next to me, and then he just -- he started talking how

mad he was after janet died. >> he said i loved my wife? >> i loved my wife. >> for everyone who loved janet, the days following the homicide back in 2005 were agonizing. raven says he found himself asking the same question over and over again. >> why we could have this beautiful child, why we can have this beautiful relationship, and then to have her die. >> misty foxley, a friend of both janet and raven attended janet's memorial service. >> how did raven look? >> he looked crushed, but he was trying to hold up. >> soon attention turned to finding her killer. >> we didn't know exactly what happened. all we could think was that somebody broke into the house. for what reason, didn't expect her there and killed her. >> charles soul, now retired was a cop with the durham police department in 2005. when he was called to the scene of janet's homicide.

>> it was a two-story family residence. >> nice part of town? >> quiet for sure. >> first responders discovered janet lying on the floor of the upstairs office. >> she was on her back. her shirt was raised up exposing a wound to the center of her chest. >> janet also had a stab wound to her hand suggesting she'd tried to protect herself. the fatal wound was to her neck, and the weapon was nowhere in sight. >> there was literally no disturbance on the desk. >> suggesting there was not some violent struggle? >> no, not at all, which was kind of odd based on it being a stabbing. >> crime scene investigators began the task of swabbing the entire house. it was no surprise that most of the blood and fingerprints tested came back as either raven's or janet's, but there were some things the techs had a

harder time explaining. the first was a fingerprint on the upstair office's closet door. >> that print didn't come back to anybody? >> no. >> then there was a shoe print left in blood next to janet. >> could you tell anything about this bloody footprint? >> it was right there by janet, but nothing definitive about the type of shoe, the make or anything. >> finally, analysts found unidentified dna mixed with janet's blood on a storm door leading to the side entrance. none of that forensic evidence could be traced to raven, janet or anyone connected to the investigation. >> those are things as an investigator you absolutely want to try to figure out. >> while technicians processed the house, detectives began interviewing raven hoping he could help point them in the drebs direction of janet's killer. >> raven was visibly crying. he looked like he was distraught and upset. he himself said that he knew of no enemy that she had.

>> he realized that some items from the house were missing. >> and they asked me, well, where was the last time you had the computer. >> so this would have been later that night or the next day. >> it was later that night. it was in that initial, initial meeting with them. >> his computer was gone. robbery? it was possible. >> he also talked about some knives being missing. >> had there been burglaries in that neighborhood? >> yes. >> lisa cealy was one of the abaroa's neighbors who had been burglarized. >> your car was broken into, right? >> yes. it was unlocked. someone went into it and took out some change. >> a seemingly petty, relatively insignificant theft until a k-9 dog was called to search the grounds of the abaroa home where janet had been killed. when the dog got to the front of the house, it stopped unexpectedly. >> it was in that proximity where the bottle was, the dog made his alert that there was something in that area. >> then amongst the weeds, the

dog had found a coin. >> one of the neighbors reported that her car had been broken into and some change had been stolen. >> you're correct. >> and i guess at least one theory was maybe that this coin was from that? >> it certainly could have been. >> a homicide, a burglary down the road, and a coin that could link the two. detectives needed to find out more about that coin. >> coming up, secrets from the past revealed. >> you never knew when the coin would flip and all of a sudden everything that was wrong in the world was her fault. >> when "dateline" continues. with hyaluronic acid for 24-hour hydration. instantly covers dark circles. under eyes look smoother in 1 week new true match eye cream in a concealer from l'oréal paris. subut when we realized she wasn hebattling sensitive skin, we switched to new tide plus downy free.

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the theory that janet abaroa's death may have been collateral damage from a burglary gone bad was not getting much traction. >> generally, when you surprise a burglar, they don't fight you or try to kill you. they run away. >> that's correct. and there was no rummaging. none of the drawers were gone through. none of the ransacking that you would see in a break-in. it just didn't add up. >> as for the coin found in front of the abaroa home, the police dog was unable to track a scent from it. back to the house or anywhere else. detectives were having a hard time finding a link between the burglary down the road and janet's killing.

the next step was the obvious one. detectives took a look at janet's husband raven. >> it's pretty common to look at the spouse in situations like this? >> that's correct. that's, you know, part of the process. >> according to raven, the day of the murder was like any other for the abaroa's. >> raven told investigators that a member of the church had come over the evening of the incident. >> later that night is when raven said he left janet and his son at home to go play in a nighttime soccer game about a half hour away. jason small was one of raven's teammates. >> it was business as usual, you know, a bunch of guys playing soccer together, trying to beat the other team. nothing out of the ordinary. >> raven seemed normal to you that night? >> completely normal. >> after the game, raven told police he drove to the gas station to grab a sports drink. just to be sure, detectives checked the station's security

video, and there was raven. raven said he then headed home to find kaiden undisturbed in his crib, but janet lying in a pool of blood. >> she's dead! >> okay, you're going to have to calm down, okay? what's the address? >> detectives also talked to raven's family and friends. by all accounts he was outgoing, friendly, charming, and broke. >> they don't have any money. they can't rub two nickels together. >> money or the lack of it may have been behind something that had happened five months earlier. raven had been caught stealing sporting equipment from his employer and reselling it on ebay. raven's mother karen was stunned. >> i just couldn't believe it. i was like how could you be so stupid? but at least he admitted it. he didn't try to get out of it. i was proud of him for that. >> for owning up. >> for owning up. >> along with the young couple's

financial stress, friends told detectives raven and janet had also had a brush with infidelity. according to janet's friend brittany, within just months of the wedding, raven had cheated on janet. >> how did she sound when that happened? >> devastated. >> and then she went back with him after that. >> she forgave him. she made promises to love him for good, for bad, for ugly, and to support him. >> but brittany noticed other problems in the marriage. janet, she said, was struggling with what appeared to be raven's increasingly dramatic mood swings. >> she told me that sometimes things were like perfect, and it was like holding your breath because you never knew when the coin would flip and all of a sudden everything that was wrong in the world was her fault. >> things got so bad that a year before the homicide janet and raven briefly separated, but by itself, a marriage on the rocks

did not mean raven was in any way responsible for janet's death. despite police suspicion many refused to believe raven could or would kill janet, including janet's own parents. >> when you heard the police thought raven was a suspect, what'd you think? >> i defended him. >> you stuck up for him? >> i did. i couldn't bear the fact that someone whom i entrusted my child's life with would turn on her like that. i could not go there. >> neither could raven and janet's friend misty foxley. >> raven could not have killed janet. he loved her. he loved her. he wouldn't have done that. >> detectives had an equally difficult time convincing the district attorney who after reviewing the evidence felt there wasn't nearly enough to get an indictment. >> they're the ones who make the decision if it goes in court. why they didn't do it, i don't know. >> with no other strong leads, the investigation into janet's

homicide began to cool. raven had relocated to utah to be closer to his family, which is where two years later he met vanessa pond. >> he wanted to move things very, very, very quickly. >> with you? >> yes. >> despite all the things va necessa vanessa had learned about raven, she stood by him, in part because raven was very upfront about how police were investigating him. >> he said they didn't have anybody else to look at, which is why he was the only person of interest. >> okay. wait a minute, you find out that a guy you're going out with was a suspect in a murder, is still a suspect in a murder. >> yeah. >> and he gets another date? >> he talked me into that. everything he did just melted my heart because i felt -- i felt so bad for him. >> and that's how vanessa decided raven, the person of

interest, remained the only person she was interested in spending the rest of her life with. after a four-month long courtship, raven proposed, and vanessa said yes. but before vanessa walked down the aisle, she sought the counsel of her father randy. randy pond wasn't just vanessa's father. he was also a retired cop with 23 years on the force. randy decided he needed a man to man with raven. >> he just came in and was all smiles and very, very fun to be around, very talkative, very outgoing. >> and you and your wife thought, good? >> oh, yeah, i was very impressed with raven, yeah. >> so impressed, randy gave the two his blessing. >> how was the wedding? >> the wedding was beautiful. it was great. >> and you thought, what? we're going to be okay?

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hello, i'm milissa rehberger, here's what's happening. the u.s. hit a record number of daily coronavirus cases, topping 79d thousand in a single day. the university of washington's substitute for health metrics and evaluation said half a million americans may die from covid-19 by february. colorado's governor says the state's second largest wildfire in history was most likely caused by human activity. the fire is less than 10% contained and has forced the evacuation of thousands. back to "dateline." welcome back to "dateline." i'm craig melvin. vanessa pond thought the raven abaroa she just married was honest and true, but that was a

far cry from what investigators in north carolina had uncovered. a trail of circumstantial evidence led them to believe raven was a killer. yet, he remained a free man, and janet's family was desperate for answers. here again is josh mankiewicz with deadly denial. >> the christianson family never gave up their question to purs their daughter's killer. >> we just weren't sure they would be able to ever solve the case. >> but detectives felt they already had. they shared with janet's family the evidence of raven's stealing and cheating. eventually janet's parents agreed that raven was responsible for killing janet. >> i just knew in my heart that he had done it, and it was a horrible realization. >> and in 2009, new, more

aggressive prosecutors reached the same conclusion after taking a fresh look at the old evidence and concluding there was, after all, enough to seek an indictment. five years after janet's killing, raven abaroa was arrested and extradited back to durham to stand trial for first degree murder. >> when raven was finally arrested, you think at last, justice. >> yes. >> finally. >> in april 2013, assistant district attorney charlene franks was tapped to prosecute the case. >> you felt in pretty good shape heading for trial? >> yes, i did. >> prosecutor franks first went after raven's character by calling women from his past. she hoped the jury would start to see the defendant as an amoral, controlling man who cared little about his marriage. >> do you swear to tell the

truth? >> charlotte ravel testified that one afternoon she went over to the abaroa's house and raven showed her a sex tape, and then janet came home. >> he's like we have to go hide, we have to go hide. he almost like physically pushed me, he didn't hurt or anything, and he pushed me sbinto the closet. >> next to testify was raven's co-worker, he said raven flirted with her, and they eventually had sex. >> i did say to him what if your wife finds out, and he said she won't ever know. >> prosecutor franks then got to the heart of her case hoping to prove that janet was trapped in an emotionally abusive marriage. >> did janet ever talk to you about any problems she had in her marriage? >> yes. >> best friend britney romito said she heard firsthand just how destructive janet's marriage had become. >> i overheard him talking to janet in a way that you wouldn't want your dog talked to.

>> what did he say? >> he told her that she was good for nothing, that she couldn't do anything right. >> britney said raven had taken control over every aspect of janet's life including her phone calls. >> she said he doesn't like me talking to you. she said i have to walk to the pay phone to talk to you. and like my heart just -- i said but how long have you been walking to a pay phone and said how far away is this pay phone, and does any of this make sense to my friend who's so smart? >> she was almost a perfect victim of a domestic violence situation. she did exactly what she was told when she was told. >> you feel sorry for janet, don't you? >> yes. i felt sorry that she didn't have an outlet to get help with. >> if janet was the perfect victim, who was raven? >> he's a predator. >> a predator who, according to charlene franks, lied repeatedly to police. for proof, she turned to janet's contact lenses. >> one of the biggest things

were the contacts. >> in his interview with police, raven said janet was in bed watching tv and about to go to sleep when he left her to go play soccer. >> and all the centers, mom, dad, they were adamant that before going to bed, janet always took out her contact lenses. >> so on a hunch, detectives exhumed janet's body, and according to the prosecution unearthed the truth when they discovered she was still wearing her contacts. >> suggesting that she wasn't about to g o to bed as her husband suggested. >> correct, she was not in that bed sleeping. when he left, she was dead. >> then prosecutor franks turned to raven's 911 call. >> is your wife conscious? >> no, she's like blue. >> she's blue? >> her eyes are open. >> he says she was dead. her lips were blue and her eyes were open. >> but mike guzman, the abaroa's church counselor testified raven told him something completely

different about finding janet. >> i believe he said to me that she had asked him why do i hurt so bad. >> that statement he made to mike is extremely important because that shows she was not dead at the time he originally was with her. >> one of those is a lie. >> exactly. >> one item conspicuously absent from the growing pile of state's evidence was the weapon, but franks had something she felt was almost as good, the evidence that raven was a collector of knives. raven had told detectives his collection was missing along with his laptop. then there was the issue of motive. >> prosecutors don't need to prove it, but jurors have come to expect it, so charlene franks called sandy gariton, raven's boss at the time of janet's death. gariton told the jury raven knew he was about to lose his job. >> he looked at me with a little

smile on his face, got my pink slip, boss, i said, no, we're going to wait until the end of the month for that to come. >> charlene's frank point was that looming unemployment and mounting debt could have driven raven to kill. she then showed the jury janet's life insurance policy. the payout was $500,000. the beneficiary was raven abaroa. >> the only way he could afford to live his lifestyle was to get that insurance policy. >> but another piece of this puzzle was about to be presented in court, and it had to do with raven's second wife, vanessa pond. it turns out vanessa and raven were not a match made in heaven. >> i was way too naive. way too naive. >> vanessa traveled from salt lake city to durham to testify, not for the defense but for the prosecution. >> do you solemnly swear -- >> she told the jury how her

storybook romance with raven ended almost as quickly as it began. >> did you all argue a lot? >> yeah. >> at one point vanessa said raven became physical. >> he had me by the arms, and he threw me up against the wall. >> he told me how much he hated me and how much he didn't care if i died. >> right after that he calmed right down. i'm so sorry. i'm so sorry. i'm so sorry. >> according to vanessa, raven displayed that same moody, unpredictable behavior again and again. >> the moment he got fired up about anything, he flew off the handle with [ bleep ], you're a [ bleep ]. >> that quick? >> instant. >> their marriage lasted only three months. >> you think you escaped something worse than just a bad three-month marriage? >> absolutely.

>> charlene franks rested her case with confidence, even as she admitted there were some things she didn't have. >> no murder weapon? >> no. >> no witnesses? >> no. >> no blood in his car? >> no. >> his advantage was trying to say that i'm just a bad husband. i'm a criminal as far as money goes, but there's no evidence i killed my wife. >> now it was the defense's turn to fire back. >> coming up, and fire back they did. among their targets, raven's second wife. >> vanessa has her motives for saying what she's going to say. >> which would be? >> when "dateline" continues. of brain performance. memory, focus, accuracy, learning, and concentration. try our new gummies for 30 days and see the difference.

raven sat quietly at the defense table as the prosecutor wrapped up her case. >> at this time the state are rests. >> but inside, raven says he was fuming. >> there's no evidence that says that i did it. they're coming up with circumstantial stuff that are, quite frankly, they're lies. >> raven has always maintained his innocence. >> can ydid you love her? >> i did love her. >> did you kill her? >> i did not kill her. >> and raven says he did not emotionally abuse janet either. >> you've been accuse of like dominating her. >> yes. >> bullying her, keeping her down. truth to that? >> no truth to that. no truth at all. i have a strong personality, but i've never been dominating.

>> just as the state had done, raven's defense attorneys called character witnesses of their own offering the jury a completely different image of both raven and raven's relationship with janet. >> they were a close couple. they really seemed to have a genuine concern and love for each other. >> misty foxley also couldn't recognize the man the state was describing. >> i didn't know what the heck they were talking about. i was shocked. i was very shocked. what are they saying? not only about raven but about janet. >> when you heard janet described in court as kind of this like sort of meek little mouse who you were pushing around. >> yeah. >> that sound familiar to you at all? >> no. no. she's quiet and reserved, but when she did talk, you know, people listened. >> but what about the testimony that janet would walk a mile to a pay phone so raven wouldn't find out she was talking to her best friend britney? >> that doesn't make you look

like a good guy? >> that didn't happen, never happened, totally fabricated story. >> more evidence that janet was an independent spouse with a will of her own came from, of all places, the prosecution after it made a stunning announcement. a computer hard drive had suddenly been found in an evidence locker. >> it was an inconvenient piece of evidence. >> it was the hard drive from janet's work computer containing emails she sent right around the time of her death. >> the hard drive, to me, was janet's voice, and it was the truth about who janet really was. >> some of the emails selected by the defense exposed a flirtation janet was having with an old flame. raven's side said those emails made it clear janet was making decisions on her own. >> it showed that people were taking a stand and saying things that just weren't true. >> if the hard drive had been part of the evidence from the very beginning, we would have seen the whole picture of janet,

and janet and rainven's relationship. >> the defense immediately made a motion for a mistrial arguing that without this new evidence, they were unable to properly cross-examine the state's witnesses. the judge did not agree. >> motion for mistrial in the court's discretion is denied. >> the defense decided to hit head on what were by now raven's undenial m undeniable misdeeds. >> i've done a lot of bad things in my life, i admit that. >> most damaging was raven's history of infidelity. janet knew of at least one affair, and when janet confided in her mother-in-law, karen said she was furious with raven. >> i said he doesn't deserve you. leave him. >> you told her to go? >> yeah. they did separate. janet called me just a few months later and she said, we have been through counseling and we love each other. i'm not leaving and neither is he. >> did you think their troubles

were behind them at this point? >> oh, i knew their troubles were behind them. they were stronger than ever. >> then came that horrible night in 2005, almost as soon as karen arrived in durham, she says she got a very uneasy feeling about the investigation and the way police were looking at raven. >> i think they immediately decid decided, oh, this guy is not perfect. he's embezzled, husband always does it. they wanted it to be raven. >> defense attorneys hammered crime scene analysts about the possibly excup toir evidence they claimed was being ignored, the bloody footprint near janet's body, the fingerprint on the office closet door, and the dna on the storm door, all of which were never identified and any of which, the defense said, could have been left by an unknown killer. >> there were a lot of things they didn't do, forensic

evidence that wasn't pursued. >> mike guzman, the abaroa's church counselor was the last person to see the couple on the night of the killing. >> on that particular night, did there seem to be any stress in their relationship? >> no. >> did they seem to be getting along just fine? >> yes. >> guzman says he left the abaroa's at 7:00 p.m. >> it seemed like any other time that i was there. >> both the prosecution and defense agreed it would have taken raven about 30 minutes to drive to the sports arena where he played soccer that night. the defense called raven's teammate jason small, who testified raven got to the game right before it started at 9:00 p.m. >> was raven there when you got there? >> yes. >> and what was he doing when you got there? >> he was already warming up on the field. >> add it all up, the defense says, and raven would have had to killian et, clean up, and

compose himself enough to appear normal on the soccer field all within less than 90 minutes. >> there wasn't the time for him to get it all done, change clothes, you know, get to the game.sense. >> the defense was about to rest, but first, it needed to address the damaging testimony of vanessa pond, raven's second wife. >> she says that you put your hands on her at one time, shoved her, pushed her up against the wall? >> yeah, and i think i pointed my finger at her chest. >> poking her. >> yeah. didn't leave bruises, though, but i poked her. >> you want the key to the city for that? >> it wasn't a rage. and actually, vanessa's story has been totally twisted. vanessa has her motives for saying what she's going to say. >> which would be? >> she's bitter, obviously. >> you didn't believe anything vanessa pond said? >> no. >> karen suggested vanessa's testimony was payback for a bitter breakup back in 2008. >> hard to believe someone would

do that, but she's doing it. >> karen says she once overheard raven on the phone with vanessa soon after they broke up. >> he happened to have it on speakerphone. she was screaming at him, that how dare he leave her? she flat out said, all it takes is one phone call from me. it doesn't matter what i say, people will believe me. >> you heard her say that? >> i heard her say that. >> you ever threatened him like that? >> no. he threatened me. >> a courtroom battle between two bitterly divided families was about to come to an end. now it was up to the jury. but just after 24 hours, word began to spread throughout the courthouse, there was trouble in the jury room. coming up -- another stunning turn was in store for both sides. >> heartbroken, shocked, stunned. >> scared? >> terrified. >> when "dateline" continues. >> when "dateline" continues anne a comfortable night's sleep

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an investigation spanning eight years, a five-week-long trial with more than 80 witnesses, all building to this one moment. >> it was painful. it didn't feel like it was going good, didn't feel like it was going bad. it was just, i mean, it was a

painful, painful three or four weeks. >> janet's parents felt optimistic. >> were you hopeful? >> yes, in one word, yes. >> reporter: but after just ten hours, word came out of the deliberation room that the jury was irrevocably deadlocked. >> the court is of the opinion that with further deliberations, this jury would not likely reach a verdict. the court in its discretion will declare a mistrial. >> the split came down 11-1 in favor of conviction. and then they come back and they can't reach a verdict. >> yes. >> what'd you think? >> i had prepared to either walk out of court that day or spend life behind bars. never even crossed my mind that a mistrial could be declared. the one thing that i wasn't prepared for is to sit in durham county and do this all over again. >> it was an outcome no one seemed to want. >> for all but one person to say that he was guilty and one of

them undecided, i was thinking, really? send them back. >> vanessa pond was back in salt lake city when she heard. how'd you feel when the jury couldn't come to a verdict? >> heartbroken, shocked, stunned. >> scared? >> terrified. >> prosecutors immediately announced she would try raven again, but almost one year after the judge declared a mistrial and less than one week before round two of jury selection was scheduled to begin, the state made a stunning announcement. >> late last week, district attorney's office extended a plea to the defendant, and that has been accepted. >> the d.a.'s office made raven abaroa an offer he couldn't refuse -- plead guilty to manslaughter, not murder, and serve less than four more years in prison. >> mr. abaroa, do you now personally accept this plea

bargain? >> yes. >> you were okay with that deal? >> given the alternatives. >> because if he gets tried again and it's an acquittal -- >> he walks free. >> immediately. >> but this wasn't just any plea. raven was offered an alford plea, meaning he would not be required to admit to killing janet. that didn't sit well with prosecutor franks. >> it wasn't my decision to make. i try the cases. i'm not the administrator. that was up to my boss and my supervisor. >> why'd you take the plea? >> i took the plea to get out, to get out, to have a guaranteed date to get out and be with my son. i felt that there was so much corruption, so much lying that was going into that trial that i just knew i wasn't going get a fair trial the second time around. >> denied any responsibility for this crime. we were very disappointed in

that. >> i wanted to throw up. that was like stabbing janet all over again. >> he didn't mention, "i'm sorry." he admitted nothing, apologized for nothing, and it was so cold. >> in trials like this, there are no winners, just two sides bitterly divided. >> the person who killed my wife right now thinks he's home free, but i'm trying to clear my name so that we can shift the focus and know that there is still a killer out there who right now is walking on the streets. >> custody of janet and raven's son, kaiden, was granted to raven's mother. janet's mom is left with the memories of the daughter she loved and lost. how often do you think about janet? >> constantly. the only way i can handle it is

i know she's happy. i know she is. >> that's all for this edition of "dateline." i'm craig melvin. thank you for watching. good morning. first up on msnbc, the final stretch. just ten days to go until the election. both candidates out in full force on the campaign trail this weekend, sharpening their final pitches to voters in key states. >> i'm not going to shut down the economy. i'm not going to shut down the country. i'm going to shut down the virus. >> this election is a choice between a trump recovery, and i'll call it, because that's what's happening, it's a trump superrecovery and a biden depression. >> but what message is resonating with voters? we'll have