as of now her musky this is r t former egyptian leader hosni mubarak heads back to court to face charges of corruption and ordering the killing of protesters to visit the military which are casement power prosecution diffidence in ways even more brutal than the previous regime. there are fears israel's plans in a new assault to wipe out hezbollah in lebanon five years after the last deadly exchange some believe the move will help to shift attention of herring from growing social unrest under brought in the palestinian bid for u.n.

recognition. and ukraine's football matches the common i'll be really a nazi breeding ground often time in violent countries of origin is anxious that hooligans could ruin next year's erase the card hosting blaming the previous leadership for encouraging naziism among young people. next our special report on the epidemic of domestic violence in the us which digs into the psyche of both victims and their abuses. of abuse to me. i can sum it up in one word this error. and i just prayed that if you couldn't find me if i could just live through the night that i would get my kids out of here because i knew that was going to happen was that he was going to kill me.

i love this guy and i promise to be his wife into order and respect and cherish innocence what he did to me. the look on my son. is the one thing that i can stop this down. it's really important to ask her are you being hurt are you afraid to go back home if we don't as we find them. she had a bag packed that was in a very and share another bag packed that was in her car our assumption is she told him that he was that she was leaving. the portrait of the abuse is that is

extremely frightening extremely dark even if it's simply that as a community we can provide that ray of hope for. just one piece of the lesser qualified both involving parents reporters cover stories every day of domestic violence in america they shine the spotlight on famous men arrested for murder or assault of a girlfriend or wife the daily headlines reveal secrets of private people victims and abusers hidden from view until police investigate. many stories fail to name the crime as domestic violence or put the crisis in context. at least four

million women are affected by abuse every year it is a public health adenike and we must do more to save women's lives. but. if you think that a for women you know. and realize that one out of every four women is being abused it's a potluck domestic violence can affect people from any age range any social economic background any racial or cultural background we've seen women from asian countries who married american man moved to this country and then were abused we've seen people from some of the middle eastern countries who are abused as part of their culture so it can hit anybody can just be any more it can hit doctors' wives policeman's wives ministers wives many victims don't understand that

domestic violence includes verbal abuse psychological abuse physical abuse and sexual abuse. it's real it's invisible. to sticks or are not lying here they are telling us what's going on. i always know that i want to be an artist and i want to go for a sunday drive is that what i asked and we're going to gin up a such no i'm going to be an artist when i met the man i fell in love with him i'll psych ok and i think i'll give love a try it was twenty five. well through the military. me for two years dated for one year. we could live

a first of it was. well we got married i got pregnant oh my honeymoon night and i was pregnant i was excited we're both very excited well i end up losing my baby and it's a pregnancy so i came whole little after recovery and you know for recovery after my surgery my husband picked me up and he threw me. and i don't even know what set him off while in our community pick me up he threw me across the road and aus leo's that was like oh my god my sisters are going to rip what am i going to do it's like his soul was just empty as start to get physical with the choking. to sweet little bit just thinking about it in i would see glimpse of my like this just flashing in my head. and my gut has died i might have it in my way you know what's happening to me but i couldn't get a spray air i just something within myself just made me just want to fight you know

continue to live. i just had to. fly around for the night that i made the decision to leave from that moment to the next morning i was in a war zone. first he beat me until i was unconscious held me down on the floor put his knees on my shoulders. burned my marriage with a cigarette burn my arm with a cigarette. kicked me in the left ear until i was unconscious. and stripped me in my clothes and threw me in the back yard and i was twenty seven degrees below zero with the windchill that night we were in wisconsin and it was january so why france the garage and i knew i had to hide so i found a tarp and i wrapped myself in that and i hid in a corner behind some things and i heard him come in and he had

a stick and i heard him poking around in the crotch. and i just prayed that. if you didn't find me if i could just live through the night that i would get my kids out of here because i knew that it was going to happen was that he was going to kill me because he told me so many times and that night he he promised me that he kill me and that he those kids would never see their mother my oldest son was at home at the time and he was. upstairs but he heard his father yelling and. he came down and his father just continued to attack me he threw me to the ground in the hallway and then while i was down and i was tricked her myself and he started kicking me. and my son the look on my son's face was the scariest the worst them alexina we can stop is down and we could help i can remember pleading for my life as the mother of his children please don't hurt me on the mother bear children

they need me when i pick myself off before i realized that not only was a queen for my children's life but i was playing for my own and i couldn't be a mother. if i was an existing and that was the lightbulb moment for me when i say this has to change and only i can change it. a lot of people are not aware that within domestic violence many women are raped. sexual abuse is probably the least talked about for the first eighteen years of my life i was told or have the sense of i was a row i was nothing i meant nothing i was not loved so the first guy that walks by and says i love you that was a that wow somebody loves me and now it was all i needed and i was so blinded by that that i couldn't see all the other little signs that were there and then as

we got into marriage and i had a child all of a sudden it happens things change when you get pregnant you have a child well i breastfed and the first thing you know was like oh those are my breasts not my son's and i'm like i'm breastfeeding him so he lives and he was threatened and felt jealous. no one gives you necessarily the rules i mean of when you get married this is the rules of being a wife in a lot of times and even now they are mind set is when you say i do oh were you supposed to perform sexual acts in bed and at last with consent and that's where the difference really lies is that. i wasn't consenting i mean i would say now and i would say now and i would say now and it didn't matter. they got to where we would call it a dead fish and can you imagine being married to somebody. in your bedroom church

telling him that ok i'm going to lay here like a good smelly fish then you can just hope yourself and hurts when i do it. how we every other night for years. and that was what mine was. i love this guy any promise to be his wife into honor and respect and shirish him and this is what he did to me. but she can't go talk to somebody about this as he'll turn around and say well you married him here you chose him. so where do you go what do you. mean so i kept my mouth shut. because that's what i learned to do growing up. young lady less than twenty years of age married came in the office pregnant and i

followed her through her pregnancy and i noticed towards the end her probably in the last trimester of her pregnancy she frequently would come in with bruises and maybe bruises on her abdomen she came in one day with with a black eye and her husband was all ways right there and i would ask her if you want to talk about anything what's going on and she always had a reason why she was had these bruises. and i guess i believed her head in pressure . about three to four weeks prior to her family every day she came into the emergency room and she was in shock from blood loss. the baby was dead and she had a huge injury to her head and probably from. i think probably he had been kicking her. baby. and she did. and that taught me a very significant lesson had i had the opportunity to have spoken to her privately

. we had a very good relationship i think she would have told me if there was a problem. after that i ask every person i saw everything was a very happy and i wanted to have a springboard. i think that they're still in american society the view that what it kurz behind closed doors remains behind closed doors and what happens between two into memes a husband or wife or a boyfriend and a girlfriend really is their business the media generally reflects to some extent what is going on in society and it very much comes from this patriarchal idea of man as ruler and then in order to take control of his possessions which included house property cattle children and females spare the rod spoil the child that also

translated to women as well so essentially what happens with the woman is she goes from being under the rule of her father that is then transferred to her husband and i think this is often why people find this somewhat humorous but it's really not humorous. when they talk back women that cost a lot and women that just were not under very good control it was deemed necessary to use force not. tell me you're sorry. sir there's only one way to beating kicking those types of things that plays into the idea that women essentially that are being abused somehow are deserving of that abuse they have brought it up on their hand picking their husbands there's a possibility of adultery they don't know when to shut up they push them too far

and so essentially they're asking for it and this plays into how in the criminal justice system we treat women who are abused which traditionally has not been very well and so there's a general kind of perception in the hierarchy of power structure of the females are still under males and that the man knows best and if the man is resorting to violence somehow it's because either it's necessary and or she brought it on herself so we see this in that scene on the titanic where he tells her you will not embarrass me you are going to be my wife and you will abide by my rules. the fact just last week you will.

time he learned what comes first marriage or job and i. don't. think he can even find time to say i want to. work or using your brain to make something out of himself why doesn't look after him. she competes with. me you know i like a i was getting old boy oh sure who's boss his home is his cash so he is the boss there and he rules. and the rules badly. spoiled and you have somebody that is not very empowered to do much except try to survive try to make nice try to walk on eggshells try not to make him mad again and he always tells her it's your fault you made no angry because you did this or you didn't lair if you get that kind of information just thrown at you especially

if this is not the first time and battered but before you got into this relationship you may have had another and another relationship and certainly may have gotten back to what it looked like in your family of origin if mom did not leave her battery as been your brother the chances of you getting away are less the battered wife. doesn't leave. is expressing one of the sad symptoms of being battered is that you become the norm and you really have a sense of hopelessness except to try to knock. trigger their rage at the batter. who has often out of his own security made real threats that are quite believable.

batterers tend to minimize things they tend to think well it was a one time thing or she made me angry i didn't hit her that hard i you know i didn't mean to do that i also provide counseling to the women i've heard on several occasions when i hear that door closed i shiver and that's sad so imagine in your own home being scared by hearing the door close and it's not a stranger coming in the door it's their partners or spells. my name is richard i'm thirty five i've been married for almost three years now. and we have three children together and else i have two stepchildren so it's all a five we look pretty similar you know not a lot of fighting a lot of drugs or alcohol so we definitely shirk common bond that we kind of help

each other see what avenues we don't need to go to i have tried to avoid the conflict saying oh it made unhappy times when growing up as a kid my parents divorced when i was five when mum got the relationship my dad got a relationship. the violence there physical and verbal it's not a choice i want my life i want my life to be my life to the day we leave this earth remember him and i remember being handcuffed. for most embarrassing moments in my life. violence not it's not only physical you know it's verbal emotional i got arrested spent fourteen hours in jail never been in trouble with the law. and you know it's just a new experience sitting there i didn't know. what my relationship status was

daley's my family and i was the biggest thing to me. what happens to my family it's what my life is about now and my family and i mean now. this violence is a way of obtaining power and control this violence is usually accompanied by jealousy also a fear of losing power and control it is accompanied by verbal abuse and putdowns again as a way to obtain power and control as you see it's a perfectly ordinary house and he really does wreck their house about twenty minutes never in this this is there at the master bedroom and he went right above the bed i mean you can see homer baby killer and everything else where they divorced at the time they were really separated the time she just asked him to move out he got really jealous he came in the room and said you're not sleeping when

you're sleeping with somebody else put the hand down we were into the ground put a gun into the mouth until his seven year old were in the room really don't kill mommy don't kill mommy and the only reason he stopped her about five minutes that was because the kids were getting hysterical and he made the mother leave the house blackman moved out for a while because she has injuries out there on her the small one here on the ground she was danny's i mean he had the gun execution style right in front of children and now. the strangulation relationally is exactly where the thumb mark went and yet again and come out in her mouth in front of the dinner service. if she leaves that is not necessarily going to make the violence go away many times leaving will cause an increase in the violence because again why do we have the violence it's power and control if hit the victim leaves now that is a slap in the face to power and control.

we have three children are mentally i was an attorney she was a very brilliant girl tremendous sense. are varied and there are three and a very kind caring person he was a placement they were married close of three years her friends told her that he dragged around by her hair so any bruises on her head you know would not be visible and the body bruises would not be visible one morning at five thirty six thirty in the morning got a phone call and warren said mommy is no longer with us and with. what has been a car accident he said there's there's some sort of problem here bonnie shot herself as far as we now she had a bag packed that was in her bedroom she had another bag packed that was in her car our assumption is she told him that she was leaving him and he shot her and then

wiped the fingerprints off the gun obviously bonnie did much. in cameron up call nine one one said that his wife a child herself on his voice isn't back or. she was not and she was calling for want help and as far as a losing a child that's devastating but to even more so was to say my parents. lose a grand on. that. i watched them both. there that he had been arrested he was subsequently released. and was not charged with murder d.a. said they didn't have enough evidence to indict him the judge said it's in my

court. so again him and. when we first found out about the fact that she was abused and had been abused for three years we were stamped because domestic violence doesn't happen to people like us kids or college educations and this happens to poor people. this doesn't happen to two attorneys to doctors wives this type of thing kirk her comment on under mastic violence would be that it's everywhere. takes fifteen to twenty million years for the planet to recover from

a major extinction event for the planet is time we don't. it's been going on for months twenty forty five years and since there's been a culture was before there was even islamic fundamentalist terrorist in this country nine eleven happened the bush administration could not find any terrorists because the feds couldn't find any real terrorists they decided to take these young people who are accused of property sabotage and label ben as terrorists someone he'll destroy property. with absolutely zero intention of harming a single human being. in my mind it's not fair and real people who are green in this country are the housewives who recycle. and the children who play trees on the weekend with her cub scout troops that's the. sound. guys. gonna. have to.

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