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recognition. ukraine's football matches become an ugly neo nazi meeting ground on violence the country's all forty that hunch is that hooligans could ruin excuse you gave the cop a sting maybe the previous leadership great courage and narcissism among young people. the next all special report on the epidemic of domestic violence in the us which digs into the psyche of prose victims and their abusers. no one really wants to touch on the subject of abuse because everyone's like you know that's a family affair that's what we know has been and a wife we're going to stay out of it will want nothing to do with it at all his cousins as brothers everyone ran out the house none of his friends came to say they just left everyone just left. they just let him beat me and left me well isn't a you know and god forbid i hate i would hate to say about what is stated

a year longer cause i would be sitting here today trying to crack the day or sit in jail somewhere and that's just honest to god true if those around the two options that i saw that moment either are going to kill him or me in jail or he's going to kill me it just spiraled just like one thing after another it was like you know like i was in a black hole everything just start caving in on me everything that i thought there was going to be you know when i met hammond that marriage was supposed to be when him and i knew we discussed our dating and our hopes and dreams and things that we want to do together everything just crumbled like a glass house no ideas just throw one rock or should want to be beguiled and then we'll just shafts if you don't care about yourself it doesn't matter it does not matter anymore it doesn't matter why are you here why are you living you don't want to live anymore you don't have self-love you know you don't want to live you know

that's why women commit suicide you know that's why women you know people are going to drug abuse and alcohol abuse it's all about self love any type of uses about self-love not having self love it's important because that's all that's going to be a child a situation that's going to love yourself look at. people think she should have been able to get out of that why couldn't she get out of it i would never let that . happened to me i'd just leave those are sort of those famous last words kind of statements because this is an extraordinarily complex issue there is nothing simple about being a victim of domestic violence i will take the children away oh make sure that no one ever speaks to you again oh ruin your reputation i will make sure you leave with no money i mean all of these things when you hear them time after time after

time after time and he's beaten you time after time after time time when you work so hard it will leave this you believe that with all your heart i made the decision that night to formulate a plan and that i would be out of there by the time my youngest son was ready for kindergarten which i had two years so i know i knew i had two years left of abuse before i could leave twenty two beatings in that two years there were violent episodes which would happen sporadically and of course every time i would try to convince myself thought simon he would convince me this is never going to happen again and the last time. but they continue to happen so i thought it was something i was doing wrong. i thought it was something i should fix it sounds kind of crazy but i won a quitter i wanted to make things work i wanted. i wanted to have a sixty year marriage like my family had and i always thought through thick and thin mint through thick and thin this is why they told stories of prisoners of war

that are actually kept captive at the doors open in no fences around the reason they don't leave is because the fear of what's going to happen if they try to is more overwhelming than staying there and taking the punishment it's a true story it's all part of the prisoner and it's all part of living in the worst known. well what we've really seen as a huge shift in policy to the way that we respond to intimate partner violence through the criminal justice system this largely came about in the beginning of the sixty's and into the seventy's and we're still refining this policy but really prior to this we've had a very hands off approach to incidents of domestic violence where the police were rarely called if they were called they were really mandated to do nothing the

police would show. they would mediate the couple or they would separate the couple but then they would leave. and go to. sleep and. you know can you take me. sorry we didn't see if you would so we're not allowed to because the burning bed is an interesting perspective because it brings about the idea that women will fight back or that when women are out had enough they're going to fight back and today almost all of our states either have a mandatory or preferred rest policy this mandates that police officers when there is probable cause will make an arrest when they are called to the scene of an alleged domestic violence case and we now provide essentially under the law an equal protection regardless of gender and regardless of the relationship between

the offender and the victim and i went to court i got awarded. truly served these classes and miscellaneous words for me personally. just my feelings and communication was the biggest challenge in our relationship which led to a lot of our arguments. and that learning how to share them i would have been in that same old rut we all come into that with the same or serco blog with us and you know to start like i said it self assessment kind of makes you look at yourself in a different way hated. the is this the road you want to go they really don't see the emotional damage that they have done in the relationship because you're teaching them a whole different thing as far as emotions and how to use you know the words about emotions not just anger i do identify that underlying emotion such as her frustrated and things like that are richard falls into that because when he first

came. here he kind of minimized you know his actions then and spoke as though you know it was just this it was just that you know when you hear them say just or i only you know those are the key words that you know you know that they're trying to minimize or justify and into them maybe in their mind they think yeah it was chips that missed them however they don't realize the damage. we have to name. and give it voice very loudly. and say stop no more until we have our health care system waking up to the fact that we're going to need to look at prevention and root cause i think it's incredibly important that we start opening her eyes and asking the

question. the worst case abuse that i had was a lady who came in actually. with a fractured arm one of the things that really raises my suspicion would be injuries inconsistent with how the patient reports they happened or maybe an enterprise response to an injury downplaying injury or overreacting to an injury what happened is that her significant other had basically broken her arm literally broke it and she was in a lot of pain and she didn't initially want to say that he did it and also kind of look at the relationship between the partners to see if it feels odd to you just kind of your human gut instinct just kind of trust her gut you

always have in the back of your mind could this patient be a victim of abuse we know that frequently these women may have several encounters with. health care agencies etc before they stepped help and you just hope that your the one that makes the difference any time we have concerns we can call our social worker and they can work with our patients to help them access any services that they need we have a lot of patients and a lot of women who are in these relationships who do not. i want to tale that they're being abused because they're afraid that they have nowhere to go or no one that's going to help them and be out there by themselves there are opportunities for a patient to be alone for an exam such as x. ray i do not even accompany a patient to extra a without a leg get out there are times that we can ask the abuser to perform

a task for us to get a medication list or to get an insurance card or to make a phone call for the victim or something of that nature we also have security if we have great concerns that we are at risk that the patients at risk cetera we would enact to our security plan sometimes staff will just let me know that there is family violence and i just have to go in and meet with them and start to try to build a report with them and see how much that they can is willing to open up to me the scariest time for a victim is when they're leaving the abusive relationship that's when the abuser can feel most threatened and want to take ownership and show possession so that can be the most dangerous time for them and that's why we do safety planning here at the hospital prior to them leaving even if they're returning to use their relationship i think it would be a good thing to have manners toward screening for domestic violence always the word and then they did with forms and paperwork when we see a patient in this form is not going to slow down the process of treating

a patient and it could be a good idea i think we can save lives and i think that if we try and to make this more as an issue and more of a put on the forefront to lead women know and educating our communities about the midst of violence and i think it will really help them prevent it and help to decrease the prevalence of. if patients don't know that help exists. how can they be saved absolutely i hope it's a farce if. you know any women shopped around will tell you that and they have special precautions about you know how women need to prepare in order to be able to leave your house ok

or a safe place ok. are you ok right now the shelter advocate that answers the phone is first and foremost is there to listen and to kind of hear what the person is asking about we try to assess the situation and offer her the shelter and services that we have and even if shelter is not what she seeking or desiring or she's thinking you know that she needs that or wants to come to the shelter we make sure she's aware of all the services to our outreach center and counseling and really encourage her to get some some help for what she's going throw suspicion place when i was thinking where i go or where i can be i never imagined some of there is by the show there is like a mother arms like asleep or east can't be home huge bill for because he's not only a room a clean bit a plate of food so michael moore we feel sold

a prius so guilty soul or somebody came to us and say. cuore. get one of you for your for we can help you. get out. get out cause the cops no matter what he tells you you can find safety you can find safety you can and you will find safety a world say anything he wants to anything. to keep you under his thumb to keep you right where he wants you. so he can keep abusing here and it's only going to get worse so when you are going to get worse if got to make that step take that step of faith have faith in yourself you may not believe it's

a mess but it's there it's there you'll find it and you'll find. a safety plan is the mechanism that is used to help an individual stay safe in their home their working environment to help them stay safe when they are traveling or with their children. it is pretty comprehensive and it involves evaluating where the high risk points are a lot of people don't consider. which rooms have ways that they could exit if they needed to which planes have items in there that could be used as weapons now you would think well you might want to go there because there's a weapon you could use but typically that's not a good idea because the person who's trying to hurt you could also use those weapons entry into a place like a bathroom a lot of people would want to go there because

a small confined it feels safe you can lock the door but in fact you can't really get hard the bathroom easily and so it would be a dead end and that person could once they get through that door seriously and. person you would want to have coped words or something particular to communicate to your children one nine one one needs to be called inform neighbors and that there is something that they should keep their eyes peeled for because there might be an incident that you can't get to a phone but if they hear something they know it's a problem and also to identify a person where they could if they get out of the how where did they go is there someone that's typically home is there someone that could help them in an emergency so those are the kinds of things that would be evaluated additionally traveling alone or independently is usually not a good idea and if someone does have to travel alone to very bad route whether

you're going to work or to the germ to vary your routine so that it's not critical to someone who knows you very well. i think hospitals have a wonderful position to deal with this epidemic and i will be able to back. first of all my senses but we've always been a catcher's mitt for society and what's going on at second were a safe haven for people and so the hospital itself is a place where people can feel safe and comfortable and the opportunity of hospitals to do assessment to do screening and then to offer opportunity for resources is something we have a great opportunity the prosecutors can't do it alone the police officers the doctors and the service providers cannot do it alone but if we all work together

and work together as a team to address every need an aspect of the victims situation then it is a game that we can win because when we work together we make a really form. opponent be smarter than i am just because you have degrees or you make a lot of money or you don't think you have a way out if you have no money there are support groups there are people that will help you find a way out. and anything in place is better. a way from that environment if we could paint a picture of a brighter future one thing that we definitely have to do is we have to detach the stigma of domestic violence i think that there is this persona that domestic violence is what happens to other people it doesn't happen to normal people it doesn't happen to you know middle class people who go out of their jobs and get educations and just live their lives but we know it does and it happens everywhere

and people need to learn to speak out we need to empower women to ask for help to seek help when they're in these situations that we will believe them that there are places they can turn whether this are victim shelters or calling the police calling nine one one going to a trusted friend a neighbor the local clinic the hospital but how can we stop it before it happens or when we start that cycle how can we intervene in the middle of it that's when we're going to have a brighter picture of tomorrow it's going to continue to be a journey and not only for me but for my children and perhaps for their children but we've got each other and god willing we are together to to work through it and some of the. this was just going to destroy my life and destroy me and i had this turned around to do something positive and that's when was stern.

working with the shareholders and summing up scholarships let it go and move on. because life is too short you just leave the past windows to my soul to my jury. that's a little bit of everything it's a mixture of you know my hopes my dreams my desires and my aspirations and my vision myself doing the circuit. i do believe in the concept of visualisation you know if you can see here in you think. vision yourself doing something it's going to happen i surely believe that you know i really really realize that you are a strong woman then you want someone who's going to encourage you and love you and make you want to pursue your dreams that's important it really is important so just get out and move on you know it's better things are going to happen but you have in order to start something new you have to do away with the old you have to do away

with the past and in order for good things to happen in your life you have to get rid of the bad first you know it's scary at first because you don't know what you're going to do it's ok it's ok it's ok to be confused it's ok to be angry it's ok to be scared but most importantly you're still alive to feel that way so that's important at least you're still alive and you have another day so you make a change but you have to start today. you have to i am now thirty five years old so it's been ten years since my experience everything is falling into place for. its credit. you member when we couldn't say with the word breast the shame attached to a woman going in and talking about breast cancer in her twenty years ago was terrible. you know so we've really got a lot of work to do to be able to be able to go in and talk openly and honestly about abuse so that women can hear that it's ok to talk about it so we can move

ahead like we have on breast cancer. the wonderful i'm going to live to see that happen i think i am.

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