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fears that hooligans could ruin the european championships to be held there next. i know right now here on our special report on the epidemic of domestic violence in the u.s. which digs into the psyche of both victims and their refuses you with a lot. of abuse to be. summed up in one word air. and i just pray that if you didn't find me if i could just live through the night that i would get my kids out of here because i knew that i was going to happen was that he was going to kill me.

i love this guy and we promised to be his wife into honor and respect to ensure a show and this is what he did to me. the most that's his this is the more i've seen of it and stop this tell me. it's really important to ask her are you being hurt are you afraid to go back home if we don't buy as we won't find out. she had a bag packed that was in her bedroom sharing her bag packed that was in her car our assumption that she told him that he was that she was living. the portrait of the abuse it is and that is extremely frightening extremely dark even if it's silly and now that as a community we can provide that ran from the. just

one case of domestic violence that i'd hold the ball with parents reporters cover stories every day of domestic violence in america they shine the spotlight on famous men arrested for murder or assault of a girlfriend or wife the daily headlines reveal secrets of private people victims and abusers hidden from view until police investigate it many stories fail to name the crowd as domestic violence or put the crisis in context. at least four million women are affected by abuse every year it is a public health a democrat and we must do more to save women's lives.

if you think that and for women you know. and realize that one out of every four women is being abused it's appalling domestic violence can affect people from any age range any social economic background any racial or cultural background we've seen women from asian countries who married american man moved to this country and then were abused we've seen people from some of the middle eastern countries who are abused just part of their culture so it can hit anybody she can just be any more it can hit dr swines policeman's wives ministers' wives many victims don't understand that the mastic violence includes verbal abuse psychological abuse physical abuse and sexual abuse. it's

real it's invisible. to sticks or are not lying here they are telling us what's going on. i always knew that i wanted to be an artist my father and i would go for a sunday drive said he would ask what it would have been up as such no one to be an artist when i met the man i fell in love with him all psych ok and i think i'll give love a try it was twenty five. in the dream it while we were in the military. me for two years dated for one year. me live a first today was i will only get weird i got pregnant oh man him and i and i was pregnant i was excited we're both very excited well i am. losing my

baby and it's a book write it say so i came hold a needle after recovery and you know for recovery after surgery my husband picked me up and he threw me. and i don't even know what set him off weren't part of him but he picked me up he threw me across the road and aus all the l's that you'll say oh my god my sisters are going to rip what am i going to do it's like his soul was just empty as start to get physical with the choking. this relief and it just thinking about it in a sequence of my life just just flashing in my head you know i might not have my coming in my way you know what's happening to me so i couldn't breathe i would gasp for air but just something with it myself just made me just want to fight you know continue to live. such as had to. fire him for the night that i made the decision to leave from that moment to the

next morning i was in a war zone. first he ate me until i was unconscious held me down on the floor put his knees on my shoulders. and burn my marriage or the cigarette burn my arm with a cigarette. kicked me in the left ear until i was unconscious. and certainly in my clothes and threw me in the back yard and i was twenty seven degrees below zero with the windchill that night we were in wisconsin and it was january so why france the garage and i knew i had to hide so i found a tarp and i wrapped myself in that and i hid in a corner behind something and i heard him come in and he had a stick and i heard him poking around in the garage. and i just prayed that. if you didn't find me if i could just live through the night that i would get my kids out

of here because i knew that it was going to happen was that he was going to kill me because he told me so many times and that night he promised me that he kill me and that he those kids would never see their mother my oldest son was at home at the time and he was. substitute or speaker his father yelling and. he came down and his father just continued to attack me and he threw me to the ground in the hallway and then while i was down and i was trying to caress of what we started kicking me. and my son the look on my son's face was the scariest the worst them alexina we can stop his dad. i can remember pleading for my life as the mother of his children please don't hurt me and the mother or children they need me when i pick myself off before i realized that not only was the queen for my children's life but i was playing for my own and i couldn't be

a mother. if i wasn't existing and that was the lightbulb moment for me when i say . this has to change and change. a lot of people are not aware that within domestic violence many women are raped. social abuse is probably the least talked about for the first eighteen years of my life i was told or had the sense of i was a row i was nothing i meant nothing i was not loved so the first guy that walks by and says i love you i was there wow somebody loves me and now it was all i needed and i was so blinded by that that i couldn't see all the other little signs that were there in the end as we got into marriage and i had a child all of a sudden you know it happens things change when you get pregnant you have

a child well i breastfed and the first thing you know was like well those are my breasts not my son's and i'm like i'm breastfeeding him so he lives and he was threatened and felt jealous. no one gives you necessarily the rules i mean of when you get married this is the rules of being a wife in a lot of times and even now they are mindset is when you say i do old or used to perform sexual acts in bed and at last with consent and that's where the difference really lies is that. i wasn't consenting i mean i would say now and i would say no and i would say now and it didn't matter. they got to where we would call it a dead fish engine imagine being married to somebody. in your bedroom church telling him that ok i'm going to lay here like a dead smelly fish and you can just hope yourself and hurts what i did. how

every other night for years. in that was what my dear she was. i love this guy and i promise to be his wife into honor and respect insurance you know and this is what he did to me. that she can't go talk to somebody who built this cause he'll turn around and say will you marry him huge chose him. so where do you go what do you do you. and so i kept my mouth shut. because that's what i learned today growing up. young lady in less than twenty years of age married came in the office pregnant and i followed her through her pregnancy and i noticed towards that in an herb probably in the last trimester of her pregnancy she frequently would come in with bruises and any

bruises on her abdomen she came in one day with a with a black eye and her husband was all ways right there and i would ask her if she wanted to talk about anything what's going on and she always had a reason why she was had these bruises. and i guess i believed her head in pressure . about three to four weeks prior to her delivery date and she came into the emergency room and she was in shock from blood loss. the baby was dead and she had huge injury to her admin probably from boots i think probably he had been taken. and she died. and that taught me a very significant lesson had i had the opportunity to have spoken to her privately . we had a very good relationship i think she would have told me if there was a problem. and after that every person i saw everything was with are you

happy and i learned how to screen for it. i think that they're still in american society the view that what it kurz behind closed doors remains behind closed doors and what happens between two intimates a husband and a wife or a boyfriend or girlfriend were really is their business the media generally reflects to some extent what is going on in society and it very much comes from this patriarchal idea of the man as ruler and then in order to take control of his possessions which included house property cattle children and females spare the rod spoil the child that also translated to women as well so essentially what happens with a woman as she goes from being under the rule of her father that is then transferred to her husband and i think this is often why people find this somewhat

humorous but it's really not humorous. when the talkback women that gossiped a lot of women that just were not under very good control it was deemed necessary to use force to get that not. tell me your story. i'm sorry there's only one way to beating kicking those types of things that plays into the idea that women essentially that are being abused somehow are deserving of that abuse they have brought it up on their hand picking their husbands there's the possibility of adultery they don't know when to shut up they push them too far and so essentially they're asking for it and this plays into how in the criminal justice system we treat women who are abused which traditionally has not been very well and so there is a general kind of perception in the hierarchy of power structure of the females are

still under males and that the man knows best and if the man is resorting to violence somehow it's because either it's necessary and or she brought it on herself so we see this in that scene in titanic where he tells her you will not embarrass me you are going to be my wife and you will abide by my rules. the french just got you by law so you will. time she learned what comes first marriage or job and after we're left overs and things she can't even find time to slow enough for me. and work or

using your brain to make something out of. his wife doing instead she can get. out of me and i like her i was getting a one zero zero or who is boss his home is his care so he is the boss there and he rules. and he rules badly. and you have somebody that is not very empowered to do much except try to survive try to make nice try to walk on eggshells trying not to make him mad at the man and he always tells her it's your fault you made new angle because you go so you didn't do that if you get that kind of information just thrown at you especially if this is not the first time and battered but before you got into this relationship you may have had another and another relationship and certainly may have gotten back to what it

looked like in your family of origin if mom did not leave her battery has been your father the chances of you getting away are less the battered wife. that doesn't leave. is expressing one of the sad symptoms of being battered is that you become a noun and you really have a sense of hopelessness except to try to not. trigger the rage of the bad or. who has often out of his own security made real threats that are quite believable. batterers tend to minimize things they tend to think well it was

a one time thing or she made me angry i didn't hit her that hard i you know i didn't mean to do that i also provide counseling to the women i've heard on several occasions when i hear that door closed i shiver and that's sad imagine in your own home being scared by hearing the door close and it's not a stranger coming in the door it's their partners or spouse. my name is richard i'm thirty five i've been married for almost three years now. and we have three children together now set of two stepchildren so told five we are pretty similar you no matter what a failing what a drugs alcohol so we definitely church combine that we can to help each other see what avenues we don't need to go to i have tried to avoid the conflict saying

how that made unhappy times when growing up as a kid my parents divorced when i was five when on that relationship my dad got a relationship. violence there physical and verbal it's not a choice i want my life i want my life to be my life for the day we leave this earth remember him and i remember being handcuffed. to the most embarrassing moments of my life. violence not is not only physical you know it's verbal emotional i got arrested spent fourteen hours in jail never been in trouble with the law. and you know system you experienced sitting there i didn't know. what my relationship status was today at least my family and i was the biggest thing to me. what happens to my family it's what my life is about now is my family and i did nothing.

this violence is a way of obtaining power and control this violence is usually accompanied by jealousy also a fear of losing power and control it is accompanied by verbal abuse and putdowns again as a way to obtain power and control as you see it's a perfectly ordinary house and he really has wrecked their house about twenty minutes and we're in this this is there are the master bedroom and he went right above the bed i mean you can see homer baby killer and everything else where they divorced at the time they were really separated the time she was asked to move out he got really jealous he came in the room said you're not sleeping with me you're sleeping with somebody else could they hand down certain we were to the ground put a gun into the mouth but to his seven year old were in the room screaming don't kill mommy don't kill mommy and the only reason he stopped or for about five

minutes that was because the kids were getting hysterical and he made the mother leave the house but i've been moved out for a while but she has injuries you know felt down on her knees when he had her on the ground she was danny's i mean he had the gun execution style right in front of children in the mouth of strangulation relational is exactly the mark when and yet again and come out in our mouth in front of the witness service. if she leaves that is not necessarily going to make the violence go away many times leaving will cause an increase in the violence because again why do we have the violence it's power and control if hit the victim leaves now that is a slap in the face to power and control. we have three children are mentally i was an attorney she was a very brilliant girl tremendous sense. humor varied and arthur and

a very kind caring person he was a placement they were married close to three years her friends told her that he dragged around by her hair so any bruises on her head you know were not a visible and he body grizz it's not there isn't one morning rant five thirty six thirty in the morning i got a phone call and we were in said vonnie is no longer with us then we thought. what there's been a car accident he said there's there's some sort of problem here bonnie shot herself as far as we now she had a bag packed that was in her bedroom she had another bag packed that was in her car our assumption is she told him that she was leaving him and he shot her and then wiped the fingerprints off the gun obviously money did much. in every month said that his wife in charge stuff on voices in the back or.

she was nine and she was calling from want to help and as far as losing a child that's devastating but even more so was to say my parents. lose a granddaughter. that. i watched the both of them in. there that he had been arrested he was subsequently released. and was not charged with murder da said they didn't have enough evidence to indict him and the judge said it's in my court to. sell it and get him and. when we first found out

about the fact that she was abused and had been abused three years we were stamped because domestic violence doesn't happen to people like us people with college educations and this happens to poor people. this doesn't happen to two attorneys to doctors wives this type of thing kirk her comment on under massive violence would be that it's everywhere. takes fifteen to twenty million years for the planet to recover from a major extinction event for the planet is time we don't. scream going on for months twenty one years and since we moved before there was even islamic

fundamentalist terrorist in this country when the nine eleven happened the bush administration could not find any terrorists because the feds couldn't find any real terrorists they decided to take these young people who are accused of property sabotage and label as terrorists someone he'll destroy his property. with absolutely zero intention of harming a single human being. in my mind it's not the parents of real people who are green in this country are the housewives who recycle. and the children who play trees on the weekend with their cub scout troops that's the. sound. guys. have. cut.

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