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a year longer kollywood me sit here today try a crappy day or sit in jail somewhere. that's just honest to god true those around me to out as i saw that moment either i'm gonna kill him one way in jail or he's going to kill again it just spiraled just like one thing after another it was like you know like i was in a black hole everything just struck caving in on me everything that i thought there was going to be you know when i met him and how their marriage was supposed to be when him and i knew we discussed our dating and our hopes and dreams and things that we want to do together everything just crumbled like a glass house they know all you do is just throw one rock or shit what a b.b. gun and then he'll just shafts if you don't care about yourself it doesn't matter it does not matter anymore it doesn't matter why are you here why are you living you don't want to live anymore you don't have self love you know you don't want to

live you know that's why women commit suicide you know that's why women you know people are going to drug abuse and alcohol abuse it's all about self love any type of use is about self-love not having self love it's important because that's all that's going to be child the situation is that angela herself again people think she should have been able to get out of that why couldn't she get out of that i would never let that. happened to me i'd just leave those are sort of those famous last words kind of statements because this is an extraordinarily complex issue there is nothing simple about being a victim of domestic violence i will take your children away i'll make sure that no one ever speaks to you again oh ruin your reputation i'll make sure you leave with no money i mean all of these things when you hear them time after time after time after time and he's beaten you time after time after time time when you work so

hard you believe that if you believe it with all your heart i made the decision that night to formulate a plan and that i would be out of there by the time my youngest son was ready for kindergarten which i had two years so i know i knew i had two years left of abuse before i could leave twenty two beatings in that two years there were violent episodes which would happen sporadically and of course every time i would try to convince myself thought time and he would convince me this is never going to happen again and the last time. but they continue to happen so i thought it was something i was doing wrong i thought it was something i should fix it sounds kind of crazy. i want to quit or i wanted to make things work i wanted to i wanted to have a sixty year marriage like my family had and i always thought through thick and thin meant through thick and thin and this is why they tell stories of prisoners of

war they're actually kept captive with the doors open and no fences around for a reason they don't leave is because the fear of what's going to happen if they try to is more overwhelming than staying there and taking the punishment it's a true story it's all part of being a prisoner and it's all part of living the worst on. what we've really seen as a huge shift in policy to the way that we respond to intimate partner violence through the criminal justice system this largely came about in the beginning of the sixty's and into the seventy's and we're still refining this policy but really prior to this we've had a very hands off approach to incidents of domestic violence where the police were rarely called if they were called they were really mandated to do nothing the police would show. they would mediate the call ball or they would separate the

couple but then they would leave. so. you know can you take me. sorry we didn't see you would say we're going to load it just the burning bed is an interesting perspective because it brings about the idea that women will fight back or that when women are out had enough they're going to fight back. and today almost all of our states either have a mandatory or preferred rest policy this mandates that police officers when there is probable cause will make an arrest when they are called to the scene of an alleged domestic violence case and we now provide essentially under the law equal protection regardless of gender and regardless of the relationship between the offender and the victim i went to court to go toward the. true service

these classes and you know miscellaneous for and for me personally. just my feelings and communication was biggest challenge in my relationship which led to a lot of our arguments and learning how to share them i would have been in that same old red we all come into that with the same mindset i don't belong in this class. and you know you just start there is that it's self assessment kind of makes you look at yourself in a different light. this is this the road you want to go to they really don't see the emotional damage that they have done in the relationship because you're teaching them a whole different thing as far as emotions and how to use you know the words about emotions not just tangere how to identify that underlying emotion such as her and frustrated and things like that or richard falls into that because when you first

came. here he kind of minimized you know his actions and and spoke as though you know it was just this that was just that you know when you hear them say just or i only you know those are the key words that you know you know that they're trying to minimize or just of and into their maybe in their mind they think yeah it was just that in this that. however they don't realize the damage. we have to name the process. and give it voice very loudly. and say stop now more until we have our health care system waking up to the fact that you really need to look at prevention and root cause i think it's incredibly important that we start up in her eyes and asking the question is.

the worst case abuse that i had was a lady who came in actually. with a fractured arm one of the things that really raises my suspicion would be injuries inconsistent with how the patient reports they happened or maybe an enterprise response to an injury down play. in the injury or over reacting to an injury what had happened is that her significant other had basically broken heart literally broke it and she was in a lot of pain. she didn't initially want to say that he did you also kind of look at the relationship between the partners to see if it feels odd to you just kind of your human gut instinct just kind of trust your gut you

always have in the back of your mind could this patient be a victim of abuse we know that frequently these women may have several encounters with. health care agencies etc before they stepped help and you just hope that you're the one that makes the difference any time we have concerns we can call our social worker and they can work with our patients to help them access any services that they need we have a lot of patients and a lot of women who are in these relationships and do not want to tale that they're being abused because they're afraid that they have nowhere to go or no one that's going to help them and there be out there by themselves there are opportunities for a patient to be alone for an exam such as x. ray i do not even accompany a patient to extra a without a leg and there are times that we can ask the abuser to perform a task for us to get a medication list or to get an insurance card or to make

a phone call for the victim or something of that nature we also have security if we have great concerns that we are at risk that the patients at risk cetera we would enact to our security plan sometime staff will just let me know that there are family violence and i just have to go in and meet with them and start to try to build reporter with them and see how much they claim is willing to open. samee the scariest time for a victim is when they're leaving the base of relationship and that's when the abuser can feel most threatened and want to take ownership and show possession that can be the most dangerous time for them and that's why we do safety planning here at the hospital prior to them writing even if they're returning to on a several action ship i think it would be a good thing to have manners toward screening for a domestic violence obvious that we're inundated with forms and paperwork when we see a patient having this form is not going to slow down the process of treating

a patient at large and it could be a good idea i think we can save lives and i think that if we try and to make this more than issue and more of a thorough meal put on the forefront to lead women know and educating our communities about domestic violence and i think it will really help to prevent it and help to decrease the prevalence of if patients don't know that help exists. how can they be saved absolutely i have said logic for. you know any women shop around will tell you that but them they have special precautions about you know how women need to prepare in order to be able to leave

your house they are a safe place. are you ok right now a shelter advocate and answers the phone is first and foremost just there to listen and to kind of hear was the person is asking about we try to assess the situation in our for her to shelter in the services that we have and even if shelter is not what she's seeking or desiring or she's not thinking you know that she needs that or wants to come to the shelter we make sure she's aware of all the services to our outreach center and counseling and really encourage her to get some some help for what she's going through some special place when i was thinking when i go or where i can be i never imagine in some of the areas of the show there is like a mother arms like asleep or east can be a home built for because he's not only a room clean be it a plate of food so much for her we feel so the prayer is so guilty so.

somebody came to us and say. cuore. if you want to. hire you for we can help you. get out. get out cause the cops no matter what he tells you you can find safety you can find safety you can and you will find safety he will say anything he wants to anything he can to keep you under his thumb to keep you right where he wants you. so he keep abusing you and it's only going to get worse so i knew you were going to get worse if i got to make that step take that step of faith that faith in yourself you may not believe it's

a mess but it's there it's there you'll find it you'll find. a safety plan is a mechanism that is used to help an individual stay safe in their home and they're working environment to help them stay safe when they are traveling or with their children. it is pretty comprehensive and it involves evaluating where the high risk points are a lot of people don't consider. which rooms have a ways that they could exit if they needed to which players have items in there that could be used as weapons now you would think well you might want to go there because there's a grab in you could use but typically that's not a good idea because the person who's trying to hurt you could also use that as weapons entry into a place like a bathroom a lot of people would want to go there because a small confined it feels safe you can lock a door but in fact she can't really get her out of the bathroom easily and so it

would be a dead end and that person could once they get through that door seriously and. person you would want to have code words or something particular to communicate to your children when nine one one needs to be call and inform neighbors and that there is something that they should keep their eyes peeled for because there might be an incident that you can't get to a phone but if they hear something they know it's a problem and also to identify a person where they could if they get out of the how we're to take up is there someone that's typically home is there someone that could help them in an emergency so those are the kinds of things that would be evaluated additionally traveling alone or independently is usually not a good idea and if someone does have to travel alone to vary that route whether you're going to work or to the germ to vary your routine so that it's not

predictable to someone who knows you very well. but i think hospitals have a wonderful position to deal with this epidemic and i will label it back. first of all my senses but we've always been the catcher's mitt for society and what's going on a second were a safe haven for people and so the hospital itself is a place where people can feel safe and comfortable and the opportunity of hospitals to do assessment to do screening and then to offer opportunity for resources is something we have a great afternoon. the prosecutors can't do it alone the police officers the doctors and the service providers cannot do it alone but if we all work together and work together as a team to address every need an aspect of the victims situation then it

is a game that we can win because when we work together we make a really form. edible opponent be smarter than i am it's just because you have to create or you make a lot of money or you don't think you have a way out if you have no money there are support groups there are people that will help you find a way out. and anything any place is better. away from that environment if we could paint a picture of our brighter future one thing that we definitely have to do is we have to detach the stigma of domestic violence i think that there's this persona that domestic violence is what happens to other people it doesn't happen to normal people it doesn't happen to you know middle class people who go to their jobs and get educations and just live their lives but we know it and it happens everywhere

and people need to learn to speak out we need to empower women to ask for help to seek help when they're in these situations that we will believe them that there are places they can turn whether that's our victim shelters or calling the police calling nine one one going to a trusted friend a neighbor the local clinic the hospital but how can we stop it before it happens or when we start that cycle how can we intervene in the middle of it that's when we're going to have a brighter picture of tomorrow it's going to continue to be a journey and not only for me but for my children and perhaps for their children but we've got each other and willing we are here together to to work through it so . this was just going to destroy my life and destroy me and i had to turn it around and do something positive and then some.

working with the shelters and selling up scholarships. and move on. because life is to ensure just of the past windows to my soul are due to my jury. that's a little bit of everything it's a mixture of you know my hopes my dreams my desires and aspirations and i busied myself doing these separate binge you know i do believe in the concept of visualisation you know if you can see here in new. vision yourself doing something that's going to happen i surely believe that i really really realize that you are a strong woman and you was a look at who's going to encourage you and love you and make you want to pursue your dreams that's important it really is important so just get out and move on you know it's better things are going to happen but you have in order to start something new you have to do it with the old you have to do it with the past and in

order for good things to happen in your life you have to get rid of the bad first you know it's scary at first because you don't know what you're going to do it's ok it's ok it's ok to be confused it's ok to be angry it's ok to be scared but most importantly you're still alive to feel that way so that's important at least you're still alive and you have another day see make a change but you have to start today. you have to i am now thirty five years old so it's been ten years since my experience everything is falling into place for me it's great. it's current. member when we couldn't say we're breast the shame attached to a woman going in and talking about breast cancer. twenty years ago was terrible. you know so we've really got a lot of work to do to be able to be able to go in and talk openly and honestly about abuse so that women can hear that it's ok to talk about it so we can move ahead like we have on breast cancer. he wonderful i'm going to live to see that

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