it's half past three here in the afternoon in moscow recap of the stories that shape this week. heavy gunfire and explosions are heard in the libyan capital whilst rebels claim they've launched an attack on tripoli with colonel gadhafi called fast approaching but some reports suggest the loud bangs were celebrates re fireworks up the government forces repelled the feds. so the violence in the middle east with fears the village deadly exchange of fire between israel and gaza might lead to the jewish state launching a new ground attack he was released protesting against social injustice say the

government could use the complex to divert attention from problems at home. also prison fights back against recent riots with harsh sentences handed to those who only thought about taking thoughts but there are concerns the government excessive response simply fueled public discontent. and the fresh attempt to prevent the eurozone debt crisis from spreading fails to live up to expectations anglo-american nicolas sarkozy call for the creation of a central economic body leaving the markets unimpressed. while this week also marks twenty years since the violent coupe aimed at overthrowing mikhail gorbachev changed the course of history for the soviet union coming up next a closer look at those dramatic events and aspects report. no one really was to touch on the subject of abuse because i was like you know that's a family affair that's for tween a husband and a life we're going to stay out of it will want nothing to do with it at all his

cousins as brothers everyone ran out the house none of his friends kicked to say they just laughed everyone just laughed but. they just let him beat me and left me when it's another guy you know and god forbid i hate i would hate to say if i would have stayed in a year longer i wouldn't be sitting here today tried crappy day or sit in jail somewhere and that's just honest to god true it goes around the two options that i saw at that moment either i'm gonna kill him only in jail or he's going to killing me it just spiraled aside one thing after another it was like you know like i was in a black hole everything to start caving in on me everything that i thought that was going to be you know when i met him and other marriage was supposed to be when him and i know we discussed our dating and our hopes and dreams and things that we want

to do together everything just crumbled like a glass house you know ideas just for one rock or should or would have be the guide and then we'll just shafts if you don't care about yourself it doesn't matter it does not matter anymore it doesn't matter why are you here why are you living you don't want to live anymore you don't have self love you know you don't want to live you know that's why women commit suicide you know that's why women you know people are going to drug abuse and alcohol abuse it's all about self love any type of abuse is about self-love not having self love it's important because that's all that's going to child the situation is the time to love yourself again. people think she should have been able to get out of that. why couldn't she get out of it i would never let that happen to me i'd just leave those are sort of those famous last words kind of statements because this is an extraordinarily

complex issue there is nothing simple about being a victim of domestic violence that will take the children away oh make sure that no one ever speaks you again oh ruin your reputation i will make sure you leave with no money i mean all of these things when you hear them time after time after time after time and he's beaten you time after time after time time and you work so hard you believe that if you believe it with all your heart i made the decision that night to formulate a plan and that i would be out of there by the time my youngest son was ready for kindergarten which i had two years so and i knew i had two years left of abuse before i could leave twenty two getting in that two years there were violent episodes which would happen sporadically and of course every time i would try to convince myself thought simon he would convince me this is never going to happen again and the third last time. but they continue to happen so i thought it was

something i was doing wrong i thought it was something i should fix it sounds kind of crazy but i want to quit or i wanted to make things work i wanted to i wanted to have a sixty year marriage that my family had and i always thought through thick and thin mint through thick and thin and this is why they told stories of prisoners of war they're actually kept captive with the doors open and no fences around the reason they don't leave is because the fear of what's going to happen if they try to is more overwhelming than staying there and taking the punishment it's a true story it's all part of being a prisoner and it's all part of living in the worst on. well what we've really seen as a huge shift in policy to the way that we respond to intimate partner violence through the criminal justice system this largely came about in the beginning of the

sixty's and into the seventy's and we're still refining this policy but really prior to this we've had a very hands off approach to incidents of domestic violence where the police were rarely called if they were called they were really mandated to do nothing the police would show. they would mediate the couple or they would separate the couple but then they would leave. and go to. a new can be taken away. sorry we didn't do would she were not allowed to pick just the burning bed is an interesting perspective because it brings about the idea that women will fight back or that when women are out at enough they're going to fight back. into day almost all of our states either have

a mandatory or preferred rest policy this mandates that police officers when there is probable cause will make an arrest when they are called to the scene of an alleged domestic violence case and we now provide essentially under the law equal protection regardless of gender and regardless of the relationship between the offender and the victim went to court a better word to. try to serve. these classes and you know misled us for and for me personally. just my feelings in communication with the biggest challenge in my relationship which led to a lot of our arguments and thought learning how to share them i would have been in that same old red we all come into that with the same mindset a couple august class. and you know you just like i said it's self assessment kind of makes you look at yourself from a different light be educated. exists this is the road you want to go to they

really don't see the emotional damage that they have done in the relationship because you're teaching them a whole different thing as far as emotions and how to use you know the words about emotions not just anger how do identify that underlying emotion such as her and frustrated and things like that are richard falls into that because when you first came. here he kind of minimized you know his actions then and spoke as you know it was just this that was just that you know when you hear them say just or i only you know those are the key words that you know you know that they're trying to minimize or just over and into their maybe in their mind they think yeah it was just that this that's them however they don't realize the damage. we have to maintain the problem. and give it a voice very loudly. and say stop now more

until we have our health care system and waking up to the fact that we're no i mean if you look at prevention and root cause i think it's incredibly important that we start up in her eyes and asking the question. of. the worst case the good news that i had was a lady who came in and actually. i fractured on one of the things that really raises my suspicion would be injuries inconsistent with how the patient reports they happened or maybe an enterprise response to an injury downplay. in the injury or over reacting to an injury what happened is that her significant other had basically broke her arm literally broke it and she was in

a lot of pain. she didn't initially want to say that he did it you also kind of look at the relationship between the partners to see if it feels odd to you just kind of you're human gut instinct just kind of trust your gut and you always have in the back of your mind could this patient be a victim of abuse we know that frequently these women may have several encounters with. health care agencies etc before they stepped help and you just hope that you're the one that makes the difference any time we have concerns we can call our social worker and they can work with our patients to help them access any services that they need we have a lot of patients and a lot of women who are in these relationships who do not want to. tale that they're

being abused because they're afraid that they have nowhere to go or no one that's going to help them and to be out there by themselves there are opportunities for a patient to be alone for an exam such as x. ray i do not even accompany a patient to extra i without a leg and there are times that we can ask the abuser to perform a task for us to get a medication list or to get an insurance card or to make a phone call for the victim or something of that nature we also have security if we have great concerns that we are at risk that the patients at risk cetera we would enact our security plan sometime stoffel just let me know that there is suspect family violence and i just have to go in and meet with them and start to try to build reporter with them and see how much of that they do is willing to open. to me the scariest time for a victim is when they're leaving the abusive relationship and that's when the abuser can feel most threatened and want to take ownership and show possession so

that can be the most dangerous time for them and that's why we do safety planning here at the hospital prior to them leaving even if they're returning to him he said relationship i think it would be a good thing to have mandatory screening for investing islands always the we're inundated with forms and paperwork when we see a patient having this form is not going to slow down the process of treating a patient that large anything could be a good idea i think we can save lives and i think that if we try and to make this more than issue and more of a floor only open on the forefront to living women know and educating our communities about domestic violence and i think it will really help to prevent it and help to decrease the prevalence of patients don't know that help exists. have and lady segued absolutely i think you can save lives easier.

you know any women shopped around will tell you that and they have special precautions about you know how women each prepare in order to be able to leave your house ok or a safe place. for you ok right near the shelter advocate answers the phone is first and foremost just there to listen and to kind of hear what the person is asking about you try to assess the situation and offer her the shelter and the services that we have and even if shelter is not what she's seeking or desiring or she's not thinking you know that she needs that or wants to come to the shelter we make sure she's aware of all the services through our outreach center and counseling and really encourage her to get some some help for what she's going

through a special place when i was thinking where i go or where i can be i never imagined in some of the areas where they showed there is like a mother arms like the sweet voice the home bill for because he's not only a room i mean beer a plate of food so much murray we feel sort of the prey is so guilty it's all. so when he came to us and say. cuore. if you want to. try you for we can help you. get out get out call the cops no matter what he tells you you can find safety you can find safety you can and you will find safety

he will say anything he wants to anything. to keep you under his. to keep you right where he wants you. so he can keep abusing you and it's only going to get worse so when you know where it's going you are if got to make that step take that step of a kept faith in yourself you may not believe it's a mess but it's there it's there you'll find it you'll find. a safety plan is a mechanism that is used to help and individuals to a safe in their home they're working environment to help them stay safe when they are traveling or with their children. it is pretty comprehensive and it involves evaluating where the high risk points are a lot of people don't consider. which rooms have the ways that they could exit if they needed to which plays have items in there that could be used as weapons

now you would think well you might want to go there because there's a weapon you could use but typically that's not a good idea because the person who's trying to hurt you could also use that as weapons entry into a place like a bathroom a lot of people would want to go there because it's small confined it feels safe you can lock the door but in fact you can't really get out of a bathroom easily and so it would be a dead end and that person could once they get through the door seriously and. person you would want to have coped words or something particular to communicate to your children when nine one one needs to be call to inform neighbors and that there is something that they should keep their eyes peeled for because there might be an incident that you can't get to a phone but if they hear something they know it's a problem and also to identify a person where they could if they get out of the house where do they go is there

someone that's typically home is there someone that could help them in an emergency so those are the kinds of things that would be evaluated additionally traveling alone or independently is usually not a good idea and if someone does have to travel alone to vary that route whether you're going to work or to the germ to vary your routine so that it's not predictable to someone who knows you very well. but i think hospitals have a wonderful position to deal with this epidemic and i will be able to back. first of all my senses ben we've always been a catcher's mitt for society and what's going on at second where we're a safe haven for people and so the hospital itself is a place where people can feel safe and comfortable and the opportunity of hospitals

to do assessment to do screening and then to offer opportunity for resources is something we have a great option here the prosecutors can't do it alone the police officers the doctors and the service providers cannot do it alone but if we all work together and work together as a team to address every need in aspect of the victims situation then it is a game that we can win because when we work together we make a really form. opponent he's smarter than i am just because you have degrees or you make a lot of money or you don't think you have a way out if you have no money there are support groups there are people that will help you find a way out and anything any place is better. away from that environment if we could paint a picture of our brighter future one thing that we definitely have to do is we have

to detach the stigma of domestic violence i think that there's this persona that domestic violence is what happens to other people it doesn't happen to normal people it doesn't happen to you know middle class people who go to their jobs and get educations and just live their lives but we know it does and it happens everywhere and people need to learn to speak out we need to empower women to ask for help to seek help when they're in these situations that we will believe them that there are places they can turn whether this are victim shelters or calling the police calling nine one one going to a trusted friend a neighbor the local clinic the hospital but how can we stop it before it happens or when we start that cycle how can we intervene in the middle of it that's when we're going to have a brighter picture of tomorrow it's going to continue to be

a journey and not only for me but for my children and perhaps for their children but we've got each other and willing we are here together to to work through it so that. this was just going to destroy my life and move destroy me if i had this turned around to do something boston. and then some. working with the shelters and sending out scholarships. and move on. because life is too short you can survive the past windows to my so way to my jury. it's a little bit of everything it's a mixture of you know my hopes my dreams my desires and my aspirations and my vision myself doing these different binge you know i do believe in the concept of visualisation email if you can see here and you think. vision yourself doing something that's going to happen i surely believe that i really really realize that

you are a strong woman and you want someone who's going to encourage you and love you and make you want to pursue your dreams that's important it really is important so just get out and move on you know it's better things are going to happen but you have in order to start something new you have to do it with the old you have to do with the past and in order to prevent things to happen in your life you have to get rid of the bad first you know it's scary at first because you don't know what you're going to do it's ok it's ok it's ok to be confused it's ok to be angry it's ok to be scared but most importantly you're still alive to feel that way so that's important you know at least you're still alive and you have another day to make a change but you have to start today. after i am now thirty five years old so it's been ten years since my experience everything your style your place for me it's correct. it's current. member when we couldn't say

a word breast the shame attached to a woman going in and talking about breast cancer in our twenty years ago was terrible. you know so we've really got a lot of work to do to be able to be able to go in and talk openly and honestly about abuse so that women can hear that it's ok to talk about it so we can move ahead like we have on breast cancer. he wonderful i'm going to have to see that happen i think i am.

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