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even leaders promise of a single economic government fails to reassure anxious investors and so i've been in markets as fresh trouble over greece once again for the stability of. the message violence has become a hot button issue in american society where more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends every day up next the first part of our special report which digs into the core of this problem. of abuse to me. i can sum it up in one word the air. and i just prayed that if you didn't find me if i could just live through the night that i would get my kids out of here because i knew that it was going to happen or that he was going to kill me.

i love this guy and i promise to be his wife into order and respect and cherish you know this is what he did to me. the look on my son. is the one thing i can stop this day. it's really important to ask her are you being heard are you afraid to go back home if we don't as we want to find out. she had a bag packed that was in november and share another bag pack that was in her car our assumption as she told him that he was that she was living. the portrait of abuse is that it's extremely frightening extremely dark even if it's simply

that as a community we can provide that random. just one case for the lesser qualified both involving parents reporters cover stories every day of domestic violence in america they shine the spotlight on famous men arrested for murder or assault of a girlfriend or wife the daily headlines reveal secrets of private people victims and abusers hidden from view until police investigate. many stories fail to name the crime as domestic violence or put the crisis in context. at least four million women are affected by abuse every year it is

a public health at that image. and we must do more to save women's lives. if you think that of for women you know. and realize that one out of every four women is being abused it's appalling domestic violence can affect people from any age range any social economic background any racial or cultural background we've seen women from asian countries who married american man moved to this country and then were abused we've seen people from some of the middle eastern countries who are abused as part of their culture so it can hit anybody she can just be anyone it can hit dr swabs policeman's wives ministers wives and many victims don't understand that domestic violence includes

verbal abuse psychological abuse physical abuse and sexual abuse. it's real it's invisible all of the satish sticks or part are not offering here they are telling us what's going on. i was told that i would be an artist my father and i would go for a sunday drive said q what are some we're going to do grab us like no i want to be an artist when i met the man i fell in love with them all psych ok you know i think i'll give love a try in this twenty five. we may well grow the military. may for twenty years dated for one year you gotta make the very first debate was. well we got married i got pregnant

a manual and i was pregnant i was excited we're both very excited well i end up losing my baby and it's a whole pregnancy so i came whole heal after recovery and you know for recovery after my surgery my husband picked me up and he threw me. and i don't even know what set him off wired article but he picked me up early carry me across the road and out all the hours that you'll say oh my god my sisters are going to rip what am i going to do it's like his soul was just empty as start to get physical with the choking. just really living there just thinking about it you know i would see clips of my life just just flashing in my head you know am i going to die my god in my way you know what's happening to me some point i can get a spray error but just something with it myself just made me just want to fight you know continue to live. stretches have to.

clay remember the night that i made the decision to leave from that moment the next morning i was in a war zone. first she beat me and how i was i found just held me down on the floor put his knees on my shoulders. and burned my neck with a cigarette burn my arm with a cigarette. kicked me in the left ear until i was unconscious. and stripped me in my clothes and threw me in the back yard and i was twenty seven degrees below zero with the windchill that night we were in wisconsin and it was january so i ran to the garage and i knew i had to hide so i found a tarp and i wrap myself in it and i hid in a corner behind some things and i heard him come in they had a stick and i heard him poking around in the garage. and i just prayed that. he

didn't find me if i could just live through the night that i would get my kids out of here because i knew that it was going to happen was that he was going to kill me because he told me so many times and that night he promised me that he kill me and that he those kids would never see their mother my oldest son was at home at the time and he was. upstairs he heard his father yelling and. he came down and his father just continued to attack me and he threw me to the ground in the hallway and then while i was down and i was trying to calm myself he started kicking me. i my son the look on my son's face was the scariest thing we were similar in that we can start his dad could help me i can remember pleading for my life as the mother of his children please don't hurt me i'm the mother of your children they need me when i pick myself up off the floor i realized that not only

was i pleading for my children's life but i was playing for my own and i couldn't be a mother. i wasn't existing and that was the light bulb moment for me and i asked this has to change and change. a lot of people are not aware that within domestic violence many women are raped. social b.s. is probably the least talked about for the first eighteen years of my life i was told i had the sense of i was a row i was nothing i meant nothing i was not loved so the first guy that walks by and says i love you that was it that wow somebody loves me and now it was all i needed and i was so blinded by that that i couldn't see all the other little what signs that were there and then as we got into marriage and i had a child all of

a sudden you know it happens things change when you get pregnant you have a child well i breast fed and the first thing you know i was like oh those are my breasts not my son's and i'm like i'm breastfeeding him so he lives and he was threatened and felt jealous. no one gives you necessarily the rules i mean of when you get married this is the rules of being a wife and a lot of times and even now a a mindset is when you say i do oh well you supposed to perform sexual acts in bed and but as with consent and that's where the difference really lies is that. i wasn't consenting i mean i would say now and i would say no and i would say now and it didn't matter. where we would call it a dead fish engine imagine being married to somebody. here bedroom church

showing him that ok i'm going to lay here like a dead smelly fish and you can just help yourself enters when i get. how every other night for years. and that was what my dear choices. i let this guy in me promise to be his wife into order and respect insurance you know this is what he did to me. that you can't go talk to somebody about this because they'll turn around and say will you marry him here chose him. so where do you go what do you do you. mean so i kept my mouth shut. because that's what i learned to do growing up. young lady in less than twenty years of age married came in the office pregnant and i followed her through her pregnancy and i noticed towards the you know nerve probably in the

last trimester of her pregnancy she frequently would come in with bruises and maybe bruises on her abdomen she came in one day with with a black eye and her husband was all ways right there and i would ask her if you want to talk about anything what's going on and she always had a reason why she was had these bruises. and i guess i believed her that impressor. about three to four weeks prior to her delivery date and she came into the emergency room and she was in shock from blood loss. the baby was dead and she had huge enjoyed her. probably from boots probably he had been kicking her. baby. and she died. in that taught me a very significant lesson had i had the opportunity to have spoken to her privately

. we had a very good relationship i think she would have told me if there was a problem. and after that every person i saw everything was with are you happy and i learned how to screen for it. i think that they're still in american society the view that what it kurz behind closed doors remains behind closed doors and what happens between two intimates a husband or wife or a boyfriend or girlfriend really is their business the media generally reflects to some extent what is going on in society it very much comes from this patriarchal idea of the man as ruler and then in order to take control of his possessions which included house property cattle children and females spare the rod spoil the child that also translated to women as well so essentially what happens with

a woman is she goes from being under the rule of her father that is then transferred to her husband and i think this is often why people find this somewhat humorous but it's really not humorous. when the talk back women gossiped a lot and women that just were not under very good control it was deemed necessary to use force not. don't tell me if our. i'm sorry there's only one way to beating kicking those types of things that plays into the idea that women essentially that are being abused somehow are deserving of that abuse they have brought it on their hand picking their husbands there's a possibility of adultery they don't know when to shut up they push them too far and so essentially they're asking for it and this plays into how in the criminal

justice system we treat women who are abused which traditionally has not been very well and so there's a general kind of perception in the hierarchy of power structure of the females are still under males and that the man knows best and if the man is resorting to violence somehow it's because either it's necessary and or she brought it on herself so we see this in that scene on the titanic where he tells her you will not embarrass me you are going to be my wife and you will abide by my rules. for x. six not you but most of you will. time he learned. married or her job and up with.

decisions. he can't even find kind of want to. work or using your brain to make something out of himself. look up to him stand she can make it right for me and i like a i was getting a warning oh sure who's boss his home is his castle he is the boss there and he rules. and the rules badly. boil and you have somebody that is not very empowered to do much except try to survive try to make nice try to walk on eggshells try not to mull can not a good man and he always tells her it's your fault you made no angry because you do this or you didn't learn if you get that kind of information just thrown at you especially if this is not the first time and battered but before you got into this

relationship you may have had another and another relationship and certainly you may have gotten back to what it looked like in your family of origin if mom did not leave her battery husband your father the chances of you getting away are less the battered wife. that doesn't leave. is expressing one of the sad symptoms of being battered is that you become a numb and you really have a sense of hopelessness except to try to not. trigger the rage of the batter. who has often out of his insecurity made real threats that are quite believable.

must batterers tend to minimize things that sounds tend to think well it was a one time thing or she made me angry i didn't hit her that hard i you know i didn't mean to do that i also provide counseling to the women i've heard on several occasions when i hear that door closed i shiver and that's sad to magine in your own hall means scared by hearing the door calls and it's not a stranger coming in the door it's their partners or spouse. my name is richard i'm thirty five i've been married for almost three years now. and we have three children together now so i have two stepchildren so told five we grew up pretty similar you know not a lot of fighting what a drugs alcohol so we definitely share common bond that we try to help each other

see what avenues we don't need to go to i tried to avoid the conflict to say how it made and happy times when growing up as a kid my parents divorced when i was five when on that relationship my dad got a relationship. for violence there physical and verbal it's not a choice i want my life i want my wife to be my life for the day we leave this earth remember him and i remember being handcuffed. for most embarrassing moments in my life. violence not is not only physical you know it's verbal emotional i got arrested spent fourteen hours in jail never been in trouble with the law. and you know it's just a new experience in that i didn't know. what my relationship status was to daly's my family and i was the biggest thing i mean. what happens to my family it's what

my life is about now is my family and i've enough. this violence is a way of obtaining power and control and this violence is usually accompanied by jealousy also a fear of losing power and control it isn't company by verbal abuse and put downs again as a way to obtain power and control as you see it's a perfectly ordinary house and he really does wreck the house about twenty minutes now we're in this this is there are the master bedroom and he went right above the bed i mean you can see homer baby killer and everything else where they divorced at the time they were really separated the time she just asked him to move out he got really jealous he came in the room said you're not sleeping when you're sleeping

with somebody else put their hand down started going to the ground put a gun into the mouth the twenty seven year old were in the room screaming don't kill mommy don't kill mommy and the only reason he stopped or five minutes of that was because the kids are getting hysterical and he made the mother leave the house blackman moved out for a while but she has injuries you cannot bear out there on the school yet or on the ground she was done yes i mean he had the gun execution style right in front of children in the mouth of the strangulation relational is exactly where the mark went and yet again it come out in her mouth in front of the fairness of. if she leaves that is not necessarily going to make the violence go away many times leaving will cause an increase in the violence because again why do we have the violence it's power and control if hit the victim leaves now that is a slap in the face to power and control. we have three children are mentally i was an attorney she was

a very prudent girl tremendous sense. are varied and there are three and a very kind caring person he was a placement they were married close to three years her friends told her that he dragged around by her hair so any bruises on her head you know were not a visible and it body bruise would not it was one morning rant five thirty six thirty in the morning got a phone call and warren said bonnie is no longer with us and we thought. what is going to car accident he said there's there's there's some sort of problem here bonnie shot herself as far as we now she had a bag packed that was in her bedroom she had another bag packed that was in her car our assumption is she told him that she was leaving him and he shot her and then

wiped the face france off the gun obviously money did not chips. in the camera and said that his wife each other's. voices in the back or. she was nine and she was calling for one to help and as far as losing a child that's devastating but to even more so was to say my parents. lose a grand on. that. i watched the most. every time he had been arrested he was subsequently released. and was not charged with murder d.a. said they didn't have enough evidence to indict him a judge said it's in my court. so and get him and i

when we first found out about the fact that she was abused and had been abused for three years we were stamped because domestic violence doesn't happen to people like us people or college educations and this happens to poor people this doesn't happen to two attorneys to doctors wives of this type of thing kirk and her comment on under mastic violence would be that it's a free. fall and the. closer. i.

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