what you can cut. as a skill gives wedding draws to a close serino the bride to be interpreter uncertainty of a goodbye. joint see them for over a week after the ceremony the bride to be taken to her new husband's house and kept in a room for seven days the young wife will have to spend all the time with her husband

so she can get to know him she's never even kissed him and braced him or held his hand before it was small not one of the guests can be certain that the groom has ever even proposed as arena or if he simply kidnapped i. am. i am. veneer a customer was also a bride once over there was no white dress or limousine at her wedding veneer or lived with her husband for only a week then she ran away to hang herself. everyone was trying to persuade her that living together would be ok and this boy was also

trying hard trying to talk real hearing into this marriage but she wanted to give it a try however that didn't work you heard. the story shocked veneer as fellow students of the state university in a sickle. lire had been kidnapped not from the alleged countryside or even a dark alley way but on her way home from school in broad daylight a car stopped on the university campus three strangers drum tales grams of an era and took her to a nearby village. one of the kidnappers and said no you will be my wife and as i knew she called me every day after she had been kidnapped and that even though she was a strong girl she was crying all the time she kept on books saying that she just didn't like it that there. i told her to go away and to tell her sister as everything but

she was scared she thought they would tell her to stay there. and that's why she didn't tell anyone a word. on the bus that she was a monitor of the group i would never seen there's such a strong person who could do this kind of thing to herself it's a thirty. minute there she wanted to be famous. than that and she could have been. if she was still alive. veneer is relatives are preparing borsak frybread traditionally made for weddings and funeral ceremonies. every cyber neighbors get together they reminisce about vanilla but they believe that you can't escape from fate. because of the kidneys have this kind of mentality once again gets married she has to live as

a man no matter what even if he's a freak even if. you. live as tragic story could have been written off as a unique case were it not for the fact that just a year later another girl. took her own life. after that. did the same thing none of the three girls were able to live with the shame of forced marriage. and also from the capital bishkek has chosen to write a book on the subject of turkey as brides he's called on his friend as it is to join him their views on wedding traditions have never been the same as is has two grown up daughters who are to get married soon their father calls on them every evening but before leaving he warned his daughters not to spend time outside the house after school the girls are to head straight home as is his greatest fear is that they may be kidnapped. there are some guys from the mountains who don't care

at all if she's fifteen after all her age is not written down on her forehead and they have no idea she is only a schoolgirl so she is very likely to be kidnapped sometimes when i hear some guy calling her. and why is he calling oh do you two young from. classmates call them know they should only call in the afternoon i have. studied in the same school as her so many in our district know him and are somewhat afraid of him because he is the champion of kurdistan. in fighting off admirers. yes in fighting off admirers. friends are planning to travel around the country why this tradition has led many tragedies. understand why girls hung themselves like. why hang themselves only because they felt ashamed.

time works wonders. for example he could have died an early death and she would have got everything he had. according to the center almost a third of all married women in the country were kidnapped by their husbands for instance in the family the brides have always been kidnapped they simply consider it a tradition as custom dictates the youngest son must live with his parents his wife is obliged to do all the household chores cleaning cooking and gardening she must also take care of her. mother in law has to do babysit her grandchildren and this continues until the girl's own child grows up and takes his wife into the house and repeats the cycle the custom has existed for centuries kidnapped girls eventually learn to live with their husbands and even become grateful for having been chosen. to do all the tracks you know work in the field and. she was you know so

far in his blood and he. that was the case wasn't it. yes that's true she was beautiful and. my tractor. of course. otherwise i wouldn't have given birth to eleven children you know going to happen if i didn't. kidnap his wife from a music school because he himself likes to play the guitar and sing after they were made. he and his wife sometimes organized concerts at different family occasions but now they've given that up they say they have so many chills that there isn't time for singing songs. that i used to live with a student my room with in da you went to sleep on night suddenly knock on the door open up it's the police we're checking documents as we open the door some seven

right guys surrounded me. they grabbed me and brought me here if my husband turned out to be bad i would probably leave him but as a mother is a good husband. however in the district where the assayas live there have been three suicides. regularly put on theatrical productions this play discusses how brides are often kidnapped a girl is taken to a future husband's home where she's surrounded by his relatives who try to put a white scarf on her head the symbol of marriage doctors teachers and lawyers are among the most sought after brides in kyrgyzstan when you just start speaking here

. let's say that the girl has not graduated yet she has graduated let's say she is in her final year she won't be allowed to work afterwards if she is not graduated yet the story becomes even sadder because she has studied for four years for nothing. according to the caregivers women's help center every year sees around sixteen thousand brides kidnapped that means that every forty minutes another girl is abducted. however the kidnappers themselves are really taken to court to answer for their crimes. five hundred and ninety six. that's how many reports that police received in two thousand and nine concerning a theft of private property. but the crime of kidnapping a romanian just one. girls in kyrgyzstan can't abandon their unloved husbands they fear not only the condemnation of their neighbors but also being cursed my husband's grandmother may lie on the floor and ask are you ready to defy

old age it's believed that if a girl dares do so she'll be miserable all of the life. of his mother still can't forgive herself for having a baby old woman and not helping her daughter to escape she and her parents felt too intimidated by tradition. as she said that with two caraway both of us will suffer a lot she said she was going to curse us and my mom said that we could not disobey the woman as she was so old. she told us not to step over her. and we left. and so the girl stayed a week later she slashed her own wrists and tried to overdose doctors managed to save her life but the experience left us to go earlier disabled at the age of thirty eight she still lives with her mother. why don't our children i even don't

have a husband but i want to have children and a husband. not a button is out of a from the open line foundation has come to visit the organization looks into bright kidnapping across the country including old cases the practice is always been an issue but has never been discussed openly. with the bios where you simply afraid they wouldn't be accepted at home. and then they would talk about me if i left. is that somehow a faint wise than death. of course especially seriously. putting at that time yes it was even scarier i didn't want people to talk about me saying that all i'd be kidnapped but that i didn't want to live with the man who kidnapped me. everyone believes that if you're kidnapped you have to just agree to it those of us.

i can't help wondering why they value themselves so poorly because we had just one case when they go over an old woman and say excuse me old woman but this is my life and i won't let anyone manipulate me. not every carriages family has a sad story of kidnapping to tell. which i was turning eighteen when i met her in the spring i was conscripted into the army. the people i returned to discover that they kidnapped her the day before i got back. to the state. and there are some traditions that i like and there are some that i don't like at all i don't understand some of them. when i was about to get married

well we're not supposed to talk about our intentions openly so i put it bluntly that i love their daughter and wanted to marry her i asked them if they would let me and then there was a long pause and i realized i was too open but then everyone smiled diplomatically and asked who wanted to have some peel off. the back of. the two friends have many stories but now continue their journey to explore why those who have ruined other people's lives do not receive proper punishment. the for. wealthy british style sign. on the times. news.

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in a country with a weak economy people often rely on farming for survival this means hard work that doesn't pay the price for ten kilograms of coton is over even though it takes a labor a whole day together that much and they don't even get the money instead they're paid in cotton oil that's why most of the workforce has to russia other foreign countries to seek employment most of the money they earn is spent on wedding ceremonies.

brings together around a thousand people on average guests arrive throughout the day the closest relatives sending their messages a couple of days before the actual ceremony hosts have a hard time wining and dining the guests traditionally after the wedding ceremony delicacies to take home a single carriage is wedding ceremony requires about fifteen lambs two horses forty kilos of and at least a thousand traditional flat bread loaves. there are two butchers here specifically what parts should be served. this is more mart and he is taking care of the. four. of spent

a whole year in russia sweeping the streets to save money for his son's wedding he paid the bride's relatives the equivalent of some two thousand five hundred dollars he also paid for gifts and other treats all the bridegroom. followed by his father's footsteps by working as a taxi driver in the russian city of novosibirsk there much more money than he could. his native village. is for young people and. could afford to rent a limousine with the money he. the country where he met his future wife. after only a couple of dates. the bridegroom's friends like to tease him by calling his bride. a reference to how workers are clean or. where they say it was like a hockey stick. he and his friends forced their way into the bride's house and.

the elders disapproved insisting that the kid no tradition had not been upheld the . grandfather. does nothing like a simply elder. one of the most revered traditions is a presenting gift at a wedding ceremony each guest is supposed to bring a traditional hat for them and for the lady one of the gifts can be put to any practical use. completeness nothing but. we are going to keep all that in the chest when. we in turn will take away the gifts presented to us. people know that. they will take the gifts out of the chest. we don't need those things a tool like presenting gifts is

a tradition something we can do without. wedding traditions in. a transaction a love match a bride price can be as high as four thousand dollars making abduction of a much cheaper alternative. if you're. paying bright price is a different story then it's in the bargain if you want to throw. more than three thousand dollars in the event. the cost comes down to about fifteen hundred. the district authorities are conducting an experiment to abductions they plan to limit the amount that can be spent on wedding ceremonies the bride price in. five of the limit for any wedding and no horses are allowed to be killed for the occasion no penalties for offenders. i firmly believe that people shouldn't go to

the registry office in. an ordinary mercedes or simpler car will do. you predictably not all the old timers share my view of. them some of them were comfortable in the situation that existed until now they would drop in on a wedding or grab a kilo of meat and four or five loaves and go back home yet so i told them they could eat as much as they liked on such occasions but i ask them not to take any food away common folks see me as a reformer but some elders and wealthy people regard me as a nasty miser. human rights campaigners of trying to fight kidnapping by referring to the criminal code the penalty for kidnapping can be up to fifteen years. protect property strongly that a woman's freedom. is a conflict of legal terms people representing the line for somebody have even

addressed drown table discussion not to say they decided to be excluded from the crim. no code and offenders should be charged under the kidnapping article but usually the men there disagree with this. operation as there are two brides are captured or i say stolen by several young men sometimes friends of the groom family members and even worse clerics. they are respected people. even they make it clear that bride kidnapping conflicts with the islamic law. the captors relatives and friends go unpunished and so they feel free to adopt another young woman young girls who run away find themselves in a more difficult situation the fact is that if a young woman spends even one night in someone else's house she is considered tainted and will never be able to marry. her and her baby has been staying at

a crisis center for ten months she has nowhere else to go parents refuse to allow her back into their home campaigners at the open line movement make short films on the subject in this heroes a little girl whose parents who are always by his side to help the same video that when she grows she's abducted and decides to flee the abductors her parents are in two minds about her decision. to come back want to know why they refused to. come home. trying to bring down. i want to persuade the young woman's parents to give their daughter a chance to make her own decision. point out that abduction is

a criminal offense but kidnappers are only given sri years in prison by contrast people who still. put behind bars for eleven years. and members of the column and others even came out and said nice you can need to. get a live in years for cattle rustling is a complete and utter sars was less and she. mind you they voted in favor of legislation against stealing sheep in the first reading. campaign is from open line take to the streets to tell young women what they should do with abducted not to be afraid of anything and to immediately go to the police. do you know what to do if you're abducted do other girls know you. and i don't think they do because they stay on in many cases. do you know what is the right thing to do

you were abducted. and we want to scream and shout let me go. we've heard a lot of different stories some of the more astounding simply because they are routine somebody comes in kidnaps them that's the end of it you begin wondering whether such traditions or traditions and all. of his friends is have traveled around for two weeks during that time they have only come across one young woman who has defied tradition. unlike others in the same situation she didn't cry but try to settle the matter with the bridegroom parents. for this family it will be a disgrace if the bride leaves but i told them let's not argue you just let me go and that will be it. the doctors were determined to persuade veneer or to stay with

them but she refused to give him when she called her father he sent her brothers to bring her back. as soon as i saw them toss the scarf away. and then the guy showed up. with tears in his eyes he pleaded with me not to leave him. he said he loved me and so on and i told him then you should have said that to. veneer resumed her studies of university and found employment but her parents still believe that leaving the family was wrong. they argue that veneer is now twenty four years old and past her prime. yes i think that these traditions and stereotypes of ours are just terribly outdated. the two travelers were in for another surprise after that encounter the first man to be charged with abducting a bride had been convicted in.

it's a great victory he was sentenced to six years in a medium security prison colony we hadn't expected anything like that would ever happen because article one fifty five of the criminal code is too liberal. the parents of one of the dead young women are sick and tired of gossiping neighbors a mother keeps the house doors shut and shoes passes by a way she blames herself for her daughter's death the bridegroom stole the restoring the night after phoning to lure her away from the house he took her to his village where she was raped and. she was taken by force. she didn't understand what was going on. she was the youngest daughter and she was a virgin. it still pains me here in my heart.

when we came to take our daughter away to go saying she was too ashamed to face all the people i felt she was in their low spirits thought things might work out somehow so were left. was persuaded to flee by her sister after returning home talked with her mother throughout the night she spoke of her plans saying she wanted to go to bishkek but in the morning. she hanged herself in a shed. the criminal was convicted on three counts abduction rape and forced suicide but people in his native village feel justice was not done they say the girl died after being separated from the man she loved. would like to know what the bridegroom thinks about it all but so far he's not been allowed to see the kidnapper has launched an appeal and the chances are he may be set free. the final chapter in his book is yet to be written.

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