and of those that she was a monitor of the group i would never seen there's such a strong person who could do this kind of thing to herself so it's. a minute that she wanted to be famous. and she could have been. if she was still alive. veneer as relatives are preparing borsak frybread traditionally made for weddings and funeral ceremonies. every side the neighbors get together they reminisce about vanilla but they believe that you can't escape from fate. have this kind of mentality once again gets married she has to live as a man no matter what even if he's a freak even if. you. live as tragic story could have been written off as a unique case were it not for the fact that just

a year later another girl. took her own life year after that. i did the same thing none of the three girls were able to live with the shame of forced marriage. and also from the capital bishkek has chosen to write a book on the subject of cookies brides has called on his friend as he is to join him their views on wedding traditions have never been the same as he is has two grown up daughters who are to get married soon their father calls on them every evening before leaving he warned his daughters not to spend time outside the house after school the girls are to head straight home as is his greatest fear is that they may be kidnapped. there are some guys from the mountains who don't care at all if she's fifteen after all her age is not written down on her forehead and they have no idea she is only a school girl so she is very likely to be kidnapped sometimes when i hear some guy calling her i ask why is he calling do you two young for that

classmates call them no they should only call in the afternoon i have. studied in the same school as her so many in our district know him and are somewhat afraid of him because he is the champion of kurdistan. in fighting off admirers. yes in fighting off admirers. friends are planning to travel around the country. this tradition as many tragedies. understand why the girls hung themselves like. why hang themselves only because they felt ashamed. time works wonders. one for example he could have died an early death and she would have got everything he had. almost a third of all married women in the country were kidnapped by their husbands for

instance in the family the brides have always been kidnapped they simply consider it a tradition as custom dictates the youngest son must live with his parents his wife is obliged to do household chores cleaning cooking and gardening she must also take care of her. mother in law has to do babysit her grandchildren and this continues until the girl's own child grows up and takes his wife into the house and repeats the cycle the custom has existed for centuries kidnapped girls eventually learn to live with their husbands and even become grateful for having been chosen. she drove a tractor going to work in the field and i don't know how she was you know so far in his blood and. that was the case wasn't it. yes that's true she was beautiful and. tractor like me.

of course i like other wise i wouldn't have given birth to eleven children you know could happen if i didn't. kidnap his wife from a music school because he himself likes to play the guitar and sing after they were made. he and his wife's sometimes organized concerts at different family occasions but now they've given that up they say they have so many chills that there isn't time for singing songs. that i used to live with. my room with in di i went to sleep on it suddenly the knock on the door open up is the police were checking documents as we opened the door some seven right guys surrounded me. they grabbed me and brought me here my husband turned out to be bad i would probably leave him but as a mother is a good husband. however in the district where the assayas live there have been

three suicides. regularly put on theatrical productions this play discusses how brides are often kidnapped a girl is taken to a future husband's home where she's surrounded by his relatives who try to put a white scarf on her head the symbol of marriage doctors teachers and lawyers are among the most sought after brides in kyrgyzstan when you just start speaking here . let's say that the girl is not graduated yet she has graduated let's say she's in her final year she won't be allowed to work afterwards she is not graduated yet and the story becomes even sadder because she has studied for four years for nothing.

according to the caregivers women's help center every year sees around sixteen thousand brides kidnapped that means that every forty minutes another girl is abducted. however the kidnappers themselves are really taken to court to answer for their crimes. five hundred and ninety six. well that's how many reports that police received in two thousand and nine concerning a theft of private property. but the crime of kidnapping a woman just one. girl's incurious turn can't abandon their unloved husbands they fear not only the condemnation of their neighbors but also being cursed the husband's grandmother may live on the florida are you ready to defy old age it's believed that if a girl dares do so she'll be miserable all of the life. of

those mother still can't forgive herself for having a baby old woman and not helping her daughter to escape she and her parents felt too intimidated by tradition. is when she said that with two caraway both of us will suffer a lot she said she was going to curse us and my mom said that we could not disobey the woman as she was so old. she told us not to step over her. and will left. and so the girl stayed a week later she slashed her own wrists and tried to overdose doctors managed to save her life but the experience left us to go earlier disabled at the age of thirty eight she still lives with her mother and i don't have children i even don't have a husband but i want to have children and a husband. not a back is out of a from the open line foundation has come to visit the organization looks into

bright kidnapping across the country including old cases the practice is always been an issue but has never been discussed openly. with the bios where you simply afraid they wouldn't be accepted at home. and then they would talk about me if i left. is that somehow if they try is than death. of course it's seriously. putting at that time yes it was even scarier i didn't want people to talk about me saying that oh i'd be kidnapped but that i didn't want to live with the man who kidnapped me. everyone believes that if you're kidnapped you have to just agree to it those of us. here they can't help wondering why they value themselves so poorly because we had just one case when they go over an old woman and say excuse me old woman but this

is my life and i won't let anyone manipulate me. not every care of his family has a sad story of kidnapping to tell. which i was turning eighteen when i met her in the spring i was conscripted into the army. to be able to return to discover that they kidnapped her the day before i got back. well could i dare say that. there are some traditions that i like and there are some that i don't like at all i don't understand some of them. when i was about to get married well we're not supposed to talk about our intentions openly so i put it bluntly that i love their daughter and wanted to marry her i asked them if they would let me and then there was a long pause and i realized i was too open but then everyone smiled diplomatically and asked who wanted to have some peel off. the back of. the two friends have many

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in a country with a weak economy people often rely on farming for survival this means hard work that doesn't pay the price for ten kilograms of coton over a year even though it takes a labor a whole day together that much and they don't even get the money instead they're paid in cotton oil that's why most of the workforce has to russia or foreign countries to seek employment most of the money they earn is spent on wedding ceremonies.

brings together around a thousand people on average. throughout the day the closest relatives. are messages a couple of days before the ceremony hosts have a hard time wining and dining the guests traditionally after the wedding ceremony delicacies to take home a single gaze wedding ceremony requires about fifteen lambs two horses forty kilos of and at least a thousand traditional flat bread loaves. there are two butchers here specifically what parts should be served. this is more moderate and he is taking care of the. four. of spent a whole year in russia sweeping the streets to save money for his son's wedding he paid the bride's relatives the equivalent of some two thousand five hundred dollars he also paid for gifts and other treats all the bride. followed.

by working as a taxi driver in the russian city of novosibirsk there much more money than he. his native village. is for young people and. could afford to rent a limousine with the money he. the country where he met his future wife. only a couple of dates. the bridegroom's friends like to tease him by calling his bride a hockey player a reference to how workers are cleaner and. where they say it was like a hockey stick. he and his friends forced their way into the bride's house and. the elders disapproved insisting that the kidnap tradition had not been upheld. by. grandfather a sincere sipping tea thing like

a saintly elder. one of the most revered traditions is that of presenting gifts at a wedding ceremony each guest is supposed to bring a traditional how to and for the lady one of the gifts can be put to any practical use. completeness nothing but. we are going to keep all that in the chest when. we in turn will take away the gifts presented to us. people know that. they will take the gifts out of the chest. we don't need those things a tool by presenting gifts is a tradition something we can do without. traditions in. a transaction a love match

a bride price can be as high as four thousand dollars making abduction of a much cheaper alternative. if you're. paying bride price is a different story then it's an all out bargain if you want to throw. more than three thousand dollars in the event. the cost comes down to about fifteen hundred. the district authority is a conducting an experiment to abductions they plan to limit the amount that can be spent on wedding ceremonies the bride price in. five of the limit for any wedding and no horses are allowed to be killed for the occasion no penalties for offenders. i firmly believe that people shouldn't go to the registry office in. an ordinary mercedes or simpler car will do. you predictably not all the old timers share my view of. them some of them were

comfortable in the situation that existed until now they would drop in on a wedding or cram a kilo of meat in four or five loaves and go back home so i told them they could eat as much as they liked on such occasions but i ask them not to take any food away common folk see me as a reformer but some elders and wealthy people regard me as a nasty miser. human rights campaigners of trying to find kidnapping by referring to the criminal code the penalty for kidnapping can be up to fifteen years. protect property strongly than a woman's freedom. is a conflict of legal terms people representing law enforcement bodies have even addressed drown table discussion to say they decided to be excluded from the. no code and offenders should be charged under the can nothing article but usually the men there disagree with this. operation as there are two brides are

captured or shall i say stolen by several young men sometimes friends of the groom family members and even worse clerics. they are respected people. even they make it clear that bride kidnapping conflicts with these lamblike law. the captors relatives and friends go unpunished and so they feel free to adopt another young woman young girls who run away find themselves in a more difficult situation the fact is that if a young woman spends even one night in someone else's house she is considered tainted and will never be able to marry. her and her baby has been staying at a crisis center for ten months she has nowhere else to go parents refuse to allow her back into their home campaigners at the open line movement make short films on

the subject in this heroes a little girl whose parents who always my who's. the same video that when she grows she's abducted and decides to flee the doctor's house her parents are in two minds about her decision. to come back want to know why they refuse to. come home that's how we're trying to bring down. i don't want to dissuade the young woman's parents to give their daughter a chance to make her own decision just. point out that abduction is a criminal offense but kidnappers given sri years in prison by contrast people who still. put behind bars for eleven years. and members.

even came out and said nice you can need to. get a live in here is for cattle rustling is a complete and utter fars was less and she. mind you they voted in favor of legislation against stealing sheep in the first reading. campaign is from open line take to the streets to tell young women what they should do with abducted they're told not to be afraid of anything and to immediately go to the police. do you know want to do if you're abducted do other girls know you. and i don't think they do because they stay on in many cases. do you know what is the right thing to do you were abducted. and we want to scream and shout let me go. we've heard a lot of different stories some of the more astounding simply because they are

routine and somebody comes in kidnaps them that's the end of it you begin wondering whether such traditions are traditions at all. and his friend aziz have traveled around for two weeks during that time they have only come across one young woman who has defied tradition her name. unlike others in the same situation she didn't cry but try to settle the matter with the bridegroom's parents. for this family it will be a disgrace if the bride leaves but i told them let's not argue you just let me go and that will be it. the doctors were determined to persuade veneer or to stay with them but she refused to give him when she called her for. he sent her brothers to bring her back. as soon as i saw them i tossed the scarf away. and then the

guy showed up. with tears in his eyes he pleaded with me not to leave him. he said he loved me and so on and i told him then you should have said that to begin with. then your resumed her studies at university and found employment but her parents still believe that leaving the family was wrong. they argue that veneer is now twenty four years old and past her prime standards. yes i think that these traditions and stereotypes of ours are just terribly outdated. the two travelers were in for another surprise after that encounter the first man to be charged with abducting a bride had been convicted in kurdistan. it's a great victory he was sentenced to six years in

a medium security prison colony we hadn't expected anything like that would ever happen because article one fifty five of the criminal code is too liberal. the parents of one of the dead young women are sick and tired of gossiping neighbors a mother keeps the house doors shut and shoes passes by a way she blames herself for her daughter's death the bridegroom stole the restoring the night after phoning to lure her away from the house he took her to his village where she was raped. she was taken by force. she didn't understand what was going on. she was the youngest daughter and she was a virgin. it still pains me here in my heart. when we came to take our daughter away. i felt.

somehow. was persuaded to flee by her sister after returning home talked with her mother throughout the night she spoke of her plans saying she wanted to go to. but in the morning she hanged herself in a shed. the criminal was convicted on three counts abduction rape and forced suicide but people in his native village feel justice was not done they say the girl died after being separated from the man she. would like to know what the bridegroom thinks about it all but so far he's not been allowed to see the kidnapper has launched an appeal and the chances are he may be set free. the final chapter in his book. to be written.

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