self. everyone was trying to persuade her that living together would be ok and this boy was also crying hard trying to talk premier into this marriage that she wanted to give it a try however that didn't work you heard. the story shocked the nearest fellow students at the state university in a circle. as lira had been kidnapped not from the los countryside or even a dark alley way but on her way home from school in broad daylight a car stopped on the university campus three strangers drum tails grabbed an era and took her to a nearby village one of the kidnappers and said no you will be my wife and as i knew she called me every day after she'd been kidnapped and that even though she

was a strong girl she was crying all the time she kept on books saying that she just didn't like it there. i told her to go away and to tell her sister as everything but she was scared she thought they would tell her to stay there. and that's why she didn't tell anyone a word. on the bus that she was a monitor of the group i would never seen that such a strong person could do this kind of thing to herself it's a pretty it's. right there she wanted to be famous. not the one she could have been. if she was still alive. veneer is relatives are preparing borsak frybread traditionally made for weddings and funeral ceremonies. every side the neighbors get together they reminisce about

vanilla but they believe that you can't escape from fate. because of the kidneys have this kind of mentality once again gets married and she has to live as a man no matter what even if he's a freak even if. you. live as tragic story could have been written off as a unique case were it not for the fact that just a year later another girl. life. after that. did the same thing none of the three girls were able to live with the shame of forced marriage. and also from the capital bishkek has chosen to write a book on the subject of turkeys brides has called on his friend as it is to join him their views on wedding traditions have never been the same as he is has two grown up daughters who are to get married soon their father calls on them every

evening but before leaving he warned his daughters not to spend time outside the house after school the girls are to head straight home his greatest fear is that they may be kidnapped. there are some guys from the mountains who don't care at all if she's fifteen after all her age is not written down on her forehead and they have no idea she is only a schoolgirl so she is very likely to be kidnapped sometimes when i hear some guy calling her i ask why is he calling oh do you two young for. classmates call them know they should only call in the afternoon i have. studied in the same school as her so many in our district know him and are somewhat afraid of him because he is the champion of kurdistan. in fighting off admirers. yes in fighting off admirers. friends are planning to travel around the country.

tradition as many tragedies. understand why girls hung themselves like that. why hang themselves only because they felt ashamed. time works wonders. for example he could have died in early death and she would have got everything he had. almost a third of all married women in the country were kidnapped by their husbands for instance in the family the brides have always been kidnapped they simply consider it a tradition as custom dictates the youngest son must live with his parents his wife is obliged to do household chores cleaning cooking and gardening she must also take care of her. mother in law has to do babysit her grandchildren and this continues until the girl's own child grows up and takes his wife into the house and repeats the cycle the custom has existed for centuries kidnapped girls eventually learn to

live with their husbands and even become grateful for having been chosen. she drove a tractor to work in the field and. she was you know so far in his blood and. that was the case wasn't it yes that's true she was beautiful and. tractor but she like me. of course i like the wise i wouldn't have given birth to eleven children you know going to happen if i didn't. kidnap his wife from a music school because he himself likes to play the guitar and sing after they were met. he and his wife's sometimes organized concerts at different family occasions but now they've given that up they say they have so many chills that there isn't time for singing songs. that i used to live with. my room with in

da you went to sleep on night suddenly the door open up it's the police we're checking documents as we open the door some seven right guys surrounded me. they grabbed me and brought me here my husband turned out to be bad i would probably leave him but as a much it is a good husband. however in the district where the assayas live there have been three suicides. regularly put on theatrical productions this play discusses how brides are often kidnapped a girl is taken to a future husband's home where she's surrounded by his relatives who try to put

a white scarf on her head the symbol of marriage doctors teachers and lawyers are among the most sought after brides in kyrgyzstan when you start speaking here. let's say that the girl has not graduated yet she has graduated let's say she is in her final year she won't be allowed to work afterwards she is not graduated yet the story becomes even sadder because she has studied for four years for nothing. according to the caregivers women's help center every year sees around sixteen thousand brides kidnapped that means that every forty minutes another girl is abducted. however the kidnappers themselves are rarely taken to court to answer for their crimes. five hundred and ninety six. that's how many reports that police received in two thousand and nine concerning a theft of private property. but the crime of kidnapping a woman just one. girl's encourages turn can't abandon their unloved

husbands they fear not only the condemnation of their neighbors but also being cursed the husband's grandmother may lie on the floor and ask are you ready to defy old age it's believed that if a girl dares do so she'll be miserable all of the life. of those mother still can't forgive herself for having a baby old woman and not helping her daughter to escape she and her parents felt too intimidated by tradition. is when she said that with two correlate both of us will suffer a lot she said she was going to curse us and my mom said that we could not disobey the woman as she was so old. she told us not to step over her. and we're left.

and so the girl stayed a week later she slashed her own wrists and tried to overdose doctors managed to save her life but the experience left us to go earlier disabled at the age of thirty eight she still lives with her mother and i don't have children i even don't have a husband but i want to have children and a husband. not a button is out of a from the open line foundation has come to visit the organization looks into bright kidnapping across the country including old cases the practice has always been an issue but has never been discussed openly. with the bios or you simply afraid they wouldn't be accepted at home. and then they would talk about me if i left. is that somehow a faint wise than death. of course is seriously. putting at that time yes it was even scarier i didn't want people to talk about me saying that all i'd be kidnapped

but that i didn't want to live with the man who kidnapped me. everyone believes that if you're kidnapped you have to just agree to it those are the most. they can't help wondering why they value themselves so poorly because we had just one case when they go over an old woman and say excuse me old woman but this is my life and i won't let anyone manipulate me. not every care of his family has a sad story of kidnapping to tell. you with which i was turning eighteen when i met her in the spring i was conscripted into the army. the people i returned to discover that they kidnapped her the day before i got back. to the state. and there are some traditions that i like and there are some that i

don't like at all i don't understand some of them. when i was about to get married well we're not supposed to talk about our intentions openly so i put it bluntly that i love their daughter and wanted to marry her i asked them if they would let me and then there was a long pause and i realized i was too open but then everyone smiled diplomatically and asked who wanted to have some peel off. the back of. the two friends have many stories but now continue their journey to explore why those who've ruined other people's lives do not receive proper punishment.

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a weak economy people often rely on farming for survival this means hard work that doesn't pay the price for ten kilograms of coton over a year even though it takes a labor a whole day together that much and they don't even get the money instead they're paid in cotton oil that's why most of the workforce here is to russia. or foreign countries to seek employment most of the money they earn is spent on wedding ceremonies. brings together around a thousand people on average guests arrive throughout the day the closest relatives sending their messages a couple of days before the actual ceremony hosts have a hard time wining and dining the guests traditionally after the wedding ceremony delicacies to take home

a single gaze wedding ceremony requires about fifteen lambs two horses forty kilos of and at least a thousand traditional flat bread loaves. there are two butchers here specifically what parts should be served. this is momart and he is taking care of the. four. spent a whole year in russia sweeping the streets to save money for his son's wedding he paid the bride's relatives the equivalent of some two thousand five hundred dollars he also paid for gifts and other treats all the bride. followed his father's footsteps by working as a taxi driver in the russian city of novosibirsk there much more money than he. his native village. is for young people and.

could afford to rent a limousine with the money he earned. the country where he met his future wife. only a couple of dates. the bridegroom's friends like to tease him by calling his bride . a reference to how workers are cleaner in a car showroom where they say it was like a hockey stick. he and his friends forced their way into the bride's house and. the elders disapproved insisting that the kid no tradition had not been upheld. grandfather. does nothing like a simply elder. one of the most revered traditions is that of presenting gifts at a wedding ceremony each guest is supposed to bring a traditional hat for them and

a scarf for the lady one of the gifts can be put to any practical use. vacuum cleaners nothing but. we are going to keep all that in the chest when. we in turn will take away the gifts presented to us. people know that. they will take the gifts out of the chest and give them to. we don't need those things a tool by presenting gifts is a tradition something we can do without. the wedding traditions in. the transaction a love match a bride price can be as high as four thousand dollars making abduction of a much cheaper alternative. if you're. paying bride price is a different story then it's an all out bargain if you want to throw. more than

three thousand dollars in the event. comes down to about fifteen hundred. the district authorities are conducting an experiment to abductions they plan to limit the amount that can be spent on wedding ceremonies the bride price in. five of the limit for any wedding and no horses are without to be killed for the occasion no penalties for offenders. i firmly believe that people shouldn't go to the registry office in. an ordinary mercedes their. car will do. predictably not all the old timers share my view of. them some of them were comfortable in the situation that existed until now they would drop in on a wedding or grab a kilo of meat and four or five loaves and go back home so i told them they could eat as much as they liked on such occasions but i ask them not to take any food

away common folk see me as a reformer but some elders and wealthy people regard me as a nasty miser. human rights campaigners of trying to fight kidnapping by referring to the criminal code the penalty for kidnapping can be up to fifteen years. property strongly than a woman's freedom. is a conflict of legal terms people representing law enforcement body have even addressed drown table discussion to say they decided to be excluded from the crim. no code and offenders should be charged under the can nothing article but usually the men there disagree with this. operation as there are two brides are captured or shall i say stolen by several young men sometimes friends of the groom family members and even worse clerics. they are respected

people. even they make it clear that bride kidnapping conflicts with the islamic law. the captors relatives and friends go unpunished and so they feel free to adopt another young woman young girls who run away find themselves in a more difficult situation the fact is that if a young woman spends even one night in someone else's house she's considered tainted and will never be able to marry. her and her baby has been staying at a crisis center for ten months she has nowhere else to go parents refuse to allow her back into their home campaigners at the open line movement make short films on the subject in this heroes a little girl whose parents were always by his side to help hussein to video that when she grows. up and decides to flee the abductors her parents are in two minds about her decision. i want to know why they refused to.

come home that's how we're trying to bring down. i want to persuade the young woman's parents to give the chance to make her own decision. points out that abduction is a criminal offense but kidnappers given a three years in prison by contrast people who still. put behind bars for eleven years. and then. even came out and said nice you can need to. get a live in here is for cattle rustling is a complete and utter far as it was less and she. mind you they voted in favor of

legislation against stealing sheep in the first reading. campaign is from open line take to the streets to tell young women what they should do with abducted not to be afraid of anything and to immediately go to the police. do you know want to do if you're abducted do other girls know you. and i don't think. because they stay on in many cases. do you know what is the right thing to do you were abducted. we want to scream and shout let me go. we've heard a lot of different stories some of the more astounding simply because they are routine and somebody comes in kidnaps them that's the end of it you begin wondering whether such traditions are traditions at all. and his friend as he is have traveled around for two weeks during that time they

have only come across one young woman who has defied tradition her name is. unlike others in the same situation she didn't cry but try to settle the matter with the bridegroom parents. for this family it will be a disgrace if the bride leaves but i told them let's not argue you just let me go and that will be it. doctors were determined to persuade the nearer to stay with them but she refused to give in when she called her for. he sent her brothers to bring her back. as soon as i saw them toss the scarf away. and then the guy showed up. with tears in his eyes he pleaded with me not to leave him. he said he loved me and so on and i told him then you should have said that to begin with. then your resumed her studies at university and found

employment but her parents still believe that leaving the family was wrong. they argue that veneer is no twenty four years old and past her prime standards. yes i think that these traditions and stereotypes of ours are just terribly outdated. the two travelers were in for another surprise after that encounter the first man to be charged with abducting a bride had been convicted and. it's a great victory he was sentenced to six years in a medium security prison colony we hadn't expected anything like that would ever happen because article one fifty five of the criminal code is too liberal. the parents of one of the dead young women are sick and tired of gossiping

neighbors the mother keeps the house doors shut and shoes passes by a way she blames herself for her daughter's death the bridegroom stole the restoring the night after phoning to lure her away from the house he took her to his village where she was raped. she was taken by force. she didn't understand what was going on. she was the youngest daughter and she was a virgin. and still pains me here in my heart. when we came to take our daughter away sure if you. i felt. somehow. to flee by her sister after returning home talked with her mother throughout the night. she wanted to go to. but in the morning she hanged herself in a shared. criminal was convicted on three counts

abduction rape and forced suicide but people in his native village feel justice was not done they say the girl died after being separated from the man she. would like to know what the bridegroom thinks about it all but so far he's not been to see the kidnapper has launched an appeal and the chances are he may be sent for . the final chapter in his book. to be written. well. science technology innovation all the list of elements from around russia we've got the future covered. government no longer represents the.

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