tv [untitled] January 19, 2013 9:30am-10:00am EST
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there's a lot of families start their day with morning exercises no matter what the type of yeah or whether. they. are usually looking to you you'll know what you want to say here. we go out in the morning to walk and run winter a start of so we can go and scrub ourselves with snow. they haven't been ill and. i can't remember the last time they were sick. you know little. ordinary cheerful kids makes them different from their peers is the fact that they live with only one parent their father has single mothers are no longer an unusual phenomenon what a father devoting himself to his children is a rare occurrence for many. however in russia there are thousands of single fathers just like romans are off.
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my meetings at the hotel with. us. so there was a table now boyce. no breakfast in this family can start without saying grace roman became a believer after a serious illness that left him has breath from death he tries to instill his faith in his children. when i took the kids to my place i simply did not know what to do and i was running around like a madman i couldn't work twenty four hours at the parking lot. so i quit my job and started looking for other means of income i took up all kinds of jobs that i came across. here in our farm that the courts strip the mother of her parental rights concerning these boys some time ago. she's always drinking.
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and she's not my mother anymore. and she abandoned us when i took the kids she didn't do anything at all for six months she didn't call or ask after us. i spoke to her relatives about her reaction they told me she felt ok as she had more time to go out it would. be i'm lucky that. don't miss their mother but they want to have one in other words they don't miss a specific person in the mob want a mother figure on talk of not the one who gave birth to them and abandoned them they just want to have a mom. already knows what a good mother should be like. she should come to my brother and me and kiss goodbye . telling us stories and hugging us so we can fall asleep.
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come on. two thousand kilometers east of moscow in the city of you katherine a group of single fathers have formed their own club. they get together to discuss many important issues they want local authorities to give single fathers more support. it would be good to be able to speak at the government level and defend our civil rights. problems however have no need for politics he is simply trying to get by with his adolescent daughter. who's already fourteen his youngest is ten over the most rebellious is twelve year old
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lisa. with the girls for the time being the main issue. we see such families more and more often the most common reason is when a mother abandons her family frequently because of her anti-social behavior namely alcoholism that. the second reason is sadly due to the mother's death. third which may seem quite surprising is the freedom women now have in terms of their career prospects. and. grapple with important issues kids learn to make paper cranes. when the cranes are tied to the children rushing to the street with their.
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how legal release are balloons into the stuff together with our crazy. lady was. everyone sees the balloons fly off into the sky except for alexander pulls off he is completely blind when he told the single fathers club it was hard for them to believe him at first. they leave me everywhere here it's impossible for me to walk on land how can i and so busy. alexander stories would be similar to thousands of other single fathers if not for his eyes. a few years ago his wife left for another family shortly before the divorce the man lost his eyesight in a car accident he stayed alone with his three young daughters. says here papa.
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had first alexander's relatives helped him with the girls now he's learned to care for them by himself. eager to go to of lives five hundred kilometers south of moscow in the city of course many people that know him if you. come here the largest one stop wait a minute wait don't dance. it wastes only four to five. years and then yes we keep them for me so we can eat me while the kids are in school i go in concert grass. and they come home they first have a rest and then the also go and get some grass so there is enough in the evening and for the next morning you. know how here comes our little lena. my hold up
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alina i was school it was ok one margin is you get four out of five. what a good girl you are as you know. i believe that if he goes youngest daughter she's only nine years old in total going to go to have has ten children two girls and eight boys his oldest already have families and homes of their own party but from the moment you step through the front door it's obvious that a large family lives in this house. the younger children usually help their older sister in the kitchen to cook a dinner for such a big family takes a lot of time and effort. often tells us about mom now says that she was kind and beautiful and that she helped people that mama loved us so. in two thousand and
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five the gregorios were expecting the eleventh child. the pregnant woman was taken to a maternity hospital but suddenly the family was shattered with terrible news the mother had committed suicide at the clinic. i started drinking i didn't go to the funeral they buried her with me. then i stopped and i simply didn't know what to do. when one has a responsibilities a man has. to attend to both of them it was very difficult which very difficult at the bourse. he might seem to keep. a father
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cannot substitute a mother it's simply impossible woman is a woman and the man is a man there's nothing to add to it because the border is more caring more affectionate more delicate. by nature and we can do anything about it when you want him when you cook. him it's very difficult for the children to live without their mother you know they need someone to kiss them. this is the favorite story told by. the ivan the terrible use to climb this tower to see executions on the red square. conducting excursions around red square in moscow is more a hobby than a. joining of says to a group on red square. this isn't
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a place where people get executed but rather where decrees issued by the czar were not. true. alexei raises three children alone living alongside of an eco in his apartment brothers and. there's also a dog a cat and a turtle look at different life animals since i was a little girl we always had a lot of cats at home when my mother worked at a pet store i often spent time there after school i love animals very much. and her two brothers lost their mother to cancer. you know you can't option mommy bernie who was raised by her mother. as for anton he remembers his mother and the older he gets the more he thinks about her future i can see it shows that when he sees his mom's picture he says it's mom and then asks why people die and the other
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day he asked me what's the purpose of life the boys are only six years old. alexa had a no need to help take care of the children she cooks for them and puts them to bed . but what if it's been two and a half years since right anymore what do you mean women think that men can't take care of their children they always want to show how to do it are they come up to us in the street and wipe their noses they gets on my nerves really do they think i can't do it myself. another thing is that people tell me all the time that they feel sorry for me well ok thank you. one day you simply find yourself all alone well thank you and you understand they have to do something you're very likely to get yourself. plus you're under enormous stress. will explain enjoying the natural world together they visit the zoo.
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they weigh about thirty kilos illiterate to train no one you want to ride the train . and this is the african elephant not to be confused with the asian elephant african elephants have big ears asian ones have smaller. cars. with horses to look the child is climbing up there now it's a pickle mother would say what on earth are you doing climb down immediately the police and firefighters will arrive but a father would say well it's good you're safe and sound that's good you haven't fallen down great and if a child falls down he will be happy. that's the main difference in the way men and women bring up children but. this one.
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or two balloons please. you know sometimes you see a story and it seems so you think you understand it and then you glimpse something else and you hear or see some other part of it and realized everything you thought . i'm tom harkin welcomes. big picture. deadly rivals for decades. if you had fifteen thousand people killing each other
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in any other country there would be diplomats there with mediators. self-imposed costs from society i will cut myself chemical attack my brother understand my. immediate. going to eventually attack the cause of my anger and my frustration. that. well into the. two of the most violent gangs in us history. is just all model kill or be killed with colors matching the national flag.
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but this country uses violence when it reaches and then it legitimizes the violence they all made in america on the oxy. i . thought of his both his children to a skating rink his eldest son to nyla is already a good skater he even has help t.j. thanks but watch your step thank you stay here i thank you for your
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phone to skating and it took the older one only a couple of weeks to learn how to skate decently. he doesn't slip he can make turns and knows how to stop thanks come on come on her that was it just go to a quick stop her her good job. i knew she wouldn't we have no contact with my ex-wife she's married to another man and has already given birth to a daughter she never calls us to reduce she's lost all interest in the kids i suppose we last saw her half a year ago asked the dealer some remembers his mother but the younger doesn't know what is up and couldn't understand why she was trying to hug him i thanked him down you go also did you have fun. don't worry when you go up there yes.
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thanks thanks. none of the people i know pity me that still could be seen nothing extraordinary about my situation after all single mothers are quite common so there's nothing unusual about a single father the more so that men are stronger than women. for a man sons have persuaded him to. take them to see their mother even though that's not an easy thing to do. is to arrange to get together in the near future. in you catherine berg. family is following its usual daily routine in the morning the head of the family and his older daughter go to the kitchen to prepare breakfast. although the father is blind he has no difficulty cooking meals his daughter is by his side always ready to help. out some more flour here because when i steer it sometimes it feels it's getting thicker on other occasions it's. if you
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feel resistance it means it's ready it's not just that flour. here's the milk. ok just a little bit of no. true true true sometimes i can see a glimmer of light but i don't see any lights most of the time but with the situation doesn't hurt that much i rather worry about the kids i want them to grow up to become decent people more room or more they also asked me questions about their mother i said without mincing words your mother does not need you she abandoned you and found another man that's all i told him. that's illegal and i come eat. group i know who's who when i hear their voices i learned to recognise them a long time ago well kircher. she wants to be chefs. leno wants to be a veterinarian regular good remarkable liza is still in two minds she wants to be
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either a cook or a singer. we shall see how we work out. my some mothers are just not worth mentioning at all. hours wanted to send us to an orphanage of all places but our father took us away from her. i'd say fathers are more concerned about their children. i feel happy because i have to go it's a joy to know that they're with me they help me to show how the innocence found in children they are my children. before dawn breaks father of ten you go to their korea heads to the marketplace and course he takes care not to stock up on too much food even though he has so many
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children. i know for a fact that the kids will snatch up the best bits and leave the rest to rot then i'll have to give the leftovers to the dogs i don't want that sort of thing happening buying too much food is a bad idea. the market vendors are all familiar with eagle they know he has many children and offer him good discounts. i'd like some of those sausages the high girls hello how many do you want a full deal not many today. is also a jar of mayonnaise and chocolate for the kids it's good. for hire people help us and may god help them. we'll be in dire poverty were not for them. to like hello. when my wife died a moscow businessman bought a car for us. the outhouse has been built by
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a wealthy man from poor i don't even know his name. but here from work a man also built a hole in the large bathroom shower will be made later on the toilet is in order and the floor is heated i've got no idea who that wealthy man is. i'd also like to have the other floor put in order to make more room for the kids for the time being the place is a bit crowded. on the new york. the kids remember their mother pictures of her all over the place. i simply can't afford to let another woman live here i haven't asked the kids about their attitude never even occurs to me that i might share this home with another woman i want to with the previous because i want the children to grow up to become decent people i don't want anything artificial about them. i don't want them to cheat but to be
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honest in adult life the way they are now when you have got i don't want them to tell false hoods or make wild promises showing you do any more. alexei some units of support clinton must becomes a playground for his kids and he's not particularly strict with them on such occasions he can devote his full attention to the children. i'm firmly convinced that it's no use trying to shape your children the way they would like people with disability like you when they grow up therefore you'd better educate yourself that's my favorite saying. i've seen any number of parents devoting so much time and effort to raising their children in reality though the children simply mimic their parents is the. thoughts that if a child communicates with gentle people who are themselves outstanding individuals
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then the child will be like them. that they came as a great secret i'd like to disclose to all fathers is this teaching children is a very interesting thing is the going to be. especially if you achieve some results like if the child learns to read or write or imitate something that you do. thank you art almost but it's over a year or it's like organizing a business or getting a promotion or something like that it's really fascinating to realize that you can foster something and show that. your version. of. i find it very important to make sure that kids have a broad view of the world is the bible you should be afraid of reaching out to other people with different languages or in other countries but yes it's my little son is trying to climb up a hill knowing full well he'd never make it and yet he keeps trying and reaches the top this is like going to paris it's like seeing the world from in
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a different light. whether men should allow a woman to live with the kids simply because they need a mother by their side is debatable in my opinion. the man woman relationship is built on other for september we're going to put it plainly supposing i allow that woman to be with her kids they will grow up and go their separate ways but i'll have to stay on with that woman the two i need that. very many children have grown up without the care of fathers and mothers but they're none the worse for that or. if you. remember sort of children have come to see their mother who left them and their father a long time ago. she's brought along her daughter from her new marriage. do you go to
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school yes. you've brought to be quite big. how are you doing yeah. how's life ok it was so quiet what did you want to ask her how are you know we're good. how are you i am ok your ears are frozen i hope one day i said he was all smart boy. some people break up because of a clash of characters with us it was just that our temperaments may have been too much of the match. we were never given to each other. sometimes at night. i wake up and i start to cry because i remember you. like. you need to ask your father to call me and have him bring you over to me.
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as the mom didn't want my children to share a home with another man and call him father. we're both that's one of the reasons. at first it really pain me to know that they were going to be not with me but with him. but now not so much. who are the kids are better off with a man than with me it's really important that a man raises boys. when are you going to come to us again. to visit or to live with us to live. well i don't know about that. it's not up to muster to sites we'll find out later we'll decide that it's not all of this or do you really want me to leave my husband and child and return to you. from work and i see no reason for that we have to.
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