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have a mom. daniel already knows what a good mother should be like a mom. she should come to my brother and me and kisses goodnight. telling us stories and hugging us so we can fall asleep. and i. crews come here come on. two thousand kilometers east of moscow in the city of. a group of single fathers have formed their own club. they get together to discuss many important issues they want local authorities to give more support. to be able to speak at the government level and defend our civil rights.
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problems however have no need for politics he's simply trying to get by with his adolescent daughter. who's already fourteen his youngest. over the most rebellious is twelve year old lisa. the girls for the time being the main issue. that we see such families more and more often the most common reason is one a mother abandons her family frequently because of her antisocial behavior namely alcoholism. the second reason is sadly due to the mother's death. third which may seem quite surprising is the freedom women now have in terms of their career prospects. grapple with important issues kids learn to make paper cranes.
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when the cranes are tied to the children rushing to the street with their. how legal release are balloons into the stuff together with our brains. was. everyone sees the balloons fly off into the sky except for alexander pulls off he is completely blind when he told the single fathers club it was hard for them to believe him at first. they leave me everywhere here it's impossible for me to walk on land how can i and so busy. alexander stories would be similar to thousands of
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other single fathers if not for his eyes. a few years ago his wife left for another family shortly before the divorce the man lost his eyesight in a car accident he stayed alone with his three young daughters. says here papa. first alexander's relatives helped him with the girls now he's learned to care for them by himself. to go to you have lives five hundred kilometers south of moscow in the city of course many people that know him if you. come here the largest one stop wait a minute wait don't dance. it wastes only four to five kilos from the b.s.
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we keep them for me so we can eat me while the kids are in school i go in concert grass. and they come home they first have a rest and then the also go and get some grass so there is enough in the evening and for the next morning you. know how here comes our little lena my hold up alina i was school it was ok one margin is you get four out of five. what a good girl you are you know i'm not believe he goes youngest daughter she's only nine years old in total going to go to have has ten children two girls and eight boys his oldest already have families and homes of their own party but from the moment you step through the front door it's obvious that a large family lives in this house. the younger children usually help their older sister in the kitchen to cook a dinner for such a big family takes a lot of time and effort. but often tells us about mom
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and says that she was kind and beautiful and that she helped people that mama loved us. in two thousand and five they were expecting the child. the pregnant woman was taken to maternity hospital but suddenly the family was shattered with terrible news the mother had committed suicide at the clinic. i started drinking i didn't go to the funeral they buried her with. her food then i stopped and i simply didn't know what to do. the woman has her responsibilities the man has. all the sudden i had to attend to both of them it was very. very difficult at the bourse.
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she might seem to keep. a father cannot substitute a mother it's simply impossible woman is a woman and the man is a man there's nothing to add to it. the boy to put a woman is more caring more affectionate more delicate. by nature and we can do anything about it when you when you cook. it it's very difficult for the children to live without their mother you know they need someone to kiss them. this is the favorite stories hold. the ivan the terrible used to climb this tower to see executions on the red square. conducting excursions around
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red square in moscow is more a hobby than a. joining of like says to a group on red square. this isn't a place where people get executed but rather where decrees issued by the czar were not. true. alexei raises three children alone living alongside of an eco in his apartment brothers and. there's also a dog a cat and a turtle look at this different life animal since i was a little girl we always had a lot of cats at home when my mother worked at the pet store i often spent time there after school i love animals very much. and her two brothers lost their mother to cancer. you're you call me small me bernie who was raised by her mother. as for anton he remembers his mother and the older he gets
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the more he thinks about her she try can see it shows that when he sees his mom's picture he says it's mom and then asks why people die and the other day he asked me what's the purpose of life the boys are only six years old. now. alexei hired a nanny to help take care of the children she cooks for them and puts them to bed. but what if it's been two and a half years since right anymore what do you mean women think that men can't take care of their children they always want to show how to do it they come up to us in the street and wipe their noses it gets on my nerves really do they think i can't do it myself christian another thing is that people tell me all the time that they feel sorry for me well ok thank you for facing this one day you simply find yourself all alone well fed you and you understand they have to do something you're very likely to get it isn't. plus you're under enormous stress but.
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the some you relax plan joins the natural world together they visit the zoo. they weigh about thirty kilos illiterate to train no one because you want to ride the train. and this is the african elephant not to be confused with the asian elephant african elephants have big ears asian ones have smaller. one point six look the child is climbing up there now it's a pickle mother would say what on earth are you doing climb down immediately the police and firefighters will arrive but a father would say well it's good you're safe and sound it's good you haven't
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don't know i'm tom harpur welcome to the big picture. deadly rivals for decades. if you had fifteen thousand people killing each other in any other country there would be diplomats there would be a lot of. self-imposed costs from society i will cut myself chemical attack my brother understand my. immediate. going to leave. the cause of my anger and my frustration. got up well into the dome.
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to the most violent gangs in u.s. history. as a stall model kill or be killed with colors matching the national flag. but this country uses violence when it reaches and then it legitimizes the violence they all made in america. more news today boylan says once again flared up. and these are the images go world has been seeing from the streets of canada. showing corporations are all day.
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i have a month ahead of his children to a skating rink his eldest son to nyla is already a good skater he even has help t.j. thanks what's your step thank you stay here i was going to use. your phone to skating and it took the older one only a couple of weeks to learn how to skate decently. he doesn't slip he can make turns
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and knows how to stop thanks come on come on her when was it go do a quick stop her her good job i knew she was we have no contact with my ex-wife she's married to another man and has already given birth to a daughter she never calls us to rethink she's lost all interest in the kids i suppose we last saw her tough a year ago lost the dealer some remembers his mother but the younger doesn't. he couldn't understand why she was trying to hug him i thank him down you go also did you have fun. don't worry when you grow up you'll stick to it. thanks thank you none of the people i know pity me this look at the scene nothing extraordinary about my situation after all single mothers are quite common so
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there's nothing unusual about a single father the more so that men are stronger than women. and sons have persuaded him to. take them to see their mother even though that's not an easy thing to do. is to arrange to get together in the near future. alexander family is following its usual daily routine in the morning the head of the family and his older daughter go to the kitchen to prepare breakfast. although the father is blind he has no difficulty cooking meals his daughter is by his side always ready to help. out some more flour. when i steer it sometimes it feels it's getting thicker on other occasions and. if you feel resistance it means it's ready it's not just that flour. here's the milk. ok just
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a little bit of know. the truth sometimes i can see a glimmer of light but i don't see any lights most of the time but with the situation doesn't happen much i rather worry about the kids i want them to grow up to become decent people more room or more they also asked me questions about their mother i said without mincing words your mother does not need you she abandoned you and found another man that's all i told him. that's illegal and i come eat. of a group i know who's who when i hear their voices i learned to recognise them a long time ago well carter. she wants to be chefs. leno wants to be a veterinarian regular good remarkable liza is still in two minds she wants to be either a cook or a singer. we shall see how we work out. some
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mothers are just not worth mentioning at all. hours wanted to send us to an orphanage of all places but our father took us away from her. i'd say fathers are more concerned about their children. i feel happy because i have to go it's a joy to know that they're with me they help me to show how the innocence found in children they are my children. before dawn breaks father of ten you go to their heads to the market place and course he takes care not to stock up on too much food even though he has so many children. i know for a fact that the kids will snatch up the best bits and leave the rest to rot then i'll have to give the leftovers to the dogs i don't want that sort of thing
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happening buying too much food is a bad idea. the market vendors are all familiar with eagle they know he has many children and offer him good discounts to which i'd like some of those sausages the high girls hello how many do you want able do not many said they were also a jar of mayonnaise and chocolate for the kids it's just. people help us and may god help them. will be in dire poverty were not for them. it was like hello. when my wife died a moscow businessman bought a car for us. the outhouse has been built by a wealthy man from poor i don't even know his name. but here from work a man also built a hole in the large bathroom shower will be made later the toilet is in order and
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the floor is heated i've got no idea who that wealthy man is. also like to have the other floor put in order to make more room for the kids and the time being the place is a bit crowded through on the new york. the kids remember their mother pictures are for all over the place. i simply can't afford to let another woman live here i haven't asked the kids about their attitude never even occurs to me that i might share this home with another woman i want to want to previous because i want the children to grow up to become decent people i don't want anything artificial about them. i don't want them to cheat but to be honest in adult life the way they are now when you know i don't want them to tell false hoods or make wild promises showing you do any more.
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alexei some units of support london mosque becomes a playground for his kids and he's not particularly strict with them on such occasions he can devote his full attention to the children. and i'm firmly convinced that it's no use trying to shape your children the way they would like. be like you when they grow up therefore you'd better educate yourself that's my favorite saying. i've seen any number of parents devoting so much time and effort to raising their children in reality though the children simply mimic their parents is that. if a child communicates with gentle people who are themselves outstanding individuals and the child will be like them. that they can use a great secret that i'd like to disclose to all fathers is this teaching children
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is a very interesting thing is the government should have but which are especially if you achieve some results like if the child learns to read or write or imitate something that you do. as the bank you are telling us but this over here or that it's like organizing a business or getting a promotion or something like that it's really fascinating to realize that you can foster something and show them. your version. but. i find it very important to make sure that kids have a grodd view of the world this is about that you should be afraid of reaching out to other people with different languages or in other countries but yes if my little son is trying to climb up a hill knowing full well he'd never make it and yet he keeps trying and reaches the top this is like going to paris it's like seeing the world from in a different light. whether men should allow a woman to live with a kid simply because they need
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a mother by their side is the beta book in my opinion. the man woman relationship is built on other with perception we're going to put it plainly supposing i allow that woman to be with her kids they will grow up and go their separate ways but i'll have to stay on with that woman too i need that. very many children have grown up without the care of fathers and mothers but they're none the worse for that or. if. you're. a man's a sort of children i've come to see their mother who left them had their father a long time ago. she's brought along her daughter from her new marriage. do you go to school yes. you've brought to be quite big. how are you doing yeah. how's life ok there is so quiet what did you want to ask her
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how are you know we're good. how are you i am ok your ears are frozen i hope one day i said he was all smart boy. some people break up because of a clash of characters with us it was just that our temperaments may have been too much of the match we we were never given to each other. sometimes at night. i wake up and i start to cry because i remember you. like. you need to ask your father to call me and have him bring you over to me. mom didn't want my children to share a home with another man and call him father. that's one of the
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reasons. at first it really pain me to know that they were going to be not with me but with him. but now not so much. who are the kids are better off with a man than with me it's really important that a man raises boys. when are you going to come to us again. to visit or to live with us to live. well i don't know about that. it's not up to us to decides we'll find out later we'll decide that it's not all those of us are do you really want me to leave my husband and child and return to your room with quarrels. and work and i see no reason for that to.
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