in years later you know to me it was one of the best decisions that we've made no regrets really really happy to be childfree by choice raising a child can be stressful so from from our standpoint i think another one of the possible in our relationship we get to spend more time connecting with each other and i think that that's you know for us it's really important a relationship i don't know necessarily that one relationship or one style of relationship is going to be better than the other because i think there's you know some people that have kids and that is their whole life and that actually brings people closer together but then on the same instance there's people who have kids and it kind of drove drives a wedge between them because they don't get to have that quality time together and that's something which they valued before they had kids and they don't get to have that now so this is tim tim is our 3rd child he was found by kiwi my husband in

a parking lot he was about 2 pounds skin and bones covered in fleas with a big hole and an abscess in one of his rear legs and so he scooped him up then we took him to the vet and he had emergency surgery he had a really rough 1st 10 weeks on the planet but it's been pretty sweet ever sent. currently you were actually living through the 6th mass extinction of species so we are currently driving species to extinction at a rate that's about a 1000 times faster than the natural background rate of extinction. and a lot of people are unaware of this. 5 major mass extinctions obviously the last major mass extinction on the planet was the one that took out the dinosaurs right now we're living through what they called the anthropocene in anthropocene translates to the age of man it's where the human impact on our planet is so great

that we're actually changing the fossil record of our future so you know i try and reduce my carbon footprint as much as i can i drive an electric car the house that we're sitting in this paradisal or we're in and that's great and there are more and more people putting up solar panels and buying electric cars and going be again and that's all good for the planet but as long as we're still adding a 1000000000 people to the planet every 12 years i don't think that those adaptations are happening fast enough. sound sumo who knows who.

sumo the. google. the new. shows this to. where. the. you. know the. me. that's right back to you wrote about my dog marty at the time who passed away he made me think about family more than in the traditional sense he was a bad technically labeled a bad dog we got go and had

a great relationship together and he became very happy and became a totally different dog and i kind of learned what love could do for something for someone and that was it was kind of has projected me to where today in my life and that song is probably my favorite song i've ever written the greatest love song i think i could ever write i mean we're happy months the thing and again it goes back to that whole idea that there's no reason or more kids world i feel like bringing children into the world is suffering of the world and we will take things that are really need love the. liza minelli something else that you need to get love to we do our own thing we enjoy our lives he plays music 4 nights 5 nights out of the week we like to sleep 10 yeah that's really i wish to have that's really meant to spend money on think it's very convenient to have it so it's a very small part of it but it is very convenient and the kids i got very lucky my parents are amazing people they took care of me and so will give me so much load

there's still given so much that it's amazing. and i really didn't have that i had more of like. people telling me my mom telling me my grandma telling me like i don't have kids is the biggest mistake you could make you know and that probably think a part of it you know. i feel like. my own grandmother my own mom everybody you know that was generations before us didn't have a choice and they were pressured into it it was like you had to grow up have babies there was no other there was no other option so i'm going to take full advantage of busy having a choice and not feeling like i have got to have kids or there's no other way it's a privilege really to be able to not be shunned for having this choice i know a lot of people they would feel incomplete if they didn't have kids and they get

pressure from family and. just pressure from everyone around them because everyone else is having kids so there's still a lot of places mostly like smaller towns are more concerned of towns that's all going to have a lot of babies. i think there's some return all instinct in women because i definitely quince in a while like feel this need to lake. hold a baby bird like you know that baby fever thing i feel like that's a pretty hormonal thing and it's emotional thing it's not super realistic no there's this feeling that like the only thing you do with your life what you leave behind is your your child and predecessors and all that and i don't i don't agree with that i think. again everything you do has an effect on the planet around you the world the people and not having kids for me i feel like a better city for that i feel like i bring more george world without having

responsibilities that i'm not really feeling fit to take her or fit to deal with i feel. more time to write songs to make music i do i think it makes a difference i think this is this community here in longmont colorado really. have some friends that really. time to make it's overwhelming the way that they feel about when we get together on stage and jam and stuff. and that that's so worth it to me right there. was the. that's her 10 months old we were out of care and we don't want. certain about a year and a half in like 3 that's her mom karen this is when karen and so he came to

live with me here in this house was already was 2 and a half from them and they had lived here. for a half years now i do i do not have children i have never been married i've been single all my life i'm really not very relationship oriented i identify primarily as gay but even without like a sahm not very relationship oriented and i just never felt very good about the idea of bringing children into the world because i didn't feel like things were in very good shape that a life was just going to be a lot of suffering for them d.n.a. has made as very competitive by necessity that's just how species evolve been the strongest survive and oftentimes that involves unimaginable cruelty. i am sure that we need to stop it from continuing to grow because it's like you put

your stand in a bath of warm water with a little bit of sugar and they just keep periphery do seem and put it out alcohol and till they have polluted their environment so much that they die it's kind of sad that we don't have any more control over our selves in our environment the little one cell the yeast organisms. were working 2 months is that exist today. zoe my god daughter and i have been taking care of since she was just a few hours old she's like the best thing that ever happened to me in my life she's still a big part of my life although she and her mother have gotten their own place to live and gotten on with low. which was our plan always but you know after a few years of being here when they left that was

a bittersweet moment bitter because you've become very attached to both of them. most people think this is this you need to be the 1st one on top of the story or the person with the loudest voice of the biggest race in truth to stand this is just the right questions and demand the right answer. the. question. she said she stressed to make sure that the british present at the bill of voted

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was weird. i would not. i don't think my child would like because my child my mother my biological mother tried very very hard to be the best parent she could and to raise me to be the best person i could be and. i ended up not liking her and i don't like her as a person and. that and that fact has instilled a belief in me that even if i tried the hardest i possibly could to create. a nice individual. foster. a valuable person to send out into the world.

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we met in 2001 here in the united states at work at law 1st. 17 years decided not to have children when i was in my early fifty's my q.e. i didn't go the right way on my feet and true search continued and i wanted to help more. to change careers to find balance in life to find happiness and to find some spiritual answers for myself so i feel that having a child would be an obstacle rather than help. these are all waiting just. a few years if you. go. i still love you of course.

and. in the 3rd world it's still a matter of survival a person must have many children in order for some of them to take care of him or her when they are all. in a well developed world and well developed countries there is a very good social support system so you would have your retirement the government will take care of you and you would be much better off without children you could retire earlier you would have more savings. it was so i think it's a lifestyle and it's very it's one expensive to raise a child human states if you want to get a good education it's a list of $1000000.00 and even. i think of the so that not to have children in my twenty's when i realize that life was thought. that suffering in some form was a guarantee to everybody well happiness is not and i just did not want to bring

a new life into this world. i don't know that i regret it. we always have a thought that perhaps i'm missing out on something. and certainly my father says he thinks i'd be exceptional mother and we'd be exceptional parents but i think it's harder today to not work as a whine because i think the cost of living stops some much but if it was covered with the national board work over it completely completely would you stay home and raise children potentially i think based on my experience working with children and the children that. adam one parent home seem to be a lot more what better behaved better communicators just seems to be a little more balanced i think because they had a parent they're highly involved with long story short we just kind of kick the can down the road if you will you know maybe later later just never happened for us but whether it was careers or. where we've had

a lot of ups and downs with careers and pauses and unemployment or career changes and geographic location moves and kind of all those things just delay delay and next thing you know you're here in the upper forty's and you're in your happy with your spouse and where you are i would say that most of our friends if they don't have children whether they're married or single most of them have dogs or cats for the most part dogs and we find that all of us think that our dogs are like our babysitter i do think people are as there's more and more people there's more more traffic there's more more congestion there's not as much opportunity to be out in open spaces and finding those things that i think really help us relax. for me it's being with my dog it's being outside every day and if there's less and less natural resources if we lose the national park if we lose those open spaces that i think

are key to human balance i think you will see a lot more aggressive behaviors in your ability in patients the more dense the world gets the more angry i think people get and that's unfortunate for me personally i. regretted not having children i think we you know we have a good bond ourselves and we're able to strengthen that and put time and energy into each other without having to have you know needing to pathak energy into the children as well. my name is low. carol and i have a master's in psychology and. i've been writing nonfiction and researching the childfree choice and 2 books that i've written related to that topic. and the 2nd one is called the baby. i don't have any regrets because it's not having children has allowed me. in my life to create the life that i want and have the

adventures that i have had the career that i've pursued i feel i've been able to do so many more things i think than i would have been able to do if they really had been at the central focus of. the title is the fact or fiction childfree couples are happier than a couple of kids. used to be. a big debate. there isn't one answer that's my. asking the question why does society find the child free choice so hard to accept that have led to my book baby matrix and 2 assumptions and beliefs that society holds that

judges the child free choice where where i landed was a set of believes that have been with us for generations and it's collectively called. and listen just means the x. saltation of parenthood motherhood birth and putting it on a pedestal and our society has been doing that you can go back to the roman times that it's been pushed into our brains in our like our social and cultural hardware of what we're supposed to be in supposed to do that people think. these beliefs are true 3 powerful to some sions is if you don't have the desire to have children there's something wrong with you as a person there's something wrong with you psychologically something wrong with you in terms of you haven't figured out your 1st specially for women your female

identity something's wrong there there's also the assumption that we're biologically wired to want children there's absolutely no evidence to support that so there is of course evidence that we have biological processes going on if for pregnancy at the time of birth but no biological processes innately that create this somehow desire to have children and a 3rd powerful one is that by raising children that's when you find true fulfillment in life. they're all myths. in my research one thing i continue to notice is that there's pressure so it's not so much a fear the childfree have as much as the experience from others who want them to do what they did so they others loved ones their family members

they can put different kinds of pressure on a childfree couples for example to make them feel guilty for not bringing grand kids onto the sea not doing what they did so that they will have a bond of even closer bond because they will have this thing called parenthood when i was researching the baby matrix i looked at the issue of what if you're old and you have no children will you be old and lonely what will life be like i. am what i found from reading what has already been study is what people find in their golden years or their elder years in terms of their well being what's most important that helps them have a positive wellbeing is that they are financially secure so that when they're retired they basically have enough money to live and also that their partner is alive so it didn't really rest on. depending on their children

for them to be happier in their older years. i decided to change my mind and to try to become a mother for a number of reasons of course one reason was a lot of pressure from it was also. really one. major change in my life. i started feeling she would want to be at least one good

reason for me to create another school in this world into this world. to me and i wanted to raise person so to speak a new generation i wanted to raise my child from the mainstream i wanted to be progressive parents. i wanted to share with my child the only spiritual things spiritual. me and my husband felt by they see each with a lot of struggle i wanted to share this information with my child. or. i think my. special actually that's unusual creates previously i used to leave mostly for

myself and now i get the chance you've. given advice to give. my wife. i'm going to be through with you just to get. to help people so i came to this world to be useful. because taking care of her and provided for the family. but the. loss of happiness and lots of fun. there is. much more loft in our house right now when we left at once she's the most precious thing ever and. yes i feel the same.

the last of us are a gemini that steve globalization and this came in with thompson 2016 and he the idea of monitor ization the global central banks cooperating to put out a currency unit of accounts that was better than gold is a 6070 year experiment that is now collapsing which is leading to dollars a synaesthete countries like russia move aggressively away from the dollar and buy gold and dig globalization simultaneously. today there are good terrorists and bad the bad news in yemen the united states deems to be the good. war in syria the cia and the us military were engaged in covert actions really throughout the world. where they were assassinating

populist leaders they were backing up the right way military funding and arming death squads there's no posts anymore because there's always a small. cut. of the profit. dream agreed to pressure almost remember there was most of my family were unemployed working. there wasn't it was bed much worse objectively today but there was an expectation of the things were going to get better. there was a real sense of hope. there isn't today today's america where shape my the 10 principles of concentration of wealth and power. reduced democracy attack solo duo engineer election manufacture consent and other prince holds

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