that have kids and that is their whole life and that actually brings people closer together but then on the same instance there's people who have kids and it kind of drove drives a wedge between them because they don't get to have that quality time together and that's something which they valued before they had kids and that i didn't get to have that now so this is timbo tim is our 3rd child he was found by my husband in a parking lot he was about 2 pounds skin and bones covered in fleas with a big hole and an abscess in one of his rear legs and so he scooped him up and we took him to the vet and he had emergency surgery he had a really rough 1st 10 weeks on the planet but it's been pretty sweet ever sent. currently you were actually living through the 6th mass extinction of species so we are currently driving species to extinction at a rate that's about

a 1000 times faster than the natural background rate of extinction. and a lot of people are unaware of this. 5 major mass extinctions obviously the last major mass extinction on the planet was the one that took out the dinosaurs right now we're living through what they called the anthropocene in anthropocene translates to the age of man it's where the human impact on our planet is so great that we're actually changing the fossil record of our future so you know i try and reduce my carbon footprint as much as i can i drive an electric car the house that we're sitting in this paradisal or we're in and that's great and there are more and more people putting up solar panels and buying electric cars and going began and that's all good for the planet but as long as we're still adding a 1000000000 people to the planet every 12 years i don't think that those

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you. know the. me. right back to you wrote about my dog marty at the time who passed away he made me think about family more than in this ryssdal sense he was a bad technically labeled a bad dog we got go and had a great relationship together and he became very happy and became a totally different dog and i kind of learned what love could do for something for someone and that was kind of has projected me to where i sit in my life and that song is probably my favorite song i've ever written the greatest love song i think i could ever write i mean we're helping the thing and again it goes back to that whole idea that there's no reason to bring more kids world i feel like bringing children of the world is suffering in the world and we will take things that are really need love the. nose and with something else that you need to give the love

to we do our own thing we enjoy our lives he plays music 4 nights 5 nights out of the week we like to sleep then yeah that's really i wish to have that's really meant you don't spend money on things it's very convenient not to have it so it's a very small part of it but it is very convenient and the kids i got very lucky my parents are amazing people they took care of me and so will give me so much loaf there's still given so much that it's amazing. and i really didn't have that i had more of like. people telling me my mom telling me my grandma telling me like i don't have kids is the biggest mistake you could make you know and that probably think a part of it you know. i feel like. my old grandma my own mom everybody you know that was generations before us didn't have a choice and they were pressured into it it was like you had to grow up have babies

there was no other there was no other option so i'm going to take full advantage of busy having a choice and not feeling like i have got to have kids or there's no other way it's a privilege really to be able to not be shunned for having this choice i know a lot of people they would feel incomplete if they didn't have kids and they get pressure from family and. just pressure from everyone around them because everyone else is having kids so there's still a lot of places mostly like smaller towns are more concerned of towns that so want you to have a lot of babies. i think there's some return all instinct in women because i definitely quintile while i'll make feel this need to like. hold the baby bird like you know that baby fever thing i feel like that's

a pretty hormonal thing and it's emotional thing it's not super realistic you know there's this feeling that like the only thing you do with your life that you leave behind is your your child and the predecessors and all that and i don't i don't agree with that i think. again everything you do has an effect on the planet around you the world the people and not having kids for me i feel like a better suited for that i feel like i bring more george a world without having responsibilities that i'm not really feeling fit to take her or fit to deal with i feel. more time to write songs to make music i do i think it makes a difference i think this is this community here in longmont colorado to. have some friends that really. kind of overwhelming the way that they feel about when we get together on jan. and that's so

worth it to me. that's her like 10 months old we were at a canyon lands. sort of about a year and a half in like 3 that's her mom karen this is when karen zoe came to live with me here in this house he was 2 and a half from them. and they had lived here. for a half years now i do i do not have children i have never been married i've been single all my life i'm really not very relationship oriented i identify primarily as gay but even without like a sam not very relationship oriented and i just never felt very good about the idea of bringing children into the world because i didn't feel like things were in very

good shape that a life was just going to be a lot of suffering for them d.n.a. has made as very competitive by necessity that's just how species evolve in the strongest survive and oftentimes that involves unimaginable cruelty. i am sure that we need to stop it from continuing to grow because it's like you put you. in a bath a warm water with a little bit of sugar and they just keep periphery do seem to put it out alcohol and till they have polluted their environment so much that they die it's kind of sad that we don't have any more control over our selves in our environment this little one celled he stored in isms. we're working to learn physics. so we my god i have taken care of

so she was just a few hours old she's like the best thing that ever happened to me and my wife she's still a big part of my wife although she and her mother have gotten their own place to live. got a lot. of life which was more planned always but you know after a half years of being in there when they left that was a bittersweet moment bitter because you can become very attached to both of them. compared to centuries of chinese history to use is nothing unless budgets 2 years of donald trump with us another round of terrorists being added to the us trade war this last week news china's strategy of waiting out the enemy likely to work with the current american president.

of western germany that steve globalization and this came in with trump in 2016 that he the idea of monitor ization the global central banks cooperating to put out a currency unit of account that was better than gold is a 6070 year experiment that is now collapsing which is leading to dollars a synaesthete countries like russia move aggressively away from the dollar and buy gold and did globalization simultaneously. well you know the hard thing we've kind of adopted because we're all pirates for so long. i mean they're in this small ball and sniffs it hard to achieve it. it's. not something. the limited self did big fish already 90

percent of the dark on any pinball connor. contemplations groups 75 times they do it several times a day with the big fleets no you get an idea why. we have to understand we can not stay still and just. be with them this will be the only going to the hours. i'm doing this because i want them for the future world to the future generations to have and enjoy the ocean we have. so what we've got to do is identify the threats that we have it's crazy. let it be an arms race is on all sides very dramatic development only closely and going to

exist i don't see how that strategy will be successful very critical time to sit down and talk.

or used to before. that was weird. would you or do her children i would not worry i don't in my childhood like me because in my childhood my mother my biological mother tried very very hard to be the best parent she could and to raise me to be the best person i could be and. i ended up not liking her and i don't like her as a person and. that inst that fact has instilled a belief in me that even if i tried the hardest i possibly could to create. a nice individual. foster. a

valuable person to send out into the world. that they still would not. like me as a person. of half. bottles .

we met in 2001 here in the united states at work that was our 1st so at 17 years i decided to have children when i was in my early fifty's my career didn't go the right way. my spiritual search continued and i wanted to have more to. to change careers to find balance in life to find happiness and to find some spiritual answers for myself so i fall paving the child would be an obstacle rather than help. these are all waiting pictures. for

you to. go. i still love you of course. that is. in the 3rd world but still a matter of survival a person must have many children in order for some of them to take care of him or her when they are all. in a well developed world and well developed countries there is a very good social support system so you would have your retirement the government will take care of you and you would be much better off without children you could retire earlier you would have more savings. miss so think it's a lifestyle and it's over you don't sweat expensive to raise a child human states if you want to get a good indication of spotless stuff well and don't just leave them. i think of the so that not to have children in my twenties when i realize that life will start. that suffering in some form as

a guarantee to everybody well happiness is not and you just did not want to bring a new life into this world. i don't know that i regret it. you always have a thought that perhaps i'm missing out on something. and certainly my father says he thinks i'd be exceptional mother and we'd be exceptional parents but i think it's harder today to not work as a one because i think the cost of living stops some much but it was covered with very snowboard work over it completely completely would you stay home and raise children potentially i think based on my experience working with children and the children that. having one parent home seemed to be a lot more what better behaved better communicators just seems to be a little more balanced i think because they had a parent they're highly involved in the long story short we just kind of kick the can down the road if you will you know maybe later later just never happened for us

but whether it was careers or. where we've had a lot of ups and downs with careers and pauses and unemployment or career changes and geographic location moves and kind of all those things just delay delay and next thing you know you're here in the upper forty's and you're in your happy with your spouse and where you are i would say that most of our friends if they don't have children whether they're married or single most of them have dogs or cats for the most part dogs and we find that all of us think that our dogs are like our babysitter i do think people are as there's more and more people there's more more traffic there's more more congestion there's not as much opportunity to be out in open spaces and finding those things that i think really help us relax. for me it's being with my dog it's being outside every day and if there's less and less natural

resources if we lose the national park if we lose those open spaces that i think are key to human balance i think you will see a lot more aggressive behaviors in your ability and in patients the more dense the world gets the more angry i think people get and that's unfortunate for me personally i. regretted not having children i think we you know have a good bond ourselves and were able to strengthen that and put time and energy into each other without having to have you know needing to put time and energy into the children as well. my name isn't. and i have a master's in psychology and since. i've been writing nonfiction and researching the childfree choice and 2 books i've written related to that topic. and the 2nd one is called the baby. i don't have any regrets because it's not having children

has allowed me. in my life to create the life that i want and have the adventures that i have had the career that i've wanted to pursue i think i've been able to do so many more things i think than i would have been able to do if they really had been at the central focus of. the title is the fact or fiction childfree couples are happier than couples with kids. and used to be. a big debate. there isn't one. that's my. asking the question why does society find the child free choice so hard to accept my book baby matrix and 2

assumptions and beliefs that society holds that judges the child free choice where where i landed was a set of believes that have been with us for generations and it's collectively called. and listen just means the x. saltation of parenthood motherhood birth and putting it on a pedestal and our society has been doing that you can go back to the roman times that it's been pushed into our brains in our like our social and cultural hardware of what we're supposed to be in supposed to do that people think. these beliefs are true 3 powerful assumptions is if you don't have the desire to have children there's something wrong with you as a person there's something wrong with you psychologically something wrong with you

in terms of you haven't figured out your 1st specially for women your female identity something's wrong there there's also the assumption that we're biologically wired to want children there's absolutely no evidence to support that so there is of course evidence that we have biological processes going on if for pregnancy at the time of birth but no biological processes innately that create this somehow desire to have children and a 3rd powerful one is that by raising children that's when you find true fulfillment in life. they're all myths. in my research one thing i continue to notice is that there's pressure so it's not so much a fear the childfree have as much as the experience from others who want

them to do what they did so they others loved ones their family members they can put different kinds of pressure on a childfree couples for example to make them feel guilty for not bringing grand kids onto the sea not doing what they did so that they will have a bond of even closer bond because they will have this thing called parenthood when i was researching the baby matrix i looked at the issue of what if you're old and you have no children will you be old and lonely what will life. and what i've found from reading what has already been study is what people find in their golden years or their elder years in terms of their well being what's most important that helps them have a positive well being is that they are financially secure so that when they're retired they basically have enough money to live and also that their partner is

alive so it didn't really rest on. depending on their children for them to be happier in their older years. i decided to change my mind to try to become a mother for a number of reasons of course one reason was a lot of pressure from it was also. really one.

major change in my life. i started feeling she would want to be at least one good reason for me to create another school in this world into this world. to me and i wanted to raise person so to speak a new generation i wanted to raise my child from the mainstream i wanted to be progressive parents and. i wanted to share with my child the only spiritual things spiritual. me and my husband felt by the sea with a lot of struggle i wanted to share this information with my child. really. i think. that's very special actually

that's unusual creates previously i used to leave mostly for myself and now i get the you. know the child to give advice to give. my wife. i'm going to be through with you just to get. to help people so i came to this world to be useful. because taking care of her and provided for the family. but the. loss of hope and. there is. much more loft in the house right now where one of the she's the most precious thing that i have. i feel the face.

during the great depression which old mr remember there was most of my family were unemployed. and it wasn't it was bed you know much worse subjectively than day but there was an expectation that things are going to get better. there was a real sense of hopefulness there isn't today today's america was shaped by the turn principles of concentration of wealth and power. reduced democracy attack solo debt engineer elections manufacture consent and other principles according to no i'm chomsky one set of rules for the rich opposite.

that's what happens when you put her into the hands of a narrow sector of will switch will is dedicated to increasing power for chills just as you'd expect one of the most influential intellectuals of our time speaks about the modern civilization of america. said she stressed to me not long but must take a survey and i'm going to she wasn't at the middle of the internet in yet to. see other question was to you she didn't taste a tasty dish she's a c.e.o. which quite a long. thought which she never happened and i know what you mean and i must get your car moment in the air force you shan't. want to go to the show through my it's your bonus for should be if you. get there mr hazlewood

support of i'm still with them to spirit over 4 years you seem to be a valuable piece that it's a studio actually the person who goes to the phone calls or should stop them spinning. expressed shock. if they did a good dentist and bad evidence the bad terrorists and those in yemen who the united states deems to be a threat the looked at it is those who work in syria the cia and the us military were engaged in covert actions really throughout the world. where they were assassinating populist leaders they were backing up the right way military juntas funding an army of death squads there's no any more because there's always a small people for really good that's. for profit.

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