and so as a thank you sir i actually wake up pretty early in the morning 5 am and i go to different hospitals that in doing all the n.y.p.d. precincts like this morning we did 5 precincts in brooklyn going from place to place just kind of show nothing thank you so they are in good so that some of them are working around the clock especially hospital didn't even have time for breaks or to go get through so i am doing that part of it you know just to contribute in any way that i possibly can to help and then head back home and work from home like everybody else. well what a nice gesture and if one has to quarantine to polish one's karma is certainly at the light for endeavor good for you kiddo when you say you part it's so funny to me it's such health times to think you can partner with duncan donuts which in the past would have been the antithesis of running a no you're actually not partnering with that tell me tell me about that cooperative well i love donuts and i don't put

a smile on my face so i it's just about giving back i'll tell you this is where i just came from when i i thought i was worked in the recovery efforts on 911 and we worked around the clock in the i remember working in literally going through things and you know going through that part of it never member there's mcdonald's at the time and there is a mcdonald's cart going to come by every day after you know different i was or during the day and come over be like 8 do you want some food are you hungry and it's just burgers or chicken nuggets or something and i remember that and it stayed with me and i was just like thank you so much never measure being so grateful for that small gesture and i think it stayed with me over the years and now that i'm not the 1st responder i remember thinking like what can i do you know when i was like you you want to feel good and how can i help make people feel good and that's really where it came from. well listen every other i assume in the security

business i would assume and especially with secret service details with 4 people i often think secret service agents must be good poker players because there has to be a lot of observation of different types there i think you have to tell what's going on to a large degree before it goes on i'm watching the for a zone between staying at home everybody wants to take care of each other to the green we can and certain people in certain parts of the country now it's not quite working what are you seeing what is your. what are what is your a student i telling you about where the american populace is with the stay at home . i would say just just shy of orders were where do you see the people at. i think you have to i think you have to groups the majority of people are listening i fear the majority are listening but i think it's going to get harder because i mean here

in new york they just extended it governor cuomo came out and he extended the stay home to make it seems now made and. the out so i think now is where we're going to see a little bit more unrest i think you're going to see a little bit more pushback and people feeling like hey i've had enough of this and that's where we might start to see problems a bit but it really i mean you decide as individual how you want to deal with it and i think can you really understand it is it's a huge problem is a pandemic and sometimes maybe it's not right in front of your face if you're home you're not really seeing the actual consequences of what's happening unless you're in a hospital unless you've lost somebody unless you've been really really ill yourself and i think of that group of people that have not exist had direct experience that are going to struggle the most with following these orders up until now i think we're all we're the majority are doing well and listening and then of course you have a group of people that are resistant and not following along but i do think we've done well and this point the question is not dentist like how are we going to do

from this point forward because it's no one expects this is expecting it to go on islam and we're going to go out a 2nd month. well you know and we're talking to every pump or as the book is becoming bulletproof we'll get to the book in a 2nd but obviously and he chapped and contemporary american dieter around the world now starts with the copa 19 and how the countries are reacting to it i assume in your job over the years and certainly have worked as a 1st responder you worked at the secret service i'm sure you've been a security consultant to some degree it's when it hits the fan it hits the fan hard and it is absolutely shocking and i sometimes look at the world around me right now and i think well it's maintaining all the gravitational pulls of civilization but boy when it cracks i hope that somebody knows we have to siphon off pressure here periodically because if you don't and it cracks it cracks

fast doesn't it i'm sure you've seen things go from good good good to hell in a hand-basket like that over your career. you know any can any of these people's reactions panic can you can you manage your panic can you manage this fear response i mean we are never very very reactionary state usually you want to try to catch this as quickly as possible has early as possible so that you're as proactive as possible so we're not seeing the numbers and we're not seeing this this you know situation that we're and because we're in a pretty rough situation so could we would have been great to have been a bit more proactive and and minimized where we are yes but now we're ems reactionaries where we just literally reacting to what's happening what's responding and to some degree we're doing damage control the best the best we can but you want to manage also people as managing people not creating fear and panic because that some people who lose it they don't they don't do well in those

environments and can you manage those people and that you know that's not just from a health perspective but then from a lot of fortunate perspective the worry are people they listen or are they going to snap are they going to crack really in a panic and is that going to build up over time if you will ringback let us you know i think dennis they want to feel like that there's a resolution you know what is this going to end i think that's another car we're frustration exists where nobody knows our officials are. we're talking every punk course the book is becoming bulletproof i want to get to the book right now you talk about panic you know when i've had a few in my life and i don't mean panic attacks i mean where i thought oh this could go horribly wrong right now and i must say that i would need some actual behavior modification tips from you and help to quell that feeling because even me being aware of that i was going into a zone i remember snowmobile ride once on and off track or to start to get weird and i was saying brother you better start breathing here and focusing and paying

attention to this earth this is one of those stories you read about and you think how did it go that weird on that it goes weird quick it goes were gradually and quickly how do you stay calm give me your 3 best tip savvy so create a disruptor meaning when you well with that situation that you're sent sharing your adrenalin is kicking in your body sensing dangerous things dest like we feel we see something happening here we want to our lives so when you're feeling that that rapid heartbeat the swelling that change the physical physiological change you should recognize your body is trying to help here. instead of being afraid of it embrace it and then using that emotion try not to let it overwhelm you not to be afraid of it and so that you can try to think as clearly as possible you don't want to do this which a lot of people do when they're especially when they're driving a car accident the number one thing people do is they take their hands off the wheel and the cars are us and that's what you don't want to do you don't want to

let fear run the show it's like i'm on this i have some level of control and i need to exert that control but the more you're around stressful situations the more comfortable you'll be doing that as an unexplained you go snowmobiling you'll be more aware of that the other thing is when you are having some type of panic maybe it's not in such a dire situation that may be a stressful thing with work the one thing i do is do nothing don't call don't tax don't right remove yourself when this reaction is happening and now it is happening just stop do nothing and then let's check in with yourself a little bit later let some time past or introduce a disruptor and disruptors also something that helps you break the chair or in the mental life that you're in whenever you're in that negative loop or that panic loop you can do it with meditation you can do it was going to work out you can do it with putting on a movie that makes you feel good you want to change what is happening here you want

to disrupt it that makes sense. of course you have to throw something in there just as a firewall to get you back to square one it's like walking into a fight or something and you get creased to soon as you come into the door i would say your 1st thing is to kind of gather assimilate see what's happening and that's what happens when the few times i've had listened panic attacks are one thing anxiousness one thing i've had a couple or as a while this is this is right on the birds and that's that's when you need this book i think becoming bulletproof ensuring your safety in any situation not every one pours divides your strategy into 3 main areas protection as i referred to earlier i assume and our job reading people and influence what you explain all 3 of those and what's due one before the break then we're going to take a break we'll come back we'll get the 2 on the other side but tell me how important protection is and what you mean by that exactly so protection i am going to do 2

parts physical protection which means how you physically protect yourself in the while loop and a lot of people ask me why sense a situational awareness being aware of what's going on around you the majority protecting yourself is just knowing what's going on around you nobody's going to attack you or do anything to you the majority of time date they they look for opportunity to look for someone who's distracted or not being. right people who attack who commit crime they're not looking for any fight to just looking for the person that's going to go down and say well we want to be aware that we exude confidence how you might have somebody look at you destiny like that or he looks a little crazy you it's like he's going to fight back no thank you. that's what it will get me the only thing we look at is protection when it comes to mental resilience when it comes to you filtering what you allow into your life whether it's people or situations so for example right now if we were to bring it back to call it if you're constantly watching the news and all you hearing about is all these people are or got all these people out if that's what you're watching

constantly you that's the barrage of information you're getting that's going to affect you and it's going to affect your psyche and it's going to put you in that more fear based honey well so everything is a big deal everything is dangerous everything is harmful so it's about creating a filter of what we allow in and what we keep out. we are going to take a break now every palm pours as our guest the new book is becoming bulletproof i also want to talk to her about what it's like to well quite frankly be responsible for the lives of presidents or of them in her case and when we do come back we'll talk about her next main areas reading people and influence and show explain each one horse this is dennis miller plus one.

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streisand p. 4 p. fool who read people are the luckiest people because i think you can get some real good info before anything ever goes down if you read people what should i look for in a what do they say and to top gun in a potential bogey what do you look for. arianna i totally are not going to have the vote you know it's we need people who want because we want to make sure we're what somebody is saying is in harmony with what they're actually they actually meet and people lie all the time in the research shows that someone to like sometimes and others. and that we also like multiple to. sometimes in an. hour you all i know i'm great how are you meanwhile you know i just got only a few tracks my husband right but weeding people assessing people really is about the number one thing i can tell you because there are so many parts when it's paying attention they acted listening so then when you're when you are talking to

someone like are you completely taking them in now you say to people open your eyes and listen what are they doing are they connected with you i think listening to you so for example if you and i have a conversation and your arms are cross-tree or you're fidgeting you're not wholly present that lets me know he's not connected he's not connecting with me and i have to pivot i have to adjust and when it comes to red flags in attempting deception there are so much there but we look at 3 main things that people with people the body body language and those are called red flags behaviors of the things people do so for example if you are talking right now and we're doing this interview now what i mean i don't assume interview my hands of buildout he would not put anything in front of my face well that's a us me a question i'll make it up who is a president you hate you you you despise you who is the one person who you dislike protecting right and all those that and i do this. before i answer you that is a red flag because like you know the whole time i was sitting here issues her hands

are down she's been a certain way with me and i asked him this question and there's a shit there was a change or maybe i just not it doesn't necessarily mean about to lie to you bill what it tells me is like i need to pay attention to what she's going to say. and so we want to look at what people are like there based lives of who they are normally we're having our last conversation and then when you throw in those curve balls and you're interviewing people this is really him exams when you're interviewing people and you see that shift let's say i'm like this all of us across my arms all of a sudden start scratching my head you cause and say i just asked her this question why the change and then you certain of her and questions and then even with the language listen the language people use are they really enjoying the question of to the limit do they go to a completely different direction lot of people they don't like the question they want answered if you want to them of those things in out when they're committing to something usually when people commit to something to say i did this i were here

that shows accountability but if somebody leaves i out in the conversation that's also ref lexer there are so many different things to look at when it comes to human behavior but the biggest thing is paying attention if you're not paying attention you're going to miss all. yes keep the antenna up we're talking every bump or as the book is becoming bulletproof i also want to get to the t.v. show serial briefly let's just touch on the 3rd main area of your overall plan number one is protection to use reading people where you mean by influence. me that one doesn't but i don't quite get that one as much what do you mean by influence just waiting people to give us what we want how we hear from you know so yes how do you get that deal that you want that isn't this deal that look you know that t.v. show whatever it is ready to go shooting with someone or to do an interview how do you get them to say yes and so sometimes people are very resistant and we try to figure out how do i get this person to understand and so there are certain

techniques and strategies mary losing body language occurring people's body language acceptance acceptance is a lie somebody to say what they want to say letting them go and then coming in later in their liver in what you want to say is that it's trying to force it in that moment so there's all these differences and they're actually science based strategies based on science and psychology of how we respond as people their techniques say you can use the new super subtle to help you negotiate but i have to connect better with people in these are we kind of sway people who are resistant to the direction that you want. now i see you for clues for presidents i'm sort of fascinated by that i don't know what layer you were in with each of the 4 presidents i assume they were the 2 bushes and clinton and obama i'm guessing that but. what when they when the new president comes in do you have to definitely i guess adjust your game to that that human being right it must be

interesting that i don't know kind of fit them in the right way. you do because each think of it this way every president has their own personality and so is their good administration and they're going to work and behave a certain way but you know what we have to adapt i have to doubt they deny they don't add up to me i doubt it to them when i say i am in the agency in general when they lie but they don't like it it's always a compromise but every administration has like its own unique personality and they behave and acted in different ways and look they're all extraordinary they're all fascinating in her own ways i personally served on the obama detail and that's when you get assigned somebody for like a 24 you know you're with them consistently and that was like they call it face to my latter part of the year that everybody gets to the president's detail and i was with him and the mrs for basically all the time i had no other responsibilities the previous presidents those those were our presidents where helped in a supplemental capacity so because we also worked investigations and investigations

and interrogations that did interviews so we were doing those and then working a supplemental capacity to help out the former details the former president or the current president so there are so many different layers to invite by that you get exposed on different people and then you're protecting your children you're protecting for has a state you know in new york we have the u.n. there's constantly for has a state coming to the u.s. secret service is mandated to protect any foreign head of state coming to the u.s. because they don't want anybody getting assassinated on u.s. soil so protection is such a big big thing but it's beyond just the press. that we're talking to every palm porous and god she's led a fascinating life she has a new book out it's called becoming bowl approved i assume it's for people across both sexes i don't know do you have you ever. done seminars for women are that i always say i think of women or learning from

a tough woman and i think that must really resonate with them as opposed to just another guy expelling them how to deal with bags grace in this book for both everybody wrote i love it you know and it's interesting that you bring it up because when i 1st started writing the book they were you know you get guidance from people it's like oh you should write for women in the house like no this is for everybody like this exist for everyone everything in this book is not just for women it's for men too and ironic that a lot of people don't know what men are more likely to be victims of violent crime women are more likely to be that them some type of sexual assault but men are going to need to be victims of violent crime and so i was very determined i think just because i'm a woman i'm not going to write a book from this book is for everything i wrote it gender neutral it tips the strategies it's all stuff that i learned from the best of the best to training academies to working with some of the greatest and most brilliant people and so i

took it all and put it in the book and i really was kind of like this is not another i am woman hear look this is just like look this is where i learned i help you can help you tell me about spy games i don't know much about it i know it premiered early this year tell the folks yes just live games is a competition series where we had 10 contestants and it was essentially a slave do you how would it takes to be a spy and we create these missions so to speak and every episode you put in for a mission we put it through some type of training then mission and then we see how well they perform are when's this $100000.00 in the end but my i was myself i was one of the judges on the show. the 8 agent officer and a former f.b.i. agent served with 3 of us will put them through these scenarios then we would test them on and we'll see how it performs who did well who panics you know who was fair based who was not good at listening you know it was we really. player experience from training and trying to put it on the individual and when i run it into it you

know interesting what happened is we also make a transition happen from especially those contestants that stayed on the competitors est onselen the end you see kind of like who they were when they 1st came in and this of olution of who they became towards the end of the series which is kind of similar to like training me with your training if you come in one way the new leave a different way. and that is really the essence of the show it was pretty pretty awesome some of the missions i wanted to do myself it will hang up on the side of a building and have them memorize something and then take a test on it put it in an ice bath and solve a puzzle so it's really about. taking that the the mental part and the physical part in testing and testing them in both simultaneously putting stress on him how do you perform under stress do you break do you excel. i hope when you gave the 100000 dollars you put in a parcel died near the aldrich ames bridge where he used to leave his drops.

just for a legitimate visit we put up that we're having here on every and we got a whole bunch of social media questions people are fascinated by stuff like this it has its own intrigue it also has its own pragmatism and the times we live in i think everybody so i guess i had a rifle with anxiety that they want some sort of comment to have in a book like this provides it so let me read a few questions to you brian hart on facebook. which president actually needed the most protection where the higher threats to some more than ever the others are you not supposed to speak out of turn about stuff like that. some of it is classified so i won't speak too much about it but what i can say is every every president had their own unique threats so if you look at george bush jr right towards the end of his presidency he had a lot of threats simply because people were very didn't agree with him politically about the war and different things there so he had

a different level of threats then you have someone like present barack obama who he was given he had other threats based on his his race and so every president and it's the time it's like how do people feel about that president what is happening in the world are people happy are people not happy and so that it's kind of the flush with president bush if you think about in the beginning everybody loved him and then there was a shift so it's is never a kind of static across the board it changes it changes you know you adapt to it so there's no clear answer to that but they they they do you assess you know the threats that do come in they they add allies and the categorize them what type the are with their heads up based on prejudice whether it's grace based on you know political view whether it's based on somebody maybe having in a normal interest in someone we protected sometimes it didn't matter what they were just getting threat simply because they were present in the united states goes with the turf sadly in the times right. cindy harrington writes and this is

a good one to wrap it up like because i'm alert to news by this i knew 43 a lot i found him to be a funny guy as i did 41 who was the funny this president that you worked with or they i didn't i have i assume put and had a good set see over 2 in a way but who do you remember making your life what a great irony oh now yeah yeah he did that. part of him you know just he wasn't him. i spent a little time with their i don't want to do that thing where every but i just remembered you'd sit there and you're in a weird state because you're the president you think i guess this is going to be stilted and then all of a sudden he leans over and says something to you that's. and then of course you're reminded there are tears gags you know it's of way to just people. yeah he was a he was a funny guy you're a fascinating woman evi paul boris and the bravo series i'm sure you can find

somewhere everything stays around in perpetuity now and it sounds like a fun thing i'm going to try it at spy games at premier earlier this year sounds like they've completed the season but as i said everything stays perpetually available and the new book is called becoming bulletproof and it's available online and in stores now and every i appreciate your time you are you are definitely the spy who stayed in from the cold at this point in history to thank you for joining us thank you so much for having me jim. thank you. this is a story about what happens auster a stray bullet kills

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