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through lately. let's ask 2 who have walked us through months of shutdown, anxiety, new york based psychotherapist, nancy collyer, and mark rutherford, a psycho therapist in private practice in california. welcome back folks. even without the cliffhanger on election night, we have been through months and months of campaign acrimony, even if you tried to tune it out. it's an awful lot, nancy and then mark, how do we put that behind us? i hate to be the starter of contention, but i don't think we put it behind us actually. i think we have to live with it to a certain extent. the only way to anxiety is through it. we like to deny it or avoided or be done with it. but we are living in

a time where there is a very divided country, tremendous amount of conflict and all sitting with the bass up coated. and we have to make space for the fact that this is a time like no other and put our energy on what can we control in our lives? what creates joy in our lives, where can we be presence in our lives? but acknowledging that, of course, there is anxiety. this is a time like no, i don't think we can deny that. yeah, a full worldwide pandemic can bring us all together. you wonder if we're just going to be tribal forever? mark, what do you tell in the folks you counsel about all this? bring it down to the basics, bring it down to the simple components of just human understanding of what's

happening in the world today. kind of what nancy said, there is this larger events happening in the world and it's difficult to process. i see a lot of teenagers and i practice. they have a very difficult time processing it. i try to bring it down to as simple forms of human reactivity as you can. that when we are faced with a situation that we have no control over that either we run away from it or that we kind of feed into the fear. and the best that you can do is keep on it's a structure, keep on a schedule, do the things that, that are expected of you knowing that there is this unknown in our future. and that, that's always the case. it's just highlighted by where we are today. here. this has been a whack on the side of the head, but here comes thanksgiving and christmas and hanukkah. it's the only time of the year when we get to hug people that we only get to hug once a year. nancy, how do we approach the holidays emotionally, being alone this time?

gosh, this is so hard and i really do hope people are careful and don't just give in to the desire to be physically close when it's not wise. again, you know, this very sort of unsexy advice of acknowledging the reality that this is big. and we have to do what we have to do, but a little bit, thinking about mark said, you know, not letting it become a huge narrative, a huge story, not letting it run off into a future of do. keeping it very much here. how can we show affection? how can we be close and intimate and express gratitude? perhaps without a hug this year? or perhaps we get tested ahead and we hug, although i would, you know, check that. but this is a time for really, paradoxically,

finding gratitude in smaller things, not reaching for the big ones. we may not be able to vacation around the world this year at be out shopping and doing all this. where can we find appreciation and gratitude and joy in the simple, in a certain way. all of these restrictions are an incredible invitation to come back to be of life had what actually feeds us, margo, some of those who counsel our children and holidays are a time of the year that parents live to make special for them. what are you telling the younger people you counsel and their parents? for the parents, it is the mantra to the children, whether they're 5 years old or 15 years old, that everything's going to be ok. we're going to make this

a good holiday. it's going to be a holiday that we will remember. you can't lie to the kids. they know that something's up and you know, we're in a world of social media and connectedness. and these kids, you know, so you can't tell them something that isn't true. you say yes, it's a, it's as you know, difficult time in our world and capital a capital in capital d. bold faced underlined and we're going to be ok. we've got our family, we've got our friends, we've got our loved ones. we may not be able to see them all in person, but let's figure out some innovative ways. do we zoom grandma? do we text back and forth picture is how do we stay connected? and, and it's going to be ok, which you know, whether they're 5 or 15, the developing mind for children. that's what they want to know. we don't have the answers get, pretend that we do, but we can give them that reassurance so that they can grieve and be in the moment . you know, we boomers grew up hearing our parents talk about the great depression and their

childhood and my dad marched off to world war 2. i think we're going to recall this in the future. and our kids are going to grow up having this in their experience that nancy, i was struck by a piece you recently wrote for psychology today, asking must we always be striving for a better life, shifting from the 5 year plan to the right now plan and you're right, we are supposed to have a to do list for our future and a plan to get there. and if we don't, we are certain to mess out that future of our dreams, nancy, many of last work and one way or another, most of us are recalibrating, where we go from here. can everything we're living through maybe be nudging us toward a better way of living? 100 percent and again, that's the silver lining. here is when you remove all of the structure of where we're getting to getting to right. every workshop you attend is you know,

what do you want to create in 5 years? where do you want to be? what are you shooting for all wonderful and helpful? but what they do is they hold us away from this present moment. they pull away from the importance of being actually where we are, and this pandemic, this loss of ground in terms of our political comfort and so on. is this incredible opportunity because we don't know what the future is. i mean, the truth is we never have, but we've created all of this illusion that we do. but admits is really the time to put our full attention on what's happening here and what can i create in this moment. it might be very small. what's goal can i attend to senior? what is this moment like? these are invitations when quality of life when we step inside

now. and if there's anything that this time 2020 is giving us the chance to do, since we can't count on anything in 5 minutes, 10 minutes, what have you, what's this moment like? and that's when this moment becomes incredibly interesting and valuable and joyful, almost no matter what it contains. and i just want to say one thing to what mark said too, which is that sense of it's going to be ok. it's not just for kids, right? grownups need to feel that way too, but we are redefining what all ok, looks like. it may not have all the content that we're used to it happening. it may not have all the cash and prizes and bells and whistles and tricks and so on. but it's what could be all ok. so these 2 are a hand shake the moment the present. and it's all going to be ok.

year after year, in normal times by new year's eve were really ready to kiss off the old year. and we're optimistic about the new year. but we know the pandemic is going to be resurging various economic uncertainty. what will the next 4 years in washington deliver us with all of that on our plate, mark could just suggest some new year's resolutions for 2021. don't make them. you know, it's the, it's the idea that we, every year lies the promise of the unknown. right? and so this, this year there has been, it's been such a year that the potential of thinking about the unknown, it's heightened for people in the eckerd told book power of now i think i've handed the book out or suggested it 50 times. it's this idea of how do we stand a moment, like when and he said, how do we be grateful for what we have today?

and how do we embrace the idea of the no different, you know, the idea of the scariness of the unknown towards the possibility it's abundance deaf kind of thinking. you know, it's a recalibration that we can be in our lives. be happy and grateful you have not know what the future will bring, the hoping, and that's a universal human truth, whether it's 2020 or 1901. mark rutherford in florida, nancy collar in new york, you have a gift. as robert de niro said in that movie, you're very good every time you're on this show, i feel better, and you're always welcome here. thank you for stepping again into the big picture. as election, noise became deafening, and we were all pandemic weary. we were reminded that we have done and still can do great things as nasa. scientists discovered

water on the sunlit surface of the moon. not much water, but a 12 ounce bottles worth nasa estimates trapped in a cubic meter of lunar soil. a still paul hertz, director of nasa is astrophysics division says this discovery challenges our understanding of the lunar surface and raises intriguing questions about the resources relevant for deep space exploration. this is real, instructive to hopes to send the most powerful rocket ever made back to the moon on board the 1st woman, and the next man to walk there. the artemis program is named after the twin sister of apollo in greek methodology, and nasa says we will collaborate with our commercial and international partners and establish sustainable exploration by the end of the decade. then we will use what we learned on and around the moon to make the next giant leap,

sending astronauts to mars. but as with everything else here on earth, author and veteran space journalist john business says there's a pandemic factor masses. ambitious plan to build a large booster to have the capability to go back to the moon and on to mars that continues to be beset by technical blows. i'm still not very optimistic that 2024 will be my that. and now there's a new question with the impact of the federal budget from the pandemic. questions are being raised about how much money will be available. nasa did distribute money or only set up contracts for 3 different companies to compete, to build a lunar lander. so they're still on track to do it. just probably not as soon as they might like. coming up the grinch is plotting to steal your christmas and your,

money and your identity. stephen j. j. wiseman has a holiday scam alert when we come back. this is the big picture on our t. america. there are tactics that can be used to get innocent people to confess, to crimes. they didn't commit. i don't even think people in the us really get that the police are allowed to lie to the person who falsely confessed, actually came to believe the lie that they were told about their own behavior. once a false confession is taken, the case is closed and nobody really can tell the difference between a good confession. and one that isn't in germany, babies are mixing french babies,

which is so those that actually follow the rhythmic pattern which is so you know, so where did they get that turns out she looked into it the 1st, what was happening was that the babies could actually hear their mother's speech in the room here come the holidays and with them, the wise guys who are out to rip you off how to dodge the grinch. let's ask the author of a stack of books including identity theft, alert 10 rules. you must follow to protect yourself from america's number one crime and the truth about voiding scams. scams can be high tech, low tech,

or no tech to be prepared. attorney beth lee university professor and your guardian . at scam aside. com stephen jay. jay wiseman steve, you vote warned us all along that there's a reason they're called scam artists and now they are numb bold enough to exploit that coronavirus as at work. it's a mix of i actually was very pleased gammons. i was named by the new york times who talked to sleep, can you go to find out about the virus and in fact, all seventy's or eighty's in the ones that would see right now there are 2 really big ones. we know are a lot of clinical trials and people want to get involved in the clinical trials to do, i think. and also they're paying the $12500.00 that were just so that scammers are contacting, you did tell you that, you know,

they will sell the list if you need to go to the heart of the michael trial or it lists to islam. so again, you know, my motto, trust me, you can't trust anyone, a place to go is the web site of the national institute of health. they haven't data big there that you can access to let you know about all of the different political try. and it will give you the information you want to just never want to use. a lot of people only about 9000000 people did not get their chairs. then you just say, well $100.00 because the hand while the fact that the i.r.s. since june a letter is telling them to apply. and they only have until november 21st to floss . the scammers are contacting, posing as the i.r.s. to do the same thing. so if you didn't get a share that chip in the filing tax rates go to iras,

you'll get all of these permissions there on how do we will definitely, let's do this before. hey steve, a, congratulations on that recognition. i have all along urged people who watch us to bookmark your site. scam aside, dot com. it's free and seems got a scam of the day that you want to be aware of. as if this pandemic had not already supercharged e-commerce. amazon has become the virtual north pole, and i like how we can track the packages we've ordered, but your warning that the scam stores are loving it to be wary of emails pretending that help you track amazon packages. yes they live here is a thing, you know, we're all getting many, many m's on taxes. so you're going to be getting e-mails. we're going to be getting text messages about some the issue we use your package in delivery in the me were

you with clicking on the link for more information, clicking on that link to download value, or they want some information from you verify address that suddenly they want your credit card number, the number so possible. you look at the address that is simply mean and yet he doesn't look like it's on amazon and a lot of times they don't and people don't check to look. you know, that it's so close. but frankly, you can't even trust it, even if it looks really sophisticated, criminals can make that, you know, as this looks like it's legit. so that simple thing to do is go to amazon, you know, the amazon and you'll be able to get information about this problem with the list. but make sure if you're you going to the right and design a web site that the bad guys have also that only web sites that look like the one of the very, very careful and check it. yeah,

i would just ignore the e-mails because you can track my order at amazon dot com. but when packages are delivered, the porch pirates are lurking. what so many of us in work at home owed, steve, is that less of a threat this year? yeah, you know, a lot of us are whole and so it does make it easier as far as a live report. not everybody is able to be there when the delivery morning. now you can have it such that you have the neighbor on the lookout to pick something up. you can also have a signature event that sometimes delays the yams on friday and actually has the special apps that you where you were matter, no matter where you are. you have a camera that can watch the delivery person contact you when you're about to make the list. and then you from a distance using the app are able to walk your home, let the delivery prison in. they drop it off then you then they leave and you can

lock your home from a distance and track the delivery person holes. so it's something that's pretty interesting to use. yeah. simple enough about the buddy system with their next door neighbors. we love our phones and caller id, but caller id can fit but not everybody who calls who is who caller id claims they are. right, steve? you know, you know, this is something that's a very, very simple tactic. you use like this. there is an identity in this house and troops who think they can make your caller id whatever they want. next, only look like it's coming from amazon i.r.s. . your local least are one of the any kind of a political candidate or whatever. and so you know what, i'm getting more of a text message or phone call. never thing that you were always,

you can contact. so you'd feel good about personal information over the all sponsoring e-mail or in response to a text message unless you absolutely confirm that we are speaking with attorney author bentley, university professor and a scam buster stephen j. j. wiseman from scam aside dot com. steve, shoppers smart shoppers, love coupons, but like the news itself, the coupons have migrated from newspaper to online, and that's where the wise guys show up some rules of the road for coupons. yeah, this is who has a great view of the of like to move without. and if you say no gone online, a lot of people are getting their coupons, true social media. a lot of people are getting their coupon through social media. and that's before. 1 how do you know if it's a legit coupon or not?

and the easy, easy responses will never end. and the problem is 1 may not be too, they may be looking for information on you in order to sign up for the coupon or 3 . just merely even looking on that. who want to download mail, where i think you're so once again, you can't trust them, but there's an easy, easy solution in the solution. you just go to the website all that and get in the companies that they want to be. all of their real lines will be there and you can get this once again, make sure you're going to the real web sites of you going to hopefully, you know, looking them up on google. don't be so confident just because it comes up lies that they're asked to design with the use of security cameras. are able to manipulate the algorithms that google and the other search and make sure you're at the right web site. another website called we've got a good site in the u.r.l.

of the website we've gone through, and i'll tell you who really owns the best place to go. if you want to leave the store. i love gift cards for 2 reasons. number one, the recipient buys what he or she wants, and i've never picked the wrong color or guessed the wrong size. and because everything goes on sale in january, there is a specially good deal and the 2020 below a holiday retail survey forecast that 72 percent of shoppers will gift gift cards, save gift cards, what could possibly go wrong with anything. here's what that does. do they walk into the store? they go over to the stand, the take the car off and they have at the end, else the end of the stand, the net strip on there. and then they put it back. and then when there's someone to borrow that money on that and how do they know that this money on the card,

they keep calling the 800 number on the back of the card, which you can do that, check all much you have on when they find out it's unloaded, bull, they access it in shop online. believe the solution here. you know, you can turn a will see if you think the arts and really the vessel you should use by, as you are from the racks outside the with the fullest in. yes, from the high and the count from behind the counter. and you can be pretty sure that it's just not needed or you're right. they are, there is a reason they call them scam artists. see, that's the most generous time of the year, and charities will come calling. how do we know that those reaching out to us are for real? i got about a minute. that thing, if you're on the federal, you know,

did it but never be sure. great. let's gerrity navigator thought though that will tell you not only whether the, let's say how much of the money they let those terrible for themselves, sharing every bit god or tell you which charities to do and how the charity navigator dot org. and steve's website is scam aside. steve wiseman, thank you again for stepping into the big picture always and thank you for watching the big picture. it will be very different how a mood this year and santa is hoping you'll watch. next week's show for some tips. and if you're unable to watch it live,

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