i think one of the worst things as a kid is what you want to do. it's not what you want to do. it's why do you do the things you do? you could design a life that is focused on your watch. being aware of work as a way of expression. people ask me what motivates me every day and i look, i'm just being me. i started my company because it was an expression of myself. i am just painting on a canvas. but i think if we can teach them that, think of their work and their life as a place to express themselves and then dream what they see themselves becoming. having that strategic mistake makes you think more long term rather than the short term what athletes are told to picture making the shot before they take the shot. and i think that the same thing is true for the rest of us. we have to picture what our goal is, is looking like and not just pick an arbitrary goal, but what do we want our life to look like?

and then create a plan to get there. and we can help kids do better, but it's in their own hands. it's in their hands, that's a lesson every kid should learn. and those sort of stuff, the responsibility i can make sure that i never will be poverty. and my kids in the loop are weak. if i do the right thing. oh, my name's wendy. i'm 18 years old. i go to caprica high school and i am a senior this year. there was 8 of us don't live together. there is a 3 bedroom house. there was a lot of trouble when the economy had and everything my parents, both, they both had lost. it was kind of hard for us to even like cat food,

all my life even now i'm still on free and reduced lunch. so now my little brother has free and reduced lunch and there was 5 of my sophomore year. i was 15. i was on a journey with r.b.c. and coming back slowly nauseous from there and the started noticing that i was feeling different. so i carry there, believing. are you pregnant and like i don't think i'm believe like i eat all the time. like, well, i've watched the pregnancy tests and i was like, what kind of like that are. and so there's the pregnancy test that came out positive and just kind of frightening. so my mom told me what any other parent would say to their kid. you're going to be fine. we're going to get through this. no matter what happens. what am i going to do

with my going to finish school? how am i going to do any of the set all? just terrified out of my mind, it turns out in the u.s. right now as an awful lot of children are being born to parents and parents who are not married to each other. that is about 50 percent of the birth, the youngest generation, in other words, about half of the birth. and the youngest generation are babies born outside of marriage to typically quite young parents. we have normal over the years. there will still be kids who are single parent, generally education or they also have kids come from, there are

a couple things more of our kids who are with their married parents live for their whole childhood with their married parents. that also can make a huge difference, they'll do better in school, they'll be more likely to college. and even though they might compositions magically over the last 3 or 4 decades, more kids are in still families who are kids who are both there. so i think americans are going to figure this out. single parents alone have high stress levels. stigma comes against them because they're single parents says teenagers, we have these adult problems that we feel like we're adults. but we're very malleable in the sense that we're still children in a way. our emotions go up and down and happens is so many kids are making these very tough decisions around friends and peer groups. and they're making a lot of decisions around relationships and who they're falling love with and the

intimacy with those people. and it's just this kind of like these tough things, like what really, a lot of kids in poverty. i never thought i would ever play because i was i am, i feel i am offending i do so much charity work so much community service or everyone at school is like when the spring is a shift mark that she would get away from her family isn't she the church girl, i never thought this would happen. you don't think from one night. something is going to pop out 9 months later. you just think, oh, it happened once here. keep going, the 5 and a half. and know what? you see the picture in blue euro whole world just turned upside down. and when about participating in risky behavior,

whether we're talking about having sex, doing drugs, drinking, watching pornography, whatever it is, getting involved in social media becoming really addicted to whatever device it is that you're using. if we're talking about any of those risks to be, i think it's important to consider the outcomes of those things. it's important to consider that we're not living for just this month. of a child. don't really think about the cost that it takes to be a parent, the cost in time, the cost and finances. and i would encourage you to wait until you're married before you have kids wait until, you know you've got that 2nd parent, that 2nd income that can help you raise that child. what kills me is when i see a kid with all the academics to rock it, you know, they get these all lazy. finally, they finally break this glass ceiling where they put all this hard work in their academics. and then they get pregnant with their,

with their high school sweetheart. and i think literally just take 3 steps back. and i think it's because there's this intelligence, we just don't talk about like relationship and the strategy around what you do as an emotional being always been a daddy's girl. i would go to him for everything. and i got pregnant. he distance and stuff along. he had different views than i did when i told him i was going to keep matthew. you're going to keep going to keep you like he saw me completely. i had matthew on april 26th. i called a month later to see how he was doing to catch up to see if he wanted to see my son . he calls me. he's like, i still can't believe you decided to keep. you could've had

a future. now you're not going to have anything. and it's been built 3 years and i haven't heard from one. i've heard it from people. one of my teachers actually when i wasn't there. and everyone from the class told me she said if wendy was my daughter, i would take the baby away from her and raise it myself. bush. sure. but now she's not going to amount to anything. and hearing it from my dad now and saying, you're not going to announce anything. you're not going to have a future anymore. because i decided to keep, my son broke me. and we as a society have lied to you in this. we've been dishonest with. because what we have said is that you can behave any way that you choose, you can make any decision or choice that you want to make, whatever you feel this this day,

you can make those kinds of decisions. and we will do the best that we can to alleviate the concert. but the fact is we cannot alleviate the consequences. it is true that you make your own decisions. you can choose any of these paths that you want to choose. but we are being dishonest to you when we say we can help you avoid consequences. there are consequences for the choices that you make. having sex outside of marriage is not going to fill the void that you're trying to fill. it only creates more and more of a vast, open and deep within you because you are opening yourself in the most mourner of all way to another human being who is in no way committed to. and his whose actions are really out of selfishness and likely, and a desire to meet a need that day on the day i had them. i started getting ready. i started getting

pain. and then by the time i got there, they told me it was too late. for me to have it. i'm just bawling my eyes out. i was like, i don't know what to do. i've never done this. and whenever he got there, i was scared. the 1st time i change just like i care to change the diaper, he will finish. but what do you mean you can't just type of like i can't do this, i am fix, tina i can do this. i cannot i cannot just call work and raise a child tearing at this precious little boy mile at me. and i'm thinking i can't do that at all. the only thing going through my head was i cannot do that. if you find yourself pregnant at 15, there is no easy option for you. you can choose to have an abortion, and that is not an easy option. it leaves damage for the rest of your life for you

and for your family. having a child at 15 made all kinds of issues because now you're not just a typical high school kid. your response will, for another human be you're going to have to find a way to bring in candy. you're going to have to tend to a sick baby in the middle of the night when you have homework and you have to get up early and go to class yourself. and then your other option would be to place your baby for adoption, which is the most difficult decision i've ever seen. a young person, it is a wonderful choice, and it is often the best choice for that child, but it is heart wrenching and extremely difficult. so once you find yourself in an unplanned pregnancy, we can't take away those consequences and you now have very difficult decisions to me. so i have my little brother, your life. i have well, he's about to leave to

a neighbor. i wake up at 6 in the morning at around 7, i will wake up my little brother and mother around 720. i will get back to ready. i'll drop them off at my sister's at 730. take my little brother discussed i'm 30. i get the score motor, racing, and run the rushing to get there. i get out of school at 130 and i was going to work out to get off the school. i had some of the cell. i play with matthew for the 30 minutes, but i have and then i go to work. and whenever i get my 30 minute lunch break, do the same thing. go to my sister's house and go back. and then i get off work around my. i don't want to put them both ways. after i put them both to sleep, i will start working on my homework of around $1030.00 and i usually fall asleep, but i was out. we wanted to

is your media a reflection of reality in a world transformed what will make you feel safe from high salacious community? are you going the right way or are you being that direct? what is true? what is faith? in a world corrupted, you need to descend to join us in the depths, aura made in the shallows. always be polite, never engage with a negative, aided or confrontational. also. don't get into any

conversation or start answering questions. just ask for an attorney. to survive and tear a geisha, they definitely don't want to be going to try out the jumpsuit on cups. you're more likely to walk free if you're rich and guilty or if you're poor and you've got 2 eyes and ears in one now. so you should be seen in here and a whole lot more than you're saying if you don't take that advice, easy going to dig yourself a hole. so what i would say to a 15 year old is i apologize that you had convinced

you are lying. but you are, you are selfish because i don't believe any of those things that i believe that you have purpose. i believe that greatness is only believe that you bring value into other people's lives and bring value into the lock in this child. if you choose to hear that it's not going to do things and when you have failed and it is now our job to come along. to enable you to make better choices, go my mama, watch the 1st one there. thank you mom. i love and love differently. watching him taking over my head. she told me for the 1st time. i know i never tell you this often,

but i am so proud of you. you are working for me to get everything. everything that was the best. this is what i have been working for. i'm proud of there's a group of villagers were jews by river when someone in the crew noticed a baby floating downstream one of the men rushed into the water, rescue the baby and brought it to sure. but before he could recover,

a number of babies were trying flooding downstream. before long, there was a steady flow of babies floating down the river. and the whole village was involved in the rescue efforts. pulling babies out of the water and making sure they were made safe. but not all of them could be some are pulled under by the raging river. other slipped through the villagers and others fell back into the water as the villagers tried to save them. the villagers were saving, as many babies is they could, but before long, they became exhausted from all their effort. frustrated. controversy erupted. one group argued that every possible hand was needed downstream to help rescue the babies. they didn't have everyone's help, they would lose too many downstream. the other

group argued that every possible hand was needed upstream. think of find out how the babies were getting into the water. they could save all of them and eliminate the need for the costly and time consuming efforts downstream for find out how these babies are falling into the river in the 1st place. we can stop this and no more babies will drown. if we go upstream, we can eliminate the cause of the problem. but it's too risky. some said, might fail or take too long to lose too many lives away to the ones we've lost and our future children to fix the problem upstream and save one else, calling them to get a drink from

a separate water fountain. well, how much? lower? well ok, what was different about the water coming out of it found in comparison to the mountain that was of the posts that go up. i realize most people feel completely all that life based around the winning film. you know, there are 2 ways to address poverty. one is to try to prevent it from ever occurring in the 1st place. and the 2nd is if it does occur to a 1000000, right. you know, provide people with assistance with childcare with alfie who has to be but has to be you have to help those who are in need now and you have to help. those might be

huge. and in order to do both, you have to not only work downstream, you have to know the circumstances that got us where we are, are unique. and so our approach, every person and every family and poverty, needs to be, is unique as that person in that family. and that's difficult to do, and it's a little overwhelming to think about. but people are different. it's interesting looking back historically on what we've done to address poverty in the united states. it's mostly been to provide people with assistance of various kinds and those things are needed. i think we should not leave people destitute and without such assistance. bob, there's not a lot of evidence that those things are going to move people out of poverty except temporarily. i don't think americans are in favor of simply redistributing income. what they want is to provide everyone an opportunity to get ahead on their own. we

believe in equality of opportunity, not equality of results. i went to a conference once. the conference was an opportunity conference where we invited 74 families from our community and hopes to just allow a pathway to cycle out of poverty. majority of the people in this conference were generational poverty, so they came in and they heard from dr. beagle are her story and were encouraged, it was 6 hour program. and she would say, how many of you know what it is to have a disconnect? notice how many of you know what it is to receive an eviction notice. and before long arms were coming up and she allowed them to see that if i can do it, you can too. we all have hope with this sometimes just gets buried. so i had the opportunity to visibly see hope rise to the surface of 74 people. and that's not

something that you can contain. we knew you can't contain hope. i left this place with hope and i'm going to tell everybody about it. i want them to know what i know and i'm going to succeed. because people came in the room, they didn't know me. and i matter. i wasn't born. i am hard. right? i'm no longer in this isolation where i'm irrelevant or i have to walk around and lead with this label of shame. little by little, the hope starts to take that label off. and when people come into place, you're able to replace that label with words of worth. instead of allowing that person to feel we all are the same when it comes to what our basic needs are and what our basic desires are. and i think if we really think about what we have in common with one

another, that's where we can start to create a basis of understanding a person saying, i'm not going to judge you. i'm not going to criticize you. i'm not going to devalue your lived experience because it's different than my you say to the other human being, what ever dream you've ever had is still when i was growing up, felt like there were a few kids that were completely off. and there were a few kids that were trying really hard to make good choices and really had their focus at where it needed to be. but most of us are somewhere in this gray area where we're trying to get our toes as opposed to the one as we can without completely stepping over. but we weren't really convicted either way. we're just

all kind of trying to get good at what i see now is that there are more kids off the rails. there are very few kids in this very area. but there are a lot of young people who are committed, who are strong, who are focused, who want to make good and who are making and having an impact on the people around . that is my hope for the next generation. and that hope comes from the stories that we tell that hope comes from us saying to our scholars, you can do this. we're going to stand by, we're going to help you get through this day after the power to turn the ship around. and it happens. make

a good decision and then one of the bigger you have to realize the danger you think watching this is that you can't even understand what you do today is going to play more compound interest that anything else you're playing a game that's bigger than yourself. you're playing a game for yourself, or your family's name, or your kids that don't even exist yet for your grandkids, who are going to benefit off of the hard work you put into that. not all poverty is preventable, but we know certainly that based on research and the research that we're using for our programs, some of that can be preventable. we want to help them. we want to help the community around us. nat's what we're trying to rally our community around and support a lot of times when i work with people who currently live in the crisis of poverty, they'll say i'm not smart enough to get a skill. not smart enough to go to college to ask for help. you got to ask for help

in poverty shoot, don't ask for help. that's the wrong message. nobody makes it alone. absolutely no, and we have to work together. we have to overlap with other organizations. we have to be community by and in this the key is allowing hope, but we can't allow hope we can't communicate. we can't allow worth until there's a relationship. if we can spark a movement that not only helps those who are in the river, but also gives them the tools to help their kids and their kids' kids not be in the river. that's the movement. we want only reach out to people across these barriers of, of poverty, barriers of political opinions. we can really find some unique treasures in people who are different from months and find out that they're not so different after all

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live near me on the way you'll join me every so street and i'll be speaking to give us a little bit. i'm sure. i'll see you then

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