tv Documentary RT December 1, 2020 12:30pm-1:01pm EST
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it's a nonprofit organizations, as there are, there are very sort of like self regulate, i think the best thing that a nonprofit actually can do is put their taxes like right on their web site for the public to see. and also, i mean, i think for these sort of large nonprofit organizations that, you know, get a lot of media attention. you know, what they really should do is put sort of mechanisms in place where, you know, if you had like an independent board, you had an independent auditor. you put controls, internal controls in place. that's all for this hour. but we really hope you join us and
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i think one of the worst things as a kid is what you want to do. it's not what you want to do. it's why do you do the things you do? you could design a life that is focused on your watch being aware of work as a way of expression. people ask me what motivates me every day and i look, i'm just being me. i started my company because it was an expression of myself. i am just painting on a canvas, but i think if we can teach them that think of their work and their life as a place to express themselves and then dream what they see themselves becoming. having that strategic mistake makes you think more long term rather than the short term what athletes are told to picture making the shot before they take the shot. and i think that the same thing is true for the rest of us. we have to picture what our goal is, is looking like and not just pick an arbitrary goal, but what do we want our life to look like? and then create a plan to get there. and we can help kids do better, but it's in their own hands. it's in their hands, that's
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a lesson every kid should learn. and those sort of stuff, the responsibility i can make sure that i never will be poverty. and my kids in the loop are weak. if i do the right thing. oh, my name's wendy. i'm 18 years old. i go to caprica high school and i am a senior this year. there was 8 over still live together. there is a 3 bedroom house. there was a lot of trouble when the economy hit and everything, my parents, both, they both had lost their jobs. it was kind of hard for us to even like cat food, all my life even now i'm still on free and reduced lunch now and have free with my
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little brother house free and reduced lunch and there was 5 of my sophomore year. i was 15. i was on a journey with r.b.c. and coming back slowly nauseous from there and the started noticing that i was feeling different. like you're either believe it or you're pregnant and i was like, i don't think i'm believing the like i had all the time. like, well i'd watch a pregnancy test and i was like what? it is kind of like better. and so there's a pregnancy test that came out positive then just kind of frightening. so my mom told me what any other parent would say to their kid. you're going to be fine. we're going to get through this. no matter what happens. what am i going to do when my going to finish school? how am i going to do any of the set all?
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just terrified out of my mind, it turns out in the u.s. right now as an awful lot of children are being born to parents and parents who are not married to each other. that is about 50 percent of the birth, the youngest generation, in other words, about half of the birth. and the youngest generation are babies born outside of marriage to typically quite young parents. we have normal over the years. there will still be kids who are single parent, generally education they all. and then kids who come from married couple more of our kids with their marry parents and live for their whole childhood with
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their married parents that also can make a huge difference. they'll do better in school, they'll be more likely to college. and even though they might compositions magically over the last 3 or 4 decades, more kids aren't still families who are kids or were both or so i think americans are going to figure this out. single parents alone have high stress levels. stigma comes against them because they're single parents as teenagers, we have these adult. so we feel like we're adults. but we're very malleable in the sense that we're still children in a way our emotions go up and down and go, wow, happens is so many kids are making these very tough decisions around friends and peer groups. and they're making a lot of decisions around relationships and who their phones love with them that it's, let's deal with those people. and just this kind of like these tough things, like what really enters a lot of kids in poverty. i never thought i would
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ever play because i was i am i feel as a standing that i do so much charity work so much. community service work. everyone at school is like, wendy's pain is a shift and that she would get away from her family. isn't she the church girl? i never thought that would happen. you don't think from one night. something is going to pop out 9 months later. you just think, oh, i have it once here, keep going with 5 and a half and know what? you see the picture and blow your whole world just turned upside down. and when we're talking about participating in risky behavior, whether we're talking about having sex, doing drugs, drinking,
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watching pornography, whatever it is, getting involved in social media becoming really addicted to whatever device it is that you're using. if we're talking about any of those risks to be, i think it's important to consider the outcomes of those that it's important to consider that we're not living for just this month. we have a child. don't really think about the cost that it takes to be a parent, the cost in time, the cost and finances. and i would encourage you to wait until you're married before you have kids wait until, you know you've got that 2nd parent, that 2nd income that can help you raise that child. what kills me is when i see a kid with all the academics to rock it, you know, they get these all lazy. finally, they finally break this glass ceiling where they put all this hard work in their academics. and then they get pregnant with their, with their high school sweetheart. and i literally just take 3 steps back. and i
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think it's because there's an e.q. emotional intelligence. we just don't talk about like relationship and the strategy around what you do as an emotional being always been a daddy's girl. i would go to him for everything. when i got pregnant, he distanced himself along. he had different views than i did when i told him i was going to keep matthew. you're going to keep going to keep you like he saw me completely. i had matthew on april 26th. i called a month later to see how he was doing to catch up to see if he wanted to see him. i started, he calls me this like, i still can't believe you decided to keep him. you could have had a future. now you're not going to have anything and it's been still 3 years.
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and i haven't heard from what i've heard from people. one of my teachers actually when i wasn't there. and everyone from the class told me she said if wendy was my daughter, i would take the baby away from her and raise it myself. sure. but now she's not going to amount to anything. and hearing it from my dad now and saying, you're not going to announce anything. you're not going to have a future anymore. because i decided to keep my son. it broke me. and we as a society have lied to you in this. we've been dishonest with because what we have said is that you can behave any way that you choose. you can make any decision or choice that you want to make. whatever you feel this this day, you can make those kinds of decisions. and we will do the best that we can to
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alleviate the cons. but the fact is we cannot alleviate the consequences. it is true that you make your own decisions. you can choose any of these paths that you want to choose. but we are being dishonest to you when we say we can help you avoid consequences. there are consequences for the choices that you know, having sex outside of marriage is not going to fill the void that you're trying to fill. it only creates more and more of a vast open debate within you, because you are opening yourself in the most mourner of all way to another human being who is in no way committed. and his whose actions are really out of selfish likely, and a desire to meet a need that day in the day i had started getting ready. i started getting pain and then by the time i got there, they told me it was too late for me to have it. i'm just bawling my eyes out. i was
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like, i don't know what to do. i've never done this. and whenever he got there, i was scared the 1st time i change just like i care to change the diaper he will finish. but what do you mean? you can't just type of like i can't do this. i am fix, tina i can do this. i cannot support him, i cannot just call work and raise a child tearing at this precious little boy mile at me. and i'm thinking i can't do that at all. the only thing going through my head was i cannot do that. if you find yourself pregnant at 15, there is no easy option for you. you can choose to have an abortion and that is not an easy option. it leaves damage for the rest of your life for you and for your family. having
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a child at 15 made all kinds of issues because now you're not just a typical high school kid. you're responsible for another human being. you're going to have to find a way to bring in candy. you're going to have to tend to a sick baby in the middle of the not when you have homework and you have to get up early and go to class yourself. and then your other option would be to place your baby for adoption, which is the most difficult decision i've ever seen. a young person, it is a wonderful choice, and it is often the best choice for that child, but it is heart wrenching and extremely difficult. so once you find yourself in an unplanned pregnancy, we can't take away those consequences and you now have very difficult decisions to make. so i have my little brother, he's 9, i have my son. and about 3 to when i wake up at 6 in the morning around 7, i will wake up my little brother and that around 720,
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i will get matthew ready for my sister's at 730. take my little brother to 730, i get to school and i'm racing. i'm running, rushing to get there. i get out of school, i want 30 and i going to work at i get up before i found my sister shall i blame when matthew, 30 minutes, but i have and then i go to work. and whenever i get my 30 minute lunch break, do the same thing, go to my fish health and spend time with them. and then i get up before i go to put them both this way of after i put them both to sleep. i are working on my homework at around 1030, and i usually fall asleep, but i wanted was a pandemic? no, certainly no borders. i'm just blind. to nationalities and so much time it's really we don't look like she'd be just saying she's
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just commentary crisis with this system too much. we can do better and we should be everyone is contributing is your own way. but we also know that this crisis will not go on forever. the challenges, crayfish to respond, that's for so many good people are helping us. it makes us feel very proud that we're in it together. always be polite, never engage with a negative, a good or confrontational. also don't get into any conversation or start answering questions. just ask for an attorney to
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survive and tear a geisha definitely don't want to go in the jumpsuit on cups. you're more likely to walk free if you're rich or if you're poor and you've got 2 eyes, 2 ears, and one mouth. so you should be seen in here and a whole lot more than you're saying. if you don't take that advice, easy going to dig yourself a hole next as a financial survival guide. stacey, let's learn about fill out. let's say i'm not so i guess and here the fight. 9 wall street spot, thank you for the story. that's debt slavery.
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so what i would say to a 15 year old is i apologize that you have convinced me that you are incapable of because i don't think that i believe that you purpose. i believe that greatness is on the brink into other people's lives and you'll bring value to the lot of this child. if you choose to hear that it's not going to do this. and lisa failed and it is now our job to come alongside of and support to enable you to make better choices, go my mama,
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watch the 1st year that i have. and i want to tell their thank you mom, i love you. i appreciate you. and what you are ok love differently. you are showing her love by watching him taking care of me. making sure how to look for my head. she told me for the 1st time. i know i never tell you this often, but i'm so proud of you. baby, you are working, you're going to form she told me that i was, if you're a strong woman for me to get a message saying i'm proud of you and everything they are. everything that's regularly for me was the best. this is what i have been working for years to get us. some people i'm proud of.
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there's a group until injures feels par river when someone in the group noticed a baby floated downstream. one of the men rushed into the water, rescued the baby and brought it to sure. but before he could recover, a number of babies were trying, floating downstream. there was a steady flow of babies floating down the river and the whole village was involved in the rescue effort. pulling babies out of the water and making sure they were made safe. not all of them could be some are pulled under by the ranging river whether slipped through the villagers hands while others fell back into the water as the villagers tried to save them. the villagers were saving as many babies as they could. but before long,
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they became exhausted from all their effort. frustrated controversy erupted in the which one group argued that every possible hand was needed downstream to help rescue the babies. they didn't have everyone's help, they would lose too many downstream. the other group argued that every possible hand was needed upstream to get find out how the babies were getting into the water. you can save all of them in a limb, an 8, the need for the costly and time consuming efforts downstream. to find out how these babies are falling into the river in the 1st place, we can stop this and no more babies will drown. if we go upstream, we can eliminate the cause of the problem. but it's too risky. some said,
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might fail or take too long to lose too many lives. we owe it to the ones we've lost and our future children to fix the problem upstream and save one else, calling them to have a drink from a separate water fountain, houston, texas. well, how much ok, but was different about the water coming out of it found a person? yes. a mountain that wasn't supposed to go up. i realize most people feel completely all that life
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plaistow around when you you know, there are 2 ways to address poverty. one is to try to prevent it from ever occurring in the 1st place. and the 2nd is if it does occur to a 1000000, right. you know, provide people with assistance with child. 8 care with out thing that has to be, but most people have to help those who are in need now. and you have to help those in order to do both, you have to not only work downstream, you have to go. the circumstances that got us to where we are and so our approach, every person and every family and poverty needs to be, is unique as that person and that family. and that's difficult to do, and it's a little overwhelming to think about. but people are different. it's interesting looking back historically on what we've done to address poverty in the united states. it's mostly been to provide people with assistance of various kinds and
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those things are needed. i think we should not leave people destitute and without such assistance. but there's not a lot of evidence that those things are going to move people out of poverty except temporarily. i don't think americans are in favor of simply redistributing income. what they want is to provide everyone an opportunity to get ahead on their own. we believe in equality of opportunity, not equality of results. i went to a conference once. the conference was an opportunity conference where we invited 74 families from our community and hopes to just allow a pathway to cycle out of poverty. majority of the people in this conference were generational poverty, so they came in and they heard from dr. beagle on her story and were encouraged,
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it was 6 hour program. and she would say, how many of you know what it is to have a disconnect? notice how many of you know what it is to receive an eviction notice. and before long arms were coming up and she allowed them to see that if i can do it, you can too. we all have hope with this sometimes just gets buried. so i had the opportunity to visibly see hope rise to the surface of 74 people. and that's not something that you can contain. we knew you can't contain hope. i left this place with hope and i'm going to tell everybody about it. i want them to know what i know and i'm going to succeed. because people came in the room, they didn't know me. and i matter. i wasn't born. i am hard. right? i'm no longer in this isolation where i'm irrelevant or i have to walk around and
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lead with this label of shame. little by little, the hope starts to take that label off. and when people come into place, you're able to replace that label with words of worth. instead of allowing that person to feel we all are the same when it comes to what our basic needs are and what our basic desires are. and i think if we really think about what we have in common with one another, that's where we can start to create a basis of understanding a person saying, i'm not going to judge you. i'm not going to criticize you. i'm not going to do you value your lived experience because it's you say to the other human being, what ever dream you've ever had is still when i was growing up, there were
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a few kids that were completely off. and there were a few kids that were trying really hard to make good choices and really had their focus at where needed. but most of us were somewhere in this gray area where we're trying to get our toes as post as we can without completely stepping over, but really convicted either way. we're just all kind of trying to get good at. what i see now is that there are more kids off the rails. there are very few kids in this but there are a lot of young people who are committed, who are strong, who are focused, who want to make good and who are making an impact. that is my hope for the next generation.
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and that hope comes from the stories that we tell that hope saying to our scholars, you can do this. we're going to stand by, we're going to help you get 3 days after the power to turn the ship and make good decisions after that. one of the bigger you have to realize that if you do 24 hour, compound interest of things that we're going to take you to places that you can be understand. what you do today is going to play more compound interest that anything else you're playing a game that's bigger than yourself. you're playing a game for yourself, or your family's name, or your kids that don't even exist yet for your grandkids. who are going to benefit off of the hard work you put into that
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not all poverty is preventable, but we know certainly that based on research and the research that we're using for our programs, some of that can be preventable. we want to help them. we want to help the community around us, nat's what we're trying to rally our community around and support a lot of times when i work with people who currently live in the crisis of poverty, they'll say, oh, i'm not smart enough to get a skill, not smart enough to go to college to ask for help. you got to ask for help in poverty issues, don't ask for help. that's the wrong message. nobody makes it alone. absolutely no one. we have to work together. we have to overlap with other organizations. we have to be community by the masses. the key is allowing hope, but we can't allow hope we can't communicate. we can't allow worth until there's a relationship. if we can spark a movement that not only helps those who are in the river,
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but also gives them the tool to help their kids and their kids' kids not be in the river. that's the movement. we want only reach out to people across these barriers of poverty, barriers of political opinions. we can really find some unique treasures in people who are different from months and find out that they're not so different. after all.
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