i think one of the worst things as a kid is what you want to do it's not what you want to do it's why do you do the things you do you could design a life that is focused on your watch being aware of work as a way of expression people ask me what motivates me every day and i look i'm just being me i started my company because it was an expression of myself i am just painting on a canvas but i think if we can teach them that think of their work and their life as a place to express themselves and then dream of what they see themselves becoming having that strategic mistake make you think more long term rather than the short term want athletes are told to picture making the shot before they take the shot and i think that the same thing is true for the rest of us we have to picture what our goal is is looking like and not just pick an arbitrary goal but what do we

want our life to look like and then create a plan to get there and we can help kids do better but it's in their own hands it's in their hands that's a lesson every kid should learn and those sort of stuff the responsibility i can make sure that i never will be poverty and my kids in the role of the bar weak if i do the right thing. oh my name's wendy i am 18 years old i go to caprica high school and i am a senior this year there was 8 over still live together there is a 3 bedroom house there was a lot of trouble when the economy hadn't. everything my parents they both had lost

their jobs it was kind of hard for us to even like cat food all my life even now i'm still on free and reduced lunch now. my little brother has free and reduced lunch and there was 5 of. my sophomore year i was 15. i was on a journey with r.b.c. and coming back slowly nauseous from there and the started noticing that i was feeling different. like you're either believing or you're pregnant and i was like i don't think i'm believing the like i eat all the time like while i watch the pregnancy tests and i was like what. kind of like that are and so there's the pregnancy test that came out positive just kind of frightening so my mom told me what any other parent would say to their kid. you're going to be fine we're going to get through this no matter what happens. what am i

going to do. with my going to finish school how am i going to do any of the set all . just. terrified out of my mind. it turns out in the u.s. right now an awful lot of children are being born to parents and parents who are not married to each other that is about 50 percent of the birth the youngest generation in other words about half of the birth and the youngest generation are babies born outside of marriage to typically quite young parents we have norms over the years. with kids who are single parent. generally education. they also. then kids who come from there

a couple. more of our kids were with their married parents and lived for their whole childhood with their married parents that also could make a huge difference they'll do better in school they'll be more likely college and even though they might compositions magically over the last 3 or 4 decades more kids aren't still families who are kids we're both there so i think americans are going to figure this out single parents alone have high stress levels stigma comes against them because they're single parents. as teenagers we have these adult so we feel like we're adults but we're very malleable in the sense that we're still children in a way our emotions go up and down and go when happens is kids are making these very tough decisions around friends and peer groups and they're making

a lot of decisions around relationships and who their phone love with it's with the with those people and it's just this kind of like these tough things like what really a lot of kids in poverty. i never thought i would. ever play because i was i am i still am afraid i do so much charity work so much community service or everyone at school is like wendy spain is a shift. that she would get away from her family isn't she the church girl i never thought that would happen. you don't think from one night something. is going to pop out 9 months later you just think oh it happened once here keep going with 5. and a half. and know when you see the picture below euro whole world just. turned upside down.

and when we talk about participating in risky behavior whether we're talking about having sex doing drugs drinking watching pornography whatever it is getting involved in social media becoming really addicted to whatever device it is that you're using if we're talking about any of those risks to be i think it's important to consider. the outcomes of those that it's important to consider that we're not living for just this moment we have a child you don't. really think about the cost that it takes to be a parent the cost in time the cost in finances and i would encourage you to wait until you're married before you have kids wait until you know you've got that 2nd parent that 2nd income that can help you raise that child what kills me is when i see a kid with all the academics to rock it you know they get these all lazy finally they finally break this glass ceiling where they put all this hard work in their

academics and then they get pregnant with their with their high school sweetheart and i think literally just take 3 steps back and i think it's because there's this . motional intelligence where we just don't talk about like relationship and the strategy around what you do as an emotional being. always been a daddy's girl i would go to him for everything and when i got pregnant he distanced himself along he had different views than i did when i told him i was going to keep matthew. you're going to keep. going to keep you like he saw me completely. i had matthew on april 26th. i called him a month later to see how he was doing. to catch up to see if he wanted to see my son he calls me. i still can't believe you decided to keep him you could have had

a future now you're not going to have anything. and it's been built 3 years. and i haven't heard from what i've heard from people one of my teachers actually. when i wasn't there and everyone from the class told me she said if wendy was my daughter i would take the baby away from her raise it myself so that she covered the church but now she's not going to amount to anything. and hearing it from my dad now. and saying you're not going to bounce anything you're not going to have a future anymore because i decided to keep my son. broke me. and we as a society have lied to you we've been dishonest with because what we have said. is that you can behave any way that you choose you can make any decision or choice

that you want to make whatever you feel this this day you can make those kinds of decisions and we will do the best that we can to alleviate the cons. but the fact is we cannot alleviate the consequences it is true that you make your own decisions you can choose any of these paths that you want to choose but we are being dishonest to you when we say we can help you avoid consequences there are consequences for the choices that you know having sex outside of marriage is not going to fill the void that you're trying to fill it only creates more and more of a vast open and deep within you because you are opening yourself in the most mourner of all way to another human being who is in no way committed to and his whose actions are really out of selfishness unlikely and a desire. or to meet

a need that day. the day i had started getting ready i started a campaign and then by the time i got there they told me it was too late for me to . i'm just bawling my eyes out i was like i don't know what to do i've never done this and whenever he got there. i was scared the 1st time i change just. like i care to change the diaper he will finish but what do you mean you can't just type of like i can't do this i am fix tina i can do this i cannot support him i cannot do school work and raise a child. precious little boy mile at me and i'm thinking i can't do that at all the only thing going through my head was i cannot do that. if you find yourself pregnant at 15 there is no easy option for you you can choose to have an

abortion and that is not an easy option it leaves damage for the rest of your life for you and for your family. having a child at 15 leeds all kinds of issues because now you're not just a typical high school kid you're responsible for another human being you're going to have to find a way to bring in candy you're going to have to tend to a sick baby in the middle of the night when you have homework and you have to get up early and go to class yourself and then your other option would be to place your baby for adoption which is the most difficult decision i've ever seen a young person it is a wonderful choice and it is often the best choice for that child but it is heart wrenching and extremely difficult so once you find yourself in an unplanned pregnancy we can't take away those consequences and you now have very difficult decisions to me. so i have my little brother he's 9 i have my son

and he's about to be 2 in april i wake up at 6 in the morning around 7 and i will wake up my little brother and mother around 720 i will get matthew ready i'll drop them off at my sister's at 730 take my little brother the squat 730 i get to school and i'm racing i'm running rushing to get there i get out of school i want 30 and i was going to work at 2 i get up before i pass by my sister shall i play with matthew for the 30 minutes but i have and then i go to work and whenever i get my 30 minute lunch break do the same thing go to my sis health and spend time with then go back and then i get up before her own mind are you going to put them both before you after i put them both to sleep and i are working on my homework got around 1030 and i usually fall asleep or i want to.

close. the. street cause the banks are getting so much free money from the government they don't want to take even any restaurant any small to medium sized enterprise or anyone looking to buy a house because why take any risk at all if the government's just going to stuff trillions of dollars on your balance sheet. time. so what i would say to a 15 year old is. all of us have.

that you are. incapable that you are selfish because i don't believe any of those things and. i believe that you have a purpose i believe that greatness is only. believe that you bring value into other people's lives and into the law if you choose to hear that it's not going to be the same and we have failed and it is now our job. to enable you to make better choices for. my momma watch. how their. i love. and. love differently. taking.

my head. she told me for the 1st time i know i never tell you this often but i'm so proud of you. you are. born. for me to get. everything that. was. this is what i have. i'm proud of. there's a group of still wonder if you know it's part river when someone in the group noticed a baby floating down the street. one of the men rushed into the water rescued the

baby and brought it to shore before it could recover a number of babies were found floating downstream before long there was a steady flow of babies floating down the river and the whole village was involved in the rescue efforts pulling babies out of the water and making sure they were made safe but not all of them could be. some are pulled under by the raging river rather slipped through the villagers hands while others fell back into the water as the villagers tried to save them. the villagers were saving as many babies as they could before long they became exhausted from all their effort. frustrated controversy erupted too much one group argued that every possible hand was needed downstream to help rescue the babies they didn't have everyone's help

they would lose too many downstream. the other group argued that every possible hand was needed upstream to get find out how the babies were getting into the water to save all of them and eliminate the need for the costly and time consuming efforts downstream. find out how these babies are falling into the river in the 1st place we can stop this and no more babies will drown if we go upstream we can eliminate the cause of the problem. but it's too risky some said might fail or take too long. to lose too many lives. away to the ones we've lost and our future children to fix the problem upstream and save one else.

i drank from a separate water fountain. when i found a lot. of hate that was different about the water. coming out of the sound. of the mountain that i was of the post. that grew up my real life most of the. people feel completely. all that life. based around them. when the children you know there are 2 ways to address poverty one is to try to prevent it from ever occurring in the 1st place and the 2nd is if it does occur to a mill you're right you know provide people with assistance with child 8 care with als say it has to be but. you have to help those who are in need now and you have

to help those. in the future and in order to do both you have to know and work downstream you know through the circumstances that got us where we are. and so our approach to every person every family in poverty needs to be as unique as that person in that family and that's difficult to do and it's a little overwhelming to think about but people are different it's interesting looking back historically on what we've done to address poverty in the united states it's mostly been to provide people with assistance of various kinds and those things are needed i think we should not leave people destitute and without such assistance bob there's not a lot of evidence that those things are going to move people out of poverty except temporarily i do. i think americans are in favor of simply redistributing and what

they want is to provide everyone an opportunity to get ahead on their we believe in equality of opportunity. equality of results. i went to a conference once the conference was an opportunity conference where we invited 74 families from our community and hopes to just allow a pathway to cycle out of poverty majority of the people in this conference were generational poverty so they came in and they heard from dr beagle are her story and were encouraged it was a 6 hour program and she would say how many of you know what it is to have a disconnect notice how many of you know what it is to receive an eviction notice and for a long arms were coming up and she allowed them to see that if i can do it you can too we all have hope with us sometimes just gets buried so i had the opportunity to

visibly see hope rise to the surface of 74 people and that's not something that you can contain we knew you can't contain hope i left this place with hope and i'm going to tell everybody about it i want them to know what i know and i'm going to succeed because people came in the room they didn't know me and i matter i wasn't born. i am hard. right i'm no longer in this isolation where i'm irrelevant or i have to walk around and lead with this label of shame little by little the hope starts to take that label off and when people come into place you're able to replace that label with words of worth instead of allowing that person to feel.

we all are the same when it comes to what our basic needs are and what our basic desires are and i think if we really think about what we have in common with one another that's where we can start to create a basis of understanding a person saying i'm not going to judge you i'm not going to criticize you i'm not going to do you value your lived experience because it's different than my you say to the other human being what ever. dream you've ever had is still. when i was growing up. why there were a few kids that were completely off the list. and there were a few kids that were trying really hard to make good choices and really had their focus at where it needed to be but most of us are somewhere in this gray area where

we're trying to get our toes as close to the line as we can without completely stepping over but we weren't really convicted either way we're just all kind of trying to get by getting. what i see now is that there are more kids off the rails. there are very few kids in this very area. but there are a lot of young people who are committed who are strong who are focused who want to make good to see. and who are making and having an impact on the people around. that is my hope for the next generation. and that hope comes from the stories that we tell that hope comes from us saying to our scholars you can do this we're going to stand. we're going to help you get

through this they have the power to turn the ship away and it happens by making one good decision after that. one of the bigger you actually realize the things you do from 14 to 24 hour compound interest of things that like we're going to take you to places that you can't even understand what you do today is going to play more compound interest that anything else you're playing a game that's bigger than yourself you're playing a game for yourself or your family's name or your kids that don't even exist yet for your grandkids who are going to benefit off of the hard work you put into that . not all poverty is preventable but we know certainly that based on research and the research that we're using for our programs some of that can be preventable we want to help them we want to help the community around us nat's what we're trying to

rally our community around and support a lot of times when i work with people who currently live in the crisis of poverty they'll say i'm not smart enough to get a skill not smart enough to go to college to ask for help you got to ask for help in poverty issues don't ask for help and that's the wrong message. nobody makes it alone absolutely no one we have to work together we have to overlap with other organizations we have to be community is the key is allowing hope that we can't allow hope we can't communicate we can't allow worth until there's inhalations if we can spark a movement that not only helps those who are in the river but also gives them the tools to help their kids and their kids it's not been the river that's the movement we want only reach out to people across. these barriers of poverty barriers of political opinion. we can really find. unique treasures in people who are different from lives and find out that

they're not so different after all.

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