pain and what's going on needs and mandates and also leadership of the people in the buildings and behind the buildings. so one of the things that many of us here understand that the environment or what we call the climate influences outcomes but often times in public schools where decisions are made, climate and educational mandates are perceived as two opposite ends of the continuum, like when i have time and i've achieved my test scores and we've got everything buttoned up, then we'll get to the klie mallet. we've heard it from speaker after speaker, that conditions set the stage for children to leeb lean in and achieve. the good news is we can move bullying out of the front page not with more dollars but with

more changes in our attitudes and our interactions. if more teachers perceive themselves to be call friendly and know the names of boys and girls in their buildings, part of it is reeducation that climate and environment and changing social norms is not secondary, it's primary and when we all embrace that then we'll begin to see the changes in the policies and the practices and we'll begin to get the results we want. we need to advocate for improving the social climates of our public schools, not more rigor, more relationships. better relationships. >> something that has come up in some disparate ways today is bullying and cyber bullying but

we've seen the line between the two has blurred quite a bit. it's harder for schools to deal with things happening in an out of school context. a really recent example of that are the mob protests in the middle east right now that are going on that some say were sparked by an antimuslim video that was put online and went viral. i wonder if any of your programs how you are dealing with the interconnectedness between what's happening in the online world and then what's happening in the offline world and the connection between hate speech and online bullying with what's happening in classrooms and communities. >> not in our town works with communities all over the country. so we use the internet in many positive ways and then we also get a lot of those hostile comments coming in to us as well, which we block. but there's a town,

marshaltown, iowa, that recently did a not in our town, not in our community, article on this topic. the newspaper editor was tired of all those negative comments that come in to the newspaper because you see them under the article. at the same time in sioux falls, a town close to them, that had a suicide and the whole community came together to take a positive approach and that kind of combines the two things, looking at how we treat each other online as well as how we treat each other on the community. you can go to our wepb site and see the progression as the whole community came together, the school district, the city, the library and they all worked together saying this isn't what we want in our town and they are being very proactive. another thing is we work with students and they came up with a positive campaign on facebook that they did, we have a little

film on cyber bullying where some students in new jersey came together and they called it a virtual hug. they tried to basically bring that positive environment to the internet because kids are sort of shifting that culture. we also want to shift the culture on the internet. >> mike or stacy, rick, amina, anything regarding social media, not just the connection with bullying but how you can use social media for positive ends. >> i think again we have the message to spread our message, we have a million facebook followers, we have twitter. we tried to turn that into a positive in terms of getting the message out beyond the ballpark or junior giants. i always see it as a positive from a public awareness stand point. but as a parent it scares the

beejesus out of me because i think what you see in cyber bullying is it allows the bully to be anonymous. you don't have ownership of what you do online. from the giants perspective there's a lot of opportunity to educate kids through junior giants and serving as role models with our players to spread the message about all bullying, not just what you do in the hallway or the classroom, but all bullying, including online, is unacceptable. as parents trying to teach kids about the boundaries of the social media world and respecting people in all ways. >> i'd just like to first of all begin by condemning the violence and mourning the death of a wonderful friend to arabs and muslims, i knew people who knew him, he was a cal grad

like myself. the irony is you are killing a fripd. but that's the nature of mob violence and the ideology of hate. and unfortunately hate begets hate and that's what we're really seeing on both sides. put out an inflammatory film and people who are willing to do the dance who will confirm what the film is saying and when does this cycle end? we see this in schools as well, unfortunately. we see it on the internet way too much as you mentioned. look at any article, i am most familiar with articles about muslims but it seems like something happens to people when they go on the net, they turn into horrible people and say horrible things because nobody knows who they are. i think it obviously begins in the home, computers should be in open spaces, parents should have the ability to see what their children are doing and this goes through high school and then just the environment that we create in our schools and our communities where it's not cool to be doing these things. i think the machismo

that feeds into these actions needs to be stopped on every level. we're really in uncharted territory here. balancing the first amendment with the right of people to live their lives without fear. >> before we go to q and a from the audience, a quick word from our sponsors. >> sorry to interrupt but we want to keep the day moving quickly. to smeed up the lunch service, please remove your bags from the tables. water and refreshments are available. lunch will begin promptly at 12.30 so please make sure everything is off your table so the servers can facilitate a quick luncheon

service and we'll get on with our program. sorry to interrupt. >> so any questions from the audience? did we have someone with a microphone? go ahead. >> i'll go first. i completely agree with what you said about everything against bullying, everything against all the misconceptions, the lack of education, it all has to begin with community. let me introduce myself, i am a regional director for region 6 and also an ob-gyn physician, also a physician. one of the things that i have come across, having dealt with in my education and everything else, is that the school itself is a huge community for the

kids and if we leave that community out of the picture and focus just on the family and the outside community and teaching everybody else and not making sure our teachers get the diversity training, we are missing a big point in that picture. for example, my kids went to private school, this is the first year they are going to public school, and we listed punjabi as the language spoken at home and we got so many calls from the school just to make sure the kids would come in, they are proficientin english. they know english but we got at least 3 phone calls and messages left on our answering machines. why is it these schools do not list the diverse population of students coming in and actually have a parents day where they talk

about and give them a little spiel on diversity, information on the culture? that information goes back to the home and there is misconceptions being perpetuated at home. i think it all starts with the responsibility. where is accountability for the schools it play a huge role not only in bullying but also making sure the diversity goes back home. >> really important to have that partnership between home and school. anyone on the panel like to address that? >> there's a term i like to use, it's called identity safety. identify safety means not having your identify taken from you. we think of identify safety on the computers and our credit cards and stuff, but actually if you have to walk in and leave your identity at the door, it's being stolen from you. so identity safety is what we naed to make a priority in our schools. it means getting to know each other's backgrounds, it means valuing each other's backgrounds and getting the parents involved. i think the

schools are doing that to different degrees and we have to keep working to build that relationship. ironically i was an english language developer and they are calling you to make sure that your children have access to the supports you need, but ironically it comes across backward. anyone who has a second language listed gets checked with to be sure they have the services they need. >> right here. >> so i've been taking notes and one of the things that i run a community center in the western addition and we talk about educating and supporting and one of the things that comes it my mind off the top is really talking to the people that are doing the bullying and understanding hurt people hurt people, right? as we're talking about this, there are two pieces and i'm wondering how do you integrate, we all talk about the finances and making things happen, but one is the mental health piece, the

part about understanding where it's coming from, talking about a culture or a community, that's what they are used to. you tell people not to do that but as a child all you've heard is negativity and you've been beat up on and they talk bad to you. it's not just from one workshop you are going to change the mindset, how do we understand the mentality. the other is understanding the online/offline. we had alonzo coming in and speaking to us, they don't understand the impact, it's not enough for me to say we're going to do a workshop or a campaign, a poster thing, it's really about how do we change the culture of a community and a people and it's not just a one-off. >> what does it take?

>> the thing about changing the environment again, changing the social norms, it helps to understand there are primarily about 5 different ways we can influence and warm the climate of a school or community, students being one, families and parents, staff, policies and young people themselves. if we can understand that strategickly, sort of get down out of the big conversation and look at ways how do we, as you said, educate the educators, make sure they receive the education and understand that relationships are as important as the classroom can urriculum, especially at the secondary level, continue to hammer out policies that are not so punitive but restore we want to connect to correct. we don't want to punish. we often move kids from one environment it another but it doesn't help them make right and it doesn't

help others. this is a systemic problem, it's not going to go away. but we can begin and we are, the people on this panel, those of you in this room, we're taking incremental steps. but one of the things we have to do is keep organizing ourselves and understanding the coordinated integrated way so services aren't bolted on, added on and become just a one and done in too many schools. it's got to be really embraced as what we call a whole school climate framework, a whole school climate improvement plan. and when we embrace that, everybody can come to the table and take what can i do? each one teach one, each one reach one, we change policy, we change practices, we change values. there is a map, there is a way we can do it. we're already doing it, let's not lose sight of it, but we have to be more focused, more clear and more collaborative and not

forget to really empower our children. they are our best hope for changing the world. >> hello, my name is chris bridges. i'm grappling with trying to address several things that i've heard during the course of this program. i'll try to keep it as brief as possible. it's more of a statement than a question. a lot of people have mentioned power, the power balance between people and the trauma that people can bring in from outside and the significance of being traumatized and traumatizing other people and it also talked about restoretive justice being a model. i know we're in a room filled with district attorneys and police officers, law enforcement. i'm curious what role law enforcement can play in restoretive justice,

what can be imparted as groups of people who may or may not be connected with the trauma. once you are traumatized by the school, politicians, et cetera, et cetera, then you have more of these power dynamic things going on in your head, i'm going to exert whatever power i have on these people, i'm interested in hearing about the restoretive power that we want to be part of the change. >> our organization just had a grant to partner with the department of justice to make films on exactly those kinds of things. we're going to be making a film on working with school resource officers and how to work with students. we don't believe we should even call anyone a bully because

once you get labeled it stays with you. i've gotten letters saying there's a bully in my kid's first grade. the statistics show that about a third of the kids are bullied and bully others. as one kid said, i wanted to man up and show i wasn't going to be bullied so i did it to anyone else. breaking that cycle is going to be exciting and it's exciting to hear that restoretive justice isn't just on the fringe, that whole school districts are taking them on. it's going to be a process to do that because part of the anti-bullying movement is you go online, you see stomp out the bully, get the bully. it's important we all kind of take a stand on that. we all need to learn how to treat each other and change our behaviors. >> thanks, becky,

unfortunately that is in in terms of questions because i hate to be the person to stand between you and lunch. we will take about a 20-minute break, you should all be back in your seats by about 12.20, if you can all join me in thanking our fantastic panelists. (lunch break) i have the distinct privilege of introducing my friend ed lee. mayor lae was elected on november 8, 2011, after serving with distinction as the interim mayor filling the vacancy

created by mayor newsom's ascension to lieutenant governor. as mayor he has been a champion of fiscal responsibility during challenging economic times. his focus on steadfast on balancing the budget, reforming city pensions and working hard on economic development and job retention. he is making city government more responsive and efficient and making public safety a top priority. mayor lee is a long time public servant. prior to becoming mayor, he served as city administrator where he focused on government efficiency and measures and reforms that reduced the size and cost of government. mayor lee first began working for the city and county of san francisco in 1989 as the investigator for the city's first whistle blower program. prior to employment with the city and county of san francisco, he was the managing attorney for the asian law caucus. i first met ed in 1992 when he became the executive director

for the human rights commission and we were both 16. that's two decades ago, ed. i watched him soon become the director of city purchasing and then going on to become the director of public works. i think ed is the only mayor in city history that can carry tlau on the campaign promise to fill the potholes because he actually knows how and he's the only mayor in city history that can say he actually knows every single city street because his crews probably paved them. i have had the privilege of working alongside ed for many years in city government. he has always been a cherished colleague and friend to everyone in city hall. he's done the job, he gets the job done, never wanting credit, just the satisfaction of doing the right thing for the people he serves in the city and county of san francisco. i was thinking about the introduction of mayor ed lee lastity and we'll taking the time to think about ed as mayor

and ed as leader. i've been lucky to know every single mayor in san francisco since my birth and mayor lee is quickly taking his place among the very best. i've seen ed grow into the mayor's role with great ease and aplomb and there's no surprise there. mayor lee is focusing on young people and guiding a rebust economic rebirth in san francisco. his interest in young people is quite genuine and he meets regularly with middle school principals, focusing on critical years for kids to stay engage the in school. recognizing that mayors can have tremendous impact in their communities, he co-sponsored the legislation to eradicate bullying from schools at the 2012 con conference of mayors.

he is here today to address us on the vexing issue of bullying. it is my pleasure to introduce the mayor of san francisco, ed lee. . >> thank you, ann, for that wonderful introduction and i don't know where you got the ease of coming to the mayor's ofrs, there was no ease on that. ladies and gentlemen, thank you for joining together here at the presidio with all the different agencies. i see phil ginsburg, i know bill is around, others from our da office, richard caranza and others from the women's status as well and the district attorneys from the various counties, the school administrators and instructors and superintendents from other counties as well, as well as our community-based agencies that are so invaluable it all

of us. this is a very important topic and it's one that our u.s. attorney, melinda hague and i helped spearhead yesterday with 800 students who came together who watch an incredible film by lee hirsch i've heard the wonderful reports from the kids, seen their laughter and their tears. we are going to honor your making that film by doing what we need to do to stop bullying across the country. because the data shared by our u.s. attorney, representatives from the department of education confirm if we don't do anything about it, 13 million kids will become victims again for another year. some 3 million kids across the

country will decide it is better to leave their school grounds than to continue their education. there will be more stupblting of the emotional and educational growth of our kids. all across the bay, whether working here in san francisco or alameda or sonoma or santa clara county. i want to thank you law enforcement officials here, instructors, community advocates, people who are concerned about our kids, they are our future and i would love to see a new generation of kids who don't know what bully is, who are not victims, who don't have those scars. but we've got to do today is sharing in the best practices, to be encouraged by programs like our roof top school here in san francisco who has traded

a 50-person ambassador class that will talk about this, that will invite other kids, school administrators who have received the support of our school site administrators to encourage them to get this out and talk about it and to create an alternative or to help other students or to educate others stop the practices or to interpret what bullying is. a lot of us didn't know what that was. now if you allow generations to think there's no consequence, bullying becomes harassment, harassment becomes physical with scars and then you've got, i hate to say the word, but you have gangs of kids who don't know the difference. that's what we naed to educate ourselves on. as i've said and if i have identified all the different players, it does take a village to raise our kids. it does

require us to understand not only what happens in the classroom, what happens on the school grounds, what happens in programs that we all cherish so much on and off our school sites, it's online and it's off-line that we also have to concern ourselves with. it is with kids that have both parents and kids without the parents at home that it's happening. we need to embrace a full court program on this because the numbers tell us and dictate to us that we have to have this high level strong fierce collaboration to end bullying and to make sure it doesn't proceed into its worst stages. and so i want to just thank everyone for this collaboration, i know our human rights commission, theresa, is here, i know commissioner is here as well and all of the bay area to work together to

utilize the resources that our justice department is offering. their guidance and leadership as well, and to note that it can happen to any group. if you've heard what we're trying to do here, i know other mayors across this bay area are trying to do, we're trying to unleash the talent and creativeness of all of our communities not to succumb to things that will suppress that talent and in order to do that, you've got to really erase these barriers that are created sometimes by our own ignorance and sometimes by what people think are playful things and yet they are very, very hurtful and they become worse and worse. so that's what lee hirsch's film was really all about. he's taken 5 families and he's documented it and yesterday over 3,000 of our students had a chance to view and many of them i think cried because they

know it's happening in their own school site. and just because we get a label sometimes in san francisco that we're progressive or that we know better, it's happening also on our own turf to unacceptable levels. i wanted it share with you i'll be doing my part, i'll be doing more than my part. i've indicated to melinda and certainly ann marie and her coordination of this, we will be on the forefront with our school district and our administrators and our commissions to work together with the bay area to end this, to talk about it and expose it and to continue really carrying out a promise that we have made as leaders in our very dynamic bay area. we will not tolerate intolerance and we will expose it, get rid of it, and we will educate our kids, the next generation who will hopefully inherit a better world. we've

got to set those conditions for that to happen. this is why i am so appreciative of so many of the different levels of law enforcement, education and nonprofits to come together and share the practices, share what we can do, and then do what's right, continue and support those programs that will help us. so, with that, i am very fortunate and glad to share this with you and be part of this afternoon's great conversation and thank you again for all of your commitments. i appreciate it very much. (applause). >> mr. mayor, thank you so much, thank you for showing up two days in a row. i want to thank you for your commitment to lead -- what a tremendous responsibility. my goodne,