we're back now with more of "today" on a friday morning. it is the 7th day of may, 2010. meredith mentioned before, it is just a picture-perfect day, bright blue sky, lots of people in our crowd getting ready to kick off a great weekend in new york. i'm matt lauer, along with a mom, natalie morales, and dad al roker. in this half-hour, new evidence surfacing in that attempted bombing, car bombing, in times square. investigators are reviewing newly released surveillance video of the suspect at a pennsylvania fireworks store buying key components for that

bomb. also, they're trying to follow the money trail, tracking whether he had any financial help. we'll get the latest on that story coming up. also we'll have a lot more from wall street and what caused the dow to plunge nearly 1,000 points yesterday before it recovered yesterday. also, unemployment numbers are out. we'll get those and then, it is so small yet it has always stirred so much controversy. birth control pill turning 50 now. this morning we'll look back at how it changed the women's movement and how it's blamed for the unleashing of the sexual revolution. is that really true? we'll also take a look ahead at some of the newer options not only for women, but for men. and later on, you voted and it is time for us to nouns tann the winner of our "top dog" competition. will it be jami, jake, emma or fluffy? you will find out in just a few

minutes. a reminder, the winner gets all the moink he can eat. let's gin side. ann has a check of the headlines. new jobless figures this morning show the nation's unemployment rate rose to 9.9% in april, up .2% from the month before. for the month, the economy actually added 290,000 jobs. the most in four years. but the overall rate went up because more people were looking for work. world financial markets are mostly lower this morning meantime, a day after a brief, but massive, sell-off on wall street. at one point on thursday the dow plunged 1,000 points, though it rebounded quickly and closed with a loss of about 350 points. analysts said a trader's keyboard mistake may have compounded worries about the debt crisis in greece spreading to the rest of europe. violence broke out in athens again thursday night after the country's parliament approved new budget cuts and taxes to try to help prevent financial collapse.

riot police clashed with demonstrators the day after a protest that left three people dead. investigators are trying to find out if phafaisal shahzad h help with his attempt to blow up a car in times square last weekend. there are new pictures of him getting components for the bomb. pete williams now has more. >> reporter: surveillance video released by a pennsylvania fireworks dealer shows faisal shahzad wandering the aisles in early march, buying what would turn out to be parts of his car bomb. records show he drove there from his connecticut home, a 115-mile trip. the fbi says his bomb included more than 150 large firecrackers that he bought there but the company official says he had the wrong idea about how they would work, apparently thinking that if a few were lit, they would set off the rest, and ultimately trigger the gasoline and the propane tanks he had in the back of his suv. >> this whole enterprise was destined to failure from the beginning if he was relying on consumer fireworks, consumer

firecrackers, to chain-ignite and mass detonate. would never happen. >> reporter: in bridgeport, connecticut, his landlord let photographers see the inside of his sparse apartment. but important evidence that was once there had been taken away by the fbi. for one thing, a laptop computer. investigators say he used it to chat on jihadist websites, including one featuring anwar al awlaki, the radical cleric who is said to have inspired the u.s. army major who went on a shooting spree last fall in ft. worth, texas. police and federal agents say shahzad continues to talk though they aren't sure he is being completely honest. >> there is a lot of information that has to be examined to see if in fact what he's saying is in fact the truth. >> reporter: investigators are finding more evidence that he built the bomb himself, including his fingerprints on several of the components. but there is intense work now to find out whether he paid for the suv and the plane ticket to flee the country himself, or whether he had financial help. pete williams, nbc news, new

york. freshway foods is recalling romaine lettuce sold in 23 states because of an e. coli outbreak that's sickened at least 19 people. the lettuce is sold under the brand names freshway and imperial cisco. a giant containment box was lowered during the night at the site of that big oil leak off of louisiana. it could take a few days to get it operating. homeland security secretary janet napolitano says simply, "i hope it works." it is now five minutes past the hour. time for a check of the weather with al. >> announcer: "today's weather" is brought to you by massage envy. with more than 600 locations nationwide. mother's day is massage day with a gift card from massage envy. we've got a cutie here. who is this? >> grace cecelia. >> how old? >> 3 months. >> what a great mom's day for you. >> thanks. two at home, luke and roman. >> okay, there you go. let's check your weather, see what's happening.

first of all, we've got a big storm system working its way through the midwest bringing a lot of rain and in the upper elevations, in the colder air, talking about some snow. we've got a risk of strong storms from lufkin, texas all the way up to western new york and p.a. also looking at a strong risk of storms from indiana on into the northern half of ohio where we could be looking at tornadoes. looking at anywhere from one to two inches of rain from chicago all the way on up into parts of michigan. but we're talking about snow in the u.p. of michigan, on into wisconsin and parts of minnesota. >> things are looking good on this friday, 79 to about 80 degrees, pleasant conditions and mostly sunny. 72

>> and it's train day tomorrow. got some nice folks here from the railroad museum. now back to natalie. al, thank you. this morning on "today's woman," the pill turns 50. in may of 1960, in a controversial move, the fda approved oral contraception but this is only the first step in a long journey of access and acceptance. nbc's chief medical editor dr. nancy snyderman takes a look at the history and the future of the pill. >> reporter: 50 years ago a revolution took place in homes and bedrooms across america with the introduction of the first birth control pill. but even if you took it, or knew someone who did, chances are you just didn't talk about it. >> it still wasn't legal in a lot of parts of the country. its pretty recent history before women were actually allowed the

ability to even just purchase birth control. particularly unmarried women. >> reporter: today an estimated 12 million american women use the pill, and about 80% will use it at some point in their reproductive lives. not only are they talking about it, they're shopping around. >> sometimes a little difference is the difference you should ask about. >> reporter: the revolution that started with the simple pill has become a multi-billion dollar business. birth control pills that stop the period, pills that soothe your cramps, even birth control pills that help your skin. >> the pill was a great discovery but we have new methods of delivering contraceptives so that they can stay in the body for a longer period of time, as well as be safe. >> reporter: including this ring which emits a steady dose of medicine to prevent pregnancy for up to one full year, being studied by new york city's population council. contraceptive sprays and gels are also on the horizon for women. this gynecologist agrees that science is headed in the right

direction, because the pill isn't for everyone. >> i think it is important, therefore, to be able to offer women what you can call a contraceptive cafeteria. we have different options and women can select the option that is most likely to result in contraceptive success for them. >> reporter: for the past 50 years, the responsibility of taking a daily birth control pill has fallen squarely on the shoulders of women. but that may soon be changing. in 2009, chinese researchers reported successful trials of what may become the world's first male birth control shot. and at los angeles biomedical institute, doctors have been hard at work on the study of a new male contraceptive gel. >> i think if there was a male pill, it would have to be accessible, affordable and frankly, socially acceptable. >> reporter: acceptable to a new generation, 50 years after one

little pill changed everything. for "today," dr. nancy snyderman, nbc news. >> nancy gibbs is the executive editor of "time" and the author of the e-book, "love, sex, freedom and the paradox of the pill." nancy, good morning. we're talking about the 50th anniversary of the fda approval of the pill. as nancy points out in her piece, the approval and acceptance of the pill didn't really happen overnight. >> it didn't. in fact, margaret sanger who was the founder of planned parenthood started talking about a magic pill back in 1912. so it was decades in the imagination and scientific development before it's profl. then it would be many more years before it became widely accepted for use. >> still very, very controversial. what i find interesting actually, one of the founding fathers, if you will, of the pill was actually a conservative catholic. tell me more about that. >> he was dr. john rock. he was a harvard-trained, very established physician, probably the most famous infertility specialist in the country.

he had devoted his life to helping infertile women become pregnant and he ends up providing the means for fertile women not to become pregnant. >> his goal was really to help regulate women's cycles with the infertility aspect in mind? >> he initially thought that you could use progesterone, the hormone, to maybe block a woman's cycle for a few months, then once you stopped giving progesterone, maybe it would sort of turbo charge their cycle and they would have an easier time getting pregnant. those are the e experiments he was doing. you could also block ovulation to prevent pregnancy. >> being women think when they think of the pill and credit it for the beginning of the sexual revolution in the 1960s, that wasn't necessarily the case though. right? >> it wasn't. it's probably natural to blame the sexual revolution on the pill because they arrived together, but it doesn't mean one caused the other. throughout the 1950s, in many states contraception was still illegal. and even planned parenthood

clinics would not prescribe the birth control pill to single women. if you went to your doctor, you needed to be married to get it. now there were work-arounds. girls were known to borrow an engagement ring from a friend and doctors were not detectives. but by and large it was not accepted for single women until really into the 1970s. that's when you start to see the more dramatic social changes that resulted from it. >> i think there is a kin zi institute report, even 1953, six years before, seven years before the pill, wicomen were having s, 50% of the women i guess if the survey were having sex. even before the pill is happening. >> the sexual revolution is well under way. >> absolutely. and the pill was intended for preventing unplanned pregnancies. is it really working in that way zp. >> that's one of the many anomalies. here we are 50 years later, and to this day 49% of pregnancies in the country are unintended. this is not because contraception has failed. it is mainly because of people

choosing not to use it or not using it consistently. but the idea that half of all pregnancies were not intended is really distinguishes the united states from most other countries even in the world. >> fascinating. it's great information. "time" magazine again. nancy gibbs, thanks so much. read the whole article on our website, todayshow.com, as well as "time" magazine. coming up, protecting your skin in the hot summer months. what you need to know and what to watch out for. but up next, this is probably the moment you've been waiting for. the winner of the coveted title "today's top dog" right after this. - this is great. - thank you.

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we've narrowed down the competition from hundreds of talented doggies to the final four. >> that's right. on monday you watched these. you pups show off their stuff. before we name one of these pooches "top dog," let's look back at the journey. our in box was flooded with "top dog" submissions. we saw everything from well-trained pooches, to dancing div divas, to adorable faces. but only a handful made it to the semi-final round. our final four showed us their talents live in the studio. before heading to their very own

photo shoot with "ladies' home journal." but which one of these loveable talented pups will become "today's top dog"? once again, these are the final four. first we have jami, who's best known as mom's little helper, along with -- accompanied by her owner, carrie. >> next we have jake who has a soft spot for the environment and loves to recycle. his owner is patricia. >> our third finalist is emma who loves to dance and is full of tricks and is joined by her owner, cindy. >> and of course, rounding out the competition, fluffy who loves to sing and he's here with his owner tanya who loves al roker. for the coveted title of "today's top dog," the winner will receive a weekend get away and a massage and romantic dinner for two. >> we should probably mention everyone is our winner. they've been here all week.

they've been able to be in "ladies' home journal." i don't think anybody can complain. but without further adieu -- >> the drum roll, please! the winner is -- jami! congratulations! >> thank you! >> so how do you guys feel? >> i'm really excited. she kind of learned words as we spoke them. let's go outside, let's take a ride in the car, let's change a

diaper. she just follows me around the house. she knows all her toys by name. >> she knows 75 things. anymore tricks you're going to teach her? >> yes. i would like to teach her some of the dancing moves that emma has. those are next. >> i can see her doing that for sure. she's been such a key part of owen's life already. he's only 9 months old? >> 8 months. >> 8 months old. how much have they grown, the bond between them? >> when we first got owen, jami was -- oh, fluffy! you're a winner, too! >> treats for everybody! on the house! >> when owen was first born -- >> it's okay, honey. >> when owen was first born, he wanted attention. teaching her some of the tricks helped us keep her in the family and keep us all bonded. >> thank you to you guys, as

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>> this is wbal tv 11 news today in baltimore. >> good morning, it is 9:26 a.m. baltimore county police are investigating the stabbing overnight in woodlawn. the victim was discovered around 4:30 a.m. in the 5000 block of franklin ave. he was taken to shock trauma. no word on his condition. police need your help in finding the suspect in a debt the bargaining in the 3700 block of hanover street recently. a man playing pool got into an argument with another patron, who then became with a pool cue. >> from what i've understand he was dragged outside and left lying on the side of the

building. >> he was bleeding from head and there was trauma to his body. >> the victim died at carper hospital. his name has not been released. if anyone with information is as to call baltimore city police. and that the man whose body was pulled out of bradford creek is reaction has been identified. 39-year-old philip schindel of, of pennsylvania. it police had been searching for him -- police have been searching for instance saturday evening, he and three others, they jumped into the water to rescue a boater in distress. >> temperatures a little cooler today, but still above average for the season. we are watching this system of to the west and northwest. it will not really affect us until tonight and tomorrow morning. our forecast today, a lot of sunshine.

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♪ a new remake of his classic tune, that of course is sting, the legendary rocker, who will be kicking off our summer concert series one week from today. we've got a huge lineup this summer. something for everyone from lady gaga to country crooners rascal flatts to bieber fever when justin bieber hits our plaza. that's just a small sampling of our summer concert, all begins one week from today only here on "today." the requests are already pouring in and flooding our e-mails. with the summer months ahead, it is a good time to think about skin care. >> you may not realize it but

may is actually skin cancer awareness month. hi, jenna. hi, amy. we spend a lot of time outside this month and we'll be talking about protecting and preventing skin cancer. "glamour" magazine this year, they took out a primmer on how to protect yourself from skin cancer. you should be looking at pimples, moles, which ones are good and not good. we'll have a doctor in the house and we'll get you hooked up. >> that's right. plus with mom's day coming up, you a void the mama drama. right? >> mama drama? >> mother/child bonds can be complicated. not everybody has the perfect relationship with their mom. this morning we have strategies for making this mother's day and hopefully every day smooth sailing with mom. amy robach and jenna wolfe are by our side. >> finally!

introductions. >> we're going to be live in the gulf as crews continue to lower a 100-ton box one mile under the water to try and contain hundreds of thousands of gallons of oil spewing from the rig. the big question of course is will it work. and friends and family come together tomorrow for the funeral of the university of virginia lacrosse star yard i had love. we're live with the latest. such a sad story. but we'll have the latest on those funeral arrangements. then "baebies the movie" isa new documentary that follows the first part of the lives of four babies from different parts of the world. we have a first look. what do your deems say about you? we'll analyze the top five dreams and tell you what they mean. >> can you remember one dream? >> i don't have my term paper

done. >> i got caught inside a protein bar. >> what? >> yeah. that was the only dream i was remember, i was caught as one of the ingredients. i was happy because it was organic! >> there are therapists for this. >> i dreamt i ate a giant marshmallow and when i woke up my pillow was gone. let's show you what's going on as far as your weather's concerned. this weekend, looking for mild weather in the pacific northwest. showers in northern new england. hot weather through the gulf coast. sizzling in the southwest. then on mother's day, we've got some snow showers in northern new england, wet weather in the pacific northwest. sunny an hot weather in theot >> it is going to be an absolute gorges friday, plenty of sun out there. 76 to 82 degrees. light

>> we're still talking about dreams! >> i think they're fascinating. >> we'll be watching to see what they mean. >> this is becoming a nightmare. >> we'll end it for you. wake up, al roker! coming up next, we'll teach you how to protect your skin going into summer. bye momma. i love you. i love you.

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"glamour" magazine has provided a comprehensive guide. good morning. you've been doing this for the last four years and getting some pretty interesting responses from your viewers. >> we have. >> your readers. >> the interesting thing to me first of all is how many risks we're also taking with our skin. we all know that skin cancer is the number one cancer in the united states. it is one of the few cancers that's actually mostly prevently, yet most of us don't use sunscreen as well as we should. 44% of women we polled were still using tanning salons. >> 44% of women use tanning salons. >> if you use tanning beds, regularly, it increases your risk of melanoma by 75%. this is a "no." just a "no." >> is it more dangerous to be in a tanning bed than the sun? >> yes, it is. it is 12 to 15 times the traul

ultraviolet radiation. >> women believe if i get that first layer of tan from a tanning salon, i'll be safer. >> they said it to you now. if you're listening. now let's talk about the three things you say are very important that people think about doing every month. check your skin once a month. >> you want to just give yourself a rough once over in the mirror at least once a month so you know if anything's changed, moles that have gotten bigger or look different than the month before. we've been publishing a mole test in the magazine for the last four years. 68 women said looking at those pictures and comparing them to their own skin saved their lives. we just don't look at our skin that carefully. >> congratulations to the magazine. that's huge. it tells us how important it is to get this information out there. you say use sunscreen every day. what about vitamin d? >> rain or shine, january through december, regardless of your ethnicity, people need to

wear sun block. take vitamin d and you can put it in your mouth and eat it. get nutritional supplements. get vitamins. there is no need to get vitamin d from the sun. that's just the bottom line. >> reapply often. >> every two hours if you're in the sun is generally the rule. use as much as if you were icing a cake. you said a shot glass. >> for a normal size woman. >> you've also published some images of what skin cancer looks like. describe these. >> first of all, a normal mole -- most of us do have normal moles somewhere on our skin -- is all one color. either dark brown, all light brown, even reddish or pinkish can be normal and a clear, symmetrical border. not raggedy. >> this is early stage melanoma right here. >> unfortunately what happens, if you look at that closely under a scope which magnifies it by 500 to 700 times, pigment in the middle is uneven and

irirregular. you have asymmetrical border, border is irregular, krcolors vary, and diameter. this is a very atypical lesion. >> is it raised? >> they don't have to be raised. looks like on the anterior side there it looks slightly raised. e, can be elevated but that's not a classic sign. >> that's a late stage. >> that is definitely raised and it's got pink in it, it's got blue in it. >> okay. bottom line, you never want to even get to that point. prevent this all from happening. we talked about what normal moles should look like. when are they not okay? when do we know, okay, that mole is not okay? >> this is a normal one. >> this is normal. again you can see the border is

not raggedty. clear, roughly symmetrical. before you saw things that were changing, mixed colors and ragged borders. >> you can put a line through that and fold it back on inself-. it's symmetrical. >> look at one that is not okay. tell us what would be the thing to be looking for? >> i think with the abnormal moles, you look for things that change in color. notice, gosh, this is different than it looked last month. that's when you call your doctor. >> my patients help me diagnose abnormal moles like this, say doc, there's something right here that's changing now. can you take a better look. it is very helpful if they help me help them. >> a lot of women as we get older get sun spots, marks on our skin. i wonder if we may be alarming people too much. some of the marks people get are just perfectly normal. right? >> the big changes, big things to pay attention to is any kind of change but you'll have change

as you get older anyway. see your dermatologist even if you're concern. anything that looks raggedy. >> anyone is at risk. one thing we heard from women of color is they didn't believe they were at risk for skin cancer but in fact they are. the melanoma cure rate among women of color is actually lower than among caucasians. >> melanomas are diagnosed later in skin of color patients because they think they're protected. the melanoma more falt ratality 91% for caucasians and 75% for african-americans, because it is caught much later. african-americans, dark-skinned latino-americans, asian-americans think they don't need to wear sun block. this is a fallacy, something i want to drum home to your viewing public, wear sun glock every day. the little bit more pigment they had did not protect them. bob marley had a melanoma

underneath his toenail. they thought it was a soccer bruise. >> for people of ethnic -- different backgrounds, dark marks in people who are african-american, maybe asian as well that are not a concern or are a concern? >> some are not a concern. according to cindy's article -- >> yeah. if you have a black mark that's about the size or less of a pencil eraser on either the palm of your hand or the sole of your foot, that can be perfectly normal. it is pretty common in african-american women usually. but look for those same characteristics dr. downey talked about before, changes in color or a ragged outline and things under the nail can often be a sign of trouble. >> if it's just little period in the mouth, too. because african-american and asian-americans in particular can get moles in their mouth that can wind up being melanoma. obviously that's not sun exposed. or in their genitals. just a body check once a year if you don't have a history of skin cancer. if you do, more frequently. >> you said there is an urgency

in how you said it. i appreciate that. >> 3.5 million new cases diagnosed in 2009 alone. i'll let you say it. >> it is the number one cancer in the united states. the good news is it is mostly preventable. there is really something we can do about it. >> there is tons of sunscreens. go get one from the drugstore. aid yourself. >> thank you so much for being here. it is an amazing article. coming up next, strategies for a drama-free mother's day. that would be nice. right after this. [ laughter ] what is it about spaghetti and meatballs? i mean, it's a fun night. and the whole dinner is from great value at walmart. and it's all for less than $2 a serving. i have a budget like anyone else. this is what i did with mine. [ female announcer ] with hundreds of new rollbacks on great value, choose from lots of meals for less than $2 a serving.

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psychiatrist and "today" contributor dr. gail saltz has some good advice. we move from childhood to adulthood but a lot of times, when you get in the presence of mom, you revert back. >> that's exactly the problem. you revert back to that old pattern and actually, that relationship is often the template for all kinds of relationships. but that regression can make you fight, argue, be upset, actually adult children often still hold mom responsible for all the things that she did wrong. right? and moms are often frustrated because they don't have control over their child anymore and they don't have that unconditional love. that's really like a sad loss for a lot of moms. >> without moms, therapists would go out of business. >> we would. we don't want to fix anything too much, al. >> so here's some tips. first you say, accepting. just accept that mom is not perfect. >> you know, acceptance. i'm not talking about forgetting everything that ever happened. but accepting that she's a human being, just like you are, with

her limitations. she might be -- maybe she was a more anxious mom than you wished, or a more controlling mom, or she had her own insecurities or whatever it is. but she was human. and she probably loved you and did the best that she could given who she was. if you can sit in that frame of mind, it will help you to let go of a lot of the anger. >> what about the relationship, especially if you have siblings? that's another dynamic, too. >> sibling rivalry can last right up until you're 90. that's because when you were young, it is common for a parent, a bond, to have a preference of one kid over another because it was simply a better fit or it felt that way. so talking about that and getting mom to say basically, well, this was your strength, versus this was your strength can help ease that. >> you say also give up the guilt. >> yeah. we really often feel guilty that we aren't doing more for our mothers, controlling what's going on with our parents as they age.

bottom line is, it's not a role reversal. you can't control your mother. and you can't feel guilty about that. the guilt is what keeps you angry. >> pushing each other's buttons. the fact is your mother is the one who put the wiring in. >> exactly. but if you know what pushes your buttons and you know what pushes her buttons, talk about it and you guys can avoid that. people are unconsciously drawn to drama. you tend to want to push buttons and stir the pot. >> which is why you said, set your limits. >> yes. you can say "no." "no, mom." it is really children, even as adults, say, no, i'm not coming over then, no, we can't do that. it is really okay to say no. sometimes say yes but you can say no. >> final tip is, find empathy. >> yeah. you know, it is really hard to age. it is really hard to be a mom whose lost that role of mom when that was so big for so many years. so try to stand in her shoes a little bit and understand these

losses. because it will help you to not get so angry every time she's doing something that seems like a reverse back. because it is hard. >> and bring her some flowers. >> bring her some flowers an remember that mother's day is a hallmark holiday. it is really about every day. it is really about trying to have a decent relationship the rest of the year. >> gail saltz, happy mother's day. back in a moment, but first this is "today" on nbc.

coming up, two lucky women on the plaza getting an ambush today. we have the results of their makeover. hoda and kathie lee do some mom's day cooking with their moms. all that coming up after your local news and weather. and happy mother's day!

>> live, local, late breaking, this is wbal tv 11 news today in baltimore. >> good morning, it is 9:54 a.m. police have identified the man is somebody who was pulled out of hertford county broad creek yesterday. it is 39-year-old philip schin doff of pennsylvania police had been looking for him since

saturday evening when he and three others jumped into

>> asne start this morning. by this evening, a new storm -- a sunny start this morning. by this evening, a new storm system coming our way.

mostly blue skies today, 76 to 84 the high. pleasant and low humidity. >> we will see you back here for 11 news at noon.