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the verdict that elizabeth smart had waited eight years to hear, the man who kidnapped her and held her captive for nine months has now been convicted. we'll have her reaction to the verdict and our conversation with her father, ed smart. barbara corcoran is here to answer your real estate questions. >> also if you happen to be among many of us who carry a little bit too much weight in our midsections, you know that it can be unhealthy and even potentially dangerous. we have a doctor coming up who claims he knows how to get rid of belly fat for good. he's got some secrets that involves eating and i'm not sure about exercise. lots to get to, let's go over to the news desk. natalie is standing by with the news. several suspects have been arrested in southern afghanistan in connection with this month's deadliest attack on coalition troops. six u.s. soldiers were killed sunday when a minibus packed

with explosives was detonated at the entrance to joint nato afghan base. swedish officials say a man killed by an explosion in stockholm saturday was wearing a suicide belt that went on prematurely. they believe he was probably headed to a crowded train station or department store when his device went off. residents from the midwest to the pacific northwest are cleaning up and digging out after getting a walloping from snow and rain. oregon and washington were hammered by driving rains and flooding. and in chicago, more than 1,600 flights were canceled because of snow there. and trouble off the coast of egypt for royal caribbean's brilliance of the seas. throwing some passengers from their beds and setting the megaliner listing from side to side. several aboard were treated for

injuries reportedly including broken bones. the death of ponzi schemer bernard madoff's oldest son has been ruled a suicide. 46-year-old mark madoff hanged himself with a dog leash saturday on the second anniversary of his father's arrest. mark madoff had been named in lawsuits seeking to recover money for his father's victims. there's a new theory about one of the great mysteries of our solar systems, the origin of sat urn's rings. the rings are left over debris from 4.5 million years ago. the chronicles of narnia took the top spot at the box office, the tourist came in second and tangled was third. take a look at this, you can now add singing sensation to a resume that includes kgb agent and former president of russia.

vladimir putin is here. belting it out over the weekend in st. petersburg, all for a good cause, it was to help raise money for children with cancer. >> four minutes past the hour, let's go back to matt, ann and al. >> we have kurt russell there and sharon stone. >> do you think they'll play with their audio like they played with our audience for the music video? >> we're going to show you it has been brutally cold, we have got lake-effect snow to talk about. we're talking anywhere from six to eight inches of snow. we have got winter weather advisoriesed a far south as nashville, anywhere from about six to 18 inches of snow from south bend indiana to water town new york. look at these temperatures, 20 in atlanta, 24 roanoke, the afternoon highs only get up into the low teens in chicago, 48 in jacksonville, windchills make it

feel even colder and the cold air is going to really -- orlando 24, jacksonville 18. wednesday pretty much the same thing with a high in nashville of only 19 degrees on wednesday. >> we have a little bit of light snow and flurry activity. in a put down a little coating on the ground in some neighborhoods. neighborhoods. >> and that's your latest weather. now to the elizabeth smart case and last friday a jury found brian david mitchell guilty on two counts related to the 2002 kidnapping of the

then-14-year-old. we'll hear from elizabeth's father ed smart in a moment. but first nbc's kristen welker is in salt lake city with the latest. >> reporter: elizabeth smart smiled when that guilty verdict was read. she is calling this moment a victory and says she is proof there is life after a painful past. >> i am so thrilled to be here, i'm so thrilled with the verdict. >> reporter: it was the verdict elizabeth smart has waited more than eight years to hear. guilty. >> i am so thrilled to stand before the people of america today and give hope to other victims who have not spoken out about what's happened to them. >> reporter: the jury made up of seven men and five women deliberated for about five hours, their ruling means brian david mitchell will go to prison and not a mental hospital for abducting smart and holding her for nine months when she was just 14 years old. hiding her for most of that time in the foothills of utah. >> this is an exceptionally

victorious day for us all, as mothers, as women, as daughters, that we can go forward and these things don't have to happen to us. >> there's only one hero in this story and that's elizabeth. i want to commend elizabeth for her bravery, her resilience and her courage. >> reporter: the now 23-year-old took the stand and testified about her terrifying time in captivity, she described a living held, what it was like to be abducted at knife point, raped almost every day. >> it just made me sick inside because i have heard many things in court that i have never heard from her. >> reporter: at issue for the jurors, whether mitchell was mentally stable enough to understand the difference between right and wrong. the prosecution called him a master manipulator, the defense argued that he was delusional.

>> you can't walk away without having something tug at your heart. >> reporter: when the trial started mitchell sang hymns, like he did every day. mitchell may have stolen elizabeth smart's innocence, but he didn't break her spirit. >> i hope that this is not only an example that justice can be served in america, but that this is possible to move on after something terrible has happened. >> reporter: smart will now travel to paris where she will finish her religious mission but she will be back in time for mitchell's may sentencing, he could serve the rest of his life behind bars. and earlier this morning matt spoke to elizabeth smart's father ed and he began by asking him how elizabeth was doing after she had had the weekend to think about the verdict. >> she's just doing great. i mean it was just such a relief

to see that brian mitchell, he may not want to take responsibility for what happened -- >> that was important to you, by the way? >> it was. it was. i remember back originally they were working on a plea agreement and he would not accept being a sex offender. and if one thing came out during the course of the trial was that he absolutely is a sex offender and he could not get away without being labeled such. >> you must be incredibly proud not only of elizabeth and the way she handled herself throughout this trial, but also proud of the jury. the fact that you and your family were at this trial every single day, i think there's two sides of that coin. first i love your reasons as to why you felt that was important. then i want to talk to you about perhaps the other alternative. >> i think as a family, we wanted those jurors to know and any witness there that the truth needed to come out. brian mitchell was all about

lies, deception, manipulation, and you know the time that elizabeth got up and walked out, she said, you know, during those nine months he held me captive, this was a chance where i wasn't going to put up with the lies. >> that time, that was the one time we saw raw emotion from elizabeth during the trial and it came after a defense psychiatrist told a story and was talking about that elizabeth perhaps had even chosen a name for a baby, had she become pregnant by brian mitchell. after all the testimony, so much of it being so graphic and awful, why was that story something elizabeth simply couldn't stand to hear or want to hear. >> it was just another one of mitchell's lies. mitchell was -- you know, he would tell her all the time both wanda and brian would force her to write things, to say things, you know, they were trying to indoctrinate her into their crazy mindset.

and she said, this is it, this is a lie of brian david mitchell. and for the mental health expert, he was saying well miss smart allegedly, it wasn't allegedly, it was will wanda barzee, brian mitchell and elizabeth smart. who had the right mindset there? >> your daughter testified over three days and from what i understand there were things that she had to testify on the witness stand that you had not heard before. >> absolutely not. >> had you taken the approach with your wife that we will tell you what she wants to tell you at the time she wants to tell it to you. >> really when she came home, we thought, we want her to understand that nobody has the right to do this. and you know when we talk about helping children in prevention, that's one of the most important things that i believe kids have to know and that's why i'm such

a proopponent of rad kids because it teaches that nobody has the right to hurt you, you don't have the right to hurt anyone else. and the most important thing is that it's okay to tell. i mean elizabeth, you know, we felt like if you want to tell us, we heard enough. >> any father would want to be able to remove this episode from his daughter's life. i mean you would love to just make this go away forever, unfortunately it's part of the fabric of who elizabeth will be from now on. what are your hopes and dreams for her? >> you know, she was so inspired by the prosecuting team. that the last day when we went in to hear the verdict, that morning, she was looking at what her school requirements were going to be to finish up and she says, you know, i really think i'm going to go into law school. >> and again, that was matt earlier this morning with ed smart. coming up next, whether you're buying, selling or perhaps a little under water, barbara corcoran has answers to

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mortgage for $160,000. so seven years less. the value has depreciated considerably, it's down to $70,000 and i real don't know what to do. i'm turning to you because i don't know what else to do. >> first of all, you have a little bit of time here, you have a full seven years. so there's no need to panic right now. if you can afford those payments and sit tight, that's exactly what you should be doing. because the other options open to you are going to ruin your credit. what your best option is to call your bank and arrange for a short sale. that will take you between six weeks and six months to get their okay. once you sell the house, what will happen is you won't be able to buy another house for anywhere between three and seven years going forward. if you can stay right where you are, that would be the best right now. >> can you hang out where you are, norma? >> i can, i don't know if i want to, but i appreciate that,

that's very important to me. thank you very much. >> my pleasure. >> now we have got an e-mail from anonymous viewer. writing we love -- we're thinking about moving to a warmer area of the country. what southern or southwestern cities have a good mix of cultural activities with good prices on homes. >> you should pack your bags and take a visit to austin, texas. the average price is $205,000. what's great about austin is it's a friendly town. you don't want to feel like an outsider once you move to a new place. their slogan in their town is keep austin weird. they have a film festival. >> you have to like that. >> but it keeps new people coming in there and you'll feel right at home there and you're certainly going to have your sunshine there. the other one i would suggest would be charleston, south carolina. it's a little bit more genteel. people are polite, they have

tremendous beaches and golf. just like the other city, up 8% this year. so you want to keep your eye on a rock solid real estate market. >> die jane sends us a video we. >> what advice would you give to sellers who are reluctant to reduce their price who fear that they then won't have any wiggle room when it comes to lowing their price. >> let's forget about wiggle room. that's not even part of the pricing strategy what. you want to do is price that house exactly where it should sell for or what it should sell for. and that's a hard thing to do because every seller out there is unrealistic and wishes they could get more of their house. you should make a list of every home that has sold in the last six months, not only the sale price, but how long each of those homes took to sell. and then you should share that with your sellers and make a list of every home that's in

competition with their house. and take them out and show them. if the price is not right on the dime for you, you should refuse the listing. stockpiling listings you can't sell. >> betsy? >> my question is when you go to insure your home, should you base the value of the home on the insurance company's appraisal of your home or do you base it on the banks appraisers because those values are very different? >> the only value you should have there is the insurance company value and that should be a replacesment cost value. because the purpose of insurance is to replace that home should anything happen. the bank's value has nothing to do with it. if you have a beautiful home, don't forget to think of add ones, things like furnishing, jewelry, technology equipment anything that's of great value and you look like you have a beautiful home there. definitely the insurance company's value. >> thanks for your questions and barbara thanks for the answers.

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belly fat for good. his new book is called the leaning belly prescription to help you lose fat around the middle without feeling like you're on a diet. travis, good morning to you. as an er physician, you have a sense probably pretty often how dangerous belly fat can be. >> so i have a little surprise for you here. >> i noticed something was under this napkin. >> this is what we're going to eat. >> oh. >> this is an alien invader inside so many of our bodies. people don't think of fat in terms of fat leads to diabetes, heart disease, many cancers, it's not just about i don't like the way i look in my bikini. >> if somebody comes in for example having a simple car accident, they're less likely to recover as easily if they have a lot of fat around their middle? >> it's so very true. but what's really important for people to realize is that belly

fat is the most dangerous kind of fat. but what if i told you it's the easiest fat to lose? >> you're going to have to convince me. because i don't believe it's the easiest fat to lose. let's talk about breakfast. one of the ideas is that you should choose high protein. >> would you prefer to eat this for breakfast or the bagel with the orange juice? >> i would probably eat this without the bacon. >> well, let me tell you bacon and eggs for breakfast is okay, because it's got protein that's going to fill you up throughout the day. and really the focus again. when we talk about lean bellies, everyone thinks that fat is what makes us fat. but think about 20 years ago, we went low fat, everything on the shelves was fat free. and what happened? we gained more weight as a nation. this is about incorporating good fats, lean proteins.

>> bacon is not a good fat. >> this is where people need to realize. did you know that slice of bacon and i don't eat bacon every breakfast. but some people are going to insist on eating their bacon. but a slice of bacon is maybe a quarter of the calories as in the bagel. but the way our bodies process it, you can lose 10, 15 pounds in four weeks. that's all carbs. >> and this is sugar. >> so all sugar versus protein for breakfast, fill you up throughout the day. most people don't believe this. this is why i wrote the lean belly prescription is because diets don't work. what happens when you go on a diet, you lose millions mas-- muscle mass. this is about eating foods you love and losing weight while doing it. >> but not pop? >> if you love soda. do you like soda? >> no. >> i grew up in the midwest, i

used to drink soda every day. so there are alternatives to soda that are healthy and if you make this alternative, you can lose a pound a week even if you don't drink any other beverages. >> it's specifically going to target your belly? >> now dairy, you are big on dairy, dairy is a high fat food. >> dairy, here's the thing about dairy, it's got calcium, it's got good proteins, dairy is one of these things that if you eat three servings of dairy a day, you're going to lose weight. but the key here is you're balancing out good carb. can you tell the difference. >> one's wheat pasta. >> much better for you, you're going to lose weight if you eat whole grains versus refined carbs. if i show you this over here -- >> these are basically about eating fats and you've got steak

here and this is a very lean steak, olive oil, avocado and waln walnuts. >> we're so afraid of fats in our country and we got so afraid of fats that we didn't think we could eat them and still enjoy the foods that we eat. so you can eat your steaks, you can have avocados. you can even in moderation enjoy a hamburger, be careful with the buns and all the condiments. you can lose weight eating the foods you love. >> really quickly, we're completely out of time. you say you don't have to exercise. is that right? >> well, it's about being active. a lean belly, it starts in the kitchen, not in the gym. if you're going to make phone calls today, get up on your feet while you're making phone calls. there's all these neat little things you can do to incorporate activity. doesn't involve a gym. >> and being active, including to the things that you see on this list have some fun outdoors. and that will help you out. thank you so much, dr. travis stewart trying to take care of our belly. thank you so much.

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mismatched and the first one is how men and women deal with dress different stress differently. how is it when you get them to talk to you about it, they just shut down? >> men has a part of the brain that oversees how you relate to people decreases in activity. whereas ours, as women, it increases, so when we want to vent or share the experience, the guy just wants to go off and lick his wounds. and it's particularly bad if we're both under stress because he's not going to want to listen and he's not going to want to talk either. >> so the brain then decreases activity when stress is involved? >> it's part of the brain that sees connecting with somebody else. >> dale, what does this tell us as women about how we can learn to relate to our mates a little bit. >> we can be more understanding and as kate implies we can

change our behavior and not go into this place where we will be fighting. but we need to leave him alone when he's having that stressful time or that stressful moment, even though we want to engage because that's what we would want. but we need to let him be on his own and not take it personally. and then later, you can say i would really like know what happened when he's not so stressed. >> let hem go into their man cave. >> and call a friend if you would like to talk to somebody, but don't keep pushing. that's the real issue, is don't keep pushing him. >> next area is, you know, when you ask your man how is your day, and they say, fine, and that's it. you get nothing more. what part of the brain is that that gives us a limited grunt. >> it's so maddening, there's a part of the brain which is in charge of verbalization and picking up verbal queues and in men, it just sort of explains

why they don't like to talk unless they really have something important to say. and they connect better with people often by bonding through some shared activities like shooting hoops with a friend, whereas with women, we like to connect by chatting and we finally know men don't have that chatting gene. >> so what should we do, dale? >> i think what's important is to think, again, it's not about you and it's not directed at you, but it feels that way. so what you can do is, again, let him do what he needs to do and call your friend and have that -- if you have the need to talk, talk to someone you can talk to because you have to do it. but also say, i do want to talk about this and do it while you're doing something physical like take a walk, walk the dog, do something that's engaging physically and then you can also talk while you're doing it. now it's a disaster to say let's sit down and talk about this. because it's not going to happen. he will feel intimidated, you will feel rejected and you awil

start to get more angry. >> men seem to struggle with remembering important moments, and we're talking about the little details that women obsess about sometimes. is that it? is it that we're just obsessed or that men have a different way? >> it's all about the brain, men store memories on the right side of they brain, which focuses on the big picture, women on the left side, which really forms emotional connections to events and orders them. so that's why we remembers you had a great time on the first date, but he doesn't remember you wore the cute red dress or what the waitress said to you. >> so i'm hearing you say it's important to make sure the man remembers the facts. >> you can remind him. you can make it a test and say do you remember this, do you remember that? forget it, that's not going to work. say i remember when we went and had this to eat and that to eat and you said this.

and that will trigger something in his brain and he will feel as if he's a participant. you don't want to distance yourself and you want to have empathy and passion for your mate. >> it's typical that all the men in the control room are saying we don't have anymore more time for this segment. kate and dale thanks so much. vintage holiday desserts making a delicious come back. but first this is "today" on nbc.

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"today's" holiday kitchen is brought to you by twizlers, a twist you can't resist. >> this morning on "today's" holiday kitchen, lost desserts, whether it's a delicious pie you remember from your youth, you may want to bring back on oldie but a goodie. the editor of cook's country magazine, good to see you.

>> we don't have a lot of time here because they were talking about the women versus the men brain. we like food. >> we like the male brain. >> what are we making? >> chiffon cake. they're making these cake force the brown derby. there's a secret ingredient which is vegetable oil. half a cup of vegetable oil. >> instead of butter? >> it's an angel food cake mixed with a pound cake. we actually have water which is really interesting and it has vegetable oil. a little cake flour and sugar. baking powder and now we're going to take those whites. if you do it wrong, folks, this is overbeaten whites. >> that's not good. >> so we'll just finish it up. let's talk about a third of these to start. whisk it in. and then we'll fold the rest in. >> okay. >> so it's a nice, fluffy batter. >> this gives it the rise. but the vegetable oil gives it a

really nice texture. >> instead of using a spatula, you do it nice and easily. 225 for about an hour, 300. her house burns down halfway through the book, she's staying with stephany crawford and she makes a very famous southern cake which we brought it back. it has two white cake layers. inside it has bourbon and pecans. and then it has a nice fluffy frosting on the outside which works great. and by the way, here's a cake decorating tip, we're going to do a couple of things really fast. so if you want to take a spoon. here's a spoon. you can just do this little things, a little twist like that.

that's real easy to do. but then if you have one of these cake stands, you can start in the mid sen cher. >> and we want to get back here, because we only have 30 seconds left. >> the cookie crumb crust has a chocolate custer, as a crumb custer. it came from oklahoma city and from duncan hines. he found this. and the last one is the chiffon cake. and the last one is the chiffon cake. boom, there you go, we made w

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