we're back now with more of "today" on a monday morning. april 16th, 2012. got a nice crowd of people here on a sunny day in new york city. going up to the 80 degree range today. and we're loving it. warmer in some parts of the northeast. i'm matt lauer along with savannah guthrie, who is here while ann is taking some time off. we're joined by al roker and tamron hall, as well. nice to see everybody. coming up, pippa middleton in paris, and there's a picture on the front of a tabloid newspaper there and it put her in the headlines for what appears to be all the wrong reasons. >> that's right. she's with a gentleman friend, who's holding what appears in that photo to be a gun. what we don't know is if it is a

real gun or a fake gun. but it's obviously landed her maybe into some trouble. we'll get into that in just a little bit. >> also, the end of a marriage can do a number on your worth but it can also do a number on your net worth. especially if one stock has not been working. we'll look at how to protect yourself financially at the end of a marriage. >> and then a little bit later on, spring is all about renewal and starting fresh. how about your diet? doing the same with that, as well. one way to do some spring cleaning to your diet, before summer, some small changes you can make that will make a big difference in your health. >> let's go inside. natalie is standing by at the news desk. she's got a check of the headlines. >> hello again. good morning, everyone. residents from kansas to minnesota are cleaning up this morning after this weekend's outbreak of severe weather. despite more than 100 reported tornadoes in oklahoma, only one twister turned deadly. at least six people, including three children, died when the

storm hit the town of woodward near oklahoma city. tragically, the town's tornado warning system was knocked offline by a lightning strike before the real force of the storm arrived there. president obama's promising a rigorous investigation of the secret service after reports emerged that agents had partied with prostitutes during the commander in chief's diplomatic visit to colombia this weekend. 11 agents were placed on administrative leave due to misconduct. and five u.s. military service members were also alleged to have been involved. although the president did not directly address the allegations, he said, quote, of course, i'll be angry if those reports turn out to be true. procrastinators rejoice. if you didn't file your taxes this weekend there is still time. this year you get two extra days to submit your federal income tax returns for 2011. the deadline is tomorrow, april 17th. the extra time is thanks to april 15th landing on a sunday, and today's emancipation day, which is observed in washington, d.c. london's gatwick airport

temporarily closed this morning after a virgin atlantic flight made an emergency landing due to a technical problem on board the aircraft. the florida-bound plane landed safely earlier this morning. nbc education nation tour is kicking off in denver this week. it's part of our efforts to engage local communities to improve america's schools. last night nbc's rehema ellis moderated a candid discussion with about 300 educators from around the state. attorneys for the connecticut woman who was mauled by a neighbor's pet chimpanzee say she is deeply disappointed by the state's effort to block her attempted lawsuit. charla nash said the state failed in its duty to restrict dangerous animals as pets. but in legal papers filed on thursday, connecticut's attorney general said taxpayers should not be held liable for injuries inflicted by a privately owned chimp. and now to a strange incident involving the duchess of cambridge's sister pippa middleton and what appears to be a gun and tabloid photographers

in paris. nbc's michelle kosinski with the pictures and the story. good morning. >> hi, natalie. it was an april in paris weekend full of parties for pippa. costumes, aristocrats, some of the most eligible bachelors around. but now some not so pretty pictures on the front page of "the sun" newspaper, including what may or may not be a real gun. as pippa middleton enjoyed a sunny ride through paris with three male friends, take a close look at the driver. here in traffic, pointing what looks like a gun at a photographer. >> perhaps they were confused. perhaps they were angry. perhaps they were just showing off, but it certainly doesn't look good. >> reporter: even if the gun is fake, it could be more serious than in very bad taste. only weeks after firearm attacks in france on a school and some soldiers, left seven people dead. four of them children. pippa's paris weekend was a fine one, indeed. until now. spending time with three very

lovely, very wealthy, bachelors. es courted by son of a television mogul she dressed up in period costume. kind of. at least from the waist up. while other guests went all-out. this for the birthday party of old friend, entrepreneur and owner of a popular fashion label, who, pippa also spent time with, and his handsome brother. it's not really clear who the three men in the convertible are with her. but at least one of them may have some serious explaining to do. to police. so the sun has this as their big exclusive and they claim that the photographer who the gun was allegedly pointed is thinking about filing a formal police complaint. so far prosecutors and police in paris say they know nothing about this. >> michelle kosinski in london. thank you, michelle. it seems that the odds are forever in "the hunger games" favor. the book adaptation held on to the top spot for the fourth week

in a row gobbling up $21.5 million. "the three stooges" was second and "the cabin in the woods" came in third. let's go out to al with a check of your weather. >> i saw "the three stooges" this weekend. >> what did you think? >> let's show you what we've got for today. boston marathon, man is it going to be hot. temperatures starting in the 70s. climbing up into the 80s. probably going to be some health issues. please make sure you hydrate, and take frequent breaks if you need to. as we look you can see along this frontal system from the great lakes all the way down to the gulf coast, we're looking at some showers and thunderstorms. could be a risk of some of those strong storms later today. nothing like we saw over the weekend. wet weather moves into the pacific northwest along the front with some showers there. record highs in the northeast with temperatures in the 80s. some areas may be even cropping up in to the 90s. with sunshine all the way down to the gulf coast. risk of strong storms western new york into west virginia. >> good morning.

we will jump ahead a couple of months temperature-wise. highs will jump into the upper 80's. scattered thunderstorms are >> and that's your latest weather. natalie? >> al, thank you. this morning on "today's money," divorce and retirement. the end of a marriage can be emotional and financially devastating. especially when it comes to dividing assets and savings. so how do you protect your nest egg during a split? aaron epperson is a financial correspondent for cnbc. such a hard thing to go through,

as people go through divorce. i imagine this idea of thinking about retirement for a lot of people, it's really hard to think about the future without that spouse. so, you really have to think about it, though. >> it's very difficult to think about retirement. of course that's the number one concern of many americans whether they're getting divorced or not. all day on cnbc we're talking about the return on your retirement. but what we're talking about today in terms of divorce, particularly if one spouse has been earning more than another, it can be very difficult because you may not have been able to save as much. so then the retirement savings question really is a big one. >> it can be devastating to you financially as well. let's talk about some tips for protecting your nest egg. first you say if you are thinking about splitting or separating, you have to start thinking about separating your accounts. why is that so important? >> the first thing you need to do is definitely get your own credit. make sure you have your own accounts, make sure you have your own savings account, own checking account, a credit card in your name. build your own credit history. that's very important. you want to be financially independent in that way. and you also want to make sure

that you manage the debt that you've accumulated to the. so if you have a joint card you want to try to close that, pay that off. make sure that you're not responsible for someone else's debt down the road. >> next you also say think about hiring a financial adviser. which can be hard for people who are going through divorce. they're hiring so many people, lawyers and all of that. >> it's expensive. but it's critical. and this person needs to work with your divorce attorney, they need to work as a team, a team on your behalf. and it's very important that you find someone who really has specialized in divorce, perhaps get someone who is a certified divorce financial analyst, who has that designation. certainly a certified financial planner. someone who also has experience with retirement issues. and you can find these people at the national association for personal financial advisers. >> and they usually work in conjunction with your attorney, right? >> absolutely. they should definitely do that. because it's very important to make sure that they understand how you're going to have to budget now, how you're going to have to plan for your retirement savings, as well. >> okay. next, you say review all retirement accounts.

so, for example, should you assume that if your husband, or if you are getting a pension that the spouse is going to get half of that pension? >> you can't really assume anything. >> right. >> many of these assets are now going to be considered marital property. but how they're divided is really going to depend on what the court says. and you're probably going to have to get something called a qualified domestic relations order. you want to make sure you have this document that specifies exactly how the assets are going to be broken down. the 401(k), the i.r.a., the pension, as well. and you may, again, think that you're entitled to certain things that you may not be entitled to. again, this will outline what it is and this is something, again, that you work with your divorce attorney, as well as the financial adviser to make sure you have the right documents in place. >> 401(k), i.r.a.s are not always halfsies? >> really depends on state laws, depends on what the federal laws are as well for 401(k)s and depends on what the cpro says, most importantly. also, you may think that you're qualified for their social security benefits, and if you've

been married ten years or more you may be able to get some of your spouse's benefits. put if yours are greater they're going to give you yours first so you're not going to be able to get yours first. >> increase your insurance coverage, why is this important and won't that also increase your monthly payments? >> it may increase your monthly payments for insurance but again it's critical that you are financially independent. and a lot of people think about their health insurance needs but you need to think about life insurance, property hazard insurance and disability insurance as well, particularly if you have minor children. you want to make sure that you're protected. >> absolutely. last you say, perhaps the most difficult is don't raid those retirement funds. >> well look at everything we've outlined. all of this costs money, hiring all of these people. where are you going to find that money? a lot of people say i'll dip into my 401(k), take a loan or take some money out. you don't want to be hit with that penalty if you're not able to pay back or you lo your job, if you take that money out before 59 1/2 you're going to have a 10% penalty.

see if you can perhaps borrow money from family or friends. really, the retirement account is your last resort. and if you are really not able to build it up strongly, this is the time that you really don't want to touch it. you want to start adding to that retirement savings. again we talk a lot more about this at retire month.cnbc.com. >> time to think about yourself and your future. great advice. turn in to cnbc and cnbc.com. coming up next, spring cleaning your diet. small changes you can make every day to trim the fat and up the nutrients for better health. and then later the dress, the location, oh, and that ring! can we talk? when will brad and angelina tie the knot? all the details of their long-awaited engagement. when we walk together, we are bigger than cancer.

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you should use that as motivation to get in the vegetables at every lunch and every dinner and to get in a serving of fruit. but you absolutely should always have frozen produce on hand. frozen produce is picked at peak ripeness so it actually has even more nutritional value than some of the fresh you might be buying. of course it's often more affordable and it's super convenient. no excuses not to have it on hand, throw some berries in a smooth think or put together a fast, easy dinner. >> this goes for fruit, as well? >> exactly. >> how also, when do we -- when do we start to look at say whole meat and what you call meaty vegetables? what are meaty vegetables? >> okay so what i like to tell people in the spring, use this as an opportunity to up the nutritional value of your sandwich by choosing whole meat. think chicken, turkey, even lean steaks. and pork tender loins. slice it on your own at home, you'll reduce your sodium, and the preservatives that you're consuming. now it does take a little bit more time but it is also more afordable and you can also make more the night before or just

use leftovers. so go for that. and also, swap in a meaty vegetable, lunch, at least once time per week. what i mean is using something like a portobello mushroom as the main all-star of your sandwich. or even eggplants. >> okay. now we talk about liquid. you say you always want to be drinking fluids. you have water, milk, tea, coffee. i'm surprised coffee on the list. >> exactly. because you do not need your pantry and your fridge to be loaded with hundreds of types of beverages. you really need your faucet. use the spring as a time to be motivated to drink your eight glasses of water. and flavor it with lemon slices, cucumber or even a few pieces of fruit in there to absorb the flavor. but drink those eight glasses of water to improve your energy levels. also boost your metabolism slightly. coffee and tea, if you've been drinking it throughout the winter, make it cold for the spring. and you do get antioxidant value from the tea and the coffee. just add a little bit of milk, and herbs or spices like basil or mint to the tea or sliced

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we don't have it all ironed out yet but these dogs cannot stay here. >> we're going to get these dogs homes and then never, ever, ever again, right? >> never what? >> bringi ining 11 dogs home. >> maybe not 11. >> that is actually jennie garth trying to go back to her country roots. the star is in the middle of a divorce from her husband, peter favre nellie. now she has a new reality show cranicling her life on the farm with her kids and she's going to be here to tell us all about it tomorrow on "today." 90210 actresses have their own reality shows now. >> that's the thing to do. >> coming up in this half hour, will and kate who? there's a new wedding of the century to plan after brad pitt

and angelina jolie announced they are engaged. we saw the bling. now all the buzz is who will design the dress? we're going to have all the details that we know of so far of the engagement. that's developing. >> you know we're going to find out they've been married or -- >> all along. >> played tricks on us. also ahead what to do when your child bff has you saying omg. get them off text messaging. you can't pick and choose from your kid's friends so what do you do? the strategies for parents if you just happen not to like your kid's best friend. >> move. >> that's right. >> you don't have to stress yourself out trying to get your kids to eat vegetables or a healthy meal. in "today's kitchen" we're going to have an easy way to whip up any night of the week the whole family will love. >> first let's get a check of our hot weather. >> that's right. here in the northeast

especially. we've got above normal temperatures here in the northeast. mid-atlantic states. heavy rain down around the gulf and look for some more showers. cooler weather out in the pacific northwest. by the midweek period, above normal temperatures through the southwest, lower mississippi river valleys, into the northeast and great lakes. a little chillier in the northern central plains. and we're looking at wet weather stretching from the great lakes into the gulf with cooler than usual weather the western third of the country looking above normal with some showers in the pacific northwest. >> good morning. temperature this afternoon will soar into the mid 80's. that is 20 degrees above average.

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here's brad with ann back in 2008. >> was asked recently by a reporter whether or not you guys are ever going to get married. she said you have to ask brad. >> well -- >> here i am. i'm asking you. >> listen, if we feel it's important to our kids, we will do so. >> reporter: their kids must have spoken up, because now it's official. hollywood's most glamorous couple is engaged. >> i asked her to marry me. >> what? >> i'm getting married. >> a lot of people didn't give them a year or two to stay together. and they've been together for about seven years now. so they defied all odds. >> reporter: with an odd-defying ring that brad helped design, a year in the making, more than six carats. >> if it weren't for will and kate it would be the wedding of the century. but it's definitely the biggest wedding since the royal wedding. >> reporter: this isn't the first wedding for either member of brangelina. jolie's been married twice before. once to actor billy bob

thornton. and pitt famously divorced jennifer aniston before dating jolie. as for the wedding. so many questions still remain. when and where will they get married? who will design the wedding dress? and what roles will their six kids play in the ceremony? >> they're certainly not going to have any shortage of flower girls or ring bearers. so it's certainly, i would imagine, the kids will definitely be part of the ceremony. >> reporter: so what started out as marriage made for the movie screen, now set to finally become official. >> she's with me. >> and our reports by the way that jennifer aniston is at peace with her ex-husband's decision to remarry. source close to the actress says she's happy for brad and angelina. >> thanks for answering all those questions. >> i haven't got my invitation. >> well up next, what should you do if you think your kid's best friend is a bad influence? . [ female announcer ] kraft singles have no artificial flavors

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this morning on "parenting today," what to do when you don't like your child's best friend. from school to sports and

extracurricular activities, your kid will make lots of different friendships through the year. so how do you handle if one friend starts leading your child down the wrong path? psychiatrist gail saltz is a "today" show contributor. >> good morning. >> i mean, this is inevitable. we were talking about this in the commerce break. this is something most parents will face. >> absolutely. there's no way that you're going to like every one of your kid's friends. >> so what do you do? >> if you get an inkling that the kid is probably not a right match? >> first thing is, ask yourself, what don't you like about this kid? so, if it something about their appearance? is it something about the way they talk? is it something that frankly i would consider sort of a superficial thing that isn't necessarily worth having some sort of battle about? >> do you get to know them and their family? >> exactly. you want to get to know this kid. make your place a place that they want to come over. and when they come over, give them space but at the same time on their way in, way out, say hey, how you doing? what do you like? what are you interested in?

and that's the way of getting to know is this something really to be concerned about? or just you have different tastes than your child. >> if you decide that the child in question is just not a good fit, don't you add fuel to the fire when you go to your own kid and say i don't want you hanging out with this one? >> yes. which is why you don't go and say -- >> what do you do? >> if there are specific things going on that you see you don't like you want to talk about those things. so, you don't want to be judgey. i don't like so and so, you want to say, you know when she did "x," i didn't like that behavior. you should say what you're not comfortable with so that you are upholding your family values. because your kid is listening to that. >> but a lot of reality for a child, their life is formed at school, at recess, places where you're not around. >> correct. >> you're at work or at home. how do you balance that conversation when most of the friendship is away from you? >> exactly. so, some of the this, by the way, is going to run its course. if there's not something

terrible going on you don't have to get overly concerned. if you get to know the kid a bit, and get to know their parents, because the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. so if your parents learn that you've got to know, you see they're on top of things, you can open a dialogue with them, help your child to get in to interests where they're going to find other like-minded friends. >> so encouraging different activities in the relationship? >> exactly. so then you sign them up for a certain craft, after-school activity. >> what about in the teenage years? obviously when we're talking about younger kids, you can discuss some of those things and steer them the right way. teenagers, a bad friend, if you will, can be a friend that introduces you to drugs and drinking. >> now we're talking about the whole area of peer pressure. and that's where a friend can really be a big problem. so if you see your kid starting to -- really what you want to do is talk about peer pressure. dialogue with them. what would you do if your friend asked you "x"? how do you feel about this kind of thing going on? and how would you handle it if

you're put in that situation? you want to fortify your child that even if they do have a friend who's doing things that you don't approve of. and again, attack the things that they're doing, not the friend, i wouldn't rush in -- >> you don't -- >> -- from seeing that person because you know what they'll do? they'll see that person. and they go underground about it. keep an open dialogue with your child. so that they know, have lots of family gatherings, so they know that they can come to you if there's a problem going on. they can talk to you about it. >> every parent wants a child who's independent, you know, think on their own, if someone jumps off a bridge would you follow? what do you do to i guess foster, or if you will, push that independence out of a child so they don't get into it -- >> exactly you want to say, i can see you're going to be put in this situation. talk with me about how you're going to decide. so for instance, what are your options? what are your other choices? if you're put in that situation. what are the consequences? i want you to talk around with yourselves about the consequences, and if you do follow that friend, you might

get in to a car wreck. you might have unwanted sexual situations. you might end up doing a drug and you will certainly incur the disappointment and wrath of your family. you need to tell them what the family rules are, and what the consequences will be for breaking them. >> are you just missing some of the bad things, really awful things that can be life changing, what do you do if you note those major problems? at what point do you maybe go to the other parent if issues are bad behavior are serious in life? >> if you start to see in your child a significant weight change. a significant change in academics at school. a withdrawal. if you start to see telltale signs that are concerning, you do need to leap in and say i'm really concerned it has to do with this friend you're hanging out with. i would at that point you tell your child you are concerned enough to not want them to be together. i would potentially talk to the school which is a way of displacing it. and letting an official take up what is going on. and in terms of going to the other parent it really is a

matter of the relationship you have with the other parent and you belief that the other parent will be able to hear what you have to say. >> dr. gail saltz, thank you, great advice. a lot of parents certainly relate to. up next, getting your kids to say yum, instead of yuck, with a healthy weeknight meal. but first, this is "today" on nbc. from the wildflower valleys of yellowstone

to the serene waters of glacier bay, air wick has partnered with the national park foundation so you can experience the spirit of these national treasures in your home. the national park collection. something in the air wick. this morning in "today's kitchen," what's for dinner? how about an easy weeknight meal with a little planning we can create a healthy and delicious dinner your kids are going to love and you will even get them to eat your veggies -- their veggies. bonus. good to see you. >> always good to see you, al. good morning. >> good morning. so one of the things that i think really helps here is you're talking about marinating, and -- and foods that kids actually like. >> well, yeah, we don't want to insult children by giving them overprocessed foods or thinking

they're maybe not adventurous eaters. but they are notoriously finicky. this works well with chicken or beef or shrimp. and it's teriyaki sauce. to which we had some cilantro. >> right. get a little veggie in there. >> more for the flavor than anything else. onions. >> right. >> ginger. >> love ginger. don't you? it's so good. and garlic also very good for you. and this is a meal the kids can participate in too. the flavor is really fantastic but the kids can actually participate in the preparation of it. so here we have shrimp. but the chicken, the beef, you could do lamb, you could do pork, anything that's on sale. we're using chicken thighs here. notoriously flexible, and forgiving. >> i like them more, too, because of a little more flavor. >> they're always son sale. shrimp, the other can go overnight or put them in a bag and freeze them. you're ready to go. >> what about fish? >> fish or the shrimp we're only going to let it marinate an hour. because it will sort of break it down. but you just cover that up. then you can put it into a

plastic bag. we have skewers soaking in a plastic bag. label what they are and pop them out of the fridge there the morning. >> so you can kind of soak the skewers in water. >> we're soaking the skewers in water because we're going to grill these and we don't want them to catch on fire. >> if you've got really little ones could you clip off -- >> that's right. what you can do is you can put the steak right on the skewers. and kids love to participate in th. >> unlike a lot of kebabs you're not cooking the vegetable with the meat because they cook at different times. >> they cook at different times and also because kids are so notoriously finicky. i don't want the pepper touching the meat. right? >> you've been in my house. >> i've been in your house. so you want to put on a nice, hot grill so you hear that sizzle. let it cook. one thing i did want to say about the skewers. two things. one you can soak them in water, put them in a freezer bag, and then they're ready to go. you can just pull them out of the frozer and if you have kids. >> little ones. >> little, little ones. 7 or 8-year-olds are not going

to get in too much trouble. clip off the ends. >> exactly. >> saves on the fighting. >> these cook really quickly. >> the shrimp will cook about two minutes per side. the steak we use a frank steak here they're going to go about three minutes a side. again the chicken thighs are more forgiving. so if you forget you get a phone call, they're going to be okay. >> now i like this you're making vegetables ribbons. >> again, you know, kids we always think they're, you know, we insult them thinking they're not going to want to have vegetables. sometimes it takes something enticing to get them to the vegetable table. how about vegetable ribbons. and young ones can do this. not toddlers. >> no. >> but 7 or 8-year-old. you just take the vegetable peeler and peel it. and then you get these beautiful ribbons. go a few more down. but it's really hard to cut yourself with a vegetable peeler. so then you've got these gorgeous vegetable ribbons. it's like confetti. it cooks up really, really quickly just in some butter and a little bit of water.

pair that with healthy brown and rice and look this. absolutely gorgeous, lots of fun. doesn't take any time at all and kids love it. >> and i love this vegetable -- >> these are whoopee pies. oh, hello ladies. you're just in time. good to see you. whoopee pies. you want to get your hand behind the filling and go ahead and fill that. these are chocolate ones, obviously. but you could make them with pumpkin, red velvet, cinnamon. you could fill them with anything you like. put it on the top. and you know how they got their name? the kids came home from school and saw this, whoopee! >> okay. not to be confused. >> these are freakin' fantastic. >> that's right. >> annie, thanks so much. >> we've got to try these. >> oh, my goodness. >> coming up the newest member of the joy fit club probably not eating these.