good morning. early start. tropical storm alberta forms off the south carolina coast nearly two weeks before the traditional start of hurricane season. this morning we'll tell you where the storm is headed and whether it's a sign of a busy hurricane season to come. terror plot foiled? three americans under arrest, charged with planning a series of attacks around chicago, including president obama's campaign headquarters ahead of today's nato summit. this as demonstrators already clashing in the streets with police. and relationship status, married. facebook ceo mark zuckerberg ties the knot with his longtime girlfriend in a secret ceremony days after his company went

public. we'll look at what could be his best week ever today, sunday, may 20th, 2012. captions paid for by nbc-universal television good morning. welcome to "today" on a sunday morning. i'm lester holt. >> and i'm jenna wolfe. you want to talk perspective? i thought i had a great week because i had 11 holes punched on my free frozen yogurt card and i got a free frozen yogurt. i was psyched! >> awesome! >> mark zuckerberg, his company goes with the ipo, billions of dollars and then he goes and gets married. >> you know what the bigger story was, though? >> what? >> he was wearing a tie in that wedding shot. there you go. >> that's how you know who already wears the pants in that family. oh, no, i don't think there will be a hoodie. >> i think she put her foot down. you can wear the hoodie on wall street, but tie for the wedding. meantime, did you see the preakness? >> like the derby. >> the second race of the triple

crown, just like the derby with i'll have another following bode meister until the very end again. >> all eyes on belmont now. what is that, three weeks from now? >> that's going dob on june 9th, and it's going to be a heck of a race as we have another horse going for a triple crown. >> what's it been, like 30 years since there's been a triple crown? >> a long time, early '80s, yeah. meantime, all eyes are on chicago, where in the wake of those arrests, president obama will host dozens of world leaders today. thousands of protesters plan to march from a downtown park to the lakeside convention center where the summit is taking place. we're going to have a live report from chicago coming up in just a moment. then we're going to switch gears in a bit and have an exclusive interview with dog the bounty hunter. he spends his time tracking down fugitives on his reality tv show, but recently, he's received some frightening e-mails threatening him and his family and now the fbi is getting involved. he'll sit down and talk to us about that. plus, how about this for a find? a 200-year-old shipwreck was found 4,000 feet under water.

scientists say it's one of the most well-preserved old wrecks found in the gulf of mexico. we're going to tell you what they hope to learn by it. i'm always fascinated by those underwater discoveries. then a tight rope a lot of people walk at work. should you be friends with your boss? could be a career-enhancer or would be awkward. we'll look at the potential pitfalls and benefits later on. but we'll begin this morning with tropical storm alberta churning off the coast of south carolina. the weather channel's chris warren is upstairs with the latest. chris, good morning. >> good morning to you, jenna. this is a look at tropical storm alberto. it got its act together yesterday. now we have the first tropical storm of the season. in fact, it is just about two weeks early. the season begins june 1st, but here it is, southeast of charleston and savannah, georgia, here. and already seeing some of that rain along the south carolina coast. just looking at a small system at this time, but within it, there are bands. you can see some of that heavy rain that potentially could fall. and it looks like right now, the main threat for tropical

storm-force winds and for the very heavy rain, the yellow shaded areas right here, from santee river in the north down to the savannah river in the south. this is a look at the projected path here for the storm as it's expected to move off the outer banks and move away from the northeast. but still, it is within that path, and we'll keep a close eye on it for you. lester? >> chris warren, thank you so much. we'll see you shortly. now to the nato summit. president obama hosting world leaders in his hometown of chicago today, but it could be overshadowed by mass protests and three men under arrest on what authorities there are calling terror charges. nbc's chief white house correspondent chuck todd is there. chuck, what can you tell us about those arrests? >> reporter: well, good morning, lester. let me tell you about the three gentlemen arrested, brian church, jared chase and brent betterly. they were -- these arrests were announced by the cook county prosecutor's office and by chicago police. and they had infiltrated this group. they are anarchists, members of the occupy wall street movement. and chicago police had

infiltrated this group in early may, during the may day protests that took place in quite a few cities. and this is where they discovered their plans to try to disrupt nato. they had supposedly, according to prosecutors, had plans to target the president's re-election headquarters here in chicago. mayor rahm emanuel's office and home, that they were going to do that and try to disrupt it. and they're being charged for the first time ever in the history of the state of illinois, their antiterrorism law. defense attorneys for these three say these are trumped up, that it was entrapment. one other note, lester -- federal authorities weren't brought in on these arrests nor on the prosecution. this was all announced by local authorities. the fbi, u.s. attorney's office not involved in this process. >> so, chuck, tell us what's on the agenda at the nato summit. >> reporter: well, nato is all about afghanistan. this is all about putting down pen to paper on the withdrawal plan of nato, which, of course, is mostly u.s. combat troops, by the end of 2014. but it's also a fund-raising

meeting of sorts, where the united states is going to be asking other countries, other member nations of nato to help contribute to the cost of securing afghanistan after 2014. it's going to cost upwards of $4 billion a year. and of course, u.s. officials don't want all of that to come out of u.s. taxpayer dollars. >> all right, chuck todd, thanks very much. let's bring in david gregory, moderator of "meet the press." good morning, good to see you. >> good morning, lester. >> these supports, the g-8 and nato conference, it's all about the president trying to get world leaders on the same page, in the first case about the euro debt crisis, the second case of nato on afghanistan. how important is it for the president, and has he found consensus on any of these issues? >> well, it's still very difficult going, i think, as you deal with europe in particular. and the fact that the same debate they're having there is what we're going to have in the united states, which is how do you make the economy grow better? do you slash the budget in order

to get growth or not? and a lot of people think that all these austerity measures in europe simply have not worked well enough, and that's the debate that we're going to be having here in the fall, particularly as, yes, get ready for it again, another debt ceiling debate about raising that debt ceiling toward the end of the year. >> and then with regard to afghanistan, we know americans are getting weary of the war in afghanistan, se of the allies as well, france in particular. is this a difficult march the president has right now to try to get funds for continuing to fight the war? >> well, not just funds, but any sort of sustained commitment to afghanistan. the united states is getting out. the war is coming to an end, but there's going to have to be some presence led by the united states there. the question fundamentally becomes who else within nato is willing to shoulder that burden? france has made it clear that it wants out. other countries do not want a sustained commitment there. and that's the real burden that the united states faces, which is will anybody help shoulder this going forward in terms of some of the nation-building efforts that will still be

necessary even after the troops come out. >> and the u.s. needs vital supply routes through pakistan. that's been a source of negotiations. pakistan and the u.s. pretty far apart. the pakistani president is attending this nato conference as a late invitee. do you think they can work out their disagreement on this at this meeting? >> well, it's going to be difficult. i think this is a longer path, because the relationship between the united states and pakistan, particularly over all things that have to do with the future of both the conflict in afghanistan, whatever the government looks like is going to be a long process, particularly because of what the united states has been doing with drone attacks and other targets, targeting of al qaeda in al pakistan. >> all right. tell us what's coming up on "meet the press," david. >> well, we want to pick up on this debate about growth versus austerity, because as i say, it's going to become a big part of the u.s. economy and the u.s. fight in the fall in this campaign. so we're going to have a debate between house budget chairman paul ryan and senator dick durbin of illinois about the tough decisions that washington has to make, whether they will

make them being a separate decision. >> we'll see you a bit later this morning. david, thanks. >> thanks, lester. >> here's jenna. >> lester, thank you. he's gone from opening bells to wedding bells. in a silicon valley surprise -- to us, not him -- facebook ceo mark zuckerberg got married on saturday, just days after his company went public. kind of a good week for him. nbc's veronica de la cruz has more. veronica, good morning. >> hey, good morning to you, jenna. the wedding was a surprise to zuckerberg's millions of followers and even to the guests invited to the young billionaire's home. the photo was poe posted on his own facebook page just after 6:00 p.m. pacific time saturday. mark zuckerberg's relationship status had changed, and now he was married to his longtime girlfriend, priscilla chan. it was a simple ceremony in the backyard of zuckerberg's palo alto home, and also a surprise. the 100 or so invited guests thought they were going to a party celebrating chan's graduation from medical school. >> it's definitely outside the box, which seems actually pretty

characteristic, so that's good, you know? that's silicon valley. >> reporter: within hours of his marriage announcement, more than 400,000 friends "liked" the news. "congrats, zuck, big day, big week!" one wrote. a big week indeed for a guy who just turned 28 last monday and became a $20 billion man by taking the social network he invented nine years ago in his dorm room public. in one of the most anticipated and biggest ipos ever. zuckerberg, who met chan when they were both students at harvard, had always said facebook would be the way people would connect in the digital age. this week, with nearly 1 billion users, he said the same thing. >> i think it ends up being a very clear picture of the importance of what happens in a person's life. >> now, according to guests at the wedding, the menu included dishes from one of the couple's favorite local sushi restaurants and chocolates like they ate on their first date. as for the ring, word is

zuckerberg designed it himself and it featured a very simple design. so he's worth billions, and on top of it all, he married a doctor. >> i wonder if "very simple ruby" is code for a very expensive ring. veronica de la cruz, thank you very much. we'll see you in a bit. now more of this morning's headlines from the news desk. good morning to you and good morning, everyone. a large part of northern italy has been struck by a powerful earthquake. the 6.0-magnitude quake hit early this morning while people were still sleeping, sending thousands running to the streets into a panic. at least five people are dead, dozens more are injured. the quake, one of the strongest to hit the region, also toppled numerous buildings, including some churches and historic sites. thousands of firefighters are battling three stubborn fires in arizona and colorado. nbc's mike taibbi has more on the story. >> reporter: as the flames moved closer to several small mining towns in central arizona, hundreds of residents gathered

what they could before evacuating. >> well, when i was coming down and saw those flames on the side of the mountain, that was like, am i going to make it or not? >> reporter: so far, all have made it to safety, but this is the start of a dangerous wildfire season. right now out west there are ten active fires, including three that are huge and especially dangerous, two in arizona and one in colorado, north of ft. collins. >> our trees are very dry and our relative humidities are low. so you know, i knew that it was growing. >> reporter: there are similar frustrations for those in the path of arizona's gladiator fire, that between thursday and friday night more than doubled in size to more than 14,000 acres. containment just 10%. like much of the country, the west and southwest hardly had any winter, little precipitation and the warmest average temperatures in more than a century, and more of the same in the summer forecast. for "today," mike taibbi, nbc

news, los angeles. some scary moments in south florida saturday when a small airplane made an emergency landing on a busy city street. the four-seater plane was headed to the local airport when the pilot reported trouble with the engine. luckily, he managed to miss the heavy traffic on the street below. no one was hurt. blind chinese activist cheng gang chen is spending time in the u.s. an arrangement will allow him to study law at new york university. even as he only braced his surroundings, he renewed his fight for justice. i'll have another is on his way to belmont park with the chance to become the first triple crown winner since affirmed in 1978. amazing thoroughbred captured the preakness saturday the same way he won the kentucky derby two weeks earlier. i'll have another beat bodemeister down the stretch and he won by a neck. >> bodemeister's in front! i'll have another is bearing

down on him! it's bodemeister and i'll have another in a dramatic finish! can i'll have another get there? here he comes, at the wire. i'll have another did it! he beat bodemeister to win the preakness! and the triple crown will be on the line at belmont park! >> the belmont stakes is in three weeks and it will be here right on nbc. that's the news. now back to lester, jenna and chris. and we'll be watching. it will be a great race. >> that was an incredible call. >> it was. >> and i thought i had too much caffeine this morning. that was an incredible call. >> tell me those aren't both coffees. >> no, they aren't. i already had two coffees. one is caffeinated tea. >> i was going to say, for the first time in the broadcast i say how much coffee have you had this morning? >> got a little excited this morning. i'm calming down. chris, help me calm down. >> i'll try. >> give me good weather news. there is a tropical storm to talk about, but nothing to get too excited about at this point. it's early, doesn't necessarily

mean this will be a busy season, but it just takes one tropical storm or hurricane to make landfall for it to be a bad season. tropical storm alberto right now just hanging off the south carolina coast. it's going to be there for another day or so before it moves up, rushes the outer banks. but the main concern today will be those storms. and you can see those storms from the great lakes all the way down into texas. that is where we have the threat for some strong storms, and that includes chicago. you have a chance for seeing some storms move through. that's a look's ne. so hie a moroo ng. as the town is settling down after preakness yesteing ar.e, leand mt we are still stade win the day with sunny skies. that wil fr change into the to dted becoming partly cloudy. >> that's your weather. now here's jenna.

>> all right, chris, thank you very much. up next on "today," buried treasure. this shipwreck has been under water for 200 years. see why scientists call it one of the best preserved vessels ever found off the gulf of mexico. that's right after this. it's time to live wider awake. only the beautyrest recharge sleep system combines the comfort of aircool memory foam layered on top of beautyrest pocketed coils to promote proper sleeping posture all night long. the revolutionary recharge sleep system... from beautyrest. it's you, fully charged. being the apple of someone's eye is easier with cinnamon. ♪ new apple cinnamon newtons fruit thins. made with real fruit and whole grain. it's one unique cookie.

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>> reporter: jack is with the bureau of ocean energy management in new orleans. he, along with scientists from noaa, the national oceanic and atmospheric administration, used underwater robots with hd cameras to view the 80-foot vessel a few weeks ago. the site had first been noticed last year during an oil and gas survey. >> there is something energizing about that discovery, about that being the first person to see something that hasn't been seen by human eyes in hundreds of years. everything was brust over satellite through the internet. anybody with an internet connection anywhere in the world could see exactly what we were seeing at exactly the same time. >> reporter: most of the ship's wood had worn away, but its copper shell was well preserved. so was the kitchen. that's a stove right there with plenty of gin and wine bottles, leading researchers to wonder, what type of ship was this and where was it going? >> it could have been related to

the texas revolution or revolts and revolution in mexico or even the war of 1812. >> reporter: pirate ship or not, it's a sunken treasure of sorts, further feeding our fascination with the high seas. for "today," gabe gutierrez, nbc news, atlanta. and still to come, as we continue on this sunday morning, an exclusive interview with dog the bounty hunter and his wife. the reality tv star has been the subject of horrific threatening e-mails. we're going to talk to them live. but first, these messages. aflac pays cash.ad aflac! ha! isn't major medical enough? huh! no! who's gonna help cover the holes in their plans? aflac! quack! like medical bills they don't pay for? aflac! or help pay the mortgage? quack! or child care? quack! aflaaac! and everyday expenses? huh?! blurlbrlblrlbr!!! [ thlurp! ] aflac! [ male announcer ] help your family stay afloat at aflac.com. plegh!

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temperatureserateear yir to dted ne. so"11 news sun thank you! we're back on a sunday morning, may 20th, 2012. mother nature beyond cooperating with us this morning. we're going to have some very, very beautiful weather, and we're so appreciative of that. our thanks to the great folks spending part of their weekend with us outside on the plaza. i'm jenna wolfe alongside lester holt. still to come this half hour, we're talking about dog bounty hunter. >> he has in his career rounded up a huge number of fugitives, 6,000 during his career. he's made a lot of enemies, of course, along the way. well, in recent days, he and his family have received graphic death threats. dog and his wife, beth, are here. they're going to join us shortly for an exclusive interview to talk about what's going on. and then we're going to talk about a little bit of a touchy

subject. should you be friends with your boss? there's this overlap between your work life and your personal life, and sometimes it can be a little tricky when the two overlap. so, we're going to discuss that coming up as well. >> all right, so awkward situation at times. sometimes beneficial, though. plus, this season's "celebrity apprentice" down to a couple of guys. the finalists clay aiken and arsenio hall, they're vying for $250,000 for their respective charities. the finale is live tonight. we'll ask each of them why he should be crowned this year's winner. don't let them fool you. they're actually buddies, which makes it all the more interesting. >> that's the best kind of competition to have, when you're good friends with somebody. so we'll talk about that. but first, we want to get another check of the weather with chris warren. and it is a nice day here in new york city for a birthday. happy birthday! where are you from? >> connecticut. >> are you having a good time in new york? >> oh, yeah. >> yeah? all your friends? >> yeah. >> all right, well, enjoy the beautiful day today. >> thank you!

>> cannot say it's going to be beautiful everywhere. there's still going to be a lot of nice weather across the country, but we are dealing with tropical storm alberto. and you can see it right there. it formed yesterday, and it is just kind of hanging out, spinning there off the south carolina coast. it's going to stay there for another day before it slowly moves off to the northeast. here's a look at a system that's moving through the middle part of the country. could trigger some storms today. some of them could be severe from texas all the way up into the great lakes. and there's even a risk for some strong storms moving through chicago. that's going to bring a temporary end to the beautiful weathe ne. so hie a moroo ng. as the town is settling down after preakness yesteing ar.e, leand mt we are still stade win the day with sunny skies. that wil fr change into the to dted becoming partly cloudy.

and remember, you can always get your weather 24 hours a day on weather.com. jenna? >> all right, chris, thank you very much. he's made a name for himself chasing fugitives on his reality tv show "dog the bounty hunter." duane "dog" chapman has chased after thousands of criminals over his 30-year career, but now he says someone's targeting him and his family. since april 30th, they've received several threatening e-mails, like this one -- "you are next on my list and are the bane of society. i will deliver you to god." two days later, another one came in -- "i'm going to murder you and your family." very graphic e-mails followed over the next couple of days, each more disturbing and more violent than the one prior. the fbi is now involved, and dwayne duane "dog" chapman and wife, beth, are finally speaking out. they're joining us this morning. hi, you guys. thank you very much for being

here. >> thank you for having us. >> let me start with how you guys are holding up. this is obviously tough to receive something like this. >> well, we're holding up. i mean, we're, you know, in contact with the fbi, and whoever is sending this sounds like they're serious. we've gotten over the last nine years on television a few threats, and of course, everyone's not going to love you, but this has gone too far to threaten our daughters and beth. and you know, i don't care, go ahead and threaten me or whatever, you know, let's meet at noon. but i don't like when someone threatens my little girls and beth. and it's a coward behind, you know, something, so the fbi's after him. >> beth, what was your immediate reaction? i'm sure you've known from dog that e-mails have come in, but to see something like this that's actually targeting you and your children. >> yeah, you know, over a 30-year career, you know, i've seen a lot of threatening messages and things that, you know, are disturbing, but this really sent a chill down my spine when i saw it. and then as they started to come in more frequently, and the way that they're written, this isn't

just some hater. this isn't just some guy that, you know, wants to mess with you on the internet. this is definitely somebody who is giving you, you know, a warning that they are coming for you and you should be worried about it. >> you have three daughters. are you keeping them completely in the loop with what's happening and what's come in? are they -- >> yes. >> they're fully prepared. >> yes. >> and they have protection, to my understanding? >> correct. >> we've increased our house staff, we've increased security. you know, we have a security system on our house. we're just giving them round-the-clock people that are there with them, watching them. and you know, we're just waiting for the fbi to do what they do best. >> how are they maintaining a normal lifestyle with this happening right now? >> well, they're not. i mean, my 13-year-old daughter was, like, you know, dissecting the message, and dad, bane, what is that word from? that's not a word people use. and i mean, my 19-year-old daughter's like, you know, dad, i'll watch it baby lyssa's like

what are they talking about? she's got kids. this is not fun and games. this is very serious. it's a felony. it's no different than i sitting down at a typewriter and, you know, writing a threatening letter to kill someone and -- >> putting a stamp on it and mailing it. it's illegal. >> exactly, so people have to realize, the internet is very, you know -- >> open. >> knowledge is abounding across the world today. so you can't -- you cannot e-mail someone those kind of threats, just like you can't mail them a letter like that. >> this has been so threatening to you. in fact, you've contacted the fbi. where is everything in the investigation right now? >> well, the fbi -- can i say this? >> no. >> the fbi doesn't contact -- you know, number one, we didn't contact them, our attorneys did. but the fbi don't share information until after they say you have the right to remain silent, you know -- >> what they did share with us is that it is a viable threat and that it isn't just something that, you know, they would sweep under the carpet. they're taking action on it. and you know, hopefully, they're going to be able to track down who that person is, because you know, the alternative is for us

to be, you know, armed and ready. and you know, we do this for a living, so we know how to take measures to protect ourselves. but you know, obviously, the make my day law doesn't work in hawaii, so -- >> now, are you still receiving these e-mails since the first couple came in? >> yes. >> are they still coming in? they are. they are. >> yes. >> and i know your older daughter's trained to protect yourself. she works with you. >> right. >> are the other daughters as well? >> well, not really. i mean, cecily went on one show with us when she turned 18 and she's like, dad, i'm going back to the t-shirt store. thank you, but no thanks, and e she's in college. the other is in an all girls catholic school. she's 13 and she's totally freaked out. so it's taking a toll on the daughters, you know. leave my kids out of it. if you want to, you know, skin on skin, that's fine, but you don't bring the wives and the daughters in on stuff like this. >> and do you have any idea at all who might be targeting you and why? could it be related to

something, a case or something you may have been working on? >> somebody -- in one of the e-mails, he references, or they reference, you know, that they have a very nasty vendetta against duane, and they call him by his name, duane. so you know, there's not many people who call him by his name, hardly anybody. so you know, it is definitely somebody that has a history with us or somebody that has a past with us, and it's definitely somebody that, you know, is brazen enough to, you know, announce themselves first. but this day in age with the internet, you know, people have gotten very bold and ballsy behind that computer screen. >> sure. >> you know, and they're able to say things. but we're coming out full force. we're going to pursue them, we're going to aggressively go after them. you know, when they are found, we're going to prosecute them to the fullest extent of the law, because just because we're celebrities and we've opened our home life up to the world does not mean we've opened our gate for you to come in and do whatever it is that you want to do. >> well, this is very clearly a

terrifying time for both of you and for your children, duane and beth. duane. dog. sorry, i won't call you by your first name. intimidated me a little bit. thank you very much for coming in and for sharing your story with us. >> thank you for having us. >> thank you. >> all the best to you. we'll take a break and be back after this [ female announcer ] with depression, simple pleasures can simply hurt. the sadness, anxiety, the loss of interest. the aches and pains and fatigue. depression hurts. cymbalta can help with many symptoms of depression. tell your doctor right away if your depression worsens, you have unusual changes in behavior or thoughts of suicide. antidepressants can increase these in children, teens, and young adults. cymbalta is not approved for children under 18. people taking maois or thioridazine or with uncontrolled glaucoma should not take cymbalta. taking it with nsaid pain relievers, aspirin, or blood thinners may increase bleeding risk. severe liver problems, some fatal, were reported. signs include abdominal pain and yellowing skin or eyes. tell your doctor about all your medicines,

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>> friends trust one another. and i think that it's a good thing if i can trust my boss and my boss can trust me. >> it's the relationship in and of itself. it's not lending to friendship. respect, yes, friendship, no. >> jack, i found a therapist and i've made some big breakthrough! i know you don't know what this means, but i'm seeing -- >> i know it means this conversation is disgusting. >> it's a friendship that kind of comes to me sharing my personal self. >> you shouldn't talk about co-workers, because that's where it gets messy. >> if you go out and party too hard, if something happens that night, the next day you're going to have a hard day of work. >> you want a promotion, you've got to earn it. >> people looking at you thinking, oh, well, maybe

there's special treatment, or you know, people even expecting you to get things accomplished because you know the boss. >> if things go wrong, then you not only have a bad work relationship, but possibly a messed up friendship. >> now, according to one survey, 61% of workers think of their boss as their friend. only 23% enjoy spending time with their bosses outside of work. >> so, joining us now to talk about the potential benefits and pitfalls of becoming friends with someone who, let's face it, could actually fire you, are rod kurtz, executive editor of "the huffington post" and "today" contributor gail saltz. >> we're not here to fire anyone. >> right off the bat, befriending your boss, good thing or bad thing? rob, we'll start with you. >> we were talking about this earlier. it's very tricky. i think the key word is friendly. the reality is, we're spending more time at the office now than we do with our own family, so it's silly to go in with blinders and sit in the corner

and not interact with anyone. you want to get along with the people you work with, especially for the people you work for, but you have to maintain that professionalism. >> but gail, isn't there a difference, a different emotional connection between two friends, versus a boss being the friend? >> absolutely, and that's the problem. essentially, the boss has the power. and so, the employee has what we call transference in my field. you transfer feelings on to your boss that don't necessarily have to do with them. they're an authority figure, so you often transfer parental feelings, which makes you in a very vulnerable position. you're going to share things and give over things that you really shouldn't, necessarily. you end up oversharing, overdepending, overtrusting that this person is looking out for your goodwill in a way perhaps a parent would, but they're not. they're your boss. >> where do you draw the line with socializing with your boss? movies, weekends in the hamptons? >> no! >> the last one, we agree on

that, yeah. no, i think that, i've had some great bosses over the years. it's interesting, i'm a boss myself now. and i think the relationships i get back are sort of mentorships. so i do think it's okay to go out for coffee or lunch. a lot of times, a good boss takes the team out for drinks, that kind of thing. good rule of thumb, always stay one drink behind the boss. >> i would go further, i would say don't drink much with the boss. >> right. >> because that's where it becomes breaches of boundaries that are a problem. you get disinhibited and say stuff and then you expect stuff out of the relationship and you get hurt. >> here's where it gets weird, when the boss and the employee are the opposite sex. do all those rules change when that situation presents itself? >> yes, even more so. now look, again, office friendships are going to happen, office romances are going to happen, but you need to have your eyes open, and generally speaking, an employee-boss romance is a bad idea. so, don't flirt if you're going to have that -- >> i think it gets back to, also, people gossip. and even if there's absolutely nothing going on, if you're going out with the boss to lunch every day, your co-workers are

going to talk and it's going to kind of poison the pool among your fellow co-workers. they'll think you're kissing up, that kind of thing. you want to maintain some degree of separation there. >> basically the pain when you think someone's your friend and they have to fire you. >> absolutely. >> i'm going to go defriend my boss right now! rod kurtz and gail saltz, thank you so much. great insight. up next, tonight's "celebrity apprentice" finale down to the final two. clay aiken and arsenio hall will tell us how they plan to avoid being fired. especially in this economy. but with three kids, being home more really helped. man: so we went to fidelity. we talked about where we were and what we could do. we changed our plan and did something about our economy. now we know where to go for help if things change again. call or come in today to take control of your personal economy. get free one-on-one help from america's retirement leader.

♪ money, money, money, money tonight marks the season finale of "the celebrity apprentice." before donald trump crowns a winner, the two finalists must

execute a charity event and work together to make sure it goes off without a hitch. >> normally, they're frenemies or more friends than enemies, but they're actually good friends. arsenio hall and clay aiken, you are good friends, right? >> yes, we are good friends. >> bffs, beautiful. >> was that an unlikely friendship when the show started? did you just glom on to each other? >> you look at us and assume we would be friends right away. >> just like us. >> we were in the corner kind of being reclusive and everybody else was so open, they were social butterflies, and we realized we had a lot in common as far as personalities in this business. >> but this makes it difficult now because you are friends. >> oh, yes. >> it does make it difficult, but it also -- we've talked about, i think it challenges us both to do better, because i will do my task and i'll be thinking, oh, i mean, i want to beat arsenio, but i kind of want to impress him and i'm sure he wants to impress me. >> this is the best scenario. i mean, there was a point where i thought it would be me and penn and i was happy because it would be god versus no god. but god versus god, and i hope

it's a tie. >> let me ask you a question. you've seen the show, i'm sure, but at times in seasons past, how does it relate into actually doing the show? is it as hard as it looks to watch? i mean, some of these tasks are pretty challenging. >> it's pretty tough. i mean, they're tough at first because you really have no idea. it's outside of your wheelhouse. but also, the scheduling is grueling. it's tough. >> people don't know how -- i mean, they'll tell us, we want you to raise money, do a show, create a psa and have a party. and then they'll give you 24 hours to do this. >> right, right, right. >> what have you learned about yourself during this? >> i think i've learned -- i've always figured i was pretty adaptable, but i think i've learned that i am -- both of us have been really pretty adaptable, and i think that's kind of part of the success on the show, learning to adapt to different situations and different people, and different people is probably the toughest part of this. >> clay, you've played the role of runner-up already on "american idol." >> thanks for reminding me. >> well, you can blame my notes. my notes remembered it. i can imagine you don't want to do this again. >> no, thank you. no, thank you.

>> do you keep that in the back of your mind? >> of course. there's not much you can do about it at the end of the day, but it's a lot of deja vu involved here. a good friend up against a good friend, who's also from alabama. >> by the way, as a child, i was known as little ruben for no reason. skinny ruben. >> we should remind folks that while "the celebrity apprentice" is personal, it's all about raising money for your charity. $250,000 goes to your charity. yours is the? >> magic johnson foundation and i've been on the ground floor of it since magic made his announcement back in the day. and his organization is very special because he created it. >> i was a special ed teacher before i did "idol," and we include kids in the national inclusion project. [ cheers and applause ] a lot of special ed students. and we include kids with disabilities into programs like summer camps and after-school programs. >> is donald trump really as serious as he seems to be?

>> he's intimidating. i won't say scary because he's very personal, but he's intimidating because you have respect for him. he's the king of new york and here we are in his city. >> well, clay aiken and arsenio hall, we thank you so much. we also wish you the very best of luck. >> who do you wish the very best of luck to? him or me? >> i could answer that, but lester always gets the last word on this show. >> we're out of time! the final "celebrity apprentice" tonight at 9:00/8:00 central here on nbc. we'll be back in a moment after these messages. [ male announcer ] this is coach parker...

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♪ we're celebrating a special milestone here at nbc news this week, 20 years of "dateline." from breaking news to hidden camera investigations and extraordinary interviews, it's

been two decades of memorable stories. here's a look at some of the show's dramatic highlights. >> just like that. >> all right. >> i've never been caught in a sting operation. >> well, you're about to be. >> why are you running from me? >> he bolted out the back door. >> i'd like to talk to you. >> wow. >> i watch your shows. i'm a big fan, though. >> are you a psychic? >> yes, i am. >> if you were a psychic, you would know that she is an employee of nbc news and is carrying a camera. >> okay. >> within the first five minutes of the interview, there appeared to be three personality changes. >> what year did you -- >> i think i should stop here because not only are you reacting to it, but it seems like you're feeling intimidated. you're not talking to bill, you're talking to sam. that's what i think. >> i'm not playing your con.

it's a con. >> what if it isn't, what are you doing? >> if it isn't a con, it's fascinating. >> what made you think you could actually kill your wife and get away with it? >> never. what you're saying now is basically insulting me. no, never happened. >> you killed a couple of people in a horrible way. you can't even bring yourself to say it, can you? >> say you're sorry, but i mean, you know that it happened, but -- >> it isn't just happen, you did it. >> yeah. >> that's what it is. >> i think we both know. >> i don't know that they are. >> well, andrew, there's something you need to know. >> what? chris hansen? >> yes. >> hands up! >> i think that is a very good piece of investigative journalism, frankly.

>> i hope you'll join me as i host "dateline's" 20th anniversary special tuesday at 10:00/9:00 central here on nbc. >> looks good. we leave you this morning with "today's life illustrated," our weekly glimpse at life through your camera lens. this morning, with summer just around the corner, you take us on your past travels around the world, wetting our appetite for new ones. >> and next week, we're observing memorial day, so please send us your most patriotic snapshots. >> burgers and dogs included. summit them on our website, or on facebook and twitter. >> that's it for today. have a nice weekend and a wonderful day and thanks for watching. ♪

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