from nbc news, this is "today" with kathie lee gifford and hoda kotb. live from studio 1a in rockefeller plaza. >> hello, everybody. it is winesday wednesday to us. march 16th. would." >> is that the one from -- >> we have a terrific show for you. actress and singers. rita wilson from "sleepless in

music. now she's out with her second album that's very personal on it. that's the way she is now. she'll sing for us a little bit later. >> she sings about her girls, herr husband. then youou never know what to expect whenn eugene levy is >> love hihim. >> with his son daniel to tell us a about a new season of their hit show. we cannot say the name. it's like up -- creek. that's where they live. >> it's starting the second season but they've been renewed for season three. >> really? >> yes. >> was that in the notes? jill is coming up, too with her shopping bags. all the stuff to make your life easier like a travel backpack. you can go anywhere you want. >> how cute is our jill. >> she's perfect. i hate her. >> words of wisdom. >> namaste. >> i want to hold you because

>> this is a good sign having a broken heart. something. this is a good sign having a broken heart -- >> probably how jojo feels. >> elizabeth gilbert from "eat, pray love." >> jojo does. new -- >> no man is safe. >> no man is safe. last night on "the voice" they do the battle rounds. those have been continuing. some of the best parts are when contestants get to meet these iconic singers. the one helping. >> the mentors. >> two singers from team christina got to meet the one and only patti labelle. >> i'm glad they knew who she was. sometimes these young kids have no idea. >> they admired her. >> they were asked to sing this patti labelle song "lady marmalade" for their blind audition. imagine singing to her that song.

>> let's take a look at what happened during the rehearsal. >> today gave me so much confidence and there's no option to go home. >> they made both me and patti's heart just sing. i just pray that one of the guys saves the other half here because these girls are no joke. >> we haven't done that since the grammys. >> i know. girls? >> pinch me. i'm not really here. i'm not in kansas anymore. >> in the middle of the song, that's what they were singing. >> both ladies did survive and

adele is on her world tour. she has precious private moments. they are in a big arena but they are intimate between her and the audience. there was a couple together for 12 years.s. songs. they've been t together but they are not engaged or -- love." >> and she noticed something was going o on in t the audience. >> a proposal wasas going on.. >> take a look at what she did. >> did you just get engaged? did you?

>> this is our song. >> that was -- >> i have no idea what she was saying,, but i loved hearing it. just so darn loveable. >> i can't believe that. they'll never forgetet thatat. okay, whihich brings up the topic of engagement rings. >> i'm sure people are noticing that i'm not wearing my -- thing. when i went in the dead sea, they tell you to take off all of yourur jewelry because it can be horrible. so i haven't put it back on yet. >> so do you think and this is a question for everybody. do you think the size of the engagement ring matters? that is not what i meant. do you t think it does?

>> not one twit. >> change is that a bad word? >> change the vowel and it would have been. >> buy a vowel. >> so some people, some guys believe it is a symbol of how much they -- how much love they want to show to their fiance. and some women believe it shows how much their man loves them. how big is the rock, you know? >> maybe those kinds of things mean something at the beginning. i remember when frank asked me to m marry him when we were in atlantic city at the trump plaza -- >> pause f for a moment there. >> and he takes out this gorgeous 5 carat emerald cut ring. just blindingly beautiful. and i just tooook one look at it. can i go show my parents. so i left him sitting there. went to my parents. then years later it was stolen. and i remembeber thinking, the only thing that was sad is i wanted to give it to cassidy

so frank took me into tiffany's. and we walked in and he said anything you want. >> wow. >> and i went, i want that there. that's all i want. and, you know,, by that time, marriage -- stuff. >> uh-uh. >> i agree with that.. >> no, no, no. >> the average cost, by the way -- >> how about you, hoda? >> you know what's funny? when i was proposed to in the buggy in central park -- >> on valentine's day. >> whatever. when i was proposed to, i didn't look -- i didn't notice the ring. i really didn't notice it. >> i believe that. >> i wasn't so -- >> you aren't into stuff. >> i'm not into stuff. all. it worked out well. >> and average engagement ring runs almost $6,000 according to

>> i've always been about terra firma. because a ring is -- for some people,, it means something, that's great. god bless you. but i always wanted a house. give me a house. i didn't want a big wedding. i'd take the money you'd spend on all of that and put it toward your life together. >> yes. i totally agree. a study from the u university of colorado in boulder that says people buy gifts that are symbols much their love, they almost always overspend. i love you so much. here's something i can't afford. all righty then. >> it's not fun when we agree. >> by the way -- >> even when you were gone, i lost the winebot. >> you did? >> i have not won the winebot. that's what we do when we disagree on something and see whose line fills up faster. >> i've lost it every single time with you and once when you were away. >> so sad. here's good news for mariah carey fans. she'ss going to be on a realility show.

it's going to air on e! . it's call mariah's world. >> it is mariah's world and we just live in it. she's going to be giving her world tour and also planning her wedding. and she's also raising her twins. i'm kind of surprised. she seems to be at a good place now emotionally and -- i personally would want to just keep it nice and tight and close to the vest after you've been through all of that. keep something sake red at home. >> she seems like a little bit of a perfectionist. she likes control over things. maybe she has control over what is put out and what isn't. it seems like it's a little risky. >> oh, yeah. she's going to be on e! right? >> we have a hump day hunk. alexander scarsgard. >> oh, my goodness. >> what? he's tarzan. >> a film coming up called "the legend of tarzan." >> yes.

something extra that that adds? >> i didn't notice the rain. >> wet and standingg outside. >> me, tarzan. >> speaking of tarzan -- >> we love this. >> this is one of our favorite commercials. is it ggeico? >> we're going to play this because it makes us laugh. >> i think we should have taken a lefeft at the river. >> no, tarzan. >> tarzan doesnsn't know where tarzan go. >> do you know where the waterfall is? waterfall? >> no, no, me tarzan. jane of jungle. >> if you are a couple, you fight over directions. it's what you do. if you want to save 15% or more on car insurance, it's what you do. >> do you have to do that right in my ear? >> perfect. from movies to tv and broadway, you'd think rita wilson has done it all. until you. right after this.

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she's an actress, singer, producer and mother to tom hanks. now you can add songwriter. she is also a cancer survivor. it's been about a year since her breast cancer diagnosis. she has come back stronger than ever with a new self-titled album, and i had a chance to talk to her all about it. settings. at events, with your husband, acting. i feel like you arere the most joyful i ever see you when you are sing with a microphone in your hand. there's something that happens to your face and -- >> i love it so much. maybe it's because when you go through some kind of health issues or anything like that, you are just so happy to be doing the things you love to do that i get such complete joy out of music, i feel how amazing it is to do something like this now

you want to do a good job but you try not to care about what everybodyy is going to write about you on the internet or something. >> your views have been great. i read one in rolling stone and one in "the new york timimes." you also collaborated on writing thesee songs with songwriters. this is a lot of your heart and soul. you aren't reading someone's material. >> when you write a song it's really who you are, truthfully, and you are so exposed when you sit in the room with these wonderful songwriters. you are humbled by their talent but you have to be prepared to dig deep and that's what makes satisfying. >> there's a song you write "every day." >> i w wrote that with christian bush of sugarland. >> it's about you a and tom. >> how you fall in love with the little things about someone. >> every single day. >> maybe other people wouldn't notice but you would.

almost a year ago this month -- >> yes. >> -- you had your surgery. is it still one of the first things you think about. >> it's not one of the first things i think about. one is how grateful i am t that i'm here and that i caught i it early and had a second opinion on my pathology. and how lucky i am to be here andd living life every day. but it does occur to me that it's the fact of life that happened to you so there have been things i changed five glasses of alcohol max perer week, which i do. and i was like, really, at this age i have to start cutting down? okay. fine. exercise is v very important. but like really you wake up every day just being thankful for that day because it could have been a different story. > you learn so much more after facing that with tom. >> you completely do. like you never know how someone is going to react in a situationon

got closer during that period of time, and it wasn't without fun. like we still laughed at things and watched movies and, you know, you could still find humor in things. it wasn't all doom and gloom. >> your songs are awesome. are you going on the road? going on tour? >> going on the road. >> you are going on the road. where are we going? >> first of all, we're going to have so much fun on the road. i'm doing all these live shows across the country. i'm going on a bus with my band. we're hitting a lot of places soo check ritawilson.com has all the tour dates. i'm just excited. >> we were talking about how joyful she is. she's going to sing her song "girls night in" coming up next. then add fun to your life while adding function. >> the scoop on the coolest gadgets to make your life easy why are after this. >> she would. because there's nothing like a great meal with the family except maybe another great meal

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the citi concert series on "today" is proudly presented by citi. >> actress and singer ritita wilson making her debut as a songwriter on her latest self-titled album. >> get up on your feet. here she is singing one of her catchy new songs "girls night in." hey

turn up the beat kick uppior heels down their wheels parking out for the first round hell of a day i need a night to get crazy nobody here to tell us to act like ladies hey ladies come on, come on and break up free no cover charge drinks on me which one you want it's no sense it's a girls night in come on, come on crank it up shake what you got it's just us it's all the way to do it it's a girls night in all of the guys are driving around racking up miles on the beat not gonna find us hanging downtown disco balls and a good buzz

free no cover charge drinks on me it's no sense it's a girls night in come on, come on crank it up it's all the way to 2:00 a.m. it's a girls night in it's a girls night out let's go and shout it it's just us we'll do it loud turn it up all my ladies hell of a day i need a night to get crazy nobody here to tell us to act like ladies hey ladies come on, come on break up free no cover charge drinks on me

it makes no sense it's a girls night in come on, come on crank it up shake what you got it's just us it's alm the way to 2:00 a.m. it's a girls night in it's a girls night in it's a girls night in >> yeah! "girls night in." we're heading up the creek withouout a paddle. >> yeah, bececause -- >> eugene and daniel levy are always fulll of surprises. >> and we hope the luck of the irish is on your side when you play "who knew" along with our crowd across the street.

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it's wineday wednesday, saturday /- st. patrick's day eve. we want to play a game of who knew. hoda is a cross the street in 30 rock. >> look at these people. got a big crowd. ready to hand out 100 bucks to anybody who gets the questions right. those who do not that person gets a signed copy of her book which is awesome. here with me is colin hamill /- /- director of theater boston. welcome. >> happy st. pad /- patty's day /- /- /- /- /- .

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7 >> all right, sir. what's your name? >> taylor. >> where are you from? >> knoxville, tennessee. go vols! >> thank you. ready? >> yeah. >> which one of these actors was not born in ireland? elam neeson, michael fassbender or jonathan reesemeyer? >> b. >> b? >> she's right? >> is she right? >> she is right. >> michael fassbender was born in germany but his mother was in northern ireland. they raised him in ireland. now, of course, great actors and great "star wars" was made in ireland. the "graham ame of thrones" in >> one more. this. what's your name and where are >> molly. >> and delaney. >> andy. >> this may be a question for your dad. how many. pints of guinness are consumed

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almost got caught. >> almost got caught. levy. comedy royalty known for his work in "best in showow." >> i think my favorite of all time. >> definitely. >> plus the "american pie" franchise where he played jim's hilarious dad. daniel is following in his dad's footsteps as the star of their

it's called [ bleep ] creek where they share a little bondining time. take a look. >> if you need momoney, i can give you money. >> well, thank you, david. oh, my god. what are you doing? >> i was trying to give you a hug. >> i get the gesture. >> let's just leave it. >> all right. >> so congratulations. it's a hit. it's been picked up for the third season. >> you have been so supportive of us. >> it's such a thrill to be here, by the way. >> isn't it? >> we are huge fans here. >> talk about that scene. you do a lot of the writiting and you are the great improviser. what was going on. was that scripted or all you? what was happening? >> in our room we had a funny

if you go in for a hug in a car and the seat belt snags. the scene was written around the gag and turned out to be this very awkward, lovely moment that just doesn't work out. >> so the high-five was improvise improvised. came in at the end and he responded beautifullyly by ignoring me. >> what's the relationshihip like in real life? >> it's great. i mean, listen, it's -- well -- >> to get to come to work every day with your family is like an amazing thing. >> what happens when you disagree onn something, or does that ever happen? >> a lot of fist fights. >> it gets physical. no, believe it or not, we haven't had like a lot of disagreements. ii don't think we've had any. this show is in dynamic hands here. it's great. i don't think -- >> i think it helps when -- the reason the show has sort of

because we share a very similar sensibility when it comes to like the comedy of it -- so any disagreements or discrepancies are always resolved -- >> the older person usually gets his way. >> that's the way it should be. your daughter is also in the cast, right? >> my daughter, sarah, yes. >> nepotism is alive and really doing well. >> yeah. yeah. >> some people might have a problem with it. hoda does. i don't. i believe keep a family together. >> anybody in your family that's not funny and not talented? >> no. >> my wife deb, that is a fact. >> why isn't shehe on the show? >> she's not in front of the camera. she has since she had a g grade three play and forgot her lines, she's always had this thing about being on the stage.

so since you guyss are starring, obviously, in your own show we're going to show you somome characters. this is the f first one. take a look. whoo are these people? what show is this? >> oh, that would be the "brady bunch." >> do you know the people? >> the kids and the dad. >> all right. next one up. and go. >> "seinfeld." >> who are the people? >> george costanza and -- >> his dad. >> let's do rapid fire. >> "the munsters." >> freddy munster and his dad. >> eddie. >> all right. ready, go. >> "growing pains." >> no.

oh, wow. >> i can't remember either. >> "family ties." >> hold on. here's one you both will know. >> simpsons. homer and bart. >> why did you know those two of all the ones? >> the longest running ever. >> by the way -- >> in history. >> 3 of 3. congratulations. >> we were both nominated for best actor for the canadian screen awards that we just had. >> that's not as important as the fact that -- >> it's the first time in the history of the entertainment business. >> that's fantastic. >> that a father and son have been nominated in the category. >> oh, nice. congratulations. >> in a way only a dad can brag about. >> it wasn't so obvious. >> we love you guys. come back again when you're on - -- season two of "[ bleep ]

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>> it's the cutest. >> i kept saying i carried a watermelon. do you remember from "dirty dancing." and the spigot is in here and you go like this and it becomes watermelon juice. >> where does the juice come from? >> did you juice it and then put it in there? >> yeah. >> i love it, jill. >> and now we're coming over here. this is from sharper image. it's a 360-degree mirror. if you want to see the back of your hair like an updo or whatever is going on, you look over there and -- >> i see jill? >> i can see -- >> you can see the back of your has. >> i don't know. >> 360 degrees. >> unbelievable. >> when you have it -- when you see everything you got kind of thing. >> so that's that. if you'll take a seat.

>> if you look undernrneath there are speakers there. bluetooth. >> finally s some real music. >> thank you, jill. >> it's over? the song is over? >> bluetooth but the speakers are here. your guests can control their own music. >> it's genius. >> take a seat and pretend we're on an airplane. if you go to an airplane you know you're limited. so this vest it's a wearable carry-on. and i keep everything in here. a whole carry-on. that way i get two carry-ones in one. i get everything in my vest. >> it looks a little suspect. >> yeah. >> but, no, it's not suspect. but everything is in here. so that way i get -- >> did you pack your thong? >> yeah, it's up here.

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