tonight on "nightline," patrick swayze dies. the actor best known for his performances in "dirty dancing" and "ghost" who found new fame after a courageous battle with cancer. tonight, his last interview. and how you can chow down on pizza, onion rings and chips and still lose weight. so how does she do it? and losing your cool. serena's tirade. kanye's mic grab. >> one of the best videos of all time! >> those presidential name calling. >> you lie! >> why this dearth of manners is tonight's "sign of the times". captions paid for by abc, inc.

good evening, i'm cynthia mcfadden. we begin tonight with sad news from hollywood. actor patrick swayze died today after a courageous battle with pancreatic cancer. the 57-year-old swayze have been remembered for his dancing in "dirty dancing" and from "ghost", but part of it will remembered from the way he dealt with real life. he talked candidly about his illness was with abc's barbara walters and she joins me now. >> well, cynthia, patrick swayze and i had had a relationship -- a warm relationship for decades. in january of this past year, i went to his mansion on the outskirts of los angeles to do what turned out to be his last television interview. patrick swayze was fighting a grim diagnosis -- stage four

pancreatic cancer, one of the deadliest forms of the disease. but he was not looking for sympathy. he was fighting, he was tough. he was angry. but he was also loving. he was a dancer. he was a cowboy. he was a movie star. >> nobody puts baby in the corner. >> but above all, he was a fighter. >> i keep dreaming of a future. of you two with a long and healthy life, a life not lived in the shadow of cancer, but in the light. i dream that the word cure will no longer be followed by the words it's impossible. ani ask only one thing of you. will you stand up with me? will you stand up to cancer? [ applause ] >> patrick swayze, defiant, but definitely sick. but far from the heartthrob who

boogied into the heart of the generation with his trademark moves in "dirty dancing". ♪ but the role that sealed his destiny among the top romantic actors of all time involved a pottery wheel, a grieving widow played by demi moore and a ghost. >> i love you, molly. i've always loved you. >> ditto. >> but recently, he found fame in a new role -- cancer patient. in march of 2008, he was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. a notoriously lethal disease. he said he first knew something was amiss as he was celebrating new year's eve with his wife lisa. >> i tried to have champagne and it would be like pouring acid on an open wound and then my indigestion issues got gigantic

and constant. then i started thinking i'm getting skinny. >> how much weight did you lose? >> i dropped 20 pounds in the bling of an eye. then when you see it in the mirror, and you pull your eyes down and the bottom of your eyes go yellow and jaundice, then you know something is wrong. >> but swayze continued to work despite the cancer. he also continued another life long habit -- smoking. patrick, are you smoking? >> oh, well, i will tell you i'm not a nonsmoker, i have seriously cut down. you know, i was one of those dumb ones that started back this the marlbororo man days. it was cool. i'm a cowboy. but i'll tell you one thing, i will talk so hard core against smoking for kids. that's one reason i have never smoked in front of children. just in my life. >> smoking can lead to pancreatic cancer. >> absolutely. >> you know that? >> absolutely. >> patrick, do you think that your smoking caused the cancer? >> oh, i don't know. so i will go so far as to say

that probably smoking had something to d do with my pancreatic cancer. >> but you still smoke? >> absolutely. >> why? >> i've got priorities. it's just i've been dealing as it comes at a time n the order that it's trying to kill me. will stopping smoking right now stop anything, change anything? no. but when it looks like i may live longer than five minutes, i'll drop cigarettes like a hot potato. right now it's not my priority. >> patrick told me he didn't want to be the poster boy for living with cancer. but his battle with the disease inspired his legion of fans. >> the outpouring of love is constantly astounding me. >> these letters and the kind of genuine love and support without expecting anything in return has personally restored my faith in what people are made of. >> it's amazing what love could change and what courage love can breed in other people. >> are you scared? >> well, i don't know.

i will be so either truthful or stupid as to say no. but then i immediately when i say that, i have to say, yes, i am. >> i love you, molly. >> you know your movie "ghost" -- >> i have always loved you. >> when no matter what happened the spirit went on. do you ever think about that? >> yeah. big time. because the biggest line out of "ghost" was it's amazing, molly, you take the love with you. >> it's amazing, molly. the love inside, you take it with you. >> got me. it was a good line. >> i didn't even think about that. >> it's all you can take with you. i think that it validated that one thing for all of us, that the only thing you can really take with you when you die is

the love you have. >> well, you two have a lot of love in your heart. i don't mean to be corny, but you're quite a couple. i hope you have a long time to keep dancing together. you know, i'm going to come back in a couple of years and we're going do another interview, okay? >> i'm up for it. >> me too. >> i'll do it. i'll be here. >> okay. >> great. >> or i won't. >> i love you. >> i love you too. >> cynthia, my heart goes out to his wife, lisa. they have been married for 34 years and she was his partner in every way. they met as kids and they danced together. they met in his mother's dance studio. so my thoughts are with her, yeah. >> what a hard day f her. you found out a little bit more about the circumstances of his death. what can you tell us, barbara? >> lisa was with him when he died and his brother, donnie swayze. he also had a sister and a

brother, but they had died. he died in the ranch which you saw in this interview. and he had been working all summer long on his memoir. june, july and august he worked on that, just three weeks ago he did the audio version of it. and you know what it's called? "the time of my life". that was in "dirty dancing". >> oh, barbara. can you -- did he think he was going to beat it? did he think he was going to beat the odds? >> he thought that he had lived longer than people had thought he would. he had beaten the odds by ten months he said. remember he had done a television series, he did 13 eks of a show called "the beast". he told me he'd lie on the floor in agony on the bathroom. nobody knew that his whole inside was on fire and he'd go out on the set. he said maybe i'll make it for five years, but he loved his

ranch, rode his horses. he was interested in forestry that's what he wanted his legacy to be. you know, more even than the acting. so he -- if there is a message it's that you have to keep -- you have to keep going. you have to try. and he certainly did, but it was obviously a battle he lost. >> very courageous man. our thanks to you, barbara. barbara's entire hour with patrick swayze can be seen tomorrow night at 10:00 p.m. on a barbara walters special. we'll be right back.

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we turn now to the fight against fat. a fight that in this country truly is an epidemic. a study released in july found a staggering two thirds of americans are now either overweight or obese. and so it's no surprise that the weight loss business is so vast and the woman you're about to meet has found a recipe for guilt-free success.

as brian rooney now reports. >> if you like crunchy snacks there are a lot of snacks that are acceptable. >> shop the center aisles of after grocery store with lisa lillien, far from the fruits and vegetables, deep among the chips and dips, and you learn survival in the danger zone of processed foods. >> you can find good things in the center aisle like pop chips. here they are. these are all-natural. they taste amazing. they have 120 calories a serving. >> she knows how to read the labels. figure out what's good for you. >> 100 calories per half a cup. >> what's sort of okay. >> 77 grams of fat. that's a lot of fat. >> and what will clog your arteries. vegetable chips. >> those are just like glorified potato chips i bet. let's see. they're probably not -- >> v veggie. there's an assumption it's a good thing. >> well, once you get the fat grams over seven it's a little

high. remembmber, s e e a a trigger food for me, so i don't buy a lot of chips and i try really to stick with the 100 calorie packages. >> all foods are a trigger food for me. >> lisa lillien runs the popular internet website hungry girl. which she reviews processed foods, puts out hot tips on good stuff to eat and publishes weight-saving recipes. that littlee cn chchacter? that's her. she says she's not a doctor or a dietitian. just a hungry girl trying to enjoy eating and stay thin. >> there wasn't any information out there from regular people who were sort of in the trenches with the rest of the world. fighting the fight, living that life. >> she's not a scold about food and not on a perpetual diet. >> hungry girl is about real world survival strategies. finding ways to eat the foods that you want to eat, the foods that you crave. the foods that you would normally think are off limits. whether it's pasta, burger,

brownies. whatever you cravethere's a guilt-free one. >> magic in a foil wrapper. >> swap something good for something bad. >> a cream cheese swap, it's good for cheese sauces. it can do a lot. >> the hungry girl and her staff work out of a los angeles condominium that's both office and test kitchen. she'll rewrite restaant recipes, even family favorites. you reinvented your mother's stuff stuffed cabbage. >> she told me the ingredients, and i nearly fell out of the chair. we have two more versions before it's hungry girl approved. the meat needs more flavor and the sauce needs salt. >> her recipe books have been best sellers but what the hungry girl staff spends a lot of time with is processed foods. >> my gosh. this is the new --

>> stacks of boxes from food manufacturers arrive every day. what is this? >> a cheese graham. it's a calorie counter cheese-it. >> why would anybody who eats cheese-its count calories? >> exactly. people can't eat cheese-its -- >> i wouldn't eat cheese-itsut i'd eat these. >> there's buzz words, high fiber, antibiotic, probiotic. >> relax and unwind with the spring water. and naturally calming botanicals. what's a botanical? >> i know, right? >> she has at least 800,000 subscribers throughout, mostly women, waiting for her to tell them what's od to eat. let's go for the pomegranate. >> let's try -- that one is

horrible. >> this one is worse? >> this tastes like a candle. >> oh, no. >> it does. >> having never eaten a candle, i don't know. >> this will change your life. i'm not kidding even a little bit. >> she believes in eating fruits and vegetables but accepts that americans are snackers and most of the snacks they eat are processed foods. >> i like big chips and there are definitely less greasy, less fatty alternatives to chips. >> do the math, serving sizes like dress sizes are different for every manufacturer. >> fat free. low fat. >> she's becoming an influential voice in moving the companies to get rid of the fat ingredients. she thinks fiber one cereal is great, and she agreed to let them use her image. she eats the cereal. she uses it as a swap. >> i get the onions in the eggbeater and i bake them with fiber one. it was life changing. >> you our not pushing -- you're

not pushing a joyless diet? >> no. you don't need me to tell you to eat a salad that what cucumbers with beets and where people need help is when they eat foods that are normally off limits like pizza or onion rings or fettuccine alfredo or pasta. >> you're big on ice creams. >> the best ones are in preportioned packages. if you open a big tub of ice cream there's a big chance you'll have three or four servings of it at once. >> she likes to say she's a bridge between the whole foods and the junk food as well. >> you do cocktails as well? >> it's true. i like to recommend mixers that are not high in calories. io. >> you're saying have fun, find some ice cream to eat, and find something to drink. >> not preachy. i'm helping you get through the day.

>> do diets make that mistake? >> it's not about being on a diet or off a diet. it's about changing your lifestyle. >> what are some of the things you would say to people, get that out of your food pantry? >> it is probably the multiserving bags of full fat potato chips and the giant tubs of full fat ice cream and ginormous muffins that are like 900 calories each. things like that. >> but a jar of marshmallow fluff? >> there's a time and place for marshmallow fluff. don't diss the marshmallow fluff. >> she is after all a hungry girl. this is brian rooney for "nightline" in los angeles. >> our thanks to brian rooney and the hungry girl. when we come back, from serena williams and kanye west and incivility rules. it is tonight's "sign of the times".

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we turn now to a group of high profile people whose recent behavior must be making miss manners cringe. what began on the floor of the u.s. capitol building last week spread this weekend to center court at the u.s. open before climbing rudely last night on to the stage at radio city music hall. what would their mothers say? for dan harris, it's "a sign of the times". >> for students of human behavior, these past few days have been delicious. from serena williams losing it after a questionable call at the u.s. open. >> [ bleep ]!

>> to rapper kanye west stealing the mic from country star taylor swift at the video music awards. >> i'm really happy for you, i'll let you finish, but beyonce had one of the best videos of all time! >> to republican congressman joe wilson interrupting the president during his speech to congress. >> you lie! >> we asked psychologist jeff gardere to give us a little analysis. >> we need to teach them to stop having temper tantrums and grow up and act in a more responsible, adult way. >> i'd like to think our culture is constantly getting coarser. >> for satirists like the writer joeltein, all this public incivility is a huge gift. >> kanye wasn't even halfway done with his crazy speech before the audience looked

disgusted. even pink looked disgusted. when you disgust her, you've gone too far. >> the loudest, shrillist voices get the attention. >> to the ladies at "the view." >> when you're in the public view, you're held to a higher standard. you are human. >> that last comment is especially rich given that guest host kate gosselin has as many americans know been in the public eye and has melted down. >> you need to stop playing toys and come help. >> that, for example, is not very civil. >> it is worth noting there are some positive signs in recent days. today for example, serena williams and her sister played a nice, civil doubles match. after which serena apologized to her fans and her interviewer was bod for asking one too many questions about the iginal outburst. >> so i'd like for taylor to come out and have her moment.

>> and at the end of last night's video music awards, beyonce in a magnanimous momnt called taylor swift back up on to the stage to widespread applause. sometimes civility does pay. for "nightline," this is dan harris in new york. >> well, beyonce's mother should be proud of her anyway. our thanks to dan harris for that. when we come back, from one of the u.s. opener's losers to tonight's surprise winner. $5 for the sub, huh?

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