your faithful prayers and gifts. the inside story on the issues that affect you and your committee. this is your topics this is the speakers, i am dan hurley. it super bowl, billions of americans will tune and to look at tonight to find out whether the carolina panthers and their young new style quarterback cam newton can beat the old ny's

they are waiting for the timeouts and the commercials. can any of this year's ads rifled the top three grades, the three frogs to genetically setting up budweiser, michael jordan with with that skill or a big bike, the xerox. or a single brave athlete smashing the dreary world magic of george orwell in 1984 to announce apples introduction of the pack in touch. knowing the huge audience that will be turned into tight local 12 lunch initiative this year to allow a local doctor for profit to partner with a for-profit supporter to tell its story. what is the national news has its roots is that the become a big brothers and big sisters. here is an ad you will see to date c3 i was supposed to join again, go to prison, drop out of high school.

i was 19 years old my mother went to big brothers, big sisters of cincinnati and it taught me how to stand cool and stay out of trouble c3 today i am the vice president. we are sponsoring this message to help big brothers, big sisters of greater cincinnati create more life-changing friendships. >> anchor: i am trying to buy the stars of that commercial to be you may not know. david nicholson is the vice president of sales and his big brother, mike harding. mike lived in edgewood. welcome to trenton.great to be here at something like this. how long have you known to know each other. when did you get matched as a big brother and a little brother. >> we were first match what i was age 9. aunt remained together for an additional five years.

every few years we come back together. here we are today. you know, featured in this super bowl commercial. >> reporter: mike, in your case what brought you to be a big brother. >> man: i was at my middle 30s and still single. a lot of my friends were married and had children. i just felt there was something missing, something i could get. and i do a lot about big brothers from their ads and from the community. i decided to make the call. >> it was literally picking up the phone and picking up. >> man: they did and they match me with anything that was 1986.

you how did a parent, however sort of get you involved as a little brother. >> i grew up in a single-parent household and my meritmother had the courage to pick up the phone and call big brothers big sisters realizing i needed a male mentor, a figure in my life that she could to provide. and luckily got matched with mike and the rest is history. >> dan: so the rest is history but it really isn't that simple. so what is it you did together as big brother, big sister. how did you get the relationship started and how did it mature, mike? how did you get into this. you didn't have any kids. >> and i really didn't think agency. they sort of said, just do whatever you would do. just do what you like to do that is what we did. i was really into sports so we

events. is lot of participation sports, bowling, and we went to red games, so from a selfish standpoint i just dictated to do things i enjoy doing. it was really easy for me at a little selfish and that i probably didn't know if that is what he enjoyed doing but i think it all worked out. sphere did you enjoy it, nathan? >> nathan: these are all things i never took part in. my mom worked tirelessly to put food on the table and to provide a house for us. she did it take me to the redskins at the bengals games and pulling which bike was able to do on the weekends we spent together. >> dan: now, in the process of going to reds games and

on. develops. did that, nathan, it is hard to 11-year-old. how did you understand what this relationship was? >> nathan: to me it was a weekly schedule i could depend on bank being there saturday, sunday, sometimes during the week. just the repetition of that cycle. and realizing he was a successful individual. if i was looking back now i would have to say that my position where i am today. >> dan: in sales. >> nathan: yes, in sales i can look back and that is quite instrumental in providing that beacon to try for.

tribulation without my youth, even after we grew apart. but there is something to be said for that seed being planted on early in my life. do you remember him telling you at what he did in work and sort of what his life was in a larger sense. what she was doing, that kind of thing? >> nathan: yes, it was very evident to be that the tickets were coming was from the cold company we work for. i remember going into the office. he did it to make a stop into the office to grab some paperwork or whatever the case may be. seeing that structure itself was instrumental. >> dan: make, for you, how did you think of this relationship? did it fulfill that part that you were looking for, and at some point did you move on, did you get married, did you have your own family?

speech and correct.looking back as we have reconnected the last two years. i think we do things as if nathan was my own son. we just went about daily activities. what i would've done if nathan had been biological son. whether it be going into the office, just having conversations about what was going on in our lives. i don't think i really had a planned in terms of trying to guide nathan in any sort of direction. we just lived life. and we were together, i think by for six years and i think at some point, nathan's mom thought if i could we were getting a little bit aged for our relationship right or wrong. and in my early 40s i got married and had come to children of my own.

you said later. marries later. okay, that this was really important. now, you were thinking your mom really had to work hard. did you have brothers and >> nathan: no. >> dan: so that is another factor you were an only child. did you find it and either one of you, did you find that there was something nathan was uncomfortable doing. i was a big brother to, for only about three years. and at one point i took my little brother home for dinner which i just thought sunday night dinner. and i realized it was such a cultural difference between his place, his family, and my family.

where there are examples of that for the two of you? >> mike: if i could go first, but of the instrumental records i remember or just being part of something was mike built a new home. >> dan: going from where i grew up in apartments most of my childhood. even into my teenage years, that was something that i was in off of. wow, somebody could be successful and build something, this beauty. even as a young child i remember reflecting back on that. and the lesson, that you are building this new constructed house there are plenty of debris to pick up around the yard. i invited a friend over, mike offered to pay as for picking up rocks in the yard. and i think we through more rocks in the yard that we

told we would not be paid. and talking to mike later, he tells me that is a lesson that my father would have relayed to be. if you didn't do an honest days work that you are not going to get paid. >> dan: did that come by mutually. >> mike: that is definitely my father would have done. so it was, sort of, it's life lesson. i don't think i thought about it at the time. but going back to your earlier question i think they didn't one thing i remember is nathan being woefully shy.and that might be a only child. i can relate to that because i was woefully shy as well. i think we related in that way also. >> dan: you drew apart but the rebound each other in the last few years. what prompted that? was that intentional on what of your parts or did that just

>> dan: i think with the partnership, the long-term partnership with big brothers, petee big sisters. >> dan: it predates you. >> nathan: i think the owners always in my story but we have been with big brothers. and we brought this channels of communication with big brothers, really shared by sorry but that individual on the board and they approached me of two, three years ago for writing a story for january's mentor month. and i was a little reluctant because i don't write opinion polls or anything of that nature. but they were more than willing to help assist me and creating this piece. i said, you know, i would love to reconnect with mike. i have some understanding of where he lives, it was always a goal to pick that phone call. that they were tested up to

is what sparked our reunion. several years ago. >> dan: was this relationship with nathan something you talked about with your wife? >> mike: yeah. >> dan: that she was fully aware this was part of >> mike: i kind of kept up with nathan because he was getting promotions almost on an annual basis at ut and i had seen press releases in the papers. i was following him, i was very curious, from big brothers i

it was really o welcome back this evening on local 12 a commercial in the midst of the super bowl will tell the story of big brothers, big sisters to the story of nathan cooper and mike harding which we were talking to but to give you a sense of the program today here is a report from last december of a pairing of another big brother with a little brother right here in cincinnati. >> this meeting has been a

>> man: how are you doing? x more than a year in the making.>> man: are you excited? >> woman: yes, it is pretty exciting. big brother. someone to look up to, to talk to, to hang out with. the person assuming this owns, cincinnati firefighter jim drescher 23 now that i work in the firefighter i work in the city. i felt it was the right thing to go to a place where i can help out. >> the two met for the first time over the weekend. helped along the way by big brothers, big sisters control but specialist. >> man: basically will be responsible for keeping him safe and you are responsible for being competitive and respectful. >> woman: dance role is to encourage chris, to introduce them to experiences he might not have otherwise. the guys already have their first outing plant. tonight's pizza and take trip to game stop.

organization might be in the organization to make this happen. one of the interesting things about this story is that the efforts and roots have roots here in cincinnati from 2003, avmed thought a kid and tatters kick it again outside a downtown office building. rather than ignore the boy or shoo him away that cyber came out and began a long-term relationship. going on walks together, going out to eat, going to a reds game, sound familiar? wesheimer told others in the local jewish community and he told others.they inc., a parallel presence was going on in new york city, people didn't know it's. they didn't know each other. 1947 it doesn't local organizations began working together to form international organizations were to talk about big brothers and big sisters today nathan gipper and

we are joined by kathy lift, the ceo of greater cincinnati big brothers and big sisters. thank you for joining us. >> woman: thank you. >> dan: about the stuff that is coming out of the storytelling right here. what did you hear that you thought was really important? >> woman: what i hear is what i mostly hear from our big brothers and big sisters which is the nationally organic process that happens when you least expect it. so mike signed up as you heard something on t.v. and picked up the phone and had the courage to do that.and nathan was waiting. and we had a group of social workers at the office making sure we had just the right match. and mike just went about it

and this wonderful relationship that was built. >> dan: what goes into and we see a little bit at this in the package we just saw. what goes into that match, how does your staff take the people on one lift who have been looking for a big brother and the people on the other list, those willing to be a big brother and decide, these are the people i think we can batch, we compare. >> kathy: the mentoring happens organically everywhere. just in businesses and in friendships and neighborhoods. but when we have a program like ours we take account a lot of different factors. it is not just the texting men at the qr the next volunteer that comes through. there is a lot of work that comes behind that i call that our secret weapon.

have a big step at case managers who talk to nathan's mom and about what he like to do. that they found out he was pretty shy and works with the social getting involved in the community, etc. and the case manager is talking to mike in finding out what he likes to do. realizes mike likes to do it lots of sporting events and might even was like growing up. and take into account that they live close together that they could get together on a regular basis. >> dan: it is convenient it is not just the next one that comes along. there is a lot of work to make sure that match is compatible. that there is another case manager that works, that if they go through that match things are moving smoothly as they go. >> dan: mike, you were the big brother in this. do you remember back, and not before the match was made, you might get it done exactly what was going on behind the scenes. but once the relationship started with nathan do you remember assistance and support

the organization? >> mike: i remember having some contact, but truthfully our relationship went fairly smooth. and we just picked up right away. and went about having fun together. >> dan: but could you, that doesn't always happen. >> kathy: rightt. >> dan: are there other people who could come and say, here are suggestions? >> kathy: yes, for example at the very beginning of a match, if the batch isn't feeling they are getting off to a great start and they weren't as lucky as the stem two. a case manager will get the big brother, big sister ideas of how about what you are driving in the car you don't them how are you feeling but you talk about simple things. has it been a great day or what would you like to do? and do everyday normal activities to get the conversation going.

they occasionally stopped by mike's office. and nathan got a peek inside. >> kathy: right. relationships don't just happen effort. and what our big brothers and big sisters do every day is most important to their little brothers and sisters. >> dan: how many actives are out there and active in the greater cincinnati area? 11 counties.>> kathy: 11 counties and we are over 1100. >> dan: of that is a lot. 1100 batches, 1100 pairs. >> kathy: that is correct. >> dan: what is the average lifespan that one of these relationships? anywhere from 2-3 years. we ask for a year convinced of it because we really want that relationship to gel. but in reality it is more like

doesn't that go into tent years, 11 years. >> dan: and even though this one went 546, and went different ways. you were still related, you both had each other unclear points for a long time. by the time he went back together. it is really a continuing relationship. >> mike: it is like family. >> dan: you made up of the same city doesn't mean you don't have a relationshipp. >> nathan: it is kind of interesting. >> dan: are there children waiting right now? do you have people on the little side that don't have you don't have enough people to match with? >> kathy: we have a perpetual waiting list. we have right now 400 children on the waiting list and most of them are boys. at we could have eight or 900 children. >> dan: how long has big

>> kathy: in 1973 we incorporated. >> dan: and you mentioned you had a big sister. >> kathy: i am a current big sisters and had them to children. >> dan: the 500 are waiting but mostly boys. >> kathy: mostly boys. we have a huge need for men. and that is part of the beautiful of this commercial that is running today and hopefully many times beyond that we get more of mike's who are willing to realize that they don't have to be superheroes. they just have to be themselves and they have to share their time and their energy. and want to make a life center for unspent.>> dan: nathan, have you thought about being a big brother at some point? >> nathan: i have. i have contemplative, a number of years ago. i even balancing life is part of the question so that is something i will have to think about and take into consideration moving forward.

might point out, this commercial that we showed at the beginning of the program was produced by j shaft and many will know jay's day because of local television, that this station. jay and i are good friends. jay has been a big brother for a long time. this wasn't just he was a producer on a spot. this is a cause for him. >> kathy: it is a cause for jay and he has been a big brother three times. remember, but that commercial the tagline is each rebates would you see how long they were. but it is big brothers like jay who fully inspire so many. and to have the opportunity to work with ttl and with those long times big brothers, big volunteers and have it produced by one of our very own big brothers for the agency was very special. minute left. mike, do you have a final thought of what you want to tell people who maybe saw this and are contemplating, maybe i can do that?

the years that we were disconnected i really wondered in my own client, number one me. but secondly, did i have any impact. because i never thought that we really did anything special or that i was a superhero or did anything out of the ordinary. and when we were reconnected and here i had an impact update and it just blew me away. it just goes to show you don't have to do anything special it is just about being a big brother to somebody. >> dan: nathan i have less than 30 seconds. what would you say to a parent who has a son or a daughter baby need somebody.>> nathan: take the opportunity to find your stomach sign your

impact speed i want to thank you for the long-term work. and the empty you for the long-term relationship and being willing to tell your story. if you are interested in big brothers big sisters weather because you don't a young person who would benefit or you