from nbc news, this is "today" with kathie lee gifford and hoda kotb from studio 1a in rockefeller plaza. >> we made it to the end of the week you guys. it is try day friday, january 24th, 2014. me and you girl. >> not we. >> did it kind of fly a little? >> it flew in a great way. i had a lot of fun. >> it's a fun show. >> it sure is. >> we should point out it is friday, people are normally in a good mood. here's something you should try today, january 249s according to

sources is national compliment day. >> you're supposed to give five people a compliment today. >> yes. >> i'm going to start with you. >> okay. go ahead. >> start our day off right. >> yes. >> hoda, if you guys don't know this, is nice to every single person she meets. >> oh. >> it's such a good -- somebody over there laugh like you don't believe us? >> everybody was like -- >> she is. >> i'm hearing joanne. >> that is so rude. i was going to give you a compliment. forget it. next was going to be you. >> here's jenna's compliment. you guys know jenna, obviously, from being on this show. jenna is exactly the way she is on the show, the way she is when she arrives in the makeup room, the way she speaks to everyone. you are identical. >> i was going to say, some people may like that. >> what's funny, i was reading this book a long time ago called "living, loving and learning" and they always talk about if you say something nice to somebody you feel better. i was in a mall and i said, i'm going to -- when i feel something.

sometimes you like someone's outfit but walk by -- >> yeah. >> i walked up to somebody at the ice cream thing. i want to tell you something, you have the most incredible -- i have to tell you weirdly i felt so good. never forget it. must have been 15 years ago when i did that. >> my mom used to say when we were little if we had something nice to say about something, you're never going to regret it. why would you regret telling somebody the way you feel when it's good. >> compliment. >> go out find your five people. ke one of them a stranger. >> i think it's better when they're a stranger. >> somebody is going to be shocked when hoda comes up and like -- i love you. >> i do that anyway. >> that's true. >> a new trend in insurance, all right. so people are getting married and they are getting what is called altar insurance. so just in case. >> just in case. first of all if there's bad weather or obvious cancellations because of illness or whatever. that's one realm of it. >> right. >> the other realm of it.

>> change of heart. >> cold feet. >> change of heart insurance. we know that movie "runaway bride" with julia roberts. >> i love it. let's watch a little. >> please, no cameras now. could we hold off photos until the end of the ceremony, thank you. >> oh. >> we are gathered here today -- >> no. >> where is she going? >> don't. >> lock the door! the doors! >> lock the doors! >> i love that movie. >> i know. it's so much fun. but yes, so how would you feel, do you think, if you were left on the aisle? >> if i was left at the altar i would be very upset but it would be weirder if me and my fiance were planning our wedding and do you have insurance, the kind in case someone panics at the last second? i think that would be a terrible, terrible feeling. >> if you're talking about buying the change of heart insurance, my advice. >> yeah. >> don't get paired. >> don't get married. >> marriage is for a long time. if you already know before you have to walk down the aisle. >> did you have cold feet before you walked down?

>> i did not have cold feet at all. i also dated henry for five years. >> you knew him well. >> i dated him while he was in business and i was in latin america. we had long distance, lived close to each other. >> he knew -- >> you knew it. >> he told me he loved me after like three months. >> he did? did you reciprocate right away. >> oh, yeah right away. >> you did? >> i love you too. don't you want to get married. >> you did that after three months? >> i was like 12 -- not really. 24. but still, young. >> yeah. >> i said don't you want to get married? the poor guy was like -- >> you know what's funny, i do think cold feet is one thing and then real jitters or really when something is wrong, because i've known a lot of people whose marriages haven't lasted and you remember right when you're getting ready to walk down the aisle you have a weird feeling. >> yeah. >> it's beyond cold feet. >> it's not nervousness. it's something -- everything is already in motion. you're like oh, my god -- >> you feel bad for the family that's flown there. did you have that feeling? >> you know what?

i did. i had a sort of like i knew before, i think, but i kept -- you know, if you're an optimist you can write things off as i'm just nervous. but if you really were to examine it and think about your life white make you -- >> look back and think. >> i'm really depressed. >> happy friday. >> so anyway f you broke up in january with your loved one you're like a lot of people. everyone breaks up in january. >> it's so true. you know why? christmas is over. the holidays are done, you've gotten over the person and you've already gone -- >> some of you just want a date for new year's eve and it's over, good-bye. >> before valentine's get there. you don't have to buy another present. >> that's so bad what you just said. a valentine's present is chocolate. >> roses. those things can be kind of expensive. >> anyway, your family has gotten to know your loved ones and sometimes over the holidays you get to know it, so that is the end of that.

>> breakup to -- >> breakup for people. but here's the truth, they say when there is a breakup, they say that men have a much more difficult time with a breakup than women do. i'm not sure if it's because women are more sensitive and probably felt that it was coming so it's not such a shock. >> yeah. >> guys apparently when you break up with them are totally blown away because they thought everything -- >> totally shocked? >> yeah. i think they overestimate how into them they think we are. >> yeah. exactly. >> they're like wait, i thought everything was perfect? you're like, no, no, we're not connecting in the least. >> that's true. although i will say i have had friends that have been devastated by breakups. outwardly. women much more show their emotions. i've had friends literally that have not been able to go to work or if they go to work they've cried when they're there. men are so -- they're sometimes scared to trust their emotions. even though they could be broken on the inside they have the smile on the outside. >> they're much better at faking it. >> exactly. >> it can be devastating. i mean when you -- >> get your heart broken.

who was the first boy that broke your heart? >> i'm not thinking of the first boy but one that happened and it was like a weird thing because i've never said to somebody, choose me. >> yeah. and you said it? >> i said it. i've never done it in my life and i said it. >> that is an amazing soap opera. >> he did not. >> he didn't choose you. >> it was so hard to be that girl and to say, look, just pick me and here are the reasons. it's such a weird -- it's so not my nature do that and i did it. >> and now he's sitting somewhere in middle america kicking himself in the shin. look at this body. you're missing out, my man. whoever you are. >> oh, yes. all right. just -- wait. there was a good social cue thing that "the new york times" did. >> yes. >> i love phil's column. >> it's amazing. >> this one was if a friend of yours -- i guess this girl had a friend and her friend hadn't had a romantic relationship, 20 years old and dressed kind of sluby i guess and asking phil can i help her? >> let me make you over.

>> let me make you over. >> and phil said -- >> no. >> what do you think? >> have you ever made over a friend? >> i haven't ever made over a friend because i'm usually the one they're like hey, but if -- but the way i would do it if i did it, i would buy the friend a dress. >> yeah. >> i would say oh, my god. >> this looks amazing on you. >> i found this dress, i thought you would look great on it. want to try it on. >> or suddenly goy to a great hairdresser, come with me, let's make it a girl day. >> are you offended if someone says to you, jenna, i was thinking this might be -- maybe you should -- >> social media is a crazy thing because even just now, i read somebody say -- >> what did they say? >> you need better undergarments. >> i'm not sure if that meant things were hanging low or is things were hanging out. >> oozing over. >> or over or where i was oozing exactly. >> people -- were you self-conscious after that? >> maybe a little late because i was squeezing into this undergarment. you know -- >> people do tell you everything. >> oh, my gosh.

>> on twitter. it's a little embarrassing sometimes. >> i read some tweets this week. >> got some good ones. >> i looked marvelous, which thank you. i mean it was a compliment. >> i looked marvelous and not to worry i would lose those extra pounds once i started chasing mila around. this is the thing. i feel like i've lost most of the extra pounds but maybe i have more to lose. >> people say everything. >> and i actually don't find it offensive. >> i don't either. >> i really don't. >> laugh about it. >> the woman was so sweet. she said i looked marvelous. >> and then you stopped reading. >> all right. we're going to real quk, the bras do this every year, they ask for donated jejly worn bras because bras are extensive. >> yes. >> if you're trying to get out into the working world there's a domestic violence shelter. >> a lot donate clothes but forget to donate gently used bras. >> the national network to end domestic violence is raising funds and they're collecting bras. go to soma.com for more info. >> we have a little soma great. >> fail.

>> epic failure. >> don't you hate when people tweet that. epic failure. i stumbled. got to go to johnson's baby of the week. this week, we are doing a very special winter edition of johnson's baby of the week with babies up to a year old and the cutest cold weather outfits. first one is hudson nolan jefferys. born in cleveland, ohio, june 14th. this picture was taken on the day he got to touch snow for the first time. his parents jennifer and michael say their son has already learned to flirt with the big blue eyes. >> and now on to baby born in royal oak, michigan. brooklyn marie carmichael about to celebrate her first birthday. her parents say their 5-year-old son brennan is already an amazing big brother and their daughter is the happiest baby in the world. >> next is little boy born in little rock, arkansas, named call leb rock allen. his name follows the tradition in the family. his parents names have five letters each in the first, middle and last name.

>> our final baby johnson of the week is elliott alexander ellis. born in minnesota. on october 18th. hope i got that right. >> edina. >> okay. mom missy says he's a great baby. already sleeping through the night. can't believe he did that. she says his picture was taken the first time he played in the snow. >> congrats to all of our babies. if you want to submit your baby to be a baby of the week go to klgandhoda.com. >> i'm doing that next week. >> you know you have some home cooking and pull strings. >> the ever changing role in your relationship with your parents and children. >> and how to get along from childhood to when you're a grown adult. >> and keep your home safe from accidents, fires and a lot more. first these messages.

no matter how old we grow and where we are in our lives parent/child relationships can be complicated.

>> they usually have start off very smoothly until the dreaded teenage years set in as we see in a clip of "mean girls" that illustrates all too well. >> hey. >> hey. >> how are my best girlfriends? >> hey, mrs. georgia. this is katie. >> hello, sweetheart. i want you to know if you need anything, don't be shy, okay? there are no rules in this house, i'm not like a regular mom, i'm a cool mom, right, regina. >> please stop talking. >> okay. >> that's the best movie ever. >> hilarious. >> here to help you navigate the special relationship through the decades is chelsea cross and co-founder of the motherhood.com emmily mccann. hello. >> hi. >> that's funny when you watch a teenage girl like that turn on her mom there is sort of a time in a young girl's life where they -- where they rebel like that, isn't there? >> totally. i love you, get away from me. but you know what, think about it, doesn't really make sense why that happens when you're a teen. >> yeah.

>> so channelling from my own experience, i'm 22 years old, i was just a teenager three years ago, we're going through puberty, through men stration, but we're also in this phase where your friends are your life. >> yes. >> and how much bullying and peer pressure goes on within your friends you take it out on your mom, the ones you love most. >> when we were teenagers my dad had a phrase that said let the sleeping vipers lie when we were sleeping because we got to be kind of -- >> liked you better when you were sleeping. >> contained asleep. so you have a teenage daughter. weight your advice for those watching about how to speak honestly about the things that we need to? >> with teenagers we hear about helicopter parenting and that hovering over our kids that makes them just want to run away and you know, my theory is we should side up. we figure out things we can do together that we enjoy that's going to allow us to have conversations and relationships and connections. >> if they're pushing you away do you push in? what's the best technique for a

lot of moms going through what we saw there? >> sometimes when they are pushing away they really are listening. the idea when we want to talk about those conversations like, underage drinking or those risky behaviors i keep hearing from parents in the motherhood who have older kids, keep talking. >> do you agree with that? >> i think communication is key. you have to be able to have conversations, face-to-face communication with your teen. i think the younger you can have open conversation with your child, the better the relationship will be as it gets older. i can't ever remember a time where my mom and i didn't talk about everything. >> really? >> wow? >> she said even when i wasn't talking she was talking to me and i learned that face-to-face communication is so young. we live in such a digital age. face-to-face communication is so important. >> let's get to kids about your age, although you're not a kid, but after you've graduated from college, growing up, the lines get a little blurred, right? you're becoming an adult. emily, how do we handle that? >> you know it's funny when my daughter was in kindergarten the

teacher used to say to the kids to get them to focus, stop, look and listen. repeat it back. that was a sign they were paying attention. now i think about it for myself. i need to stop, look and listen, because then i'll notice when i'm preaching and trying to manipulate them to it do what i want versus the two-way conversation. >> do you listen to your mom more now than when you were in 16. >> the millennial generation, we're 18 to 35, graduating college with almost $30,000 debt in student loans, the most stressed out generation, we are learning how to become financially stable. we need to learn from our parents more than ever. this communication, open dialog, life-learning lessons are so important. >> all right. ladies, wish we could -- >> we could keep going. the relationship gets taking care of your own parents. >> right. >> thank you so much. >> thanks for coming. we appreciate it. >> thank you.

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it is time for bobbie's buzz and with parts of the country slammed with the cold weather keeping warm has presented a couple fashion challenges. >> it has. whether braving the burst of arctic air or can't take the chill, bobbie and bobbie.com bobbie thomas is here with fun finds. >> you look so cute. >> this is an attempt to be at any rate. i want to start off with knit necklaces. this is an easy idea. buy these on etsy. simply braid yarn or this blue one i made. look how you do it. >> of course. >> you cut off a t-shirt, the bottom, right, and what you do is cut that into strips. >> the bottom? >> yep. you cut the bottom into the strips. you secure it. and then basically you just add something fashionable and look,

you've got -- >> only you could make this yourself. >> this is out of an old t-shirt. >> i love it. >> that's that. and then you can upgrade your accessory with a little bling to make it feel like jewelry. so this are from urban outfitters. >> so cute. >> $4.99, $9.99 get the ear warmers, add the broach look you have on and i'm obsessed with the gloves i saw there. >> i love those. >> these gloves can be short or long depending on the hole that you see that they put right here. >> yeah. >> genius. you're wearing one of their eternity scarves. >> if you try this on you'll never take it off. it's like buttery. jenna said it was like wearing a kitten, kind of weird. >> kittens around your neck. >> what you would do is get an oversized eternity scarf, it can wrap up to be the scarf when going to work but inside use it as a poncho come spring. >> my favorite find at the drug store. $5 fleece leggings. the inside are seamless, not bulky and feel how soft.

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bush hager is helping me out all week while kathie lee is enjoying time off. >> hi. >> twins have been the subject of fascination and curiosity. >> from columnist ann landers and mary kate and ashley olson and me and my twin sister. >> who? >> barbara. >> oh. >> abby po griffin wrote one in the same about her identical twin and here with that twin, robin, a "new york times" reporter. >> and dr. cupwits is the president of the child mind institute and child and adolescent psychologist. good morning. >> you lived the life. >> yes. >> you two guys when i see twins, inseparable, lucky, closer than any other sisters could ever be. are those theories true. >> i would say it's a mythology in the sense it's the most incredible intimacy, as jenna knows. it's hard to put into words

clothesness you're born with a best friend and other people have to learn how to make that connection with someone, you start with someone that's your soulmate. >> did you start with that from the beginning. >> i definitely did. one thing we went through all these kind of crazy times, right, and when my parents were going through this, we had somebody at the exact same age. >> going through the same stuff. >> going through the same thing. i could call her and say i'm going through this, what do i do? we looked so opposite. i don't know why they put the western photo but from little babies we looked opposite. one of the things that's important our parents always treated us as individuals, total individuals. you say that's very important. >> it's important because any set of siblings really want to be identified as an individual and how they fit in with their other siblings and into the world. i think twins have a greater challenge. how are they going to identify to each other and want the world to identify with them. that means parents have to be smart enough to encourage the differences, to try to avohe

>> yeah. >> i just like everything clean, clean, clean. >> and then -- there's some sort of paint that helps keep the mold away. >> always can use something that has a better sheen to it, a preventative measure. it has a primer, will stop the mold from building up. >> detectors are important in every home. >> we talked about this a little bit. >> the detector always goes off at 2:00 in the morning when it needs new batteries and running around your house trying to figure out what it is. >> or when you burn something. >> well, that's how we know what's going on in my house. >> exactly. >> one night the thing was going off and i took a broom and it was 2:00 in the morning banging it because i couldn't find a ladder. >> exactly. >> that's my memory of it. >> exactly. >> and here's the thing they make combination ones. car mon monoxide and fire. >> i need one of these. >> and what i say, daylight saving time or christmas or anniversary, change the batteries no matter what. >> or set night -- set it into your phone so you remember. >> the other thing, small children and pets. >> and then --

>> keep drinking. >> and then if you need more warming up, i brought a wine from southern italy from pulio, you take a sip of it, it's big, red, rich, makes you feel like you're by the mediterranean. it warms up your bones. >> i love that. >> i already feel warmed up. >> i love that. >> look at these two. >> look what's going to happen here. >> there's also island vacations. >> oh, yeah. >> you got to -- >> we're taking a cruise with you people. >> do some summer -- you got to do warmup wines. >> i love this segment. >> this is amazing. >> so now we figure if you're on a cruise, on a vacation, right, you want one of mine. >> or live in southern california like i do and it's 70 degrees, these are wonderful winter warm weather wines. this is from south africa. >> it's called the beach house. >> the beach house. it's a terrific new wine from south africa. sauvignon blanc.

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