additional funding for america reframed provided by open society foundations, acton family giving, parkarts, and the reva and david logan foundation. additional funding for this episode was provided by phi lambda charitable trust. ♪ ♪ recently, i decided to go on the journey to go find my dad, a man that i hadn't seen in 30 years. i remember the last time that i ever spoke to my dad. i was eight years old. i don't remember what it was. maybe he didn't come for a visit, or he missed my birthday, or didn't get me a present. i don't quite remember, but i do remember feeling angry. i remember feeling hurt. and my mom encouraged me to tell him how i felt. now my mom never badmouthed my dad. she never said he was a bad guy or he was a bad father. and i think even at that young age i knew what she wanted and i think i knew what was expected. so when my mom encouraged me to tell him how i felt, i remember calling him up on the phone, my mom was next to me on the couch, and i blamed him for this thing, or that thing, and i don't even remember. but i remember the last thing i ever said to my dad