also a guy who, agian, my -- again, my word, put pressure on you and your siblings about how you should go and live your life. >> of the confrontation we got into was about my name and not changing my name. it was 1979 when i decided that this was something i wanted to do and i got my first head shot done. i used emilio sheen. it looked terrible. he railed. don't do it. don't make the same mistake i did. honor your name, honor your heritage, are where we came from. that was a big lesson for me. that was the beginning of it. tavis: have you ever regretted that decision? >> never. >> i regret it mine. my father's one disappointment. all my official documents were born and baptize under that name, my passport, driver's license. i invented the character because i did not want to feel the prejudice against the border region community -- the puerto rican community. i thought i will scoot around this issue. tavis: how you process living a life by her own admission that it is the one thing that you sorely disappointed your father in? how do you process your way through that? >> i had to accept