aissata: how could you allow that to happen to your daughters? mafoudia: it's the parents' duty to the child. aissata: so you think you're doing something good for the children? why? mafoudia: because they say a woman who isn't circumcised isn't clean. thahat she's dirt. that she smells. aissata: i wasn't angry at my mom, i'm not angry at my mom, i'm not angry at my aunts. i was angry at myself. and i think that is the problem with survivors, it is ththat e sometimes take it too hard on ourselves. so i was mad at myself, i was mad at myself for not hiding well enough, i was mad at myself for not biting their hands. all of these scenarios, it was always me, i did something wrong. what we are doing is to remove the secrecy around the cutting, so we want people to be able to understand it, so that they understand that, one, the cutting is not necessary, so we are doing alternative rites of passage. what the community showed us was how they used to celebrate the girls, but then it will end with the cutting. and what we are trying to do with them is t