>> guest: i am melasia. my parents migrated to melasia but actually we didn't have anything like the cultural revolution to shape our thinking. in my family's case, my father was himself won six out of 18 and that's just counting the boys by the way. my grandfather was a rich man and had three wives. he was the 16th from the third wife. >> host: or is that in malaysia? >> guest: malaysia. did it loom in the family story or was this a distant place? >> guest: it was always there in the cultural traditions. if i did something wrong i would be made instead of my ancestral holding my years, traditional punishment and also because we were five daughters anytime we showed up at a gathering they would say you should be glad you were not born in china or cuba to be put in a village and give it away and it wouldn't exist. >> host: you write my father never ceased his lack of a son or reminded his daughters they were lying abilities not affect. does he mean that in financial terms? >> guest: yes, he was an auditor. we